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| 31 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Thanks! Also I find the whole instruction on this subreddit from anti-online dating women to specifically take up hobbies to meet HVM because HVW have hobbies therefore attract other high value people a weird argument. I have hobbies but they are mainly things I do alone because I actually enjoy the alone time, such as swimming and photography. A random guy tried to initiate a conversation with me at the swimming pool today and I replied politely and then went to swimming because I just want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:38 AM |
| 68 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.I saw bonghits4jess's post about LVM (one of the most popular recent posts on FDS) where she dragged OLD, saying it was against FDS, and women who online date have no self respect and I honestly found it upsetting. People are busy and group hobbies are often expensive and require you to own a car, and volunteering/ charity work dosen't necessarily guarantee you to meet HVM or that HVM will ask you out. And again it's a big time sink if it isn't something you are selflessly commited to. Online da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:38 PM |
| 5 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.I am left leaning in my politics but I have found both left and right wing LVM to be equally as misogynistic except that left wing men often participate in performative feminism and use their' progressive' views to try and get you to participate in bdsm and kink and split the bill. Left wing lvm will paint themselves as heroes for knowing what consent is while trying to justify their coercive sexual acts, whereas right wing men will just openly talk about how modern society has corrupted women a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 11:17 AM |
| 19 | How to tell that he’s pornsickDid we date the same guy (the pornsick one)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 12:48 PM |
| 40 | How to tell if a guy watches porn?They breathe, have a WiFi connection and aren't part of a fundamentalist religious group. Even the guys in my friendship group who possess high value traits, non-misogynistic and generally see women as people watch it. It's just so normalised in society. The only time I've heard of men not watching porn is if they are religious, living in a cabin in the woods and cannot access the internet or the 'no fap' guys who only quit porn because their dick stopped working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:50 PM |
| 8 | A message to my bigger sistersI'm a healthy weight but curvy. My BMI is 23.5 so closer to overweight than underweight (the most desirable BMI is probably 18-20 for women) however I am healthy, fit, and have an active job (ecologist) which involves a lot of walking, stretching and bending to monitor wildlife/ plant life etc. I'm very muscular and generally bott heavy have thick thighs wide and a small waist but am quite flat chested. The past few years I have learnt to dress for my body shape, found jeans that fit me (thank y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 4 | Double Standard with Long DistanceI think women often move country when in an LDR not even because the (low value) man in the relationship does not want to give up his high paying job and expects her to, but simply because even without a career, these men simply will not put the time and effort into planning to relocate. Finding a job, getting the right visa, saving money for the move. All of this requires effort. The worst kind of long distance relationship is the type where the man is making zero effort to close the distance b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 04:14 PM |
| 14 | Princess Charming SyndromeAgain your experience mirrors mine. Firstly he was back on dating apps on the same week. Maybe not the one we met on (Bumble) though I can't be sure after unmatching him, but I swiped through my friends tinder and he was on there three days after breaking it off so he wasn't wasting any time getting back out there. Secondly I'm certain I become a not-entity in his life. He was very open about his past, his friends and his family and told me about his past three relationships and mentions of a hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:19 PM |
| 62 | Princess Charming SyndromeI have experience dating men that won't commit to you for the specific reason that you aren't their 'dream girl' but if you look back at people they have dated and been in long-term relationships with, it is honestly perplexing. With the last person I dated, it lasted three months before he broke it off, saying he 'just wasn't feeling it' and that he was specifically looking for a long term partner and he couldn't see us staying together and working out. I asked if he could give me any specific … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:59 PM |
| 25 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.Does anyone have any follow-up to what happened after this was posted? Her account has been deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 10:48 AM |
| 2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaI'm happy that the girls on the podcast are okay with online dating and I have listened to all the podcasts. However for this user to have an 'apprentice' flair one of the mods (likely one that isn't involved with the podcast) must have given her that flair which means she is regarded with a high level of respect in the community. However I have seen her comment on multiple posts and get into lots of arguments online with users with conflicting opinions whenever any women mentions using online d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 8 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaI'm happy that this topic was discussed, I've posted and commented in this sub looking for dating advice and have been told it's better off to be alone that to use online dating as only LVM use online dating, when I've stated that online dating is the only option for me currently due to the lack of single men in my age group in my area. I go to social events but they consist of older married individuals. I live in a remote area where I literally have to get two ferries to get to the nearest supe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:44 PM |
| 18 | The open demand for ‘feminine, submissive’ women by LVM is cringy as hellThe amount of online dating profiles where men just openly say that they are looking for a submissive woman is frightening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:51 AM |
| 4 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)LVM are the same everywhere. Even if the British men you have met are clean and well dressed, due to western Europe being saturated by liberal feminist culture and ideals men never want to commit, most women end up being forever GF's in the UK, as marriage isn't seen as important here or a necessary progression of a relationship. In my experience British guys want you to chase them for months while they continue to date and sleeping around with other people as well as having sex casually with yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:15 PM |
| 24 | When his family participates in grooming you to accept his LV/NV behaviourWhen my ex's mum told me that she was so happy he'd finally met someone who understood him, because he's a very 'special' boy and a lot of people don't understand his behaviour and personality and don't see the 'kind heart' beneath his actions that's when I should've known to get the hell out of that relationship. His family was hospitable though it was always his parents taking me out and not him and they just ignored the fact that he didn't plan to take us anywhere to do anything touristy (we'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:28 AM |
| 54 | Why I don't feel empathy for unattractive menYou should see the hell fire that is the rate-me subreddit. Insecure attractive women go on there and are rated so low, a 5/6 out of 10 (mainly by men, all the mods are men), and the people who dare to rate them higher are attacked for not 'following the guidelines'. Whereas, average/ ugly men go on there and are given high scores (by other men, usually), boosting their ego's. The subreddit even has a specific guide for rating women's facing and no such 'specific' guide for men's. It's literally… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:39 AM |
| 68 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 18 - Vetting Men From the First Encounter + Fish FoodI relate to the part where they said - "the niceness is part of the abuse" when discussing narcissists. All the men I have dated have been 'nice'. I was drawn to my ex who I ended up in a long term relationship with because he was popular, friendly, and put on this act of being selfless (he'd teach people to dive in his spare time for free, but I under further examination I realise that it was only attractive young girls) and everyone at work thought he was great. In private though despite never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:20 PM |
| 86 | Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨I have been in two situations where I've literally shown screenshots to an abusive ex, and a pick-me ex friend (who decided to fall out with me accusing me of not contacting her when she just never replied to me) and both have just chosen to ignore the fact I have proof they are wrong or have said various horrible things to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:37 AM |
| 148 | Ladies what is something men do that you thought was a green flag but is actually men being trash as usual?Coming on strong and saying they really like you early on. Used to take it as a sign of someone who wanted commitment and a relationship but now I see it as lovebombing and a way to get sex, a free therapist and relationship privelidges by dangling that relationship carrot, but then often backtracking when it comes to defining the relationship or not following through - like saying, 'i've told my friends about you', but then not introducing you in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:26 PM |
| 66 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!How not to fall for a man too quickly - as I often do during the honeymoon period and keep vetting. I know the first three months is the period in which men will try to be perfect before the mask slips, but any high value act makes me develop attachment too quickly even before anything physical occurs. How do you adopt the mindset of always being ready to leave as soon as he becomes low value? Any psychological tricks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:29 PM |
| 15 | Thanks FDS.🚩 Didn't get you a birthday, Christmas or Valentine present. 🚩Would ignore you when you were together and instead of spending quality time with you, would sit next to you, silent and scroll through his phone for hours. 🚩You knew everything about him and took interest in his life but if you asked him what your favourite food/ colour/ book is he wouldn't have a clue. 🚩 Pressuring you to do anal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 06:43 AM |
| 28 | Do you think men who are into petite women are creepy lvm?All I know is that as a 5'10" woman men hardly ever are interested in me even men who are taller by 4/5 inches are usually intimidated by me. The few that have wanted to date me are usually still insecure about dating a girl who isn't petite, (btw i'm a healthy weight and just broad due to my height) and would get really funny about posting photos of us on social media after being together over a year, but then would go on to date a small petite girl and have no issue sharing their relationship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:13 PM |
| 6 | Halal datingSometimes it is hard to have a wide enough social circle to not use OLD. Do to the nature of my profession - which I enjoy and am building a career in, I work short contracts in very remote locations. Right now I am living on an island with only 90 residents and no single men my age. I concur with OP who said FDS is not a cult and people can choose to use online dating. Like the mod post on the sub Reddit the other day stating FDS is a 'dating sub', not a sub to tell women that they are better o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:21 AM |
| 4 | Bought this mug a few years ago, big FDS energy. I love it.Please share where you bought this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | I Always Wanted to Date a Man I Could Look Up To. It Appears There Aren't Any.Omg, I was dating this PHD student during summer 2020, while I was finishing my master's. He was meant to finish his PHD March 2021. He ended up lovebombing me for two months talking about our life together, then breaking up with me over text while seeing his family abroad. He then begged me to stay friends assuming I'd chase him and initiate all contact but then never contacted me and ended ghosting me. I blocked him and finished my masters graduating with a distinction. As far as I know he's s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:01 AM |
| 29 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureI made a post like this about dating in western European culture (I'm British) and I got some great comments many from Scandinavian women about how to handle men who want to go 50/50 and ask you on drink dates. I not here to shamelessly promote my old post but I think the comments on the post are very insightful and useful to consider while dating and structured less towards an American audience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:35 AM |
| 39 | FDS saved me and my daughter from abuse. These are the things you should watch out for:I am tired of men who will do the bare minimum for you because of depression. I dated a guy that then become a long distance relationship and he only wanted to text and would refuse to call me even once a week because of his 'depression'. If I said it wasn't on he'd threaten to break up with me until I'd plead for him to stay together with me whether he called me or not. It took me months to finally break up with him. I then dated a guy 9 months after breaking up with the first guy, who seemed t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:37 AM |
| 53 | Blocking and deleting is one of those things that ACTUALLY feels empoweringI also have a Narc ex that does this. I have blocked him everywhere but he still manages to contact me every few months. The messages are always just him talking about himself and what he is doing, therefore I'm not even sure why he tries to message me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:10 PM |
| 18 | Finding HVW to connect with - a strugglePretty much all my friends are pickmeisha's and gay men. I think women in today's society are conditioned to chase men especially in liberal western society. I however talk about having high standards with my female friends and cutting guys off if they do not put in effort chase you to try and instill FDS principles into them. A good sign for female friendships is when they don't immediately become unresponsive and disappear as soon as they meet a guy. Or are not serial daters and are comfortabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 56 | Never make the first move...there's a small minority of men who never make the first move due to being extremely socially awkward or timid but do you really want to date someone like that? This is not a minority, this is most British men :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 05:31 PM |
| 136 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 10 - Boomers, Coomers, & Consumers: What Went Wrong with Male SocializationThe roast a scrote date is classic red pill tactics, such as the cold approach - approaching her on the street where she feels societal pressure to talk to him and take his number. Giving her his number after forgetting his phone so she has to chase him. The fake romantic date reeling her in by telling her to meet him outside a fancy hotel. The instead of going on a picnic with a view of the city, he makes them get 'takeout' for the picnic with 'seperate checks'. And then the escalation taking h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 11:32 AM |
| 5 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?I relate to this, especially men being shy. So many men expect women to make the first move nowadays 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:16 PM |
| 11 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Thank you. I acknowledge I do have have a scarcity mindset. And I realise it's something I have to overcome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Thank you for this reply! It's been very helpful and I will do this when I start dating again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 19 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Perhaps I am wrong but I feel western Europe is more liberal and therefore there is less emphasis on traditional gender roles. This is good in many ways, there is less sexual harassment at work and on the streets however men don't see themselves as providers as being 'equal' is reinforced so much. In the UK it is normal not to get married until 7-10 years into a relationship and being a stay at home mum is widely stigmatized, women are basically expected to continue working at least part time af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 12:07 PM |
| 22 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?I have dated one PhD student and a couple of men in the 1st/ 2nd years of their career, usually after completing a masters. I acknowledge graduate starting salaries are low in the UK and pretty much every man I have dated has had a roommate. However these men can afford to pay for your dinner. There have literally been times where I've been at a bar ordering drinks or on one date at the beginning of lockdown in 2020 literally buying a sandwich for a 'picnic' and hesitated to see if the guy will … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:30 AM |
| 227 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a HusbandYou are likely being downvoted by the men who lurk on this sub, not women. My posts also get constantly up and downvoted. Men can't comment but upvotes and downvotes are anonymous. Also I agree with your point, I have dated educated men who turned out to be incredibly low value. One of the worst was a PhD student. I'd go as far as saying being with an intelligent LVM is actually worse as you are able to have these nuanced intellectual conversations which attracts you to them but in turn they tre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:01 PM |
| 4 | I feel like too many of us here have experienced this and been left feeling crushed and confused after being discarded - The psychopathic relationship cycle. Knowledge is power 🤍I literally dated this exact person. 1) He charmed and love-bombed me. 2) He became bored 3) He broke up with me over text and showed zero emotion. He went from I want to spent my life with you and spending hours texting/ talking to me every evening to deciding he 'wasn't feeling it' and being on tinder the following week. 4) Admitted to me he slept with someone at the beginning of August. He broke up with me at the beginning of the month so he either cheated on me or literally slept with someon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:11 AM |
| 39 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieIt's sad but the only guy who has gone down on me for any length of time had a small penis. Every other guy who has been just average has only gone down on me for five minutes tops in some token gesture of 'foreplay'. It seems only insecurity and shame about penis size drives men to actually try to pleasure you through other means that are not penetrative sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:26 AM |
| 6 | Beware of self identifying 'feminist' men and performative feminism.Yeah he watched porn, that he had bought, on DVD to support supposed female 'feminist' porn directors. 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:44 AM |
| 5 | Beware of self identifying 'feminist' men and performative feminism.He started ranting about how he paid for everything for his ex even though she earned the same as him. So yeah he was a 50/50 guy apparently. This was after he broke up with me, we hung out a few times as friends, as pre-FDS I didn't recognize the red flags and I wanted to win him back because he had originally been Mr Perfect and had paid for things. He proceeded to rant more and more about his ex though about things that should even be an issue, like her paying more to live alone instead of ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:39 AM |
| 4 | To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣Plenty of men want to have sex with me. I'm just done with them pretending to want a relationship with me in order to have sex. It's messed up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:04 AM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumI agree with this. In both the film and the book Howl is aware Sophie is under a spell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 11:43 AM |
| 35 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumI know. And Sandy in Grease is honestly the worst example of this, she basically has to become this promiscuous cigarette smoking woman to win Danny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 55 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumNone of the girls in these movies are ugly though, they just put glasses and frumpy clothes on an incredibly stereotypically beautiful, thin actress and suddenly she pulls off her glasses and shows off her figure and the world realises she is beautiful. The irony is she was already beautiful to begin with because Hollywood doesn't cast ugly women, so the ugly woman becoming beautiful narrative is itself a fallacy. I think it shows that society expects women to dress appealingly and be well groom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:27 PM |
| 205 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumI just want to put this out there: If there was a gender swapped beauty and the beast - handsome and the beast, where the beast is a monstrous woman and beauty was a handsome man, men would not like this story. They would say it was crazy and that no attractive man would fall in love with a monstrously ugly women because men are 'visual creatures' and prioritise womens looks. Meanwhile women romanticise being kidnapped by a literal monster because he's secretly 'a good person at heart' and 'pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 15 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.This is horrible! Just the fact he soiled your cushion is disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:23 AM |
| 28 | FDS refines your b*llshit filterThe only men I have known to have a majority of female friends who aren't toxic softbois are gay. Every straight mans circle of female friends seems to consist of girls he used to date/ sleep with but one of them ended it and they have 'stayed friends', women he is attracted to but have friend-zoned him and a girl that he isn't attracted to, AKA 'the ugly one' but uses for advice and emotional labour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 9 | Article describes the reality of dating apps during the last year. A global health crisis only makes things worse.Yeah, I tried dating apps during this pandemic where in the UK we've had a series of lockdowns where everything but essential shops have been shut and men couldn't hold a good conversation for more than a few days, let alone plan a Skype call. I pretty sure all of the people boasting about having the romantic picnic dates or men sending Uber eats/ wine so they can eat together on Skype are either lying or they instructed the men they were talking to to do it because nowadays it seems men can't e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:08 PM |
| 393 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exI think men complain about their exes as a way of getting you to lower your standards and force you into being the 'cool girl'. Such as 'oh my ex was so high maintenance' is basically code that he doesn't want to put any effort into the relationship and 'my ex made for pay for everything' means he wants to manipulate you into always paying half. I remember pre-FDS wanting to be picked so badly that a guy told me that another girl he was dating wanted commitment too fast and it scared him off so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:26 AM |
| 13 | OLD Red Flag Words & PhrasesHonestly any reference to anything remotely sexual or involving his body. I dated someone off bumble whose profile was *his job title* with a big heart and nice bum. He initially seemed great and did everything to please me, very communicative, polite, wanted to know about my interests, taste in music etc, but after we slept together suddenly started dropping hints about being kinky to which I wasn't particularly responsive too and then suddenly said he didn't want to date me out of the blue (ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:31 AM |
| 2 | Society's promotion of young adult novels/ romance movies created a lovesick generationI remember reading twilight when I was really young - maybe twelve or thirteen and thinking that love was having a guy literally be so obsessed by you that they stalk you and act super controlling. A decade or so later after having an ex that wouldn't leave me alone and was controlling, I realise how much the relationships in those books was glorified abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 34 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNI think there are nice pubs in the UK that are clean and serve food, especially in rural areas, such as gastro-pubs that serve a good Sunday roast. However he should be buying you dinner on those dates, it shouldn't just be a drink date and if he invites you to any chain pub - especially Wetherspoon's, if he invites you to Wetherspoon's you should run. Pre FDS I went on a second date to Wetherspoon's, with a guy who seemed promising. He had a job, read books and seemed clean. He took me to brunc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 7 | Men just can't be single for a minutePractically every man I've talked to on dating apps has only just got out of a relationship. I'll ask a question such as "when was your last relationship?" And they'll have only gotten out of a long term relationship of 2 years+ 2/3 months ago but claim they are 'completely over it' and 'are ready to move on' And even worse, is when your female friends literally see the person you were dating back on tinder literally days after you have broken up/ stopped seeing each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:06 PM |
| 5 | When you achieve something like climbing to the top of a mountain or you travel to a destination with a guy, make sure to get photos of YOU alone.My LVM ex would never take photos of us together as he didn't want people he had on Facebook/ instagram "judging me", (me at the time a 22/23 year old normal brunette girl of average weight) so I guess fortunately I have a load of pictures of me on mountains alone even though he was with me. 🤷 They aren't the best pictures because he never had patience to take more than one photo of me or two if I begged him to take another one but at least I have the memories of climbing to the top of things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:49 AM |
| 11 | Dating Subs on Reddit are Social Engineering Hubs to Normalize Sexual Violence and Disrespectful Behavior toward WomenMen love to deny the wrongdoing of other men. I was out with some friends i.e. my friend "C" who is gay and one of his friends who is a straight white man. We started talking about dating and sex I said I hate it when men just start choking you during sex without asking and pulling your hair because they are copying what they see in porn and seem to be completely unaware of the fact this isn't normal and that they should ask for consent. My friends friend hearing me complain, began defending the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 12:06 PM |
| 6 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?No, but I honestly should have when he said he had been in an open relationship in the past. He seemed high value and treated me very nicely at first but as soon as we had sex after two months of dating he started hinting at the fact he was 'kinky'. I asked him what he was into but he wouldn't tell me just kept making weird hints about his kinkiness and asking me was I was into. It made me uncomfortable and I kind of shrugged it off because I felt it was a bit early to discuss that sort of stuff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 08:40 PM |
| 12 | Comments from a thread about a Tik Tok video talking about how hard OLD is for men. "Your nightmare is our dream."I feel sorry for his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:49 PM |
| 7 | Comments from a thread about a Tik Tok video talking about how hard OLD is for men. "Your nightmare is our dream."I bet he's the sort of guy who puts 'no fat chicks and no single mothers' on his dating profile. But if a plus-size middle aged woman with two children saw his profile of tinder and harassed him through social media he wouldn't like it. The irony with incels is that they say they are unable to get a girlfriend but they are only interested in slim young 'virgins' meanwhile standard shaming women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:48 PM |
| 2 | "I look like a goblin but I want a thin princess" smh 😂😂😂He gives off big ed energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:55 AM |
| 7 | DAE feel like weight is a major filter for LVMs?I think there's a type of thick you are allowed to be, i.e big boobs and small waist, flat stomach and a big butt. I however have a Lena Dunham body shape. I am very flat chested and incredibly skinny up to my waist and carry all my weight on my hips, bum and upper thighs. Because of this I seem to attract only one type of man. Men who like butts and try and pressure you into doing anal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:56 PM |
| 9 | DAE feel like weight is a major filter for LVMs?Firstly, i'm not even overweight and LVM's comment on my weight. I'm on the upper limit of a healthy weight on the BMI scale. I know because I applied for a clinical trial where I had to have a BMI below 25 and mine is 24.2. I find it difficult to lose weight, this weight/ BMI seems to be my set point at which I neither lose or gain significant weight just fluctuate by a few pounds. I eat reasonably healthy and exercise. So basically according to medical science I'm a healthy weight. But my body… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Listing all the red flags of the LVM I briefly dated in order to not make the same mistakes again.You are right in that he played the victim. With my abusive ex who I had a long term relationship with if we argued he would raise his voice and shout over me because everything I said was logical and true, so in order to end the argument he'd just threaten to break up with me because he knew that was the best way to end it as I would instead end up begging him to stay with me. With this guy even though his past was a barrage of red flags when we were together he was this very quiet and mild man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:13 PM |
| 4 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"I will no longer date men with depression. The last two men I dated both had depression and used it as an excuse to behave horribly towards me and take zero responsibility for their actions. The first (undiagnosed when we were dating) was abusive and gaslit me and made constant 'jokes' about my appearance and body, blaming his abuse of me on his depression and being 'stressed at work'. The second in hindsight love-bombed me for three months then dropped me. I was so used to being ignored by my e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:26 PM |
| 3 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftHe was addicted to porn and social media and I honestly think that he thought dating anyone who didn't look like an Instagram model was beneath him. Yes he followed a ton of Instagram models and described his ex and having a 'hot body' on multiple occasions like just randomly in a conservation he would bring that fact up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 30 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftUgh, I'm a UK size 12, US size 8 and, 5' 11" tall, work out regularly and am a normal healthy weight/BMI but my ex honestly acted like I was obese and dating me was shameful. No man I have dated since has had any problem with my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:29 PM |
| 40 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)I used to watch Rachel and Jun years ago when I was learning Japanese/ more interested in Japan and got a weird vibe. There are videos of them going to the supermarket and buying food/ eating out and Rachel always asks him for permission of what food she could buy/ eat and of course people in the youtube comments found it strange that her husband was telling her what she could eat and she had to make a video addressing it saying that 'he just wants her to eat healthy and be healthy' but it hones… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:56 PM |
| 1 | He said he wanted a 'relationship' and kids in his profile but is up for some casual fun! 😓Some background, I am not currently dating as the UK has a high infection rate and all hospitality venues are closed and I really don't want to go on damp freezing walks in the park. However, I swiped on this guy because he's the PhD supervisor of someone I literally know in real life and I thought it was a weird coincidence. Yep he's a professor. Who is 34 swiping on 25 years olds. I could tell from his facial expression in his photos that he was going to be a player. But I posted this because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:20 PM |
| 3 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.The sad thing is my ex never got me anything, in a year and a half over two birthdays over two birthdays, Christmas and valentines day, not even a cup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:31 PM |
| 5 | She doesn't want to leave him because he's so 'nice' despite offering women money online for sexual images of themselves over their entire relationship.Surprisingly everyone has actually told her to leave him on the subs she has posted to. He just sucks that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:21 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?He can use public transport. New York has good public transport and it will save him from spending $80 parking his car. Jeez. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:58 PM |
| 140 | the shit ppl do for cloutI looked her up. She makes BDSM porn with her boyfriend. Classy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:37 PM |
| 24 | What's something that made you realize you're former partner was LVM?Was obsessed with anal sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:25 PM |
| 9 | The body shamersThe requirements most women have for a man's appearance are basic grooming and not being clinically obese. Dad-bods are widely accepted as normal even when a man doesn't have kids and doesn't have his body physiogically changed by childbirth. Meanwhile men expect women to be living sex dolls. Women are shamed if they are even a couple of pounds overweight, but at the same time expected to have a round ass and big boobs. I have been teased, shamed for my weight by previous partners, (I have a ver… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 09:03 PM |
| 73 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?As a British girl, let me tell you British guys suck. All the stories of British men being gentlemen are rubbish yet American girls still swoon over a British accent. Please stop it's propaganda! I don't even date British guys myself because I know they suck. I'd rather date foreigners that have moved to the UK. It's better then the mix of binge drinking, low effort, toxic masculinity and lack of emotional maturity that is British men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:19 AM |
| 7 | The LVM responses to this post should convince any woman to never get into an FWB relationship. People think you are less of a person for being in one.The friend part is a lie. I said yes to an fwb relationship once because I was busy and like sex and had just gotten out of a horrible relationship. The sex was rubbish and we saw each other three times before he said he was too busy to be fwb, I highly suspect this is because I said no to meeting him last minute and said he had to actually make plans to see me in advance and take me somewhere for casual dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 27 | Work vs. Effort In RelationshipsI always had to de-escalate in a past abusive relationship. If I brought up any problem - (usually communication as the second half of the relationship was long distance and this person would refuse to call me once a week and always only wanted to text, because phone calls were too much effort) he'd threaten to break up with me. Me asking nicely 'could we please talk more' ended with him saying it was too hard to be with me and me telling him I loved him and that I didn't want to argue and dropp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 09:34 PM |
| 121 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!Dominant usually means 'into bdsm'. Not alpha or anything regarding being assertive and taking charge in life. They usually still want a mommy to cook and clean for them they just use kink to feel manly and important and justify their abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:19 PM |
| 27 | Why is it that men that call themselves ''lucky'' to be with you, or that can't believe you gave them a chance, eventually treat you like trash?This literally happened to me. I wouldn't call it love bombing because his frequency of texting and attention was normal. But the first time I came back to his place. Not for sex I just don't like kissing someone in a public place, he told me he was so lucky that I liked him and that we were dating etc etc. Two months later he 'wasn't feeling us being together' but wanted to stay friends. We hung out a few times and then he ghosted me. All from initially being sweet and attentive and respectful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 10:46 PM |
| 4 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?No, I'm not excusing anything. Intelligence and looks don't dictate how a man will treat you. I am basically saying that some low value men will lie for months to get sex and will initially put in effort because it's hard to get sex especially casual sex for all men. I've actually even pre FDS never had a man straight up tell me he wanted something casual - they knew I wanted a relationship therefore would always say they were looking for one too and then suddenly change their mind after we'd ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:26 AM |
| 36 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I saw this too. They were in an LDR and she'd only met him in person once but was sure 'he was the one' and all her posts on Reddit were about him and how amazing he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:44 PM |
| 15 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I dated someone for three months this year and there were no apparent red flags apart from him having some issues with depression which I was cautious about as a previous narc ex blamed all his abusive behaviour on poor mental health. We took it slow and there was no sex until he confirmed we were exclusively dating and no lovebombing. We took it very slow for someone in a liberal European country. Then we slept together, after around two and a half months. He then went on holiday to see his par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 28 | Can men stop deflecting and lying about their height when they realise I'm taller than them?I'm 5'10" and I remember going on a first date. My first online date ever and the guy I met immediately said I was tall. I said I'm 5'10 and he said he was the same height and made me stand back to back to him to 'measure' which of us was taller. I hate insecure men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Please, share your HVM stories/ relationshipsI obviously don't know about your personal life in detail but your post history regarding your fiance brings up some serious red flags. Also red pill women and this sub are very different ideologically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 09:07 PM |
| 5 | looking for a roommate when...What makes me think it is a sex for rent arrangement is the live in girl and college girl part. He could have a male cleaner. Usually these ads don't specifically ask for sex for rent because they'll get deleted but the 'female only' 'young' and 'college girl needing to get on her feet' imply they want a sexual arrangement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:51 PM |
| 11 | looking for a roommate when...He probably expects more than cleaning. Sounds like a sex for rent scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:11 PM |
| 11 | Had literally exchanged a few basic sentences with this guy (how are you, where do you live). He said he was having dinner so I said "enjoy" - then this 🙄His name is happy. Never talk to guys who put a fake name on their dating profile like 'happy' or 'lucky' or 'confident.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:00 PM |
| 1 | When he makes your house a LITERAL barnyard 😬Please PM me too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 12:33 PM |
| 8 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?Not sure if it was a link from another subreddit but I saw the sub being advertised on Reddit. In the similar subreddits column. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:35 PM |
| 10 | FDS women don’t do LDRs and we don’t do ‘spontaneous’.I was in an LDR. We actually met in person. So it wasn't a we met online scenario. I was working abroad on a nine month contract. We were both expats working at a resort. We got together. I was a pickmeisha and there were some red flags but compared to how the locals treated women I thought he was a catch. While I worked there things were good, as the resort was small so everyone knew we were a couple. My contract then finished and he said he wanted to do long distance. I agreed. But suddenly th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:11 PM |
| 11 | Beware of men who call you beautifulSame I'm pretty flat. And he watched a lot of big boob porn. However ironically the person he's dating now is even more flat chested than I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:27 PM |
| 14 | Beware of men who call you beautifulBeware of guys that only compliment you on your appearance but also beware of guys that never call you beautiful though especially once you start dating. My narc ex would occasionally say I was pretty but it was as if I was never good enough for him because I didn't look like the instagram models he followed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Start your marriage off right by settling 🙂I honestly think love languages are bullsh*t. It's like - 'so you want to justify why you deserve attention in a relationship' pick one option and that gets to be your love language. Also I honestly find it ironic that every man love language is physical touch. That just means sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:46 AM |
| 18 | Does anyone else not want to give a man oral sex ever againI don't mind giving oral sex if it is reciprocated and respectful but the amount of men who think it is normal to push my head down an hold it there while I am gagging and my eyes are watering is disturbing. I hated giving oral sex to an abusive ex for that specific reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:32 PM |
| 247 | A Nigerian prince says he rented out an entire NYC restaurant for his first date with his now-wife, who had no idea he was a royalNigerian princes exist? All the emails offering me money were true...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 12:09 AM |
| 43 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesThere was a thread in r/dating_advice yesterday where a woman said that online dating is hard for women too and the comments were just swamped by men saying women are entitled and that women can still get hookups off OLD and that's all that matters and they only complain because they can't find relationships but hookups obviously matter more and 'poor men - we can't get laid'. It was so depressing to read. Of course not getting many matches is soo much worse than getting matches and being ignore… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | I will not be dating interracially anymore. Here is why.I sympathise with your story and I think it is important to date someone who doesn't fetishize your race - such as guys with yellow fever, however this whole comment thread scares me with how 'anti black guys' it seems to be and how 'all other ethnicities disrespect me as a white women'. Racism should not be condoned in this sub. Also there are white guys and girls that exclusively date other Caucasian people - are you saying they are wrong for only dating one specific race? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 12:00 PM |
| 2 | One month curse and not letting LVM get to meI went on six dates with a guy recently. Everything seemed right and easy. We would talk and he would mention wanting to do things/ go places with me in the future. He was probably the smartest person I've ever met and I really liked him. Then he went to see his parents for a week stopped contacting me daily and then broke up with me out of the blue saying he didn't see himself being in a long term relationship with me. What can I say guys are fickle and can really hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:43 AM |
| 9 | Help me spill out the red pill + how can i find a HVW24 year old here. I'd never knowingly date a 'bad boy'. However I ended up dating a guy who treated me badly. We met through work, (I worked abroad at a hotel/ resort at the time) and he initially pursued me pretty hard and started off attentive and sweet. I originally liked him because of how he was friendly and nice to everyone at work. Things moved fast and he said he loved me after two months. Then began the cycle of shitty treatment until I would emotionally withdraw and start thinking abou… | /r/askFDS | 12/07/20 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Is the obsession with male height cultural?I actually didn't have any negative thoughts about his physique. Honestly he was a very handsome man. But believe what you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/20 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Is the obsession with male height cultural?People are allowed to have preferences. Women aren't evil for having a height preference and sure I've not been rejected for having smaller breasts but I had to endure constant comments and 'jokes' from my abusive ex about being flat chested/ pancake breasted. I never criticised his physical appearance at all/ penis size. Sure many guys may still date you even if you don't have the ideal 'pornstar'/'barbie' body but they then think they are entitled to free reign to criticize you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/20 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Another Post About HeightIt's more than one experience. I've met guys on dates who the first thing they have said to me is 'you're really tall' before even 'hello.' I've had men bring my height up multiple times in a conversation on first dates making jokes about it. Looking a my shoes to see if they are heeled. I had a guy who was the same height as me make me stand up so he could measure his height in relation to mine to make sure I wasn't negligably taller than him. But sure, women are terrible for having a height pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/20 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Another Post About HeightI'm not a tree. I find that kind of offensive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/20 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Women are complaining men don't want to commit. But what do you have to offer exactly? Do you think the problem is only due to men, or might also be tied to what the average modern woman has to offer?Women often provide a lot of emotional support and reassurance, and listen to their partners problems. Also even in modern relationships the division of labour is often unequally placed on the woman who cooks more and keeps the home/apartment tidy. In response to a comment you made about women needing a man to 'raise kids correctly' that is bullshit. My mother raised me alone and I am happy, successful in my career and educated -have a master's degree and have no urge to do hard drugs etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/20 11:15 AM |
| 10 | Another Post About HeightI'm 5'10" I put a filter on bumble for men over 5'10". Mainly because when I've met guys shorter than me THEY'VE had an issue with MY HEIGHT. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/20 09:02 AM |
| 2 | If short women were treated like short men, would it be seen as a more serious social issue?Tall women are treated like short men. The number of times i've turned up to a date and the first thing the guy says is 'you are really tall' before even hello, and kept mentioning my height during the date is too many times. And i am 5'10". There was a girl who was 6'1" who I worked with for a summer job during university and the amount of jokes made behind her back calling her hot but a 'giantess' and laughing how if they slept with her she would crush them in bed was a lot. She was beautiful,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/20 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.I think I've realised I need to take a step back from FDS and just sub to female level up strategy. I am pro-moderation and I think Reddit does a terrible job of it. Subs like the Donald that promote hate speech and racism still exist. However I think my main concern is that a lot of men on Reddit say this sub should be quarantined because it promotes hate speech. If people are posting about hitting their partner and getting upvoted and attacking commenters it reinforces Reddit scrotes negative … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 05:55 AM |
| 5 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.It's not. I screenshotted it if the mods are interested. It was being upvoted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 05:29 AM |
| 6 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.So I found FDS when it had 40K subs. It has 70+ now. I thought the advice was sound. Like if a guy is only contacting you every two days on online dating block him and enjoyed the posts about women levelling up. Yesterday I commented on a post about dating older men advising the women it's not a good idea. There was another comment on the post saying the girl obviously must have daddy issues. The original comment was downvoted reported and removed by moderators however the poster then posted mor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 05:22 AM |
| 10 | Male Depravity - Boyfriend won't propose unless OP loses weight, he compares her body to p0rnstars.Yeah you can't control where you gain weight 😅. "Curvy in the right way" is usually achieved either through implants, Photoshop or an intense workout regime and cutting out carbs to bulk up while maintaining muscle definition... I think the constant 'hints' to work out really messed me up for a time though. I was working for a ecology consultancy at the time doing bird surveys on an island (we met working at a resort) so I was hiking for around five hours a day over uneven hilly terrain and was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:42 PM |
| 0 | Older guysShe's 21 not 19... And you are still accusing her of daddy issues. It's outdated and Freudian to believe all of a woman's issues with men are to do with her relationship with her father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:45 PM |
| 0 | Older guysI'm not the OP. I didn't write this post. I commented on the post myself saying I didn't think dating someone older was a good idea if you look in the comments. I'm not even defending dating older men. But what I didn't do is accuse the poster of having 'daddy issues' or of being 'pedo fodder'. And just so you know i've never dated anyone more than three years older than me. I just think it's rude to say that to someone and make assumptions about their relationship with their father. But go ahea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Older guysAccusing her of having daddy issues is rude, judgemental and not helpful, and neither does it count as advice! Again I will reiterate you know NOTHING about her family situation. She's asking for advice and this subreddit is meant to be a safe space for women to discuss dating. People on this sub should at least try and be kind, write constructive comments and not attack other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:09 PM |
| 4 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?Yes apparently we are all men 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:23 PM |
| 8 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?The comment in question was deleted but there is a recent post on here where a 21 year old women said she didn't mind dating older guys and preferred it because guys her age weren't mature and asked advice on what age gaps were appropriate to have in a relationship. Someone commented: "Daddy issues. Therapy. Next." And guess what! Lots of people upvoted it. I just find comments like that on people's posts mean. The poster explained their thinking and asked for advice and in return received rude … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:10 PM |
| 28 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?I basically said that often on this sub a woman asks specifically for dating advice and immeadiately receives an overwhelming amount of comments saying she shouldn't be dating online or that she would be happier if she stayed single. It isn't wrong to want to meet a partner and often online dating is the only reasonable option so telling someone to not date at all, is kind of reductive on a dating sub especially if they specifically want to be dating. I also said I liked the level up posts and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 12:58 PM |
| 43 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?I wrote a comment mirroring this sentiment and it kept being taken down. I post and comment on this sub a lot and really like this sub and the first time I say something critical it immediately is removed... 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 12:35 PM |
| 7 | Older guysIf she was older this comment would be relevant but most 21 year old boys nowadays are scared of commitment, like to spend most of their free time jacking off to porn or partying, spend all their money on trainers/takeaways and often still live with their parents. So it is somewhat understandable why she doesn't want to date boys her own age. Take it from someone in their early twenties. I don't agree that you should date someone significantly older, but the comment "daddy issues, therapy, next"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 11:35 AM |
| 21 | Older guysIt's hard and I get why you like to date older. Young men at 21 are often VERY immature and have serious commitment issues driven by dating app culture, hookup culture and porn. I can understand the mindset of being with an older man and attracted to the idea of someone who wants a relationship and is financially solvent and can spoil you. However a 30+ year man shouldn't want to date a 21 year old. Just look at the relationship advice subreddit. So many of these men who target young women are p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 11:31 AM |
| 22 | Male Depravity - Boyfriend won't propose unless OP loses weight, he compares her body to p0rnstars.It's a never ending list... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 09:32 AM |
| 87 | Male Depravity - Boyfriend won't propose unless OP loses weight, he compares her body to p0rnstars.My ex was like this. Made weird comments about my weight from the beginning. Kept telling me my ass could be better if I did lots of squats. Would make constant 'jokes' about me being flat chested. When I told him I couldn't change that he would I say I could do chest exercises to build muscle giving me the illusion of bigger breasts. And yes he followed lots of Instagram models and watched porn. I stupidly didn't realize that it wasn't okay to criticize me. I just thought he was into the gym an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:02 AM |
| 34 | Reminder that older men who go out of their way to date vastly younger women need to be AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS and this is whyYep the pickme's/ don't kinkshame crowd were out in full force. There were so many comments saying 'oh you should get counselling with him' 'its probably his kink' or 'try couples therapy'. They should be telling her to get away from this man as fast as possible. He is a predator! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 09:02 PM |
| 24 | A post where a woman asks men to stop mansplaining on a female orientated subreddit and the responses by angry scrotes.Link to full post: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/gvtzad/somebody_please_tell_the_men_who_get_on_this_sub/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:45 PM |
| 17 | People actually took this post in r/marriage seriously!!! I tried very hard to make it satirical!!This Tupperware thing gives me life. I tag the user in every post that mentions it until she realises she can do better: u/i_like_stormy_days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:23 PM |
| 57 | Ladies, the bar continues to be so deep beneath the floor that it is in HellHe is not remotely attractive enough for 'only hookups' or that bio. What an absolute clown... 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:47 PM |
| 258 | Ladies, the bar continues to be so deep beneath the floor that it is in HellWell this is just grim. Especially the "clog your holes". I love it when men describe female genitalia like it is plumbing... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:07 PM |
| 11 | You breakup with him girl! He has no respect for you"We both decided it was best for me to move out." Right...🙄 We all know it was him who decided. He decided. He decided because he wanted freedom to fuck escorts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 11:03 PM |
| 11 | Why What He Spends MattersI agree it isn't everything. But a man should should be able to financially support himself. Have a steady income. Pay his rent, food and bills. Not live with his mother. However his mindset regarding money is also important. He should be generous when it comes to dating and in relationships. If he has a limited income, taking out the woman he is dating should take precedence above spending money on trainers and video games. Also if he is wealthy it doesn't necessarily mean he is high value and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:50 PM |
| 32 | Why What He Spends MattersI don't care if a man has a moderate income or is a millionaire as long as he can support himself financially and is generous enough to buy me a gift three times a year, on my birthday, Christmas, and valentine's Day and takes me for a nice sit down dinner/dates to treat me on a semi regular basis. An extremely wealthy man can still be ridiculously stingy and insist you split the bill. Generosity and willingness to invest in you is the most important thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:47 PM |
| 38 | Major makeup brand posts this on Facebook with the caption “hey, at least it’s the thought that counts??”. Chaos ensues in the comments.They need to hire a new social media person 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 10:52 AM |
| 47 | Major makeup brand posts this on Facebook with the caption “hey, at least it’s the thought that counts??”. Chaos ensues in the comments.What makeup brand was this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:27 AM |
| 5 | Just LVM Thingsu/i_like_stormy_days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:53 AM |
| 39 | Just LVM ThingsFrom her updates it seems she is still with him. Why do women tolerate this?... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:44 AM |
| 47 | Just LVM ThingsIt was a AITA post. By the woman. Was she being an asshole for not liking that her boyfriend peed in her tupperware. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gqpb4t/aita_for_getting_mad_at_my_boyfriend_for_peeing/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:40 AM |
| 57 | She says she felt weird about the first meet up, turns out he hit her car on purpose after months of planning and stalking so he could manipulate her into a relationship. Trust yourself! See it as a survival skill if nothing else D:u/Impossible_Menu Watch YOU on Netflix and heed this advice. It is not normal for someone to stalk you. A normal partner will want to date around and find someone with a COMPATIBLE PERSONALITY not stalk an girl on the sole basis that he found her physically attractive and therefore spent ages concocting a scenario to meet her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 01:35 PM |
| 15 | She says she felt weird about the first meet up, turns out he hit her car on purpose after months of planning and stalking so he could manipulate her into a relationship. Trust yourself! See it as a survival skill if nothing else D:If he stalked her to get her to date him I fear how he will react if she dumps him. I think he will continue to stalk her and not leave her alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 43 | LVM is unhappy that his girlfriend isn't 'open minded' enough to do anal and have a threesome involving him and her 'cute friends.' 🤮There's also this fool who tells OP that his girlfriend and him have mismatching libidos because she doesn't want to be assfucked. Guess what? He loves posting in MGTOW and the Trump subreddit. What a surprise! https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gqj107/my_girlfriend_20f_isnt_being_open_minded_about/fs889st?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:42 PM |
| 75 | LVM is unhappy that his girlfriend isn't 'open minded' enough to do anal and have a threesome involving him and her 'cute friends.' 🤮"Should I leave her or should I give her one last chance?" Chance for what? For him to nag her more about how as a straight man who is fucking her he should be automatically entitled to have legal rights and unlimited access to her asshole... 🙄 And fucking her 'cute friends' who likely have zero interest in him or threesomes in general 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:29 PM |
| 25 | LVM is unhappy that his girlfriend isn't 'open minded' enough to do anal and have a threesome involving him and her 'cute friends.' 🤮Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gqj107/my_girlfriend_20f_isnt_being_open_minded_about/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:15 PM |
| 4 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔I haven't found anything good on OLD but I have high standards and I'm looking for someone over 6 foot as I am 5' 10" myself. However in the UK people are very shy and the only way people seem to meet is work, university/school or dating apps. I only have one friend who had met a significant other through a hobby. I believe this is simply due to British people for the main part being very shy and reserved. 😅 Especially the younger generation who have grown up with dating apps being the norm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:52 AM |
| 33 | Can’t be an incel if I’m celibate willingly 😉 Looked at the profile and it’s actually a WOMAN who posts pictures of her boobs on gone wild subs. Pickme, much? Reported & blocked!You can't even know if the women is the one posting on gone wild though. There are guys who will 100% post a woman's nude pictures without her permission. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:23 AM |
| 24 | Can’t be an incel if I’m celibate willingly 😉 Looked at the profile and it’s actually a WOMAN who posts pictures of her boobs on gone wild subs. Pickme, much? Reported & blocked!She obviously doesn't like the anti porn rhetoric of this sub... There are however no female incels. The guys over at red pill have got that one right. Dick is abundant and low value and men always want to fuck. The plainest Jane can meet a dude who willing have sex with her. There are guys with fat fetishes that will worship a 300lb women and encourage her to eat more. FDS is however about meeting a guy who is relationship material - a HVM. Not about hooking up successfully like red pill. If wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:21 AM |
| 19 | Y'all Saved Me.It's good he showed his true colours early on. Being in an abusive relationship is no fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 04:48 AM |
| 5 | You guys, I'm laughing... this man got a WHOLE ASS LIST OF REQUIREMENTS. This isn't a dating profile, this is a job description.Jeez, last time I looked relationships were meant to be based on shared interests not someone liking all your Instagram photos so you can play at being a 'influencer'. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:32 PM |
| 15 | You guys, I'm laughing... this man got a WHOLE ASS LIST OF REQUIREMENTS. This isn't a dating profile, this is a job description.The whole Instagram thing screams narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:19 PM |
| 70 | Helped someone learn they’re dating a LVM today. Sent her his dating profile and screenshots of our date plans for this weekend.So I used OLD for the first time since March and Covid happening two days ago and matched with someone on a dating app and they started talking to me. A few messages in they asked where my name was from. I told him and I think he realised we were the same ethnicity and felt bad because suddenly he said 'Oh you seem nice but I actually am seeing someone and have been for the last few months. I must have liked you a long time ago.' Well he for one shouldn't have bumble still installed months after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:16 PM |
| 58 | Male Audacity or am I being rude?Tell him that he lives in a different country and you have realised you aren't looking for something long distance. It's a polite and tactful way to get rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 04:51 PM |
| 7 | Boy bye.There are way too many lols in this conversation. I miss the days of punctuation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:59 PM |
| 21 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.What sub was this on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:21 PM |
| 8 | Wife catches her husband paying for porn on only fans, which he lies about, but wife finds undeniable proof. REDDIT Scrotes tell her “it’s just porn” and manage to guilt trip OP into apologizing for being mad about paid porn subscription services. 🤦♀️u/123random321random12 This isn't acceptable. Especially if he knows the girl. Even if he doesn't, part of onlyfans is being able to message these girls sexually. It's more than porn. It's an interaction. I'd call that cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Ladies... I couldn’t even finish reading it. Here is full link https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gr084j/my_23f_husband_29m_convinced_me_to_try_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmfI've also been in that sort of relationship. Not physical abusive but emotionally abusive and sexually coercive. It takes a long time to leave. However I never posted on Reddit about it and my pickmeisha friends blamed his behaviour of 'stress' and 'the distance' as I do a lot of contract work in remote places and the relationship was briefly long distance. I just hope she listens and isn't one of those women who have a two plus year post history of posting in relationship advice about their pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:20 PM |
| 10 | Ladies... I couldn’t even finish reading it. Here is full link https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gr084j/my_23f_husband_29m_convinced_me_to_try_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmfThe sad thing is she will probably stay in this relationship. The fact she didn't leave immediately after he caused her so much pain she passed out is concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 08:53 PM |
| 3 | I thought I was the best girlfriend.My ex also never took me on a date, paid for anything or even got me a birthday present while I was the perfect little girlfriend, tupperwaring him food if he missed lunch when he was working (we met working at a resort) constantly praising him, listening to him rant about various things and always being up for sex whenever he wanted it. Meanwhile he didn't like calling me his girlfriend, acted hot an cold and wouldn't post photos of us on social media. He was also liked very sexual pictures of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:53 PM |
| 48 | Men who request female only housemates are creepy af tbh.He's definitely looking for sex for rent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:37 PM |
| -3 | I am a registered sex offender. Was put on it at 18 for a consensual relationship with a fifteen-year-old girl. Any attempt to build a restorative justice framework is going to have to address those in my position.You knew she was 15 and still fucked her. Even if she consented to it she was still a child. You were however at 18 an adult. And that has legal ramifications. If you liked this girl you could have continued the relationship but simply waited till she was OF AGE to stick your dick inside her. You deserve all that has come to you by willingly breaking the law. And before you all cry sexism I also believe it is wrong for an 18 year old woman to engage sexually with a fifteen year old boy. Both gen… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/20 01:56 PM |
| 7 | UPDATE: The scrotes got mad because I commented “men will slide that age of consent as low as possible if we let you” on a post full of men who were arguing why the age of consent should be lowered. Now I’m banned for “pushing a misandrist narrative” that was responding to men’s ACTUAL COMMENTS 😒It's the fuck off I find more rude. I feel like mods shouldn't be able to use rude language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:51 PM |
| 69 | "Unpopular opinion: Fellow females of reddit, if you ask a man his height, he has EVERY RIGHT to ask for your weight, bra size, vaginal depth, RNA sequence, and urine pH level. Double standards are NOT cute, ladies. Stop objectifying men!!!"As a woman who is 5'10" I second this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:36 PM |
| 48 | 4chan scrote creates a rating scale for women... of beautiful women who someone are not up to this man's standards...This looks like the 'ratings guide on r/Truerateme which is a disgusting sub. Whenever guys are actually nice about a women's appearance their comments get deleted as 'rate inflating' is a violation. Men do post on the sub but always get rated higher despite below average looks and the sub has all male mods and they also only have a detailed 'female looks' rating guide but not a men's one. Honestly I think the subs users just get off on insulting and degrading women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:26 PM |
| 2 | He was being pushy, so I blocked him.Plenty of fish is the trailer park of dating sites. There is only trash on there. I'd advise to try a dating sites where both of you have to like each other to match and you can therefore avoid unsolicited messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:57 AM |
| 390 | some men need to learn thisSo many men don't see women as real people. There was a guy I shared a kitchen with in my first year of university who would literally not talk to a girl if he didn't find her attractive and specifically wanted to fuck her. And no he wasn't getting laid. He ignored girls that weren't 'model pretty' and got friendzoned by the ones he did communictate with. He wasn't ugly or short either. I'd literally say hi to him and ask how he was everytime time I saw him out of politeness. Meanwhile he just w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Scrote seriously considers dumping gf bc she won't walk fasterYeah I think the worst thing you can lose is your dignity. Never again ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 12:51 AM |
| 15 | Ex Reaches out after four monthsDon't text him back. I broke up with my ex seven months ago. Didn't talk to him for a month. Blocked him on everything. He found my email (probably off LinkedIn 😅) and emailed me everyday. I relented when he sent me a long apology about how he'd been treating me for the six months before we broke up. We started talking again. I asked him to call me. He always refused to call me when we were together. He never did. I brought it up and was upset because he had made such an effort to get me to talk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 12:14 PM |
| 252 | I hate this channelI think they're stupid AF. Especially lifetime movies. BUT they are so incredulous they are addictive. My boyfriend's evil twin/ foster daughter from hell who seduces husband/ other crazy scenario that would never happen but keeps you glued to the screen. I LIVE for car crash films like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:27 AM |
| 160 | Women has height preference on dating app. Man decides to shame her, tell her she is ugly, ginger, old and 'dosen't deserve a man'.Men: Say they don't care about your height. Me (a 5'10" girl meeting them irl for the first time): Hey Men: Wow your really tall! How tall are you? 5'10? Oh I guess we're like the same height then! I didn't expect you to be so tall! (Proceeds to act uncomfortable and insecure to be on a date with a tall girl). The day after the date: "Hey I had a great time and you had a great personality but you're a bit too tall for me I think." Me: Disturbed by past experiences put height preference in dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 11:17 PM |
| 323 | I literally can’t stop laughing. Scrote pressures wife into “open marriage” doesn’t go the way he thought it would...I've always found the guys in 'open relationships' who are on dating apps are like SUPER UGLY. Weird piercings, an gandalf beard, skinny in a unattractive way. No muscle tone just bony or quite overweight. But somehow despite being hideous they have not only found a girlfriend but also a woman who doesn't mind being in a "ethical non-monogamous relationship". I find this a more confusing and perplexing puzzle than consolidating quantum mechanics with relativity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 64 | Thoughts?My ex would talk about how he thought Instagram girls were shallow and just looking for attention. He said he liked that I was a good girl and didn't post anything risqué. But at the same time he followed multiple soft core porn accounts on Instagram and amateur porn stars 🤮 He would scroll through them infront of me. I tried to play the 'cool girl' back then so I'd just jokingly say 'oh you're always looking at naked photos haha' when I should have said it made me uncomfortable. He also would s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | What makes a man boring?I went on a date with a guy once who was very boring. I bit the bullet and said we should meet early on. This was before FDS, that advises to wait to let a man ask you out. He hardly talked to me before the date and I was reluctant to meet up because he literally asked me no questions about my life. He said there was no point getting to know me if we didn't click in person. I went to meet him, because I don't think it's appropriate to flake on someone even though I really wasn't feeling it. When… | /r/askFDS | 24/03/20 11:20 AM |
| 1 | I feel I missed out and will be shamed if I want the same things everyone else had.You say you want understanding that you feel you missed out during your twenties. Due to your appearance and lack of confidence. First of all there is a lot of pressure put on women's appearance especially their weight. Not everyone will find you attractive. I know this first hand. Also for the record, I am 24 and none of my female friends want to have casual sex. They meet guys via online dating, go on two or three dates, sleep with the guy and get ghosted. By saying you want to have casual sex… | /r/askFDS | 22/03/20 10:15 PM |
| 1 | I feel I missed out and will be shamed if I want the same things everyone else had.So you are basically saying you want to sleep around because you didn't in your twenties to a sub Reddit that gives dating advice to women who are looking for long term relationships? I think you have the wrong subreddit if you want pity. Also as a woman it's never been my perogative to sleep around. So its not necessarily something that everyone wants to do in their youth. I think online dating culture simply normalises casual sex because it's something normalised and glorified by the media but… | /r/askFDS | 22/03/20 12:04 PM |
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