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Wouldn't bother imo, I doubt he'd change and it could just escalate the problem. Id next
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 05:55 AM
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Yeah not cool
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 05:45 AM
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I think you're being very .... optimistic. Realistically, being a mom and being older than 20 you're going to be tired and worn out. Even if your kids go to public school you only get 6 hours to deal with the house, run errands and take a break for your own sanity. Also just because someone has a hobby or enjoys spending their free time doing things that aren't 'intellectual' or even if someone isnt constantly talking to you about the intellectual things they do in their free time doesn't mean t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 10:39 PM
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Could it be his job that's stressing him out and he's taking it out on you? If he hates his job but feels stuck because he needs to support you and the children he might be growing resentful? If you were to put your children into regular school and work part time that might lift his stress a little. But otherwise I think you need to make some friends. It's really important to form a wider social network not just for your own mental health but in order to model friendship for your kids.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 10:16 PM
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Reducing your bfs stress with sex when you haven't kissed is a lot. From how you've phrased things it sounds like you're pressuring yourself into which is not a good idea and the idea of sex shouldn't be that way. Q&As No. Wait until you're ready. Also be careful sending sexy pictures and don't give any with your face in them. Yes, you did fine. Wait until he mesages you. At your age you should be acting more like a rp teen rather than a wifely gf. There's a big difference between rp wives dutie…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 05:12 PM
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My SO is older and I generally have gone for older guys. I've found that they're a bit more masculine and confident. They more capable of supporting a family and in my experience more willing. The downside is that they come with more baggage and you're lucky to find somebody worth while that doesn't have a previous wife or children.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 06:10 PM
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Maybe try a diary? They're hella underrated and you could get everything down before he gets home.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 07:05 PM
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You should start by writing things down diary style all of your emotions every little bit. Write a full length novel on your situation if you need to. Then sit on it for a day or two then go back through and analyze it. Keep your categories simple: things you can change, things you can't change, and need advice. If a situation seems more complex break it down and score point it as "I can improve" or "i did the right thing". Once everythings set you can make plans of action then break those plans…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 02:08 PM
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You could drop your studies to part time if you plan on being a homemaker. This is going to sound kind of backwards but also be careful that you're not over educating and coming to a marriage with a degree you're not going to use and an armful of debt.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 01:49 PM
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Aside from getting so professional help have you tried writing things down? Make lists. what about your life is complicated and the soloutions to them, where you need to improve, the pros and cons of that guy, a plan for after care for when you leave. It might give you some guidence and a way to track process. This idea might not be useful for everyone but it works for me when I'm in a highly charged emotional state.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 01:43 PM
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I'd say dont over spend with the budget and don't become a bridezilla, but also if you have ehem difficult family members you really need to stand your ground and not give into everything they want. Hire a wedding planner.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 05:46 PM
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What's there to be confused about? Is someone being racist against litterally you not a big enough red flag?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 05:36 PM
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I wouldn't count it as a red flag in itself. But you can develop negative traits from that kind of childhood which can in turn can become red flags that you should be watching out for. As for whwn to bring it up, i can only suggest doing it when it feels natural to you. Dont lie about it but most people wont press for details of you just tell them you and your mother aren't close.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 04:14 PM
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Sexual liberation hasn't benifited men at all. Statistically the men are having less sex which correlates with the rise of incels and the like. Before sexual liberation a lot of those men could have found wives and girlfriends. Sexual liberation doesn't benifit either gender long term.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 09:12 AM
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Of course you should ask for help. If both of you work full time he's going to need to help for at least the next few years.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 09:05 AM
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My fiance is better at saving and Im better at financial planning. So he holds the bulk of the savings and transfers me whatever I need for bills plus a generous allowance so I can have my own savings. My fiance does treat me but he can get caught up in work so it can be sporadic. I treat him by gently forcing him to take time off for his hobbies lol. He knows i appreciate him when I take care of basic things and improve his overall life. No arguments about money so far tbh i think it works beca…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 01:37 AM
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Make sure to keep it more exploratory and ask him what he thinks. Try to keep your head, blowing up about her and getting nasty might cause a bigger rift.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 04:10 AM
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You're hamstering. If you let her make you feel low value then you'll treat yourself as low value and he'll see you as low value. There are many beautiful women in the world but you offer something other than that that is clearly more valuable to him than beauty. Beauty always fades. I know it sounds cheap but if he falls for it the only person who loses is him. Have you talked to him about how her comments have made you feel?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 03:59 AM
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my guess would be to some degree she's angling on your SO / just jealous. Honestly, I wouldn't get caught up in it. Go through other members of the social group for invites and don't sink to her level when you host. Getting upset over someone who doesn't respect you is a waste of time. If other people in the group see you're unbothered by her and refuse to gossip and be mean they'll eventually get tired of her behavior as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 03:21 AM
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It was adrenaline. Fairly common. Wouldnt take it too serious unless he says something then start vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:46 AM
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What's everyones favourite crock pot recipes?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:41 AM
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Damn my karma to heck but I feel like this is preaching to the choir. I mean the only way you wouldn't know that being a SAHM is hard is if you are litterally living in lala land. Like the rpw who arent mothers arent exactly hiding from children in general. We're (mostly) adults with expectations grounded in reality. Yeah. It's hard to raise children but millions of women have done it over thousands of years and so will those of us who choose to and we'll overcome what ever challenges await us l…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:30 AM
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Yeah I think that's the view of most "on the ground" feminists. The internet has a weird way of echoing and projecting things to make it seem bigger and more wide spread than it really is. Like there have been some awful feminist ideas but there isn't that many; being involved in anti feminist culture you just end up pin pointing on them. The more choice people have the better. Everyone should be able to find their happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 12:17 AM
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I don't feel oppressed by feminism. From the feminists I've met off the internet and the not twitter famous ones on the internet, they've all been supportive of choice including the choice to be a housewife. I actually think some of their ideas have [gasp] merit. I don't think they assume women are stupid or femininity is bad, I think they have a Chinese whisper problem like most groups. I think their hearts are in the right place and they're trying to scrap for influence, like the rest of us, u…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 06:53 PM
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He's a MGTOW who doesn't believe in marriage. His post history is rife with it. He's just trolling here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 10:39 PM
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Wait so you're telling us you broke it off with a woman who did sacrifice and waited on you for ten years because she wanted progression. AFTER. TEN. YEARS. This isn't good advice this is a cautionary tale.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 10:31 PM
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I'd bet money that he was just saying he was going to propose this summer as a manipulation tbh. Also do you think you were acting too much like a wife and not enough like girlfriend? Honestly, you should move out by yourself. Get your own roommate and put him on the back foot and put him back into a position of having to chase.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 09:49 PM
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Whoah whoah whoah is there a parade BECAUSE LOOK AT ALL THESE RED FLAGS. Imo he is fundamentally not captain material. A leader and a man should never ask more of you than he is willing to put in himself. This is not something you can train out of a man and is set in rearing. The problem with this is long term and we see this a lot with nonrpw, you'll end up working and doing the bulk of the home labor and child rearing. While he only works and become unappreciative. And considering the mother f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:35 PM
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I really disagree with you. You're basically telling her to expend an undetermined amount of time and effort on a chance. Not even a guarantee of forward progression. He could end up completely rejecting her efforts at any time as well meaning all of it was for nothing. It's not her job to spend the rest of her 20s "fixing" him and trying to mould him into a captain. He at his age should be fixing himself and deciding what kind of man he should be. Also you're not accounting for a fertility time…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:20 PM
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Wait he wants to buy a house and then work part time while you work full time?? I'm assuming he's not sitting on a large inheritance, so how does he expect to pull off a mortgage and his part of the bills on a part time income? That sounds fishy and unrealistic.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:05 PM
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It depends on the specifics between you all really. If youve stuck it out for two years then you should know how capable he is and if he's captain material. Is he able to put up boundaries with her? Can you deal with her long term? Does he expect you to become a replacement for his mother? Honestly, I agree with the comment about encouraging him to move out. Even if he refuses you'll be able to gage the attachment/ dependency between them a little better.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 08:08 AM
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I'd avoid him like the plague if I were you. He may not turn out to be totally dependent but she'd become a nightmare long term.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 07:44 AM
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You should get him in the gym. I know its a sly tactic but tell him you want to get fit together and get him lifting weights. It'll boost his T and dopamine levels. Plus it'll give him a chance to be a around bigger and possibly more masculine men to get a positive influence rather than being around just office staff. Honestly, again v sly, but this is what I did when my fiance started his desk job and needed the guidence 🤷‍♀️ it's worked really well for his mind set and actual health.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:12 AM
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Crock. Pots.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 08:22 PM
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Why cant he travel to see you? Also him wanting you to put him before a child who is important to you is a bit of a red flag tbh
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 04:11 AM
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Honestly, if you're both working so much try fitting hiring help into your budget. Trust me, it sounds wild but for a hundred or so bucks a week it'll take away the entire strain of the situation, everything will be done right and it'll free up more of both of your times.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:37 PM
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Mandatory romantic gestures sound very unromantic imo.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 08:00 AM
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