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omured/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 11:40 AM
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To me, The path is what matters. Many at MRP (me included) were too afraid to act on our own lifes. Once we start to DO things, life starts to happen. Different paths for different men, yet all point to the same destination : what do I want? I got to the point were the emotional world, shared with a partner, including sex, was a way I wanted to experiment. And i am walking that path. It does not dimishes frame, stoicism or whatever other feature we praise here, but it is true that it adds vulner…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/23 06:09 PM
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Your present is fucked because of your past decisions. Plan today for the long term. Have a vision, and start working for it. Stick to your vision. Apply your plan. Anything that is not aligned with it, is not to be part of your life. Learn from past errors.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 12:34 PM
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Relating anxiety, if it was triggered by your doctor speaking to you, it seems an emotional issue. If you do not know what this is related to, but want to see it, look for a safe place where you can be alone a couple of hours, or with a good friend, and "let it arise". It may be "emotionally disturbing" but unless you give a space for it to "flow out" it will remain hidden and only leak in drops, in places and times where you do not want.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/22 06:34 AM
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Solipsism 101 : "there is love around, it must be here because of me" In the long run, you may get to a point where the following is not only a set of words, but your truth: "I do not love YOU. I DO love, and you just happen to be around".
/r/askMRP05/10/22 09:39 AM
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"Why would they want me?" Is a víctim position. Take a further look there. What about "what do I have to offer to the World?". You are unique. I do not know you, but you are unique. In some time, you will stop comparing yourself to "every man without herpes". Because look: you will do extraordinary things. And even there, you will look at yourself and think "hey, what i did was awasone, but ... a man doing this same extraordinary shit BUT WITHOUT HERPES, maaan he is better than me" Do you see th…
/r/askMRP28/09/22 05:58 PM
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Let me guess: you are asking for "new mind sets", to see if any of them switch fine with you, and you can see a blindspot or add a new structure to your frame that helps to deal with your health issue. I think it is not bad to ask for different opinions, and here goes one : instead of trying to solve your actual problem with a new "feature" to add to your "frame", what about just accepting the situation as it is?? And then, ask yourself "what is this situation forcing me to do / or preventing me…
/r/askMRP28/09/22 12:10 PM
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If standard medicine is not helping, you can try "out of the box" medicine. I do not have experience with herpes, but in my life (49) I have tried homeopathy and chinese acupuncture, with good results. Get an appointment with a good profesional, explain your situation, get feedback, and if it seems ok, give it a try. Worst case, you will be at the same point where you are now, with a new experience you can use for your social works. An additional way I can suggest is read through this book: "the…
/r/askMRP28/09/22 11:03 AM
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I tried a slightly different approach: I wait for the appropriate conversation and then made it impersonal, as if talking philosophy with a dude: "i think satisfying sex is important for a man. Best is within the couple, but if this not possible, then other options are ok " She will make it personal. Or not, but you have already layed the template for future actions. Do not force it. Do not insist. Do not go back again to this theme. It was just casual conversation. It takes time to build a full…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 07:37 PM
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You know how to fix that : fix it Your wife does not trust you : ok, good to know In both cases: STFU You do not need her approval. Just fix it and STFU.
/r/askMRP20/09/22 06:17 PM
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There is a PDF compilation of TOP1000 MRP posts, compiled from u/dream-hunter and available at TheRedArchive. Com. It was +1000 pages of "old posts".
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 04:33 AM
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What do you think will happen when you "radiate warm energy with zero ego"? (Hint: if the answer is "People will..." or a variation of that, this is a fucking NMMNG covert contract)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 04:27 AM
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Remove the 'will' and do it now. You lied because you were afraid. AA/AM will buy you time, but you need to go inside and fix that. Use OYS to identify long term issues and blind spots. "Fear", for you, is The Motherfucker.
/r/askMRP01/09/22 05:55 AM
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Time to Eat, Pray and Love. It can be a change from trying to fight the World. Just for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:35 PM
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I was on my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:31 PM
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That was fun :)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 10:11 AM
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It was a tantra massage course. Lots of shaking, dancing and naked bodies. Massage training included penis, vagina and breast massage.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 09:52 AM
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OYS44 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 94Kg (207 lbs), BF23%, married 20y, 2 kids under 15 Lifts : SQ:5x70Kg (154lbs), BP:7x68Kg (150lbs), OHP:6x42Kg (93lbs), DL:3x114Kg (251lbs). Abandoned SL5x5, moved to RPT. Slow increases in weight. Added some additional exercises. Changed Barbel Row for Chest Supported Row. Doing 2 days per week at the gym, training takes about 90 minutes. The 3 days rest in between feel very good. Others Sex had been up for a while. Bought some toys and extras, and rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:24 PM
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OYS43 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 95Kg (209 lbs), BF23%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x70Kg (154lbs), BP:8x65Kg (143lbs), Row:8x62Kg (136lbs), OHP:6x41Kg (90lbs), DL:5x108Kg (238lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game, Ryan Stone NMMG videos, Say it again Physical, nutrition • Tracked at 2120 cals. Prot 27%. Carb 35%. Fat 34%. Pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 02:35 PM
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About Your "marriage" section: "this is the way". I am 49 too and I walked that path too. Although I resisted much more than you: I mean you got it sooner than me. Go down a bit more with your weight and let's see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 07:23 PM
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That is a ... fucking ... useful ... information. I will for sure give it a try. I just sent it to my email, and will start to check about it. I will update on my weekly OYS. Again, thanks for your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 02:20 PM
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Your reply has lot of information to digest. Thanks for sharing. If you don't mind I ask ... how old are you? I could not find it on your previous posts. I checked on your last recommendations. StrongerbyScience (interesting), DanteTrudel (too heavy for me!) and HypetrophyCoach (pending) and a couple of other links which did not apply to me (recovery by shorting blood flow and similar). Up to know I have been working on SL5x5 (15 months) with no previous experience on lifting before. So I am qui…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 12:18 PM
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mental issue here. I bounce between pushing hard (which creates bad form and risk of injury), and pushing slowly (with controlled form and no risk of injury) which means i am not pushing as hard as i could. I am working on how to reconcile both:pushing hard + no risk of injury, which means maintaining good form. i think this means to intégrate the movement, without thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 08:58 AM
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Yep. I am ashamed myself. I had a max on squats of 98kg (216 lbs) and then small injury. But the other lifts, i was a bit higher, but not much. Working on it but still not fixed. I keep trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 07:45 PM
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As I replied to rockandrollchuck, I have no intention to be disrespectful to any personal believes. You and me do not share the same image when we talk about god. I can agree with all that you say, and still, it has nothing to do with my image of god. This dude is clearly floundering. He's in turmoil and he's struggling. But that's what you need to go through in order to exert real change. Absolutely agree; no pain, no gains. I just had the feeling from his words, that he had nothing to give him…
/r/askMRP14/06/22 12:29 PM
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OYS42 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 95Kg (209 lbs), BF22%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x60Kg (132lbs), BP:5x62Kg (137lbs), Row:5x60Kg (143lbs), OHP:5x40Kg (88lbs), DL:5x103Kg (227lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game, Ryan Stone NMMG videos, Say it again Book : Say it again --> finished. I liked the examples about talking bold w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 12:20 PM
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This guy seems to have no emotional support at all around him. Not even himself is supportive of himself. The concept of god, if properly used, can help him to build the minimun internal structure about self acceptance he needs to go to the outside world and rebuild himself the way he wants.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 09:38 AM
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Downvoted for speaking about a God you know nothing about Your are guessing here. ​ and for using the F-word while talking about how that God will help people What is the problem with that? ​ Congruence is important Seems that we have different views of God. Anyway, it was not my intention to offend any personal believes.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 09:34 AM
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I do not know if you have god believes or not, but in your case it can be useful. Relax a bit more and remember that god loves you the way you are. You need to change nothing. Feel it. When you feel better with yourself, go to the fucking outside World like with Braveheart confidence, and test the changes you want to make with yourself. Try, fight your fears, test your inhabilities and give the best you can give for today. Then go back home, heal your bruises, take care of your pains, go back to…
/r/askMRP13/06/22 12:34 PM
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Noted, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:43 PM
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Yep. I do not do it anymore. Slow motion is more controlled and I can feel more the effort and if something is good or wrong at the body. As usefulWalk correctly saw, my beginner trainer was related to crossfit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:30 PM
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Right. My gym is a crossfit box and the guy I hired at the begining of my journey, to train me the basics, is related to the crossfit gym. It took me 1 year and some pain to introduce the sloooow movement concept.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:18 PM
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Thanks for the time and the resources. I will check.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:09 PM
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I.e. ways to build muscle with less weight on the joint Any resource that you can provide on that? I would appreciate. I am at "end 40's", and a newbie in most of the barbell and gym world. When I started (1 year ago) I was told to do fast, explossive movements, and use the "rebounds" of the body (Squat, Bench, ...). Nowadays I prefer to do slooow movements when doing barbell exercices (found this info in videos from Andrew Baye). The movement is more controlled.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 01:43 PM
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OYS41 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 96Kg (212 lbs), BF22%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x40Kg (88lbs), BP:5x62Kg (137lbs), Row:5x60Kg (132lbs), OHP:4x40Kg (88lbs), DL:5x100Kg (220lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game, Ryan Stone NMMG videos Physical, nutrition Objective 2100 cals (Reduced from 2200 to 2100cals/day),…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 01:33 PM
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That was a fun video to see! I did not understand half the shit it says but I get the idea :)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 05:45 PM
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I also work better by skipping breakfast. And similar to you, my wife (now) loves to fuck. Who would have imagined that!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 02:39 PM
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Decide for yourself and let her decide for her. I have been waiting for ages for my wife to make decissions. At the end, she will join you or not, but thats her decision, not yours. You disrespected her by applying logic to her feelings. It is not about the nail. Apply number 1 (do what you want) and number 2 (do not apply logic with her) is a corollary. You do not need to convince her of any thing as you already applied number 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 02:35 PM
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OYS40 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 96Kg (212 lbs), BF23%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x---Kg (---lbs), BP:5x62Kg (137lbs), Row:5x60Kg (132lbs), OHP:4x40Kg (88lbs), DL:5x100Kg (220lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game, Ryan Stone NMMG videos Physical, nutrition My belts need another hole (because of less waist, not…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 01:52 PM
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You are doing loooots of things... At least take something good from it: you can do it your own way. If you do it, then you decide how to do it. And then handle her shit like a pro, with a nice smile, while your kids are feeling like fuckkng supermen with that underwear on top of their pants. They are dressed, right? Job done. You happy. Kids happy. Wife a bitch. But you know, she is going to be a bitch Anyway... don't you??
/r/askMRP28/05/22 11:51 AM
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I'm up late wasting time on YouTube or Reddit, or occasionally reading, which sets me up for being extra tired and lazier the next day. I have to cut that out. I need sleep, and I need to get on track. Come on, that's an easy one. I assume you have a defined wake up time. Decide how many hours you need to sleep. Do the math and calculate the time to go bed. Apply. No discussion. Just Apply. If still tired, add 30 minutes more and apply again. Repeat until ok. Youtube and reddit will still be the…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:29 PM
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You need to lift heavier AND lose weight. That's what I am trying to do. My BP is horrible and my DL also. And BF also. I am placing BP and DL as the first exercises of my routine, and moved SQ to a separate day. I expect this will help to increase weight again on BP and DL. At this moment, I can not move more than the BP weight indicated. That's a fact. I am changing things to pass through it in the short future. If I succeed, great. Otherwise, I will try another thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:21 PM
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OYS39 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 97Kg (213 lbs), BF24%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x80Kg (176lbs), BP:5x60Kg (132lbs), Row:5x70Kg (154lbs), OHP:5x42Kg (92lbs), DL:5x100Kg (220lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again, Ryan Stone NMMG videos Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game Physical, nutrition I should be down at 96Kg (211lbs) and instead, I am sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 03:45 PM
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I used the "she has the period today" as an excuse to not initiate, together with the "she is tired today", "she is angry today", "she fucked yesterday so I will not initiate today " and similar ones. They all hid the fact that i was a pussy and was afraid of rejection. I just could not see it, so i was carefully planning my táctics to reach my next fuck. Waiting for the perfect moment that never came. The fact is, and I was told many times, that i was afraid of my wife reactions. And the way to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 06:16 PM
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I frame it as a game because it is fun. But the final objetive is not to play, but to guide my partner to talk about some specific issues, and fill the conversations with my own ideas by pretending I am just asking her, or by saying that somebody told me xyz. Then see her reactions and adapt from there. Initially my conversations with my wife were very straightforward : I think A and we should do B. This created resistance. By playing this type of womanese covert interactions, information flows …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 09:48 AM
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Meditation is not suppossed to be one thing. It is a space you give to yourself to focus on something. If it is focusing on a quiet mind, so be it. Focusing on a personal issue is also an option. There are others.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:54 PM
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I have been playing that game also. We have a time each week, alone, two or three hours. I let her speak what she wants and I promote (validate) only those ideas or conversation themes that I find beneficial to us as a couple. Some are short term beneficial, others are more long term goals and not so directly evident.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:30 PM
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Sounds fun. I volunteer for the corpse disection. Edit : Just found that EST is not Europe Standard Time :) Will see the video replay if available.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:27 PM
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OYS38 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 97Kg (213 lbs), BF23%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x80Kg (176lbs), BP:3x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x70Kg (154lbs), OHP:5x42Kg (92lbs), DL:5x90Kg (198lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again, Ryan Stone NMMG videos Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game Physical, nutrition and lifts Weight stable at 97Kg (213 lbs), maintaining c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:22 PM
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Agree. As most of us here you do not know what you really need. Take the MAP as a starting point, if that makes sense to you, and start doing the work. It will become clearer as you start walking/working.
/r/askMRP03/05/22 07:07 AM
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You - OP - are one of them Absolutely. I arrived here because I was a retard. I still am, although maybe a bit less ... or maybe not. I assume that even the mods, were retards at some point in time. I appreciate this sub, and the comments from experienced users.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 11:01 AM
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Hi u/Ubermensch, I have much respect for this sub, how it is being managed, and the focus on tangible actions that can have tangible consequences that can be discussed and analyzed. The system works, and it works for a lot of guys. That being said, I could not contribute with anything new, but still, i felt to contribute with my experience of this first year. I have (and still are) reading a PDF with the main posts from MRP since ... ¿2017? ... and the 1, 2 and 3 year posts are always very inter…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 10:57 AM
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I am not tracking those values, so I am guessing right now: Water : between 1.5 and 2 liters / day with "raw vegetables" you mean "raw", like without cooking? In this case, not much. Most of my vegetables are cooked (either fried, grilled or steam boiled). Any potential problems that? Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 07:01 AM
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OYS37 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 97Kg (213 lbs), BF 24%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:6x80Kg (176lbs), BP:5x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x70Kg (154lbs), OHP:5x43Kg (94lbs), DL:4x105Kg (238lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again, Ryan Stone NMMG videos Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game Physical Last week I reduced caloric intake from 2400 to 2200 cal/day, aft…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 02:52 PM
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Who are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:37 AM
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Estoy contento a practicar. Yo vivi en San Sebastian cuatro meces en 2008. That's a lovely small town to be for a while. And wonderful place to eat, if you do not mind to try new things. Although, popular culture says that basque girls are very difficult to game.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:34 AM
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What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow LOL, I had to web translate this, in order to understand it ! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:24 AM
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/u/omured let me know if you followed that (English isn't your first language right?) and if it sounds about right. English no my first language, right. I understand your analogy, in the sense that whatever was fucked up, it was hidden, and not directly visible. "Shut the system down" would be the sex moratorium to deal with the anger. Rerouted again the anger and sex wires to make them independent. Switched power back on and realized all made much sense now. Not just for sex, but the whole pers…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:22 AM
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What did you DO that made you more attractive? You're saying that just became less angry/dropped covert contracts, and just like that, your wife started fucking you more? I stopped being unnatractive. Does this include less anger anger and less covert contracts? Yes. Its that all? No. There are more parts, and you know them good: STFU, DNGAF, game, have a life, lift, etc. Do I check them all? No, absolutely no. But It seems that for me, sex-anger was a main knot. And wether my wife fucked me mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:08 AM
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Thanks Ragnar, good spanish :) I know, I am still fat. To be honest, I started to work on my weight since February. So 3 months. I started the gym one year ago because MRP said "Lift, Read, STFU". So I went to the gym (like a retard), read (decently) and STFU (like a retard for a good while). I am working to fix that. I feel better with these 7 Kilos less, and my small increase in strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:58 PM
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No, the simple truth is that I was stupid. And my wife was reflecting that to me. Related to your question, my wife had a time when she shared that her sexual libido was "once every two weeks" or something like that. Bullshit. I was not attractive enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:46 PM
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what do you mean by" taking care of yourself"? Is it like physically, like fucking other chicks, or something? Or was this like a mental model change, like you taking responsibility for getting your needs met, that you felt needed to be verbalized? It was a mental deconstruction, if I can say that. A structure that was in my mind, that was made of fear, covert contracts, dependency, etc, it suddenly was clear, and with clarity its power was gone. Its power emerged from the fact that it was hidde…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:43 PM
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Completely agree. I read all this information, many times, here and there. And still, if it does not click, it does not click. There was a moment, where it all clicked together, and the house of cards collapsed ... or better, it dissapeared. My main issue here was mental. I was being a scared kid. I had to grow up. It took me 48 years of my life to reach to that point. My needs are my responsibility. As simple as it sounds, there were consquences I did not want to face (mental consequences: "if …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:27 PM
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My main issue these months has been this sex-anger situation. I was blind to the fact that my anger was fueled by sex repression. This is what I wanted to share, as somebody else could be as lost as I was about it. I did many of the "tried X, resulted in Y" but results were not significant. Probably a grinding process until I arrived to the main knot. 1.The decission to prioritize anger and keep sex on hold, was mostly intuitive The reduction on anger was mainly by applying the information on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:17 PM
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Me too. But my life does not change so much in a week :)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 04:45 PM
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My main focus at this moment is physical. Mainly related to diet. I started gym one year ago. I started to control my diet 8 weeks ago. I am stronger, but my belly is still there. I had my ups and downs with the gym, related to form, small injuries, and similar. I am actually going 2 days a week, plus one week for basketball with friends. As secondary issues: - I keep working on my relation with wife and sex. This has improved a lot, sex is no more an issue. Not ideal, but no an issue at this mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 12:01 PM
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OYS36 Stats : Age 49, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 98Kg (216 lbs), BF26%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:5x78Kg (171lbs), BP:5x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x67Kg (147lbs), OHP:4x43Kg (94lbs), DL:6x108Kg (238lbs). Reading: The rational Male III, Say it again Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : link Physical I have been 8 weeks tracking macros. I remove the TDEE value. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 03:42 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I do not know how to reach the 200gr eating food. How do you do it? I mean, 200 gr of chicken breast is about 45 gr of protein. To get to 200gr protein i should eat the equivalent of +800gr chicken breast. I do not see how to do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 10:48 AM
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You seemed to have with the african!! Enjoy
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 04:35 AM
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I am curious. Which plate did you drop? The african, the aussie or the asian?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:30 PM
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"Free mind space"... i had similar experience after my talk by end last year. It was a Rubicon moment. I decided i was trying no more to please her and I was going to take care of my needs first. Similar to you, sex increased both in quality and quantity, but still, the decision was there to stay. this changed the focus of my energy. And yes, a feeling of inner space (freedom). That was a tough wall to cross.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:20 PM
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This day, sir, is today
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:00 PM
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OYS35 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 98Kg (216 lbs), BF 26%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:6x77Kg (169lbs), BP:4x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x67Kg (147lbs), OHP:4x43Kg (94lbs), DL:6x108Kg (238lbs). To do list for 2022 : link Physical & food data Weekly mean values : TDEE at 2654, daily objective calories 90% at 2388 cals, real at 2079 (1890 +10%). Prot 18%. Carb 53%. Fat 26%. Waist 107cm (42’’), Chest 113cm (44’’) Neck 42 cm(16’’) Physical & food comments Slowed progression on squats. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:59 PM
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Read the sidebar. If you have parachute landed here just by chance, this May be the Lucky day of your life . Who knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 06:50 PM
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"Maybe thats who i am" deserves a stupid reply like : Maybe you need a fuck (with a serious face). And then she would go away, not you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:57 PM
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Taking time to own my anger was a major milestone. At a point I convinced myself that "whenever I am angry, i am angry with myself". I built a protocol in my head that reminded me, automatically, that this had nothing to do with that person and that I was angry with myself. After some trials, the protocol won, because truth was on its side. And anger started to fade... and other things appeared.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:43 PM
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"What time is it?" phone is in my pocket,... not jacket, the trousers... left one (or right depending on which side you charge)... yes, its there,... deeper... look for it... Ideally your cock is there and growing ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:34 PM
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I sometimes feel the same about me!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:15 PM
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OYS34 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 98Kg (216 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifting : SQ:6x75Kg (165lbs), BP:4x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x67Kg (147lbs), OHP:5x42Kg (92lbs), DL:4x108Kg (238lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : link Physical Weekly mean values : TDEE at 2652, daily objective calories 90% at 2386 ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 01:59 PM
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Your focus is scary :)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:30 AM
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Thanks for the Waist feedback, I was curious to know any experience from guys here. Let's see next weeks. I take your comment on "the system is my friend". Loved it. I read your OYS, and really enjoyed your sexual stories. Have fun!!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 05:53 AM
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...speaking your truth and how you feel without caring how others might react. ... This related to my own OYS: speaking my truth but I DO care how do others will react ... shitty place to be ! I will work on the not caring what others think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 02:40 PM
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OYS33 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 98Kg (216 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:6x55Kg (121lbs), BP:4x63Kg (138lbs), Row:6x66Kg (145lbs), OHP:5x41Kg (90lbs), DL:4x106Kg (233lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : link Physical (diet, weight & BF) Weekly mean values : TDEE at 2654, daily objective calor…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 02:35 PM
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Why the fuck does it matter? Something needed to be done - you did it. You think you need an 'atta boy' or pat on the back? That was the point, it does not matter. Maybe I wrote badly. I am actually in the process of fixing that, and nobody has asked anything. In the past, there would have been an "agreement between parts" on who, when, what and where was going to fix that (obviously, me doing the job, and being micromanaged). (Edited as this is Useless Crap) Now, there was not. This was a chang…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 02:43 PM
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There's a difference between shit test and being reminded for not OYS. You screwed up. "Hey [omured], did you heat up kid's food?" would not be a shit test. You got mad at HER for YOUR failure. I agree. It was my duty, and I failed to it. That's it. There was no need for anything else, but I got butthurt because of being reminded of my failure and then tried to protect my feelings by being defensive with AA, which was not owning my shit. Thanks, it got more clear after your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 02:33 PM
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... because I feel guilt when I’m idle. I have been there too. I remember I made the effort to sit at the sofa and do nothing, and see my wife work her duties. And when I felt guilty (and man, did I felt guilty!), I remembered that It was my decission, that this was my resting time. I finally learned I was looking for validation while doing my work ... and looking for validation while living. This was pre-MRP, so the "validation" word was not there yet. Old times!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:17 PM
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OYS32 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 99Kg (218 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifting : SQ:30Kg (66lbs), BP:4x62Kg (136lbs), Row:5x65Kg (143lbs), OHP:5x40Kg (88lbs), DL:6x104Kg (229lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : link Physical Weekly mean values : TDEE at 2673, daily objective calories 90% at 2406 cals,…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:06 PM
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Working on it :)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 08:21 AM
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I will give a try assuming it is a comfort test. If i do not see any reaction, I may try to double-down on the 'yeah, you are just a hole to me now" just to see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 08:20 AM
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I went from following my wife around like a puppy to doing other shit as a manipulative tactic to withdraw attention in response to not getting attention. Yes, me too, "I've been there, I've done that". ​ Then I went from that to just doing other shit because my life is busy, and I don't always have time to give my wife.Somewhere around there, my time became a display of value. I am probably somewhere around this point now. ​ Because it wasn't wrapped up with hidden agendas and it was no longer …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 08:18 AM
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Ups! I see what you mean. Let me edit the comment and then I will be ready to get banned.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:56 AM
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Since i got clear with myself (3 months), no, i did not get mad because of sex denials or anything I expected from her. I do get pissed off for other reasons, but I know, my wife knows, and my kids know, that when I am pissed off about something it is not related to any of them but only to me. I pissed myself and i will get out of there by myself. Only later we will address whatever issue there was. So yes, i get angry sometimes, and no, i do not user anger as manipulation tool. Same with sex. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:59 PM
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I just read your comment with u/fix-the-man. "Not afraid of her emotions anymore" is a great sentence. With no fear I was free to be and to do. About being in her head, it maybe is, but i do not see it like that. I am curious about what is happening in her head. Thats it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:20 PM
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Agree. Being congruent between words and actions has ment to stop talking a lot (STFU), and doing what had to be done. Without waiting for reward. This set me free.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:11 PM
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Hi fix.the.man, please share your ways of showing appreciation without words. I may be lacking examples.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:04 PM
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I just replied below that most of my praise is with words. I do also hug a lot, and kino. And yes, i do like her and appreciate to have her in my life. I appreciate if you can share other ways you applied of showing appreciation. Thanks in advance.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:02 PM
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Mainly, i talk with her. I share my view of the World, how my life fits in, and how she fits in my life. I praise and value the works she does (kids, food, social), i step in when she fails to have something done, and never (never) engage in criticism to her. I could write many other things, but they all arise from the same fact : i like to have her around, but she is free to leave and i will be ok with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:57 PM
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My guess is you're fat and she doesn't feel valued. Used to hear it all the time - 15 years of it. Haven't heard it in over two years. I am fat, yes, but still she overtly appreciates the body changes of this year, still I do get positive feedback on my changes both physical and emotional (frame). I bring value to her life, for sure, and she has stopped the serious shit testing of last years I do provide value to her life and serious shit testings of last years have stopped (fuck that, she bette…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:37 PM
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You've lost 10 lbs in a year. 25% bf at OYS 30? Why is that? I started gym in April 2021, but did not address any weight loss or BF. I started working on weight loss \ BF \ tracking calories three weeks ago. Why? Because I though I would become fit by lifting alone (wrong). And although I became stronger and gained muscle (not much, but enough to see changes), I remained at +25% BF. Also my main problem when starting here was my psicological world (let's call it frame): I was afraid, I was manip…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:31 PM
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With a baby in the equation, now this is RP in Hard Mode!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 12:26 PM
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OYS30 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 99Kg (218 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifting : SQ:0Kg (0lbs), BP:4x60Kg (132lbs), Row:5x62Kg (136lbs), OHP:5x39Kg (85lbs), DL:4x104Kg (229lbs). Reading: The rational Male III. Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : link Physical Focused on tracking macros, loosing weight. When I look down I see my belly. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:38 AM
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Number 2 is the important one. All the other infos are consequences of this one : he is getting "something" from this relationship but is afraid to face it. Something more important than sex. Otherwise, he would not be where he is now. Ah! but sex is a tough rival! Maybe the stronger motherfucker our ego will ever have to face. For sex we do face our fears. Who shall win?? The testosteron powered boxer on the left corner fighting for his freedom? Or the desperate ego on the right, fighting to ma…
/r/askMRP02/03/22 07:18 PM
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Thats a nice one!! My daughter would absolutely go upstairs to check Whats-Up :) Anyway, i did not even thought about it and it is a very good point. I will look for a variation that suits me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:35 PM
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OYS30 – Stable Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 101Kg (222 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifting : SQ:---Kg (---lbs), BP:4x59Kg (130lbs), Row:5x62Kg (136lbs), OHP:5x39Kg (85lbs), DL:5x104Kg (229lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG , MAP, Rational Male 1&2, The predatory female, Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game To do list for 2022 : Link Physical Two full weeks tracking calories, and now is up and running, inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 12:00 PM
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Interesting post. Imo, we have a name for the abundance mentality because we have experience of the scarcity mentality. Thus "abundance" becomes the carrot that makes our fat ass move out of the couch. Because "I want that" and "I do not want this". Once abundance is reached and scarcity has left, we realize that abundance is not as good as expected. It is better than scarcity, but... Anyway, the fact of moving from scarcity to abundance changed me : the path walked is real experience. It is par…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 08:57 PM
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Thanks for the offer. I will keep it in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:34 AM
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I see what you mean. I could "push myself" throught it. In fact i was 2 weeks fully without gym "to recover by resting" but pain did not leave. Then arranged for ostheopat and started gym again. This has helped. Doing lower isometrics every day, is a way of pushing through it. I can do a bit more every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:18 PM
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"... constantly trying new strategies...""... tired of trying to figure it out and finding myself at the same spot..." plus you hinted some emotional issues. Right, lets put some awareness, this is my contribution. 1.Cook the best meal you have, but it is not a meal, it is "another strategy". 2.Stand in front of it. And focus on your inner world. take notes: what happens in my body? What do I feel? What does my mind think? 4.Stay there for a while (¿15 minutes?) and when ready, throw the meal to…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:09 PM
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Story of ego and compensation. In december I was inconsistent at the gym and then came xmas and... Whatever. The fact is that i was in and out for 4 weeks. One of those days I squated too heavy for more reps and sets than usual. And my knee tendon got overloaded. And there i am now. Doing isometrics instead of squats. Nothing really Important, just annoying. The good thing is that I calmed down on weight achievement (ego) and not having to squat allows me to focus on the other 4 exercices (Stron…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:09 PM
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Thanks for the info. Seems a more practical way.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:00 PM
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OYS30 – Hiding the scale Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 101Kg (222 lbs), BF 27%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifting : SQ:---Kg (---lbs), BP:6x57Kg (125lbs), Row:6x62Kg (136lbs), OHP:5x38Kg (83lbs), DL:4x104Kg (229lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG (When in doubt, back to the basics), MMSLP (what wife wants from husband), Rational Male 1&2 (Rational approach to intergender dynamics), WISNIFG (basics of assertiveness), Pook (Rational Male, in funny form), Bang (strategy and …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:20 PM
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I already have it ... and starting to use it ! Seems that physical is the item to work on right now. Next week i will have data to discuss and share.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:17 AM
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I may be wrong but... I got the image of your wife taking the knife because all her previous efforts to make you react where unsuccessful. Seems to me that STFU is being applied by avoiding her and this brings her mad. What about this? hold your line. When she attacks, do not retreat (do not leave) but also do not react (do not DEER, just STFU): just hold the line. Just be there. look at her lips moving and realize she has no power over you. And take note of your internal state (¿anger?,¿fear?,¿…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:06 PM
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Most of my intake does not have codes available. That's why i am guessing a part of it. I decided to use FatSecret app. it has spanish foods and i can insert basic foods instead to create combined ones (xxx gr potatos + xx onion + xx eggs = homemade potato ommelete). It took me 9 months, in fact. Fat ducks walk slowly!!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:18 PM
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OYS29 – Started tracking calories Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 101Kg (222 lbs), BF 27%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Lifts : SQ:---Kg (---lbs), BP:56Kg (123lbs), Row:62Kg (136lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:104Kg (229lbs). Reading: The rational Male III Done : NMMNG (When in doubt, back to the basics), MMSLP (what wife wants from husband), Rational Male 1&2 (Rational approach to intergender dynamics), WISNIFG (basics of assertiveness), Pook (Rational Male, in funny form), Bang (strategy and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 03:01 PM
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Which problem do you have with her being angry at you?? This is a honest question.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 08:09 PM
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What about "i like to have you around, and to live with you. And you are free to go. If that's what you want for you i am ok with it. and I would definetely miss you if you do that." It contains a part of praise and appreciation to her that seems to lack in your text ("I will not help you find an attorney" = you are alone. And it transpires anger and resentment) Unless it is not true, and you really do not want her around. In which case...
/r/askMRP11/02/22 07:53 PM
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I suppose you mean "should not be equal". And with u\SBIII you never know, he is a fucking "commando". He comes, drops the bomb, and leaves.😂
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:34 PM
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Deeper dive into sidebar and I find a post saying the 12 levels of dread is essentially one huge covert contract. I am starting to see why, but have also seen glimpses of it working, so now I’m confused. It is esentially a huge covert contract IF you are blind to the fact that you are doing X to get Y. If you are aware of this, then it is a tool that you can choose to use or not, expecting a result that can appear or not. IMO it becomes more of a manipulative tactic. No moralizing intended.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:51 PM
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Did not follow through on my commitments here to pray/meditate daily Just to point out, in case it helps, as I had these two concepts mixed for a while: - Prayer is from you to your god or whatever you like. It is your personal OYS. - Meditation (although there are different variations) is from the "outside" to the "inside": You concentrate to let an idea appear on your mind; you relax and open the heart to let some "loooove" express through you... whatever. This is your GYM. I personally find p…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:43 PM
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You 've got a kink about long nipples?? :) It is the diameter of the waist at belly, and diameter of the chest at nipples.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:23 PM
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OYS28 –Lazy weeks Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 103Kg (227 lbs), BF 28%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Reading: The rational Male 3 Done : NMMNG (When in doubt, back to the basics), MMSLP (what wife wants from husband), Rational Male 1&2 (Rational approach to intergender dynamics), WISNIFG (basics of assertiveness), Pook (Rational Male, in funny form), Bang (strategy and tactics to get laid), Practical Female Psychology (did not like), MAP (track reds, yellows and greens), The predatory fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:06 PM
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It took me mooooonths to make clear in my mind what you state : 1.that my needs are my responsibility 2.that my wife is a free person Once it clicked, I saw: i was being manipulative, I was using anger to manipulate I was full of shame And actions taken were (are): Deal with shame (accept myself) Deal with anger (accept others) Be assertive The effects are reverberating all around me: at home, at work, with friends, family,.... All around. Still work to do, but man, it provides peace!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:12 AM
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It seems that you have burned all your assets at your goddess feet, and she has swallowed them all. She is now for the latest tribute, your heart, which you will willingly submit for her to extract live from your chest. You offer your life. Literally. As a recommendation, change your daily meditation into a prayer to your god (jesus, buda or the pachamama, whatever is ok, but not your wife). Tell him you are fucked, recognize your errors and ask for help. And then go to OYS. Good luck.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 07:41 PM
1

Download apps and see what happens?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 06:40 PM
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"I don’t know what I want" "I know exactly what I don’t want" "the opposite of what I do not want would be good" There is a flaw in this reasoning: By running away from "that you do not want" (TYDNW), you are still driven by TYDNW. TYDNW indicates the way to go and then you go the other way. So TYDNW is still driving your life and making decissions for you. The way to not be with TYDNW is to make peace with it and go your own way: NOT the opposite, just your way. And if your dad was a piece of s…
/r/askMRP24/01/22 10:41 AM
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He can not be honest with her because he does not even know the answer to this question.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 05:18 PM
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I remember your OYS. But I do not know what brought you here. Several generalities ('I made a mess of my marriage') but no specifics. Dig down inside and find some blood and flesh, something real so the guys here can relate to. What hurts within you? This question focuses on what is happening to you. Be brutally honest.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 05:14 PM
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How old are you? What have you learn from MRP?
/r/askMRP23/01/22 04:02 PM
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Are you asking for 'the meaning of life'?
/r/askMRP23/01/22 12:22 PM
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You want to know if 'you are handling well' and the answer is no. Otherwise you would not be asking. You are trying to do it right, instead of doing what you want. You have posted OYS1 in november and OYS2 in january. Using AskMRP is no shortcut. Do OYS for a while, and real shit will appear.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 12:16 PM
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My oneitis and anxiety have kept me from downloading dating apps. I'm dead scared my ex will discover it and be mad. That's fucking ridiculous and I can't let myself be such a pussy. And this is way you are going to .... [fill the blank]
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:07 AM
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OYS27 – Too many things open … reorganize Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), BF 25%, married 20y, 2 kids under 14 Reading: Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Game Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female Lifting : SQ:---Kg (---lbs), BP:54Kg (119lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:104Kg (229lbs). To do list for 2022 : here Not too much to explain. I will make a general overview of main areas: Physica…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 04:18 PM
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How old is your kid? From what i see around me, ADHD kids share similar family patterns. Some are: - missing father (weak or missing) - excess of screen time (pc, tv, tablets, phones,...) - zero outdoor activity (mountain, forest, river, beach,... to compensate for the above) - in general, bad "food" (physical, emotional, etc) they seem to me over exposed to years of too strong and too fast stimulus, for their age. They can not handle it. It may be different in your case.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 08:31 PM
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This is how i see it: "I don’t have any strong feelings towards ME. I don’t hate ME, I don’t love ME" Does it ring something??
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 07:51 PM
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u/jack_wraith, dude, you have been dissected alive (free of charge). As ragnar said, stay around, because you are a kid playing with fire. OYS is a good option.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:04 PM
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You are such a cake that it is not posible to find any attractive partner for you. Get naked in front of the mirror and fuck yourself. You are going to love to fuck such a wonderful you.
/r/askMRP11/01/22 07:17 PM
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Would like to know your view on that.
/r/askMRP06/01/22 07:28 PM
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Anger phase is a bitch. I use to DEER a lot to myself, in an effort to not see the truth. "Self Honesty" is a must to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 05:23 PM
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Anger phase is a bitch. I use to DEER a lot to myself, in an effort to not see the truth. "Self Honesty" is a must to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 05:22 PM
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Yes. But ... there is a triangle here : him, wife, and MIL. He seems to be angry because : "... my wife called me..." and then reacted towards MIL. Which is a clear triangle (action from A and reaction towards B). By faced with the question: with whom do i have a problem? he has to confront the fact of to whom i am reacting. (And the rest is for him to do his work).
/r/askMRP06/01/22 04:50 PM
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I am still unsure about where your problem is : 1. You have a problem with your wife? 2. You have a problem with your MIL? 3. You have a problem with your wife having a problem with your MIL?
/r/askMRP06/01/22 11:28 AM
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I read your post https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/jisayz/parallels/ . It was encouraging to read. Specially the part with your older son. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 09:48 AM
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Id "you are not clear whether" then give it a try and see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 06:02 AM
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I had to laugh about that not-fat-grown-man :) But yes, it will teach power over one self. I never thought about my kid when training, i definetely will start to do it: i work for me and also to be an example for him. Good point, it will make a change.👍
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 05:55 AM
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Thanks ragnar and sea. I am more concerned about my older 14 yo son, entering into puberty. He is growing ok, no major concerns, but last months I see he is trying to create a new bond with me. I wonder if I could do more or different for him. Just writing about it makes me think about what I can do: offer him to help me in household maintenance, invite him when i am talking with friends or wife so he can start listening to adult conversations... things related to showing him, slowly, a way to t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 08:16 PM
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... I told her I am not getting married to my room mate. I stfu as much as possible, but eventually gave in and said ... I do not want to commit to a sexless marriage. You wanted to hurt her with the "room mate" words. You were angry, and your defense was to attack. And also, this is not STFU. An apprpriate STFU would have been to explain that you are not ok with the low sex situation, and then apply STFU when she reacts to your words of truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 03:05 PM
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I have made a mess of my marriage, I’m a bag of covert contracts, my frame consists more of what a I don’t want, than what I want. You probably have made a mess of yourself. Your marriage mess is just one of the consequences. Track these covert contracts, put name and words to what you do and what you (covertly) expect, so they become "visible contracts" at least for you. Share with a safe friend, and/or here at the weekly OYS. There is a way out of your actual mess, but you have to do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 02:48 PM
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Time, attention, praise and boundaries. The first three builds relationship. Boundaries builds respect. I take this one for me, also. I am looking for information on how to improve my parenting skills. Two kids 12 and 14. Any literature you can recommend?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 02:38 PM
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OYS26 – To do list for year 2022 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), BF 25%, (married 20y), 2 kids under 14 Reading: BiggerLeanerStronger, The Game, MRP Top 1000 PDF, TRP Handbook PDF. Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female Lifting : SQ:82Kg (180lbs), BP:54Kg (119lbs), Row:57Kg (125lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:110Kg (242lbs). As first OYS of 2022, this is a list of items to work in 2022, to review by en…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 02:03 PM
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frankly, being asked this question whether by you or her, annoys me. I don't know why. From all your reply, this is the only part I find real. 1.Don't you see there is something that hurts, when facing that question? The rest of the reply is You trying to avoid (by Rationalizing) that hurted feeling. And all this mental DEER is preventing you from staying there where it hurts. Which is the only place where you need to stay if you want to bring some light out of it. 2.What is annoying you when me…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/22 11:23 AM
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I would like to know why you are with her. The other issues seem irrelevant to me until we know this one. And be honest with your answer, nobody cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/21 08:30 AM
-1

You do not have any clue about it and no one can answer these questions for you. Read the side bar, do the work, and dig your answers out of your own shit. Nobody is going to dig on your shit for you. ¿oh, you want to be sure you are doing 'right' before moving your ass so you can tell your wife an unknown on the Internet told you this was the right thing to do? Then start with NMMNG, and start soon. (Take your risks man. You can tell your wife I told you, and blame on me,if it helps).
/r/askMRP31/12/21 08:24 AM
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OYS25 - End of year evaluation This is the last OYS of 2021, and is a revision of my first OYS (OYS1) from April 2021. I copied some parts of the OYS1 that are important to me, and commented below the actual state, in bullets. (Next post will be the first of 2022, and will be a list of work to do so I can check during the year and track). Lifting SQ: 45 Kg / 99 Lb --> 82 Kg / 180 Lb (max 97 Kg/ 213 Lb) BP: 37 Kg / 81 Lb --> 55 Kg / 121 Lb (max 62 Kg / 136 Lb) Row: 42 Kg / 92 Lb --> 59 Kg /130 Lb…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 03:11 PM
2

Do you want to leave the house? If 'yes' then leave. If 'not' then dont leave. Do you like her proposal? If 'yes' then accept. If 'not' then dont accept. But the question to me is : Do YOU have a proposal for YOURSELF? If this were a war, i would better start taking initiative and stop reacting to the enemy movements. The enemy has decided its best place and time for the battle field. But... is it the best place and time for you?
/r/askMRP27/12/21 09:02 PM
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The question is: did you have fun asking for the BJ? Because it was clear you were not getting a BJ before asking. And you were not getting a BJ after asking. So which was the point of asking? Have fun? Shake the boat? See how it feels to ask a stupid question? See how she reacts? They are all ok if it is ok for you. Important is to know why you asked. Take note. And DNGF about her reaction. Have fun.
/r/askMRP25/12/21 10:59 AM
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OYS24 – No need, then what? Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), BF 25%, (married 20y), 2 kids under 14 Reading: BiggerLeanerStronger, The Game, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook. Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female Lifting : SQ:90Kg (198lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:110Kg (242lbs). Reading : Bigger,Leaner,Stronger. It has interesting informati…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 02:23 PM
1

I took a photo of your sentence. Short and right to the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 11:57 AM
1

Tracking the good is a new approach. I will think about it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 05:38 AM
1

I would say I gave myself the aneurysm. When this happens i mentally replay the situation to find myself at the point where I reacted and then I build understanding from there. But here I have a black hole. I can not focus on what happenned. It sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 05:28 AM
1

Imo, what you point is my reactions to external inputs, which is what i tried to explain (obviously with no success).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 05:22 AM
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It can be psicosomatic, for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:12 PM
0

It has been a very passive week. And my reactions are one of the issues i am tracking. I have a tendency towards 'react' instead of 'stoic frame'.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:10 PM
1

I confirm english is not my first language. Is my oys a mess to understand?? You are the second person who mentioned.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:07 PM
1

Can you point where do you see rule 10?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:06 PM
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Yes, it is my actual state. I am still tired, not recovered from the emotional work of last weeks, still have a light cold that is not going away, for 10 days, and not sleeping good, and bla,bla, bla. So It looks like this state transpired to the OYS. Tbh, I could have skipped this OYS, but the fight with my friend made me post, in the hope of bringing some more light about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 04:05 PM
0

Ego. What did he hit on about how you feel about yourself that made you angry? I have tried to remember the moment where I got reactive, and I still can not focus it on my mind. So I have no additional information at this point. And it sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 04:02 PM
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OYS23 – Friend anger Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), BF 25%, (married 20y), 2 kids under 14 • Reading: BiggerLeanerStronger, The Game, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook. Done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female •Audios : BPP v2 (ongoing) , The 21 convention videos (ongoing), Done : BPP •Post : Strategos posts “on frame” (ongoing) Lifting : SQ:90Kg (198lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 12:01 PM
1

So basically you’re going to give her written evidence of your dread plan? I already shared verbally with her. Written version will not add anything new . You do realise that she’s going to work out that after ten days you’ll stop pestering her for sex, get out of the house and do something else? She does not need to realize it, she already knows, from me, specifically. And she can go that way if she chooses to. That's up to her. What is important, is that I have clear my path, my limits and my …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 11:43 AM
1

Yes. the coming future will reveal the real truth about it, and will share here, whatever it turns out to be. Thanks for your insights!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 07:30 PM
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That was fun to read! :) Yes, she knows for sure how i reacted in the past. And she knew that i was in need of her (emotionally needy, so withdrawing sex had no practical consequences appart of dealing with an angry husband for some days). And now she knows that this has changed. And that i am ready to take actions. Will she test this? For sure. Will i react accordingly? Hell yeah! How do i know? Because i have a written statement that i can go back and read to myself. And it will take more than…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 06:10 PM
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I see your point. It makes me think if she asked out of interest (Because probably she was not paying attention to the words, but to what she was feeling, and now wants to look at it again) or she asked out of an automátic program of 'do something for meeee'. I will take this into account. Thanks (the video was quite interesting, btw)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 05:49 PM
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I see. And the next high would be the next talk, were i set my communication power again to gain control of the relation. I have been there in the past, consistently, trying once and again to convince my wife of the 'better' way of my way of thinking. And consistently being frustrated and angry. I am not there anymore (i wish). This is not convincing, this was sharing. She could (and can) leave the relationship or behave like a witch whenever she wants. I am in peace with that. This is the diffe…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 05:32 PM
1

It will be a written statement of my expectations, and she can go through when she feels like. This may benefit me or not, i have to decide.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:45 PM
1

I do not need to communicate to her. She asked for, And i may or may not proceed. Dependency of sex from her? Up to now, i agree. From now on, we will see. I have set up my boundaries, and created a procedure i can stick to,with out having to rethink each time. And she is aware of it, verbally. You insist this is a quid pro quo but it is not. It is a statement : these actions have these consequences. And they are not a punishment or similar (that would be a negotiation). I am working to be ok wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:43 PM
1

Good point, thanks. Below my thoughts about your comment: She could, but she does not care. She wants the work done for her. It is my work to decide in each case if i do it or not, depending on whether it benefits me in the long term or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:03 PM
1

I doubt about the writing. On one side it gives clarity to me and to her as to what i do expect and what the consequences are when skipping sex. No guilt and no butthurtness (i hope). And it will be a writen text, so no space for misunderstandings about what i said or did not say. On the other side, written reccord can be used for shaming or whatever fucked reaction in the future. What makes you think it should have been better to STFU in that particular situation? I appreciate your insights. 2.…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:59 PM
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I understand your comnent, although I disagree. What I mention is true. I do not see it as a negotiation. It is a statement on how my internal mechanics work. She can dislike it, you can dislike it and even me could dislike it. It does not change the fact that this is where i am nowadays. And tbh, i do not like or dislike about it. It is what it is. And it is not a negotiation.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:49 PM
1

Thanks, i will take a look at the book and see.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:40 PM
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OYS22 – Recovering Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), (married 20y), 2 kids under 14 Reading ongoing : The Game, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed Reading done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female Lifting : SQ:90Kg (198lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:110Kg (242lbs). I download (2 weeks ago) on SQ because 97 and 95 Kilos were in bad shape. I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:41 PM
1

Thanks for your feedback. Tbh, I was not even interested in body fat. I checked some times when another guys posted about it, but it was not an issue for me. Now that i am 9 months at the gym, maybe i can start to check also what I eat. Any resource you can suggest to analyze food ingestion?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:16 PM
1

I now see it was not a question, but a comparative statement. I like the attitude you describe of enjoying women emotions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 07:34 AM
1

Agree. I am doing the work to not be manipulated by these cards, and have achieved some success at this point (i am not shitting my pants when separation card is played, and working to reown my sexual life). Still work to do, for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 05:46 AM
1

I like your way of rephrasing! And i agree with all your points.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 05:41 AM
1

I mean shit tests, emotional up and downs, and in general those situations that will test my frame hard. Therefor my need for stoicism and inner work. It will never end, is part of my wife being a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 05:37 AM
1

OYS21 – Emotionally extenuated Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), (married 20y), 2 kids under 14 Reading ongoing : The Game, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed Reading done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP, The predatory female Lifting : SQ:90Kg (198lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:110Kg (242lbs). I mentioned in my previous OYS that I was working on my anger and …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 12:12 PM
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Don't get sad, angry, or lonely you're not having sex when you refuse to initiate. You phrase it as an attempt to "separate sex from butthurt" but the truth is it's just an ego shield so your fee fees don't get hurt when you're rejected. It is a decision to fight my wars one by one. I see no point at pushing for sex if I am not getting it. I decided to work first to fix my emotional world. And then I will go for the sexual. Both fights together, they do collide.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 09:15 AM
1

Almost nothing in spanish. And my wife is more of a northern country, not latina at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:51 AM
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Oys20. I edited right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 07:10 PM
1

OYS 20 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), (married 20y, together 24,), Kids 2 under 14y Reading ongoing : The predatory female, The Game, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed Reading done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP Lifting : SQ:97Kg (213lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:40Kg (88lbs), DL:120Kg (264lbs). 1. Context - Wife’s birthday, visit of her parents. She gets stressed as cr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:11 PM
1

Good points. I will make an effort to be more honest in my expressions. And accept some People will not like them. Seems the right way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 09:08 PM
1

This is what I read : I offered OI confort until the response was not as expected, then I fellt butthurt and withdraw myself with a mental FuckYouBitch. I saw myself in your text, so no intention to hurt. But i was wondering what would happen if I did not give a shit about her shitty tantrum and continue providing real OI confort?? Would there be a New land to discover past the storm? Or maybe there is just more shit. Who knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 09:03 PM
1

I have used the techniques mentioned, and although they work, there is still a feeling inside of me, that i am faking it. My issue is : Why do I care of her judgements about my opinión? even if my opinion is crap... What's the problem I have with her judgement?? That's one question that is killing me. It just triggers.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:41 PM
1

Yep, i agree. The automatic trigger is my problem.. Probably buried in a self-defense attitude: i need to strike first and fast so my weakness is not seen.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:34 PM
1

"... afraid of saying the wrong thing in conversation." I am there and did not know until I read your words.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:43 PM
1

We are not so different. But still, it is a pain in the ass! Any clues from your side on how to deal with that??
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:15 PM
1

Now I read it again and I have to laugh!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:13 PM
1

Oys 19 – This one hurts Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), (married 20y, together 24,), Kids 2 under 14y Reading ongoing : PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed, The Game Reading done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology, MAP Lifting : SQ:97Kg (213lbs), BP:62Kg (136lbs), Row:65Kg (143lbs), OHP:40Kg (88lbs), DL:120Kg (264lbs). 1.Sex history - All my previous OYs have been focused on sex. Sex was important …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 03:55 PM
1

Related to depression: what about being alone for some hours or even a couple of days?? And let this depression fill all of your body and all of your emotions. But keep your mind focused, and look at that bitch to the eyes. You will not die for fully feeling your depression. It will be hard, and your mind will try to trick you. But as long as you hold the reigns tight it should be ok. And the message it has for you will be delivered. Did you already tried that?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 08:45 PM
1

After some ego "killing" as you mention, it will come a time to realize that the one wanting to kill the ego was the ego itself. Wonder why it keeps appearing again and again!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 07:52 PM
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She does not like to be with you. You do not like to be with her. Do a list of the things you want for yourself (do not cheat by using "i want my wife to...." Assume you can not change her) And then get away asap of this relation and find a therapeut that can help you rebuild yourself so you dont repeat this issue again. Give thanks there are no kids around (so somehow she is doing you a favor by keeping your dick away) Ps. this situation speaks a lot about you, and not much about her. Work on y…
/r/askMRP07/11/21 05:56 PM
1

"...and she’s trying to keep her beta happy with some compliments". Yep. This is it. Good point. And I see no way to handle that except not feeling butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 06:16 AM
1

I probably will be going that path, of meeting chicks. And i stopped gaming my wife when i stated that 1.gaming works and 2.the ROI at gaming her was not good enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 08:20 PM
1

Right. It is not fun.And i do it only for sex. Gaming works, but it has a downside: it is like I loose myself when i am gaming. Therefor i place a limit on time and effort. And the ROI is not good enough. And I stop and this is where i am now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 07:59 PM
1

Got it. Thanks for the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 07:52 PM
1

OYS#18 – My needs first Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), (married 20y, together 24,), Kids 2 under 14y Reading done : NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, WISNIFG , Pook, Bang, Practical Female Psychology Reading ongoing : MAP, PDF Married RedPill Top 1000, PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed, The Game Lifting : SQ:95Kg (209lbs), BP:57Kg (125lbs), Row:62Kg (136lbs), OHP:39Kg (85lbs), DL:115Kg (253lbs). Starting to notice my pecs, lats, abs and shoulders. Pecs are fun to see, there …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:47 PM
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Nice to see guys walking the inner path. I see few comments on this post, so I want to add my contribution. I have been using MRP for some months, first to improve my relationship, and then to improve myself. And I am getting to a point where improving my relationship is taking too much work that I do not want to invest, because it is not aligned with myself. I can say (like many others) that I reached MRP because of lack of sex, and saw it as a fix for sex life and/or a fix to my partner, and I…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 10:57 AM
1

I agree there is a part of sex for validation, although not the heavy part of this situation. My fault was to expect a behavior from her, and when not received, i stopped and removed myself. Wrong move. It was made from a place of anger and with manipulative intentions. Not nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 05:55 PM
1

Yes, it seems that I am full of shit. Not fogging. Just true. And still, I feel better than months ago. I have opened my eyes and see the shit on me. Before I had my eyes closed and imagined I was full of light ... and still I could smell the shit and thought it was the smell of light. I value honesty and truth. If shit is what there is, let's work with it. Thanks for your comments, always.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:34 PM
1

At the end, to have sexual intercourse. And this creates "shame" as I am married, and "fuck cute girl" opposses "married status". Or even better, "fuck cute girl" aligns with "angry wife face". And "angry wife face" brings internal shame (Nice Guy TM). So I have colluding intentions inside of me (bad place to be!) "fuck cute girl" (yes want) --> brings "angry wife face" (no want) I will have to solve this ... or die. (Maybe one step first. Next time, ask for telephone).
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:14 PM
1

I really liked this movie when I saw it some years ago. Now I know why.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:49 PM
2

She expressed later (not at the moment) that her intention was to offer a free HJ. I am working in getting out of her mind, so when I felt like touching back, I did. When she closed (for whatever reason) then I felt like stopping and ... ... ... shit ... I now see I was angry at her for not being available to my touchings. I rationalized by saying to myself it was not enough engagement from her side ... which is true ... but I could have just made some fun, lay down, and have a nice HJ. Thanks T…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:48 PM
2

We shared some time and it was fun to laugh with her. I did not ask her number although I would have liked to do it. Mental note to do it next time I am in similar situation. I am recovering the situation at my memory and this is what I see: I was ashamed. I "had to" hide myself. I "had to" hide the fact that she was cute to my eyes. Fear of rejection. Shame of rejection. What she thought of me was important to me. Not trying is better than fail. This is all emotional and it triggers by itself. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:37 PM
2

Last OYS I wrote that I had acted out badly and jerked off in front of my wife when I couldn’t get laid. It was pathetic and angry and it was a massive victim puke on my behalf. I also did that, not far away in the past. I agree with you, my action was fed with anger but it was also a turning point into knowing that somehow, in a very twisted way, I took care of myself and I did not mind she was there.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 09:58 AM
1

OYS#17 – Feel better with myself Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (done). WISNIFG (done), Pook (done), MAP (ongoing), Practical Female Psychology (ongoing), PDF Married RedPill Top 1000 (ongoing), PDF The Red Pill Handbook 2nd Ed (ongoing), The Game (waiting) Lifting : SQ:94Kg (207lbs), BP:54Kg (121lbs), Row:60Kg (136lbs), OHP:37Kg (85lbs), DL:110Kg …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 09:52 AM
2

And also not lifting!
/r/askMRP08/10/21 07:16 PM
1

"In not-her-frame", that's fun! And real. I got overloaded with information from READ and trully was overanalyzing her actions and making them fit into READ boxes of information (shit test, confort test, respect, direction, emotions, sub talk, bla, bla, bla). I was testing her frame to see how it fits into the MRP infos. So definetely a phase of "her frame" and later on, an effort to "not -be -in -her -frame". And I really thought I was out of the anger phase, which seems not yet. Thanks for the…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 05:26 AM
2

Good for her, as you say. But this is not about her, it is about me. I would love to be joyfull when she is around and I just can not. It changes my mood. It makes me serious. And I do not like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 08:31 AM
1

This may take a while :)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 08:29 AM
2

OYS#16 – No engagement, I leave Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6,2’’), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (done). WISNIFG (done), Pook (done), MAP (ongoing), Practical Female Psychology (ongoing) Lifting : SQ:93Kg (205lbs), BP:54Kg (119lbs), Row:60Kg (132lbs), OHP:37Kg (81lbs), DL:110Kg (242lbs). Ordered “The game” as recommended by a user here (pending to arrive) and started Practical Fema…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:28 PM
1

I have heard about it, but did not read it yet. As it seems that I need some training with gaming, I will get it and go throught it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:58 PM
1

Direct at the point. Good insight. I knew all you said, but It was one piece of information among many others. But when I read your comment it made sense in my mind. I started to apply it this morning, as soon as I read it. I will try to maintain this focus the whole week, let's see how it goes. I appreaciate your effort here. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:57 PM
1

... One of my main problems is a lack of initiative. At every aspect of my life. I'm a follower, not a leader. Do you have the passion to do things but then you castrate this energy? Or do you not have this type of energy and you are naturally more "inwards" oriented? The first (castration) is a problem. The second is a feature.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 02:07 PM
1

OYS#15 – Not so easy Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm (6.2''), Wg 105Kg (230 lbs), Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (done). WISNIFG (done), Pook (done), MAP (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 90Kg (198lbs), BP: 52 Kg (114lbs), Row: 60 Kg (132lbs), OHP:35 Kg (77lbs), DL: 110 Kg (242lbs). I mentioned in my previous OYS that changing my holidays time for working time has affected my game. I also mentioned that I knew what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:59 PM
2

Both items you mention are related with judgement. In the first one you judge yourself and proof to be not good enough. The second one you feel judged by your wife because she makes evident to you that you are (again) not good enough. You are comparing yourself against an ideal image. You will always fail in this comparison. Can you live with it? Realize where you are now? Where you are going? And that it will take time and effort?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 04:55 AM
3

Do you know why do you rage? Rage is a consequence. Once tension builds up, rage will happen. You can not control rage with your will power. At least not forever. Rage will find its way through your mental defenses. Because rage is not the problem. Rage is the consequence. Now... Can you look at the origin of your rage? Can you stand face to it? Can you do it with no DEER? Can you just look at it and acknowledge whatever there is? You are not going to like what you see, but If you really want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 08:17 PM
1

I see what you mean. When I first started with MRP and OYS i had specific things to do : Read, Lift, Stfu. All three were new and provided a huge amount of experiences to process, and OYS was a place to summarize. At this moment i feel myself in a "plateau", working and reworking the same stuff, going back to old behavior, then pushing again to regain my work (at the gim, at my LTR and with myself). But all this seems "the same" to me. I recognize I have been here in the past. My gains were not …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 06:53 PM
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OYS#14 – Rolled back Stats : Age 48, 190cm, 105Kg, Wife 49 (married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (done). WISNIFG (done), The book of Pook (done), MAP (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 88Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 65 Kg, OHP:35 Kg, DL: 110 Kg. Went back I restarted work after summer holidays and went back to old behaviors. I am coming home tired from work, I am not gaming my wife, I am not initiating sex and I have returned back to the easy way of…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 10:42 AM
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OYS#13 Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm, Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (done). WISNIFG (done), The book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 87Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 65 Kg, OHP:39 Kg, DL: 115 Kg. I have stopped increasing weights and instead focusing on doing it properly, and working to keep training time at 90 minutes (30 minutes warm up +mobility exercises+ planks, 60 minutes weights) After Holiday Again…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:03 PM
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Good point. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/21 07:18 PM
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I think I get your point. If I can not work a weight with proper form, don't do it Locate the maximum weight I can do with proper form, and do as many reps as I can. Keep track of weight and reps. Increasing any of them is good direction. You seem to be experienced man on this subject, so as a novice, I appreciate your comment, and will make good use of it !
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 10:49 AM
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OYS#12 – Remembering my story Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm, Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). WISNIFG (ongoing), The book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 87Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 65 Kg, OHP:39 Kg, DL: 115 Kg. I have changed from SL5x5 to SL3x5. Reasons: training was longer than 2 hours, I was loosing form in reps 4 and 5 and failing. I have reduced warm-up reps for SQ, DL and ROW. I have in…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 12:19 PM
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OYS#11 – I feel myself at home Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm, Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). WISNIFG (ongoing), The book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 82Kg, BP: 58 Kg, Row: 62 Kg, OHP:37 Kg, DL: 110 Kg. Had an appointment with personal trainer, to review posture. Everything seems ok. I got some new tips on BP I want to try. Skipped my last day of gym to give additional time to recove…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 03:40 PM
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Good point. I would have never got this one by my own. Total blind spot: "making myself believe she forced my hand" so I can DEER myself about it and avoid the guilt. Super condensed psycotherapy. My humble respect for your gift to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 07:52 PM
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I still do not see the covert contract. Dating outside of marriage makes me feel guilty. So I take the energy from arousal, sex denial and rejection to overcome that guilt paralysis, one step at a time. If you still think this is related to a cover contract I appreciate if you can bring some light. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 11:45 AM
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OYS#10 – More confident on my internal strength Stats : Age 48, Ht 190cm, Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). WISNIFG (ongoing), The book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 78Kg, BP: 56 Kg, Row: 60 Kg, OHP:37 Kg, DL: 105 Kg. Deadlift feels really heavy after 100Kg and I am afraid of my posture. On squat, I sometimes have a strange feeling at my left knee. Failing Overhead Press and Bench …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 04:19 PM
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What you say makes sense. And it seems that I am not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 03:53 PM
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This sentence is sharp. And I feel there is something I do not see here. Can you develop more?? Otherwise it is time to look for frame posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 05:06 AM
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I am father of two. Run a company of 10 people. Help at a local men group. I like to take care of my vegetable garden, trees and plants. And that is pretty much where my time is invested. Aaaaand.... I do have a marriage for +20 years that started blue pill (really "dark blue" pilled), and I have had problems acepting and dealing with sex and relations since I have memory. Therefore, my posts are focused there where I think I need more.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 07:35 PM
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OYS#9 What happens at night Stats : Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). WISNIFG (ongoing), The book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 72Kg, BP: 52 Kg, Row: 60 Kg, OHP:37 Kg, DL: 95 Kg. Slow increases in weight. Failing some reps. Sweating like a pig. (I remove the kids section, as it adds no value to my reports. My main issue is related to sex and relation, so I will fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 01:58 PM
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OYS#8 Feel, express, do Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (done), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). WISNIFG (received, on waiting list), Book of Pook (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 70Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 60 Kg, OHP:37 Kg, DL: 85 Kg. I have stopped increasing weight because I do not recover in 48 hours and have had sore body 24/7 for two months. Yesterday was my first day with the same weight or downloaded, and I fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 03:23 PM
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We trusted society for how a male-female relation should be and we fucked up. We trusted society for how medicine should be and you know what? We fucked up. Now this is my opinion: in this subject related to kids, do your own research, read on diferent books and studies and then decide for yourself. I honor those of my friends who have invested time into forming a personal opinion, independent of which one it is. And i do not respect those who only repeat youtube or mainstrean propaganda. Indepe…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/21 05:27 AM
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How are you man? I have not seen you at OYS this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 07:59 PM
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Spain in fact. How did you know spanish was my mother tongue?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 07:27 PM
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You are right. I will take more care.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 07:26 PM
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Yes. I would rephrase it like this : I will take energy to seduce her, driven by willpower, not desire. Because I actually have no desire to seduce. Or I will stay at the same position that I am now, and let things develop by its own. To be honest, I do not know which one will win. We will see in the next days.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 01:29 PM
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Agree. I read my own OYS before posting, and It is empty ... nothing. And now my brain is generating thoughts like : without sex drive ... ¿why do I move? without validation needs ¿why would I interact? without covert contracts ... ¿why do I do anything? I see my life is actually quite pleasant, and I see from previous OYS that sex / emotion has been the main drive for my life (covert contracts for sex and emotional validation). So, what for do I do what I do? what for do I work every day? what …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 03:17 PM
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OYS#7 Void Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wg 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing). Finished "Mode One" by Alan Currie (book about being clear when speaking: do not hide intentions, do not be afraid of rejection, etc.) Lifting : SQ: 64Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 60 Kg, OHP:37 Kg, DL: 85 Kg. Going to the gym with good feelings again. I passed through the Overhead Press limit at 32Kg and I am actually having fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:28 AM
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OYS#6 Calm Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 58 Kg, BP: 50 Kg, Row: 58 Kg, OHP:36 Kg, DL: 80 Kg. I am getting tired\bored when going to the gym. My mind is active when driving to the gym, talking to find an excuse to skip. Need to stop thinking about the future, and be at the moment : driving. After the gim I feel fine and oxigenated. Kids (patience,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 01:16 PM
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I posted firs time at OYS 5 weeks ago, and I have been reading 60DoD regularly. Reading 60DoD seemed difficult and far away from me. But while writing down my daily notes for OYS, I realized that: I started the gim 1 week after I read it at 60 DoD. I kept this first DoD linked at my browser, and I had to go through it several times until I accumulated enough energy to blast my ass off the sofa and head to a gim and pay for the membership. I have improved my higiene also: nails, cologne, decision…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 01:00 PM
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OYS#5 Kill validation and contracts Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male2 Preventive Medicine (ongoing) Lifting : SQ: 52 Kg, BP: 47 Kg, Row: 55 Kg, OHP:35 Kg, DL: 75 Kg. The gim is taking more than two hours and I am getting home later. No problems and no related shit tests. Interesting comment I read somewhere here : "A dependent, tool of a man who tries to sprinkle a little Red Pill on top of hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 05:29 PM
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I’ve thought about killing myself more times than I can count, I’ve come closer than I ever thought I would. From my experience: I had suicidal thoughts when I was young. Although I never really tried, it was more like a "if I die, people will be sad, and I like it", so I was feeling alone and wanted some attention. What I wanted to say is that at some point I realized I always had the time to die tomorrow, and meanwhile I could do some stupid things I wanted to do, or found interesting, and nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 02:42 PM
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I have struggled with initiations, especially when they are repetitive. [...] But I have seen that rejection several days in a row got me to stop initiate for one or a few days to “give her some space” or gather confidence to initiate again. [...] If I give her some space before initiating again she will be more in to it”. The reality is quite the opposite. I have the same experience. Exactly. I need to be honest to myself about my needs and also show this openly to my woman. Another day without…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 01:02 PM
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OYS#4 Frustration Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male (done), Ironwood Alpha Moves (done) Lifting : SQ: 45Kg (50 Kg), BP: 45Kilos, Row: 53 Kilos, OHP:33 Kilos, DL: 65 Kilos. Kids My kid is growing physically and psicologicaly. I want for him to face some sotial chalenges (meeting new people) for summer holidays. Sotial seems to be an issue in our male line. My daughter still has one more year unt…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 12:41 PM
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The link provided is juicy, also the sublinks. I will take time to read again, once is not enough. Definetely I recognize the attraction validation and the good lover validation. I wish I were or had been at the special act validation (too afraid to be there phiscally! But I see I have this in my fantasy). The "good guy" validation lays in my past. Reprocity validation also not here. Thanks for the link, I will work through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 03:18 PM
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What if you didn't go jackoff after a failed initiation. What do you think would happen to you and your body? What would you have to face then? hmmmm ... good question. I was tempted to answer theoretically, but I will rather take note and try it this coming week. But for sure seems like I will not sleep the whole night. And your question implies there is a hidden agenda to my jackoff ¿tension release? ¿bloated ego? (I am OI, I can handle it, I am feeling better, ...) Definetely will try this we…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 02:48 PM
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Yes, at this moment sex is a main issue. I had other topics on my weekly notes, but sex is using most of my brains free RAM and CPU time. And yes, I am afraid this OYS is a representation of my actual state, although not wrapping my entire life ... but absolutely my life with my SO. Validation about sex ... IDK what this means. I mean, I know each word, but ... I feel I do not get the idea behind the words ... so I do not have an asnwer ¿blind spot here? Appreciate if anybody can provide more in…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 01:33 PM
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Haven’t been able to keep calm with the kids. This is my goal, but I get angry when they don’t listen after repeating something 3 times. I know, they’re just kids, and I don’t really know where this anger comes from. This needs more introspection because it’s a behaviour I don’t like about myself.It’s not always too, luckily some days I am relaxed and can see it like from a distance, instead of getting worked up over nothing. The problem is that so far, I haven’t been in control, as sometimes my…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 11:05 AM
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I fucked up this week when I snapped at my kid for messing around while I was doing something on the computer. My reaction was pathetic and on me. What I said wasn’t nice at all and regretted it instantly. I apologised to my child straight after the incident for speaking to them that way and said I was in the wrong and my reaction was my failing. I also have kids and have found myself slapping in the past and I also felt like shit afterwards. While analyzing my behaviour I found out that when I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 10:57 AM
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OYS#3 Initiation Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male (done), Ironwood Alpha Moves Lifting : SQ: 0Kg (50 Kg), BP: 42Kilos, Row: 47 Kilos, OHP:32 Kilos, DL: 60 Kilos. Initiate Sex This is my main issue at this moment. I am afraid of rejection. And I have been castrating myself to not initiate for fear of rejection. I decided this week to iniate every night. I do not want to castrate my desire. If s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 10:43 AM
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OYS #2 Age : 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, BF not_in_much_excess%, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading : NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), Rational Male (done), Ironwood Alpha Moves Lifting : SQ: 50 Klos, BP: 40Kilos, Row: 45 Kilos, OHP:32 Kilos, DL: 50 Kilos. Small pain at the knee, contacted a fisio, nothing important. Will change squats for isometrics for 1 week, and then start (deloaded) squats again. New: started to log important things each day. This OYS is based on my notes…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 09:42 AM
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Yes sir. Touché.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:04 PM
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I expressed my concern about is this a minimum or maximum schedule? I also said I didn’t want sex to become a duty and that I didn’t want to stop expressing my interest in sex when I feel like it. Happened to me some months ago. Scheduled sex turned into a boring face and shitty HJ on saturday. I stopped that. Manifested that it is not so much about sex, abut about desire. If there is desire, there will be sex. But HJ without desire was ... disgusting.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 12:06 PM
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Some of the sentences you wrote stroke me. I see myself reflected on them. I've done 1x OYS, last week, and this is what I see in common: Mi first OYS also had several SHE. I supose I did not get banned because of some merci extra time for novels. Got it. Was also writing OYS "for the public". I see it would benefit me more when I write it for myself. Then share it Found myself also checking the "upvotes" and feeling "good" for "upvotes" (pathetic, and laughable). Thanks for the upvotes, were us…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 11:52 AM
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OYS #1 First post here, and english is not my mother language, so be aware. Stats Age 48 Ht 190cm Wt 105Kg, BF ¿?%, Wife 49 (together 24y, married 20y), Kids 2 under 14y Reading NMMNG (done), MMSLP (ongoing), WISNIFG (ordered), Rational Male (done, laughed a lot !), Ironwood Alpha Moves (ongoing), Way of the Superior Man (done, made me tingle), The videos from BluePillProffesor (ongoing live at my car each day 30 minutes, for 1 month now) Lifting Started to go to the gim when reading 60 DOD 2021…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 03:56 PM
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