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“enjoy the drama and passion”. you really echoing the same shit men say about women who stay with abusers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:02 PM
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because abusers are caught in the addiction cycle of idolize. devalue. discard, & repeat just as much as us women who’ve been abused get addicted to it, abusers and codependents both are recreating some deep wound they experienced that traumatized them, recreating what they fear the most. my ex actually left me and was clearly addicted (not the level i was due to his intermittent reinforce) to the cycle of the toxic relationship & replacing the partner they abused. he told me himself his first g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:27 PM
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that number isn’t his number... it’s a throw away one from text now. i have had him blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:19 AM
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you’re right. we went back and fourth a bit and then i just ended up blocking him. he knows i see through him. next time i won’t even answer and i’ll know who it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:31 PM
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i found out my ex was having sex with a married women... cried a lot, got no comfort but comforted him while he cried about it, and over the women and then had sex with him in my car after we cried together over it on the side of a gym because he asked for it... yeah...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:50 AM
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i’m not a supporter of sex work, period for women. and the right is sex trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:07 PM
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yes, he’s a narc sociopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:19 PM
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everything he’s said is so performative... he’s saying these things because he feels obligated to and has observed the world and relationships enough to realize that he has to fake emotions and manipulate and say things like this to get what he wants. there’s no sincerity or genuineness behind it. he’s bored with his new supply and now he’s saying what he feels like he should say cause it’s the right thing to do to get you back but doesn’t mean it at all. he’s a narc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:21 PM
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i’m commenting so much in FDS today but everything is so true and relatable. when my ex and i first got together, he charmed the hell out of me, i was ranting and raving about what a great man he was, grew up ‘religious’ (hebrew israelite), a gentleman, was so sweet, i bought every word, gesture...: and i was so hung up on it i missed out on all the red flags cause i never met a wolf in sheep’s clothing like him this man had the most wicked spirit and left me with a nervous system that is FUCKED…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:16 PM
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men feel that way because us women expect them to have accountability where men encourage their male friends awful shitty behaviors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:11 PM
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people in relationships who go to couples counseling because their partner pushed them to do it are/will only use it as a means to control and manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:05 PM
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i’ve done this and it’s because of codependency... attatchment trauma issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:48 PM
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omg this makes so much sense. my ex a narc sociopath, like his father... his mothers a nurse and he abused the hell out of her for 20+ years. and my ex and the brothers of his who his dad was actually in there life are as well and they all love nurses and are cheaters. every single one of them. 🧐 .. ex cheated on me with a married nurse our entire relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:44 PM
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never go all out for a man. make him do it for you. i guarantee that women who cheated with didn’t act like a door mat. and i say this, cause i was the door mat and that person in my last relationship. one time, fairly new into my last relationship with my ex, i surprised him with some new clothes i bought him... that didn’t stop him from nutting in a married women 2 days later after bible study
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:41 PM
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and they don’t respect white women either. they use other races of women to try and control and manipulate you. the worst relationship i’ve ever been in was with my ex who was haitian (i’m white) who cheated the entire relationship, abused me.. mentally and physically and it’s been so traumatizing. he’d use other women to triangulate me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:04 AM
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he must be haitian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:36 AM
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those black men who are only dating white and hispanic women are doing so cause they view us (i’m a white women) as easier to manipulate, control etc. trust me, my ex would say slick shit about black women to me (id tell him not not) then that slick shit started being said about me “you remind me of all the bitter black women”, once i started holding him to a higher standard in his treatment of me, cheating and hurt he caused..then he’d use the puerto rican who he cheated on me with to make me f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:03 AM
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reminds me of my ex. i’m white, he’s black.. haitian. cheated on me and abused me physically emotionally our entire relationship. he’s a hebrew israelite, so if i acted “out of line” he would call me esau, edomite.. the devil. meanwhile, this “white devil”, was waking up at 3:30 am to bring him to work (btw he was waking up at 2:30.. to have his side chick come over and fuck him before i came to pick him up) constantly helped him money wise, with groceries, always tried to see the good in him de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:53 AM
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if he hasn’t asked you out yet.. he’s not that into you and you’re just entertaining his boredom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:17 PM
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girl, throw him in the trash. why reduce yourself to this type of relationship? seriously don’t settle for poly relationships..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:48 PM
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reminds me of how pathetic i was with my ex, after getting tired of his cheating and lying i “allowed him” and he convinced me to “let him” have his side chick.. even though he was fucking her anyways. god, i was so pathetic and had no self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:19 PM
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all of those describe my narcissist ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:16 PM
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true, cause i was with abuser for 2 years and was a huge pick me with him while people told me and advised me to leave him etc and i didn’t until i was ready on my own and learned my lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:50 PM
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what do you mean? i’ll explain it this way and from MY experience. Growing up, my dad was in my life, parents married etc but he wasn’t involved, if that makes sense. i think i remember my dad hugging me once and telling me once “i love you” my entire life. i seen him at times treat me mom terrible and me as well. So when i became a teenager and in my 20s i had a warped sense of male love or what it means when a male likes you or cares about you, that also made me desperate. sleeping around was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:17 PM
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he’s more like an acquaintance than a friend. and completely agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:23 AM
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I know, for her right now it feels good and validating. But eventually she’ll realize it really messes with your self esteem when you get tired of these men just seeing you and using you as warm hole. It’s not empowering at all. I was trying to explain to her from a perspective of someone who’s been there. She was surprised because i conduct myself not like at all; modestly, spiritual (religious), i don’t talk about sex or sexual things with friends etc but i got to this point BECAUSE of my expe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:22 AM
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i didn’t and voiced my opinion. i straight up said “casual sex is trash, these men you’re sleeping with and will sleep with don’t care about you or us as women and pleasing us”. he said to me “you’re gonna end up becoming a lesbian” lnfao no, i love men and their masculine qualities and their good qualities, just not selling our self short anymore and placing higher values on ourselves. as a women who got out of an abusive relationship, giving advice to another another women who went through the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:27 AM
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It’s a bandaid used to hinder cheating or stop it. my ex cheated on me all the time. i became so pathetic i was encouraging him to fuck other women and at one point i openly encouraged him to fuck the only other women he’s ever had sex with, besides me.. the one he was cheating on me our entire relationship (even tho he was still doing it behind my back and pretending he wasn’t still cheating cause “knowing about it didn’t hurt as much”. yes i was a huge clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:29 AM
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i opened this thread ready to go off lol good job OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:41 PM
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my ex narc, before i finally dismissed him out my life, when we broke up before i really ended things, he wouldn’t tell his family we were broken up. he said to me “my brother asked about you, i didn’t tell him we broke up.”, because not only was he embarrassed about ‘being alone’, but also because he had broken me down so much and he knew he had me so manipulated by exploiting my good qualities that he never thought he’d lose me for good despite how awful he treated me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:33 AM
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yikes.. does she not realize this isn’t a relationship at all? this is him using her for sex. he just has to come over to fuck him and then she leaves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:46 PM
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yes, it is. it was like an addiction. i went from crying over how he treated me like everyday to begging and pleading for him to treat me better. so finally realizing “hey, i know he won’t.. so fuck this and i’m done. i don’t have to allow this anymore” and it feels so damn good and empowering. and thank you for the kind words, seriously means the world!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:00 AM
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not only that, his misuse of “you’re” lol he spent a lot of our relationship calling me dumb, weak and stupid. and i was... for staying with him. so i showed him i wasn’t that anymore and left him. he always praised my intelligence, ironically..but when it came to being suspicious of him and if he was telling the truth, then i was a “moron”. i already feel so much better. feels good to decline and block every number he has tried reaching out to me from and ignoring his emails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:56 AM
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thank you so much.. this was the hardest thing i ever had to do. he a straight up narc sociopath and i was being a pathetic codependent pick me and put up with way too much abuse but chose me in the end i feel so free. i never thought i’d be able to escape this abusive POS who always reeled me back in. but i did it. and i’m never looking back. went through too much suffering to get to this point of really being done just to go back knowing he won’t change. i’m way too good for that treatment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:18 PM
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yes. i blocked him on everything! he’ll trying contacting me through throw away numbers and those will get blocked, too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:09 PM
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sad thing that this is mild in comparison to a lot of his verbal abuse. and yes it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:07 PM
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simply because i was asking him questions to clarify confusion about what he was up to. and yeah, he a serial cheater. cheated on me with a married women 15 years older than him most of our relationship. and my clown ass stayed after finding out about her 2 months into our relationship. he had me so caught up and manipulated so early on i believed his lies, pleading, crocodile tears etc every time more shit would be brought to light NEVER again. first red flag and i am running for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:03 PM
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It comes from our empathetic nature. I myself have been my own worst enemy with it, IE: just left a long term abusive relationship with a narc sociopath. stayed with him for too long, making excuses, feeling sympathetic to his childhood and how it made him into who he is, approaching things with a psychologist approach to better understand and try to help him and help him see & get help for his issues. and guess what.. it did absolutely nothing for me. and harmed me more. these dudes don’t want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:52 AM
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Great post. especially the last part, i hate quotes like “teach men not to rape”, these men who are rapists and or violent DONT care. you can’t teach a snake to be a frog. it’s time we start accepting the reality that we don’t live in an utopian society and act accordingly, for our actual safety and not living and acting according to what we want our idealized society and world to be for ‘feel good’ points under the guise of ‘women empowerment’ and ‘freedom’. i wish more women were pro self defe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:42 AM
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i appreciate the FDS, but i really disagree with mindsets like this, especially when dating or in a relationship. as women wanting and our standard being HVM, we should be making ourselves and living as high value women and i think that includes dressing on the more modest side. living according to feminist tropes of “idgaf what you think, imma wear whatever i want” in the dating or relationship sphere isn’t going to attract or keep a HVM. and i think we need to be honest with ourselves about ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:08 AM
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I found out the hard way, that feminists and the like and people who encourage promiscuity do not give a fuck. cause when you’re 30, have a ton of bodies and no one who takes you serious, a lot of insecurity and emotional baggage and self esteem issues that were heightened because of your hoe activities, the same people encouraging it.. ESPECIALLY male feminists don’t give a shit about you sleeping with shitty men and wack sex isn’t empowering. self discipline IS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:59 PM
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