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Reddit will never condone asking out the women that you see all the time. Randoms only, chump.
/r/seduction22/03/18 01:45 AM
10

Get a job alongside her and work on her for months. Seriously, just go for someone that's not so shamelessly after your money.
/r/seduction21/03/18 11:58 PM
3

Don't spend money for the gift.
/r/seduction21/03/18 01:16 AM
1

There's only one. And it's: Don't.
/r/seduction20/03/18 07:50 PM
31

The will to get back up everytime they fall.
/r/seduction20/03/18 02:25 AM
2

Let her decide that. Don't do it for her.
/r/seduction20/03/18 02:08 AM
1

While these kinds of posts are, IMO, constructive and helpful, I would highly appreciate an argument be made where variables are controlled for. In this case, this man has plenty of other things going for them, and a chump can take one look at this and conclude to themselves that it isn't just the dress style that's making or breaking this person. Show me a fat, ugly, unemployed motherfucker failing at pick up without the thing(in this case, the dress fix) and then succeeding with the thing.
/r/seduction20/03/18 01:53 AM
68

Oh thank god, I was worried you'd think I was one, too. lol
/r/seduction19/03/18 11:38 PM
1

Not people that learn how to date while in middle school. They think dating is asking someone if they want to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, then pretending you're married if they say yes. This is soooo ubiquitous with random people that you meet.
/r/seduction19/03/18 10:55 PM
1

genetics. We can't all be super smart. So sick of hearing this. I got my CS and Math degree alongside some very stupid human beings. It's not about being smart. It's about commitment and having a way to finance the tuition.
/r/seduction15/03/18 04:15 PM
2

No, he means he tried to use the advice and it didn't work. XD
/r/seduction14/03/18 05:16 PM
1

The title reads "Do I need to watch videos on seduction to get good with women". Don't move the goal posts. You're here because you're scared to practice. Get off reddit and go approach women.
/r/seduction14/03/18 04:34 PM
3

Does watching videos of LeBron James dunk on Currie make you a better ball player? Nothing replaces practice.
/r/seduction14/03/18 12:22 AM
3

Dial up the aggression a bit while you're together
/r/seduction13/03/18 02:31 AM
2

I keep getting older, they... keep getting less and less interesting :(
/r/seduction13/03/18 01:00 AM
0

Can you imagine if a Lion stopped right before pouncing on his prey and thought "This is kinda messed up. I shouldn't do this"
/r/seduction10/03/18 12:57 PM
1

It takes a matter of seconds to find someone on social media. Friending them is not an implication of stalking. Besides, anything they put on facebook is public. It is not private. Anyone can view it.
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:24 AM
1

I have plans to meet up with folks. That's all you have to say.
/r/seduction08/03/18 07:35 PM
1

Pretend to be gay around them.
/r/seduction08/03/18 06:28 AM
1

My response continues to apply.
/r/seduction07/03/18 08:04 PM
2

Decide for yourself if it's worth the flight risk. If she arbitrarily broke your heart once, why would you give her a chance to do it again?
/r/seduction07/03/18 08:00 PM
33

Actions. Words. You have to decide which one is louder.
/r/seduction07/03/18 05:59 AM
2

Fuck. I have all of this and the women still aren't lining up at my door.
/r/seduction07/03/18 12:10 AM
63

When you moved, you were forced out of your shell. You see more people when you have to go out and do stuff.
/r/seduction04/03/18 06:37 AM
0

Without reading your post, if this is important to you, and I dont feel like it should be, just make mental (or actually write it down) note of it. Keep account of when she does this so you can employ concrete examples when you confront her on the subject. But again, you should just be off looking for others. Going after your friend alone is just going to turn into oneitis
/r/seduction04/03/18 04:31 AM
1

I genuinely laugh when this happens. The insecurity on her part is so obvious. If you've got a wingman, or someone nearby that would appreciate the humor, call them over. "Dude, check it out. lmao She wont respond to anything. This is so awesome. It's like a robot!"
/r/seduction03/03/18 09:10 PM
3

Without even clicking the link, I can jump on board with the headline. Travelling will culture you. Such experience will make you much more interesting.
/r/seduction03/03/18 09:50 AM
3

Yes, the age gap is too much and you should just forsake anything you ever want ever. Do you not see the ridiculousness of your question? Go for it, dumbass!
/r/seduction03/03/18 06:58 AM
1

Wasting your own time now if it goes poorly then. Just get the logistics out of the way. Rip the bandaid off, so to speak.
/r/seduction02/03/18 09:38 AM
4

Next time you speak with her, casually tell her you really like talking to her and want to talk to her more. Segue that to asking for a number.
/r/seduction02/03/18 09:29 AM
1

She lives with her parents. She can't be that old if she's dating someone young enough to be a virgin. So there's only so much experience that she could have that would make me appear small to her.
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:58 AM
9

I had a rich guy tell me the other day, "Just chill and let your passive income build up" I'm like...so THAT'S why I'm not rich yet.
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:48 AM
3

Something about education not furthering a man's mating eligibility bothers me.
/r/seduction27/02/18 10:05 AM
4

Lol the optimism with this one. She doesn't like you. Find another.
/r/seduction27/02/18 09:46 AM
2

Again, literal age is irrelevant. What matters here is the fact that her mother is still chaperoning her everywhere. Regardless of her age, that is the case. So if you tried to get with her, her mother would still be chaperoning. That is a situation you do not want to be in.
/r/seduction21/02/18 12:30 AM
1

If she's being chaperoned by mommy, she's not ready to talk to boys. It doesn't matter what her actual age is. The fact that mommy must accompany her everywhere shows either that her mental age is pathetic, or mommy insists on controlling her life entirely. Either way, you dont want no part of that, Dewey.
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:40 AM
11

...Go to your room? Or fix the problem completely by not caring?
/r/seduction08/02/18 08:05 PM
3

I find nothing inherently bad about such an age gap. However, Unless she's mature for her age, and/or you're immature for your age, it's highly unlikely that you'll have anything to talk about after a couple of weeks. Relationships like this tend to fall into a serious rut. If you want a prime trophy, by all means, go get'em. If you want someone that will complement your life, searching among your own age group is more prudent.
/r/seduction07/02/18 12:36 AM
2

The apocalypse happened on my face when I was a teenager. Every volcano on earth erupted at once.
/r/seduction06/02/18 10:35 AM
3

Say the words out loud.
/r/seduction01/02/18 06:39 AM
6

Not the app. It's the industry entirely that gives females the leverage to be discriminant. There's absolutely nothing tinder can do about that. They dont create the demand.
/r/seduction01/02/18 12:16 AM
1

I think it's has something to do with the recent 'pound me too' movement on twitter.
/r/seduction28/01/18 10:14 AM
2

Unless you're just hilariously bad at kissing, which few people are, she just got a sudden anti-slut defense deployment in her head. Sucks, but it really wasn't you. But any further effort made on this woman is a waste of time. Move on to the next.
/r/seduction25/01/18 07:19 PM
10

How do I slow my brain down enough so that it wont outpace my speech, then?
/r/seduction23/01/18 11:49 PM
12

Do you ask the fish why they wont bite, too? Trust me, they wont(cant) be honest with you.
/r/seduction18/01/18 07:09 PM
1

Abundance mentality. If she wants to give attention to another dude, go give your attention to another woman, or whatever else you find worth your time. Think of it as a massive shit test. If you let it dictate how you feel, you lose.
/r/seduction18/01/18 10:06 AM
2

Nothing. Their rejection text should be the last one sent between the two of you forever.
/r/seduction13/01/18 05:55 PM
3

It's a huge shit test. That or she's incredibly insecure. Either way, you don't want that in your life. Just next her.
/r/seduction11/01/18 12:47 AM
1

You're dating, yes? She's had sex before, yes? So when you feel like doing something with or to her next time, ...just do it. It's not like your established, experienced girlfriend is going to shoot you down and shame you for wanting something. Just do what you want when the urge hits you. Just do it. Stop trying to think.
/r/seduction06/01/18 11:00 PM
4

You have to add value to the situations you're in.
/r/seduction01/01/18 09:36 PM
2

You wouldn't want a woman that constantly needs you to go out of your way to maintain them like that. It's going to be annoying having to remember to say things or act out of your own character just to make sure they don't fall into their own bad habits. You do you. A lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of the sheep. When you find one you actually like, it'll be clear to them that you like them. Besides all that, despite the fact that they think you dont like them, they're still makin…
/r/seduction30/12/17 08:05 PM
3

Womens' insecurities shouldn't concern you nearly as much as you're letting it.
/r/seduction30/12/17 07:59 PM
1

If it's something relatively obvious, my response is usually "Correct." or "You're damn right!"
/r/seduction24/12/17 10:12 AM
1

r/seduction is not r/amiugly. Go take your insecurities to that sub instead.
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:19 PM
1

She chickened out. You got rejected. Move on.
/r/seduction20/12/17 02:25 PM
1

If you're going to see her again, just continue the game when you next see her. Stop panicking. Stop even thinking about it. Just live your life the same way as you would if you hadn't even met her. You need to maintain outcome independence.
/r/seduction20/12/17 10:19 AM
3

Sidebar, read it all
/r/seduction20/12/17 01:16 AM
7

You have to test the waters yourself. Unless she's just throwing herself at you, you still have to be brave and take a chance. Always. That's a fact of life and if you wish to mate, you have to be a bold specimen. Touch her. High five her, tap her elbow, etc. And gauge her reaction carefully. If her body language continues to be inviting, continue to escalate. If she becomes a bit distant, cut it out.
/r/seduction20/12/17 01:15 AM
5

You got rejected. Move on.
/r/seduction20/12/17 12:00 AM
23

Holy fuck. Get off reddit and go talk to her. Now.
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:32 AM
1

I don't like the no-true-scotsmen logic.
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:23 AM
2

I'll be the anecdote that refutes this.
/r/seduction12/12/17 05:12 PM
1

Confidence helps game. Physique brings easy confidence.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:04 AM
7

Wish we could leave the message but just delete our name off of it.
/r/seduction11/12/17 11:36 PM
5

Stop and take a look at what's happening when you don't overtext. They're approaching you to tell you that they want to talk more. Why would you change your actions if it's completely working in your favor? It's a shit test at worst. It's them throwing themselves at you at best.
/r/seduction09/12/17 05:38 AM
2

There's a window open when you first meet. Get through before it closes.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:25 AM
1

is it just me or does this sub's reaction as predictable as r/incel when it comes to women posting?
/r/seduction29/11/17 09:22 PM
5

We're cautious now because it's really difficult to shake off a sexual harassment claim against you. Saying anything 'mischievous' to a women is riskier now. Gone are the days where the worst thing that can happen to you for 'being mischievous' is her saying "no".
/r/seduction22/11/17 05:11 PM
0

Be up front about it. Tell them both what you want. Out loud. In clear sentences.
/r/seduction19/11/17 04:00 PM
1

Is an attention hoe. Just make your own plans if she doesn't respond in the time frame you want. If she pops up with a yes with too short of a notice, just tell her you made other plans and she should've responded sooner. Better luck next time. etc.
/r/seduction18/11/17 10:59 PM
0

lol she was the only girl in that bar at that moment in time. I didn't think I was getting laid. I thought I implied that I'd had that figured out already. I didn't want anything more than a possible lay at that point because of the self-esteem flag. This post is just me asking for future reference. But yeah, desperate and all.
/r/seduction17/11/17 08:13 PM
1

Isn't Barcelona getting a bit... dangerous these days? I want to visit Spain but the impending civil war really turns me off.
/r/seduction15/11/17 01:18 AM
1

You overcome it before you even get into bed. Confidence is useful for more than just getting her attention.
/r/seduction12/11/17 11:29 PM
10

Wait what? Put my penis on the line? That sounds dangerous. ...but possible! ...yeah, totally possible while I'm standing up straight. Because it's huge and all.
/r/seduction10/11/17 01:35 AM
23

aaaand eventually my foot will be in her vagina? How's that work?
/r/seduction10/11/17 01:06 AM
1

Is this like...the urban way of saying escalate? Similar to aks and ask?
/r/seduction07/11/17 05:21 PM
20

I refuse to use my tongue because it's nothing but awkwardness for me. I dont like it. Kisses are great but god damn, the tongue is anything but necessary. Tongue is for oral sex.
/r/seduction04/11/17 09:32 PM
8

Bahaha! That's because you're taking the "say hi" as a literal instruction to be followed exactly as stated. Don't. Just introduce yourself and pretend she's ugly. That should let your brain move the the next natural thing to say.
/r/seduction03/11/17 10:56 PM
14

They're only difficult until you say hi.
/r/seduction03/11/17 10:30 PM
3

I doubt anything I said to that dumbfuck would actually be heard. I refused to listen to anyone when I was younger.
/r/seduction03/11/17 01:50 AM
3

...It doesn't sound to me like he was trying to fuck her.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:54 PM
1

Ok regardless of which of those is true, do you think she would stop acting that way to everyone else if you were with her? Would you want her to?
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:29 PM
4

You're the mysterious foreign guy. ..With a translator app on your phone if you really need to communicate.
/r/seduction26/10/17 08:22 PM
9

People would say texting because it feels safer. So I'm going to say calling because grow the fuck up and tell them what you want.
/r/seduction26/10/17 05:18 AM
-8

My goal is to make pretty people understand what rejection feels like.
/r/seduction26/10/17 04:55 AM
1

yes
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:58 AM
1

I think the moment you get laid elsewhere, you'll feel better and will be fine with just being friends with her. If you care at all about being friends underneath your self-loathing, I hope you get some soon before she gives up and shit becomes unsalvageable.
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:55 AM
3

Good god man. Feel around your crotch area and make sure your balls are still there. You dropped off a note and ran away? You telegraph your insecurities and then confirm them when she shit tests you? Holy hell, you're going to have to just man up at some point. It's scary, yes. Deal with it. [Straight] women do not like pussies.
/r/seduction21/10/17 11:13 PM
4

Porn and Hookers is a way around the hard work that's required to get what you actually want. It's like going to McDonalds for a quick and easy, yet disgusting fix to your hunger vs taking the time to get the fresh ingredients from a farmer's market to make a proper meal. Doing it too much will become a habit and you will never be satisfied. And you wont be any closer to knowing how to get what you really want.
/r/seduction21/10/17 11:00 PM
10

If the chick blows you off to engage the threesome opportunity, just go open on another chick. Abundance mentality. Your only necessity is time. You can still catch more fish is the only thing you have is time.
/r/seduction20/10/17 05:46 PM
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lol
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:22 PM
1

Indeed. Read subreddit rules thoroughly before posting in any and all subreddits.
/r/seduction13/10/17 07:55 AM
1

Side bar.
/r/seduction13/10/17 06:28 AM
2

I would imagine young girls 18-22 would be rather easily impressed and seduced by an older, more experienced male. Assuming the chick isn't blanket banning guys over 27 or something.
/r/seduction29/09/17 09:09 PM
8

You don't care if they actually are attracted. You assume attraction until they explicitly state otherwise.
/r/seduction28/09/17 08:56 PM
0

"Is it my birthday or something?"
/r/seduction26/09/17 02:25 AM
2

Game the group instead of isolating one immediately?
/r/seduction25/09/17 02:04 AM
1

Also, one mistake should be enough for her to lose you, too.
/r/seduction18/09/17 09:22 PM
2

You don't compete. You don't play her game. You make her play your game. Figure out what your game is.
/r/seduction15/09/17 08:13 AM
1

Agreed. But "It's hard" is not an excuse and I won't hear it.
/r/seduction06/09/17 08:28 PM
1

This is not the place for such a question.
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:09 AM
1

She's using your attention. She wants nothing else from you. Next her.
/r/seduction04/09/17 11:06 PM
1

lol no. Soldiers arent busy. Unless he's deployed, he's got time.
/r/seduction01/09/17 05:36 PM
1

If you send anything more, it will become a mistake. So stop there and live your life until you hear from her. Seriously. Stop thinking about her. ...You're still thinking about her. Stop it. Go outside or something. Occupy your time with life. Approach someone else in the meantime, etc.
/r/seduction27/08/17 08:11 PM
2

Charm the parents. Approach the group and give your main attention to the parents.
/r/seduction27/08/17 08:09 PM
2

Meh, you folks aren't married. You can't assume any boundaries are implied. You have to state them explicitly.
/r/seduction15/08/17 07:31 PM
2

Uh... as far as I know, genocide by my own hand is not attainable...
/r/seduction14/08/17 11:51 PM
3

Because they're as scared of rejection as you are.
/r/seduction05/08/17 09:53 AM
-1

I dont deny that. I just think it's silly to give the advice of "dont use tinder" in a thread ABOUT how to use tinder, especially when you word it in a way that makes it seem like you're saying something else at first.
/r/seduction04/08/17 03:29 AM
23

If your effort is being allocated to "escaping the friendzone" then you're showing signs of oneitis. Just hit next. If you cant get what you want from someone, you have no reason for being around the person.
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:48 PM
-10

Oh, the abstinence approach. Best way to not get hurt skiiing? Dont ski. Right? Best way to get alot of matches? Dont use tinder.
/r/seduction03/08/17 08:46 PM
3

...no there arent?
/r/seduction03/08/17 08:35 PM
1

but it's pretty challenging to eat enough to gain unwanted weight working out that hard Bullshit, actually. Calorie-dense foods are very abundant in our world. It's very easy to over eat, regardless of how many calories you're burning. That's why most people are fat now.
/r/seduction28/07/17 04:00 PM
4

You can do everything by they book and still get shut down.
/r/seduction21/07/17 04:46 PM
2

Insecurity is another form of narcissism. Embrace the fact that you're insecure. Admit things freely and laugh at yourself. Understand you're not important enough for your faults to matter. The beauty here is the women you want are in the exact same boat. They're just as caught up in themselves as you are. You fall down, you laugh at yourself. Why? Because it's fucking funny.
/r/seduction20/07/17 01:10 AM
1

You're asking us to put all the resources this subreddit makes available by default in this post tied up in a nice neat bow for you to consume in the best order possible. Dude. There's a sidebar. Start reading. All of it. Read every damn link over there.
/r/seduction20/07/17 01:07 AM
3

Shallow implies you dont care about anything else(or at least very little else). Choosing only to approach non-fats is shallow only when that's literally all you need out of them. If you're still finding other criteria to test for after meeting them, you're not being shallow. You're being discriminatory. And that's actually very common when searching for a mate. Calling it shallow is just naive.
/r/seduction19/07/17 08:20 PM
133

Dont wear it on your sleeve but if asked, answer it and care not about the response you get. You dont care what people think of you. Outcome independence is still important at that stage. Maintain yours.
/r/seduction19/07/17 08:01 PM
1

Doubt it. She's gorgeous and I just started working out last month. Still pretty fat.
/r/seduction15/07/17 06:59 PM
2

Unless she's married to and has a kid with her workout partner. I honestly dont understand why this chick keeps sneaking looks at me every day.
/r/seduction15/07/17 06:44 AM
3

Dont make her stop lifting to speak to you. Make a harmless comment at her, then continue on your way. If she wants to speak, you'll know by her body language response.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:48 PM
1

Throwing it back on you when you're being earnest is manipulative. This entire thread you've made has exposed the toxicity of the relationship. You should really be looking for major changes now.
/r/seduction14/07/17 02:22 PM
4

From the sounds of things, he's getting tooooo comfortable with his situation. Now, I'm not declaring this as fact, it's just speculation. But he may be so ingrained in his situation now that to motivate him to change, he's going to have to go through a significant eye-opening event. This could be you dumping him, or it could be something more significant like having a heart attack or developing diabetes. I think you should bring this to his attention. You care about him, right? So much so that …
/r/seduction13/07/17 07:34 PM
11

So live your life. Don't get oneitis and hold yourself back.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:54 PM
16

Lol he just wants to have easy sex. He's too out of shape to do it any other way.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:48 PM
30

But honestly, at 18, you deserve better... She's on reddit. She's heard the 'hit the lawyer, join facebook, delete the gym' soundbyte white knight lines over and over. Lets try to give her something original.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:48 PM
4

You're going to have to get him back in shape. Encourage him to start walking with you. Encourage him to eat less. Encourage him to live more healthily. His confidence and drive will come back with his health. Also, communicate. FFS, you could probably just say the same things to him as you've said to us and get much better results. If he flat out refuses to get better, you should know then that the two of you aren't compatible.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:45 PM
10

Friendzone her. She's got an established social circle that makes plans semi-often. So use that to meet more people and grow your own circle. Dont you dare get oneitis on the very first girl you ever approached.
/r/seduction13/07/17 03:08 PM
4

Many of us can't just go through life on how we feel. I, personally, cannot ignore cold logic, no matter how emotional I get. This post helps the most analytical of us break down the problem to its most atomic form and fix it there.
/r/seduction12/07/17 08:06 PM
3

I think it says more that one feels more/less worthy from subconscious cues. In no way did I get a "You're worth much less than better men" from this.
/r/seduction12/07/17 08:05 PM
2

Therefore the beta male elephant seal has an instinctual fear of trying to mate with females, since doing so would put his life in jeopardy Doesnt this imply that the beta would actually mate? If this trait is evolved, the beta would indeed have to be passing his "too scared to mate" gene.
/r/seduction12/07/17 07:55 PM
1

Too many of these are subpoints of others. I think you should delete this, revise a few times, maybe proofread it again as well, then repost.
/r/seduction11/07/17 09:13 PM
8

Exposure is a numbers game. He's applying seduction techniques to reddit, lmao. He only wants us for karma! AFCs Beware!
/r/seduction09/07/17 08:53 PM
1

It's not for no reason. There's a very specific reason and he explains it in the post.
/r/seduction05/07/17 05:55 PM
5

Low self-esteem. Remember the push-pull method? Allocate all resources to push.
/r/seduction02/07/17 04:36 AM
10

Then you no longer need advice on the matter. Forget she exists. Do not validate her apology. Let her learn something from the experience. Do not speak to her again.
/r/seduction01/07/17 04:14 PM
31

You're missing the point. They're not bashing others for wanting to learn. They're bashing others for over-intellectualizing the material and spending forever reading instead of actually doing. Spending 6 months reading doesn't help you any more than spending 2 weeks and then doing. You're stalling because you still dont want to deal with your anxiety. This has been by far the least toxic and most helpful subreddit I've ever seen.
/r/seduction01/07/17 03:42 PM
2

Attempt to remove your filter when talking - say what's on your mind as long as it is socially acceptable Lol and if I'm out trying to get laid, I guess I'm an auto-fail.
/r/seduction29/06/17 08:22 PM
0

Women are just too scared to live their life like they want.
/r/seduction29/06/17 07:56 PM
16

"No one likes asian guys" Lol that must be why the out-populate the rest of the world.
/r/seduction29/06/17 05:52 PM
-2

No.
/r/seduction29/06/17 02:37 PM
8

What likely ends up happening is you get with a new girl and it's great at first. But you never have a conversation regarding your expectations, so she assumes what she wants. Which has been exclusivity and LTR. You have to actually say it to them to get it.
/r/seduction27/06/17 08:21 PM
1

I think what he actually is referring to is flagrant, low-effort peacocking. We still have to be noticed. Peacocking can be done much more skillfully.
/r/seduction23/06/17 01:15 PM
1

I want to understand the quip here but I just can't. Can someone explain?
/r/seduction22/06/17 03:33 PM
5

What you've described is the most common rationality that good men use to NOT approach you. We both become lonely because of it.
/r/seduction18/06/17 03:35 PM
2

Fuckin pick-up vegans
/r/seduction18/06/17 12:33 AM
29

Im not going to be rude unless i get a...sense that the guy is doing this to multiple women This seems a bit unfair. Of course the guy is doing this to multiple women. There's absolutely no way he's ever going to get to talk to women if he doesn't practice. You can be my practice yet still have my genuine interest. They're not mutually exclusive.
/r/seduction17/06/17 07:51 PM
1

I think you're actually being told to BELIEVE they are lying because it's the attitude you need to have in order to minimize the difficulty in fixing yourself.
/r/seduction16/06/17 02:39 PM
14

If I had an award with "most unhelpful comment" engraved on it, I would relinquish it to you.
/r/seduction15/06/17 09:58 PM
1

Not every conversation requires you to be super funny. But it does require you to be interesting. Us commoners need some way of pretending to be interesting.
/r/seduction14/06/17 11:37 PM
2

Choose something about her that she doesn't hear about often. Everyone else tells her she's pretty. She's bored of compliments on her appearance. Find her effort and praise it. If she's a girl that does put in alot of effort on her appearance, it's fine to praise her make up job or new hair cut. But usually you want to keep it outside of appearance.
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:23 PM
2

You dont live in an ideal world. You need to grow up.
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:19 PM
3

Those girls do other things most of the time. They dont make video games their whole social life.
/r/seduction06/06/17 10:06 PM
-5

Hiking takes effort...?
/r/seduction06/06/17 10:05 PM
1

You need to just talk to him directly. If you have alot to say to him, type a rough draft and revise to make sure you get everything in. He's texting you on his own volition, so he's clearly still interested to some extent. So tell him directly that you want/need to see him. The unnecessary text game is not fair to you.
/r/seduction05/06/17 10:27 PM
0

You're wrong... ...to be on FaceBook and other social media. Get off, now. Go talk to peoples' faces.
/r/seduction03/06/17 04:48 PM
3

This girl, specifically, is likely very emotionally immature and is overguarding herself from buzzwords alone. Just next her. You're fine.
/r/seduction03/06/17 04:13 PM
2

Damn, sure wish it worked that way for us. It'd be much simpler.
/r/seduction03/06/17 02:17 PM
4

She doesn't have anything to lose by not talking to you, though. Hot girls are approached all the time. They dont need to do any work. There's no need for them to try. To them, it's always just a matter of time before something they like happens upon them.
/r/seduction29/05/17 09:25 PM
8

Then it costed you $100 to learn your friend is a bad wingman
/r/seduction28/05/17 03:34 AM
36

I'm responding to the title and not the post. Wanting sex is not perverse. I'm so tired of this word being overused.
/r/seduction27/05/17 05:59 AM
34

Absolutely. Saves you so much work to do.
/r/seduction25/05/17 09:06 AM
1

Tone. Inflection. Context. Etc. You dont need us to tell you. We can't anyway. Does she still want to keep fucking? Probably the only clue you need, right there.
/r/seduction23/05/17 12:38 PM
1

Also read up on last minute resistance(LMR). It has to do mostly with sex, but you sound like you were getting LMR before a kiss.
/r/seduction22/05/17 07:10 PM
5

Just swallow your damn oneitus and dump her. Tell her you're not into the idea of being used, again. Edit: Also, you'll feel alot prouder once you do. This will help confidence and cascade down the rest of the needed emotions for success.
/r/seduction22/05/17 04:12 PM
5

Idk if she just want to fuck or not Oh how precious.
/r/seduction22/05/17 01:19 PM
1

responses, not matches. But yes.
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:33 PM
1

I have no idea how to make my question any clearer.
/r/seduction17/05/17 09:17 PM
1

You've said your pictures look bad more than once in this thread. How do you get people to respond to an ugly-to-average face? It seems like folks are just way to shy and/or cowardly to respond to messages.
/r/seduction17/05/17 06:16 AM
1

Says who?
/r/seduction05/05/17 02:16 AM
1

Unhelpful answer.
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:08 PM
0

Chemicals in her brain
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:06 PM
5

boys
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:19 AM
17

She may have been raised by very social parents from the pre-tech age.
/r/seduction31/03/17 05:25 PM
62

For most girls, they were ugly ducklings in middle school and highschool. All they wanted was for the average guy to talk to them. This feels so incredibly optimistic to believe.
/r/seduction21/02/17 07:01 PM
1

Learn that your own feelings dont matter. If you want something, you have to just grind until it's yours. I dont care if you go 50 years without a score. You keep trying (changing your methods occasionally, of course) again and again and again until you succeed. If you ACTUALLY want something, you will attempt it until one of two things happens. Either you succeed, or you die before you can finally succeed.
/r/seduction10/01/17 04:53 PM
1

Screw the 3 needs. There are only 2 needs. Eating and Mating. You have a drive to eat to keep yourself alive. You have a drive to mate to keep your species alive. It's hardcoded into you. You cannot escape it unless you happened to be born without that trait, which is rare considering Darwinian tendencies of all long lived species. You care because your entire body is telling you that you need it.
/r/seduction10/01/17 04:52 PM
1

Hell yeah. So lesbian that she's hooking up with dudes when she meets them.
/r/seduction01/11/16 02:17 PM
1

You know that one of Seddit's staple philosophies is to assume attraction until otherwise refuted, right? They're only doing to you what you're being taught to do here. Besides, it's too simple to say that their confidence is exclusive to their self-perception of their outward appearance.
/r/seduction11/08/16 03:21 PM
54

Women are just as pathetic and self-conscious as we are. Realize that it's just as likely that you're "cooler" than she is as the other way around.
/r/seduction05/08/16 08:26 PM
2

The advice has to be: Stop wanting it to not suck. It will suck. But you shouldn't care.
/r/seduction22/07/16 05:20 PM
2

There's no risk in a neutral face. You cant reject their social offer by ignoring their smile, and they dont have to worry about scaring you away by scowling at you. It's safe.
/r/seduction19/05/16 03:58 PM
15

Immediately when you meet her is not soon enough.
/r/seduction08/11/15 06:56 AM
2

That is actually a good point. I'll remember that.
/r/seduction07/10/15 01:22 PM
2

Not in a gym. Just someone I see occasionally around campus. I have no excuse to approach her, I just want to make it known to her I thinks she's pretty.
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:40 AM
1

Which is why I wouldnt make a record of it by posting to facebook. This would happen in person or never.
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:39 AM
3

No more than I want.
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:03 AM
2

What if she works out and her beauty is hard earned?
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:03 AM
6

You forgot "Lawyer up"
/r/seduction06/10/15 02:53 PM
1

Most girls I try to talk to never seem to be able to talk either. So I would say just look them in the eyes and show your attention to them.
/r/seduction25/07/15 06:49 PM
5

Make one if it intensifies the humor of the current situation. Just dont let it be your default method of humor. Its pathetic when someone only makes jokes about themselves. It makes it seem like you're desperate to make people laugh and are willing to throw yourself in the fire because you dont have any other material. If it's occasional, it can be great for displaying confidence. If it's all the time, it only displays self-pity.
/r/seduction26/06/15 10:07 PM
2

Ok, this response assumes you're familiar with the tendencies of the average member of pretty much all societies in the world: Everyone is taught not to stare because it is impolite. So most people are actually rather apprehensive about looking strangers in the eye because they've grown up avoiding "staring". If you start looking directly at strangers on a sidewalk or anywhere else you would pass them, you'll notice that pretty much every one of them will avoid looking at you at all cost. Doesnt…
/r/seduction26/06/15 10:03 PM
2

Value 1: Be not fat. Value 2. Dont be not not fat.
/r/seduction26/06/15 12:07 AM
2

Are you really asking seddit how to friendzone people? I refuse to believe you havent been friendzoned before. That'd be a much better point of reference for you to use.
/r/seduction25/06/15 02:02 PM
99

The firewood analogy works better if you say: "if you put it all on at once, you smother the fire and it burns out before it can get bigger."
/r/seduction18/06/15 01:40 AM
3

So having her talk about me can do nothing but help me. Literally that.
/r/seduction14/05/15 03:16 AM
2

I friendzone people. I am not unique.
/r/seduction11/05/15 10:16 AM
7

Grow a pair and say the words to her face. There isnt any magic secret about it. Pretend she's a dude that you dont want to hang out with. It'd be easy to tell a guy you dont want to hang out or be friends right?
/r/seduction23/04/15 01:26 AM
1

Because if their body is going to put up with pregnancy and then the torment of child birth, the baby needs to be worth having. i.e. strong/smart/etc
/r/seduction31/03/15 05:55 PM
3

Stop responding to him if he's not helping you.
/r/seduction16/03/15 04:37 AM
1

They say to treat others as you want them to treat you. But I cant hug strangers on a whim. :(
/r/seduction03/02/15 12:39 AM
1

I think you've graduated past the advice this forum can give you if these are the results you're getting.
/r/seduction27/01/15 10:09 AM
1

"Bitch, back off"
/r/seduction23/01/15 06:59 AM
4

The bad boy image works on the girls until about the time that the girl has to start paying her own rent and food.
/r/seduction01/01/15 10:03 PM
3

It did WHILE you were playing.
/r/seduction01/01/15 10:01 PM
26

I JUST watched silver linings playbook, haha
/r/seduction27/11/14 12:34 PM
-1

So you dont actually believe anything you just said
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:37 AM
7

This has nothing to do with seduction. This is a method to combat depression.
/r/seduction30/10/14 07:42 PM
2

If you're heartbroken because of it, having a great friend isnt worth it.
/r/seduction24/10/14 02:34 AM
1

If the guy wanted her as a friend, he wouldnt consider himself friendzoned. It wouldnt be an issue. So yes, you're absolutely right. He doesnt want you in his life if you're not dating. But he would rather word it as "I'd rather date you than be restricted to friends".
/r/seduction24/10/14 02:30 AM
8

it's not necessarily sexual touching. It's touching at all. If you dont touch at all, you cannot move to sexual touching.
/r/seduction24/10/14 02:28 AM
1

Be careful. This feeling can be confused with just another excuse not to approach.
/r/seduction18/10/14 06:55 AM
2

Doesnt matter, had sex.
/r/seduction05/10/14 05:31 AM
1

Will power.
/r/seduction04/10/14 06:14 AM
1

Ask yourself whats more important, this girl, or sating your physical desire. And then act accordingly.
/r/seduction03/10/14 04:09 PM
389

I'm pretty sure the rule is: Assume attraction until corrected. And dont be afraid to be corrected.
/r/seduction01/10/14 02:44 PM
27

It actually tends to be more extreme when a girl does it. And yes, they get oneitis just as often.
/r/seduction29/09/14 11:15 AM
1

It may not be as easy, but hard work beats natural-born talent any day.
/r/seduction28/09/14 06:01 AM
7

Pull out a megaphone and point it at her.
/r/seduction28/09/14 04:23 AM
1

So naturally your vast knowledge and prolonged experience of life would demand one pay attention and respect the authority on the subject, right
/r/seduction25/09/14 12:48 AM
5

conditions that make this true: You are female You are in a war zone
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:17 AM
-1

Damn, I feel like my cynical ass would be suspicious from the moment you walked up to pull him away. I'd be damn sure that you set that up to get in my pants.
/r/seduction22/09/14 07:04 AM
11

You're supposed to scream that last sentence.
/r/seduction14/09/14 10:24 AM
5

Great post. But the introvert in me gets exhausted just reading half these tips.
/r/seduction11/09/14 11:21 AM
0

With the combination or lesbians, male and female bisexuals, and of course our societies habit of sexualizing women, more people are attracted to females than males. Also, biologically, females have the power over the mating ritual because of the mechanics of the situation.
/r/seduction24/06/14 08:57 PM
10

Women are in higher demand, so its easier to find something new as a female. Its much easier to recover from a break up when you have someone new to be interested in.
/r/seduction24/06/14 03:42 PM
10

like.... like in water?
/r/seduction18/06/14 04:07 PM
5

Thats only because the fish cant talk. If fish could talk, I'd have a long conversation with them about it. But not directly asking, of course. What fish would just give up the secret to catching them when it means they get cooked and killed? Maybe I went too far with the analogy but it all makes sense in my own head.
/r/seduction18/06/14 03:21 PM
16

irrelevant
/r/seduction01/06/14 03:42 PM
1

The dating sights tend to attract those which cannot find a mate in real life on their own. Therefore, the quality of most of the participants is rather low. Its extremely rare that you find a good catch on a cheap dating sight because the good catches dont need a website to match them. You want something worth eating? Cook it yourself. Or go to mcdonalds and get something cheap and quick and much less satisfying.
/r/seduction29/05/14 09:12 PM
1

Just by knowing the question you are asking, I know that you should know the answer already.
/r/seduction21/05/14 02:36 AM
15

Start with a less attractive one if you're intimidated. It gets easier with experience.
/r/seduction21/05/14 01:02 AM
9

Dont propose the date like you did. Instead of "please give me a chance", use something like "Im going to such-and-such tonite, I wanted to ask you to join me before I went."
/r/seduction21/05/14 12:45 AM
1

Contact at all is creepy to some.
/r/seduction25/04/14 01:25 AM
1

I neeeeeed youuuuu!
/r/seduction14/04/14 11:06 AM
5

All I have is my own personal anecdotes, but I've watched other (liked) people use my lines verbatim within the same day and tear a room up with laughter when I got crickets so many times. Too many. Its depressing. I havent tried to be funny in years because of it.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:07 AM
3

This is strange.... HappyJerk almost always gives terrible advice but this one makes appropriate sense. Thanks for the fluke.
/r/seduction22/03/14 02:54 AM
1

Arent you pure!
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:48 AM
3

No one gives a shit what some stupid hoe thinks.
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:41 AM
2

A beautiful and healthy mare strutting about, waiting to be ridden by the master... IIRC. It was like 3 hours ago.
/r/seduction05/03/14 11:40 AM
4

I was thinking of a rubix cube floating at eye level next to a vertical ladder, surrounded by dead withering flowers being ripped up and shredded by the sandstorm. ...
/r/seduction05/03/14 08:39 AM
1

I would say just be upfront with it all. But you 2 are in high school and she's very likely not mature enough to respond any other way than being super offended/grossed out and just run away like a coward because she has literally no idea how to handle a situation like that. I'd say start giving other women alot more time. If you start liking your friend, who isnt available for that kind of relationship, you're going to be miserable. So find someone else's ass to chase. Appreciate your friend fo…
/r/seduction24/02/14 12:28 AM
-7

Do porn.
/r/seduction23/02/14 10:22 PM
13

"Not yet" seems to be the right mix of honest and confident.
/r/seduction18/02/14 06:16 PM
-3

If girls didnt prove they want douchebags by sleeping with them, "nice guys finish last" wouldnt be as popular as it is.
/r/seduction18/02/14 06:13 PM
3

Worst case scenario is actually her walking away, or maybe the bouncers arriving to fix you...but yeah. I agree with everything else.
/r/seduction18/02/14 06:08 PM
-2

I'm not Aesop. I want you to catch it yourself.
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:49 AM
2

Your penis has its own will. If you go 10 years without touching a woman, its going to be very difficult to know if something is good for you, or if you're just desperate and irrational.You saw that picture of the fat guy that won the lottery and magically found his gorgeous love-of-his-life just 2 days later, right? So use now to do what you said: go on casual pump and dump dates. Later on, it'll be much easier to look past the blinding cloud that is our physical desire once you've slept around…
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:40 AM
3

Actually, you'll find that it really IS an issue, figuring out who is the keeper. They will deceive you, my friend. They can smell that money. Anyway, once you're into your 30's and successful, you will attract the girls that want that. The ratio of children to women you will be meeting will be a lot more in favor of the women part. If you're hoping to find a fresh 20 year old, I'd advise you to rethink your priorities. I understand the temptation. The freshest fruit always tastes the sweetest. …
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:18 AM
-1

A old man goes to the doctor complaining about shoulder pain. The doctor asks him to describe it. The man says "It hurts really badly when I do this," while lifting his elbow up sideways and over his head. The doctor responds: "Well dont do that then" and discharges him with a doctors bill.
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:03 AM
-3

Or embrace the entertainment you're providing by being so horrible. High school was sad and wonderful all in one.
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:00 AM
3

You're 22 so the women that you tend to meet right now(assuming you like them younger, like most of us), are still children and have no idea what they really want. Young women that arent thinking about the rest of their lives. They just want something sexy right here and right now to pound them a good night. Older women(I'm talking 24+) start to realize that they need to figure out what they NEED as well as want. When you're in your 30's, you're going to be one of the most eligible bachelors on …
/r/seduction09/02/14 04:48 AM
1

Ask Mark Cuban.
/r/seduction09/02/14 04:44 AM
6

She's looking in all the wrong places if "keeper" is her criteria. Why the hell is she even putting herself on the market like this if she's happily taken?
/r/seduction01/02/14 08:33 PM
9

or they're counting on you to be the one in charge. Lots of times its just a shit test. Some of them do it hoping you will push. They want an aggressive, take-charge type to plow them out like their instincts desire, then never speak again.
/r/seduction01/02/14 08:17 PM
2

You want it too much. You're too available. You're giving her WAY too much effort. If she's so "DTF" as you say, then you need to stop giving her attention. Or you could use an ultimatum. "Come talk to me in person or dont talk to me at all." But who am I kidding. You want that pussy too much to be strong, dont you?
/r/seduction30/01/14 06:08 PM
1

Easy. I dont like going out. Ideally, neither would my SO.
/r/seduction16/01/14 04:06 AM
1

Watch "Yes Man". It will explain it.
/r/seduction12/01/14 01:04 AM
1

Ask your friend how he feels about it in private, first. Then make an appropriate decision.
/r/seduction10/01/14 11:37 PM
5

age 24. single for 4 years now.
/r/seduction01/01/14 01:10 AM
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