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That’s the real her. The version you dated and married was a mask she wore long enough to “secure the bag”.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 07:59 PM
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Visit animal shelters and get the old dog or cat that nobody wants, but behaves well. Having another life to look after, and one that will appreciate it, can be a big help.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 06:55 PM
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You have some learning to do in this area. Reality doesn’t require your approval, and it’s not “sexist”. While there exceptions to nearly every rule, the statement is true. Doesn’t make them lesser beings, it’s a design feature.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 03:09 PM
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Good outcome from legal proceedings, well done and best wishes! Best recommendation I have: Marcus Aurelius writings on Stoicism, followed by Gatekeeper by Shawn T. Smith.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 06:25 PM
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The attorney’s other job is to run up billable hours for the firm.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 04:19 AM
5

This is a “dog bites man” story.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 02:15 PM
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Spare bedroom has advantages, such as putting a locking doorknob on it to protect your belongings.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 08:55 PM
1

Read or listen to “Gatekeeper” by Shawn T. Smith before you hit the dating market. Do it twice.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 12:39 AM
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Payment plan can be set with the law firm in many cases.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 10:44 PM
9

Well done. You are focused on their safety first and foremost, creating a loving and safe home that they can trust.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 10:42 PM
2

Both happy, or both equally unhappy, it’s done. Congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 05:12 PM
6

She’s not one in a million, she’s one of several million. And as a cheater, work hard to avoid finding another like her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 08:12 PM
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Yup, like watching a toddler throw a tantrum.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 07:14 PM
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If your username tracks reality, then mental discipline is something you possess in abundance. You can use it to recalibrate, maybe with therapy to assist. Stay strong brother, things get better.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 07:11 PM
1

Absolutely well done. And thank you for your service! Charlie Mike brother.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 03:28 PM
5

Lawyers have a saying: “He who represents himself in court has a fool for a client.” Whatever it takes, get yourself an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 04:20 PM
6

Unless the wife shut down the bedroom. In that case, I still don’t approve…but I understand.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 09:57 PM
2

Ignore the mouth noises.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 05:38 PM
1

Jay Z: 99 Problems But a B!tch Ain’t One
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 01:06 PM
2

Shelters have plenty of dogs that would love to be adopted by a guy who will care for them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 08:59 PM
4

“Please direct all communication to my attorney.” And repeat as necessary.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 11:37 AM
7

Classic borderline personality disorder. Also daddy issues, a huge red flag. Sorry you went through this hell.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 10:16 PM
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The message above serves as a warning to men considering marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:43 PM
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“What I do during my parenting time is not your concern” and repeat as necessary.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 04:09 PM
4

Goes like: “He was abusive, controlling, blah blah blah…”
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 01:36 PM
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How would the King treat a visitor in his castle? Respectful, cordial, but keenly observant. Get the guy a drink, treat him like an invited guest, don’t be overly friendly but don’t wall him off. A buddy of mine set the gold standard for this and it worked well, as the guy had nothing to do with causing his divorce. Referred to his ex-wife’s guy as his “Husband In Law” when introducing him to people.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 03:58 PM
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Never gonna happen, my friend. Waste of your valuable time pursuing accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 06:24 PM
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Only when their plan fails, and even then it’s only until they line up another new supplier.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 10:46 AM
2

Absolutely well done my friend!
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 10:17 AM
2

Nice! But seriously, this is the “I want to go to jail on a fake DV charge, and I don’t want to wait in a line for a cell.”
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:38 AM
2

Independence Day has a whole new meaning for you this year. Stay strong, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 07:54 PM
3

Look at the upside, you don’t have to worry about gold diggers.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:28 AM
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Assume she would have spent more than 50%, and therefore a 50/50 split is an improvement.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:04 PM
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Advice: look up “Pick Me Dance” and do not do it. Look up “Grey Rock” and definitely do this. It sounds like her friends are giving her bad advice. This is a common theme, especially when the friends are divorced or otherwise single. And do not take her back when reality hits her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:03 PM
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All 3 volumes.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 02:48 PM
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Look up Grey Rock and do it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 06:55 PM
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And even then, it’s only because they want something.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 05:47 PM
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The “I love you but I’m not in love with you” speech translates to “I have another guy.” Put your pride and ego aside and unload her while she’s focused on him, and will concede anything you want in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 12:18 PM
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Rangers Lead The Way.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 12:18 PM
7

Consider changing the pickup location to a business with surveillance cameras. Your attorney can subpoena the footage.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 05:12 PM
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This will sound like a shallow reply, but it’s a proven fact. You have to take your focus off her, and apply it to yourself and your kids. She is nothing more than trash taking itself out. Start with the basics to get yourself on track. Hydration, meals even if you have to force them down. Exercise hard…gym if possible, pushups and whatnot if necessary. These will give you a clear mind to make the right decisions. No alcohol or drugs, period. Only makes things worse.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:38 PM
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She wants to get married, so she doesn’t have to ask.
/r/askMRP28/04/24 04:12 PM
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In many states, she only gets half of the house’s appreciation in value which occurred while you were married. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 06:39 PM
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In my experience you insure the car, not the driver. You declare the driver(s) in your policy application and the insurer calculates the risk in setting your premium. In this case, mom should be adding the child to her policy for any vehicle(s) she owns & insures which the child will drive. Just my experience, you’re doing the right thing by getting input from the insurance co.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 06:35 PM
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Very well done.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 10:09 PM
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Charlie Mike. And check your track tension. 😁
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 05:01 PM
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Fake it until you make it. Every man gets there eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:16 PM
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And then there’s the neighbors…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 11:55 AM
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Eddie Murphy…”Gimme half!!”
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 01:41 PM
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They call this “securing the bag”.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 04:02 PM
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Warm, safe, and loaded up with opioids feeling zero pain. There are worse ways to go.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 10:51 AM
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Send him half a sandwich with a note: “I’m done with this too.”
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 12:57 AM
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Ordering pizza with whatever toppings I want. The simple things are awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:06 PM
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Or their miserable friends convince them that the Carousel and unlimited access to your paycheck is a great lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 05:33 PM
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Visualize your life if she suddenly was gone, and then live it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 02:10 AM
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Not really. The house will sell, proceeds split “equitably”, and he can build his life on a solid foundation without the dead weight. And boredom won’t be her biggest problem any longer.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 02:08 AM
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She no longer gets access to your resources. That’s a big win for you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 04:40 PM
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You should do more chores and date her. /sarcasm
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 08:01 PM
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Fair point.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 01:28 PM
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Just feel sympathy for the poor guy and ignore him.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 02:20 AM
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“When you’re going through hell, keep moving.” -Churchill
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 01:15 PM
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Engineers who make novel, useful medical devices make big $.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 09:48 AM
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That’s just messed up. Buncha guys simping for a cat?!?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 07:28 PM
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Sounds like you understand the game.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 01:33 PM
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A wise author said: “You can ignore reality, but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.”
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 01:07 PM
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Hopefully she got an A list actor to play your character. I insist that Will Farrell play me in any projects.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 10:20 PM
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Bring flowers for your daughter after her recital. This is a big thing. Dad of 2 here with over a dozen recitals.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 10:11 PM
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Sure, he should date her more and learn her love language. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 11:21 AM
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His writing suggests this is not possible.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 10:18 PM
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Melatonin 5mg at bedtime has been effective for me in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 06:52 PM
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Got 99 problems but a b***h ain’t one.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 03:21 PM
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Solid move. Keep adding distance and take care of your own best interests.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 09:47 PM
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Oh yes, BPDs are expert button-pushers.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 02:55 PM
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Maybe, depending on state law where the divorce was made. Some states and court systems simply follow a calculation in assigning alimony, division of assets, etc. Don’t hang onto regret, learn from the experience.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 02:16 PM
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A person observing statements or acts indicating suicidal ideation is empowered to call the local police, who may find it necessary to conduct a health and welfare check.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:39 PM
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Maybe not. If she suddenly stated that she realized gravity existed, after years of denying the existence of gravity, would that cause feelings of validation? Facts are facts, whether or not they are agreed upon.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:30 PM
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Maternal hypergamy in action.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 10:06 PM
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This isn’t the place for it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 06:18 PM
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Your post title is based on faulty logic. “It’s our fault” is a blanket statement that clearly doesn’t fit reality. Are there cases where the guy slacked off and became a dead weight liability? Absolutely. Is this true for all cases of walk away wives? No. Assign yourself blame all you want, and in your case you may be right. Learn from it and be a man. But don’t spread the blame to all men via “our fault” claims. A divorce attorney in my family has described plenty of cases where the wife got t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 02:28 PM
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Reading your post history, it’s clear that you got burned hard in your marriage after she took a job with a group of harpy losers. See also: crabs in a bucket. They tore her down daily until she bought into their defective mindset. That’s not your fault. Internalizing blame for that outcome is unhealthy. Read Rollo Tomassi “The Rational Male” and learn reality.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 06:37 PM
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White Night has arrived to share wisdom.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 04:30 PM
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Tell that to Will Smith.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 04:28 PM
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The usual calculation is the property’s appreciation during the time you were married. An appraisal is usually involved.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 02:46 PM
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She has a life sentence of being…what she is. That’s more punishment than any civil court could dole out. Set up whatever’s left of your estate so the kids get it when they’re of age, and protect it from her wasting it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 01:36 AM
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Two easy steps: 1) purchased the house prior to marriage; 2) get a lawyer with solid reputation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:18 AM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 11:16 PM
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All you should care about is that the counselor thinks you’re the best parent for the kids. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:00 AM
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Sing to him while bottle feeding and changing diapers. Seriously. He will learn your voice.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:44 PM
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And I’m out of bubblegum.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 09:06 PM
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Absolutely. You’re going to need the verbal techniques covered in this book during kid handoffs, legal proceedings, etc. Fogging and Broken Record are my go-to methods and they work well.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:55 AM
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The “loneliness every two weeks” is actually solitude, a great thing when used productively and positively. Which it absolutely sounds like you’re doing. Well done!
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 08:54 PM
1

“The marital sty” LOL! Best description ever.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 01:37 PM
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Observe her actions, not her words.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 01:28 PM
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Poor upbringing, childhood trauma, societal influence…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:11 PM
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Solid moves, you’ll get through this and be better for it. Just takes time and mental discipline.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:09 PM
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Whatever crap she pulled on you, he’s in for the same or worse. Just think about the bad times for a bit, and then move on to better uses of your times.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:08 PM
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While the advice to let this go has merit, if you are party to the contract (your signature is on it) you are liable for payment regardless of who owns the house. Something to consider.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 11:57 PM
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There are financial benefits in this scenario, sharing the costs of housing and utilities. There is risk of a jerk causing problems: drinking your beer and not replacing, eating your food, being noisy, etc. I’d have to be under extreme financial stress to do this. The risks aside, I prefer solitude and I’d be willing to live very lean rather than deal with roommates.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 01:23 PM
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Where Y < X clearly. Well done on handling this mess and being a solid dad at the same time.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 01:58 PM
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Username checks out, fully. How about this: when in doubt, default to STFU. Always.
/r/askMRP03/03/23 11:10 AM
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If you’ve read the sidebar, what part of STFU are you missing?
/r/askMRP02/03/23 11:22 PM
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And wanna bet she’s telling the new guy how abusive you were to her and her kids?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 01:49 AM
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Don’t lash out, it’s what they’re looking for here. They want to see you hurting and wounded. Who knows what stories the ex told them, and who cares? Do what suits your schedule. If they’re there, let them see you being purposeful and focused.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 04:39 AM
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Think of it like this: she was going to spend/waste that much or more anyway. This way it’s capped.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 04:52 PM
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Check with JAG or a civilian attorney familiar with military divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 06:00 PM
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Well handled.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 05:58 PM
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Read up on “light switch effect” and you’ll understand. When they decide they’re unhappy, the switch flips and they feel they were never happy. It’s completely irrational, which is why you find the behavior confusing.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 05:09 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 01:55 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 10:47 PM
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If you go with an air mattress, get a thick foam pad for the top for insulation. They suck the heat right out of your body.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 05:16 PM
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“Took the blame when you would blow up the bathroom…” I don’t want to know what this means, but that guy is a super hero for what he did trying to save his marriage, and the decisive action he’s taking now that it’s clearly over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 02:47 AM
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Your date of filing for divorce may stop the clock on this calculation. Check with your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 03:43 PM
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EOW custody puts you at risk of becoming a “Disney Dad” spending your limited time overly focused on activities. Example description: https://fathers.com/blog/featured-resource-center-page/dont-be-a-disney-dad-guest-blog/
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 02:48 PM
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FAFSA looks at the tax return from 2 years prior. So you’ll be using data from 2020 assuming you’re applying for Fall 2023 term.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 10:41 PM
2

This book exists. Look up “Men on Strike” and prepare to be enlightened.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 05:52 PM
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This means your wife has a nuclear weapon available. Tread cautiously.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 06:30 PM
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There’s a compelling reason to accept calls from ex-family.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 08:48 PM
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She’s gracious now because she thinks he can be pulled back into line, e.g. the 70/30 settlement scare tactic. When she sees he is committed to divorce, the claws will come out. Count on it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 11:00 PM
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And the speech she’s building will be crafted to make you the bad guy. You caused her to cheat, etc. get ready for wild, outlandish, completely untrue accusations. Your only wrong move will be allowing her to provoke a reaction from you. Look up Grey Rock and learn it well.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 06:34 PM
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In your flattest, most boring voice: “I’m sorry you feel that way.” Repeat like a broken record, as if you’re that Customer Service agent who just doesn’t give a flip.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 11:38 AM
3

And judges like reading police reports.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 12:35 PM
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Joshua has spoken. :)
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 01:22 PM
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If the stock goes up post IPO, she’d be getting more $$. Market volatility just adds complexity you don’t want.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 12:44 AM
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Be very, very glad she’s leaving before the IPO. Get an official written price statement from your company’s Investor Relations department and give it to your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 10:00 PM
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It’s all easy until she makes an assault complaint against you, and you’re walking out of your house in handcuffs. Seriously, consult a lawyer and do your research to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 01:50 AM
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Give the ones you don’t want to Goodwill or whatever charity takes donations, make some family really happy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 01:43 AM
3

Absolutely. First time I ordered pizza and it hit me…I can finally get whatever I want again, no more debating which toppings!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 01:33 AM
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Become that drill sergeant instead.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 12:48 PM
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Followed by reading When I Say No, I Feel Guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 04:36 PM
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It’s there for those who choose to live it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/21 11:29 AM
1

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/21 12:25 PM
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Lawyers have a saying: “He who represents himself in court has a fool for a client.”
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/21 12:32 PM
1

When you put your garbage at the curb, do you go back and dig through it?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/21 03:32 PM
1

You really need to hope for the best, and plan for the worst.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 11:21 AM
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Therefore, don’t waste time trying to reason with “the oldest teenager in the house”. Just do, and dismiss the mouth noises as if they’re amusing.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 08:26 PM
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Same fitted sheet problem here, a few years ago. I bought a new sheet set in same color, verified fit, and used the problem one for rags. We men are problem solvers. As for going out during the pandemic...I ordered to-go including cocktails periodically during the lockdown. Then transitioned to outdoor restaurants as things let up this Spring. Now we’re back to normal, even in our crappy Blue state. Again, we men are problem solvers. Do things for your own benefit, she can partake/enjoy or not a…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 08:24 PM
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Preach the gospel. If you’re not getting “let’s get drinks and catch up” from females, you’re on the wrong side of the equation. Re-read the sidebar from the beginning, STFU, lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/21 02:52 PM
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Go on MeetUp.com and search for a divorce support group locally.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/21 11:12 AM
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Read this and learn it well: https://www.amazon.com/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=when+i+say+no+i+feel+guilty&qid=1617964817&sprefix=when+i+say&sr=8-3
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/21 10:41 AM
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