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well I did know but tried to keep it an open question. I tried to not focus on that girl but I thought I needed at least some context so you guys can relate better... I will check the sidebar again. If I won't find anything I'll just post again...
/r/seduction27/01/15 10:11 PM
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Oh we got a Mister simple-conclusion over here. I'm always impressed with statements like that. I posted only a small excerpt of our convo/time and this is what you come up with. While you could be right (well of course you could...) I don't think you can come to this conclusion with little to no context. So if you have any tipps that relates to my question I would appreciate that. cheers edit: also this shouldn't be about that girl. It's about the situation mentioned in my opening post.
/r/seduction27/01/15 10:06 PM
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Always assume she's attracted to you (unless she gives you clear signs that she's not). That makes thing easier.
/r/seduction25/01/15 10:14 PM
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what a great article. I'll read that everytime before going out!
/r/seduction17/01/15 11:17 AM
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Was in a relationship for 4.5 years. Single since 3 months. I'm just getting started in this new world! There's so much to learn. For me it feels like being on a constant roller coaster ride: I have ups and downs. I'm still getting used to dealing with downs (rejections) but I try to learn from then. The next up is coming sooner than you think. In the first 3-4 weeks after my break up my desire to approach women was insane. Now I've settled a bit but raised my standards. I'm very confident but s…
/r/seduction13/01/15 10:46 PM
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Make it a "French" dinner. Because then you have an excuse to kiss her at the start of the "date". Remember when the French meet they give a strong hug, then a kiss on each cheek. And then you know if the girl want some more...! that's the norm where I'm from. We kissed eachother on the cheek three times when we met yesterday. Over here that's not a sign of affection. If you kiss three times it means that you have a certain distance to the girl. Once you get to know a girl you do "1 Kiss + Hug".…
/r/seduction18/11/14 09:32 AM
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I'll be honest. If you have a girl like this who is going as far as this, and she's not having sex, then the adjustment to make is not to freeze out. It's not to say something like "I don't want to fool around and not have sex." It's to listen to her and tease her. Sorry I have to ask another question that just popped up. I'm looking for a FWB: Wouldn't it be better to be honest about my intetions? The last thing I want is this girl falling for me because all I did was listening to her and did n…
/r/seduction12/11/14 03:20 PM
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I appreciate your honesty! Will report back when there's something to report. Cheers
/r/seduction12/11/14 02:35 PM
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woah dude, that's a lot of great feedback. I never thought relationship-sex and non-relationship sex are so different. Not in terms of the actual sex, but in terms of build up, trust, etc...this makes perfect sense. What do you mean? That you stopped making out with her at this point because she blocked you from going down on her? No, I stopped rubbing her pussy because she didn't want me to. We continued to make out and fool around, I just didn't touch her pussy again. NO. Like, I go to touch h…
/r/seduction12/11/14 01:55 PM
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Will do! Cheers man and thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction12/11/14 11:20 AM
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My unfamiliarity with the situation pissed me of, so here am I asking for advice. Whats wrong about that? Also there's not much to brag about lol. I obviously want to get laid and I'm looking for advice here.
/r/seduction12/11/14 11:17 AM
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unless they say "NO" or "STOP" Both said that and it made me uncofortable. I'd never push things from there
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:54 AM
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That's still stuck in my head from my LTR. You're not the first one to mention that. So yeah, never going to say that again to a non-gf. Thank you!
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:52 AM
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"who said we were" good answer man! going to remember that one. thanks
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:43 AM
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totally on your side. I'm not happy about last night (especially with myself - this girl is in controll of me because of my needines to get laid) but I'll definitely give it a second try. If we're not having sex again then I'll just be completely direct: "it's fine if you don't want to have sex. but I'm not fine with fooling around and not having sex". If she's not reacting to it then I'm just going to leave and never text her again.
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:37 AM
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totally how I see it. The only thing I agree with him is that she didn't earn that massage. Fuck me for giving her a massage. Thanks for the positive message!
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:35 AM
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thanks man! FWB is totally what I'm looking for. But I never had that so I have no idea on how to establish that. Any advice? Also don't take advice from some of these guys saying to just take off, that's not gonna get you laid for sure. totally not taking that advice. Pretty controversial that these kind of answers are upvoted the most. The best answers in this thread aren't at the top (yet).
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:33 AM
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I never bring up sex at all I didn't either with girl #2. Pushed her into bed, dominated her, she liked it, and the first thing she says is "we're not going to have sex tonight".
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:30 AM
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Keep advancing until she stops you, then back off a little. Re-engage the sexuality and you should get further before she stops you. Rinse repeat. Respect the drawn boundary, and often she'll let you pass it. that's what I did with both of these girls. Both blocked me physicaly and verbaly. I think this comes of as very needy, don't you think?
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:29 AM
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Now, if next time she isn't up for banging, then see ya later. totally. Going to do the same with girl #2.
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:28 AM
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yeah totally how I feel. I want to bang this girl and if I have to wait for another 2-3 days for a second date that's totally fine. Don't think leaving would get me laid. Display outcome independence and non-neediness yeah I fucking need to work on that. cheers man!
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:27 AM
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You should be telling her "we're not having sex tonight" long before she ever gets a chance to tell you. what if later we're in bed and undressing and she asks "I thought you didnt want to have sex?"? What do I answer? If you are giving a woman sexual stimulation, but she does not want to have sex, you should not continue to stimulate her, or else you're giving her everything she wants and getting nothing you want. totally what happened yesterday. She got everything she wanted. Even a massage. I…
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:25 AM
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Thanks so much for all the feedback in this thread. First of I want to state that I'm completely new to this whole thing. I was in a LTR for five years, so things like LMR are completely new to me. I always thought getting a girl horny and in bed with me would seal the deal...but I'm here to learn, so thats ok! And I know it was possibly hot to tell her you want her, but it's actually better not to verbalize at that point. noted, thx! Also, you didn't need to take her to the bedroom. Doing so al…
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:17 AM
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What I'm looking for is a FWD. I have never had that (was in a ltr for 5 years, pretty much my only experience with women). My problem is I have no idea how to establish that with a girl. Yesterday girl #2 asked me if I wanted to sleep at her place. I had no idea what to say: If I stay and we just cuddle maybe she could feel I want more than just sex. If I say no she thinks I'm rude and only want sex...I ended up saying no. She then teased me pretty hard (grabbed my cock through my pants) but st…
/r/seduction12/11/14 08:09 AM
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I know how conversations work (don't change topic too much, focus on one topic and dig deeper in that) but I have no idea how to not "drill"? I just talked to a random girl for 15 minutes on a bus-ride (she was a solid 8 I'd say). We had a conversation for the whole time of the bus-ride but I felt it was just me drilling her...We got off at the same station (could it get any easier....?) and I was about to ask her for her number but when I said goodbye to her she made it very clear to me that sh…
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:52 PM
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Definitely just eject if you think she's uncomfortable because at that point you're not doing either of you a favor. I'm totally aware of that. Thank you!
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:49 PM
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What part are you scared of? I wouldn't say scared. I always felt pretty comfortable while talking to her. I think I thought too much about how to open her. So when she agreed to dance (I didn't expect that because she didnt give me any signs before) I was rather surprised and had no idea what to say. I'm very confident around girls but in a club (although I go clubbing a lot) I'm pretty lost. Opening: I'm confident enough for that. Dancing: I can dance, too. Keeping up the connection: No idea. …
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:29 PM
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My idea is to get an impression of the situation. If I feel she's not comfortable I'll just say "ok no problem, bye" and unfriend her. Or is that not a good idea?
/r/seduction03/11/14 02:20 PM
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I would imagine you are losing out in the connecting part. That has always been my main "fear". I need to read more about that or just fail more often. A way to improve your chances in the future is to pay attention to girls who are already dropping you signals before you walk up an talk to them. So to approach a girl who didn't give me a signal I would need more experience? Did I try to pull off a too dificult move?
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:58 PM
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thank you! As you can read in my other post above I haven't fully decided if I'm going to move on. Knowing me I'll probably end up adding her just to learn the truth the hard way. But that's fine.
/r/seduction03/11/14 08:02 AM
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that's the kind of reply I was hoping for. Thank you very much. I am going to say this out of personal experience, but from what you wrote, I don't think she was into you. You can do the Facebook message, but I don't think she will reply. This isn't to bash you, or put you down, this is based off me being in the same situation 10000 times before. Makes a lot of sense and honestly I thought so too while dancing. I haven't completely decided if I'm going to add her on fb but I probably will. I thi…
/r/seduction03/11/14 07:58 AM
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thanks for the honest feedback. I disagree with you on the lying-part. I wouldn't put too much focus on that as it was totally spontanious and I didn't really think it through. I also had two or three beers. She never has to find out about it. If we meet again I could simply say that she misunderstood me in the club (it actually was very fucking loud) you hunting her down on Facebook is only going to look creepy. I think so, too. That's party of why I posted here. What I did in the end was nothi…
/r/seduction02/11/14 11:04 PM
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