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Normalizes incest. Literally what the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:06 AM
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You shouldn't ask men out. They need to ask you out.
/r/askFDS05/06/21 03:47 PM
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and you just know that their beard is patchy and they look unkept
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:38 AM
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Also, I just looked at the main subreddit and there is a wonderful post about this topic. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nm6vb5/why\_i\_only\_accept\_dinner\_dates\_when\_vetting\_a\_man/
/r/askFDS27/05/21 04:57 PM
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Honestly, besides the advice you been already given, I would encourage you to at least try a fancy dinner date. We all grow up being conditioned by society to have these false ideas about ourselves and how we deserve to be treated. Even if on a subconscious level women tend to worry about being perceived as high maintenance, gold-digging, hard to work with. We put on a show to prove that we are carefree, not materialistic, that we are the "ride and die" type. At least for me, feeling confident a…
/r/askFDS27/05/21 04:41 PM
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Making them seem wanted by other women. Some do it in a very flashy "in your face way" like telling you they been getting soooo many DMs or by their stories it seems like every woman he meets is desperate to jump his bones. Some men however have learned to do this in a more sneaky way. They will present this information like an off-hand comment ("oh, by the way, the funniest thing happened today, I think my co-worker tried to get with me can you imagine hahah"). They will try to make it seem lik…
/r/askFDS27/05/21 03:36 PM
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I find it so funny that guys who just fucking suck at communication during the relationship will pull out their inner Shakespeare when it's already too late. My ex even gave me a handwritten letter that went straight into recycle bin unopened of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:29 AM
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I personally don't see any men therapists, gynecologists, personal trainers, physical therapists, massage therapists, etc. And absolutely, a lot of female therapists will give the clients advice that is shaped by misogynistic or libfem viewpoints. Vetting is still important even among female therapists. Thankfully, I live in a country where my choice of therapist is not bound by insurance, and I can afford to pay for my therapy out of pocket, so, that gives me more leeway in dropping out of ther…
/r/askFDS23/05/21 05:27 PM
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I would highly encourage you to look for a woman therapist.
/r/askFDS23/05/21 02:52 PM
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1.dump him yesterday i don't mean this in an arrogant or harsh way, sorry if it comes across like that, but the next step after dumping him, is reassessing why did you stay in this relationship for so long. your boyfriend wasn't sly about his beliefs, he outright told you them point-blank. he is racist, extremely misogynistic, to the point of being an actual incel, jokes about pedophilia. why have you entertained this relationship as long as you have? is this stemming from living situation? do y…
/r/askFDS22/05/21 08:41 AM
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Every time a women describes herself as low-maintaince alarm bells go off in my head. There is this misconception that being high-maintaince means spending 4 hours a day getting ready and always looking red carpet ready and while that might be the case for some women, high-maintaince just means that a women knows her needs, can set strong boundaries for herself and will not doom herself to Burger King car dates and being a 11 year long forever girlfriend. But yeah, poor OP. Her bf sounds like a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:22 AM
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Nothing makes LVM angrier than a confidant woman expressing her standards (and not fitting them). And the collective delusion of them, "mcdonalds it is", as if a woman like her would even give them a minute of her day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:24 PM
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As I see it, attraction is the combination of both physical characteristics and personality. FDS encourages women to keep their standards high. Somewhat cute and personality that is neither here nor there is not it. You can't force what is not there.
/r/askFDS10/05/21 02:23 PM
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Why would you date someone you are not attracted to?
/r/askFDS10/05/21 01:16 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading
/r/askFDS10/05/21 07:18 AM
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I'm the same age as you and I would highly recommend ditching the dating apps. Finding someone on there who is high value and seeks a serious relationship is close to none. Instead, try to branch out socially. Not with the intention of finding your "dream man", but to enrich your life, network, and better your social skills. Finding and forming relationships in real life works far better than mindlessly scrolling on the phone only for the conversations to be bland and end nowhere. About 2 years …
/r/askFDS09/05/21 06:38 PM
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Things to keep in mind when accepting a date that isn't the traditional dinner date: does he take the initiative? (planning, asking, coming up with the plans) is the activity something you enjoy? (so, an activity that revolves around your dates hobby that you are not interested in is not acceptable) is the location safe for you? (the location should be safe and public, surrounded by other people; this is why hiking is not a safe date idea.) he should still pay for the date never agree to be pick…
/r/askFDS08/05/21 07:36 AM
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Same goes for the old "all men flirt with other women", "all men check out other women", like oh no, just because you are used to acting shady doesn't mean I will put up with that kind of behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:03 AM
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Lead by example! Be there for her, share advice, expose her to positive media and role models. You could share positive stories about women's accomplishments with her on social media etc. Maybe when the pandemic dies down, you can take her on a trip together (if your sister-in-law agrees, maybe you can go all three together). I think going out of the small, rural town and seeing what's out there can bring more perspective to your niece. Show her diversity; if she's into art- take her to a museum…
/r/askFDS29/04/21 08:24 AM
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As many have suggested a strong support system is needed. But I would urge you to also find a good therapist. A lot is going to change in your life. A neutral and objective perspective will be very important when you will have to make important decisions for yourself and your child. But vet for the therapist too, you both have to be on the same page and you have to feel comfortable with her (never go to a male therapist).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:12 AM
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A lot of people are sour and jaded from their own unhappy marriages/relationships/situationships, but don't have the guts to admit it and end them. There are a lot of women who have internalized that marriages/relationships are not supposed to be happy, that their husbands acting like toddlers and cheating are the norm, and are now projecting these false assumptions on other women. When you disclose the reasons for your breakup to other men they can get defensive because they see those shortcomi…
/r/askFDS28/04/21 07:58 AM
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It could be also how he truly is. Some men are just inconsiderate and stingy, no point in trying to fix them, we just how to up our standards and look for men with better personalities. I'm also taking a break from dating (mostly because of the pandemic and strict restrictions where I live and waiting to be vaccinated), and I have started to take more me time, doing little at-home spa days and joined an online French class. Feeling so good! Sending you positive energy!
/r/askFDS21/04/21 03:49 PM
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If you still are lurking on their socials and care about how their dating life is right now, you have not moved on. If they still are able to call and text you, you are not moved on from these failed relationships. Out of sight, out of mind. You will not be able to control everything. An acquaintance will bring up your ex in a casual conversation, you will run into someone you used to know at a grocery store or an event. These are uncontrollable events. However, denying them the opportunity to c…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 07:28 AM
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Where are you meeting them? Back when I used to use Tinder to meet guys, I ran into the same problems- a lot of party guys masking themselves behind fancy images and smart words. Bragging about drunk shenanigans is a really bad sign, it signals right away that the person most likely needs alcohol to have a good time. And by your description of how these dates went, they sound very akin to OLD. Why aren't men paying for the dates? Because the modern dating climate permits them not to. Women are f…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 07:10 AM
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I mean, I quit Tinder/OLD after a match I had talked to for one day contacted my high school teacher ( I was out of high school for 3 years then) to enquire about me. And the teacher actually gave away some details about me. Turns out they are acquaintances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:12 PM
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Congratulations are in order! Definitely do something nice for yourself or treat yourself to something luxurious! Sending you love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:44 AM
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The moment you start to recognize projection is truly an eye-opening, aha moment. "Men don't care about how educated you are, they care about looks and your feminity", ''If you focus on your education and career you will be old and no man will want you" = told by men who have failed education, stuck in low paying, unfulfilling careers with no ambition, internally scared of how uneducated they are, will pick up fights about topics they have zero clue about ALSO men who are guaranteed to be financ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:33 AM
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This is such a good video to show your daughters, nieces, and younger female relatives. Took me a lot of time to learn these lessons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:06 PM
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Since I have been on my levelling up journey, I have changed the way I dress and carry myself. I focus more on sustainability, less on the passing trends. I highly encourage women who also share an interest in fashion and styling to go do their personal color analysis professionally. Finding out my color type has really helped me to build out my style and I know in what pieces I want to invest in the future. Before my wardrobe consisted of a looot of black garments, but now I'm adding more and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:02 PM
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I do think there are some valuable lessons you can take from her videos. I mean I wouldn't go as far as spending money on her courses, but nobody is really forcing you to do so. Her fashion videos are a good place to start if you are a beginner trying to mature your style and transition into a more elegant style. Her videos helped me to get out of my "buy everything in black" phase and I started to look more into colour theory. She gives really good advice on how to pick materials that look more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:51 AM
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the fashion, the scenery, the music ahhh love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:02 PM
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parks and recreation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:30 PM
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Killing Eve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:28 PM
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Also, wtf is apologizing for not making you cum. That is the stupidest shit I heard. If only there was a way he could fix that by, you know, making you cum.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 06:03 PM
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I would leave. He's showing you that he doesn't give a shit about you and only cares for his pleasure. For me, sex is an important part of a relationship, so, I don't see how I would be able to be with a partner who only cares about his penis and sees me like a warm fleshlight. If you would post this and ask for advice on other relationship subreddits, you would get advice to cOmMuNicate and "tell him how it makes you feel". But let's be real; he knows. He is not stupid. He knows how sex works, …
/r/askFDS11/03/21 05:59 PM
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yes, same. Had a good chuckle because I never thought about how ridiculous this was before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:02 AM
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are you from Eastern/ Central Europe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:59 AM
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Interesting information, I will also look into it. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:52 AM
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Hello! As someone who also has these symptoms and has been diagnosed with seronegative rheumatoid arthritis, this is such a heartwarming story. Truly shows that if he wanted to, he would (be supportive, be an advocate for you, educate himself on your struggles). Few things my rheumatologist told me: blood tests can be negative in the early stages of the disease. The only test that was abnormal for me was high C-reactive protein. My doctor and I came to an agreement that based on my presentation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:51 AM
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This post was the last straw for me and I also commented saying she should stop playing his mommy and find a man that acts his age. Got horror stories of men not wiping their ass in the comment thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:41 AM
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You are right, you need a plan. Take it one step at a time. Sounds like becoming financially independent from him would be the first step. Put together your CV, try applying for new jobs, even a lower-paying job is better than nothing in this situation. Once you have some form of income, you will need to decide your living situation. You mentioned that you moved far away from your family for this man, do you still want to live there after the break-up? Or do you want to move back or move elsewhe…
/r/askFDS17/01/21 03:08 PM
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block him and delete him from your life (photos, social media, throw out all his gifts and anything that reminds you of him, etc) get therapy, focus on getting out of this depressive state, reevaluate with your therapist what steps you should take to prevent yourself from spiraling into another depressive episode in the future. create a support network for yourself. seems like you have a supportive mother and friends who care about you! these should be the first steps. focus on yourself. it's th…
/r/askFDS10/01/21 05:08 PM
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Men act childish all the time. For me, it sounds like he subconsciously knows you will reject him, so, he plays up this act in front of the group to seem like he is the one rejecting not the other way around to assert his "dominance". This adds up with his behaviour when you are alone or when tipsy. Basically, he has low self-esteem, knows you are out of his league and that he has no shot with you, and tries to make up for it by projecting his self-hatred onto you. As for what to do in this situ…
/r/askFDS01/01/21 11:34 AM
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What an amazing way to end the year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:19 PM
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I 100% regret losing my virginity at the age I did, I thought I was mature, but in reality, I was a major "cool girl". Me losing my virginity as early as I did, made me shape unhealthy views around relationships and sex. If I could change the past, I would without a doubt wait to be in a serious and committed relationship. Sounds like the men you have been seeing are not HVM (talking about sex without commitment, being sex-obsessed). Definitely keep your boundaries, and don't expect sex to be a …
/r/askFDS24/12/20 08:12 PM
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Happy to hear that your job interview went well! Congrats on the new job. That's a great way to start this new year. I think it's pretty clear how FDS views this situation; once the relationship is over, it's over, no matter who broke up with who. For the future just block him and delete him from your life, so you don't have the opportunity to text or call him in a moment of weakness. I'm glad you feel closure now, even if the situation was not ideal. But from what you wrote, you seem to be in a…
/r/askFDS24/12/20 07:48 PM
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I was diagnosed with RA earlier this year. This year has been hell for me, I completely sympathize with you, this disease can be so devastating. You get stiffness, pain, the drugs make you sick and tired all time. I hope your disease goes into remission and you will feel better! But you need to leave that piece of shit, he couldn't care less about you. You need to put yourself and your kid first, you need a stable future with someone who truly loves you and can emphasize your pain. That NVM ain'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:45 PM
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Jesus, is she even 18? But I feel like this is one of those things you look back on in four years and cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:05 PM
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It would be very hard to do for EU countries to implement because of our strict data regulations, but I agree that this would be such an important thing for the safety of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:31 PM
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lmao imagine if women started to make comments like this. "he's cute, but his sperm count keeps dropping by the second :)) "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:18 AM
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Most of Reddit hates women, don't take anything some scrote says to heart. If they bother you block and report. But, girl, NEVER ask a guy what they think about FDS, never even mention it. If you are interested in a guy and are in the vetting process, telling a guy about FDS or going into detail about the core principles of it is a very bad idea. The whole point of the long vetting stage is for you to observe how he acts- no guidelines given. If you tell him about FDS, it only gives him the oppo…
/r/askFDS05/10/20 03:55 PM
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Honestly, it depends on what the situation that happened at the weekend was. If there is a threat for your safety and wellbeing, I would consult a lawyer and document everything.
/r/askFDS29/09/20 08:56 AM
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yikes it's the rick and morty hoodie for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:02 AM
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r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:45 AM
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Sexually, the attraction could be from porn. It's a popular genre and if the guy has started watching that kind of porn early, he could have conditioned self. Relationship wise, it's beneficial for them. The older woman already has her own place, money, car(s). They can mooch off of them. There is a bigger chance that the man will be babied. Can't rule out "mommy issues" from childhood too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:47 PM
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Sounds like a PUA tactic to make you jealous and position himself as a ladies man. Maybe his intention was for you to ask him more questions about the situation so he could boast about how popular and irresistible he is to women. I agree with u/anfleming. In this kind of situation a cold, uninterested reply is the best. And don't ask him any further questions about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:20 AM
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From what I have seen from the current dating and social scene, I believe that there will be a push to normalize polyamory on the mainstream, like, adding more polyamorous characters to TV shows, books, etc. However, I also do believe that in about 5 years there will be a 180 back to traditional feminism values due to the increasing degradation of the dating scene. The growth of this forum here on Reddit shows that the resistance to the status quo is growing and I'm happy to see more young women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:10 AM
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I would guess so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:58 AM
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I don't plan on changing my last name. I have two first names, so, a hyphenated last name on top of that would sound just silly. And merging them is not permitted, where I live. Here the last names need to come from either the bride or groom or their immediate family. And to be honest, I just really love my first name/last name combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:57 AM
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You were a child then. Be kinder to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:50 AM
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I'm so sorry this has happened to you. But, yes, as you and the other ladies here said, abortion seems like the best course of action here. Your boyfriend doesn't give a shit about you or your health. He's not an LVM, he's an NVM. Dump and block, and never go back. Then go consult an OB-GYN for a better birth control method for the future. And I would strongly advise you to get therapy. The whole situation must be traumatic and talking it out with a therapist will make moving on easier. I'm send…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:43 AM
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I smell cheapest wine at the store and gf pays for the vacation type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:35 AM
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You are the one who sets the standards for what is the desirable date for you. Not every women is going to prefer wining and dining. Just treat the activity dates to the same standards as dinner dates. Does he take the initiative? Plans in advance? Pays for every expense included (tickets, transportation for you, something to eat during, such as coffee and a cake in the museum cafe or an ice cream in a zoo, etc.)? What FDS mean by walking dates is a LVM asking you to go on a walk in a park or ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:06 AM
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Could also be the fact that he is so off-putting that some women, who are uncomfortable and afraid to straight up turn him down, choose to pretend to be cold and distant, keep the convos short to make him get bored and back off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:23 AM
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Jenna and Julien too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:05 PM
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Yes!!! You made the right choice. While it's true that some professions, at least where I live, have to use a fake name on dating profiles (I had a friend who worked in the Ministry of Denfece and he used an alias) there is no reason for him to keep his identity from you when you have gotten to the point of meeting in real life. It's really sketchy and he had to share it waaaay before asking you on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:47 AM
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Usually they try to play it off like it is a glitch they can't change in their profile or similar excuses. Basically "it wasn't me, it was the app". Or that they have a different age set on Facebook, their Tinder is connected to it and the fake age was put in their Tinder profile automatically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:40 PM
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ahhh and the old trick of "i'm not actually the age it says on my profile"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:30 PM
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If you need an excuse to collect the blanket, you can say that you want to get it professionally cleaned. But I would like to agree that the second option sounds more safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:14 AM
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I would hardly suggest NOT reaching for your wallet or saying anything about paying or the bill. It only shows that you are somewhat willing to pay and the guy can do the whole "this one is on me, the next/the drinks is on you" move. Don't give him that opportunity. Now, it will be awkward at first. Especially if you are used to doing 50/50 in the past. But let yourself feel a little bit awkward and guilty the first few times, thank him for the dinner, don't pay and after some time it will feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:09 AM
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I am very involved in politics, so, for me a guy, who doesn't really care about internal and foreign affairs or doesn't vote is a no go. Also, if our political views clash too much, then I can't see a meaningful relationship working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:59 AM
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Kelly Stamps! Her youtube channel has been blowing up recently and she radiates QUEEN energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:51 PM
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Is that...a literal tower of bread? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:26 PM
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