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When you describe leading at home it sounds more like doing chores, which is ok, but it is not leading. Have you ever worked for a really good boss that had a vision for how things worked and how you fit into that vision. Who was great at helping you to be successful, that made you feel like you knew exactly what you were supposed to do, that gave you room to take risks, that made you want to be a part of his vision? It's the same shit at home. What is the vision for your life together, where do…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 07:15 PM
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Is 435 the official number at this point? That's almost on par with the old testament.
/r/askMRP23/08/17 06:13 PM
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hahahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 08:43 PM
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I see your point, however I don't see how having some fun with your wife over text means you can't pass a shit test in person. It's just training her not to even ask serious stuff over text so that you can talk about it in person.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 04:50 PM
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good point on the practicing face to face conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 03:21 AM
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I guess it seems that my wife and I never have "a" conversation but rather, each time we communicate, it's a continuation of an ongoing conversation. If the tone of the conversation we have been having all day at work is light and fun, then more often and not, there is no expectation when I get home for it to all of the sudden be serious. Previously, when I would ignore a bunch of shit that she texted during the day, the silent "fuck you," would amount to irritation when I got home and my wife w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 08:33 PM
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I think I agree with part of your premise and the other part I disagree with. Men are violent by nature, this is true. I have been in a lot of fights in my life and furthermore, I really enjoy fighting. If I could do it without getting arrested, it would probably happen more often. That being said, women don't have a problem with men's violent nature, they have a problem with men who aren't in control over it. When you smacked the dog, it was a reaction, an uncontrolled reaction. As you are seei…
/r/askMRP31/07/17 03:41 PM
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solid advise
/r/askMRP01/07/17 09:03 PM
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I think that is a solid analysis. I definitely started off with the contract that improving will fix my marriage. At some point I stopped caring if my marriage got better, I just improved because of how it made me feel. But I don't think that is the same as being internally motivated. It seems that I was riding on momentum more than anything else. Since I lost that momentum, I have had to readdress the "why" of self improvement. And the answer that keeps coming back for me is because myself is t…
/r/askMRP30/06/17 09:00 PM
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Thanks, that is really helpful. I think clearing off tasks after getting out and getting a few wins under my belt is the next order of business. Prioritizing the things that keep the furnace hot will be what I do next time life get's overloaded. Being a good captain means setting the priorities and the operational pace. I wasn't doing that. out of curiosity, what are the three lifts in the 1000# club?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 08:00 PM
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This seems to go back to what Family Alpha said above, which is about not letting your priorities get pushed aside by the barrage of shit and expectations that life wants to throw at you. My mistake here seems to have been that I let other things become more important than the foundational things, and not surprisingly, motivation gets off track. I like the advise of getting and and doing something just to get myself moving in the right direction again.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 06:39 PM
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Fuck, I clearly have more work to do in the what I expect of myself department.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 06:33 PM
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So your motivation is entirely internalized?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 06:31 PM
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Roger that.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:19 PM
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So prioritizing, then executing before thinking about why you can't sounds like a good first step.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:11 PM
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What keeps your nose to the grind cholomite?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:02 PM
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I guess I am overthinking it. Time to just man-the-fuck-up.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:01 PM
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I think you nailed it when you said that the books promotes a huge fucking covert contract. It is certainly what I walked away with when I read it years ago, and, not surprisingly, it did not make my marriage better. It is useful information in the sense of knowing what things you do communicate love, etc. But ultimately, it assumes way too much self awareness in women. My wife for example, would tell you that she is an acts of service person as her primary love language, followed by gift giving…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 03:56 PM
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This is an interesting topic. MRP is about reclaiming alpha masculinity and implementing it into your life to be the kind of man you want to be and that your wife(LTR) will respond to. A huge part of that is owning your shit and learning to have control to the point of mastery over every component of your life. Like learning to control your emotions and mood, or your diet. If spinning plates is not the kind of guy you want to be, and your wife isn't having the quantity or quality sex you want, h…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 06:02 PM
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Bottom line, your marriage is over. She is looking to fuck someone else and is vocal about it. Have some dignity and cut her loose rather than begging her not to take in another cock while you get your shit together. The very fact that you are begging her not to cheat on you is a step in the wrong direction and proof that you are not getting your shit together. Your fist step should be to get a lawyer and work out how you want to do the split. If you can get any evidence that she is fucking some…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 05:57 PM
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Realistically, its only about a minute once I am in. I try to bring her to climax orally before hand A. because I am know I don't last that long once I am in and B. because I like it. However, when we want to do a straight to the point fucking, I can't bring her to climax in that amount of time. Overall, it seems like it is a good skill to have, being able to hold out for as long as I want. Good advise on here so far.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 03:52 PM
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Acceptance comes with time and a change of focus. There is an anecdote about how people get into car accidents in the desert, which is odd because they hit the power polls which are like 50 meters apart. Otherwise there is nothing in the desert to hit. When asked what was going through their mind before the accident, the survivors all say the same thing, they were trying not to hit the poll. The moral of the story is that what you focus on will be what you gravitate to. In the case of your wife,…
/r/askMRP09/05/17 06:36 PM
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I was running into the low energy thing as well. Having a cup of coffee in the evening has been getting me through. I have also noticed that my body is getting used to working out when I am exhausted. I work out in the afternoons and my body kicks after about 10 minutes of me forcing myself to push harder, then I have lots of energy.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 06:25 PM
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When she says she doesn't trust you, it means that she doesn't believe that you are who you say you are and that you will do what you say you are going to to do. In other words, you don't have frame, or if you do, you haven't had it long enough for her to trust it. In that sense, she isn't hamstering, she is just giving you the prerequisite for sex. You getting some frame and maintaining it for awhile=attraction=sex. Frame takes awhile to build, you have to learn what kind of man you want to be …
/r/askMRP24/04/17 04:16 PM
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The swollen eye is not what is unattractive, a man who stops life from going on because he feels self conscious about it is unattractive. Use it to your advantage as a conversation starter. When people say, "What happened to your eye?" respond with whatever outrageous bullshit story you can come up with. "Gang of Albanian mafia members after me for overdue library fees," As far as your wife is concerned, good frame is being able to roll with the punches and not be phased by them, whether those p…
/r/askMRP17/04/17 03:06 PM
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How do you have any energy when doing a Keto diet?
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:41 PM
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I started looking at this, what are your thoughts about intermittent fasting?
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:40 PM
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I weigh 180lbs, 5'8" and I am somewhere between 15-18% bodyfat.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:40 PM
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Sleep is an area that needs some work. I only get 6-7 a night simply because I have been busy. Things should slow down here in the next couple of weeks and I can start getting to bed earlier.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:39 PM
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What it looks like is you are aloof to your wife. She came home from a weekend away and you ignored her obvious attempts to get your attention. Maintaining frame is good to do when your wife is being a shit, or if you genuinely have other things you need to do, ignoring her all the time though is a good way to be disconnected from her. Maybe once you got out of the shower, instead of reading a book, take a few minutes and ask her how her weekend was, let her show you the pictures, say some thing…
/r/askMRP27/03/17 04:32 PM
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It seems that being productive is a solid response to being in your head too much. Thanks for the actionable advise.
/r/askMRP06/02/17 04:06 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 09:52 PM
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That's a beautiful idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 05:11 PM
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What kind of Therapist did you see?
/r/askMRP04/02/17 05:02 PM
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Yeah, you kinda hit that one on the head. I don't want run the risk of sounding like a bitch here, I am responsible for my own self image, but its true. My mom, who was a single parent, ignored me. I used to disappear, sometime for days and she didn't notice. When my shitty grades would come back, she would tell me I was a fucking retard, just like my dad. I don't think about it, the relationship is fine with her and I can't change the way I grew up. But if I am honest, the fact that I used to d…
/r/askMRP04/02/17 04:46 AM
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Damn, that hit home.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 04:35 AM
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This definitely could be a thinking about shit too much.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 09:25 PM
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Focus on the shit you can change and leave everything else aside. I like that.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 09:24 PM
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"You mean, what happens when you stop looking for validation from others? Then you have to find your own motivations for doing shit. You no longer need to defend your actions or desires, because ultimately you are only accountable to and responsible for yourself." Trying to internalize this.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 09:22 PM
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I think perhaps some looking at reason one might be in order. Specifically the beliefs I have developed as a result of the events of my early history.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 09:21 PM
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It's interesting that you mention fighting. When I was growing up I got into fights all the time, I think more than 40 by the time I graduated high school. I loved fighting, I still do. Nothing makes me feel more alive than getting in a fight, obviously, for practical reasons, IE I don't want to go to jail, I don't really fight so much anymore. But there has always been a real sense of relief when I got in a fight with someone who really deserved it and that look on their face when they started …
/r/askMRP03/02/17 09:16 PM
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Herbert is the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:59 PM
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I have found that "Act, observe, change" not only gets you out of your head but it also takes the sting out of failure. When you act, fail and change as a regular part of your day, you lose your fear of it and become free to grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 06:11 PM
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I did a version of it. I told her I could see her nips when she leans over, when she looked down and leaned over to check, I got out my phone to take a picture. She slapped the phone out of my hand and playfully called me an asshole, which initiated sex. My frame is back and she seems to have moved on as well.
/r/askMRP12/01/17 07:32 PM
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I have at least half a frame. haha
/r/askMRP10/01/17 05:33 PM
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Lol, sounds like a good coach. However, there are ways out of a rear naked choke.
/r/askMRP10/01/17 05:29 PM
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Seems to be where I fucked up.
/r/askMRP10/01/17 05:27 PM
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lol, got it, moving on.
/r/askMRP10/01/17 05:27 PM
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Good idea.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 11:22 PM
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Interesting I honestly haven't even considered if my wife would be cool with the information.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:51 PM
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I have done the reading. Just started on the two new additions to the sidebar. Been lifting for about a year, after years of not lifting, but I am getting into better shape, but still have some room to go. Mostly need to get from about 20% body fat to 12%. I think my reaction was based off my fear of my wife finding out about the RP and then deliberately fucking it up, even though it is working and she likes me much better as a RP aware man. I have a plan for things I want to improve this year, …
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:31 PM
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That is what is silly. If I had just said from the get go that it's a book about sex and moved on. It wouldn't have been an issue. I read all kinds of shit, I am an avid reader. But I acted l like a schmuck and lost a week and half of sex. Lesson learned.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:16 PM
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Damn, nicely played.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:14 PM
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I have thought about this. My reaction was fear based, but I was honestly afraid of her finding out RP stuff. What I am doing is working and for the first time in 16 years I am feeling like my marriage may have a good future. There is some part of me that feels like if my wife finds out about RP she will deliberately fuck it up. I am definitely not ready to do RP on hard mode.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:14 PM
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A good way to think about it.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:45 PM
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hahaha.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:44 PM
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hahahaha
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:43 PM
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huh, I didn't even notice the covert contract there. I should pay attention to that or I am going to set myself up for being pissed off on vacation.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:07 PM
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That's true, I only initiated twice since then. Got a hard no on the first attempt and got cock blocked by one of my kiddos having an issue that I needed to deal with. good call on the initiation idea.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:05 PM
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I take her out at least once a week, but I plan for things I would want to do anyway, so if she gets shitty, I can go by myself and still enjoy the evening. This date was more of a planned overnight to Canada for a more special occasion, with the intent to have lots of sex with no little cock blockers running around the house.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 08:02 PM
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I don't look at porn for other reasons, so it wouldn't have been consistent with my character to look at it, but I get your point.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 07:57 PM
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Solid advice. That's taking owning my shit to a level that I hadn't thought about. Thanks
/r/askMRP09/01/17 07:55 PM
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Solid post, very informative.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 07:10 PM
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Agreed. The list of red flags is a good resource. Some of the flags I ignored are not troublesome enough yet for me to bail, but traits like being to independent is a good thing to keep in mind and something I should have paid attention to 17 years ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 06:13 PM
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I think an assumption going into this post is that the guy in the LTR has his shit together. My Marriage has not been easy, but that is honestly because I was a beta faggot. It has gotten considerably easier since I stopped acting like a bitch and learned to act like a man. Not to say I still don't have a lot to learn, but there is a correlation between a relationship being hard and a the man being beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 06:04 PM
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I don't think it is possible to disconnect from someone you are married to emotionally. My wife still experiences my emotions on a broad scale because she lives with me. The difference here is that: 1. I maintain the emotional state that I want. IE my frame is flirty, fun and light. 2. My wife can see what I am feeling without me having to talk about it. The effect being, that yes I have emotions, they are in my control, and my wife isn't my therapist. Not talking to my wife about how I feel, ha…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:52 PM
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hahaha. That's not shitting on my parade? I was trying to tout it as an achievement, I just noticed the difference between my 15th where she clearly didn't want to be there and this year. She actually has changed her plans and is looking for a job that will keep her close to home. That was of her own accord, I didn't try to sway her one way or the other. I have written about it before, the sex honestly isn't up to par yet. It's more frequent, which is a step in the right direction but it's relat…
/r/askMRP20/12/16 04:27 PM
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There was a gleam on my teeth when I said it too.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 04:19 PM
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I"m not sure what you mean.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 04:09 PM
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I certainly had my moments of being paranoid that she was having an affair. Early on I did quite a lot of digging and I am confident that she didn't, but I do think she was flirting with the idea. It was one of the reasons I was really alarmed early on.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 04:05 PM
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I think once I got over the need for my wife to need or want me, I stopped becoming butt-hurt about her being on her phone all the time. I always have things to do and I do them. More and more, if she isn't engaged, I will go and do something else, and then she will usually come find me and want to do what I am doing.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 03:03 AM
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Really liked the post. Hadn't really thought of that perspective before, but it makes sense.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 05:06 PM
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Damn, that shit is inspiring.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 08:48 PM
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"Any concern for men’s happiness is either a sign of his weakness or his problematic misogyny." This sentence right here is one of the things that I had a hard time dealing with. I spent the better part of last year trying to decide if I want a divorce because I was so wrapped up in trying to make my wife happy and yet with an increasing redpill awareness, I realized that she doesn't give a shit about making me happy at least not until I was a high enough value male that she thought she might lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 04:04 PM
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Great post. I have found the part about beta from a masculine man especially true. In the past, offering beta without any alpha characteristics would actually cause disgust from my wife. It was a huge source of frustration for me as I was trying to be a good guy, and she would hate me for it. Now days, my beta comforts, when offered, are welcomed by her.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 03:52 PM
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Are you saying that sacrifice for others is a feminine or negative quality? Would the converse to that being self-serving is inherently masculine?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:10 PM
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There really is a double standard there. For all of their wanting to shift gender rolls, women seem to loath the men who take them up on it. What I can't figure out is why women seem to want changes in society and then are so unhappy when they get them. Are they collectively not aware of themselves and what they want?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:00 PM
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Wow, that article is really loaded with some interesting quotes. The underlying theme seems to be ignore hypergamy at your own peril.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 07:20 PM
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Have backup workout plans. If things go to shit and you taking the baby will help, maybe have a workout you can do at home with the baby or take the baby for a run. I am learning that good leader has plans and contingency plans for those plans. It also has the effect of helping you stay in your frame because it all falls within the plan.
/r/askMRP03/11/16 07:04 PM
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I might rethink the whole "dealing with the baby is her job," stance. From my experience, that means that you are working an 8-10 hour a day job and she is working 16 hours while being on call for the 8 while she is supposed to be sleeping. That's kind of a shit deal for your wife, and the kid is just as much yours as hers. Add to that, that your tone, at least in the writing above, makes you sound like a dick who can't handle a baby crying because you are stressed about work, which is a shit te…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 07:39 PM
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It's always best not to make decisions out of anger. My next question would be if you are mad at her for what she is or are you mad that women are what they are? I have wrestled with the same thing. What I have in marriage isn't what I thought I was getting and there was a period where I just wanted to next her because I was pissed that I didn't have the companionship I wanted. Now that I am mostly moved passed it, (I say mostly because I still have bouts of resentment about it) I am finding tha…
/r/askMRP02/11/16 07:27 PM
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This is a really good read. There is a parallel between a working out and life, something that forges you and puts things into perspective. This nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 06:04 PM
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You seem like you are pissed off that your fantasy of a relationship was bullshit, and that you are leaving her because you are pissed about it. Maybe you should wait till you aren't pissed off anymore, because the reality is that AWALT, and the next woman wont be any different in the sense of "loving you for you."
/r/askMRP31/10/16 09:44 PM
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I think if you are doing something you are passionate about, the money thing becomes less important, but that is because you are making a choice to follow passion of money. But if you are doing a job that sucks and making less money, she will just see you not living up to your potential. Something to keep in mind.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 04:50 PM
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There are varying opinions on this, but in the cave man sense, being unemployed means you are her hunter/gatherer that is not hunting or gathering. I have never seen a woman respect her man when he does not work, and to a large extent, make more money than her.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 04:38 PM
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Very solid advice.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 04:27 PM
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I am probably at dread level 3, but there are aspects of two that I haven't completed yet, like not being at my ideal weight. I put on roughly 10-15 pounds of muscle this year, but I am also hanging on to about 30 extra pounds of fat. My nutrition hasn't been great lately due to lots of work travel and eating out. Seems like that could use some refinement. What do you do if your testosterone is low? Thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:18 PM
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Solid feedback. I have been traveling a lot for work so I have been eating out a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:13 PM
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The shit to own this week is about having and developing my own vision for my future. I have always disliked working for other people, and I think it is about time to put my money where my mouth is start my own venture. In the short time I want to develop my ideas into a business plan and start taking practical steps toward that plan. On a side note. Can't help but feel like I am stalled. I can't seem to break past certain weight, sex is not getting better or more frequent, feeling fatigued a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 10:07 PM
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What is an OP?
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:21 PM
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That clarifies it for me. I think the struggle is being a man, but I have also noticed that marriage isn't that great of a deal for a man, or at least it is not what they sell it to be.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:14 PM
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That's fucked up... It seems like you need to start by taking your wife of whatever damn pedestal you have her on. Your approach to her has to be rooted in the realities of what a LTR really is. Realize that you owe her nothing at this point. Whatever vows you have taken were voided the moment she threw on the lingerie and went for a dick fix from some other dude in a parking lot. Furthermore, your relationship, if salvageable at all, will never work until you see her for what she is and are in …
/r/askMRP14/10/16 09:07 PM
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Shit to own this week: Still working toward 12% body fat. Making progress with diet, down a pound per week. Still doing crossfit 3x per week and heavy lifting 2x per week with my 14yo son. Passing nearly all shit tests now. Still fuck up occasionally, like maybe once every six weeks or so. I seems that there is only 5 broad categories of talking with my wife. Logistics, Shit tests, Comfort Tests, Venting and flirting. It's fairly easy to tell what category my wife is in most times and my respons…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 08:03 PM
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agreed, one should only dwell on mistakes exactly long enough to learn from them and move on. Failures are nothing if you learn from them, if you dwell on them, it's all you will have.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 04:30 PM
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This is an interesting trend I have noticed with my wife. I was raised mostly fatherless, my wife's father, however, was very involved with her and has done every tough manly job you can think of. Very strong, very quiet to the point of being a scary dude just by being in the room. As I build my own frame, I notice that when I respond as her father would, she responds very well in return. It's kind of weird.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:41 PM
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I'll take a swing since I am perhaps 5 or 6 months ahead of you in roughly the same situation. Any advice, however should be taken with a grain of salt since I am still a novice. Besides wanting to be married to a guy who is fit and can handle her bullshit, from what you have written, she seems to be begging you to give her something of the life that she wants. Your wife doesn't want to be fat, living on second hand clothes working from one shitty diaper to the next. What's more, you don't want …
/r/askMRP06/10/16 07:26 PM
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agreed. There is too much at stake which is why its best to avoid them. I think the part I miss however was the fully unleashed aspect of fighting, the sense of holding nothing back. In the gym you can find a quality of it when you are doing a very heavy lift and you are in that moment exerting all your emotion, all your strength all you mind and will into one task for one moment. But I think the difference is that your opponent is yourself, it's more meaningful in the long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 08:09 PM
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I grew up fighting all the time. It's honestly something I miss in my adult life. It feels really good to upset someones expectations when they thought they could fuck with you, and the look on their face is priceless when they realize they made a huge mistake that will cost them a lot of pain and humiliation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 07:59 PM
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This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I thought I was out of the anger phase, but it came back in force. Why? because my ego started groaning that shit was owed to me and that I am higher value than what the world thinks. Time to grab that ego by the hair and hold it's whining little head under water until it stops kicking. I'm not shit, time to get to work. Thanks for the insight. Anger has been my biggest derailer since I started the change to a Red Pill frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 07:55 PM
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The shit I need to own: 1.) My weight has been plateaued for the better part of a month, time to drop another 15 pounds. 2.) Passing shit tests/comfort tests is happening on the regular, time to start learning game and upping the sexual tension in the house. 3.) A consistent complaint is not communicating my plans very well so the wifey doesn't know whats going on. I didn't care for awhile, but the more I think about it, the more I think she is asking for clearer leadership, which is a good chan…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 04:30 PM
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Great post and great perspective.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 05:51 PM
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I won't address the butthurt tone directed toward thefamilyalpha, because everyone else has already said what I was thinking. To your underlying question however, the question is full of ambiguity, but I think you can answer it with AWALT. One of the red pill paradigms is that women are opportunistic lovers. It is hardwired into their makeup to be attracted to and eventually move toward the highest value male. That's one of the hard things to accept, that your LTR, no matter how loyal she may se…
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:44 PM
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She's a woman, so I am not certain at all.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 09:57 PM
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Hadn't thought about that, but probably true. There was some competitiveness between the two.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 09:16 PM
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Apparently I am worried about a lack of self control. Perhaps a lack of abundance mentality. I am not used to turning down pussy once it is offered to me. Maybe I am just over thinking it. It wasn't all that difficult in the moment to say goodnight.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 05:43 PM
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I think the way I worded it was ambiguous. I am more asking about the cost/risk of practicing game when an affair is not something I want. Is it valuable enough knowing how to game to risk putting yourself in a situation where you could cross a line you don't want to cross. I am also curious if anyone else had tried this and to what effect?
/r/askMRP26/09/16 05:20 PM
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I am not sure I fully grasp the issue brought up in the essay. I understand that what the feminist movement is publishing about open hypergamy is disgusting and lays their agenda bare. However, for the RP-aware man, I don't see how it is as much of an issue because regardless of what they say they want, it seems that when presented with a RP-aware man, they are more content and naturally fall under his leadership. Perhaps I am missing something in the tension between whether to be monogamous or …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 04:19 PM
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Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 04:40 PM
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indeed.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 04:47 AM
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I hadn't thought of emptiness as a positive. It's an interesting idea though. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 04:47 AM
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That puts it much more succinctly than I said it. Thanks for this insight.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 04:45 AM
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I get the "I wish you had talked to me about it before you just decided," bit as well. But talking about it first just leads to more traps. Either you put yourself in the position of looking like you need her to decide for you or if you don't go with her recommendation, you don't listen to her. Lastly, my personal favorite, "you are just trying to convince me to do it your way, so why do you even ask my opinion." It's a good point, so I don't anymore. I would rather get shit about not consulting…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:06 PM
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Shit to own for the week: Fitness-I would give myself a B. People I know have begun commenting that i am larger in the chest and shoulders, so lifting is working, however I have been lax on the diet ever since school started for my kids. Shit Tests- B, passing them more often and better able to distinguish shit tests from comfort test or even logistic failures on my part. Leading- C, good at the day to day, lousy at long term. I don't have a vision for what I want to do or where I want the famil…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:04 PM
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That's actually really helpful. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 03:53 PM
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Shit to own this week: Building relationships and a life outside my home and my wife was going well for me, but due to a number of circumstances, a lot of that life got put on hold the last couple of months. Now with summer over, it's time to rebuild that life and those activities. I was also out of the gym for a week, time to pay the piper and get back to work. Finally, I am going to spend some more time reading old posts in here this week, the shit tests are getting more complicated and I am h…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 04:14 PM
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Mastiffs are exceptional listeners.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 04:09 PM
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This is exactly what I needed to read toady.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 04:08 PM
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I watched 300 just before I deployed to Iraq. It had a profound impact. I totally agree on teaching your sons to be the total package, warrior poets as it were.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 06:24 PM
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So I am learning!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 09:44 PM
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Don't take over the budget and then fuck it up, it only reaffirms that you can't handle it. If you are going to take them over make sure you have that shit on lock. I took over the budget and gave my wife a fairly generous spending amount for the month. It's worked very well so far.
/r/askMRP06/09/16 07:51 PM
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Shit to own this week: My first point of focus is to continue losing weight and gaining muscle. I have reduced crossfit workouts to three days per week and added straight lifting three days per week to build more size and musculature. Switch from a straight fat cutting diet to a more long term healthy diet to avoid crashing. Second Point of focus is to build an abundance mentality, I have no interest at this point in cheating on my wife, but I have begun going to events and seeing how many phone…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 04:30 PM
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This is exactly what I am looking for and what I think most guys are looking for. It's good to have that kind of vision for what life can look like when you truly conquer yourself and be the man you were meant to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 04:22 PM
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The traditional paradigm for a lot of guys is leaving their sinful ways which usually involves giving up playing the field and settling down and getting right with God, getting married etc. Do you think this approach by nature makes being a man in the church a blue pill experience?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 05:46 PM
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I would say this is pretty fair assesment. I have noticed since I started my red pill journey as I read through the scriptures, that the lens I have been taught to see them with is very blue pill and sadly it is a big complaint in the church that the men don't step up and lead or fight the good fight anymore. That's because they have been neutered into something more manageable and better for public perception. In fairness to the Scriptures though, as I re-read through them with a Red Pill aware…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 05:38 PM
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Shit to own this week: As I reflect on my progress and what I need to work on, there are three things that come to mind where I could use some work. First is truly internalizing acta non verba. There is still a nagging tendency to talk when I would do better to act. Not so much with my wife anymore but in other areas of my life. I got into a verbal confrontation with my neighbor yesterday, instigated by him, where I would have done better to just call the police and report him for harassment. An…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 02:58 PM
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I think you are right, forcing him to man up is just going to make him resentful of the process. Finding interests seems to be the way to go.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:17 PM
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That is really helpful, thanks.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 07:31 PM
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Thanks, solid advice and will do.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:21 PM
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Nailed it on all accounts. He does view me as a role model, in fact most people call him my mini me, because he emulates my humor and we share a lot of common interests. But I think I missed the inviting him to my life and walking through manly things with him. I don't take him to the gym with me or hunting. When I am fixing something in the car or house I don't invite him in. It's been a major failing of mine, I didn't want him to see my weaknesses. I am changing that today, thanks for the insi…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:19 PM
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While we have done a lot to keep him socially interacting a lot, I like the idea of him learning to work hard as part of a team rather than in an isolated environment.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:13 PM
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Home schooling was the best option for this kid. his education started at 2 years old. He is 99th percentile for his age in math, science and language. With moving so much all over the world, we never knew if the place we were moving to had a school that would suite his needs. My wife being a teacher by trade made it a good fit. I see what you are saying on the other points however, I waited too long and I have a lot of making up to do after letting my wife direct his growth for too long.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:10 PM
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Solid feedback gents, I did start too late with this kid, but I like the idea of getting him to be motivated to want to do these things himself. Get him to feel and experience the triumph and the toughness in the struggle. Thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 04:34 PM
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Ha, that's a good analogy, playing Calvinball against Calvin.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 03:57 PM
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Owning it.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 02:42 PM
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Fuck Yea.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 08:06 PM
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Solid responses gents, thank you.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:36 PM
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I have been doing crossfit, which includes heavy lifting and yes, my chest, arms and thighs are getting larger while I am also getting more definition in my core and ribs. In the past, I begged for pussy like a little bitch and constantly got rejected and it seemed to put my wife in position of power over me so I stopped asking and started acting like IDGAF. If you think that will backfire let me know. Yes, she is missionary only woman, specifically, she is missionary with her on top only woman …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 06:45 PM
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Shit I need to own this week: Shit test are increasing along with sex (From monthly to weekly) and flirting from my wife. I am passing the relatively simple shit tests with AM and AA but I am pretty sure I am failing the larger more complex ones, IE getting drawn into talks that she all of the sudden wants to have now. I don't think I am dynamite in bed and I should improve my performance. My dates are boring. Plan: Walk out of the room if she keeps talking after I say I don't want to. Study up …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 04:25 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:41 PM
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How long did it take for the right choices to become more automatic than the wrong ones?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 06:20 PM
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Read your post on MRP, should have put this shit in my post. Read the sidebar and have tackled MMSLP, The Rational Male year one, TMAP, 16 commandments of poon, halfway through the book of pook, Have read every post on The Family Alpha. I changed my wardrobe to be more stylish, took up hobbies on the nights when my wife is home, have been crossfitting for 8 months. Plan: Get to 14 percent body fat, STFU, practice AA and AM. P.S. You can be badass in the Air Force, it's just like the navy without…
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:09 PM
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That makes sense, I am doing my first 6-day workout week this week and my anger seems to be ebbing.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 03:44 PM
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Working through it.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 03:42 PM
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Roger.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 07:42 PM
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Thanks for the perspective. I will cease clarifying myself to her.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 07:42 PM
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That makes sense, thanks for the advise.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 07:40 PM
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Shit I need to own. I was not self motivated, which means, when I was in the military and forced to work out five days a week, I was cut and looked sexy in my uniform. 6 years out of the military, I am a fat bag of shit. I am now 15 pounds down and crossfitting 3-5 days a week. I still tend to look for excuses to eat shitty food and it's slowing my weight loss goals, so as an actionable goal, I am ratcheting down on myself to stricter diet than my normal routine until I get to where I am suppose…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 04:54 PM
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