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Yep, very true. Be in the moment. The main thing worrying about tomorrow does is ruin today.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 02:22 AM
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Naw sorry. I can delete it. It’s just one of my pet peeves whenever some makes it sound like beta traits are a bad thing. This is a legit sub for my original post and question though as it was directed to the source of why RPW don’t want RPM.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 04:01 AM
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Decent men aren’t attracted to 15 year old girls. Predators and child molesters are. If you are in therapy for your mental health concerns you need to continue. These are not healthy concerns and motives for a 15 year old.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 03:12 AM
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That was kind of a hijack but since it was my thread I took some liberties LOL
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 03:05 AM
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I think part of swallowing the red pill is grasping what is real even though others may try to convince you what isn't real. One of the things I think is real in todays world is minimum wage is not livable and to get any kind of occupation or career that is livable that provides critical benefits that would otherwise be unaffordable (ie health care) you have to have some kind of education/training/job skills beyond high school. Our world is just too high tech and too regulated which requires cre…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 01:55 AM
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Now that being said, culture and society will have shifting and changing naratives. The feminism of the late 60s/early 70s that had women burning bras and going on domestic strikes and demonstrating in the streets and going on strike and picketing businesses with grossly unfair employment and pay practices were necessary to address the gross disparity in hiring practices and pay gaps for equal work. That is what it took for women to gain a foothold in a changing world economy and changing indust…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 01:31 AM
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This thread is making me think of rabbits. (Stay with me here, there is a point) None of us would argue that rabbits are very accomplished breeders. But have you ever watched rabbit’s mating ritual in the wild? The boy rabbit will approach the girl and the girl will side step a few hops and flank him. He will approach again and she will take a few big hops away and stop and appear to be munching on carrots or whatever but she will be turned sideways watching him. He will approach her from the re…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 10:23 PM
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There’s an old saying that goes, “ a man chases a girl until she catches him.” There is much truth to this saying however it is with the presumption that the woman is RECIPROCATING and is also an active participant in developing the relationship. It’s fine to want the man to be the initiator and the leader. But a leader can only be a leader if there is a follower that is an active participant. Otherwise he’s just a chump doing all the work with nothing from the other party. Your mere existence a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:40 PM
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I don’t think men in general will be too sensitive about you trying to get to know them as long as you aren’t asking in a way that implies they are dumb or incompetent. Men are simple and straightforward and don’t have the same relationship with shame and self judgement that women do. Even if he is introverted himself and even if he is catholic, he isn’t going to have the same concept of shame and sensitivity that a woman would have. Men just don’t have deep, dark secrets like women. You could a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:14 PM
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Since we are all in some form of lockdown and Netflix has become a lifestyle lately, watch the movie “Britney Runs a Marathon.” It goes beyond a chubby chick starting to exercise and lose weight. It is about a person that has lost direction and discipline and focus and has fallen into a cycle of sloth, and seeking basic pleasure through drugs, junk food and letting men use her in order to feel human contact. Realizing that she felt like crap, was letting life leave her behind and accomplishing n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 07:32 PM
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Wanna know what working out and exercise really is? It is moving your body and doing things with your body and supporting your own body weight. Standing in the middle of the room waving your arms around = exercise. Taking the dog for a walk = working out. Going up or down a flight of stairs = cardio as well as lower body and core work out. Laying on the floor like a baby flailing your arms and legs around like a baby = exercise ( babies are building their core support musculature when they do th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 06:38 PM
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For a shag? Yeah, you don’t need a degree or a good job or even a full set of teeth for that. But men are the gate keepers of relationships and commitments and marriage etc. men’s standards for a hook up or FB can be strikingly low. But for committed relationships and marriage and family, things like responsibility, dependability, fidelity, intellect, social and political awareness and ability to obtain and sustain gainful employment in today’s world DO matter- A LOT. I’ve had sex with over 100 …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 04:05 PM
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There is a difference between letting someone lead and actually following their lead and being an active and embracing participant in where they are leading you to. I can take a rock or a sponge or a jar of grape jelly to dinner or to the movies or on a moonlight walk on the beach. That doesn’t mean a good time was had by all. My experience with very introverted and introspective women is they can often appear very uninterested and inert. While they are in their heads analyzing everything, their…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 02:14 PM
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“Be yourself” should be modified to say be your best self. As a man, my guess is that they are coming away from your interactions thinking that you are not interested in them. As a female introvert, I’m not sure that any man will ever feel that you are “too forward.” Unless the first questions you ask him about himself are what you should name your kids together and how much money he has available for a down payment on the house at this moment, you probably aren’t being interactive and expressiv…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 01:50 PM
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Male opinion here - I don’t think that shaving your legs, wearing more make up, dressing more feminine and generally becoming more proactive and taking better care of yourself etc will do anything to change his demeanor or behavior at all. I think that is simply who and what he is. But what improving yourself and polishing yourself up will do is help attract a higher value man that already has the traits and characteristics you find attractive. You have to BE in the league want want to play in. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 03:04 PM
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You haven’t said one word about this “friend” having feelings for you or given any indication that he would even have you beyond a hook up or two so I think any discussion about monkey swinging to the friend is pointless - he may only be interacting with you because your his buddy’s GF or may he just wants wants a shag. I think what’s really at issue here is you have discovered that there are some traits that you value that your BF does not possess. It’s not really that this friend is a rare and…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 07:02 PM
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Yes. Any decent man will have many dating and relationship opportunities but very few of those will truly be hot for him sexually.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 11:04 AM
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I understand your point and it has validity. But as I said above, spend some time reading the dead bedroom sub. Many of those will also have sexy arms and accomplishments hanging on the wall. Some had active sex lives until the kids were born but for some the sex ended right after the wedding. There are even some that had no honeymoon period at all after marriage. Those women married the credit rating, the house, the car, the income and the title of marriage. They did not marry the man. I’m not …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 06:15 PM
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Status, fame, fortune, lifestyle, power etc is sexy to women. .... but not necessarily the man behind the status and power etc. There is a difference between being attracted to man's status and resources and being willing to exchange sex for that status and resources vs being innately sexually attracted to him. IMHO our first lady is nothing more than a sugar baby or gold digger if not a downright concubine. Yes, she probably puts out. If she didn't she would be hauled out with Monday's trash. A…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 03:39 PM
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Like a said above, a million different things go into the decision to marry. Many people do marry out of practicality and social or family pressure and a lot marry because it is simply an expectation. For me, sexual chemistry and compatibility was high on the list along with a host of other things. I had dated a lot and had a number of serious LTRs and a number of hook ups and FWBs etc before getting with my wife and by then I could tell the difference between someone who was truly attracted to …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 01:45 PM
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Actually I think you aren’t quite seeing the forest for the trees. Women wanting to date and even marry and have a home and family with a man is not the same as truly desiring him sexually on a deep animal level. A man that is reasonably fit, healthy and not deformed or disfigured and who has healthy social and interpersonal skills and is gainfully employed can date and even marry a whole host of women and even have women openly competing each other for his attentions. But that doesn’t mean they…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 04:39 AM
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About 50% of marriages end in divorce so it can be argued that many do move on. Then factor in the number of cheaters and swingers and open marriages and it can be argued that only a minority of marriages are actually monogamous until death. Then when you factor in the number of people who are in dead bedrooms and/or miserable in their marriages but refuse to leave for whatever reason, then it can be argued that only a few actually live happily ever after together until death.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 03:32 AM
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My grandmother got married when she was in her early 70s. She was quite spunky but I doubt she was in her peak sexual market prime.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 12:37 AM
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I never said anything about any holy grail of happiness. Those are your words, not mine. I just said it was attraction and desire that made my special someone special. A prostitute could also fulfil demands...... if the $ was right, she may even be cheerful about it. But would that make it special? Maybe I should be the one asking questions here. Why would you think that actual desire would not be important or that someone should not want it??
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 12:31 AM
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Why wouldn't it be important? Why wouldn't someone, man or woman, want to be desired? People wanting to be desired doesn't seem like it should be much stretch of the imagination. As far as the mildmaid, cow and milk, I suppose different strokes for different folks. Some guys go to prostitutes and lay their money down. For them, simply getting the milk is what they're paying for. Other men want to be sincerely desired.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 12:04 AM
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Maybe a better way to put it is that a woman’s sexual attraction is not a low bar for a common man. Someone who would want to have sex with you as a woman would be a very low bar because essentially every man would have sex with you given a chance. There’s nothing special about a man wanting to have sex with you because they all do. But for a man, that is a completely different reality and a woman who does desire him and is sexually attracted to him on an innate visceral level is a special thing…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 10:25 PM
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Obviously there are many other factors that go into the decision to marry. But my point is what separates my special someone from the rest of the greater population is sexual/romantic attraction and desire for me. A man’s experience and reality is completely different from a woman’s. A normal man ( ie not a pro athlete, rock star, handsome movie star etc) will go his whole life with maybe only a handful of comparable women that are truly hot for him sexually. As a woman, basically every heterose…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 09:57 PM
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Radical honesty = he is not very invested in your relationship whether he and this chick make the tent doors flap in the breeze or not. That doesn’t necessarily make him a bad guy or that he’s commuting any kind of outright foul here. After all they have been friends for years and this has been being planned since before you got with him. But I have the feeling that he is seeing your relationship as Saturday dates where as you may have been thinking about where you’ll live, what kind of house yo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 09:49 PM
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I only read the first sentence about the age difference. No. It can’t be saved and nor should it. He is almost a child molester and this situation is barely legal to begin with . The reason full grown men chase prey on very young women is not because these girls are prettier and skinnier than women their age but rather because they want girls they can manipulate and bullshit and control and a mature and experienced woman can spot their BS a mile away and won’t give them the time of day. Get away…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 08:28 PM
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This is long but please read. I’m not going to try to prove you wrong because I agree with you and agree where you are coming from. I too want my wife to be able to leave if she no longer loves me or wants to be with me. I know that is bass ackwards from the way most men think but I do not want her to remain with me or be stuck with me because she could not support herself or be able to uphold her share of the child rearing responsibility if we split. She herself would have been perfectly happy …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 12:40 AM
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This is long but please read. I’m not going to try to prove you wrong because I agree with you and agree where you are coming from. I too want my wife to be able to leave if she no longer loves me or wants to be with me. I know that is bass ackwards from the way most men think but I do not want her to remain with me or be stuck with me because she could not support herself or be able to uphold her share of the child rearing responsibility if we split. She herself would have been perfectly happy …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 12:39 AM
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Sounds like what you are talking about is more the PUA communities and the MGTOW and InCel crowd grasping at straws. IMHO most normal, healthy men from earlier generations really didn’t need to swallow a pill to be responsible and to be motivated to make something of themselves and have a home and family. It’s the latest generations of young men that have been raised in single mother households who watched too much Oprah and were overly feminized that list touch with what it means to be a respon…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 07:02 PM
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That is correct. However marriage carries a legally recognized foundation and framework that goes back thousands of years and is well established.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:58 PM
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You mentioned you don’t have interest in other men but has he asked you to be exclusive with him and is he seeing any other women?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 03:34 PM
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I’m afraid you have that backwards. Love and feelings and romance etc are the little things in the scheme of things. Feelings come and go and even wax and wane throughout the day. One may love someone and want to be with them forever on Monday but hate them by Thursday. They may even meet someone they’d rather be with by Friday. A “commitment “ is only a commitment until it is not. We live in a free society where an adult can basically come and go and do as they please. Someone can promise you t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 03:15 PM
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50+ year old male perspective here - Actions speak louder than words. Our reality is in what we do and not what we say. What is he DOING? Its spring time so look outside and watch the birds. The boy birds are not only preening their plumage and strutting their stuff to show off their fitness to the girls to catch their eye. They are also out gathering up sticks and grass and feathers to make a nest and feather it so make it soft and warm and safe for eggs and babies. Is he gathering up sticks an…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 02:41 PM
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You are somehow in an environment of immature and low class males.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 02:13 PM
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Oh Buddy. Much to learn this one has.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 01:58 PM
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You need to read my other post. Marriage and it’s legal benefits and obligations are not “little things like that.”
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 01:56 PM
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50something year old male with an 18 year old daughter perspective here. The lines really should NOT BE BLURRY. Marriage is a legally recognized, binding contract that conveys a wide range of legal rights and responsibilities. Marriage was never about feelings or love etc. it is a legal construct to officially recognize rights and responsibilities as they pertain to parentage, property, financial instruments, credit, debt, inheritance, liabilities etc etc etc. When you are single, you have your …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 01:45 PM
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The guys on MGTOW and InCel groups are the bottom feeders that CANT get dates or GFs. They have become very bitter and resentful and often have a very bad case of sour grapes where they try to sooth their feelings of rejection and inadequacy by flipping things around and trying to say that they don’t want the women. Nothing could be further from the truth of course. Deep down they are dying for female attention and acceptance but they don’t possess the traits and characteristics that women find …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 06:08 PM
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You could meet Mr Wonderful this evening. Why are you worried about 5 years from now?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 06:04 PM
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Thanks everyone for the great dialogue and discussion!! I'd like to reply to many of the posts but I am going to need some more time to review and digest much of the discussion taking place. I would also like to add some of my own perspectives and outlooks as a guy and see what you think of my perspective but I will need to give that some thought before I put it into words as well. Hopefully I can get back tomorrow at some point.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 03:52 AM
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So the question that immediatly brings to my mind is are these women that you speak of being rejected or passed over by relationship worthy men or are these women choosing men that aren't LTR/marriage material? I've always been brought up that it is women who do the selection so in the cases you refer to above, are these women being broken up with by these men or rejected by men or passed over for LTR/marriage by men (which you are attributing to their poor relationship skills) Or- Are these wom…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 03:49 AM
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I have also seen the arguements that a woman's ability to bond is impacted by having multiple sex partners. Is it really that her ability to bond is impacted? Or is it that she is less likely to remain in a relationship that isn't working for her or that is abusive or is unfullfilling? In my simple mind it makes sense that if someone is experienced in relationships and sexual dynamics, that that person would be less likely to remain in a bad relationship or a relationship that wasn't working for…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 04:57 PM
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One thing that I have noticed in various threads throughout the RP world is that what is used as statistical evidence is divorce rates thusly implying if a couple doesn't divorce, then all must be well and if a woman has a high-count and divorces then the high-count must some how be related to the divorce. And perhaps high-counts are related to divorces.... but is that necessarily a bad thing?? Where I'm going with this is a lack of divorce is not always evidence of a healthy and happy marriage.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 04:35 PM
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No you don’t. I too work in the medical field but even a pediatric intensivist will clock out and go home to his/her own life and put it behind him/her. When it’s your child, it is your life. It’s 24/7. It never ends. There is no shift work and there is no clocking out at the end of the day. People think they know what they’re getting into when they’ve been around other people’s kids but they actually have no clue. I agree with the above, if you can’t handle being around someone who thinks you d…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 02:03 PM
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I disagree that it is “too bad” that she should out after being in a relationship.... This is exactly why we date - so we can get to know someone and see if they are a right match for each other or not. Dating is basically an interview and tryout/interview process to see if a candidate is the right match for the position (with the ‘position’ being what you seek in a partner)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 04:33 AM
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I’m a 50-something (closer to 60 than 50) year old male, let me offer some perspective from the male side. This is going to sound somewhat ‘70s feminist but they did get some things on the money back then. My suggestion is be the best version of yourself. Don’t try to twist and wrangle yourself into some concept of what you think a perfect partner should be or what you think some guy is going to want because other people’s wants and wishes and fantasies are constantly moving goalposts that you c…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 07:24 PM
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I also want to add that I would bet my last dollar that since I ultimately ended the relationships and did not get down on one knee to ask them to marry etc that they now lump me into the catagory of men that used them for sex and discarded them along with all the other men that used them. The relationships did not work out forever but that doesn’t mean that I didn’t go into them with an open mind with all potential future options under consideration.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 10:17 PM
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Why do you say men hate you?? What examples do you have to indicate that? And perhaps more importantly how do you feel about men in general? Can you say that deep down you innately and sincerely like them and want to be around them or do you harbor some deep seated distrusts and resentments and disdain for them? The reason I ask that question is in my younger days I dated a couple different women for awhile that both of them were always saying how men were pigs and would gripe about all the ills…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 10:03 PM
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I’m a guy and I do not think SJP is unattractive at all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 09:31 PM
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