oldmaninadrymonth Archive

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2	I'd like to seek out therapy, but I'm conflicted on how I should go about it. I'd like some input to help me with this process. What exactly are the men's issues that you think the therapists would not understand? And what are the specific ways they relate to the problems you're going to therapy for? I'm also not sure what you mean by "filter your message" in the context of therapy. Generally, therapists are trained to be non-judgmental and empathetic. That said, it's true that there are therapists who will try and move you in the direction of their ideological beliefs. I'll point out as well that strong ideological beli…	/r/MenSupportMen	29/08/24 01:26 PM
1	I'd like to seek out therapy, but I'm conflicted on how I should go about it. I'd like some input to help me with this process. I'm a man and a therapist (not specialized in men's issues, but I'm very attuned to men's issues generally). I extensively use ACT in my practice and I highly recommend it. In some ways I think ACT is very compatible with masculinity that I don't think is acknowledged enough in therapy circles - it's very much about accepting that bad experiences will happen and still pushing through with living your best life anyway. Your post was a little long so I might not have caught it - what exactly are y…	/r/MenSupportMen	29/08/24 03:38 AM
5	Am I the only one that feels like men are being targeted in the gym? Exactly! Because social media isn't real life.	/r/MensRights	29/01/23 05:55 AM
1	No, virgin men are not more likely to be misogynistic or violent nor are incels are a threat to women. Debunking a new study showing that unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny or pro-rape attitudes. Here's, a website has a bit of hate in it: /r/TwoXchromosomes, can we get Dutch study on that? Didn't think so. The true conclusion on the paper is: people wringe on forums. Whoopdedoo. I actually have no idea what you're trying to say here. Are you being sarcastic? Hyperbolic? Trying to prove a point? What are they looking for, again? Why are you asking this question?	/r/MensRights	08/10/22 08:00 AM
1	No, virgin men are not more likely to be misogynistic or violent nor are incels are a threat to women. Debunking a new study showing that unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny or pro-rape attitudes. No, you're missing my point. I am saying that whether or not promiscuous men are more likely to be misogynistic than the average man does not imply that incels are not similarly misogynistic.	/r/MensRights	07/10/22 03:14 PM
2	No, virgin men are not more likely to be misogynistic or violent nor are incels are a threat to women. Debunking a new study showing that unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny or pro-rape attitudes. The study concluded unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny, not identifying as incel, so you’re wrong So there were actually two recent studies on incels that were posted on PsyPost - Costello et al. and Grunau et al. Since you didn't actually link to the article in question on your post (or at least I couldn't find it), I assumed you were talking about the Costello article, not the Grunau article. This is probably the source of our confusion. But yes, the Grunau article concludes it as y…	/r/MensRights	07/10/22 01:03 PM
9	No, virgin men are not more likely to be misogynistic or violent nor are incels are a threat to women. Debunking a new study showing that unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny or pro-rape attitudes. No study with an n of under 200 is worth considering as conclusive. That's stupid. There's no way that 200 could ever be considered useful as a sample size. They actually used a sample size of about 350, 150+ self identified incels compared against 190+ non-self-identified-incels. Also, where'd you get this idea from that studies with sample sizes under 200 are inconclusive? There's no general rule for n (beyond n > 30 and the Central Limit Theorem), n affects power but so does a host of other f…	/r/MensRights	07/10/22 04:52 AM
5	No, virgin men are not more likely to be misogynistic or violent nor are incels are a threat to women. Debunking a new study showing that unwanted celibacy is associated with misogyny or pro-rape attitudes. I'm a psychological scientist and a man. You've talked about a lot of different things but I'm going to focus strictly on your scientific criticism of the study itself. First of all, the sample is biased. They used many people from self-identified incel forums and subreddits, a Dutch university and Prolific (a website you can find research participants). They even asked people if they identify as incel (members of an online subculture who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual …	/r/MensRights	07/10/22 04:48 AM
2	Men's problems are men I think your mileage may vary. In some men's spaces there is a strong sense of competition and showing any weakness is discouraged, so it's true that we'd tend to repress it there. There are also men-dominated spaces oriented towards "the mission" in lieu of all else. I'm thinking about my military service, and how during an operation I wouldn't even consider bringing up how I was feeling - the mission comes first and everything, especially feelings, are secondary. I think this sense also transl…	/r/MensRights	01/10/22 03:30 PM
2	People defending the “small d*ck energy” insult, what do you guys think? It's in the same vein as saying someone has "bitch vibes", but with reference to unchangeable body parts. It should absolutely be subject to the same kind of same critical lens as other gendered language. And in the cultural logic of social justice, SDE would be just as much a problem. So no, it's not really defensible within that framework. I guess the question is whether we want to accept that framework, or if we think that it's too sensitive.	/r/MensRights	13/07/22 01:57 AM
5	Stanford Professor and Amber Heard defender Michele Dauber on men She was heavily involved in the Brock Turner case and the recall attempt of the trial judge of that case. You guys are gonna love Part 3 of the article: https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/brock-turner-michele-dauber/	/r/MensRights	12/06/22 10:09 AM
2	This post from r/AITA makes me so angry because if the genders were reversed people would be supporting op. Glad for you my man :) I'm a nerdy guy too, hope I become you in the future. Currently going through what's probably going to be a break up with a long term girlfriend I thought I would marry. Gonna keep working on myself.	/r/MensRights	11/06/22 01:00 AM
5	This post from r/AITA makes me so angry because if the genders were reversed people would be supporting op. Fair enough. Just wanted to make sure not to reinforce the stereotype that "women are only into Chads with perfect bodies, confidence, charm, blah blah", that's stupid. Sexual preference is a malleable and diverse thing. It’s not a perfect screen for that but nothing is. I think it's a good heuristic on the sex life part of relationships.	/r/MensRights	11/06/22 12:49 AM
4	This post from r/AITA makes me so angry because if the genders were reversed people would be supporting op. edit: a tip for the guys: this is a really good question to ask a woman you're dating a few months in ("what first attracted you to me?", or similar). If it's something related to what hetro-sexual women find sexually attractive in men (e.g. strength, charm, athleticism, looks, confidence, etc.), then that's fine. I like the idea of this list but I think it's also important to account for the sexual preferences of the specific woman you happen to be dating (and avoid essentializing what women li…	/r/MensRights	11/06/22 12:16 AM