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Question For Menoniialiani/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:03 AM
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f18. i would say maybe 4 guys that i know romantically and too many sexual options especially if you include dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:33 PM
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both would hurt pretty bad but they’re also things you can improve. i would say personality because it’s easier to change at least to me. i can self reflect and get therapy etc
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:24 PM
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a lot of women are interested in romance but are probably done chasing and expecting it. a lot of my friends still gush over romantic stuff but just settle for hookups because they don’t think they’re gonna find a romantic loving relationship anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:41 PM
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is it the same for guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:34 PM
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thank you! i’ll try 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:22 PM
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not hide it but i would prefer not to talk about it or go into too many details if they ask. the only thing i’d be hesitant to tell is my bf’s size cause if that’s just asking for trouble and i don’t want them to feel bad since they seems like a super sensitive topic for men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:10 PM
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sorry honestly i would appreciate it if my bf were a virgin in the beginning knowing his history now 😶 and yip i know some guys never get over the fact that their gfs might’ve been with bigger guys in the past so my next bf would never know the details of my current partner 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:00 PM
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it might be me honestly because he’s told me about some of his hookups and they sounded really exciting so i guess i now feel like i have to get better fast. he’s usually the one leads me because i’m still unsure of myself and i do try, but there’s just some things i need to do more before i get good. he doesn’t push me to do anything but sometimes he asks me to do certain things that i’m not quite comfortable with yet and he sighs so it’s some pressure. he does care about my pleasure but i thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:37 PM
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i wanted my partner to have some confidence and to be able to guide me a little more than a virgin would, also wanted it to be somewhat special for him. it wouldn’t be his first time so it wouldn’t be that huge of a deal but i wanted him to still be learning like me as well. i initially thought my bf had 1-3 but found out later on he used tinder for hookups 😅 it wasn’t the greatest thing to hear but i guess i appreciated his experience the first time we had sex together. he knew exactly what to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:28 PM
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yes for the most part but i have some anxiety during and after about my performance
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:46 PM
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i understand but isn’t there also a fear that she’ll feel like she’s missing out and want to explore other men? my boyfriend told me about feeling this way last night
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:45 PM
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i see but girls getting loose after having a lot of sex is a myth right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:41 PM
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i wanted to be with someone with 1-3 partners not a virgin but my bf has more than that. it wasn’t great to hear but i love him. that’s why i chose him to lose it to after rejecting a bunch of other guys
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:40 PM
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i’m really sorry that happened to you & thank u for sharing your experience. my bf has had casual sex with a lot of sexually experienced girls and i guess it makes me feel similar because i bet they were a lot better than me and maybe more exciting. i’m trying to learn as fast as i can and he doesn’t make me feel bad about it but i am envious of the kind of girls guys talk about being super good in bed. i want to make my bf feel like i’m the best 😅 but i don’t think i can be at least right now c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:38 PM
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my boyfriend is in his 20s and has had multiple LTRs and hookups so he has experience. i knew from the very first time we slept together because everything seemed so natural to him and he was confident. i say disappointed because i have to stop him sometimes, i need to practice my arch, some positions i’m still too shy to try, and he tries to get me to do things that are pretty “advanced” that i just can’t do yet. he doesn’t complain but he does look disappointed i enjoy the sex physically but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:33 PM
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i don’t think anyone wants dicks in their soda ??? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:25 PM
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haha thank you! :))
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:47 AM
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i am! i just have this feeling that i’m not all that impressive and i feel like he’d have fun with someone who had more experience. i don’t have any desire to be with anyone else but i think my performance needs a lot of work whereas he, with a lot of other partners, knows what he’s doing and is good at it. it’s just not a good feeling for me. maybe one day i’ll feel more confident lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:18 AM
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mainly looks. nice/healthy hair, fit body, tall, attractive facial features. other traits like confidence and charisma are a huge plus. additionally, if he’s somewhat mysterious. if he has a good sense of humor, of course that’s a plus as well. all of that combined is a guy who a lot of women would consider hot. i also think fboys are attractive to women because they present somewhat of a challenge. if he’s a guy known not to settle down easily despite a lot of girls wanting him, more girls will…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:39 PM
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reddit and gaming addictions
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:52 PM
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i think i’m pretty most days but some days i feel like i’m hideous lol i know a lot of girls who feel that way and i rarely meet women who don’t call themselves ugly at some point or feel down about their bodies even when they look fine. also, a lot of girls just think it without saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:29 PM
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i have friends who casually hookup so i know there’s not only a few that do. i understand how frustrating that might be but it’s not women’s faults. it’s biology. even women who hookup aren’t as horny as men so they’re more selective. and they have more people to select from since so many men want sex. pair that with the fact that women are harder to please in bed so they are often left unsatisfied. it doesn’t make sense to choose a guy who’s not hot and just hope for the best. the hot guy at le…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:52 AM
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uhh kinda? most guys i’ve dated did it so while i’m not opposed to helping plan the dates, they always do it first. even with my bf, i have planned only like 3 dates in 9 months
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 11:35 PM
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i get that but there isn’t anything anyone can do about it as long as women constantly have a line of men wanting to hook up with them. + less testosterone so we don’t jump at every sexual opportunity just because we’re horny. when it comes to wanting to hookup, a woman is going to choose the guy more likely to please her sexually. a guy she thinks is REALLY hot. most guys are just average looking so they’re not going to excite her the same way, so she isn’t gonna wanna just hook up with most gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 10:41 AM
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well that’s because men here seem extremely focused on the sex part, women more on relationships. everything always ties back to not getting as much sex or not getting it as fast. i also see that hooking up with a guy is “rewarding” him and taking time with a ltr guy is somehow mistreating him. so if you meet a woman, are you mainly just thinking about sex? and how fast you’ll get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 10:04 AM
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okay! well for example, a lot of women are attracted to bad boy types. they tend to be physically attractive. (tall/nicely built/good features/nice voice/ masculine) and confident. a guy who has all of that going for him would make me pay attention to him. same way you’d notice a really hot girl. you’re not going to be instantly thinking of a relationship with either of those people. it’s just strictly sexual attraction and it’s shallow. if i were a hook up kind of girl, i would go for it becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:35 AM
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just because i might’ve been tempted sexually by attractive men (which is a given) .. obviously if you meet someone really physically hot, it might turn you on. i wouldn’t have slept with a guy just because he’s attractive tho because i value a connection more than sex with a hot guy. i would never act on just being sexually attracted .i didn’t make my bf wait and he wasn’t competing with anyone. i had sex with him when i realized he was what i was waiting for. the same way a guy would sleep wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:14 AM
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true! thats why i don’t get why some guys are so insulted to be deemed bf material instead of hookup material here. it’s the same for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:23 PM
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because a hookup is only tempting if the guy is extremely hot. i’m not into hooking up but i’ve been tempted by really hot guys. like, i would have to see him and immediately feel weak lol. but i have a bf and have avoided hookups. i didnt immediately want to jump into his pants but after the first date and after talking for about a week. i THEN wanted to jump into his pants and it’s still much more intense then just some hot guy. that’s why connection is much more important. i am not really eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:53 PM
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hookup material = very hot but not appealing long term. probably don’t have much in common with this person and don’t care cause he’s just hot boyfriend material = hot + pleasing personality and seems trustworthy and safe. personality is more important than being sexually attractive for a bf
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:42 PM
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yup 😅 unfortunately it happens all the time. i thought that men in their 20s were more mature and no, they’re just better at manipulating you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:40 PM
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yup. i was only 17 a year ago and talking to this 24 year old guy. i knew it was a little dumb but he was really attractive and it was a little exciting to be doing something bad. after like the 2nd date, he started telling me how he was looking for something serious and that he felt a spark with me. it did make me giggle as he said it but when i got home, i finally came to terms with the giant red flag he was. still, went on another date with him where he kissed me and started to feel me up in …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:43 PM
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the majority of guys who wanted casual sex with me told me from the beginning they just wanted to mess around. and there’s been a lot of guys. in my experience, they usually take it off the table from the beginning. i’ve only met a few guys who felt the need to lie but they’re pretty easy to figure out since they tend to disappear after too much time has passed without you stripping for them. the guys i’ve talked to usually said things like “i don’t do relationships but if you want to mess aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 07:31 AM
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i almost fell in one guy’s trap who lied about wanting a relationship but i snapped out of it lol and then learned my lesson. i saved myself for my current bf but i’d say like 4 guys tried to manipulate me into it and like 20+ were honest. just didn’t get a yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:02 AM
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i agree. breaking a habit is definitely not easy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 04:33 PM
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maybe it’s the area you live in but i know a lot of women who say they know better but still make the same mistakes they made when they were teenagers 😅 my mom is an example unfortunately. she’s still ignoring red flags and dating terrible men and then being sad about it & she’s 40
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:45 PM
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tbh i think most women choose to live in fantasy until they can’t anymore & then blame the world for it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:19 PM
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true, but a lot of women especially young women still crave and look for it. and then time passes and they look back and see that they wasted their time and suffered a lot of heartache by chasing it. i always try to tell my friends to be realistic but it doesn’t work and they’ll learn one day ig. i’m very happy with my current partner but i know everything SEEMS perfect now but most likely won’t stay perfect. i also expect to see some of his flaws at some point and i know one day we might even g…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:13 PM
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oh ok i see
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:54 AM
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all the older women in my life (who are single) have basically given up on dating because they’ve dealt with enough bs from being in relationships. they don’t want a guy that’s clingy anymore, they don’t wanna clean up after him anymore, and they don’t want the headache. and i guess after a while, the fairytale romance that every young girl wants doesn’t seem like it even exists all that much. they’re established usually and happy enough alone with friends and family personally, im 18 and can li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:28 AM
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why would she be having sex with you if she didn’t desire you? unless she’s a sex worker. but yea, i attack my bf every time i see him because i desire him so intensely uffrfrrr
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:19 AM
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scary… but kinda cool 😦
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 06:26 PM
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wow you’re scary
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 06:14 PM
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it’s not the same because wayyy more than hotness is needed for a healthy long term relationship. personally, there’s a difference between my sexual desire with someone only physically hot to me vs someone i love. i think that while both might be strong, it’s stronger with the guy im falling for. it’s “i really wanna have sex with him because he’s hot” vs “i really wanna have sex with because im attracted to him and want to show him how much i feel for him” i can compromise on the hotness for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 09:55 AM
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of course it does. in the same way a guy will get off faster having sex with a really hot girl despite the actual sex not being much different from an average girl. it’s mentally more arousing which makes the physical part more pleasurable :) having sex with a hot guy makes it more likely that i’ll enjoy myself at least a little bit. with a less attractive or average partner, there’s nothing to make the bad sex better. a hot guy will guarantee i enjoy it more
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:22 AM
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it’s okay:) i definitely see that they are though lol seems like they are always in a bad mood
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:24 PM
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you can tell but the average woman has a low/reasonable amount of sexual partners and women with high numbers are a minority, right? so unless it’s painfully obvious that she has slept around then men won’t ask because they assume it’s a normal number. they don’t need a specific one so i don’t think it’s a big deal to a lot of men unless they have reason to assume it’s crazy high or they learn it’s crazy high but yea that’s true 😅 thankfully i knew how to avoid those kinds of guys though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:22 PM
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well sorry i didn’t know u only wanted opinions from older women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:06 PM
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you asked for opinions and there are other women who also said that they don’t hear about n count irl and how it’s not as talked about as a lot of reddit guys think but whatever i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:39 PM
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i’m almost 19 and have dated a lot of guys (although i’ve only been with one guy who is my bf) and none of them asked about my n-count. only a few i told who were rushing me to have sex with them a lot of couples don’t talk about their n counts though since it’s probably better not to know. (unless one had a reason to think it must be crazy high) i felt like i had to tell my bf only bc he would be my first time but otherwise, i wouldn’t want to have that convo. i know he has a way higher number …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:10 PM
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it depends. it WILL turn me off if it’s extremely early in the relationship + he’s not all that attractive it happens too often i’m in a long term relationship right now and my bf is very masculine and emotionally strong. but i love when he shows vulnerability or when i catch it. it makes me feel protective over him and my love grows stronger. but it’s bc he’s hot and nothing turns me off about him maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:23 AM
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why are boobs so important to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 11:42 AM
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for like a one night stand, you just need to be hot and not offensive. for fwb, you need to be hot or close to hot and have an okay personality. for a relationship, preferably be hot with a good personality but i will be more lenient on the hotness part if your personality is really good and we connect thankfully my bf is hot and an amazing person :P my ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 11:35 AM
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i think both sides are somewhat true. if a man met a woman who was the whole package like extremely hot, kind, interesting, and interested IN him, he would be willing to give up more faster. for a woman, if an attractive man shows interest in her, he’s closer to the whole package so she’s willing to give up more faster. for example:: her body. but women DO make men wait when they want a relationship with him. they just might not make the hot guy wait as long bc she’s afraid of him losing interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 11:30 AM
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18f. i’m gonna stay emotional bond because it makes my physical attraction to someone more intense. both are important but if i had to pick one then emotional is more beneficial lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:22 PM
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