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| 1 | SINGLE MOMS: You do not have less value because you have children!Thank you for sharing your story. My son is non-verbal and autistic. I often struggle with the idea of dating as I am certain no man would stay. I can remember when I was getting divorced this woman my mom went to church with said "Are you sure you want to divorce? No other man will want to deal with your child". I've always felt she was correct about the latter statement, but it was no reason to stay with my ex-husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:30 PM |
| 22 | Pickme’s are dangerousAny adult with sense knows they cannot be number one in someone's life the entire time. Run from any man who "wants to be the priority" at all times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 8 | From removeddit, this guy's comment on a post by a pregnant woman who's husband is buying nudes and sexually talking with other women. I worry what he said is true: men will always feel something is missing in a monogamous LTR, even the faithful men who do try not to stare or are porn-free.They never do because they inwardly know they will never find it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:58 PM |
| 16 | From removeddit, this guy's comment on a post by a pregnant woman who's husband is buying nudes and sexually talking with other women. I worry what he said is true: men will always feel something is missing in a monogamous LTR, even the faithful men who do try not to stare or are porn-free.Overall, these men look for external solutions for all of their problems. Indeed, it's an astounding lack of self-awareness. People are constantly looking for an escape, a distraction. I use "people" because a lot of women are like this too. There are many distractions: food, sex, drugs, sports, politics, work, relationships, etc. Most people aren't self-aware enough to sort out that the cause of their woes begins and ends in the mirror. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:58 PM |
| 39 | From removeddit, this guy's comment on a post by a pregnant woman who's husband is buying nudes and sexually talking with other women. I worry what he said is true: men will always feel something is missing in a monogamous LTR, even the faithful men who do try not to stare or are porn-free.I'd agree that most men are like this. Most people are barely self-aware. Do you really think they aspire to a higher morality? I don't concern myself with the thoughts of fools and I suggest you do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 8 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.I'm sorry that happened to you, but do what you want to do. It has power as long as you let it have power over you. It's a naked body. Wow. I can do a simple google and see one right now. I think it's time to see a therapist and let the shame go. There are a lot worse things in this world that you could have done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 22 | And THIS is why Online Dating Is To Be Mostly if not COMPLETELY AVOIDED. Via PP Debate-Question Was: Has Having Sex On The First Date Become The Norm?Oh god, i get why these things are posted, but you need to remember PPD doesn't represent most men. Most men barely get matches, let alone first date sex. A lot fo them are just liars. And yea, that guy is probably ugly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:49 PM |
| 30 | Some pickmeishas are too far gone... Speechless.I'd dump him out with the trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:03 AM |
| 39 | (TW) Men have no empathy. And there are a lot of comments siding with the boyfriend.When I'm lonely and feel my standards drop, I just remember how depraved these fuckers are. I hope this woman finds love for herself and walks away from this situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:21 AM |
| 7 | What wall?!Either that or time-space is bending at her waist lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:18 AM |
| 9 | FDS, I need tips how to stay safe when I break up with my stbx boyfriendLook up grey rock. I've done this to a lot of men. They aren't bright enough to figure out I'm being boring intentionally. I did it to the last crazy male I went out on a date with because he was one of those IT whizlords. Google grey rock and you will get good strategies. You need to get your ducks in a row while making him think breaking up is his idea. DO NOT MENTION YOU ARE TRYING TO DUMP HIM EVER! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 11:37 PM |
| 14 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.This is going to sound like a humblebrag, but I think it's because I am a decent listener. Most people are never heard in their life, so when they have someone around who does that, they tend to get really attached. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 19 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.I dunno, i had to stop even trying FWB because those men would always catch feelings and I'd get annoyed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:05 PM |
| 54 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.If there's no feeling on the woman's part they can't feel like they've conquered something. It's so annoying. Just admit you want emotional intimacy and clean your act up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Unpopular opinion has always been a place to trash talk women, but this insulting garbage takes the cake. We're constantly threatened by a subreddit that is able to say whatever they like because it's 'just their opinion' and calls us prostitutes.Here's the problem: Beyond being broke, these men can't "conquer" if the woman has no feelings for them. It's why they bitch about prostitutes even though they use them. They are denied any real intimacy. They may as well just masturbate because that's what they are doing. They are too unaware of themselves to realize what they are actually chasing. Keep trying to fill that hole instead of face yourself though guys, it's working out really well for you :| | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:50 PM |
| 23 | Guess scrotes don't understand what "routine maintenance" means 🤔Indeed, idle hands and minds are the devil's playground. Although I'm sure Satan himself wants nothing to do with these fools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 01:10 AM |
| 103 | A conversation that makes me so angry, the bs I used to take from my ex pre-FDS.I hate when men announce their preferences like it's some earth-shattering revelation. Should have told him you prefer bigger dicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:56 AM |
| 25 | Thought I found a HVM, then I told him no to hanging out on weekend, explained I’m only comfortable socializing about three times a week to keep my social battery happy...I thought I was a bit nuts because I feel that way. It's cool to call me, but I don't want to see your ass that often. I'm not a teenager. :| | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 104 | Thought I found a HVM, then I told him no to hanging out on weekend, explained I’m only comfortable socializing about three times a week to keep my social battery happy...Block him. Dudes who test you are stupid as all hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:11 PM |
| 20 | r/NoFap gets itthat's a big part of it. Our media glamorizes relationships. One thing that helps me is the realization that most of my female ancestors had no choice in what they did. They were tied to men, like it or not. Now, I have that choice. I can do what I want to do and I owe to all of those who came before me to stand strong in what I desire for my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:04 PM |
| 31 | r/NoFap gets itRight. How does this human function get some much headspace? Sex and eating seem to take up so much human headspace and it's weird. Y'all need to put on the healing hertz music and meditate that out or something lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 104 | r/NoFap gets itI would extend this to women as well. I don't think it's as hard for women, though. People give too much mental real estate to sex. It's just sex. Calm down. Giving it power over your life is the quickest way to develop unhealthy obsessions with and about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | How Do I level upHey my young one: You have to love yourself. All of the things you say you lack, while they may be nice to have, they will not make you love yourself. If beauty was the key to happiness then why did the most beautiful women of Hollywood live the most tragic lives? Monroe - suicide. Taylor? Constant battles with addiction. Loren? Trashy husband who cheated on her quite often. Women who will look better than I ever will, yet all went through a lot of crap. Many of these women everyone lauded for t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:53 PM |
| 58 | Smh....This is why I refuse to marry unless that man worships the ground I walk on and kisses my ass daily. It's too much damn stress for no reward. I make money on my own. They love to threaten me with "you'll be alone when you are old". Good. I see old women bitching about their mean ass husbands all the time. I want no part of that shit. Women my age (38) get in my DM's all the time crying about their sad sack of shit. If you look at the scientific studies, single women are happier than married ones… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Lingerie collectionI buy it myself. I like laying around with my butt out when the kid isn't here lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 9 | I can’t believe her parents are pressuring her to take back a man who left her while she was pregnant!!Wow, what a shitty family. My family would whip my butt if I took a man like that back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:54 PM |
| 31 | Men and women multiple dating are not the same!It's also worth noting that most men who do multiple date don't have the emotional bandwidth to do it effectively. Ever have a guy text you some BS that you can tell was intended for someone else? Or that it's an obvious copypaste? Dead giveaway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 01:27 PM |
| 35 | Guys with female friendsListening ear turn to hard dicks real quick. He is at least enjoying the attention. I'd dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:12 AM |
| 31 | I think my boyfriend cheated on me months ago and is still lying about itAnd if he didn't mention you were his girlfriend to these women that tells you all you need to know as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:34 PM |
| 29 | I think my boyfriend cheated on me months ago and is still lying about itIt doesn't matter if you can't prove anything. Society impresses upon women that they are to deny their feelings as "illogical" unless they can prove something happened. Your feelings are proof enough. Furthermore, you do not need a reason to justify dumping a man. This is another social pressure put on women. If they dump a man, they must justify it. You have nothing to justify. You are clearly anxious and unhappy. Cut this dead weight and heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 18 | This story made me ill - woman discovers husband’s affair, topped off with pregnant.That's why I said abort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:09 PM |
| 62 | This story made me ill - woman discovers husband’s affair, topped off with pregnant.Abort and divorce, say nothing. She's still young and can move forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:14 PM |
| 16 | 25f, I'm feeling insecure, that I will nEveR bE gOoD eNOuGh because I am not as fit and attractive as I could be. I feel like I am wasting the pEaK oF My yOuTh and BeAutY because I'm not iNsTaWoRthY. Fears of losing value as I age. Help me change this silly attitude and replace these shit beliefsAlright, there are some good replies here, but I'm gonna drop the law: This idea that you will be able to do what you want when you are "hot" is bullshit. Sorry, it's all a delusion between your ears. When you finally get yourself to sufficiently "hot", you will find something else to hate yourself for. You will find some other reason to not do what you want to do. The root of the problem is that you do not believe you are enough. If beauty was the key to happiness then no beautiful person shoul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 7 | Canadian mom has enough of her stepson freeloading since lockdown is over and he can go get a job. Husband bodyshames her. Reddit calls her a Karen.All of these people need therapy. They aren't fit to be in relationships. I couldn't make it through, everyone is just toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:23 PM |
| 7 | Where can I find cute form fitting tops that aren’t crop tops? I don’t like dressing too revealing on dates and the style doesn’t always look good on me, but society keeps pushes them.There's plenty of places. You just want to avoid places that cater to juniors sizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 60 | Excuse the profanity, but her passion spoke to me. I’ve been here. Black women, you DO NOT need to struggle behind a man to one day be worthy of love!! You are not losing anything by letting go of a man who mistreats you!I bookmarked this. The truth is often not something poetic when delivered, but it is necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Kick out pregnant woman because your sister’s husband cheated and got her pregnant 😒Exactly. How the hell can the property owner keep her sister from getting triggered when she visits if the mistress is still there? For her own sister's sake, she has no choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:42 PM |
| 8 | Kick out pregnant woman because your sister’s husband cheated and got her pregnant 😒Ok, i get where you are coming from, but I wouldn't want this person on my property either. If they are willing to do that, then what else are they willing to do? You play stupid games, you win stupid prizes. Yea, hubby is a dick, but he ain't living on her property. And hopefully, his wife divorces him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:27 PM |
| 9 | Remarrying after starter marriage.What I have discovered since divorce is that I enjoy being a mother more than I enjoy being in a romantic relationship. The only thing that bothers me is my sex drive. If I could be rid of that, I'd be solid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:02 PM |
| 99 | In the absence of your own desire to improve yourself, lie to the allegedly superficial women who want an educated, driven partner. His post, my answer. The comments were a cesspool of twisted validation for him and denigration of her. I had to say something.If men are allowed to have standards then so are women. I've dated, and probably would still date, blue-collar men, but these tend to be tradesmen. Carpenters, plumbers, etc. A couple of them owned their own businesses and made an excellent living. The living isn't the important part to me (although I'd be lying if I claimed it didn't matter), it's the drive and the willingness to better yourself. I got my BA at 33. I did it with an autistic child, a no-good husband, and daily panic attacks. I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:51 PM |
| 8 | Let's talk leveling upIf you have a thyroid issue then you need to address that first. That's a serious health issue. You also need to stop beating the hell out of yourself. You can't lose weight through shame. It's just not sustainable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:17 AM |
| 69 | I’d rather grow old and alone with 30 cars than to know my husband settled for me.Ugh, this is why I stay single. I know I can't be loved like I want to be. I'd rather be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 12:52 AM |
| 26 | Boyfriend suggests a prenup to “protect” his house, OP drafts her own prenup that also protects her assets and investments. BF doesn’t like a prenup that doesn’t solely favor him and they break up.Decrease. The old "cheaper to keep em" philosophy has set in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 44 | Would moving in together be a bad idea?If he wants more time then he can move his butt to his own place in your city and get another job. You should not be bringing this man into your home. You don't know him that well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 08:13 PM |
| 28 | Reminder: Jealousy is a low-value traitThis is something I struggle with. It's not anger at people rather it's dissatisfaction with myself. It's hard sometimes, but I've grown quite a bit. I don't act out. Just feel that twing, you know what I mean? I mostly get jealous of pretty women. I've always been ugly. It's hard to accept how limited life can become due to something that was never in your control. Ah well, such it life. I seek happiness either way. The root of all suffering is the understanding that no one asked to be brought … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 115 | Boyfriend suggests a prenup to “protect” his house, OP drafts her own prenup that also protects her assets and investments. BF doesn’t like a prenup that doesn’t solely favor him and they break up.It's mostly because people have no idea what they are doing. It's why DIY divorces are often messed up as well. If you want a real prenup, hire a decent lawyer. It's usually not worth your time if your net worth is less than 1 million. I work in the legal field. We love DIY lawyers because you'll end up in front of us later fixing that crap. We also love cheaters and narcs as you'll need our services quite often lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:42 PM |
| 33 | I just.....I just love it SO much.Ooof, there's toys laying around. Why does she have this awful person in her home? Why are they exposing children to violence? Ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 06:42 PM |
| 66 | He may be losing interest- how do I take back the control?I'm going to get downvoted to oblivion, but you can't do what you are asking us to help you do. If someone loses interest, they lose interest. Oh well. Go live your life. He's gonna do what he's gonna do. You respond accordingly. If you don't like the way he engages with you, dump him and move on to other dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 05:33 PM |
| 20 | Women don’t cheat on HVMI feel like most mature people don't want to talk shit about their exes with people they barely know. I'm always suspicious when guys do it right away. That's usually "brace for impact" lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:18 PM |
| 67 | Women don’t cheat on HVMI kinda disagree here. Water attracts its own level. Decent men do get cheated on, I've seen it, but if it's happening over and over again, there is likely something off with your picker. Most of the men I've seen in these sort of situations tend to be the sort who go for "wild" sorts of women. They are attracted to intensity. Not a good idea. Or they fixate on looks. I mean, if you go for looks, that's all you will get. Or he's lying. men love to spin sob stories for women to pity them at the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:15 PM |
| 17 | How often do you Queens get approached?Never, but I am ugly. Thank goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Getting sh*t for not wanting to move in with a man...thoughts?Men stop talking to me all the time when I make it clear I won't live with a man I'm not married to. I refuse it. I want to be able to go to court and enforce shit if it all goes bad. If you aren't willing to put it on paper, you don't need to be in my home. End of Discussion. I don't care if it makes me an old, conservative woman. You have to accept the majority of society is not thinking. They just aren't. They accept what they see others do and don't question it. It's the same with "objective… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:15 PM |
| 32 | Husband makes 975K a year and she wants to be a stay at home mother. Should she?I'm not surprised at Ramsey's response. He's a raging hypocrite, but he has always been firm that men should take care of their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:33 PM |
| 33 | Scrote gets what he deservesHe put shit in there that he can't even legally negotiate. That lawyer probably laughed her ass off. Judges throw out these stupid agreements all the time. A prenup makes little sense for most normal people. If you are hitting 7 figures, yes, otherwise, not worth the drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:29 PM |
| 7 | Getchu a man who screenshots your convos and makes fun of you to gain fake popularity points from strangers! LVM mocks “gf” who definitely exists 🙄Gross, but I have to turn this around - He is dating her. If he thinks she's so stupid, why is he dating her? Why would you waste your time on someone you obviously have no respect for? I know why -she's probably physically attractive to him and for many dudes, that's enough. It's a terrible foundation for a relationship and leads to shit like this. I see it in many marriages. Not that she's dumb at all. This is a bit ditzy, but I don't think it's a statement on the totality of her intelligence.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:46 PM |
| 20 | I Need HelpStop beating yourself up. It's normal to think about someone after you break up with them. How long has it been? If it hasn't been a year, you shouldn't expect much of yourself on that front. I was married for 11 years. It wasn't until I was in year 2 of post-divorce life that I stopped really thinking about my ex often. Give yourself time and keep practicing no-contact. You aren't a failure for thinking about him. it's perfectly normal and it will pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 02:11 AM |
| 45 | I feel like a lower value womanPlease see a therapist. Do not buy a house with someone you aren't married to. I don't care if you are getting married. If you are not married, you are single. It's just sex. Yea, shocker. It's sex. Dogs dog it, humping in broad daylight in yards all over the planet. It's nothing. Stop giving it power. I'll admit I'm the kind of woman who would rather suck a strange dick than tell anyone my trauma, but my point stands. It only has power over you if you allow it to. To me, sex is not really anyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:58 AM |
| 1 | The lies we are toldKeep your chin up. Y'all are some of the best looking women on the planet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:24 AM |
| 23 | Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit the standards we hold men to here.You have to remember many people here are young. That's not to say that's bad, but it's a different time in life. You think you know it all, the world is new, things that are silly to you now seemed important at that age. Don't take their words as a comment on your life. You are in a different stage in your growth. I'm admittedly an ugly woman. I was born cross-eyed. I had two surgeries, but it only fixed it so much. I'm nearsighted in one eye and far-sighted in the other. My left eye wanders wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:26 PM |
| 55 | An open-relationship is an excuse to cheatI'd hire a lawyer and abort it. Sounds harsh, but yep, I'd do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 5 | The lies we are toldI'm in Tennessee, near the nashville area. Every woman has a blonde balayage and they share most of the same hobbies. When I'm in Nashville, there's this ritzy part called the gulch that I got to sometimes. All the women look the same. It's weird. I don't get it. I guess if I reverted to the mean I'd have an easier time here, but i'd rather be alone honestly. I have to pretend enough when I'm at work or out in public. I don't want to play a part to get a dude to like me. I mean, I can't fix my f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:21 PM |
| 28 | The lies we are toldExcuse me, I am a Latina goth woman with pale olive skin (for my kind), I will do what I want. I'll tell you what I can't do - blonde. That crap looks so bad on me. And for some odd reason, that's all men want in my city. Thin, sporty, blonde, in athleisure, into kayaking, with the designer dog. There's nothing wrong with that, but it gets boring when that's all you see around you. Let people be themselves, damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 01:12 PM |
| 14 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!You may not be as ugly as you think (or maybe you are, I don't know your life). Oh no, I am. Men ignore me, or they treat me with contempt. The only people who say nice things about me are my friends, but they are my friends. Acknowledging that is just pointing out reality. It's like pointing to the sky on a clear day and saying "The sky is blue". Sex is easy to get, but that doesn't mean anything really, and men will screw anything. I'm not saying I'm a terrible person because I'm ugly. I'm jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:38 PM |
| 2 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!Oh I get you now, I've got the Rona and feel like shit. I just saw insecurities and thought that was a little vague. I wasn't sure exactly what it was referring to. Everyone is going to be insecure about something. That's just life. If we are talking about serious trauma & issues, yea go work that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:01 PM |
| 6 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!No, I don't seriously date. I probably never will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:47 PM |
| 11 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!Having your shit together means different things to different people. We have to understand that. That's a higher bar for me than it would be for most of the sub as I'm 38. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:42 PM |
| 27 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!Eh, I'm in a bad place right now. I will say that I don't seriously pursue love as I'm not aesthetically pleasing. There's nothing I can do about it. I mean, I can lose weight, but I'll still have the lazy eye, icepick scars, etc. Men can't love me and I won't be that pita pocket, but for most normal people, I think the pursuit of perfection is an excuse. Being emotionally vulnerable can lead to pain. Someone can really hurt you with that. I think the pursuit of perfection is an excuse people us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:40 PM |
| 123 | I think this may be the post that finally makes me leave that sub. "So I was alone, when I could have had the support of a partner". More like you were alone working on yourself when you could have been getting dragged down further!Hm, I get your argument, but when are you ready? When all the imperfection is gone? You'll be sitting there awhile? For myself, I guess it will be when I'm 125 pounds, blonde, blue-eyed, my kid is 18, and I'm a millionaire (which means never for at least 2 of these). It really depends on what is holding you back. If it's serious trauma, sure might want to work on that. However, no one is ever going to be perfect and I don't think you should put your entire life on hold waiting for that moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:21 PM |
| 41 | Men will marry any woman who says yes even if he isn’t attracted to her. Note he is overweight, but wishes his wife were a “petite athletic woman”.And people wonder why I refuse to be serious with men. This is what would happen to me. I'd rather die alone than live this life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:04 PM |
| 23 | Found this gem floating around Facebook.Either lanky with bad hair, or fat with bad hair. In both cases, terrible skin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 54 | Found this gem floating around Facebook.Imagine what the man who is audacious enough to type this must look like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 46 | DeadBedrooms Man Marries, Has Kids With A Woman He Is Not Remotely Attracted To.And this is why I don't date. My friends tell me I'm too negative, but no, this shit is real. He's not making excuses. He really means it. Men marry women they don't love all the time. Men marry for social reasons, religious ones, political reasons, etc. Hell, men get lonely and they just want someone around. They want someone to take care of them as they age and the dick stops working. I see it all the time at my age. I'm ugly. I've been that way since I exited my mother's womb. It's not in my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 3 | BLACK PILL PPD TRUTH SERUM TIDBITS ON HOW MEN DISTINGUISH BETWEEN GF/WIFE & FWB MATERIAL...EYE ROLL. NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A SO-CALLED "NICE /GOOD /LOYAL WOMAN"And wait until they/re 35, suddenly anyone who will look their way is hot lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 95 | If he came with a mother like this, I’d be gone! 😂Girl, Abort wedding :o | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:14 PM |
| 96 | This post boiled my blood. Don’t EVER shrink your success for a man!! Especially for a man with no job!!!OMG no, they will always hold your status over you and use it to attack you. This happens to me frequently regarding my intelligence. Men will say things like "You could talk circles around me", or "You are so much smarter than me, it scares me". My reply is always to say "It sucks to be stupid". These men don't repay you with loyalty for shrinking yourself, they just hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:59 PM |
| 4 | How LVM act in a high stress & shitty situationThis woman NEVER should have married him. That girl hates his guts and she's let on for years that she does. She may have a mental health issue, but even people with those issues tend to be more reactive than just randomly violent. There's something going on here that the daughter can't articulate. My son is nonverbal, but I still know what he wants and when something is bothering him. I have my own life and all, but you can bet I'd dump a man in a hot second if my kid seemed to dislike him. Tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:43 PM |
| 27 | Why do men always think it’s “their” money only? And that being a SAHM involves no work? 🙄🙄🙄If this is actually real, she needs to get a lawyer ASAP. This guy is a world-class liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:35 PM |
| 8 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManYep, we are a lot more prone to getting in trashy relationships as out self-esteem is always in the gutter. We can't all be perfect. You love up on yourself, you deserve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 01:05 AM |
| 5 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManHonestly, It's better to think in terms of finding someone who can shore up your weak points. There are things I excel at and you will come to me for help. Help me with what I can't do alone. It's ok to not be perfect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:32 PM |
| 11 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManYou are right to think of that kind of inaction as a deal breaker. It helps that my bestie is the opposite of me and will tell me I need to do something, or she'll check that I did. Ah well, such is life lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 07:05 PM |
| 53 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManI have ADHD. I admit I slack off a bit as it's just me and my kid, but I've learned strategies to help. I don't take meds as they make my heart race and I feel just awful, but I have. I dunno, I feel bad sometimes, but I also have accepted that I will never be what most women think is a good domestic. This person needs to work on setting up a strategy to help her see the messes. If you put the bags on the floor, you won't see them later. So you put the bags on your workspace...etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:58 PM |
| 21 | Single mom wants to level upThere's a vibe here that you need to acknowledge - this air that men will love in spite of something rather than because of something. The later is scary as a concept. We project our insecurity out into the world and assume that others feel the same as us. But that's not true. Many men will love you BECAUSE you are a good mother. My son is autistic and I have avoided dating as I assume no one would stay. I've come to the conclusion that what scares me more is that someone would stay. That someon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Do Looks Matter For Attracting a High Value Man? Why Doesn't FDS Focus On Improving External Beauty?Men aren’t just attracted to one type of women, that would be boring. Many women here are too young to get that. BBW porn is a thing - it's actually one of the more popular categories. I get we don't support that, but if there were no men who found "fat" women attractive, then that would not exist. Most of the obese women I meet in daily life are married and were obese when they were young as well. Many of you are way too sold on what you see in the media. Dropping weight isn't going to make eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Dating Coach Publicly Negs His WifeOh they love to bring up EvoPsych, but the root problem with that field is one cannot separate current societal influence from the results. People in that field admit this problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:12 PM |
| 10 | Do Looks Matter For Attracting a High Value Man? Why Doesn't FDS Focus On Improving External Beauty?On the real, many of the women here are young and are still HEAVILY influenced by the beauty standard. Whenever someone has an issue here one of the first comments is they need to "level up their appearance". The problem is there are diminishing returns. Eventually, you run out of things to "fix". Even then, there are still plenty of men who still won't find you attractive. If you point this out, they think you are invalidating their pursuit of having a socially acceptable look. And this obsessi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:10 PM |
| 22 | Blocked my LVM boyfriend with no explanation. He doesn’t need one right?Nope, ghost his ass. Men aren't owed explanations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 28 | Ashley asked a scrote running an advice column. Who she really needed to ask was r/FDS.Oh this guy, it's always "lower your expectations" with him. He doesn't say it like that, but that's the core of the message. Lose weight, look pretty, compete with other women, etc. And he also calls himself part of the "intellectual darkweb" like lol right. A Jewish man paling around with anti-semites. Makes perfect sense. Srsly, can anyone run one of these columns and proclaim to be an expert? Homie sells books for 50 dollars, has no background in psychology, and negs his wife all the time. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Help me make sense of this predicament I’ve faced for almost a decade now.Things can work on paper, but not in actual life. I think that's where you are getting off-track. I'm sure you are a good-looking woman, but that's not enough to keep someone around. It's just not. It might spark attraction, but it won't make things work. And there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Sometimes things just don't work. You can't make allowances for taste. In my own life, I'm objectively fat and not very attractive - I'm quite willing to prove it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Sex without a condom ladies.. Seen a few of these posts recently😷🙅🏼♀️It's very common. In fact, I think most men try to get away with no doing it. The men who use protection all the time are in the minority for sure. The last stat I saw was that men use condoms around 30% of the time, but most admitted they don't use them all the time, or even most of the time. Lots of dirty dicks out there ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 3 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsHe's a racist PUA. How shocking. I don't think we need to give him any free clicks for his terrible writing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 12:58 PM |
| 3 | For people who struggle with accepting their bodies and past traumaladies, beauty isn't something you owe anyone. You don't owe anyone perfection. You don't owe them thinness, flawless skin, none of that. Love yourself either way. The vast majority of men think i'm unattractive and tell me that, but I still love myself. You don't have to be perfect to be loved. You don't have to be useful or anything else. Rest in yourself and take care ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 01:55 AM |
| 3 | The Boss of all Pickmeishas? Woman arrested after helping her boyfriend dismember a woman he murdered (and probably raped)This is why I am so hard on the pick-mes. These women are the most dangerous beings walking this planet. Men are men. We know what they are, these pick-mes? Oh, they'll murder their own children over a man. Don't have them near you because they will hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:39 PM |
| 11 | When looking for a partner, men is encouraged to aim high and questioned when he settles, while women is "advised" to settle and criticized when she aims high. What the fuck is this bullshit.Pffft, men look like hot garbage over 30 generally. I'm 38, I'm ugly, but let me tell you swiping on OLD and seeing these men can make my stomach turn. And that's after waking up to me in the mirror every day. Whew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 12:24 AM |
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