TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

ofblankverse Archive

View 0 posts and 53 comments by ofblankverse on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

God made women for a reason. Men don't need sex, so men do not need women. Which is why so many tens of thousands of men (and women) have led (and do lead) exemplary, celibate lives. The point of life is to get to heaven, not to get laid. Since you don't need sex to get to heaven, then you don't need sex. Technically, by that definition, you don't need food, either. If you're already a 100% perfect person who follows God's commandments every second of every day, then congratulations: go lay down…
/r/RPChristians17/05/21 02:55 PM
1

So, what Paul says is that it is BEST to reman celibate your whole life. Which means... no one needs sex to survive. You can have a perfectly fulfilling life without any sex at all. You can successfully avoid temptation without any sexual outlets. But most of us would struggle with that, if we're honest. So, we have marriage. Marriage gives us a safe space to express ourselves sexually, but it does NOT entitle us to a certain amount of sex, or entitle us to sex for whatever reason we might want …
/r/RPChristians12/05/21 07:33 PM
1

Women are supposed to follow their husbands, and be their helpmeets. Men are supposed to love their wives, as Christ loved the church (sacrifice himself for her). Nowhere does it say that men and women are supposed to use each other, in marriage, for sexual pleasure. Many times the Bible says that seeking pleasure for the sake of pleasure is wrong. The new testament does say that a main purpose of marriage is avoiding fornication (aka, having a healthy outlet for sexual desire) but nowhere does …
/r/RPChristians07/05/21 07:24 PM
1

So it is not possible, in your definition of lust, to lust after your wife? Because she "belongs" to you? Does that mean you cannot have greed toward your own money? Because it "belongs" to you? https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/can-a-husband-lust-after-his-wife
/r/RPChristians06/05/21 04:11 PM
1

Lots of hardcore Christians abstain from pleasurable foods like ice cream for that very reason. :) It was invented for earthly, hedonistic reasons: it tastes good. You can make money selling it. That's it. It's still food, though, technically. So it's possible to eat it for the purpose of food (needed calories to sustain your body) and enjoy the pleasure along with that. But as soon as you're eating BEYOND satiation, that's called gluttony: the sin of consuming MORE than what you need, for the s…
/r/RPChristians03/05/21 06:42 PM
1

As a former atheist/polyamorous/burlesque dancer, I know exactly what it’s like to believe sex for the sake of sex is ok :) My conversion changed all that.
/r/RPChristians03/05/21 12:44 AM
1

I’m orthodox. You are confused as to why a Christian would be against pleasure for the sake of pleasure? Despite numerous teachings against exactly that? I’m confused as to why you believe sex gets a special loophole.
/r/RPChristians03/05/21 12:42 AM
1

Romans 1:27 That passage says that men abandoned "natural relations" with women for "lust for one another". In other words, one of the things that was WRONG about men having sex with men was that it was lust-based. They aren't a married couple bonding. They can't make babies. So the only reason left over is pleasure. Why would it be ok to act in lust in one situation, and not in another? Sin is sin no matter what the circumstances. Look at the other 7 deadly sins: do each of them have a loophole…
/r/RPChristians30/04/21 06:49 PM
1

Nothing wrong with that. As long as it happens while bonding with your wife.... and not interrupting God’s ability to give you a baby. :) Pleasure is a part of sex, not to be separated from the other parts. You can’t seek pleasure only, says all the rest of the Bible. Seek God first. Then seek your wife. All of her. And you’ll get her breasts thrown in. If you put anything other than God first, you’re creating an idol.
/r/RPChristians19/04/21 01:48 PM
1

The Bible warns multiple times that seeking pleasure is sinful. Enjoying sex as purely pleasure is lust. Lust is a sin. Proverbs 21:19 "Whoever loves pleasure will be a poor man; he who loves wine and oil will not be rich."
/r/RPChristians15/04/21 02:45 PM
1

Doing anything purely for pleasure will lead you down the wrong path. This is a core teaching of Christianity. Pleasure is never meant to be an end unto itself. Proverbs 21:19 "Whoever loves pleasure will be a poor man; he who loves wine and oil will not be rich." Ecclesiastes 2:1: "I said in my heart, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure; enjoy yourself.” But behold, this also was vanity. 1 Timothy 5:6: "But she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives." 1 Timothy 3-4: "Treacherou…
/r/RPChristians12/04/21 05:21 PM
5

Sex is for making babies and bonding a husband and a wife together. Masturbation does neither of those things, and can in fact prevent those things from happening. It falls outside of the realm of chaste living. If you are a sugar addict, you are addicted to two things: sugar (physically), and the ritual of eating/drinking what tastes like sugar (emotionally/spiritually). Drinking and eating diet stuff only gets rid of the least damaging addiction. A diet soda drinker may not be addicted to suga…
/r/RPChristians06/04/21 03:15 PM
1

"But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God" 1 CORINTHIANS 11:3 It's the job of the man to be leading his family to God, by prioritizing his relationship with God. He must always be one step ahead, always increasing his spiritual maturity, and always facing toward the light. His wife was up all night with the teething baby- she gets more slack than he does. The kids are just kids, so they always get more sla…
/r/RPChristians01/04/21 07:54 PM
1

I'm sorry you feel this way about the members of our armed forces. It sounds like you may feel that way about service in general. A life of service (in one way or another) is the only life worth living. The solution to being a silenced doormat isn't becoming a hyper-individualist.
/r/RPChristians31/03/21 06:30 PM
1

Submitting to authority has nothing to do with anyone controlling you. We are all responsible for our own choices. And it has nothing to do with assuming they will always do the right thing. In fact, you can assume that everyone will make mistakes. (If we waited for a perfect justice system before we followed any laws, we would have chaos.) And submitting to God's authority does not mean you expect Him to do everything for you. It means that you accept that fact that you are not all-knowing; you…
/r/RPChristians31/03/21 06:30 PM
1

Picture a marine submitting to the authority of their commanding officer. What on earth is weak, hiding, dead weight, and swooning about that guy?? God doesn't ask women to submit to their husbands like a rabbit submits to a hawk. That's not what submission to authority means at all. A marine in wartime has zero control; he follows all orders exactly, or gets discharged. That does not mean he has no power, or agency, or personhood, or voice, or contribution.
/r/RPChristians30/03/21 06:08 PM
2

What you're describing is not at all what God has designed for marriage or women. God does not ask women to hand over their power. God does not ask women to be incapable. There's a big difference between not being able to lead at all, and voluntarily submitting even though you could lead if you wanted to. God does not ask us to be dead weight. God does not want us to be helpless victims. God wants us to shine. We can't do that if we're insisting on being in control; only God is in control. Leade…
/r/RPChristians30/03/21 05:59 PM
2

Sharing leadership is not possible. We tried, and it just ended up that I was the leader. Someone has to be the leader; every business has only one CEO. Whoever has the slightly more type A personality will usually win. And right now, that’s women, because we are raised to think very highly of ourselves, and men are raised to be very afraid of standing up for themselves in any way, lest they be accused of being one of the bad guys. I’ve spent many hours using nonviolent communication with my hus…
/r/RPChristians29/03/21 02:31 AM
2

My husband does have authority over me, just like a police officer does. But I was born into the world with the police authority... I choose to submit to the authority of my husband every day. It feels nothing like my relationship with my father. Except for the wonderful feeling of being well cared for by someone bigger and stronger than me, and having the burden of leadership removed from my shoulders, so I can focus on other things. If there is no captain, the ship will run aground. I tried ha…
/r/RPChristians27/03/21 01:35 AM
4

Is it weird to treat your boss at work as an authoritative figure? Like your dad? Is it weird to treat a police officer as an authoritative figure? Like your dad? Is it weird to treat your surgeon as an authoritative figure?
/r/RPChristians26/03/21 03:09 PM
7

This, to me, is the difference between Christian red pill and secular red pill: yes, we each have our fallen nature. But is it possible to overcome it, or not? Christ says... yes, we can.
/r/RPChristians25/03/21 11:45 AM
8

Attraction is subjective, but it’s also not. If someone is a lesser version of themselves, they will be less attractive to others. And they will be less ok with themselves, too. If you don’t want to be around yourself, neither will anyone else. It is mentioned a few dozen times in the Bible that the order of the family is: God over man, man over woman, woman over children. There can only be one CEO, and constantly challenging and refusing to follow your leader is definitely anti-biblical, as a m…
/r/RPChristians25/03/21 11:44 AM
1

You have four kids. You cannot leave. You need to protect them, be there for them, and give them a sense of stability. You need to put their needs first, unless you honestly feel like your life is in danger (and theirs won’t be, if you separate). Submitting to your husband is really hard. It’s not ok to physically beat your husband, ever, but you can expect resistance. The least resistance will occur the more the love of God shines through you. It’s ok to correct your wife when she is wrong; in …
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 03:35 AM
5

1 Timothy 2:11-12: “A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.” 1 Corinthians 11:3: “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Sav…
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 01:43 AM
1

What makes women feel better when they are emotional is when their man does not get emotional. You're overthinking this. You care way too much what your wife thinks and feels. She can feel that. The exact words you say matter a lot less than what you're feeling when you say them. You could have said the exact right thing, in literal terms, but it means nothing unless you can handle her. You can lift and you make money... but until you are grounded in truth (God) she won't respect you. Focus on y…
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 06:49 PM
1

I imagine myself being selfless with my blessings and being able to give to people/businesses in need. This is ego. Imagining yourself as the benevolent giver. Drive and ambition to generate wealth, so you can be oh so generous, is still drive and ambition for worldly things. If you're really being totally honest with yourself, there's an almost 0% chance that you don't also want something like security, or self-worth, or social standing from that money as well. "For the love of money is the roo…
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 06:26 PM
2

he likes it this way That's not a good thing, though. A man who likes it when his woman leads and makes decisions is seeing you like his mother. You don't want that. When a beta male is given the space to be a leader, but he asks you to do it anyways, and says he likes it that way, he is trying to weasel out of his responsibilities. Don't take the bait. Send it back to him. For more on this, see the book The Surrendered Wife.
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 05:30 PM
2

Right. We're giving the wife advice here. If her husband has no frame, then she needs to know what she can do to encourage that. She can't force him to have frame.
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 05:26 PM
3

You're overthinking. You're the man. You're supposed to be the leader. It's perfectly natural for you to be spiritually stronger, and I would go as far as to say... the only marriages that do work are the ones in which the man is spiritually further along. Otherwise, how can he lead his wife and children to Christ? What matters is her commitment to Christ now and in the future, and her honesty about where she has been. Does she make excuses? Does she shift the blame? Does she have hate in her he…
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 04:02 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/RPChristians20/02/21 02:48 AM
2

God loves us. He gave us commandments to follow. He would never command us to do something that is bad for us. God cares about your eternity. He may sometimes ask you to do things that kill your body, but save your soul. Worldly outcomes are not the best indicator to look at to determine if you’re doing the right thing. After all... the world is fallen. So by definition, you will always be at war with evil while you are here, and especially if you consistently do the right thing. However, the Bi…
/r/RPChristians20/02/21 02:44 AM
4

To be a blessing to your husband, you need to listen to him. Do what he says.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 05:26 PM
1

he doesn’t want to disappoint you/ feel stress to perform/ afraid to under perform Actually this rings a bell... we got pregnant on purpose last year. There might have been some anxiety on his part, since there are only 1-2 days per month where you have to have sex in order to get pregnant. It's possible he was throttling himself to make sure he could perform on the days when it counted. Which is funny to me, because from my perspective, he doesn't have any performance issues! But I know that fr…
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 05:24 PM
1

He says he is not. I choose to trust that if he's lying to me, God will correct him.
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 05:21 PM
1

I had every intention of being careful of his feelings and sentiments, but it was naive to think that it was even possible to do such a thing without hurting him. I really did believe that I could sleep around, and it could delight him. I thought it would make our marriage stronger. I thought it would please him. Without Christ, I was so lost. I made up my own truths. I pursued attention and pleasure for myself, and called it an act of service to my husband. I ignored signs that his verbal conse…
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 05:14 PM
1

Roger that. We are new Christians... maybe only 2 years now? So much has happened. God has done so much for us. But we have a ways to go. He is definitely still childish about some things, and so am I. We were the absolute worst beta male and angry woman couple of all time. We're climbing up from absolute zero.
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 05:02 PM
2

Believe me, it makes me sick to my stomach, too. I was there. I lived all of that garbage. I WAS that garbage. I am moralizing: Life without Christ is hell. And when I converted, Christ forced me to face the pain I had caused, and to feel all of that remorse. I deserve every moment of suffering that I have brought upon myself.
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 05:00 PM
2

That's not what happened. First, we read a book. Then, we talked about it extensively. Then, we both made the decision to open our marriage. Mutually. Then, I was sexually assaulted by a dude on a date (one time), because I was hopelessly naive and in way over my head. (I wrote about this online as if I just "had sex with a guy" and then he freaked out, but this was a lie; I was terrified of facing the truth, and trying to convince myself that sleeping around wasn't dangerous, which it was.) The…
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 04:47 PM
5

I'm having trouble waiting Yeah. Me too. So are all of us. For whatever it is that we think we need to be happy, healthy, and whole. If you could give it a voice, what is it saying? Some guesses: "I'm never going to find someone..." "I DESERVE to find someone NOW. I'm awesome. WTF?" "What am I doing wrong? I'm the worst." "Why is the world so messed up?" All of these are Satan messing with you. The world is fallen, good men and good women are rare. You have to work hard to find them. If it does …
/r/RPChristians19/02/21 04:10 PM
5

He should be your rock. Not the other way around. If his father died and he needed a head massage to get through it, you would be a good partner. But his emotional immaturity means he is not yet ready for marriage. As a woman, you should not tell him what is wrong with him: tell him what you want. Only when you see his reaction can you decide if he is worth the wait. If he reacts like a man when you tell him you want to be with a man, then that’s a good sign. There is no perfect man, but you can…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 04:23 AM
1

With what? Until this month he was watching a lot of YouTube. You know, with the election and all. He has a cup of coffee and black tea every day. Alcohol happens sporadically. Like, he’ll come home from work and have a nice bourbon drink or something now and then.
/r/RPChristians17/02/21 11:20 PM
1

Definitely not :) We have dynamite sex that he enjoys thoroughly.
/r/RPChristians17/02/21 11:18 PM
1

Dang. Good post. Gonna chew on it a while.
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 09:15 PM
2

Hmm. I am familiar with this concept but I hadn't thought about it in a while. So, when I say I have a high sex drive, I mean that almost nothing hits the brakes for me. I am easily turned on, and it is very hard for me to get turned off. Even when I'm mad at him, all he has to do is hug me, and I'm ready to get it on. When I say he has a lower sex drive, I mean that he gets turned off at the drop of a hat. He also gets turned on rather easily... all I have to do is basic girly stuff, like wear …
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 08:31 PM
2

Oh absolutely NO polyamory anymore. That was what lead to our separation. We were not Christians back then! That was true hell on earth and we are never going back to that :) But yes, the sexual frequency did not drop until we went through that nonsense and separated. We have sex more often now than we did when we first got back together, but only a little more. That was five years ago.
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 08:08 PM
2

I could definitely use more patience. The more patience I have, the more I see how much work God is doing with him. He asks me all the time to have more patience; he wants me to remember what a loser he was just a short time ago, and how far he has had to climb to get to where he is now. We have only been Christians for about three years. I only just read The Surrendered Wife three months ago. It could take a while for him to trust the fact that I'm not going to support him anymore, and I'm not …
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 08:06 PM
3

This is an excellent post. I can honestly say that it contained no new information. Sure, I might not be a 10 out of 10 on every single one of these every day, but I'm aware. One part of this whole experience that has been most confusing for me is that I already do these things, and yet they don't seem to work. It's hard to stay motivated to keep at it, since I get so little response. But I try to anyways. Mostly because I get so much out of it myself; even if he doesn't seem to notice, I feel b…
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:58 PM
2

This is a great question. ​ Are you engaging in spiritually reproduction with Christ? I'm not sure I know what this means. Please link me to the post when you're done!
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:51 PM
1

In the past, his porn use was always highest when we were having a lot more sex. Which is confusing. It never seems to replace sex for him... he says that it's so unsatisfying, it never makes him feel less interested in real sex. And he says he sometimes uses it to try and artificially increase his sex drive, because he knows I want more sex. The last time I know he was using was... almost two years ago, I think. And it was only about once per month back then. I haven't asked him in a while. I s…
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:50 PM
0

Thank you for your reply. He has not had bloodwork done specifically for testosterone, but is well aware of the things he has to do to support his levels. I'll suggest it and see what he says. He eats well, for example... tons of meat and veggies. No soy. No hormones in our milk. Our heat drops to 60 every night. We don't have curtains... is that important? He has a rule against any devices with screens in the bedroom, but he often sits in a chair in the corner watching YouTube, so.... a bit inc…
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:45 PM
1

Thank you! And I'm sorry for neglecting the rules.
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:37 PM
1

If you tell your wife she can’t be friends with someone she cheated on you with, and she gets resentful, then that is her problem. It was an affair. She should cut off all contact with this woman immediately, for the sake of your marriage, but also for the sake of the other woman. Your wife used her. That was wrong. By continuing to see her, she continues to use her. And you’re allowing that to happen. Unless you always correct your wife when she is wrong (with love) she will never respect you. …
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 02:18 PM
2

Using porn to jumpstart your sex drive is like doing cocaine to get through your workday. Short term gain, long term disaster. You want your erotic experiences to be exclusively between the two of you, because that is real intimacy. Brining in other people and other sources of excitement is not sustainable. Only true intimacy will flourish into a spectacular sex life. You are using porn to ignore the source of your low libido: weight gain and low self-esteem. You don't need to lose 40 lbs to get…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/20 08:42 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter