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| 1 | Question about “the wall”Think you forgot the second half of that reply Umm . . . please answer my question. So you don't know if I am right or wrong? A simple yes or no will do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Thing is I never claimed to know anything So you don't know if I am right or wrong? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Good gracious ‘Flattering light’ , explain further Sorry, I don't take your orders. If you have a specific question to ask in good faith, I will consider it. Sir , I can promise that from these comments that you most certainly don’t know how women behave. Ma'am, I can promise from these comments that you most certainly don't know how women behave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/21 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”and there’s no correlation as you don’t know whether is would’ve actually worked with her friends around or not Nonsense, I've had lots of experiences, both positive and negative and I know how women behave. Most importantly, my knowledge of women isn't colored by a desire to see women in the most flattering possible light, which is how women see themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/21 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”But you don’t know what she would’ve done?? That’s what I’m saying, it’s completely useless information unless you can see paradoxical futures or something No idea what your point is here. It's amazing how little self-awareness women have when it comes to sex and relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/21 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Or ask one then Lol, no idea what your point is here. Asking women about their preferences is a guaranteed way to get virtue-signalling and self-flattering nonsense. that story was completely unrelated What women do != what women say | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/21 08:09 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”ask them Lol, I would never try to ascertain women's true preferences in men by asking them. Because you can always depend on women to give whatever they think is the socially appropriate, self-flattering answer. What matters is what women actually do. In fact, just today I went in the office for work and ran down to the stationary store to pick up some supplies. There was a long line and I struck up a conversation with a girl who told me she's an art student at a local college. I made some lame… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/21 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”As one, no we don’t obsess over old men. Not matter how rich really Unfortunately women are not accurate reporters of their own sexual/romantic desires. They are far more interested in saying what they perceive to be socially appropriate. If you went by what women said on Reddit, you would think that it's pretty much impossible for a man over 40 to attract young women. And it is indeed impossible -- if he attempts it in a venue where the woman perceives she is being watched and judged by people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/21 09:20 AM |
| 6 | What does the romantic life of a betabux look like?I once had an FWB like this. She was a South Asian woman who was engaged to a family-approved guy. It wasn't exactly an arranged marriage but it was pretty much done with a lot of parental guidance. One thing that was interesting was with me she enthusiastically fucked and sucked almost every day; but she told me the most she did with him before the wedding was hold hands. Which I guess is to be expected since she wanted him to think she was pure and chaste and all. But even after the wedding, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/21 07:34 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractHoly fuck I've been stupid Probably yeah. Let's do this: Please give me two examples of the "boy movies" you are referring to. All the memes of guys "never growing up" Yeah, it's unfortunate that our gynocentric society needs to project female shortcomings onto men just so that women can feel better about themselves. Anyway, please give me two examples of these "boy movies" you refer to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/21 02:15 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI wonder if women are really all that different. When I was in college back in the 80s, there was a guy who got raped. What happened was, he had a huge crush on this girl who didn't like him back. As a prank, she told him she wanted to take his virginity, invited him to her dorm room and got him to agree to let her tie him up and blindfold him. Then they had a gay guy give him a blowjob. Apparently he really freaked out when they pulled the blindfold off and there was a dude there. And then for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 11:24 PM |
| 0 | everyone is a cheater, and every partner man or woman will cheat in the right circumnstancesalso, those arent really unicorns ( ppl who dont cheat ) around 50% of people dont. According to self-reporting. Besides, a lot of people don't cheat because they don't have the option. How do people behave when they have a lot of options? Just look at Hollywood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 11:04 PM |
| 3 | everyone is a cheater, and every partner man or woman will cheat in the right circumnstancesIt's amazing how many unicorns there are on reddit who insist that they have never cheated and would never cheat. Anyway, as an unrepentant cheater I would have to agree. I've had 2 wives over the years and cheated on both of them. I've also cheated on numerous girlfriends. Perhaps the worst indiscretion was while my second wife was in labor I struck up a conversation with a cute woman at a drink cart in the lobby of the maternity hospital and we ended up doing it in a supply closet. Anyway, to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 08:50 PM |
| 8 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI remember growing up watching countless sitcoms and the couple would get into a fight and the girl would kick the guy out of the bed and he would have to sleep on the couch. Me and my Gf don’t live together(at least not yet) but I’m trying to envision a scenario where someone is kicking me out of the bed of the home I pay a mortgage on. Like oh hell nah This is one of those gynocentric television tropes, kind of like how in commercials which depict a married couple, the woman is always smart an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:30 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractthe women in "boy movies" are dumb and weak and ready for the hero to save them. You are pretty much proving my point here. Movies which are aimed at teenage boys do have a tendency to fall into this pattern. The key word being "boys." because YOU cannot face that they are adults that use their brain and CHOOSE not to fuck you Lol, the go-to position of every feminist who's lost an argument: "You're sexually unattractive!!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 07:49 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractComparing women to children just sounds bad I agree. But it doesn't change the reality that women are children. It's like comparing men to the men in porn- how many times has a guy had hot sex with a random pizza girl who insisted on sucking his dick right then and there? Actually I've had things like that happen a few times in my life. Once I was in a movie theater in a foreign country and I noticed that my arm was touching the arm of a young woman sitting next to me. I kind of moved my arm and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractThat's funny, most women I know have faked at least 70% of the orgasms they've had from another man... I think guys think they know what they're doing because we fake orgasms all the time- not to bruise your ego. Normally I would ignore a non-sequitor like this, but I think it provides an interesting insight into the female mind. If a woman fakes an orgasm, it puts her in a superior position to the man she is with: She knows something important he does not; he has been successfully fooled. What … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:43 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractThe way I think about it is like asking people what foods are good to eat. They might talk about healthy nutritious choices because that's what is expected of them and makes them look good. Yeah, if a supermarket chain wanted to know what foods to carry for maximum profit, it would be a huge mistake to simply ask consumers to list the foods they would like and what foods they would not like. No consumer is going to say "And put potato chips at the end of each and every aisle!" But at least with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 08:26 AM |
| 27 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractThe thing is, you have to think about what type of woman is out here giving this advice and whether or not you’d want to attract someone like that. It's actually worse than that because most women don't understand their own sexuality very well. By analogy, imagine a child saying that if you get them a puppy, they will walk it every day and feed it and groom it and take care of everything. The child might actually believe it, but as the responsible adult in the room, you know that's not going to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnyway, it's a false equivalence. It's like the situation of a cute short girl who prefers tall men. She's not a hypocrite because height has a much bigger impact on male attractiveness than on female attractiveness. I myself have a very large n-count but I would never marry a woman with a past. (Obviously she doesn't need to be a virgin.) On 3 occasions, I've had sex with women without exchanging a single word, but I would never marry a girl who'd done such a thing with a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/21 09:25 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Society should encourage men to marry youngI married young a couple times, got divorced once, and am still married in a foreign country although my lawyers tell me that due to some legal loophole it doesn't count here in the United States. I'm planning marriage number 3. I would say that in general society would be better off if everyone paired off young, but men's polygyny instinct is pretty strong. I've cheated on all my wives, although not during the honeymoon so that's something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/21 08:17 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadGiven the same individual income, women a have higher household income. Given the same amount of effort into their careers, the woman will have a higher household income than the man. That's not fair. On the other hand, men are smarter, less prone to hysterics, and generally more rational. Which is a big advantage in terms of making money and holding on to it. Put another way, women do pay a privilege tax every time they pay extra for a pink shaving razor "because I'm worth it." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/21 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI go, yeah. In terms of meeting women, the positives are that it's pretty low key. You just wait for a girl to sit down next to you and see where it goes. One downside is that it's kinda hit or miss. For every night where I end up going home with a cute girl, there are 3 or 4 where I'm dealing with an angry drunk trying to pick a fight; a woman I'm not into who keeps trying to paw me; etc. Also, if you aren't careful it's very easy to get blackout drunk. I remember once a couple months ago sitti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/21 07:15 PM |
| 4 | If casual sex suddenly became readily available to you, (same way it is to women) how much time would you now devote to having sex? If you're currently in a relationship, would you drop her?When I was younger, I lived for a while in a country in Asia where I was constantly being hit up for sex, I guess due to my race and eye color. I agree with others that it gets old after a while, but I still got into a pattern where I would have 1 or 2 steady girls and also 4 or 5 casual encounters a week. There were a few weeks where I had more than 20 different women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/21 01:54 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo one says never. They say rarely Based on my observations, it's a lot more common than "rarely." And frankly if (generic) you are a dude who is significantly unattractive to 20 something women in your 20s you’re not going to do any better when you’re older unless you got significant cash to lure the gold digger types. I actually agree with this. I think men's potential sexual attractiveness tends to be pretty stable from late teens to middle age. If a man did well with women at age 20, he can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/21 01:00 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo you look younger than you are? Not really. On the plus side, I still have most of my hair and I'm in pretty good shape. On the down side, I have lines in my face like most men my age. If you’re fit and look younger it’s not surprising that younger women are open to dating you. I think there are two issues in play: First, a woman assess whether she finds the man reasonably attractive. Since a middle aged man is still potentially fertile, his age is not necessarily a problem at this stage. Seco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/21 12:51 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah, I would have thought that it's just a matter of being wealthy, but what's interesting is that I get regular interest even when I don't flaunt my wealth. For example, I often commute to work using the city subway mainly because it's interesting to meet people. I don't wear any expensive clothing or jewelry. The other day, a cute read-headed woman in a minidress sat down next to me. I asked her a BS question about where the train was going, and she answered me and also complimented an articl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 10:33 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFor what it may be worth, I fall into the "very wealthy" category (net worth > $50m), divorced, and planning a remarriage with a large age gap. I think it's kind of like the girl who says she doesn't care about height but it "just so happens" that all of her boyfriends have been over 6' tall. In other words, men instinctively find youthfulness attractive in women, so a man with options will tend to gravitate towards younger women. Part of the issue is not so much youth per se, but other issues. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 2 | [Q4All]Is it really that hard to tell if someone likes you?That's fuckin weird whether she was trying to sell you the car or fuck you. I would think she was trying to sell the car. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 06:04 PM |
| 5 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah, there is a man in my office who is not ugly but he's a little awkward socially and I've noticed that female employees tend to cross their arms, back up, and glance away if he walks over to talk to them. What's also interesting is that there are a couple female employees who are normally pretty touchy-feely. e.g. if they are talking to me they will put a hand on my arm now and then for emphasis -- not in a sexual way, but just being friendly. But I noticed that these ladies never touch this… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 02:42 PM |
| 0 | When looking at the top 16 Billionaires, they almost always married much younger women. And if they didn't they almost always got married way before they became rich.I'm not a billionaire but I'm pretty successful with a net worth a little more than $50m. I didn't set out to date young women, but I find myself mainly dating women in their 20s even though I myself am over 50. I think what happens is that men find youth to be attractive in a woman and naturally gravitate in that direction if they have that option. From the female perspective, if you talk to women in online discussion boards, they inevitably say something like "ewww gross" when the subject of o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 8 | Do men enjoy being desired more?Yeah, I really like the look of delight on a woman's face when we are intimate; hearing the sounds of pleasure she makes. I like it when a woman is unbuttoning my pants so she can fellate me and she is so eager take me right away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 01:24 PM |
| 1 | (Discussion/Q4A): Risk Taking & Risk/RewardWhat is the optimal mix, on average, for each gender? For men, I would say it depends on how easy it is to find women who are sexually attracted to you. For example, I know a guy who's kinda overweight and unattractive who never had a girlfriend before age 35, but he had a good government job with benefits. In his late 30s, he finally met a single mom of 3 or 4 children who was interested in dating and marrying him. She had some kind of health problem and I suspect she was more interested in get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Why is the PUA culture so "toxic", it seems half the time the "coaches/gurus" insult each other and try to expose each other as frauds?I actually met one of these supposed gurus in a bar in New York once. I was sitting there chatting with a couple women I'd just met, and he walks up to us wearing this ridiculous-looking shirt and delivers this cringy little shtick which sounded completely rehearsed. There was an awkward silence, and then he said something to the girls which was kind of insulting to me, like "Hey, is this your dad?" There was another awkward silence and finally I said the girls "Hey, let's get out of here," whic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 06:42 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBut a lot of men out there have to sacrifice their own ideal sexual preferences to obtain 'any' sex at all. Sure, and a lot of the time the man is better off just going to a prostitute or going MGTOW than getting into a long term relationship where the wife was a slut for other guys but is a prude for him. Case in point: I once had a FWB, a South Asian lady who was engaged at the time. It wasn't exactly an arranged marriage she was getting into, but it was parentally guided, you could say. Anywa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 05:59 PM |
| 0 | Where did the "Men only want sex and women only want attention" come from and why is it repeated so much?Dude I’m not teaching you to open your eyes and google things Lol, it's not even clear what you are talking about. Probably you don't even know yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 03:57 PM |
| 2 | [Q4All]Is it really that hard to tell if someone likes you?I think that for a lot of men, there is a problem that as you age, you often become wealthier and better connected. So if a woman wants to spend time alone with me, or even flirts with me, I have to consider the possibility that she's mainly looking for something non-sexual from me. So for example, I was shopping for a nice car a couple months ago, and there was cute salesgirl who held my hand as we walked out to the lot for a test drive. I would normally take this as a sign of sexual interest, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 03:30 PM |
| 0 | Where did the "Men only want sex and women only want attention" come from and why is it repeated so much?Newsflash but men get so horny all they can think about is sex to the point where women are murdered about it Can you give me a couple examples of this so I know what you're talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 02:08 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou do realise that a lot of women see straight through that negging shit right? Not really. It's sort of like how 99.9% of women insist that television advertising doesn't significantly affect their purchasing decisions. That advertising affects only weak-minded fools. They simply don't realize that they are the "weak-minded fools." Of course, the joke of it is that if society does anything to protect women from their own foolishness, they freak out about it. "I'm old enough to make my own deci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 01:41 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadJust an observation I've made from my own experiences, but a lot of Redpill views on women's behaviour (e.g. hypergamy) only applies to a very specific subset of women - Hot party girls. That's not been my experience. For example a number of years ago, I took a class at a local university and there was a girl in the class I had a crush on. Her demeanor was very prim and proper, she had a "Campus Crusade for Christ" thing going on. For kicks, I decided to go all red pill on her. For example, inst… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 12:29 PM |
| -5 | (Most of) TRP and men who want a traditional submissive partner don't really know what they are asking for.I think the key in such a relationship is to have the right expectations. In my 20s, I met a woman like this in South East Asia. We got married, but we weren't best friends or anything like that. It was understood that I would give her a nice lifestyle, regular sex, and legitimate children but she wouldn't try to control my life or anything like that. More than once I had her iron my clothes when I was going out on a date with another woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 11:55 AM |
| – | TRP life strategy is actually terrible and sentences many older men to sexlessnessI've tried to achieve the best of both worlds -- a long term relationship at home, and a few "plates" on the side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Men have to choose between success with women and having male friendships - agree or disagree?I think it can be a problem, but not for the reasons you say. If two guys are buddies, and one is a little more of a ladies' man and one is less so, it can excite feelings of envy which undermine the friendship. I had a buddy like this once. Every week or two we used to eat at this restaurant which had a cute waitress he had a crush on. One day she came over to take our order and she casually put her hand on my shoulder while she was telling us the specials. My buddy got up and stormed out. I wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 09:11 AM |
| 10 | Where did the "Men only want sex and women only want attention" come from and why is it repeated so much?I have found that when a woman is really into me sexually, she behaves in a pretty eager, aggressive fashion. So for example, I was walking with an LTR in the park a few weeks ago, and we started kissing, and I suggested we go back to our place and she looked at me and said she couldn't wait so we were intimate right then and there. And I've seen that happen many times, i.e. the woman is so horny that getting laid is the only thing she can think about. I think that one difference between men and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Do you think a relationship with a power imbalance can work or do you consider it always wrong?How do the people at the other side of the power imbalance feel? As far as I know, they're okay with the situation. One practice I have is that if I find a woman at work attractive, I don't making any kind of sexual advance unless she first shows some kind of interest herself. So for example, I once had a subordinate who worked in a cubicle, and she asked me if she could use my office to exercise. So every almost every day she would come by, shut the door, strip to her underwear, and do some pus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you think a relationship with a power imbalance can work or do you consider it always wrong?As a consenting adult she was probably ok with it Certainly this particular individual seems fine with it. I helped her get a good job and we have nice memories together. Anyway, at this point she's working for someone else so there's no power imbalance, but she still asked if she could come by my office to hang out, which is a polite way of asking for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 0 | Do you think a relationship with a power imbalance can work or do you consider it always wrong?I've had sexual relationships with subordinates at work and for the most part it's worked out okay. I think that a lot of people, especially women, actually prefer relationships where there is a power imbalance. So for example, a few years back I hired a receptionist who was straight out of college and we had a torrid office affair. I eventually helped her find a better job at another company and we parted ways with no hard feelings. In fact last month I got a text message from her saying that s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 02:37 PM |
| 6 | Women have lost big on feminism, men have won big, everyone is in denial about thisIn my experience most women enjoy (1) going to college; (2) having sex before marriage; and (3) engaging in degrading sex acts and BDSM. It's gotten to the point where I keep a whip and handcuffs in my office. Not because I'm into bondage but most women want and expect something kinky. I've lost count of the number of women who wanted to be slapped around, called names, peed on, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 3 | Do you think that in order for a man to be successful with dating that he has to know more about women than even women know about themselves?Another possibility is that if a man is successful with women, it gives him perspective on female behavior. I'm somewhat successful with women and it always surprises me just how much women want to be dominated, humiliated, and generally mistreated. The third time that a self-described feminist challenges you to pee on her, you start to notice a pattern emerging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Do some men in the manosphere want to "turn back the clock" and dislike the modern world?After reading up more on the manosphere it seems to me that the main motivation of many guys is not to succeed in dating much less to get laid. The main motivation is to "return society" to a older state of affairs. The two goals are not necessarily incompatible. In a traditional society a man at the 10% percentile of desirability will be married with children. So it's sort of like a poor person who supports socialism in part because he knows he would benefit in a socialist system. Of course the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadhow did you pull that sort of arangement off? As far as the situation at home goes, my girlfriend wanted to bring another woman into the relationship. For my dalliances outside of home, I lie and cheat. Probably it doesn't hurt that I am wealthy and the owner of a successful company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHow attractive are you out of 10 and how attractive are the two women you're dating? I would say I'm about a 4/10. I would say that objectively, the two women are in the 6.5 range. Not beautiful, but cute since they are both slender and in their 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm a man and I admit I'm a little bit of a sex addict. I'm in a "triad" relationship, i.e. I live with 2 women and we sleep in the same bed. I also have an FWB at work and the occasional fling. I agree that it's kind of stupid and pointless but I still enjoy it. I guess you could say that most things in life are stupid and pointless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 08:07 PM |
| 1 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYWell, I don’t know what you look like. And how tall are you? I'm told I'm about a 4/10 in looks and I'm 5'9". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYIf you have an "office", you are statusmaxxed. I bet you also look like chad, so... I would say I'm about a 4/10 in looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 1 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYMost men don’t get these signs of interest often if at all. If you’re not very attractive, most younger women will not go out of their way to talk to you or look at your crotch. I would say I'm about a 4/10 in looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Study shows men rate feeling desired by their partners higher than what is appreciatedI don't think it is. I think it's immature", "insecure" or "unreasonable" to be obsessed with how you measure up to her past partners, or the need to be the MOST attractive person she's been with. I think that if you are a man, it's important to be number 1 in at least some area. I myself am mediocre in my appearance but fortunately I have a very large penis. So even if I'm not Chad, most girls are happy to have a long-term relationship with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Study shows men rate feeling desired by their partners higher than what is appreciatedI don't think it is. I think it's immature", "insecure" or "unreasonable" to be obsessed with how you measure up to her past partners, or the need to be the MOST attractive person she's been with. I think that if you are a man, it's important to be number 1 in at least some area. I myself am mediocre in my appearance but fortunately I have a very large penis. So even if I'm not Chad, most girls are happy to have a long-term relationship with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 9 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYI think the key is to be alert for signs of interest. For example, yesterday I was waiting to cross the street when a girl asked me for directions. I used it as an opportunity to start a conversation with her; long story short we went back to my office later and had sex. Sometimes things are more subtle, for example pre-epidemic I was at a conference, made eye contact with a girl across the room, and she glanced briefly at my crotch. I took that as an invitation to approach her and things escala… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineWhy am I not surprised? I don't know . . men wear pants in my office. Interestingly, most of the griping has been from men, since men have to wear ties 4 days a week, men have to wear pants even on hot days, men have to wear socks and can't take their shoes off, men have to wear long sleeves, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineUnless the skirts are way too short, how? I guess anything above the knee is "way too short" in your view? Is it? I've never heard of it. My kids' school, for one thing. I happen to know because there was one teacher who was a bit of a biker babe type who wore some inappropriately distracting clothing to work. The school's dress code requires "proper undergarments" Even if you do get a choice of two, you don't mind your employers knows what kind of underwear you wear? Me? There's no underwear st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 3 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineThat makes no sense. Rules about dressing professionally, sure. But why would they make rules about what's underneath and not even visible? When a woman wears a skirt or dress, sometimes it happens that her panties are visible; when she wears a blouse, sometimes it happens that her bra is visible. Anyway, it's not unheard of for dress codes to contain standards for undergarments. Besides, women get a choice between the sexy option and the more conservative option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineDo you work for UBS in Switzerland? Lol, no. It's a much smaller company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineHow do they know? do they have panty inspector?? For the most part it's the honor system, although if a woman is wearing a dress or skirt it happens once in a while that her undergarments are visible. The rule is that male employees have to wear a tie with the company colors and female employees have to wear bra & panties with the company colors. I suppose it's a little unfair to the men, since there's no way for them to cheat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineErrr what kind of work does your company do? It's a professional office environment. Since women wear skirts and dresses, there's also rules about undergarments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDoes anyone else here think that a woman's treatment and overall energy around on a first date is also something important? Sure, but it's much harder to know what her energy was like with other men. So for example, I once dated a girl who was engaged and later married. We started having sex almost immediately even though she made her husband wait. It's true that her "energy" was great from the beginning, but it wouldn't be so easy for her husband to know that. "Energy" is much more subjective t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineMost women I know don’t wear underwear under workout gear at all. I never have. I think she was talking about what women wear when they change into regular clothing, not what they wear for exercise itself. In fact, a lot of the girls are going swimming so I would assume that's what she was referring to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineI'm convinced most women do not wear them and never have. My girlfriend who goes to her university gym regularly says that a little less than half the girls there wear thong-style panties based on what she sees in the locker room. Maybe it's a biased sample since it's mostly younger women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 11:58 AM |
| 4 | Women wear thong underwear because they want to look and feel sexy & feminineFor what it may be worth, my company's dress code gives women a choice between thong-style panties and bikini-style; about 25% of women choose thongs. For male employees, there's no underwear standard (since men aren't wearing dresses or skirts) but at company events where I've seen men changing, I've never seen any wearing thong style underwear. In my experience, it's pretty unusual for women to openly admit that they are trying to dress sexy, even when it seems pretty obvious. For example, wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Why the sexual market place will ALWAYS be skewed towards women in a free society.It's one thing to grab someone's hand if you're directing them or for whatever reason "for whatever reason" can include that you are close friends and enjoy (non sexual) physical intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 10:43 AM |
| -2 | Are women capable of empathizing with men that they don't find attractive?The key to understanding women is to realize that they are children. If a baby screams in the middle of the night to be changed, does it have any empathy for the parent whose sleep is disturbed? Of course not. A baby's mental model of the universe simply leaves that out. This condition is commonly referred to as "narcissism" and women never really grow out of it. A good example of this mentality is Hillary Clinton's famous comment that women are the real victims of war because they sometimes los… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Why the sexual market place will ALWAYS be skewed towards women in a free society.As a woman, I can't imagine any of my female friends doing it and I'd be EXTREMELY weirded out by any women who do this. Where is this normal??? I disagree. Even walking down the street, I regularly see girls walking together holding hands. It's hard to believe that all of them are lesbians. I think what's going on is not that most women are bisexual but rather for most straight men it's important to be NOT gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 09:23 AM |
| 84 | Why the sexual market place will ALWAYS be skewed towards women in a free society.Women are for the most part largely bisexual I think that this is a pornography-driven fantasy. I think that straight women will sometimes be intimate with each other because it's taboo; or to achieve non-sexual intimacy; or because they know men find it hot. But genuine bisexual women are pretty rare. I say this as someone who's in a "triad" relationship; I live with 2 women and we sleep in the same bed together. If most women are bisexual, you would think they'd be constantly going at it with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Men have a preference for younger partners. How much is thus preference strengthened by porn use?The one guy I know of chasing 20 year olds at 40+... His life is filled with young women drama. Running on the insanity wheel of problems over and over again. Same here, but it's a lot of fun so what the heck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/21 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFellas, would you rather a girl be upfront with you about her requirements in a guy or keep you chasing with no results if you fail to meet them? Is she being honest about her requirements? Or is there a lot of virtue-signalling bullshit? I remember when my girlfriend wanted to bring another woman into the relationship, we put a couples ad on a dating web site. There were a lot of profiles which said, in effect, "No Trump supporters." Which was a problem for me because I voted for Trump and neve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 4 | CMV: There isn’t someone for everyone.The simple mathematics of the situation ensure that there is not someone for everyone. For one thing, there are more males born every year than females. Given the improvements in workplace safety and decline in major wars in the West, there are more males than females in every age cohort except for the very old. Is the "someone" for a 25 year old man a 75 year old widowed grandmother? For another thing, a lot of men will take multiple women off the market if they have the option. For example, I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/21 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHate or not, this is a prejudiced observation Not prejudiced . . post-judiced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLooking at this place, you can be a complete mysoginist or misandrist and still marry people of the opposite sex. Like so many things, it depends on definitions. I regularly get accused of being a misogynist for simply observing women's shortcomings, e.g. that they tend to be emotional, childish, narcissistic, etc. It doesn't mean that I hate them . . . it would be like hating children for being childish. Why then people think that having a friend from a different race is proof that you ain't ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.Nothing else you said was needed. More was needed because you are attacking a strawman. Nobody disputes that everyone -- male or female -- will fuck hot people if they have the opportunity. The question is whether people are willing to own the consequences of their decisions. I won’t be responding further. Buh-bye. Don't let the door hit your fat ass on the way out! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.Oh and I know how the willfully obtuse struggle HEAVILY with reading comprehension on here. Lol, nice projection there. I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that you are an overweight feminist with your hair dyed an unnatural color. so I’ll be hitting that block. Bye bye fatty | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 10:16 AM |
| 1 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.You addressed a bunch of shit I didn’t ask. Actually you kinda did, but in a sneaky, disingenuous way. You tried to deflect from the real issue and I caught you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 09:32 AM |
| 0 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.And these same complainers would gladly casually fuck hot women if they could. Actually I do casually fuck hot women, and enjoy it very much. I've had sex with 4 different women in the past 2 weeks -- my two relationship partners; an FWB at work; and a random girl I picked up in a public shopping area. But to the extent that screwing around changes me as a person, I accept responsibility for those changes. Many times I've seen a woman who casually fucks men she finds attractive only to discover … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 08:51 AM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo one cares about men's nudes. I agree, a corollary to that observation is that a man can change his clothing in public without much concern that anyone will stare or try to photograph him. Just a couple weeks ago I drove down to an industry trade show with a couple female employees. I changed right in the parking lot while these girls had to go in; find a place to change; and then come back out to stow their clothing; and then go back in again. The irony of the situation was that their clothin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 09:46 PM |
| 0 | TRP post: Ever suddenly become repulsed by a partner despite nothing obviously wrong happening?I think it comes down to the hypergamy instinct versus the polygyny instinct. If I meet a woman who's more attractive than my long term partner, I'll cheat if I can, but I won't lose attraction for my partner. From an evolutionary perspective, why not impregnate both? For women it's different. If she meets a man more attractive to her than her long term partner, then if her partner impregnates her, it deprives her of the opportunity to get impregnated by the more desirable man. I experienced thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 1 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityIt’s not that. It’s that you older guys think that women are trying to sway the attraction of young women towards older guys away by shaming them. That thought hadn't occurred to me. I have more attention from young women than I know what to do with, so why would I care? Why do you care what old hags whine about on the Internet? In terms of my personal sex life? I don't care at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 1 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityYes, this is another area where Reddit is full of unicorns, i.e. women who insist that men over the age of 40 are "gross." In reality, men who stay in shape lose very little sexual attractiveness between ages 20 and 60. I'm in my 50s and I get hit on regularly by girls in their 20s. In fact just this morning on the train to work, a cute girl who's in college sat down next to me; we started chatting; and she asked for my card. I already got an email from her saying that it was nice to meet me and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 02:35 PM |
| 1 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityYes I know the random study that you all consistently misinterpret Lol, there's not just one random study. Women have much stronger in-group bias than men. but if men are supposedly biased toward women, why are things like hiring bias, victim blaming, etc alive and well? Lol, most hiring bias is in favor of women. If you don't believe me, submit two equivalent resumes -- one male and one female -- for an entry level job and see which one gets more interest. In fact, Australia just did a "blind h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 1 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityAnd women don’t have any stronger tendency to side with women than men do with men It's actually pretty well documented. If you search online for "women" and "in-group bias" the facts are out there. Ironically, women's bias keeps them from seeing and accepting their bias. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 12:06 PM |
| 1 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityNah it's because men know how disgusting and degenerate other men can be and naturally don't want their children to fall victim to a predator Sure, and they don't know how disgusting and generate women can be. Not to the same extent anyway. Because both men and women have "women are wonderful" bias. Believe it or not, women really do engage in predatory behavior. I know it's difficult to accept, but that's reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 12:05 PM |
| 2 | The hypocrisy of shaming male/female sexualityI'm actually in the situation of (1) dating women in their 20s; while (2) having daughters in their 20s. I live with 2 women whose combined ages add up roughly to mine. I also have an FWB at work who is in her 20s. How would I feel about a man my age dating my daughters? It would depend on whether he's a serious person or a player type. I would object if he was a player, but it would be the same thing if he were a player in his 20s. At least the player in his 50s could help my daughter find a jo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 09:16 AM |
| 1 | What is concerning about much younger woman/much older man age-gap relationships?I'm in a long term relationship with two women who are a good deal younger than me, i.e. 25+ year age-gaps. In terms of power imbalance, I'm definitely wearing the pants, but at the same time I do get outvoted now and then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 6 | the proverbial "bar" for a 'sexually successful' man is a man who has had (or can have) a threesome (MFF)How the fuck does a straight woman suggest you bring a second straight woman into the relationship? She has a jealousy fetish, i.e. it excites her if I am intimate with other women. I think this is actually more common among women than people realize. In other words, a large percentage of women like to be dominated and humiliated and seeing other women is one way of doing so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/21 10:58 AM |
| 15 | the proverbial "bar" for a 'sexually successful' man is a man who has had (or can have) a threesome (MFF)I'm in a "triad" relationship, i.e. I live with 2 women, we all sleep in the same bed, etc. I guess you could say I am sexually successful, but I would make a few observations: First, it was my girlfriend's idea to bring another woman into the relationship not mine. I think that the majority of women prefer a more traditional one-man, one-woman relationship. So it's more a matter of circumstances than anything else. Second, I think a man should avoid judging himself based on his sexual success w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/21 07:09 AM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?I imagine that she is an actress who worked her whole life to make it to the top, and has been working to get that specific role. You can imagine whatever you want, but that's not part of the thought experiment. Besides, even if the actress was fresh off the bus from the Midwest and had sex with someone to get a background part in a television commercial, people would have the same reaction. Nobody would say "Well, it's not a big deal since she's not invested in her career and the part is nothin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 05:50 PM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?I don't like BDSM either, lol. It's amazing how many unicorns there are on Reddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 02:18 PM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?Being a woman myself, and being privy to women's private discussions among ourselves, I think most women would be satisfied if their husbands would simply pull their own weight. Unfortunately most women have a poor understanding of their own motivations when it comes to sexual/romantic relationships. It's sort of like a car buyer who claims (and really believes) that he's mainly interested in fuel efficiency; good crash ratings; etc. And yet car manufacturers are constantly adding "sporty" or "r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 12:48 PM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?In my experience, most women want to be somewhat submissive their man in real life and very submissive in sexual matters. Although the line can be somewhat blurry. I once had a girlfriend with whom I watched a science fiction movie about a dystopian society in which all women wore slave collars capable of giving them a painful electric shock if they were disobedient. My girlfriend told me she thought that was a pretty good idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 11:58 AM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?Couldn't it just as easily be the other way around, though? In theory, yes, but as a practical matter you'd be going against millions of years of evolution. Most women are ultimately dissatisfied if the man doesn't take the lead in the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 10:49 AM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?Children should submit to the authority of their parents because they are mentally, emotionally, and psychologically underdeveloped, making them (usually) unable to make rational decisions. Yes, exactly. Women are more or less the same. And what's interesting is that everyone pretty much knows it. So for example, if an adult woman has sex with a male Hollywood casting director in exchange for a movie role, society (and even feminists) agree that the man has taken advantage of and abused the woma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 07:37 AM |
| – | Female submission. What is it? How is it different from an equal partnership? Can you provide real-world examples of it? Do you want it?But my question is, how is that different than a healthy partnership? Why does submission of one partner need to be involved if they both love and respect one another and decisions are made together? What happens when the two people disagree? For example, what if your child is staying up so late playing online games that the child's schoolwork is suffering? What if the child thinks this is perfectly fine but the child's parent disagrees? In that case, the parent might make a decision that the co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Housekeepers make relationships healthierI disagree, I think that it's healthy for a relationship if the man takes the lead. If the woman is doing regular housework, it's a constant reminder who's wearing the pants, so to speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/21 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Cold-approaching vs OLD: Which has greater success for men?I think the main advantage of cold approaching is that 99% of men don't have the guts to do it. So there's not much competition. I've never done OLD so I can't really compare, but I can say that I'm not especially tall or handsome and I've had a lot of success over the years with cold-approaching. I took a break the last year or so due to so many public places being closed, but I just started back in to it today. I approached 3 girls at a large shopping area this afternoon. The first we had a ni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/21 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Why are single mothers considered less desirable mates?You would be surprised how many single moms when I asked would you date a man with kids, they said no and try and hamster wheel why not. Yeah, I'm a guy and I'm pretty much a hypocrite on this point, i.e. I have children but I wouldn't date a single mom. Actually that's not totally true -- if her kids had grown up and more or less moved out, it would be a different story. In my defense, I think there's a slight asymmetry: If a man dates a single mom, he reasonably will be concerned that the chil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/21 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Men are not responsible for women's orgasm (Read text)Because sexual enjoyment is as much psychological as purely physical. I lost track of the number of women who said they had way better sex with a dominant, alpha with a good body who basically stuck his dick in them and used them for his own pleasure than they did with the 'beta' technician who went down on her, gave her foreplay, etc. Yeah, I don't think of myself as some kind of "Alpha Chad" type, but I've had more than one relationship where it was mainly the girl performing oral on me, no re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/21 11:41 AM |
| – | I think reading, watching, and listening to famed sex and relationship experts such as Dr Ruth Westheimer, and Sue Johanson would answer most peoples questions here.Yeah, I've had a few girls who were really into me saying things like "ohh . . . it's so big" but in reality I'm only slightly above average. Maybe they were just trying to boost my ego. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 1 | People Who Advocate For The End Of Monogamy Never Talk About The Downsides Of Its Alternatives, But There Are ManyI agree with you to an extent, but I think non-monogamy can work pretty well in a traditional arrangement of 1 man and multiple women. I am in a "triad" relationship with 2 women, we all live together and share the same bed, and it seeks to work pretty well. We are even talking about having a 3-way marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Men and women working together post-#MeToo movement – thoughts?This is an issue for me since I run a company, I have a decent number of female subordinates, and I've had some kinds of sexual contact with them. All fully consensual, of course, but the possibility of a false sexual harassment accusation is there. I do a few things to protect myself. The most important is to get to know people. There's a certain type of childish, narcissistic woman who loves to stir up drama, tattle on people, etc. A woman like that I will never be alone with. Second, I think … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/21 11:44 PM |
| 0 | [Q4ALL] Which category do you guys fall into when it comes to thoughts on casual sex?Category 1, although since the epidemic I haven't gone out much for the purpose of picking up girls and have limited myself to women at work and women who come on to me in public places. 52 y/o m | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/21 05:39 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm a dude and I'm definitely an alpha widow in the making (or the male equivalent). I'm in a 3-way relationship with 2 women. I've thought about it and I don't think I could go back to living and sharing a bed with just 1 woman. It's human nature to have your standards raised by past experiences. That's why it's so destructive for young women to go on Tinder, find the tallest most attractive men they can, and have one-night-stands with them. I believe this is known as the "cock carousel." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/21 08:42 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about snooping?By the way, if you are a man and you want to snoop, you can often sell it as a kinky sex game. For example telling her she has to wear a collar with a tracking device. My girlfriend with the jealousy fetish actually enjoys it when I take away her privacy in this way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about snooping?I think the ones who don’t want to deal with it don’t snoop anyways. Why would they ? They might do it as a result of social pressure; or if they think they want to know when they really don't. But anyway, I guess you are right. I've never been dating a woman and have her ask to inspect my phone. Not that it really matters, because I have a couple separate "cheater phones." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 09:00 PM |
| -1 | How do you feel about snooping?In theory, I wouldn't blame a female partner for trying to snoop on me, given that I cheat pretty regularly. But I think the real issue here is that deep down, most women would prefer to ignore their male partners' cheating if they don't have to confront it. So I think that on balance, it's a bad idea for a woman to snoop on her man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMost of your friends are male for the simple reason that you are a borderline boomer and they are misogynistic as a group; always were, always will be Lol, "misogynistic" = doesn't accept the feminist dogma that women are perfect angels who are better than men in every way; never lie; and never do wrong. And yes, by your definition I am misogynistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Most men who have utterly failed at dating are either incredibly short or have some form of Asperger's.She sounds like an awful person and probably shouldn't have married him. In other words, NAWALT. Which in this case is somewhat true, but in my experience it's pretty common for married women to be repulsed by their husbands and to admit it in private. Even if the woman doesn't cheat, her husband still ends up in a relationship with a woman who is not very enthusiastic about him sexually. To spare his feelings, she may tell him that she's "not a very sexual person," or that she "has trust issues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 11:35 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFemale communication styles, what they are attracted to, how to dress better, how to present yourself better, learning who in their extended friend circle is single and looking right now, etc I see. For what it may be worth, most of the guys I know who are successful with women have very few, if any, female friends and it doesn't seem like they learned anything from them anyway. Anyway, this is an area where I have a certain degree of insight since I run a business and have access to peoples' co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 11:16 AM |
| -1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMe: TRPers never had actual female friends I'm not sure if I'm a TRPer, but FWIW I have female friends in the sense of women I spend time with non-romantically/sexually. Most of my friends are male for the simple reason that men tend to be much more interesting and loyal and reliable people than women. If I had to pick 3 people I would want to rely on in a jam, they would all be men. Anyway, what do you think I've possibly learned from female friends which you think is important? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 10:46 AM |
| 10 | No, women don't prefer "pre-selected" men (aka male "sluts").I think this is one of those situations where women publicly deny things which put them in a negative light, but in private -- with their girlfriends they trust -- they more or less admit to them. I have some insight into this because I run a company and I have access to employee computers, emails, internet use, etc. Sometimes when I'm feeling nosy, I look at this stuff. I remember once, me and a few people from the company were going to a trade show together on the other side of the country. A … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you think cheaters have less trust because they are more redpilled by their own actionsWomen get tested for hpv and 2 of mine were virgins I see, and did these men you had sex with ask about your hpv status before intimacy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 10:00 AM |
| 13 | Most men who have utterly failed at dating are either incredibly short or have some form of Asperger's.Obviously it's a biased sample, but over the years I've dated a number of married women and they have all been rather contemptuous of their husbands. I had one FWB who was engaged and later married. She told me that she was not intimate with him at all before the wedding and even afterwards it was pretty minimal. One thing that stood out was she told me that she did not perform oral on him even once, because she was afraid that if she did, he would ask for it again. And this is a woman who delig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Do average men really meet partners from dating apps? Or are you lying?Yes and no. My girlfriend wanted to bring another woman into the relationship so we put up a "couples" ad on an online dating site. We got a lot of responses, but I think it was more because of her than because of me. I think if I had put an ad up without her, I would have gotten a few matches from some overweight single moms looking for their beta provider and that's about it. I doubt that I would have gotten a response from a cute, slender childless woman in her early 20s, but who knows. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Signed Consent, Recorded Consent et cetera is legally useless. Harmful even.I think the key is to be aware of the situation. If you are going to have random drunken sex with a woman, do it at a club or a bar where she can't track you down easily if she regrets it later and decides to pretend it was rape. For a while I worked part time as an adjunct professor and I had sex with a lot of co-eds, but I was careful about it. I made sure there were texts and emails telling her that nothing was going to happen until the after the semester and the grades were in. I made sure t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 02:34 PM |
| 0 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?Because most women really are normal people who are not looking for trouble or anything abhorrently immoral. Same applies to most men. When talking about themselves women are far more likely to give what they believe to be socially appropriate responses. That's why men are honest about the fact that looks are very important to them in dating while women lie about it. It's also why self-reporting by women is extremely suspect. It's just very unusual for women to admit anything which they believe … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Lol how does a staged movie poster prove anything? Lol, this was obviously a candid shot. Anyway, I don't understand your position given that you evaded my question. This exchange is concluded and I'm blocking you. Bye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 0 | Do you think cheaters have less trust because they are more redpilled by their own actions3 and mid 30s Anything more than 1 = spreading hpv | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 01:32 PM |
| -2 | Do you think cheaters have less trust because they are more redpilled by their own actionsSpreading hpv I'm curious, how many men have you been physically intimate with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 12:18 PM |
| 6 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadNearly every young girl would fuck and/or marry Ryan Reynolds or Ryan Gosling or Hugh Jackman. Yeah, I think this is one of those situations where women who post online have a tendency to virtue signal by denying that they are very attracted to older high-status men. I have some direct knowledge of this myself since I am middle aged and run a successful company. It's pretty common for women, including young women, who work at my company to show sexual or romantic interest in me. I also have acce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 11:48 AM |
| -2 | Do you think cheaters have less trust because they are more redpilled by their own actionsI've cheated in pretty much every relationship I've had, and I would say it sort of puts cheating on my radar screen. In other words, if my partner goes somewhere without me, I'm more likely to consider the possibility that's she's cheating since I do it myself so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?That wasn’t a word game. It absolutely was a word game. I was being slightly disingenuous by hyperbolically suggesting you don’t know what a saying is, but it turned out you don’t Lol, more word games. Of course I know what a "saying" is. Anyway, none of your word games changes reality. But seriously, you’ve already stated you had no experience with the former so what are you basing that on? My general observations. Duh. Anyway, I don't engage with liars, which you pretty much admit to being. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?Apparently not. Lol, you can play as many disingenuous word games as you want, the fact is that "I'm living with my mother" is much more likely to kill a man's chances than "I'm married." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?So you literally have no idea what a saying is? No. I also know what the word "disingenuous" means. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 07:18 AM |
| -2 | Do men want traditional relationships anymore?Should a woman be submissive? Should the man be dominant? Yeah, I think that in a healthy relationship, the man pretty much takes the lead. Besides, it's really nice to read a book or watch tv at the end of the day while the woman runs your feet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 07:03 AM |
| -1 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?I’ve never pursued a man in a relationship and neither has any woman I know irl. Knowing a guy is taken is an automatic turn off. You guys really need to get off the internet. The same internet where every woman insists that she's completely turned off by married men and insists that she would never ever have a relationship with such a man. As opposed to real life, where most married men report otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 06:58 AM |
| 0 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?Where is that a saying? And why??? It's a saying because it's true. I couldn't really speak to living with one's mom as I moved out of the house at a young age, but I can definitely say while married I still got plenty of attention from women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 06:56 AM |
| -1 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?The overwhelming, vast majority of women are not looking to be homewreckers. Sorry not sorry. The overwhelming, vast majority of women, insist that they behave in a socially appropriate way regardless of what their actual behavior in real life. Both sound grotesquely unappealing, but the wife one is much worse And yet "I live with my mom" is much more likely to ruin a man's chances than "I'm married." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 06:53 AM |
| -6 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?FYI, none of the women I know would pursue a man who is in a relationship, myself included. I'm not sure if this is virtue-signalling; bullshit; or you and your friend being unrepresentative. (For some strange reason, lots of unrepresentative people seem to post online.) But as the saying goes, most women would rather date a man who lives with his wife than a man who lives with his mother. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 01:55 AM |
| 0 | Using an escort to boost your SMV, a legit strategy?A few years back I dated a model for a while and I think most people assumed she was a "sugar baby." Or maybe people thought I was some kind of entertainment industry executive taking advantage of her? Part of the problem was that she loved to wear super high heels and when she had them on she was taller than me. She also loved to wear short dresses and skirts to show off her legs, but revealing clothes are more likely to make people think a woman is a sugar baby or call girl. So I think the key… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 01:53 AM |
| 0 | Question about “the wall”Brad Pitt? Lol I think the only women who would possibly give him attention are women his age like the ones who remember him from his young acting days. Lol, there was a picture of him on the set of OUATIH and one of the (much younger) actresses was lifting up her dress trying to get his attention. And he's nearly 60. And I didn’t say you personally were sexually unappealing the wall is in general a revenge fantasy. The insinuation is that I was rejected as youth by young women and therefore I f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 01:17 AM |
| 3 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadI think that if women really cared, they would just stop watching movies with large age gap relationships. I think that peoples' attitudes towards age-gap relationships are a bit like their attitudes towards lawyers and bankers. Some co-ed at a liberal arts college might demonstrate every week for months against "the 1%," but what happens if she gets the opportunity to date a young man who goes to Harvard Law School? The answer is that she'll find a way to justify it to herself. "He's planning t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”But women don’t exactly “obsess” about dating old men either. If the man is otherwise desirable, of course they do. Plenty of high status men over the age of 40 get a ton of female interest. Even Brad Pitt, who at this point is pushing 60. But like I was saying you need to believe this to hang onto to your revenge fantasies and misogyny. Lol, that's what it always comes down to. When a feminist is losing an argument, it's always "You're sexually unappealing!!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Question for all, what requirements do you have in a partner and do you think they are unrealistic?You think 40-50% meet those requirements?? I think that's being GENEROUS. Notice that I said "in my area." The area I work has disproportionately more attractive women than other parts of the United States. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Wanting men to pay for a dinner date is a good vetting stategieI'm rich enough that paying for a date means nothing to me, but I subscribe to the idea that dating is something you do AFTER there is already some degree of physical intimacy. I've never been on a formal "date" in the sense of asking a woman I don't know already to go to dinner at a restaurant or whatever with the idea that we will have some kind of job interview conversation, get to know each other better, and only then decide if there's any sexual/romantic interest. I think that in that situa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Question for all, what requirements do you have in a partner and do you think they are unrealistic?Those are called prositutes. The first one was a college student who was there with her parents, so no. The second invited me back to her place but didn't quote any kind of price, and anyway the girl she was with urged her to meet me a different day when we were both sober. So I would say she's probably a garden variety gold-digger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 07:36 AM |
| 0 | Question for all, what requirements do you have in a partner and do you think they are unrealistic?I mean you say that but based on your standards I’d say you are probably like bottom 20% to the age range and attributes you describe, unless you are a multi millionaire I actually am rich but I generally don't use my money to attract women. In my experience, a man's age doesn't have much impact on his attractiveness to women so long as he's in shape; he's not a geriatric case; and he has most of his hair. Online, it's common for young women to say things like "Middle aged men!! Ewww!!" but I th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 01:01 AM |
| -4 | Question for all, what requirements do you have in a partner and do you think they are unrealistic?Are you saying that you are 52 and date 18-30? At the moment, yes. That's not set in stone though, I'm not some Leonardo DiCaprio type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 12:58 AM |
| -2 | Question for all, what requirements do you have in a partner and do you think they are unrealistic?She can't be fat; she can't be a single mom; and she can't be crazy. In my area, I would guess that about 40-50% of women between the ages of 18 and 30 meet these criteria. I'm a man, 52 years old, I would guess I'm in the top 50% based on the fact that I'm not fat. Also curious which gender is more “delusional” I don't think there's any doubt that women have a much bigger tendency than men to overvalue themselves and undervalue the opposite gender. How could it be any different given that socie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 12:29 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadUnpopular opinion amongst guys on this sub but I think a bit of goldigging is probably okay. You just will end up paying a price for it. I'm a rich guy and I would agree with this. I'm naturally attracted to certain stereotypical things in women -- youthfulness, a fit body, etc., -- and I can hardly blame women for being attracted to things like wealth in men. My favorite story about this is my girlfriend was sitting naked in my lap and I told her that I was about to get a check for $300,000. Ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI am pretty wealthy but I don't wear expensive clothing or an expensive watch. If a girl shows interest in me, e.g. by sitting down next to me in a bar or an airport, I assume money isn't her main motivation. At work, it's a bit different because everyone at work knows I do pretty well. I've dated women from work but I would be pretty nervous about marrying one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 10:37 PM |
| -4 | Is attraction loss in a relationship alwsys inevitable?In my experience it's pretty much inevitable. Years ago I decided that I wasn't going into a long term relationship with anyone unless she could tolerate me messing around on the side. And surprisingly women have been pretty tolerant as long as the cheating is not in their face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah, I one had an FWB who was a law student; straight out of law school she went to work for an organization for battered women -- all excited about helping fellow women escape from abusive relationships. After about a year she gave up and quit. She told me that it was always the same story: She would set a woman up with a restraining order; an apartment in a secret location; a job transfer; etc. Everything the woman needed to get away from Mr. Abuser. And then in pretty much every case her cli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Are "sexual skills" really skills in the fullest sense?I think that if the man is thinking about how to please the woman, he's lost half the battle or even the whole battle Because women prefer a man they look up to and if she looks up to him, the focus is on his pleasure not hers. So for example, a typical lovemaking session with me and my FWB at work involves her coming by, performing oral, and then getting dressed and leaving. Meanwhile, she sends me text messages saying that she masturbates while thinking about me, that she wants to move in toge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 12:51 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadImmediately trumpeting to strangers whatever unethical thing your close friend did, just for the sake of righteous exposure isn't unequivocally ethical. It's a lot more of a gray area. Actually I think most of the time it's not even a close call. Whenever I (or one of my "bros") has been cheating on a woman, it's been pretty obvious that deep down she knows but she puts up with it so long as she can pretend to herself that it's not happening. I've never had a long term relationship where I wasn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/21 10:54 AM |
| 0 | How common is double heading dating nowadays?I've done it a fair amount over the years. My record was 4 in one day, but one of those was an uplanned quickie so I don't know if you would count that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 10:54 PM |
| – | Study: Misogynists Believe They Are Unattractive to WomenThe men I know who are unattractive/low status really seem to get treated like dirt by women, even in non-sexual situations. For example I was in a bar the other day and there was a fellow next to me who was pretty unattractive and the bartender who was a girl in her 20s kept ignoring him. I'm not a "Chad" but she kept checking with me every 5 or 10 minutes to see if I needed anything. Meanwhile he sat there for half an hour getting no attention at all. Another time, I was at an event and there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 2 | What does the opposite gender that you desire/interact with look like?There's a kind of neutral scientific way to go about this. Instead of approaching women, I will often just wait for them to come into my space. For example, I will be at a store and I will hit on a woman who seems interested in looking at the same items as me, which is often a sign that she's interested in me. In my experience, women of all religions are interested in casual sex as long as they can keep it private. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Men: Do you prefer to date an intelligent pessimist or an ignorant optimist?Definitely the second one. I once dated a girl like this and she was a lot of fun. Although she was pretty funny about style. She couldn't just exercise wearing shorts and a t-shirt, she had to wear a "cute outfit" to the gym. She wouldn't leave the house unless her bra & panties matched. She was obsessive about having no hair at all other than her head and eyebrows. I doubt she could name the current US president. Although in my experience, when a girl attempts to dominate the conversation with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 06:34 AM |
| 6 | The average guy you see in an LTR is NOT getting her best and most men here know that because they've seen both sidesYeah, that's my experience. For example I once had an FWB at work who was engaged and later married. She told me that she never performed oral sex on her husband because she was afraid that if she did it once, then he would ask for it again. Meanwhile, she regularly came by my office solely to give me blowjobs. Maybe she was telling me this to boost my ego, but she really seemed to get a look of disgust on her face when talking about sex with her husband. In fact she told me that she was looking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Meghan is very attractive and doesn’t even look her age She looks like a well-preserved 40. She's far less attractive than she was 10 or 20 years ago. Let me ask you this: Do you ever wonder why a significant portion of men, even men who are middle-aged, seem to obsess about dating women in their 20s? Do you ever wonder why there are very few strippers who appear to be over the age of 35? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”men tend to overlook fine lines because they have a very low threshold for arousal. Ok, so you believe that this sort of aging has very little impact on how attractive a woman is to men. Is that right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIE, women must confirm my beliefs or they're bad people. Lol, no, women like you should stop gaslighting men. It's as simple as that. What exhausts me is a bunch of men who couldn't be more wrong about how female sexuality works. So you're saying the study I cited is simply wrong? It could be somethign else It could be a lot of things. And in fact it's probably multiple things. But the simple mathematics of the situation guarantee that a significant percentage of men are not sexually attractive … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI care about having enjoyable sex and satisfying relationships. I do not care about “women looking good.” And yet it clearly bothers you that women find the vast majority of men unattractive. To the point where you deny it in the face of strong evidence. And even if it were true that women don’t and will never find most men attractive, how is that “unflattering?” Because it lends credence to the observation that generally speaking, women are unreasonably picky in the sense of not being satisfied… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 11:20 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI can't even imagine wanting to be a woman. Would it just mean that I get all the respect and deference women get? Or would it also mean that I'm emotional, prone to hysterics, cowardly, fickle, unable to accept responsibility for anything, and unable to parallel park a car? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 08:52 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOf course not. Maybe two or three times a month I meet a woman who's madly attracted to me and I've never been monogamous in my life. I was cheating on my ex-wife even when she was in labor with our kids in the hospital. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 08:48 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou do understand how stupid it sounds to claim that being a woman and understanding your own sexuality is an example of "in group bias" don't you? Not at all. A woman making claims about female sexuality is going to have a strong tendency to spin things to put women in the most positive light. That's the nature of in-group bias. And of course it sounds stupid to you. Any suggestion that you might be biased is going to sound stupid to you. That's just your bias. Anyway, this is a situation where… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 08:21 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot wanting to fuck lots of men instantly does not equal not being attracted to a man. Ok, so what? Here's what you claimed before: no, women are NOT only attracted to Chad/a tiny portion of men. They are not attracted to YOU. Your claim was not about "wanting to fuck instantly." It was about attraction. It was wrong. The sky won't fall if you just admit that you were wrong. Yeah, imagine that. Ok, so you've opened the door to the accusation of in-group bias. Admittedly, you were able to concede… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 08:16 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBecause women don't want to fuck every man instantly? Because women find 80-90% of men unattractive, that's why. If you want to put it in terms of "instant fuck," I would describe it like this: If a woman wants to "instant fuck" only the top 10% of men, and she's married to a man who's not anywhere near the "instant fuck" category, it's very likely to cause a lot of problems in the relationship. Do you think this isn't the case in the beginning? Correct. I think there are a lot of couples where … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Question about “the wall”They didn’t decline dramatically. Even when we compare her to herself. She looks slightly older thats all. As a man, I assure you she's declined dramatically. Those slight changes have a huge impact on her sex appeal. In fact, she's a good example of the wall. She's still in good shape, she still looks pretty good, and you say, the changes in her appearance are pretty minor. And yet. Please look up the word “dramatic” because you don’t seem to know what it means. I know very well what it means. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”LOL and what a load of crock! Men have a far lower threshold for finding women attractive than vice versa. It’s hilarious to hear you claim that men nit pick lines or age spots when most men would have sex with a literal crackhead under the right circumstances. You seriously believe that a woman's apparent age has little or no effect on her attractiveness to men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Dramatic decline? Meghan looks better than a lot of women younger than her. The comparison is not between Meghan and other women but Meghan at age 40 and Meghan at age 30. Her looks declined dramatically over the last 10 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 06:33 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHow would it benefit the human species for womens sex drive to function the same way as mens? Serious question I hope you will address. I'm not sure what the long term genetic effects would be, but it would be tremendously beneficial for society if a woman of average desirability could be attracted to a man of average desirability in the same way that a man of average desirability can be attracted to a woman of average desirability. Because in that case, it would be much easier for people to pai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 06:31 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathreadno, women are NOT only attracted to Chad/a tiny portion of men. They are not attracted to YOU. Learn the difference, once and for all. That hasn't been my experience. A few times with a woman I was dating, I sat people watching and we each would say when a person walked by we found attractive based on their appearance. To be sure, we would both eliminate people who were very old or very young, people who were overweight, etc., but even after that I've always been surprised what a tiny percentage… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Its not dramatic because most men prefer attractive women and attractive women usually stay that way into their 30s a goo example is Meghan Markle or Taylor Swift both were attractive in their 20s and they are still attractive now. That's not my experience. I don't have much to say about Taylor Swift as she is only 31 but Megan Markle recently turned 40. I looked at pictures of Markle at age 40 and compared them to pictures from her at age 30. There's unquestionably been a dramatic decline in he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”Thats a lie then. Most men will take an attractive woman in her 30s over an unattractive one in her 20s. I have no idea what your point is here. Assuming this is true, it does not contradict anything I have said. All women suffer an inevitable and dramatic decline in their sexual attractiveness in their 30s. To be sure, there still exist some women who are more attractive during (or after) this decline than some women who are still pre-wall. Put another way, "the wall" doesn't mean that every la… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Question about “the wall”So what is the point in pretending this is something specific to women? 😂 That's just another strawman. What's specific to women is that their decline in desirability in their 30s is (1) inevitable; and (2) dramatic. Doesn't matter if she stays in great shape; doesn't matter if she becomes an accomplished person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Men are monogamous not polygamous, change my view.And how will you feel when the mother of your children cheats with a sexier guy It wouldn't actually be cheating as we are divorced. But to answer your question, I wouldn't like it if any woman I was intimate with was intimate with another man, sexier than me or otherwise. Is that such a surprise? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Women are the "wild" gender nowMy take is that everyone, male and female has "wild" instincts, but there are differences in what kind of social pressure is applied. For example, I was chatting with a woman in a bar last month and she casually reached over and squeezed my thigh to emphasize a point and then briefly rested her hand on my crotch. I would never in a million years touch a woman I had just met in this way. Doing so could easily get me thrown out of the bar, beat up, or even arrested. In effect, the social constrain… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Men are monogamous not polygamous, change my view.Based on my own experience, I would say that men are naturally polygynous. A while back my girlfriend wanted to bring another woman into the relationship, which I went along with so now it's the 3 of us living together. Even though it was her idea, I think I prefer it to just 1 man and 1 woman. What's also interesting is that I have a FWB at work and I also cheat with others from time to time. But that's just me, maybe I'm just unusual in my preferences. The real thing to do is to look at men wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 09:43 AM |
| 4 | Men complaining about women who complain about age gaps are just shifting the blame.Maybe we need men to quit pretending they’re the victims of abuse and start proactively listening to what women are saying. You SHOULDN’T hit on women at work and most women DON’T want to be hit on at the gym. Lol, thanks for illustrating my point so beautifully. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 02:53 AM |
| -1 | Women complaining about age gaps are just jealousWow really?? Like random women or men or both? Both, but somewhat more women than men. The funniest one was once I was sitting down on a train and a girl walked up to me and we started talking. So there we were, me sitting down and her standing there, and another woman broke in and told the girl that she wanted to check to make sure she felt safe or something. Obviously the girl was in no danger whatsoever - she started the interaction and was completely free to walk away. What was really going … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 02:45 AM |
| 4 | Men complaining about women who complain about age gaps are just shifting the blame.Or maybe we need to explain to men who need society’s stamp of approval and a pat on the head from a bunch of older ladies to live their own lives and pursue legal consensual relationships that they’re not mature enough to be dating in the first place? Maybe . . . but if you are complaining about someone complaining, it's hardly a surprise if they complain about your complaining. But hey, here's a pat on the head for you :pat: Hope it makes you feel better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Men complaining about women who complain about age gaps are just shifting the blame.How is that stopping you from dating younger women? It's not, and it doesn't (25-30 year gap). Still, this is just one aspect of a society-wide shame machine which has been abusing men for a long time. Don't pursue younger women even if they are adults. Don't chat up women at the bus stop. Don't talk to a woman if she's alone. Don't talk to a woman if she's with a group of people. Don't hit on women at work. Don't hit on women at the gym. Maybe we need a thread complaining about women who compla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 01:18 AM |
| 0 | Women complaining about age gaps are just jealousNever met one woman who devotes her life to crusading against age gap relationships. I don't know about devoting their lives to it, but I have found that if I am chatting in public with a woman I just met, and she is much younger than me, there is an excellent chance that some random will try to insert themself into the conversation to spoil any chance of a connection. This is true even if it's the woman who started the conversation and she's eager to get to know me better. In fact, it's so comm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 3 | Women complaining about age gaps are just jealousAs someone who's in an age gap relationship (25-30 year difference), I think that jealousy is a factor but I think there are other issues in play. If you survey young women and ask them what they think of middle aged men, almost all will say "ewww!! gross!!" And yet I regularly meet young women who flirt with me; who hit on me; who are sometimes quite aggressive. Just a few weeks ago I was sitting in a crowded bar and a girl who later told me she was a college senior squeezed next to me to get s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 12:57 AM |
| 0 | Question about “the wall”OK let me get this correct. You are in your 50s dating 20s women? At the moment, yes. Okay then why havent you married any of them? Maybe I will. I was married before and I might again. We've been discussing it. What you are saying is that not only can women in their 30s marry but they can cuck their husbands on top Absolutely. "The wall" doesn't mean that women in their 30s can't get laid. Maybe it's a bit harder to get Chad but I'm not Chad anyway. Nor does "the wall" mean that women in their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 11:04 PM |
| 0 | Question about “the wall”Can’t women in their 30s just date older men? Like in the wall theory a woman aged 36 is post wall and men in their 30s won’t want to date her. I don't think that's an accurate statement of the wall theory. I think what's going on is that if a man has a lot of options he will generally speaking choose a 25 year old over a 35 year old even if he himself is 35. I don't think of myself as a "Chad" but I'm over 50 and all the woman I've dated in the last few years have been between the ages of 20 an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 06:55 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhat do red-pillers make of women who date and get into LTRs with men, but don’t want to marry them? I've never experienced this. Every woman I've been in a LTR with has wanted marriage. One even got down on her knees and proposed. And they’re both divorced. Possibly if she re-marries it will trigger a step-down in her alimony payments from her prior husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 20 | It seems to be common knowledge that fewer men are dating and in relationships than women. But if the gender ratio is roughly 50/50, how can this be?Chads DO have soft harems. Chads date multiple women at once and keep them going for as long as possible, then dump the ones who press for anything serious and find new ones. Yeah, I'm not even a Chad but I have a soft harem due to circumstances. I had a girlfriend with a who wanted to bring another woman into the relationship so now we have a "triad." I also have an FWB at the company I run. So that's 3 women off the dating market for 1 guy. Also, my ex-wife is much more focused on our kids tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 02:54 PM |
| 21 | It seems to be common knowledge that fewer men are dating and in relationships than women. But if the gender ratio is roughly 50/50, how can this be?I think that informal harem-like arrangements are more common than you might think. I am living with 2 young women in a "triad" type relationship and I have a FWB at work. Also, my ex-wife is more focused on raising the kids than on dating. So that's 4 women who are potentially off the market for 1 man even though none of us are married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"No. Strong and confident is great. Arrogant and bigheaded is not. Confident people don't come across as arrogant. Arrogant people do. Confidence is a realistic sense of self. Arrogance is an exaggerated sense of self. Someone can be very confident and not arrogant at all. Are you aware that you come across as arrogant and big-headed? Personally, I have no issue admitting I'm wrong...when I actually am. That's just more arrogance. It could. I'd have to see some data on this...data that doesn't re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Nope. Because I didn't say overconfident. I just said confident. Anyway, you've answered your own question pretty well. The higher a person is in terms of being "strong and confident," the more likely they are to come across as being "arrogant and bigheaded," which is an annoying trait. Probably you yourself think of yourself as being "strong and confident," even as you cling to your incorrect position rather than admit you are wrong. This is not a trait that I find attractive in women. Well, it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"That's arrogance/big headedness. I don't meant that So that means "no"? No, because there are insecure people on both sides that need to pair off. You are seriously claiming that people who lack desirable traits are just as likely to end up in relationships as people who have those traits? Really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"I think you're projecting, and I'm guessing you struggle with confidence. :shrug: No need to make this personal. Why someone would see this as a negative is beyond me, Well is ever possible to be too "strong and confident" or is it something which is always better to have more of? I didn't say insecure people aren't in relationships Would you say that if someone lacks an important and universally desirable trait, they are less likely to end up in a relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Well you prefer someone "not particularly confident." So why do you prefer that over someone that has a lot of self-confidence? Why do you ask? What difference does it make to the issue we are discussing? I've told you what the preferences are of me (and most other men). You claim to be sure that I'm wrong. There's really nothing more to be said. The only thing I can think of is to suggest you go to a support group for people who have difficulty being assertive in social situations. I'm pretty c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 0 | FDS v. TRPYou didn't answer the question as to whether she was doing good work or not That's right, I didn't answer. Because I don't know. I got rid of her by having a buddy hire her away at a higher salary. Why would my buddy hire a toxic person? Because his is an unpleasant workplace with a lot of turnover already so having one more toxic person in the mix isn't such a big deal. Probably she's already quit by now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Why don't you like confident women? I didn't say that I don't like confident women, just that it's not something which makes a woman significantly more attractive to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | FDS v. TRPMost of it is mainstream and it's spreading so just be sure you don't catch a case because you're firing all gen z and young millennial women for "toxicity" If we get to the point where a majority of young women refer to men as "scrotes," then I'm going to move the company to . . I don't know where . . . Provo Utah maybe. Anyway, the vast majority of women who work for me are perfectly fine. Probably it helps that they are required to wear skirts and can't have visible tattoos or unnatural hair … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 06:51 PM |
| 1 | FDS v. TRPWas she doing good work and if so why would you care? I don't need toxic people working for my company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"You want to be with someone insecure over someone confident? Like you personally? Personally I prefer someone in the middle. Not particularly confident nor particularly insecure. But if I learned that a woman were confident it would not make her more attractive to me. Anyway, there is not much left to discuss about this. I assure you that you are wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"95.6%. If you seriously believe that more than 95% of men find that being "strong and confident" significantly enhances a woman's attractiveness, there is no point in having any further discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Nope. I made an estimate on my general observations. Just like you. What was your numerical estimate? I must have missed it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 05:12 PM |
| 0 | FDS v. TRPI occasionally browse FDS mainly to see what buzzwords they are using. It gives me a chance of spotting FDS girls in the wild and avoiding them. I actually have my company's email server set up to check if people are using words like "HVM" or "scrote." A few months back I got an alert of a likely "FDS girl" so I carefully got rid of her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 04:57 PM |
| – | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"They obviously were influenced by culture. We live in a culture—everything is influenced by it. We know for a fact some of the historical pressures that were put on men and women and their relationships. We do not know what would have occurred if society did not exist. Consequently, I replied to this comment. Essentially the same thing could be said in response to the original post, and yet for some strange reason you didn't. Or did you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 03:37 PM |
| – | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"There is little point in speculating how relationships would be in the absence of society, since this is impossible to know or make any type of based claim about. And yet the original post does essentially that, by arguing that at some point in the past, traditional relationships were propped up by various kinds of cultural pressure. Did you make the same point to the original poster? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedWell I'm sure the remaining five that are not status-exchange and transactional have wonderful marriage prospects, and I'm sure yours is the exception Lol, nice to know you've given up on trying to support your position and have switched to personal attacks. Good luck. Take care. Thanks, you too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedCling to that hope, my guy Lol, it's not a matter of hope. I asked for your proof; nothing has been forthcoming. The apparent fact that age-gap marriages are more likely to be green card marriages, or less likely to be people from similar backgrounds, actually works against your argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedCouples with larger age gaps are less prone to assortative mating in other ways, such that the wage gap between them is larger than for couples who are similar in age Ok, so it sounds like you do NOT have proof that once other factors are accounted for, age gap marriages truly have higher divorce rates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedOnce we control for age gaps, remarriage and female-initiated divorce based on infidelity, is there any proof that lesbian marriages truly have higher divorce rates? Not that I'm aware of. And now the analogous question for you: Once we control for every last factor, such as age at time of marriage, re-marriage, membership in orthodox religions, likelihood of having met in school, etc., is there any proof that age gap marriages truly have higher divorce rates? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedWomen are the ones most likely to file for divorce, so yes, that this is driven by women's preferences is indeed obvious Ok, so then we should discourage lesbian marriage; interracial marriage; and any other category of marriage which is associated with a high rate of divorce. Agreed? But you go right ahead and cling to hope Lol, that's an interesting ad homenim there. Anyway, please answer my question. You seem to believe that any category of marriage which is associated with a higher divorce r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Yes. I don't have a percentage. Any percentage I give would be a guess. Ok, let's see if I understand. You claim that some men find that it enhances a woman's attractiveness if she is "strong" and "confident" but you have no idea at all if this is a tiny minority of men or some majority of men. Do I understand you correctly? I mean based on nothing. You just made that number up. I made an estimate based on my general observations. The fact is that you know perfectly well you are wrong. Generally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Seneca Falls Convention was the first women's right convention, where women's rights and women's role in society were discussed and debated. Was this convention focused on changing traditional gender roles in general without regards to sex? Or was it mainly focused on women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:40 AM |
| – | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Finding a person who hasn't been exposed to porn at an early age is a task. So it's not that we can check your theory. Actually you are wrong. Porn was not that easily available in the 60s and 70s in a lot of places. But more importantly, your reasoning proves too much. By your reasoning, it's impossible to know whether smoking causes lung cancer. Because it's always possible there is some other cause. Fundamentally you are no different from a tobacco industry executive who will grasp at any str… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"I didn't abandon my claim at all. Well then please clarify your point. You claimed that men find it attractive when a woman is "strong" and "confident." Are you saying this applies to substantially all men? If not, then roughly what percentage are we talking about? You're the one that brought enslaving women and rape into this and went down a rabbit hole, and now you're abandoning the "strong and confident" thing even though you were the one that started asking for statistics about that. I have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedThe real reason for the age gap/divorce correlation is women's preferences, and what relationship types bring them the most enduring satisfaction. Isn't it obvious? No. Certainly you haven't provided "unequivocal proof" of anything. Is it "obvious" that the reason for the high divorce rate in lesbian relationships is women's preferences? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 07:21 AM |
| 0 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedThe third link, and it says, "Today, Olson released another set of visuals—the most intriguing of which focuses on the matter of the age gap. A one-year discrepancy in a couple's ages, the study found, makes them 3 percent more likely to divorce (when compared to their same-aged counterparts); a 5-year difference, however, makes them 18 percent more likely to split up. And a 10-year difference makes them 39 percent more likely." It also provides a visual chart representing the escalating risk at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"So when you were talking about men not being attracted to strong, confident human beings you also don't even know roughly what percentage you were talking about No, I simply didn't respond to your question. There was no need to, since you abandoned your claim. Based on my general observations, I would estimate that for more than 90% of men, a if a woman is "strong and confident" it does nothing to make her more attractive as a romantic/sexual partner. Not that it really matters. Because the key … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Idk Ok, so when you claimed that men are "attracted to strong, confident human beings" you weren't talking about all men and you don't even know roughly what percentage you were talking about. Got it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedIt's one of the three links in the initial post. Please tell me which one and quote from the link where it supports your claim. Because, I looked and couldn't find it. TIA. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 0 | Q4all: education and income/ genders -- why is there a discrepancyAnd how many women do you think have their good business ideas ignored? The question has more than one component: First, how often do women seriously propose business ideas; second; what percentage of those ideas are good ones; and third, what is the likelihood they will be ignored. As far as the first issue goes, I'm pretty sure that proposing business ideas is something that men do a lot more than women due to men's greater risk tolerance and greater desire to make money. As far as the second … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedI think the fact that any gap at all including as little as 12 months correlates to a higher risk is sufficient proof. For starters, can you quote your links where they say this? I could not find it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:16 PM |
| 0 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedFirst things first, please provide the "unequivocal proof" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Maybe not to you. It does to many, many men. Because all men aren't a monolith. Roughly what percentage of men find that if a woman is "strong and confident" it significantly enhances her attractiveness? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 08:05 PM |
| 0 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedCan it be unequivocally proven that the lesbianism itself is the reason for the higher divorce rate though like it can be demonstrated with age gaps? Please show me your unequivocal proof that age gaps per se cause a higher divorce rate in age gap couples. "One other contributing factor could be age. As lesbians who enter into marriage tend to be a bit older—with many of them having been married before—these lesbian marriages are more likely to be second marriages. Couldn't the same thing be sai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Consensual bdsm play =/= as rape. No one wants to be forced to do something they don't want to do. I completely agree and never said otherwise. At the same time, what a person fantasizes about does give some insight into the way their brain works. Human beings, men and women, are attracted to strong, confident human beings. It's not a gendered thing. Modern women and men don't want to be with an insecure pushover. Lol, I assure you that being "strong and confident" does not enhance a woman's att… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Just because women were married/raped more, and men were forced to work/fight doesn't change that. This isn't a gendered thing. Except that we are talking about submission in the context of sexual relationships. Which is very much a gendered thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Should Be DiscouragedMy question for you is this: There are other types of relationships which are associated with shorter life expectancies or higher rates of divorce. For example, lesbian marriages have an astonishingly high divorce rate. Are those to be discouraged as well? Or only relationships which you disapprove of for other reasons? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Raped. She was raped. Sure I'm fine calling it that, and what's interesting is that she eventually became the chief wife of the warlord who kidnapped her, which meant that she would be helping to raise the warlords heirs and probably exercised some degree of power in his household. Probably the full details are lost to history, but it seems likely that pulling this off would have required her to cooperate and to convincingly shift her loyalties to this warlord. What kind of traits are we selecti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Proof? No proof, just my general observation that sexual submissiveness is extremely common among women and that this is consistent with our evolutionary history. This is true for all kidnapping, for men or women. Ever heard of slavery? I think that taking of men as war grooms was pretty unusual compared to the taking of women as war brides. No proof, just my general sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"I'm not sure what kind of evidences you're talking about here. I'm talking about specific facts you can point to which would support your claim. That's what evidence is. So far you have pointed to none. All you have done is offer a syllogism based on a generalization about all movements. I've shown that your generalization is incorrect. Which leaves you with nothing. In case of feminist, pretty much all work from feminists are about women's rights and discrimination towards them. "women's rights… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Don't you think that these "tendencies" might be a result of social pressure as well? Social pressure might play a role, but I'm pretty confident that natural tendencies play a big role. Submissiveness is just so common among women, even among feminist women who were raised by feminists. Moreover, it completely makes sense given our evolutionary history as a species. In the ancestral environment, bride kidnapping was definitely a thing and from a genetic perspective, a woman faced with such a si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 05:36 PM |
| -1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Women are NOT being taught that they can never defer to a man simply because he’s a man. Umm, does that mean yes or no? Do you agree that there is currently a lot of social pressure against people who express or act on a preference for a relationship in which the man leads because he's the man? It's really a pretty straightforward question and I'm asking only so that I can try to understand what you are saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 04:47 PM |
| -1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Would they? In the modern world? I don't think so. The reason I think so is that we still carry our ancient genes in the modern world. The most genetically successful woman in history, Hoelun, is mainly known for being the kidnapped war bride who gave birth to Genghis Khan. In other words, she submitted to male authority. That sort of drama has been playing out for literally hundreds of thousands of years and in my experience most women have pretty strong submissive tendencies both inside and ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"I think you’re a little confused about that. Girls and women are being taught that it’s demeaning and abusive to submit to a man simply for the sake of him being male. They are not taught to rise up against male leadership, they are being told that they are equal to men, and in an equal position, it is demeaning to be told to submit to the male simply because he is male. I'm not sure I understand your point. Do you agree that one element of the concept of a traditional relationship is that the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 04:21 PM |
| -1 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"As he should be I disagree, but you're actually proving my point. The reality is that there is a lot of social pressure AGAINST traditional relationships, at least insofar as they entail male leadership. Therefore, one can turn the OP's argument on its head and argue that it's male-led relationships which are natural which is why there is so much pressure against them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 04:17 PM |
| 0 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Yes. Well there you go. A lot of people have and express this idea. Did they all think of it independently? Or did they pick it up somewhere? Is it just a huge coincidence that if you watch a modern movie, television show, or commercial, it's very unusual to see a male-led relationship being presented positively? Ironically, you could turn the OPs argument on its head and argue that it's equal relationships which are unnatural and that people seek them (or pretend to seek them) only due to const… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 4 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Well, I'd guess that most movements at least claim that they're against current regime. I'm not sure what your point is here, but in any event your evidence doesn't stand up to scrutiny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"It’s not a relationship I would sign up for, honestly. But if it works for another couple, who am I to argue? So I guess that you means that you think there's nothing inherently wrong with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 02:30 PM |
| -2 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"I was never told it was inherently abusive That's interesting. Do you think that there's anything inherently wrong with a relationship in which the man leads and the woman obeys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 4 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"Generally any movement against something starts with people trying to change the existing norm. Without the existing norm, there wouldn't be a movement that is trying to change it. I would have to disagree with this. A lot of movements are just about people trying to grab power and designating some hated scapegoat or outgroup to go against. The most obvious example is German nationalism of the 1930s, but I'm sure there are plenty more. If there wasn't misogyny and discrimination towards women, f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 02:22 PM |
| 4 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"History I guess? That's not very convincing evidence. Sounds like it's mainly your own wishful thinking at work. Or you don't think that traditional gender roles were pushed on people back then? I definitely think that in traditional cultures, traditional gender roles were pushed on people. But that's not what you claimed. Your claim is about causation: And modern push against traditional gender roles is just a result of these being pushed on people before You have essentially no evidence for th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"It often works the other way around as well. That may very well be so. My point is simply that the existence of pressure to enforce certain norms does not imply that those norms are unnatural in a general sense. So for example, most people would agree it's pretty natural for children to be subject to adult supervision, whether in the form of parents, teachers, or other authority figures. And yet there are all kinds of mechanisms in place to keep children in line. And modern push against traditio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 01:21 PM |
| 18 | Traditional gender roles are not "the natural way of things", nor are they particularly "good"If women were naturally submissive homemakers who needed a man to lead them, why would there be a need for religion and culture pressuring them to conform to these roles while punishing anyone who deviated? There's actually a lot of pressure in the opposite direction, telling women that it's inherently demeaning and abusive to submit to male leadership; that it's important for them to have independent careers; etc. If there were no pressure either way, it's hard to say what would happen, but my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Saying "life isn't fair" for dating inequality is the same as "life isn't fair" for economic inequalityNot necessarily. It's also possible the women in this alternate scenario would have remained single That's true, in fact my FWB told me that, although maybe she was just trying to boost my ego. The "taxation scheme" would have to include strong social pressure on women to marry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 11:36 AM |
| 3 | Q4all: education and income/ genders -- why is there a discrepancyMen work more and they work better - it really is that simple. Also men take more risks. For example, I started a company from scratch which now generates over a million dollars a year in profits, however there was a reach chance it would have no profits at all and that I would have blown all my investment in it. Meanwhile, the girl who works as my assistant earns $100k a year without having put lots of money at risk. She has no interest in spending a lot of time and money on something which may… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Saying "life isn't fair" for dating inequality is the same as "life isn't fair" for economic inequalityRight. So let's Institute a height & attractiveness tax. Anyone in favor? Generally speaking, yes. How would that work, you ask? Well let me give you an example: I'm in a "triad" type relationship, i.e. it's me and two women. I also have a FWB, so there's a total of 3 women in my "harem" so to speak. Also, my ex-wife is much more focused on our children than on dating so you could think of it as 4. Which means that from a mathematical point of view, there are probably 2 or 3 more single guys out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 07:22 AM |
| 0 | Ch@d has to lie or pretend to get sex more often than people thinkLike I have met one guy in my entire life who was attractive enough for that, and it's definitely not enough to skew the whole market Let's see if I understand you correctly. In your entire life, you've met only one guy who women were willing to have no strings attached sex with? Really? Really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Ch@d has to lie or pretend to get sex more often than people thinkI’ve never had to lie or exaggerate to get laid. Yeah, I think that the "Chad" he's describing isn't really a "Chad." To the extent "Chad" needs a definition, I would define it as "a man who is sufficiently attractive that women are willing to have sex with him even if there's no promise of commitment." And yeah, I've never really thought of myself as a "Chad" but it's happened to me many times that a woman has approached me for sex without any discussion of a relationship. No, they don't explic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/21 04:15 PM |
| -1 | Why are single women happier than married women? If so, why do women even bother with men?Yeah, I once dated a girl who was a pharmacist and she told me that by far the most common recipients of anti-depression medications were women over the age of 40 with no husband (which she knew because she would see who else was on their health insurance). This girl had a very traditional view of things -- she felt that a woman is like a dog which needs a master to lead a satisfying life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/21 10:34 AM |
| 11 | Men DO chase "all types of women" it's just people(who won't be named) who make the assumption that these women would even like them back when they do not….As far as relationships versus casual sex goes, my experience is that (1) every woman I've had a casual relationship with has been interested in having something more serious; (2) of the women I've had serious relationships with, some would have been willing to have a casual relationship and others would not; and (3) if a woman is more sexually attracted to a man, she is more likely to be willing to accept a casual relationship with him. So for example, a few years back I had a FWB who was from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 06:44 PM |
| 7 | Crux of young men’s anger towards dating market and women comes from different prices of admissions for sex for different men and the disinformation women put out about what they are attracted to.Yeah, I once had a FWB like this who was engaged at the time. She was from a traditional country; it wasn't exactly an arranged marriage but everything was done with parental guidance and approval. Anyway, she asked me to do all kinds of wild things while at the same time admitting to me that the most she did with her fiance was hold hands. Even after they were married, she told me that her sex with her husband was very vanilla that she tried to avoid it as much as possible. Maybe she was lying … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Why are you personally against being in a polygamous relationship/marriage?So why are women hesitant to join polygamous marriages when this could lead to a better life for most women compared to being in a monogamous one with a less desirable man? I think the real reason is that women are very sensitive to social norms and for women it's seen as demeaning to tolerate their man openly being intimate with other women. My evidence for this is that in my experience, most women will prefer a polygamous relationship so long as they can pretend to themselves and others that i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?In theory it should matter. But in practice I have found that the beliefs a woman presents to the world for purposes of social acceptance and virtue signaling are not necessarily related to her actual beliefs. All of the supposed feminists I have dated were very much anti-feminist behind closed doors. I have dated a few non-white women who were liberals in public but who were basically white supremacists in private. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:32 PM |
| -1 | Q4All Why do you think it so that liberal wow no refuse to date conservative men even though they are more masculine and chivalrous? Also why is it that conservative men get so upset about this?Many women (and men to a lesser degree) love to posture and virtue signal. Have to look perfect, but behind closed doors they act like themselves. Yeah, I once dated an Indian American girl who was extremely liberal in public, pro-feminist, hated Trump supporters etc. In private, she loved to role play that I was some kind of colonial invader who had made her into my personal servant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Don't believe PDD women - IRL Most Women actually PREFER OLDER Looking GuysI agree. Women definitely don't go for neotenous looking guys. When it comes to men who are much older than them, like 20 or 30 years, women have a tendency to bow to social pressure and say things like "ewwww" when the issue comes up. But if you are in a social situation and they are away from their peers, it's a completely different story. I'm in my 50s and just a couple weeks ago a 22 year old college girl came up to me at a bar and asked to share my seat with me. I suppose some might say gir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/21 08:39 PM |
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