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olympiaa/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 11:49 AM
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Thanks. Honestly at this point i'm trying to just be the same. So far so good. Haha love the fresh squeezed coconut water! Sounds like something one of my husband's friend's wives would request. She already expects princess treatment, I cannot imagine her pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 09:48 AM
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Good point. I have two weeks until my first appointment so of course I've been googling way too much.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 09:46 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 09:46 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 09:45 AM
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Oh cool! Congrats to you as well. Thanks! I'm trying not to discuss it all the time, but I can tell he's excited because he's bringing it up all on his own. Last night he made me a list of names he likes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 09:45 AM
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I want to stay far away from the drama. I've been working out so far with no issue so I hope to keep that up. My husband and I have always been in good shape so I don't want to lose that. My neighbor is also pregnant and she's totally normal so I think I'll probably stick with her. No need to go out and make random friends with other pregnant ladies. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 03:24 PM
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Good to know. I'll see ehat she says when I go in two weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:59 PM
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Thanks. Good point. Any recommendations?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:58 PM
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Thanks! Good luck to you. I feel like the whole waiting to try and then actually trying process really brought us closer. My husband has been amazing through out everything.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:44 PM
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Thank you so much! I agree that pregnancy doesn't make me want to serve my husband any less. If anything I want to more. Great point about seeking help if needed. I will absolutely keep that in mind. Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and that you have a sweet baby to love on soon.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:42 PM
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Thank you so much. This is all great advice. I will definitely post a field report later on, maybe it can help some other women. I haven't seen my doctor yet, but I did get a nice nutrition booklet from my insurance company and it says I shouldn't really be eating more until the 3rd trimester. So far my nutrition has been excellent. I am hungrier, but just eating smallef meals and snacks more often. I feel like I am healthier now than before. I am trying to be very aware of my moods and what I s…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:12 PM
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Thank you. This is a great suggestion. I know my husband would definitely appreciate a warning if I'm getting a little crazy. I can feel when I'm losing it so this will work for me. I don't want to ever take advantage of him or even have him feel like I am. He's so excited, I don't want to ruin this experience for him by being a crazy bitch.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:07 PM
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Good suggestion. I also have a few FB friends from middle school actually who have had a few babies naturally at home - might pick their brains. They seem reasonable and at least from what I can tell on social media, pretty RP in mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:04 PM
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I'm not so sure. Anything and everything? So much of what I've seen online is about being a pampered princess during pregnancy and also about the pain and stress of childbirth and parenting. I don't know where to look for normal advice.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:45 PM
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Thank you. I am definitely keeping this in mind. I can feel the bitchy hamster spinning more now, but it is still easy to keep in check. I'm trying to continue life as normal for now, just adding the excitement for a baby. I do not need to be or want tp be a princess.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:43 PM
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Haha thank you! Very good advice. We are trying to be as relaxed and calm about the pregnancy as possible, so far so good. I'm just worried I might lose control with horomones later on. I have been noticing that I feel more moody and bitchy at times, but I keep it to myself and just move on. I hope I can keep that up. I don't want to lose it on my wonderful husband over something ridiculous. I don't know a whole lot of women who have had babies in real life so I'm mainly poking around online. Cl…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:42 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:38 PM
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Thank you! I already asked my husband to help keep me in line there. I don't want to use my pregnancy as an excuse to go crazy and gain too much weight/eat things I'm not supposed to.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:38 PM
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Thank you! I absolutely want to avoid a princess mentality and a lot of the advice I've read online so far seems to cater to that. My husband is so excited and does want to help, but I don't want him doing everything. Now that I'm still feeling OK I am trying to get a lot done, because who knows how I'll feel next week.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 01:36 PM
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My husband and I have two cars that we share and I have a leased company car. All three are very clean, mainly because my husband loves to wash and clean them. It's his most favorite task and he would probably clean them every day if he could. If it was just me alone they would be clean on the inside (we don't keep anything in the cars, no food, drinks, etc), but the outside probably wouldn't be as sparkling clean. I do really appreciate his time and work to keep all the cars clean.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 12:02 PM
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So of the two, would you say not wanting to captain the ship is a bigger deal breaker for you than not being the main/sole breadwinner? Being the main/sole breadwinner does not make you captain of the ship. There are plenty of men who are sole breadwinners, but not captains. My husband is the captain; however, we are both in agreement that we will both always work as long as we are able to. Right now we both work and earn pretty similar incomes. He has made it very clear he does not want me to b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 01:46 PM
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Thanks for this. I'm currently trying to get pregnant and this has been one of my concerns. I don't want to gain too much weight and I don't want to get out of shape.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 08:20 AM
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So thoughtful!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 01:42 PM
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I had briefly mentioned to my husband awhile ago that I was thinking of learning how to knit because I thought it would be a fun hobby. I didn't think anything of it until he came home from his last business trip with a beginners knitting kit for me. I was so touched that he remembered my comment, but also went out of his way to find it for me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 01:41 PM
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Completely agreed. Most of the women I was referring to seemed to fall into the role of stay-at-home mother rather aspire to it. Some choose it out of laziness, necessity or ease, but very rarely out of passion. I think for a lot of families a stay-at-home parent is a luxury . At least where we live it's not really possible to raise a family on a single salary.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/15 05:24 AM
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We don't have a child yet, but are trying and have already agreed that I will continue working after our baby is born. Although my husband grew up with a stay-at-home mom it's not something he wants for our family at this point. I can take up to a year off in paid maternity leave and my company has already agreed to allow me to work from home as I want. We also live in the same town as both my parents and his parents so our child will never need to go to daycare. I think a stay-at-home mother/ho…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/15 04:17 PM
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I just read and replied to that comment. I do feel bad for him. He's already made one huge mistake and is close to making a second. This woman will financially ruin him if he isn't careful.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 07:35 AM
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You already made the mistake of impregnating an incompatible woman and tying yourself to her for at least 18 years. Don't make the second mistake of financially ruining yourself so she can keep up her entitlement and bad habits. Do not buy a house with her. Do not combine finances with her. You need to figure out what you want here as there are still some options open for you. She has already made clear that she isn't planning on changing her habits/tastes/behavior and expects you to pick up the…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 07:34 AM
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He didn't even refer to it as raising a child, but rather watching a child. That kind of word choice says a lot to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 09:31 PM
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Every family and every relationship is different. Some families prioritize a stay at home parent, others don't. It sounds like your girlfriend wants to stay home and raise her own child rather than going back to work. That isn't necessarily wrong. You on the other hand seem to prefer a family where both parents work and earn an income. That also isn't necessarily wrong, but clearly these two visions of how your family should function are completely at odds. Having a baby is a huge life change an…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 07:41 PM
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It's also something I've been working on as well. I struggle with directness and I know my indirectness comes off as pushy or underhanded and my husband hates that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 09:48 AM
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I posted awhile ago about how to talk to my husband about trying for a baby. He had told me right after we got married that he wanted to wait awhile and then we just stopped talking about it. After a year or so I got frustrated and started making indirect comments/hints and it just poisoned the whole situation. I took the advice of most posters to sit him, bring up the subject directly, explain my reasons for wanting to try now and then ask for his opinion. The outcome was better than I expected…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 10:11 AM
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Is he a puppy or an older dog? The big question for me is who typically feeds the dog? Every dog/cat I've known tends to gravitate toward whoever feeds them. My in-laws split the feeding of their dog between them and even though my FIL does all the dog walking, their dog really doesn't seem to prefer either of them. In fact she sleeps half the night with each of them. If your boyfriend is telling you not to worry about it, then don't. My husband knows our cats prefer me, but they still love on h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:35 PM
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My boyfriend (A) and I just took the exciting step of adopting a dog together. It's understood that it's ultimately his dog, but I'm still the mama. I'm a little confused how you adopted a dog together and you're the mama, but it's ultimately his? When you say you're the mama, does that mean you are the dog's primary caretaker? Who walks the dog? Who feeds him? Who brushes him? What are your responsibilities for the dog vs. your boyfriend? In my experience animals tend to prefer the one who take…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:46 PM
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Oh climbing is so much fun! I started climbing with my now husband years ago. It's one of our most favorite couple activities. I found doing yoga on the side really helps because as you move up in difficulty levesl a lot of the routes require ever more balance and flexibility.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:06 AM
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I completely agree with you. Also, as someone who grew up with both step-siblings and half-siblings it is not a dynamic I want for my own family.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 01:02 PM
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I wouldn't be worried about it as long as you don't prioritize your career over your family. Being a RPW doesn't mean you have to be a stay at home wife and mother, but it's more about how you approach your relationships, your family, your outlook on life, etc. Having a career and being a RPW are not mutually exclusive. I think there is nothing wrong with having a career in a male dominated field. I myself work in a similar field to you, but it just means you need to be more careful how you beha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 01:00 PM
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I originally came here as a teenager with my parents, met my now husband in high school and then ended up staying for school and for work.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 08:54 AM
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I'm American, but living in Germany for 13 years.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 08:36 AM
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To be honest I don't really pack for my husband. He prefers to do that himself. I just wash and iron everything before he leaves. On the day before he leaves though he likes when I quiz him if he remembered the most important items (passport, wallet, etc.). One thing I learned that my husband loves while he travels is just being available to talk on the phone or text in his morning before work and in the evening before bed. My husband travels a lot in other time zones and it means a lot to him i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 11:07 AM
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My rice cooker and wok. We eat a ton of rice so having a cooker is handy and easy. I absolutely love my wok for frying, steaming, stir-frying, etc. Between the wok and my dutch oven I almost don't need anything else. I don't know how many quarts my dutch oven it, but it says 28cm on it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 11:00 AM
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Which begs the question: what do you think would be a fair breakdown and why? You have to work out what you consider appropriate division of finances in your relationship, but you also need to think about the why. Say he did pay more than 50% what would you do with the extra money from your parents? Would that really make you feel less bitter about doing all the domestic work around the house? Why is the money tied to your feelings about housework? Personally I think it sets a dangerous preceden…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 10:07 AM
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I completely agree. Also, don't forget the ice cream maker attachment. My husband loved having homemade ice cream all summer!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 07:26 AM
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I completely agree with this. There is nothing about red pill that says you can't ask for help if you need it. It's about asking for help in the right way, not expecting your partner to read your mind. My husband loves when I ask him for help. Everyone wants to feel needed and valued.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 05:32 PM
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I would completely ignore the financial aspect as I think that's part of what's making you bitter here. I know this is going to come across as blunt, but you aren't contributing equally. Neither of you are. At least from what you've written here it sounds like your parents are paying your way. That aside, you say you want to do all domestic housework, but at the same time you are clearly feeling bitter about it. Why is that? Do you feel like he should be helping or do you feel like he should be …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 05:31 PM
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My husband's family is Chinese, so I can understand some of the cultural elements at play here. Have you considered hiring in-home professional help? There are intermediary steps between putting her in a nursing home and trying to care for her at home entirely on your own. Is there anyone else in your local Korean community who you could talk to about the situation? Preferably someone of the same age as your father in law?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 11:30 AM
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What helped us is that when we moved into our first apartment together we were actually both moving into our first apartment period. Neither one of us had a lot of stuff or furniture so it gave us the opportunity to decide together how we wanted to decorate it and what we wanted to buy. Now we've just bought our first house and had the most amazing time making it feel like our own. To be honest I let my husband take the lead. He has wonderful taste in design and inherited a ton of beautiful deco…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 06:55 PM
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I started taking prenatals a few months ago and I think my nutrition is pretty good, but have been slacking on exercise since the move as we were working in the house and yard all day every day, but I'm picking it up again. I'm also planning some medical check ups to make sure everything is okay. We've both started reading, planning and budgeting. He already wants to start buying furniture for the nursery and has brought all of his childhood toys over from his parents house. I love how excited h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 05:12 PM
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Honestly I would handle it on my own, if I can. I'm a child of immigrants who don't speak the language well enough here so they wouldn't be able to help me at all and my extended family is an ocean away. Although sometimes I do ask my husband's family for help.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 09:29 AM
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I would go with option #3. My husband travels frequently for work and if I had a minor accident or problem while he was away, I would wait to tell him until it was solved. He has enough stress from work and I wouldn't want to burden him with more problems he would feel like he had to fix from far away. However, if it was serious or I wasn't able to solve it immediately, then I would absolutely tell him. This is just from my personal experience and obviously every relationship is different.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 11:27 AM
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Don't get complacent and stop trying. Take care of him, take care of yourself, take care of your house, children or pets if you have them. Marriage is absolutely work, but I think the best kind of work if you really put the effort in.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 08:45 AM
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I think this is great advice. I'm in a slightly different but similar situation in that my husband travels often in Asia for work (6-7 hours ahead) and I know how much he appreciates that I adjust my sleep schedule for him. I make sure to go to bed early so I can be awake to chat with him when he wakes up for work or if he wants to talk during his breaks.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/15 09:52 AM
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Thanks! I appreciate the honesty. I definitely struggle with being direct and it's something I am working on. This will probably be a good test.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 08:45 AM
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Honestly I would just let it. No good will come of being upset and betrayed. You can't and shouldn't control his parents and this situation doesn't seem worth insisting on your SO stepping in. In the long run if you see a future with this man you will be better served by just letting it go. Don't bring it up and stay respectful and friendly. Quick story time. My brother has been with his girlfriend for almost 5 years now and to put it lightly my father has been pretty awful to her. He straight u…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 05:05 PM
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Thanks! I hope to be there soon. We just moved into our new house a few months ago and he's already referring to our empty room as the baby room (even to his parents - his mom called it the guest room and he corrected her) so I'm hopeful it's on his horizon. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 06:22 PM
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Love this! I definitely need to remind myself to talk about the logical reasons and not the other more emotional/hormonal reasons. Good to remember. :) Good point about showing I will be a good mom. My husband definitely responds to showing better than telling. Thanks again!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 05:48 PM
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The not knowing where we stand.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 05:39 PM
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Thank you. This is definitely important to remember. I feel a lot better about this conversation now and I am really excited to hear what he thinks. Unfortunately he's away on a business trip now so I have to wait a little longer.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 05:38 PM
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I have not had a chance to read the book yet, but you have a very interesting point that I hadn't considered. I don't want to be too direct, but I also don't want to talk too much and control the situation. I just need to make the point that this is something I am thinking about and leave the rest in his hands. I am really glad I posed this question and happy to see the responses.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:55 PM
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Mine are verbal affirmation and physical touch. My husband's are acts of service and quality time. I think in a lot of ways our languages of touch and quality time definitely overlap, which is nice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:46 PM
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Thanks! This is a great way to put it. I really just need to know what he thinks about it. Now just to find the right time. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:39 PM
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Exactly! Thank you. I want to bring it up in a normal way and just talk about where we are at. It's the not knowing that is killing me at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:38 PM
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This is literally the only thing I was able to come up with and to be honest I was a little nervous starting the conversation like that. I don't want to feel like I'm pushing him and I'm afraid saying I want this is too direct.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:37 PM
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Thanks for this. I like the phrasing and how it opens the conversation up to what he thinks about it. I don't want him to feel like I'm pushing too much.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:36 PM
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My husband and I had been talking about marriage in the abstract since the early weeks/months of our relationship. I never received an official proposal. We were just talking about marriage more specifically one day and he said "ok, let's get married". His mother gave me her engagement ring and about 9 months later we eloped. I saw in other comments you were asking about eloping and regret. I don't regret our elopement in the least. We've just bought our first home and are very happy that we hav…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 07:41 AM
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I'm second generation owner in a family business (with my parent's name on the building) and I still took my husband's name with zero hestiation. Legally I dropped my maiden name entirely and I use first name, original middle name, husband's last name. However, professionally I use first name, maiden name, husband's last name. There's no rule that I know of that says you have to use your official legal name at work. Maybe it's just me, but I loved getting to change my name and I love my new name…
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