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1	Q4M: Where do your views on women’s behavior come from? Sounds interesting - what do you mean by divine order?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/20 01:08 AM
1	Ladies, what would you say most guys you have rejected have in common? decent back and forth convo I'm fairly relaxed and adept in face to face conversations, but I just can't master texts/instant messengers. I always use text/IM, simply to arrange to meet in person. I always find textversations to be awkward and stilted. Even if I do put in the effort to say something interesting or even just casually respectful, the woman always plays this "waiting" game as to not reply too quickly, because they don't want to look desperate. And sometimes they even go cold and ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/20 11:19 AM
4	Ladies, what would you say most guys you have rejected have in common? entrepreneurs Can I just add, there is more than one type of entrepreneur. Don't tar them all with the same brush. There's the "yeah bro I'm gonna set up an unoriginal/tacky idea business with the mission "I just want to help people, it's all about the purpose for me" (because that is what people want me to say) aaaaand I'm gonna become rich... booyah!" kind of guys. Then there are the calm, collected, grounded ones who build a business out of a desire to be self-sufficient. They have this truly…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/20 11:11 AM
3	How many men can afford a stay at home wife? That's what indexing is for. The 70k is the nationwide average 100 index = $70k happiness optimal point This is a cost of living index California is 151.7 So that means for that optimal happiness, multiply $70k by 1.517 = which equals $106k per year. A lot of Californians say that you need $100k to live comfortably and the above number confirms this. For Coastal SoCal, this sounds about right. Equally, Texas has a 91.5 index. $70k x 0.915 = $64k to be happy There are also city-level COL indexes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/20 02:31 AM
1	Two evolutionary psychologist argue that Evo Psych should move from a MCFC(males compete females choose) model of human mate selection, and focus more on a MMC(Mutual mate choice) model. I think this is very much cultural. I'm from Europe where it's very much MMC. Then I moved to Australia and even my grandparents said it was like a time warp back to the 60s/70s. Guys and women self-segregate into groups. Men are obsessed with playing and watching sport to prove their "value" and thus worthiness of getting the woman. It's mostly a learned behaviour. It's not like either MCFC or MMC is ingrained in us. What it really boils down to is the fact that people want a partner. Partner b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/20 08:52 AM
1	The problem isn't that there are too many nice guys, the problem is that there aren't enough nice women Ah yes that makes perfect sense now	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/20 05:49 AM
1	The problem isn't that there are too many nice guys, the problem is that there aren't enough nice women I was more asking, why do women find it attractive? What about it in particular?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/20 04:42 AM
1	The problem isn't that there are too many nice guys, the problem is that there aren't enough nice women Money is a relatively recent social construct. Our evolution likely hasn't caught up with that yet, so it's not like it's hardwired in our DNA. What it is women ACTUALLY want is a few things. Number one is security. Mental and physical strength in a man of course, but also financial security. But beyond a good wage to comfortably provide a secure life for a family ($75k or so, $120k in major metro areas) the rate of diminishing returns is steep. They want a man they are attracted to. Obviously, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/20 04:34 AM
1	The problem isn't that there are too many nice guys, the problem is that there aren't enough nice women Most men just don’t have a legitimate self-improvement mindset. This is interesting. Could you elaborate on this? Is this self improvement mindset attractive?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/20 04:28 AM
2	The problem isn't that there are too many nice guys, the problem is that there aren't enough nice women I have found there is pretty much no correlation. It really is on a case by case basis, down to the individual's personality. There are some absolutely gorgeous women who are relaxed and confident in themselves and are nice to everyone. Then there are some beautiful women who act bitchy and play hard to get (to any man) because she wants get them to pursue her, to boost her ego. Usually they are insecure for some reason, tend to be immature/less compassionate and from a lower class background. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/20 04:21 AM
1	Most men don't give a shit about how hot a woman's face is. As long as she's slim or of healthy weight (not fat) a woman can be considered 'attractive' even with a below average face. So are you saying that the top 20% of men are more discerning?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/20 02:50 AM
1	Male orbiters are the cringiest people and do more damage than the actual thots. behave in a good manner... against my better judgement For what it's worth, there is a small proportion of people that are like us. Maybe 10-15%. You only need one quality person. You'll find someone, just don't fixate on your despair, stay optimistic and keep your eyes open to your surroundings. You can read The Art of Manliness to reduce your naïveté. And check out Kezia Noble on YouTube. But both as a means to the end of understanding yourself in relation to the world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/19 07:02 PM
3	Is monogomy a mating strategy for unattractive men? The most concise and accurate summary out there. This should be pinned	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/19 11:14 AM
4	Crazy levels of infidelity from women in my experience. Stats just can't be accurate People who cheat are almost universally missing something. Whether that is true intimacy in their relationship, unaddressed emotional wounds from their past or even just chemistry/attraction. Many people settle for "good enough" because of social pressure to find someone and settle down and achieve certain milestones by certain set ages. Just because it looks good from the outside, it doesn't mean at least one of them are unfulfilled. Also, it's dangerous to only go by what you can see/hear. Lot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/19 12:19 AM
1	Being an Interesting and Engaging Person is more Important than being Nice or and Asshole I would say you only need to be engaging, and drop the interesting bit. People confuse interesting for being impressive People often fall into the trap of thinking they need to have accomplished something, knowing something in depth, have a hobby, having visited somewhere, repeating a funny story or bolstering their ego (I met a famous person etc) to have something interesting to say, when really, they want to impress. That's why people feel socially awkward and conversations fizzle out - it is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/19 09:35 AM
1	The average man is too trusting of women ...especially young women Marriage/childbirth/courts all favor women so heavily This is true, but don't blame institutions for responding to structural gender inequalities. The real question is why do they have to favor women so heavily? There are many women who gave up their career/slowed down their progression because they took maternity leave etc and are entirely dependent on their husbands. Regardless, a child is involved, which needs feeding/clothing etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/19 12:50 PM
12	The fact that the most offensive thing you could ask a woman about is her age inevitably proves that women are aware of the wall itself Most European women I know have zero issues with it. Asian women do. Exactly. It's a socialisation issue and also, the individual's confidence and character. We are all going to get old one day. Life brings different stages and transitions. We shouldn't be talking about "we should never ask a lady her age" but rather why are women so worried about their age? It's because society devalues older people, especially older women. And thus women are made to feel insecure about their age. Because socie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/19 05:34 AM
–	Approached a 10/10 by saying 'fuck it' however she lives 3 hours away... 3 hours is nothing. If you really like her, you would make the effort to journey there. This is a rare opportunity, for anyone, where there is mutual attraction. Don't give up so easily over something so trivial.	/r/seduction	28/08/19 11:29 AM
6	Things I've learned recently about being one of those "Nice Guys" for the inexperienced Exactly. Being "nice" is actually insecurity, a way to preemptively try and control other people's perception of you as in "hey he is nice to me, I guess I must be nice back to him" with the mistaken thinking that social obligation = connection = attraction. It's kind of covertly coercive. That's what women don't like - they can sense that underlying manipulation and desperation. Just be yourself. That means, the absence of any pretensions. I had to overcome this, as most people do in their teen…	/r/seduction	28/08/19 07:01 AM
7	Men and women can be friends I went to a co-ed boarding school and everyone was on the same level within the school. There were good boundaries put in place (such as seperation of sleeping quarters, for obvious reasons) but other than that, it was pretty free and easygoing. Living together in an environment for for 18+ hours a day, for most of the week for 5 years, it meant that everyone had to become comfortable with complete transparency and vulnerability. Everyone would knew everything about everyone else and they found …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/19 07:50 AM
2	A Persons Pill Color is Directly Tied to Their Native Socioeconomic Class This is really interesting actually. I am one of very few people that have lived amongst all socioeconomic classes, when most people only ever experience their local community with people just like them. I grew up in a socially middle class household in a predominately working class area. However, I was sent away to a boarding school for high school where there was some serious wealth and elite dynastic families. I learnt the subtle nuances in how those people were socialised. But also, there we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/19 10:15 AM
29	FR - Girls DO care about looks Wow, this makes so much more sense. Thank you	/r/seduction	20/07/19 07:39 AM
3	Tinder likes skyrocketed through a few tweaks Maybe people are attracted to authenticity and being integrated with your true self, which shows through subconsciously. People look awkward without realising when they are trying too hard, in unnatural posed pictures.	/r/seduction	13/07/19 11:53 AM
2	There is no fucking difference between cold approaching and swipe right on tinder People aren't afraid of approaching people. They are afraid of rejection and facing the consequences by looking foolish. That's what Tinder fixes. The interactions are strictly between 2 people and each end is in the safety and comfort of their own home.	/r/seduction	13/07/19 06:02 AM
1	Is a ”basic bro” / “basic girl” the average person? It's the ideal of average, which many people adhere to, in order to fit in. And it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, because in a pluralism of many different individuals and subcultures, this "basic bro/girl" is the most commonly observed subculture and by definition it is the "average". But there is nothing objectively inherent to "average", like everything else, it is a trend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/19 05:31 AM
1	Unpopular opinion: you CAN be a very successful woman while being feminine at the same time. The cadence of your written language is very American. An Eastern European who learnt English wouldn't have that level of casualness or idioms. But you are right in the fact that Russian women present as extremely feminine (due to the gender imbalance, more women than men) yet are strong and aren't as exposed to dogmatic patriachirchal ideals due to the hangover of communism where everyone was considered equal - for instance math and science isn't seen as "hard subjects for men" over there. It i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/19 01:43 PM
1	Discounting people with problems doesn't make problems go away. Yes we may be free to do so, but quite often, judging someone implies a dualistic mindset. Good/bad etc. When we judge, we are subconsciously projecting our standards onto other people through the lens of our inherent biases. We need to do away with this dualism and recongise that pretty much everything is in fact a continuum and relative. And even if we do recongise this, we cannot have the full information to understand and decipher each person's mindset because we all have vastly unique biolo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/19 08:19 AM
6	Discounting people with problems doesn't make problems go away. Both of them stem from lack of compassion. Unfortunately it’s just the way society is nowadays. I was once a NEET (due to severe depression from several bad circumstances) and even people that once cared about me (or pretended to care) dropped me. I felt so alone and isolated. Now I’ve pretty got everything I’ve ever wanted - even more than I could've imagined in fact. And now people are interested in being kind to me again... I always listen to everyone and understand them - it just sort of com…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/19 10:43 AM
39	Why is being taken care of and provided for not seen as a privilege? This - privileged people are privileged. I doubt the stay at home mom who's married to a blue collar guy earning $60k feels privileged. She's isolated at home all day with her demanding/noisy kids, lacks independence, likely has little down time as she does all the housework, not enough money to go out alone and have fun etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/19 02:02 PM
11	Almost nobody loves other people unconditionally, love is always connected to conditions Exactly this. My love is unconditional - but that presupposes it's mutual. Then in the (healthy) relationship the love is unconditional. The moment the other person becomes abusive, they are showing that there isn't mutual love from their end anymore. If they don't respect me enough, how can it be coming from a place of love? If there is no love anymore and you break up, that isn't conditional. It just means there is no actual love there anymore. Conditional love means that people use the threat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/19 02:21 PM
2	Q4All - How well do you remember past sexual experiences with former partners? I think it's of those things that just happens in the moment and you don't remember every detail or analyse it. They could also be feigning ignorance. If they broke up with someone for a reason, it could be bad sex or the aftermath coloured their perception of their ex so it's most likely that they'll be like "eh it was nothing special"	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/19 09:03 AM
2	Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart? She was loved just as much as she was hated. The more prosperous areas that vote Conservative view her as an iconic pinnacle of capitalism that pushed the UK into global importance again (finance etc) However, she was hated in the less well off areas - especially mining/manufacturing areas, because Thatcher closed down their industries overnight out of ideology (undermining union power) Thatcher did both good and bad things. But from an overall outsider's perspective, it seems to be worse overal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/19 12:40 AM
3	CMV: Insecurity is not inherently a character flaw I think you're overcomplicating it. You wrote a whole wall of text in a circular fashion without making a clear point. Insecurity come from 2 things. 1 - seeing another person with an advantage over you 2 - deep-seated feelings of inadequacy, most often due to how your parents raised you. With 1, it's human nature to want to compare ourselves to others, so we can improve, to be worthy enough for other people we want for ourselves and/or to avoid people violating our rights (taking away gf, threa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/19 08:55 AM
1	Stoicism in men and society I did a long time ago, but I don’t remember that being covered. I was referring to a study that is oft repeated here and in the media.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 06:59 AM
2	Stoicism in men and society They love healthy masculinity but not the toxic one often manifested from socialization.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 06:58 AM
3	Stoicism in men and society Exactly. But being stoic is, to me, a way in which society got to make use of men's natural differences I'm glad we have consensus. And I do agree with you that it does maximise men's natural differences even more so than a woman's, but it can make a woman more attractive in some ways too. You can be non stoic and non crazy, like for example, many people are perfectly socially adjusted and capable of not being crazy but cannot think clearly or without emotion I think even the most well adjusted …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 06:50 AM
1	Stoicism in men and society Wording was a bit unclear. I meant the socialisation of masculinity is unnatural. I was just saying the process is analogous to the natural formation of biological maleness - the idea of getting away from femininity. But masculinity is by no means a "default" state, it is attained. I believe socialisation rather than biology has much more to do with masculinity as most people's preconception of masculinity is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 06:34 AM
2	Stoicism in men and society How is that unnatural? You said yourself a man is born after his Y chromosome begins taking action, a single cell don't need testosterone. If anything it is unnatural to not have masculinity. All mammals share this trait, we humans can just choose not to behave in it. The socialisation of masculinity is unnatural. I was just saying the process is analogous to the natural formation of biological maleness - the idea of getting away from femininity. But masculinity is by no means a "default" state,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 06:30 AM
4	Stoicism in men and society Masculinity is by no means a "default" state, it is attained. From the very beginning, we are all female to begin with (XX chromosome) and some with exposure of testosterone etc become male (XY chromosome) This is emulated in socialisation. Boys and girls are largely the same during infancy, until they start hanging out with their own gender where they then follow masculine/feminine standards from an external source, that is; societal norms and peer pressure - leading to self-reinforcing nurture…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/19 05:45 AM
2	Single motherhood partially responsible for the resentment towards women I don't know about this tbh. Yes, there will always be those men who are resentful, having missed out on being raised by their fathers. But that is usually caused from a mother who didn't show affection to their kids more than anything. However, many men I know who were raised by single mothers were very appreciative and supportive towards their mothers because they instinctively understand how hard it is for her. They have a harmonious relationship because there often isn’t a toxic man around (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/19 09:12 AM
1	Women don't care about pretty boys anymore, they are more in to masculine men. What percentage of women would you say marry "the one", and correspondingly, what percentage settle?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/19 08:30 AM
6	Is it me or is there a disconnect between what men think women want and what they actually want? Women care about how men make them feel. An attractive man is enjoyable to look at and of course, she’ll feel more sexually excited - so she'll feel lucky every time she looks at him and feel proud when she talks about him with her friends - so she'll enjoy the experience of her relationship with him more. Women also like a kind man who is present and listens to her. And treats her with kindness (and being kind as in genuinely caring for her while being respectful by maintaining boundaries, rath…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/19 03:18 PM
1	Is neoteny caused by domestication the reason why men's testosterone, bones, bodies and behavior have changed so drastically in the past few generations? I think the wisdom is confirmed in that the optimal ejaculation is once per week. Any more or less stops you from reaching peak testosterone levels.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/19 02:11 PM
1	If you could remove all desire to be with women, or men sexually or emotionally would you do it? Arab = about the same in places like LA/NYC, and in other places, gay people will likely be met with less suspicion. Overall, pretty similar in how both are stereotyped as a group, but on an individual level, they are mostly treated just the same as everyone else. Black = gay people are probably quite a bit less stigmatized/marginizaled than black people for sure. Chinese = gay people are definitely a lot more marginalized than them. Asians are considered as a positive "model minority" rather th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/19 02:36 PM
1	Why is nobody talking about the gradual decline of testosterone levels in men? Curious to hear more about that. How can you find out our androgen receptor density?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/19 02:19 PM
1	Confidence only works for attractive men. Where did I say that? Did you mean to reply to someone else? Yes, being attractive has it advantages. And that leads to a higher likelihood of being genuinely confident as mentioned above. An ugly guy may face more obstacles from the lack thereof and may have to work harder to be considered as worthy. But he will (like most people as they age) reach a point where they aren't as anxious anymore and thus become truly confident. It might even be that they were genuinely confident in themselves all …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/19 01:53 PM
20	Confidence only works for attractive men. I think that's not quite hitting the full mark quite yet. Women are attracted to genuine confidence. Confidence isn't about gathering up courage to have bluster and swagger in a peacocking manner. It's about the lack of anxiety, it's more like a mild contentment. If you are an attractive/accomplished person, you are more likely to feel secure within yourself and know your value. Hence, you won't feel the need to try hard and prove yourself. And in doing so you are more able to be present and eng…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/19 12:56 AM
4	Why is nobody talking about the gradual decline of testosterone levels in men? Just a caveat, the “average” ranges are based on today’s lower overall figures. You should look back to averages as early as possible, since records began. Ideally before the 1950s, which is when processed foods and use of chemicals in manufacturing started to become mainstream.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/19 01:12 PM
7	Why is nobody talking about the gradual decline of testosterone levels in men? It correlates pretty well with the rise of obesity and diabetes. I was also at 27 BMI/25% body fat, at my peak. Women didn't take much notice of me then - although they said I had an attractive face. But now with keto and intermittent fasting, plus weight lifting I got down to 10%. Sometimes women's nostrils flare and/or they notice/really take a liking to my presence when I walk past them (probably pheromones) I've never taken hormone tests but my bone density (from a DEXA scan) is on the lower…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/19 11:28 AM
42	Why is nobody talking about the gradual decline of testosterone levels in men? Is it that every man has lower testosterone levels? Or is it simply an "average"? Simply put, there is an increasing proportion of obese men who are inactive that have extremely low testosterone levels for a man that is dragging down the population's average? If a man leads a healthy lifestyle (hard to do in our modern environment) would his testosterone be at historically normal levels?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/19 11:08 AM
1	Why is nobody talking about the gradual decline of testosterone levels in men? Really? Curious to know if this is legitimate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/19 11:01 AM
1	A man can have standards This. I think OP's standards can be reasonable, depending. If it's because of the higher risk of STDs or the fact that a person has a deep rooted insecurity (so they need to sleep around for validation or because they don't know what they want) then that's fair enough and totally valid. But if it comes from a patriarchal point of view where a woman must be quiet, subservient and faithful and not "used" as if she was the property of a man, then that is a big red flag.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/19 12:15 PM
1	A man can have standards If anything, narrowing down your search field by knowing where to look is more likely to result in a higher rate of success. It's more compatible and in-line with your authentic self.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/19 12:12 PM
1	A man can have standards This so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/19 12:02 PM
1	A man can have standards I'm a pretty picky person. If he/she (am bi) doesn't hit all of the marks for me, I'm just not interested. Sex is dirty and too much effort unless I really feel it with my whole body. I don't know why I'm not wired in that way like the stereotypical bro who wants to smash every chick that moves. I'm not boastful (and had low self esteem until recently) but I am the Instagram pretty-boy type and haven't had issues with attracting women so I have been able to get away with being selective. But at …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/19 12:00 PM
1	Sums up my struggle with external validation and neediness Yeah, I don't have textversations either. I only use texting/messenger to arrange something or discuss something of importance asap like when we're working on a college essay and I can't easily get to them in person.	/r/seduction	10/02/19 08:42 AM
2	Sums up my struggle with external validation and neediness Nah it's was because she was into me, but didn't tell me that she had a boyfriend back in her home city. We slept together after she invited me to party, but failed to make it official because of her back and forth indecisiveness. So I thought she wasn't actually interested in dating me long term, because of these texting games. So I stopped responding. Which made her think that I wasn't interested in her. But then she would start things up again, I would get sucked back in and disappointed agai…	/r/seduction	07/02/19 08:53 AM
2	Sums up my struggle with external validation and neediness Well actually, she initiated interest in me first and I just went along with it. It happened as we were getting closer. She was new to the city where I'm based now (college) so back then that wouldn't have been a factor. But yeah both she and I now have a wide circle of freinds, so I can understand to some extent, but I still like to keep on top of all my messages. I usually reply within an hour or two at the latest as I'm walking to get to somewhere. Not several hours/at night/a few days later.	/r/seduction	07/02/19 08:22 AM
–	Sums up my struggle with external validation and neediness I feel like this, but not because I need external validation. It's more a frustration because they are being impolite by not responding. When I get a text from anyone, I am keen to respond to them as soon as possible because I don't like to keep the other person waiting (because I know how good it feels to get a quick reply) I don't expect the person I'm messaging to be on my beck and call and I fully understand people have lives to live. But there's no excuse when I'm chatting to them and then …	/r/seduction	07/02/19 03:13 AM
3	Why are men’s dating preferences easily disregarded? I thought it was the other way around, honestly. Isn't it considered well known that men are superficial - they mostly care about how a woman looks objectively. And they brag about and are congratulated depending on how many women they've slept with/how hot the woman was. Whereas women are more realistic - they aren't as looked oriented, but can also be attracted to other elements such as personality, masculinity, height, earning potential etc. And they are more willing to change their mind subj…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/19 08:07 AM
4	Feminist mothers attempting to raise their sons to be feminist or gender-critical: how does this affect said boys' upbringing and mental well-being? My mother was a misandrist due to her own mother being toxic and enabling her brother to abuse her. She raised me to be a feminist, but it was a long source of anguish for me as I didn't know why I couldn't relate to other guys my age and chicks my age rightly thought I was weird. My dad was also abusive towards me, so I had no notion of healthy masculinity either. When I started high school though, it was an extremely steep learning curve for a good few years via socialisation. When I saw what …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/19 01:59 AM
3	CMV: The concept of female attraction is the hardest pill to swallow I don't want to be boastful (because I used to have extraordinarily low self-esteem due to abuse growing up, and it's still somewhat-low to to some extent though I am quite "normal" nowadays) I am one of those guys with an Instagram pretty boy type look. I am very introverted and quiet, and perhaps on the spectrum as my social skills are poor. I don't chase women because I'm bi, but used to think I was gay (am a Kinsey scale 4/5) and I have a very high threshold for finding a woman attractive to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/19 04:12 AM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? Well that’s shorter and more iconic than any of the other mentioned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 03:44 PM
3	If you could remove all desire to be with women, or men sexually or emotionally would you do it? You mean affirmative action? Yeah that's definitely a big boost and significantly eases the competitive process. But overall, are we really better off? It's fair to say there are also downsides too, which may or may not be offset by the advantages. Feeling out of place in a very masculine environment and unable to establish that rapport needed for informal networking which is cruicial for future opportunities. And as a result, while we do get into the lower ranks, it's rare for a gay man to reac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 02:33 PM
4	If you could remove all desire to be with women, or men sexually or emotionally would you do it? As for society/social hierarchy/social acceptance/etc. gay people have the advantage now, as you dodged around admitting. I'm curious to see why you think this. And I didn't try to dodge anything, but maybe I also have a blind spot to this privilige gay people have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 02:12 PM
2	Why so few young women have short hair? What about the pixie cut Audrey Hepburn had?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 02:08 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? As you age hair gets thin, it's easier to make look fuller when it's shorter. I thought it was the opposite. Longer hair means more hair to cover up the gaps. The shorter it is, the more easily you can see through to the scalp.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 02:07 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? That's a cherry picked example. James Dean, Fred Astaire, Frank Sinatra was from that time period too. Lots of weedy men - there always have been. It's part of the normal distribution, but we only choose to remember the best examples from the past - the survivor's bias. Nowadays we could say men still look like men if you only consider Brad Pitt, Denzel Washington, John Cena, Chris Hemsworth, The Rock etc As someone currently living in Australia though, the guys in the photo look quite soft and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 02:03 PM
2	Why so few young women have short hair? I think it's easy enough not to depend on hair alone to determine their sexuality. It's pretty easy to tell, there are lots of different visual cues. In my experience, women who get short hair are either extremely feminine (a pixie look), older or butch with not much in-between (though that's not to say there aren't exceptions). The way they dress and carry themselves are also usually a big giveaway. In fact, I can tell someone is a lesbian from their mannerisms, even if they have long hair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 01:57 PM
2	Why so few young women have short hair? On older women, it's normal enough to have short hair to the extent it's considered weird to have long hair. As a male, I had no idea why older women had "that haircut" until I saw this older woman who never had her hair done. It was grey, it was wiry (but stringy at the same time) and had a life of its own because it was suspended in the air. Then one week, BAM! She came back with "that haircut". It's been cut, permed into flat strands that looked like leaves on her head and dyed peroxide blond…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 01:53 PM
7	If you could remove all desire to be with women, or men sexually or emotionally would you do it? Why? I'm bi, and have hung out with plenty of gay men. There's an enormous amount of shame and marginalisation involved, just for a perfectly natural biological variation. There's also a lack of automatic rapport and connection with the majority of the population which is based on heteronormativity ie: society is essentially structured around men try to compete with other men (ie: why they love sport so much) to get the most attractive woman (why women are so obsessed with beauty) to produce the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 01:40 PM
2	I found a non-hypergamic wife, so it is possible. Thing is though, nowadays hypergamy is a social construct, based on our highly complex society that have developed over thousands of years. Back in the nethanderal days, women wanted to associate with the strongest/toughest men to hunt animals for their children. However, in our developed economy where women have more opportunities to support themselves, they are now free to choose for higher-order needs than mere survival. That is; attraction, love, sexual chemistry, mutual respect etc. Choosin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/19 12:59 PM
1	Should this guy get back his 4 million dollars for the wife paternity frauding him? In the UK, class is more complex than that. Class and money is a very American/modern idea. But historically and this is still the case in the UK, it was to do with lineage (do you have royal/aristocratic blood) and lifestyle such as having education in elite schools, a certain accent, certain mannerisms etc You can be posh and poor. Lots of aristocrats have grand estates but almost no liquid cash and quite a lot of them live in poverty (can't afford to heat their home etc) but they are consider…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/19 05:50 AM
2	Should this guy get back his 4 million dollars for the wife paternity frauding him? Most 19 year olds nowadays are still financially dependent on their parents and the trend is moving towards mid/late twenties being the norm. If his mother has to give back the money (even if it was just £250k, because her net worth is probably tied up in assets, not liquid cash) it'll negatively impact not just hers, but also the son's lifestyles. I think that's why the oldest son said "if you sue mum, I won't talk to you again" because he presumably wants to live with his mother and maintain t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/19 05:39 AM
1	Does anyone else feel like finding a girlfriend is much harder than you thought it was when you were a kid? Hah, why not?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/19 05:54 AM
2	Does anyone else feel like finding a girlfriend is much harder than you thought it was when you were a kid? This. I don't even have to try that hard. I live in a nice neighbourhood in a medium sized city there are lots of attractive, well adjusted and friendly people. I've made freinds with (initially just casual) then slept with several people from my local gym, the bakery, the grocery store, cafe baristas etc - I'm in my early twenties though and a college student, as they are too. All of that within a half mile radius from my apartment. Going to bars/nightclubs/using Tinder is a crapshoot and often…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/19 02:03 AM
0	Unlimited men. I feel like I've already figured those things out for myself and do weight lifting, doing a high value degree at a prestigious university and found myself through the 3 I's, but currently I am limited by an abusive and controlling mother (I have to live off her following a divorce as my dad isn't around anymore) I really need help here. My mother stole my credit card, so I'm now dependent on her paying it off. I've been trying to get a part time job to get more independence, but after handing ou…	/r/becomeaman	25/11/18 09:30 AM
9	Negging Is For 10s That's not negging though. It's just basic flirtation, with a bit of shock value and suspense. What you're doing though, you've naturally got it :)	/r/seduction	10/10/18 01:24 PM
3	Negging Is For 10s Hah, your example is brilliant!	/r/seduction	10/10/18 12:16 PM
–	Negging Is For 10s Negging is the wrong word for this thread. Negging is a manipulation tactic where you undermine the woman’s confidence to make her want your approval desperately, so you can get laid. It’s pretty awful - it could destroy/affect the confidence of the more average women for a long time. Won’t work on hot women either because they don’t have to prove themselves. Even if it does work, they’re only sleeping with you for all the wrong reasons and it’s a poor foundation for anything beyond a one night …	/r/seduction	10/10/18 08:55 AM
-1	Negging Is For 10s Doesn’t work that way. If you’re high value, yes she will enjoy the light teasing. However you can build chemistry and intimacy regardless, even if you’re only an average/decent looking guy.	/r/seduction	10/10/18 08:51 AM
–	Negging Is For 10s Hence why OP said it only works for males that are 10s, 9s and 8s.	/r/seduction	10/10/18 08:50 AM
1	Dating Study: At What Age Are Men, Women Most Desirable? I think it's a biological instinct for men to date attractive, fertile women at their peak age. Similarly, women like older, more mature men with more resources. I do think there is societal disapproval for that kind of thing but I've known attractive and well off 50 year old men who dated women that are around 25 and no-one batted an eyelid. There was some surprise in the beginning (like "ohh, why not someone your own age?") but people quickly got over it. Those that tend to criticise others ha…	/r/becomeaman	01/09/18 07:32 AM
6	Dating Study: At What Age Are Men, Women Most Desirable? I'm in my early 20s and I find those my age (about 25) to be the most objectively attractive. They are fully mature, but still youthful looking and have about 5 to 10 years before they start to go downhill. 18 year olds look too young.	/r/becomeaman	01/09/18 05:55 AM