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I think my issue is while I’m ND I am like OVERLY expressive in my thoughts/feelings. I honestly think as I’ve interacted with them, while I get they react differently like I do, I overwhelm them. Maybe I’m wrong I don’t think I necessarily do well with NT men either though for the same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:09 PM
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I am guilty of asking men to open things for me. In terms of reaching things I’m usually taller than them though so I do that. Do what you WANT and just be honest about what that is. I do and, yea, there’s a strong possibility I may never find my person but I did the whole 7.5 year relationship thing so I’m gonna be myself and it’s okay if no one likes it. Enough people like me. How many cats until you become a crazy cat lady? I have goals. I only have one. Yea, I fully anticipate being the 60 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:35 AM
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That is usually a terrible strategy. Also no, I only have one success ish story of what was supposed to be a one night stand. We don’t sleep together anymore but we’re BFFs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:00 AM
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Everyone should be comfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:05 AM
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They’re also deluded. The answer all over the board is finding someone you want to go through the ups and downs with is fucking hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:48 PM
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Finding prospects, sure. Finding someone you want to go the distance with? Not so much
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:46 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:37 PM
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I just say no to this title. I have seen pets be segregated, contained, and not for their safety I have seen my own father decide that when my mother wanted a hug it wasn’t worth it I’ve seen my father kick out my brother bc my step mom wanted him to. My brother had nowhere else to go My father is a great man but just very specific and I barely reach his acceptable level So yea no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:22 AM
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Making the guy pay for stuff. Like, if we’re gonna be equal, own your own shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:16 PM
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If it’s between my legs it’s a risk
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:04 AM
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But it’s not far either. Idk maybe if I see the mechanics of it first it would make me feel better. If they have condoms or equivalent for where the sperm is coming out then my first point applies. Aka is the sex good? If so, idc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:13 AM
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The risk is STDs and pregnancy. Not all women can take birth control - I have a friend who can’t bc her sister died of a stroke due to it. At first my reaction was “is the sex good?” Aka I don’t care and then I googled it and then thought about * and yea that’s risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:03 PM
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Quitting and laid off are two very different things. Quit? That’s shitty, that’s something that should be discussed. Laid off? Not in your control and he’s being shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:59 PM
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Yessssss But it’s a risk. You do risk loneliness but then it’s a question of which is more lonely? Idk my parents were miserable and now they hadn’t spoken in 10 years until I had some life threatening heath issues. I’m good now and they’re back to not speaking. My dad is not shit he’s just not emotional and has trouble connecting to peoples emotions. My mother is like the exact opposite and needs a lot of emotional support. I have no idea how they made it 25 years. I do understand how they got …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:56 PM
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They focused on themselves. Unless they’re bitter about it and that’s different. Or they simply don’t see themselves settling down and that’s okay too as long as they’re clear about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:50 PM
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This is a younger girl thing, like high school. I am guilty but I can’t remember doing this since idk I was 16. It was insecurity in terms of not wanting to ruin it with my personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:46 PM
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It’s male enthusiasm. There’s a reason I’m straight. If I wasn’t enthusiastic back it’s the same thing. But I’m submissive. Not all women are. I do think most are with basically no data to back me up. That said, I’m also usually the hornier of the two genders in my experience but just like I’m sure men experience when the man is not in the mood it’s not exactly fun getting them there all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:08 PM
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People need stimulation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:10 AM
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NGL this makes me feel a lot better about fucking people on the first date. It’s such a strong balance between personality and attraction and dating takes time!! I like my time let’s figure it out fast. Oh also yes my self esteem would be in the absolutes gutter but when the commitment starts - yea, I’m all in until I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:31 AM
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I am so lost in terms of what happened here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:47 AM
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The post is about trans sports and safety. I immediately said I wasn’t concerned about safety so YES I am focusing on trans sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:29 PM
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Besides the fact that I’ve been a) clear I think it’s important to protect biological women’s rights and b) trans people deserve their slice of the pie what points are you referring to? It is a real thing growing up as a girl and this whole thing makes me feel like people discount our entire existence. Trans women are women, they very rarely were girls. I believe you’re saying these are two points but they’re not. They really are not. You’re not even touching on the fact that the immediate answe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:09 AM
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Okay I feel like you’re purposefully trying to skirt what I’m saying at this point. It’s not cute. Yes it’s unfair to them. It’s also unfair to 50% ish of the population that has for eons been a second class citizen (save a few historical and ancient cultures) despite being necessary for its existence. It’s unfair I’m bipolar too considering it’s genetic so should people have to bring me into their my daughter is bipolar safe support space? Or in the military when I see things that don’t exist? …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:41 AM
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I didn’t say it did. What I meant is that it’s unfair. Do you disagree it’s unfair?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:28 AM
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Having your period as being a very transformative part of a woman’s life, yes, was one of my examples. I had a girlfriend growing up that didn’t get one due to hormone imbalances though. Both the period and the pregnancy scare are examples of the point overall - aka experiences that will never apply to a biological man. They’re not meant to say that if you haven’t had this then you’re not a woman they’re meant to say these are experiences only biological women will ever have to go through. The R…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 07:57 PM
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Yea IMO it goes way beyond the biology but the history of our experiences with our biology. Like for just a second, pretend that trans women are 100% as strong/athletic/etc. as a biological female. They still don’t any experience living with our reproductive system which is a whole thing in itself. Theres so many other things too growing up. Pretty sure no man’s parents told them their life was worthless without a woman or that being fat was the worst thing in the world. It’s just… different. Ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 07:28 AM
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I’m not worried about being attacked by a trans woman I’m worried about girls today and tomorrow losing their right to play sports competitively - something we’ve only had at scale for less than 100 years. It’s not just strength - which I question that trans women aren’t stronger but I’ll stick to the facts that have been represented - it’s a mindset. I remember getting my period in the middle of a soccer game and blood running down my legs. That would be a reason you can’t be in a pool bc it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:30 PM
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I 1000000% agree with your point about hyperbole. I do appreciate your correction. However I think that correction barely scrapes the surface in terms of what has actually gone on. I’m young I’m lucky. I never felt like I needed a man I just would like one but I’m picky as hell and that’s my fault. My grandmothers weren’t, my mother and aunts weren’t, I am lucky. But at the same time - I mean I feel like there’s been some rhetoric about women turning into men and how it’s unattractive - all of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:57 AM
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Okay thank you for the correction. The point is still the same though! The fact that it wasn’t guaranteed is not great! We didn’t and only for idk 40 ish years really had the same rights as men but that’s even questionable I just don’t have hard facts. I think the focus should actually be more on my grandmothers situation than my slightly incorrect representation of bank accounts. We had to navigate life in a way that men never did and a lot of that navigating was relying on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 01:05 AM
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The whole “women had to go for the man who would take care of them” Is because: Women weren’t allowed to vote in the US until 1919 Women weren’t allowed to open bank accounts in their own name until 1974 Women weren’t guaranteed to keep their job after getting pregnant until 1978 Serve on juries as well but I don’t know the year off-hand. My own grandmother had breast cancer and had to get permission from my grandfather for a procedure to save her life. We had no rights. We had no right to not n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:57 PM
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My point is this OP is confusing! The title is fine - like likes like. The rest is a mishmash of idk what. That’s all I was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:25 PM
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I mentioned even before your first comment in this thread that point was clear and I agreed with it. So my question is, what is your point? What can you add to that? Or was your message an agreement that I just misunderstood? TBH though it reads like you were trying to tell me something so I want to know what that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:15 PM
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Okay it’s a literal need for me too. I’m bipolar which means hyper-sexuality and most men can’t keep up with me, so that’s an excuse on both of our sides. Some women are like me too idk how many. And I say this because when I find it good I go nutsssss. (NSFW) Think every day multiple times a day for idk months until it ends, aka the connection I’ve simply learned over time that if there’s no connection it isn’t worth it - it’s literally terrible - but I didn’t have that insight when I was young…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:25 PM
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Okay sorry I was editing my comment (added to the end) before I saw this but I actually don’t quite understand what you’re saying. Is it that people just don’t observe and only react? Or are you saying that women just turn men down without any knowledge of them as a person? And then I would ask you as a woman who usually gets into long conversations with men randomly then suddenly the minute they realize I’m not interested they literally will stand up and walk away as if my personality isn’t wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:52 PM
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Yea you’re right. Idk how to though, I have ONE girlfriend who can be like this to an extreme - the rest in some ways. I have told her it was fucking stupid to quit her job when she did it and then yea she screwed herself over when he dumped her. And my friend is actually attractive and personal so in this case I blame his instincts. Ugh you’re right I was shocked when another girlfriend said she wanted the first date paid for. I would get squirrelly - like what are the expectations here dude? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:36 PM
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Okay that’s interesting actually. Why? I want to know more. The condition doesn’t affect all of us the same at all. It’s mostly given me things, it’s taken a lot more from others. I don’t know why but I think it’s a sign that it’s not our entire definition. Also what is pink pill I haven’t heard that one yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:28 PM
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I have a guy friend who was entirely dating women like this - spending SO MUCH MONEY. I told him - coffee dates. He was like well they won’t agree/show up. Okay dude then they weren’t what you were looking for anyway good riddance. I don’t think he’s listened yet but I have hope. Seriously, IMO the women that rely on a man to do everything for her unless it is because of child rearing and it’s an entirely trusted relationship where that was the agreement (btw telling women they can’t work while …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:24 PM
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So they should put “bipolar let’s swap mania stories together” on their dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:20 PM
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These are the worst of my gender. Except the sex workers that don’t have another option. Other wise yes the worst of my gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:07 PM
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I am an introverted neurodivergent woman and I’m confused what point you’re trying to get across. Are you trying to say there’s someone for everyone? Are you trying to say there are men out there that women as a whole aren’t attracted to? Also introverted and neurodivergent isn’t stamped on my face and most people don’t know or notice. I agree with the “common likes and dislikes are important” but I am very unclear what else besides that you’re trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:05 PM
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I care about how a man dresses. It’s an expression of personality like anything else creative. Actually the first thing I look at if I think a guy is attractive is their shoes. It’s not like a dealbreaker it’s more of a sign our personalities will mesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:40 AM
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I’ve actually been thinking about this more and more but I just don’t know how to make sure the kids aren’t affected. I actually DO wonder very much if this might be the right answer for me but…. My parents divorced when I was 19 after 25 years (5 years after I told them they should get divorced) and that wasn’t the bad part! The bad part was when they decided they would not speak to each other afterwards. Until I almost died. 10 years and only bc their oldest child almost died.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:33 PM
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Oooof I do think it’s a spectrum. I would love a middle guy but I have a history of guys who are incredibly controversial and I know this bc my friends warn me against them. I don’t want someone who caters to me all the time though either. I want passion, personality, and opinionated, not someone who gives into everything I say or want - like I have terrible instincts sometimes why would someone follow my lead all the time and I have a VERY strong personality I would just take and honestly reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:57 PM
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Thank you that is so nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:16 PM
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I’ve never had a person that was 100% behind me. Not growing up, got close in one relationship but didn’t last that way (I didn’t know). I just want someone to be with me and not need anyone else in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:43 PM
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Depends on the person but a no for me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:37 PM
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Idk I’m 5’10” I was not wanted by ANY boys in middle school except ONE who cheated on me with my best friend until my last two years of high school. I feel big even though I’m super thin. I think there are a lot of women much shorter than me that unfairly have this preference but I tower over so many people I just can’t do it. Maybe that’s still unfair but that’s my experience. It does come from insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:31 PM
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I don’t think this is specific to men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:45 PM
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Yea I’ve definitely learned you have to be happy as a solo individual. I’m still figuring that out and in my 20s avoided the struggle with a very long relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:40 PM
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It’s not fun feeling like you’re going to crush someone while intimate for me at least. If breast size is your thing then you should go for what you want. Just do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:49 PM
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No. The past is the past. It’s not like I haven’t slept with a ton of people which I think many people consider to be worse bc I’m a woman (at least that’s my perception) But I’m not a cheater so as long as that’s the case with this hypothetical person then no I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:01 AM
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No one can change for anyone but themselves. It doesn’t work otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:53 AM
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Mmmm height is a preference thing. There’s not really any way around it. Does anyone really want to be with someone who isn’t attracted to them?? I feel like that would be so caustic to mental health. Also not going to a frat house? Idk why that’s a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:33 AM
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Mmmmm I’ve had terrible sex with men who I was like super attracted to at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:21 AM
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I don’t have this now - I downloaded an app like 2 days ago after a year+ avoiding it - bc I realized that I hate dating. I have 1 match and not because others aren’t liking me first - I think I have 50 to go through right now. I’m super picky and yes I’ve accepted I may never have a true partner. It feels better than investing in a partner that I always hoped would give as much as I did (I was in a 7.5 year relationship - he’s actually a really good guy but his insecurities became too hard to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:10 AM
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I’m bipolar, it’s called hyper-sexuality, which is one of our unhealthy ways of stifling emotions that will not fucking stop and drive us insane. I think if I was normal I probably wouldn’t have done many of the things I’ve done in my life but here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:42 PM
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I have actually witnessed this once and it was so cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:18 PM
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Yes I have many times. Yes it doesn’t bother me. I can still say no. Good sex is a requirement for me so I like to understand how that’s going to work as soon as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:20 AM
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I can’t do too level comments so I’m putting this here bc I’m not a man but he needs to run away. Like his ass is on fire. And you’re right, no! They don’t! Not to that extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:15 AM
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Yea idk attraction is weird and then there’s like way more to dig into beyond that for a real connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:09 AM
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I can’t do it. I can and I have a ton but I always just feel embarrassed afterwards. I definitely haven’t learned my lesson but at heart I know it only makes me feel bad about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:53 AM
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I said this in a different comment thread somewhere tonight but it’s coming from insecurity on my side. I have been 5’10” since I was 13. In 5th grade I was the tallest person in my class. I didn’t say student, person aka teacher included. No guy wanted to date me for forever bc I towered over them. My friends got interest but not me. With my friends if we were talking in a group I was basically a street light. College changed everything and I’m totally at home with my height now except that I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:49 AM
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Oh no worries friend. I am honestly baffled at how some women conduct themselves. I have a guy friend that picks what I attribute to the worst of the lot - attractive, successful, but want to be treated like princesses and don’t reciprocate. He is on a total hate women ride right now and I told him DUDE you pick the worst of the worst - no wonder you feel used. He hasn’t listened yet. His excuse is that he was raised to be a gentleman and would never expect a woman he’s dating to pay for things …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:43 AM
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I’m 5’10” so yea I’m def on the height canoe. That said, I would admit that women who are nowhere close to as tall as I am besides maybe like one or two I’ve met are also on that boat. But I have met one or two. They felt like they were going to get squished. But my step mom is 5’2” and my dad is 6’5” so yupppppoo. I try not to think about the logistics. BUTTTTT yes they’re probably just reacting to a point that generalizes women - my giant ass guess based upon my own reaction to some of these p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:20 AM
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10000000% Emotionally available is important but it doesn’t equate to attraction in its full form or stability. As for the average woman thing, fair, but average men do the same. Some of them win though!! Real long standing relationships are a total compromise you have to decide what is most important to you and whether you can handle the negatives bc there are ALWAYS negatives for both parties. Both of them have to internally make that decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:17 AM
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Or they are just individuals? I have friends that don’t like men that are too attractive bc they don’t think they’ll stay with them. I gag on peppers and I often feel like I’m in the minority (it’s a texture issue). Rules are meant to be broken and it’s entirely possible that these women are trying to point out that we are not homogenous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:10 AM
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A+
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:03 AM
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I’m really curious how you pick the women you interact with. Men need male groups like women need women groups. Idk any woman in my life who disagrees with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:01 AM
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Okay this is a new one for me that I think might be true but thinking we (women) often have ulterior motives. I’ve had guys say “I see what you did” and I’m like what?? Please enlighten me. I rarely get enlightened. If I’m enlightened I explain what actually was going on in my head and it was completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:56 AM
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Thissss makes me ponder bc they aren’t but it’s a good point bc that is how the process has worked for years. That said, I for one, truly feel that I would actually put my teammates at risk bc of my shortcomings as a woman. I’m not allowed to be in the armed services anyways though bc I’m bipolar but still. If I was in the zombie apocalypse I would want everyone to be tasked with the job they can provide the most value to. Me? Sneaking around and lying or operating systems and heavy machinery (S…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:51 AM
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Yup I’ve seen this in my guy friends. I’ve also heard women put them down for feeling this way but I haven’t seen it in person? I can think of one girlfriend who would do that though. It’s almost as if they’ve never been able to talk about things that bother them or rely on someone to help them and that’s so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:14 AM
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Okay can I point out that women get ghosted all the time too? Attractiveness includes looks but goes beyond it. Like, if a partner can’t take care of say taking out the trash as their one responsibility - what are we supposed to think it’s gonna be like if there’s kids involved? Even better if the woman has the better paying and more demanding job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:13 AM
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Omg wtf. Poor women??? Those people have their head in the sand
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:07 AM
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Yea I could see this. I do see this in some of my girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:46 AM
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I’m with this guy I don’t see the war here. Nothing about this says one is better than the other which IMO would be the “war”. There are women who act this way and I think it’s so hypocritical but this post does not describe that. ALSO I (woman) personally want nothing to do with a carpet. I mean treat with mutual respect and then we’re good - I’m simplifying this is one aspect of many I’m only referring to the agreeable, emotional, etc. mention in the original post. Also no one should change fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:42 AM
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Oh this is interesting and I’ve never heard of TRP before. Yea I mean they can be successful, good looking, etc. but also no personality or just don’t stand up for yourself. I want someone to call me out on my bullshit. I think this is a totally fair point. That said I have to ask, when women got liberated (which IMO was the result of birth control) was it just the availability of so many women that allowed men more freedom to go around? Aka was it always something men wanted to do but women lim…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:35 AM
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Oh this is so true. It breaks friend groups in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:27 AM
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Jesus that list is… jaunting.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/25 01:13 AM
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Yea I’ve noticed a lot of my male friends don’t really get to voice their feelings very often. That sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:09 AM
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Of course!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:55 PM
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Well from your original post it sounds like the conversation has started - I’ve already asked the obvious questions or they’ve offered the information freely. The next question would be how they feel about it. Off the cuff I would expect some who was innocent to go to a very vulnerable place of “it ruined my life I didn’t/don’t know what to do” “it made me feel terrible about myself”. Someone who was guilty would probably start cussing out their accuser immediately like first thing out of their …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:22 PM
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It depends. Maybe I’m stupid but I would believe them from the beginning. It would be my feeling of their character that would either strengthen that belief or make me question it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:46 PM
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Yea exactly IMO I don’t think I could be with anyone else long term but if it ends its killer even if it’s your decision
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 05:58 AM
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I was incredibly shocked, flattered, and concerned that the guy I’m seeing told me he just needed to cry and be alone but he didn’t want to leave my place to do it. I’ve heard so many stories that women reject this and I have no idea but fuck them. Lack of masculinity is getting pissed anyone with a dick talks to me - even a hi. Not real life emotions. I do have an ex who had chronic depression and I ended it because I couldn’t watch him cut himself anymore despite everything I did to support hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:48 AM
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It makes it hurt worse when it ends - I was in a LTR for 7.5 years and fell out of love due to…. Many things. It was lose my best friend or marry someone who I didn’t think felt right for me. I had to lose my best friend and it still hurts 1.5 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:15 AM
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Oh of course but if you’re in a serious relationship you at least have to inform them and then it’s just dynamics depending on the person and the topic. That said if I’m working toward a shared future with someone where I WANT to share that future - I don’t want to work through those things with someone that isn’t my bestie. Also “working through” can be hey I’m gonna do X - cool you do you I support you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:03 AM
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I don’t really want to hang out with someone every day all day long unless we’re besties - or at least for significant periods of time. Also I don’t really want to make large life decisions with someone who isn’t my bestie.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:48 AM
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Disagree my ex owes me $15k. He says he’ll pay it back and more. However I believed in his potential the entire time we were together (7.5 years). When we started dating he was just a customer service rep at a well known company. Again I believed in him for so long and he avoided all conversations about money despite having money in the bank at times to literally buy us a good living space. He was a day trader later in our relationship and good at it. The number of times I told him to pocket the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 10:48 AM
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Red flag 10000%. The worst thing IMO is feeling like you’re wasting someone’s time if you’re not into them. Makes me super restless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:42 AM
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I’m a woman and I would agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:59 PM
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Maybe? Probably. I haven’t dated much since leaving my ex. Mostly just casual hookups because I spent 7.5 years trying so hard to make something work and I’m not ready at this point to give up myself like that again. Though I’ve been casually sleeping with a FWB for like 3 months and have had zero desire to go elsewhere despite it not being exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:08 AM
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Ummmm Lost count when I was 21 but pretty sure it was in the 40s or 50s at that point. Was in a 7.5 year LTR and I’m not a cheater so that slowed me down. But yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:47 PM
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Shit I’m screwed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:30 PM
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Girl. I have way more wisdom to provide them and I think I would do a better job raising one for that reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:42 PM
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While I think this sub has a ton of good points it’s also super telling that I was downvoted. I’m not even subjecting myself to the male population! lol I probably never should. My thing - no one answered my question. I get that if my number is X or X% higher than some guy they’re like wut. Idc you accept it or you don’t. You don’t great not gonna work out that’s your preference. BUT I would love to understand it. LOVEEE. No judgement. I hear the “well she’s too easy”. Not true. I hear the “wome…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/07/24 03:55 AM
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I have a friend who grew up fundamentalist Muslim. He is no longer religious at all. He lost his virginity to a prostitute because in his culture it’s all he had to explore that side of him. He had to do it on the down low. If you knew him now you would never guess that’s how he grew up. I will never judge him for that and I think he is 100% deserving of a good woman. He absolutely does not need to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:07 AM
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Having standards makes it easy?? Also if you want to have sex with a dry vagina I guess I can stop having standards. Think rug burn. That said if a guy simply catered to my every need I would also have a dry you know what. What is interesting about that? Money? Who cares I like myself I would rather be with myself than have to feel like making someone else feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:22 AM
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I think the difference is that food, water, and shelter are self managed. Sex isn’t. I agree with you. However it also depends on the person on the level of need. I am one of those that needs a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:03 AM
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I probably shouldn’t be commenting but what is the body count thing? I’m also fucking crazy so maybe that’s why I’m commenting. Don’t worry I am not subjecting the men of this world to dealing with me. But actually what is this body count thing? If you haven’t guessed mine is HIGH. It’s been 60+ since I was 22. Then had a LTR (7.5 years) and I wasn’t the cheater. I have a high sex drive?? I was single? My disorder gives me a sex drive higher than most men (bipolar).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/24 11:07 AM
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I think it’s the same as shaming women for wanting a guy who’s taller than them. Preferences. And some people are assholes and will take issue with anyone’s preference, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:43 AM
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She has a boyfriend… he might be a baseball fuck but you don’t jump ship that easily and if she had it would be a red flag. Also I’m sorry and this will probably be downvoted to hell but can women be charming and good at talking to just about anyone without being thought of as flirtatious? And maybe that isn’t this situation but it is mine. This is different than the situation the guy who commented about a girl that pretended some other guys talent in classical music was magical. Also love Liszt…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:15 AM
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Hard agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:32 PM
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I’ve had a bunch of therapy. They’re literally just regurgitating what I just said telling me I’m really self aware. It’s useless for me at this point. However it really helps some people to talk about their problems. I have a good support so I don’t generally overwhelm people. Some people get overwhelmed it easier that others so I just don’t reach out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:14 PM
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No. I mean if you had asked me in my early 20s and after I left my ex at 30 I would have said yes. lol turns out I have a mood disorder. Since medication it’s like night and day dating and it’s fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:02 PM
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I think it depends on the woman. I don’t cook but if someone’s hungry I’ll always make sure there’s something to eat they like. If I buy something shitty bc I took a risk I buy something else. I’m really good at decor, very boho style and I have like 14+ plants and a shit ton of art. I also make very intricate double macrame plant hangers when I’m bored and I have two up with plants in them.Ive noticed men tend to be very minimalistic and neutral in color. I am not but I don’t have clutter I lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:48 AM
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In NYC we’re still 25 well into our 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:20 PM
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Woman here. Idk I find men to be even more honest than women earlier on when you make them feel comfortable. Women tend to judge easier and are wayyyy better at being nice but surface level. Men are more likely to be quiet and walled off or very real. Women are real too it just takes more time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:05 AM
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Or just honestly I’m busy and don’t pay attention so it was a lot of pressure keeping up when we finally matched
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 10:48 AM
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I’m a woman and I’m 1000% an animal BUTTT society exists. Like say we’re wolves for example, they have a very established society. If the omega decided to fuck the beta things would not go down well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 10:34 AM
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Okay, still not a fun experience
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:05 PM
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Okay how else would entitled present itself other than literally forceful?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:37 AM
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I just commented this but I’ve been called names and no they did not buy me dinner…. I even liked them as people! And told them that! And I was called a lot of names anyways If that isn’t entitled to I’m not sure what is. However and I made the mistake of not including this in my last comment, there are PLENTY of men who are completely respectful. I would say it’s not the majority (being entitled) but it does exist Oh and women are assholes too. Lol I was just going through the FDS site since th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:23 AM
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Ummmm sorry I’ve gotten flipped out on bc I realized I wasn’t attracted to someone and no they didn’t buy me dinner. Maybe a drink, mostly coffee. I was called ugly, stupid, lots of names. Not one guy, multiple. I literally like sweat on first dates not sure how I’m going to feel and if I’m not interested how they’re going to react. And no I’m not rude or off putting we have great conversations I just don’t feel it and say listen I’m sorry I don’t think it’s going to work out but you’re a really…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:17 AM
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I’m 5’10” is it the worst thing in the world to not be into guys that don’t make you feel small as a woman? I didn’t read the rest of it I’m just curious about this part
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 05:29 AM
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Are we not allowed to show skin now? Serious question. This isn’t even that much skin
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/06/21 11:22 PM
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