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but I do want to say men are being influenced in a really unhealthy way by the porn industry, a natural instinct is being distorted to an insane degree I know some will say this is too generous but a LOT of men are victims to the porn industry, especially those who have been viewing it since they were literal children Do your best to find a man who recognizes that porn, as it currently exists, is degenerative and typically leads to unhealthy behaviors and feelings towards the opposite sex Plenty…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:32 PM
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Hormones. Men need to be aroused to some degree in order to have sex and procreate, women do not, it’s unsurprising that men not only have a much lower threshold for what is attractive enough for sex but are also able to compartmentalize that behavior better than women It’s why the madonna-whore complex exists, and why men will look at their very loved wife/gf completely different than how they look at women in porn or a sexy lady on the street (those women literally become sexy shapes and nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:31 PM
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No time limit really Typically my husband takes out the trash without me having to ask, but if he doesn’t for some reason I just say “when you get the chance will you take out the trash pls” and usually he does it within 10 mins if he’s actually in the middle of something
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:17 PM
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This only applies to betabuxx situations, which is not the majority of marriages My husband didn’t magically stop being sexy or desirable and I didn’t magically stop being high libido or kinky just because he married me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:58 PM
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Of course I don’t think anyone here disagrees with that We’re talking about in the context of monogamous relationships and you only mentioned men in relationships, what about women in relationships? Should they “be sexual or show off”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:23 PM
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No she won’t, the men who are actually in relationships/marriages with women like that are in dead bedrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:32 PM
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Well to get back to the original topic; a like isn’t necessarily flirting, so if you have no issues with your man liking similar photos of other women on vacation then I think it makes sense that you post them even while in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:31 PM
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That’s odd to say, maybe if I was saying everyone else should behave this way it would be “pearl clutching conservative” this is just my preference on how I like to conduct myself I gotta ask do you think there’s anything wrong with a man in a relationship liking bikini pictures of other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:26 PM
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If you believe there is nothing inherently sexual or inviting about posting a bikini picture, then why would it be a problem if my husband liked it? I don’t necessarily believe it is inherently sexual or inviting, but I’m just trying to follow your logic. (he wouldn’t, just to be clear, he doesn’t have any social media or even a smartphone lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:18 PM
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I feel absolutely no need to post my bikini beach photos on social media, I’ll occasionally text them to my girl friends if anything It’s not about tempting other men, men will find someone else to be tempted by, but the idea of having a picture of myself half naked on the internet (especially with AI now) forever is slightly unnerving and it would feel hypocritical for me to get upset at my husband for liking something that I post myself, it just doesn’t make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:14 PM
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Yep and I can also acknowledge that if I would get upset at my husband for liking a picture of girl in a bikini, I make sure not to post a picture of myself in a bikini.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:36 PM
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So since you and your wife have been together for 4 decades I’m assuming you’re significantly older than me In another comment I specified young men are more often than not sexually desired by their girlfriends for a reason My mom told me similar stories on her weird aversion to sex with my father, and said most women her age felt that way I have a suspicion that now women do have options on staying single or being married/coupled they choose to be with partners they are actually sexually attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:03 PM
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That's why most men in relationships actually don't experience any genuine sexual desire Ask the men who are in a relationship in this subreddit if they agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:58 PM
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I would say that reasonably good-looking, sociable guy (top 20% or so) is able to experience it once in a blue moon from a landwhale who's very desperate and drunk Young, average and above average men in a LTR will usually experience genuine sexual desire from their girlfriend In the context of randoms/hook up culture, they will not have hot girls throwing themselves at them because women are typically more passive in that setting vs within a relationship but just because they aren’t experiencin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:56 PM
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This is usually brought up when both people are working full time but the woman is still doing a majority of the household chores or if a SAHM has no access to the family money and has to ask for money every time she makes a purchase
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:19 PM
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No because I’m only high libido when I’m emotionally attached and in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:50 PM
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My husband is neurodivergent and I have ADHD Neurodivergent people are more compatible with other neurodivergent people, that isn’t ableism lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:37 PM
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be gone Eridan stan (jkjk)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:34 PM
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I’m lesser to society because I’m autistic, work at a restaurant and rent with a roommate It’s the autism more than anything else, you’d probably have better luck dating an autistic woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:29 PM
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They don’t have to be; my brother has no problems with dating and has never been a “hypermasculine provider”, his last relationship they went strictly 50/50 even when his ex made less money than him and my sister is the breadwinner in her marriage and her husband is a SAHD My husband ended up being a “hypermasculine provider” type but I loved him before he could even afford to buy me a hamburger from McDonalds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:23 PM
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I have 3 kids, my husband and I have sex almost daily
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:08 AM
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1 Man does bad thing in relationship, not all men are like him, men still capable of love 1 Woman does bad thing in relationship, all women are like her, women incapable of love Totally makes sense OP, very logically sound and not driven by emotion or bias at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:35 AM
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I don’t like my life, I love my life Of course children can be limiting to spontaneous plans, but so are pets; my mother and grandmother have a dog and have been fussing over finding a sitter for weeks so they can come on vacation with us so is a career, most people can’t pick up and leave for Athens for 2 weeks at the drop of a hat even when they’re childfree I’m currently planning a trip outside of the country with my husband, my kids will be with Grandma for that (: and we’ll travel more freq…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:28 AM
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Yes, my husband provides for me and our 3 boys. I do 95% of the housework. He comes home (or is already home since he works hybrid), relaxes and plays with his children Our kids all sleep through the night now, bedtime is 7pm and 8:30pm for the older kid, so it’s very easy for me to prep dinner and have him serve it and put our kids to bed while I go see my friends, this is also not a weekly thing but it could be. I’m saying this as a warning not as a “wow you should have picked better that’s yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:56 PM
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There is no condescension, if you read my other reply I agree with her choice. and it is relevant, because plenty of women do want to be mothers but are constantly berated with the idea that they’ll shackled to their children for the rest of their lives and will never be themselves again It’s not a lottery, plenty of good men exist in the world that would make wonderful fathers and partners I understand you see no value in motherhood and see it as an absolute net negative, that’s okay but that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:48 PM
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True, people are often great at hiding who they really are until they have you locked down Which is why women should only have kids if they really want to. I’m glad more people are realizing that marriage and children is not just “the next step” but something important that needs to be taken seriously and that should only be done if you really want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:39 PM
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? Not sure how this is a response to my comment, never did I imply she should have children My comment was only meant to highlight that her mother’s experience is not the universal experience of motherhood
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:36 PM
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They're not the same, we don't get to go out "with the girls" and still have fun or live life, our lives are just children 24/7. I’m a SAHM and still go out with my friends and live a very fun life, because my husband actually wants to be a father and supports me It’s all about picking the right partner, what you said is not inherent to motherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:07 PM
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They see no value in children or motherhood, so pregnancy is literally nonsensical torture to them. They’re allowed to feel that way, it’s best these people (as women and men both feel this way) don’t have children. They would just end up hating their children and raise miserable humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:05 PM
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Yes women can and do victimize men, women are not angels We are human, just like men, and all humans are capable of good and evil things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:15 PM
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stop oh my god im never going to get this out of my head
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:45 PM
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Never because it’s delicious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:05 PM
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but dozens of people telling me I shouldn't be a stay at home dad and claiming that im a pedo who shouldn't be around children has made me baby crazy, like CRAZY about having children stop listening to randoms, SAHD’s are perfectly fine and normal, just find a career woman who also wants children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:47 AM
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> It wouldn’t be the worst thing, but most men are barely getting their women wet as it is. Speak for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 10:24 AM
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I hope this is fake, social media is destroying Gen Alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:17 PM
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Society would not be better off without men and anyone who thinks that way needs a mental health evaluation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:08 PM
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I really don’t know why this is so hard for people to grasp
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:29 PM
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Even when I am honest, I’ve had guys accuse me of lying I’ll continue to be honest, but damn I don’t owe a man my personal information and why I’m rejecting him just because I exist in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:19 PM
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Being able to fuck does not make you high value A drug dealer living in the slums can have 80 bodies, is he a high value man?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:33 PM
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I just replied to your other comment but yes I would say the feminist is making a false accusation. I’ve personally been called a bangmaid here before.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:36 PM
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Yes the feminist would be making a false accusation
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:33 PM
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You’re misunderstanding the word bangmaid and how it’s being used To say you would like to form an emotional connection with a woman who wants to be homemaker and raise her own children, who desires you as much as you desire her is very very different than saying I want a “bangmaid” A bangmaid is just someone who cleans your house that you can fuck, that’s it. You do not value them beyond what they do for you The same way some women only seek out men to use them as an ATM, some men only seek out…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:31 PM
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Yes, because men seek women in a way that women do not seek men If this upsets you, blame nature and blame biology
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:26 AM
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Most people are not confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 11:19 PM
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I’ve personally seen a lot of average women obsess over average guys, but not right out of the gate, it was always in the context of a relationship and that relationship never began from cold approaching I’ve just concluded that average men need to warm up women because women typically don’t desire men the same way men desire women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:13 PM
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Sex is special if it’s with someone you truly desire who truly desires you in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:08 PM
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Yeah some men do and some men don’t, and I think it’s unfair to say that the men who don’t are “usually misogynists” but I do think this is age dependent and younger men will be less likely to care My husband and I met as kids and dated on and off through out high school due to life circumstances, but when we got married he was a high earning software engineer and I was a housekeeper at a hotel How much I made was always irrelevant to him because he loved me and wanted to be with me, and our goa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:10 AM
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This is also my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:57 AM
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rip godzilla
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:47 PM
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Your bank is directly connected to your government ID Your CIA agent is already well acquainted with your MILF fetish lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:45 PM
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but gooning feel good so must be good for men /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:41 PM
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Well my comment tells you point blank my reasons for being anti porn are not about the objectification of women but my own struggles with using it and that it is having real world consequences on children and young people. Besides that point, you’re comparing apples to oranges. I do believe that reading erotica can often give women unhealthy expectations with the men in their life, but it’s genuinely different than the dopamine mind fuck that modern porn is. Not to imply that it’s a non issue, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:36 PM
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If my husband suddenly started behaving this way? No I wouldn’t be happy about it because it would be an extremely drastic shift in his personality and behavior, like he was replaced by someone else. Eventually I would adapt I think but it’d be jarring and uproot our life since we do have children and I’m a SAHM In some hypothetical universe where I’m single/childless again I would give the man you described a chance if I liked him and didn’t plan on having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:46 AM
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did you not read the rest of my comment and no, I no longer read erotica or romance either
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:21 PM
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This is a chronically online take, most average men and women end up together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:41 PM
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I’ve only dated nerds, I’m a nerd, I would not mesh well with a non nerd. But I know a lot of women who would find nerdy behavior cringy or not get it, it just depends on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:20 PM
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Of course but the same way alcohol is regulated I think porn should be more regulated as well Back in the day you could only find porn in smoke shops, backrooms of rental stores or if you snuck a peek in your dad’s/brother’s collection. On top of that all of it was mild in comparison to the porn we see today that is practically 3 clicks away in everyone’s pockets Things like thirst traps/OF advertisements should not be on platforms like Youtube and Instagram, where you only need to be 13 to join…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:11 PM
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Ironically I always compare porn to alcohol, some people are capable of using it in moderation, other people have their (sex) lives and relationships destroyed by it I gotta ask; what do you think about the noFap guys or guys trying to quit porn, and think it’s bad for them, do you think it’s on some level internalized misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:32 AM
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I’m anti porn because I’ve personally struggled with porn addiction myself, and I personally know multiple men (and one woman) who during their childhood committed COCSA because they wanted to emulate what they watched in porn That phenomenon is being studied more and it’s apparent it’s a growing issue, at least with modern porn and it’s easy accessibility There are for sure women out there who just want to shame men because “porn icky” and they don’t like men having fun, but to say that’s why a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:02 AM
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I agree nuance is necessary and at the end of the day people can and should practice the relationship dynamics they want (within reason) I don’t get the childfree girl boss being provided for dynamic at all, but if that’s what people want to do and they find a sucker willing to do it, I won’t stop them. Tbh I don’t think 50/50 is ever truly 50/50, but my original comment is just meant to highlight that sometimes people want things that are contradictory and/or hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 12:18 PM
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I actually agree with you In modern western society, casual dating and getting to know each other should optimally be 50/50, especially if they’re both making a similar income
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 12:14 PM
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I never said it’s the most traumatic experience, but to say labor and delivery isn’t always a physically traumatic experience just shows you know nothing about it Funny you only bring up labor and not the other things I mentioned, just don’t get anyone pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:30 AM
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Men are not having their body permanently altered by carrying the baby for 9 months, going through labor and delivery and then (typically) breastfeeding the baby up to 1-3 years Do you have kids? Childless people (unless they’re a medical professional or close to a pregnant person) usually only have a vague idea about what actually goes into pregnancy and the risks associated with it, baby’s development in the womb, etc, so it unsurprising your rebuttal is “but Dad will take care of baby too!” I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:36 AM
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The same reason why a man will insist on 50/50 but then expect his future wife to have children with him Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:14 AM
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> 1.) I already find the “male loneliness epidemic” extremely depressing. While I think in a lot of cases it is self inflicted, in a lot of others it’s a lot of good men with shitty luck and not outgoing personalities > 2.) No I’m married > 3.) No, even when I was single I never engaged in casual sex > 4.) I’m in a free use marriage and initiate often, it would be hard to have any more sex with my husband because we have sex almost every day, but if he wanted to more I would be up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:15 AM
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No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:47 PM
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What I said is objectively true, it not being reflected in statistics just shows it’s not to a certain scale which I’ve never denied My argument is these relationships do exist, not that they’re the majority. Because most men lean towards misogyny and most women lean towards misandry You are apart of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:40 PM
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Just because you were born with a dick and balls adds nothing to your character or what you contribute to this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:37 PM
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Fruitful relationships happen all the time if you look outside your miserable manosphere bubble, young men are dodging relationship commitment and whoring around (if they’re able and if they can’t they wish they could, so still indicative of their moral standing) just as much as young women. I’m 29, married with 3 kids with a body count of 2. Me and my husband have lots of friends in a similar boat. Join a church if you want to see more of this lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:24 PM
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How will they socialize women? Whats the game plan? Men and women need each other, men and women are equal in dignity and worth. It’s this mentality that is a big part of the problem, and antisocial in itself. It denounces anything women have ever done as if they are completely irrelevant to the development to society. What are you doing for the betterment society?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:02 PM
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And you think that posts like this are the solution to these issues? All it does is further the divide and sow the seeds of perpetual discord among those who should be aiming to have fruitful relationships with the opposite sex Men and women both need to take accountability instead of constantly pointing the finger at the other side because they feel wronged
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:52 PM
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There are so many men in this subreddit alone who say they will only go 50/50 but still expect their wife to one day give them children Keep falling for the gender war psyop, I’m sure it’ll get you far.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:46 PM
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I agree but this also applies to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 06:28 PM
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Most western Gen Z (born 97, my generation) individuals believe they have no duties or obligations to uphold to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:47 PM
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properly socialized and obliged to his duties Have you talked to any teen boys recently? They have no sense of obligation to their “duties” This isn’t a gendered issue, a good chunk of society, male and female, are poorly socialized and extremely self centered Another solution would be artificial human generation lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:38 PM
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ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:23 PM
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That’s just an example lil bro, I didn’t expect him to buy me anything, we were in high school. I didn’t realize how smart he was until later on, but he is intelligent, got into Mensa last year. Believe it or not, this thing called love exists, though not many people get to actually experience it. I’m very lucky not strategic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:13 PM
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I fell in love with my husband before he even had enough money to buy me an ice cream cone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:02 PM
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This revenge fantasy is not new Men who were undesirable at 25 are not going to suddenly age like “fine wine” at 50 The older men who are able to reliably date young attractive sugar babies are making more money than most people see in their life time, and it’s becoming more and more difficult for the common man to make that amount of money
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:42 PM
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Okay ChatGPT
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:31 PM
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Women apologize, you just chose poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:29 PM
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That restful and relaxing home turns into a pit real quick if no one is cleaning it since everyone is relaxing They always say if you let women talk long enough, they'll tell on themselves. Is this really the what they say? I’ve only heard “when you let PEOPLE talk long enough…” “Men are magnificent” guys at it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:26 PM
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Of course not but it’s an interesting choice to purposely dress “flirty” (a nicer way of saying more provocative ig) to an event with your work colleagues, I’ll never understand people who shit where they eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:08 AM
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Yes ofc men want to fuck but plenty of men are also primarily interested in finding a woman to settle down with and build a life/family with The idea that ALL men only want to fuck as many women as possible is misandristic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:10 AM
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no u
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:25 AM
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lol ok Kids need to sleep and my husband and I are actually attracted to each other, early mornings and evenings are almost always open to have fun (:
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:26 PM
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Average guy's only option is to rely on friend groups and be a loser, because that is his only option to get laid Just say you only want to fuck womem, some men are actually seeking romantic, monogamous relationships with women. And usually the best way to do that is actually getting to know them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:12 AM
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While women class "he didn't buy me the chanel bag I wanted" as abusive You personally know women who feel this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:39 AM
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Every time you hold the door open for an attractive woman or make idle chit chat with the check out girl you’re only doing so because you’d fuck her if the opportunity arose? or you just think most men operate this way? Because that’s what OP’s husband is saying
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:33 PM
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Every interaction and conversation? Definitely not, your husband is either super paranoid or projecting his thoughts about women onto other men. If he means every time a man approaches a woman to try to flirt or get their contact info, then yes, 99% of the time they are looking for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:01 PM
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????? Plenty women do desire their average partners “like that”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:56 PM
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My first thought as well lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:37 PM
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Displaying too many emotions too soon in a modern dating setting is a turn off for both genders imo In a long term relationship, I’m not sure why some women behave this way, my husband doesn’t cry often but when he does I only want to comfort him and make him feel better, him displaying big emotions has never given me the “ick” or anything close to it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:15 AM
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Wait how does one fuck like a man? A woman with a high sex drive “like a man” is just a woman who’s up for having sex more often than not, who actively desires their husband and initiates too sometimes They can still play a more submissive role in the act itself
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:11 AM
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I have a low body count (2) and am extremely high libido in a free use marriage High body count does not automatically mean the woman loves sex or sex with her husband, a lot of people have sex as a way of receiving validation. In my experience with myself and people I know; body count isn’t always the best indicator of sex drive outside of casual hook ups and one night stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:02 AM
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You’re projecting, your experience is not universal among men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:14 PM
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On the topic of kids, they get in the way. And no one is prepared for how long this last because no one really says it. Because it's so taboo to admit that as wonderful and fulfilling as children are, they're also egotistical little need goblins that will ruin your sex life whether you want them to or not unless you are extremely vigilant to prevent this. I have 2 under 2 and an 8 year old and my husband and I still have sex almost daily, maybe I was just blessed with good sleepers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:17 PM
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He probably saw a tiktok of some brain dead bitch advocating for aborting male babies and thinks this is some common occurrence that a majority of women celebrate OP log off, please, you’ll be better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:47 PM
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I’m so fucking sick of the victim olympics We’re all suffering, get over yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:45 PM
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Well I think porn in general is becoming less and less of a men vs women thing I personally struggle with porn, which is why I have negative feelings around it. So does my husband but he’s doing a better job with abstaining than me at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:34 PM
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Most people don’t tell each other their body count before they have sex If women had to choose between 2 identical men, in every single way except one had a body count of 100+ and one had a body count of 3, they’re going to choose the man with the lower body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:33 AM
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I’m not fine with either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:26 PM
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ngmi, seek help
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:06 AM
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This already happens Desperate people will always fall for miserable transactional relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:28 PM
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I’m not sure why people try to make this issue a conservative vs liberal thing Women across all demographics have the propensity to view men as morally inferior, and it’s the same with men towards women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:26 PM
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no u
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:10 PM
1

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:11 PM
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Some might say what I said IS selfish, it comes down to your own personal value judgement Most trad wives are SAHM’s, which is fundamentally different than a house wife and if you don’t understand the difference between the two there is absolutely no reason to have a debate with you on subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:05 PM
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To be able to raise their own children and maximize their time with them during the most precious and fleeting years of life
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:56 PM
2

Yuck ew
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:39 AM
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Women should be allowed to only want to date tall men, men should be allowed to only want to date fit women The shaming happens because fat girls and short guys feel inadequate
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:56 PM
4

“Women are people? this advice is incredibly misleading…” This is actually hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:43 PM
0

Yeah sometimes it is a skill issue Me being groomed when I was 15 by my abusive adult ex was literally a skill issue, I’m not being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 12:41 AM
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It varies greatly, this is a stupid question
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:05 PM
2

It isn’t therapy for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:13 AM
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I’m a SAHM of 3 kids, 2 under 2 This is above and beyond of what I want personally (I’m more of a homebody tho) I feel blessed I get a nice date night once a month , a fancy restaurant on special occasions (birthday’s, anniversary) and 2-3 vacations every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:09 AM
5

Average men are capable of getting laid, maybe you’re not actually average.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:57 PM
2

Christpilled based man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:40 PM
11

Just because women aren’t attracted to you does not mean women are not attracted to men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:38 PM
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Well said, imo this is literally a nightmare fuel situation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 02:11 PM
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Ugh what an awful scenario, I gotta choose mind though because while my husband is sexy as hell, looks can only go so far if his mind, who he actually is, is not there as well. I think this answer would change if I barely knew the guy, physical attraction is important to get your foot in the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 02:10 PM
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The biological burden of having to carry the child for 9 months and then go through labor/delivery AND then breastfeed the child (which is also super painful initially, which most people don’t know unless they’ve breastfed) it’s a daunting process that women are hearing the absolute worst case scenario about now constantly. I have 3 kids and I’m a SAHM, I’d like to have one more in a few years. I do about 90% of the household chores but we go 50/50 on childcare when he’s home. I’m very satisfied…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:20 AM
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Let’s say you’re homeless and I have cancer; just because my situation is arguably worse does not suddenly make you being homeless a non issue
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 06:06 PM
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*Women have no right to get upset at their man for talking to other women if they themselves are talking to other men As an attractive woman I advertise myself by walking outside regardless of what I’m wearing (disclaimer: i do believe its better to dress more modestly once you enter a monogamous relationship, but “immodesty vs modesty” is too subjective to assert a claim like yours)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:22 AM
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Are you currently in a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:28 AM
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I can’t speak on that, but personally every person I know who says “I want kids but…” it’s almost always about not being able to afford to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:09 PM
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Women should choose men who they are sexually compatible with
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:24 PM
2

Yes I do, which I guess I should have said in my original comment because it also influences my decision
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:33 AM
2

I’m married with 3 kids, unless it was something absolutely insane like with my sister or best friend, or if he was incapable of taking ownership of his wrongdoing or showed any signs of reluctance to reconcile; I would definitely attempt to make it work Obviously couples counseling would be mandatory, but I would try at least once to reconnect. If it happened again I would quietly plan my exit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:04 AM
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Make it cheaper to be a parent Cheaper childcare, free childbirth, paid maternity/paternity leave, etc etc but we don’t need to convince anyone to have kids, the people that are meant to have them are having them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:34 AM
2

Sometimes, not usually lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:56 PM
3

Ridiculous, some people, especially women, are just not into fucking strangers Never had casual sex, now in a free use marriage and want my husband daily, while one of my friends who has a n count of 70+ hates sleeping with her attractive husband Some women have a high body count because they were seeking validation, not because they actually enjoy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:18 PM
5

???? how do you figure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:12 PM
4

I agree on a lot of levels, but you know most men will refuse to do this and so it’s pointless advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:28 AM
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I just understand that my lifestyle is not meant for everyone, and general equality is what’s best for society as a whole I believe I should have the freedom to live how I want to and others should too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:58 PM
1

ffffffffuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:55 PM
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If someone is against gender norms then they need to be against all of them, not just the ones that don’t benefit them If we are truly trying to move towards an egalitarian society then yes I agree, “positive masculinity” needs to go
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:09 PM
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Then we agree Most of the “bar is in hell” and “all men are trash” women will be rewarded with loneliness or unfulfilling relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:05 PM
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No one has to do anything, but imo we would be better off if both men and women always strove to be better ngl this entire posts reads like a massive overcorrection of 3rd wave feminist rhetoric going into “men are magnificent” and can do no wrong. edit: i saw the edit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:52 PM
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….yeah sounds really happy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:28 AM
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don’t get to the point where they experience genuine desire Plenty of married men who weren’t settled for experience genuine desire from their wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:21 AM
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I was 15 when I had my first kiss and lost my virginity 15 when I had my first bf, an adult who groomed me then later began dating my husband when we were 17 Those were the only men I’ve been with, never had a casual encounter before The longest without sex I went after 15 was 3 months when me and my husband were long distance for a few months My marriage and our sex life are very important components of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:34 PM
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most women would rather sleep with a beautiful girl than with a below-average guy mean that most girls aren't straight? most women do not want to do this, pls stop coping and seek help
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 01:31 AM
1

Ah I’m glad I asked for clarification, makes more sense to me Happy it’s working for you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 01:30 AM
5

How’s that working out for you? I’m genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:50 PM
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A lot of women just use the term to insult women they disagree with I’ve been called a “pick me” online a few times because I think casual sex and promiscuity is degenerative behavior that shouldn’t be celebrated or viewed as empowering and because I’ve called out misandry in the past but there are also women who are pick me’s by definition, who genuinely only take certain stances to appeal to men; a good example of this is someone like Pearl Davis
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:33 PM
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No pls I hate receiving and I need PiV
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:39 AM
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To preface; my husband and I have been friends since we were kids (12) so we have a long history Genuine love, loyalty and companionship. I’ve seen him in some of his darkest moments and have stood by him On a physical level; we’re in a free use marriage but we initiate 50/50 it seems, I’m a stay home mom to our children. I cook his favorite meals often and keep the house tidy, I do his laundry, I massage him unprompted a lot, I make sure he has time to work on his personal projects and I also m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:39 PM
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It is more stable in some ways, but in other ways it’s less stable If women only need you for your money and they don’t actually want you, then any man with money will do and there will always be a man with more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:05 PM
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It’s a sign that porn addiction is becoming more of a problem I have struggled with porn in the past, which has led me to a lot of online support groups of mostly men Escalation is commonly talked about, which is when normal porn just doesn’t cut it anymore. You don’t get the same dopamine hit since you’re so used to jacking off everyday, so you seek out more novel and “taboo” porn A very popular escalation route is femboys, babecock, sissy hypno/forced feminization.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:16 AM
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That isn’t what a pick me is
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:15 PM
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Yes, after puberty when I wasn’t in a relationship I would often do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:56 PM
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I agree for the most part, but 90% is wild and imo inaccurate
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:22 PM
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I've also never heard of women masturbating to photos of men Back when me and my husband were dating and had to do long distance for a few months I would ask him for selfies for this exact purpose lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:02 AM
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Men who struggle with lust will cheat Unfortunately a LOT of men struggle with lust, but definitely not all men I’m sorry you’re going through this betrayal, your husband is low value/morally bankrupt and you deserve the same loyalty you gave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:42 AM
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Everyone struggles with this to some degree, especially in today’s society when we are being trained to look outward every waking moment of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:46 PM
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Then in general, women shouldn’t enter monogamous relationships with them and reserve that for the few men who are capable of it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:44 PM
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Plenty of socially awkward men wish they could cheat on their spouses and often attempt to and fail (or succeed by using sex workers) I will be honest, I would pick a more socially awkward, lower body count man over a womanizing “chad” as long as I find the more awkward one attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:43 PM
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Loyalty can really only be tested if the opportunity to be disloyal presents itself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:41 PM
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Yeah I know that’s why I said internalized It might be your reality but it’s a sweeping generalization that implies men are nothing more than animals who cannot deny their basic primal instincts and who are incapable of being in monogamous relationships, which I disagree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:35 PM
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This is internalized misandry
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:37 PM
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Lalah is cucking you right now with Amuro, you’re just projecting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 11:06 PM
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“the women who reject me are actually just secretly gay” best cope yet
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 06:09 PM
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Women are more selective because we are the ones who get pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 06:06 PM
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My husband was a virgin when we had first had sex, I will say we were young so it was more socially acceptable than lets say a 27 year old man, but he still got flack for being a virgin I did a bit of handholding, he rocks my world now "that's sad... So pic?" do you think this is coming from a place of genuine empathy or are men biologically hardwired to get their dick wet by any means necessary and women do not have the same drive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 02:14 PM
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With some random perfect imaginary guy? No My husband? Yes, because I love him and I’ve devoted my life to him and our family, but it would take me a while to get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:43 AM
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I ask my husband for advice on essentially every big problem that comes up in my life We’re best friends, you don’t ask your friends for advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:18 AM
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I choose my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:17 AM
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I pursued my husband initially (making my interest known essentially, trying to get close to him) and then he reciprocated 10x harder We were in 10th grade though so a bit different lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:09 PM
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“PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex, relationship and gender issues, specifically those pertaining to /r/TheBluePill and /r/TheRedPill”. - from the about page This isn’t a male centered sub and I don’t give a fuck if a good portion of people here don’t believe in “my way of life” (as if Trad is some sort iron clad doctrine lol) If you want a male centered echo chamber where no one challenges your world view, go to r/ sikeorpsyche and stop posting debate posts
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 04:40 PM
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No shit, sherlock but anyone with the ability to critically think could easily infer that you believe a man providing for his wife/child is also simping, which I said is incorrect because it’s a debate post and then you went on to confirm that what I inferred from your post was correct You’re splitting hairs because you don’t have an actual argument, get over yourself lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:28 PM
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When it comes to MGM it’s 99% women making decision to circumcise. Your post instantly falls apart because you pulled this stat out of your ass and it’s genuinely insane you think it’s 99% I just recently talked my friend and her husband out of circumcising their son, he was pushing for it because he is circumcised All forms of genital mutilation on babies should be banned
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:14 PM
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While I agree we all have agency over our experience and when we get offended by statements other people make; on some level we chose to be offended but oh my god, it’s silly to sit and ask “i say something that directly insults and shames someone’s actions….why are they insulted???!!!1111”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 03:55 AM
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You can’t engage with these people in a serious way, they just want to whine that they were born as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 08:44 PM
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Most people are insulted when you insult them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:15 PM
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and yet you replied to my comment saying “I didn’t say that” when you most certainly are saying men who provide for their wife and children are simps lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:12 PM
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Most people are morally bankrupt and self centered, I feel for all the good single men and women who are stuck in todays dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:10 PM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:07 PM
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The word simping has completely lost its meaning, you cannot simp for a woman who is reciprocating love and affection. It would be absolutely pointless for me to work outside the home and would be more of a drain on our resources by outsourcing child care, especially since we are homeschooling our kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:06 PM
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A man providing for his wife and children is not simping
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:12 PM
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I think most reasons why men are concerned about a woman’s past/sexual history are valid. Personally I believe body count is a really great indicator of how one values sex and intimacy, and a mismatch in that is incredibly troublesome for an intimate relationship Ironically, your reason is probably the one I would take the most issue with You are upset if a woman you’re interested in has chosen to sleep with other men that you deem unworthy or beneath you? Unless you really know the guy is a shi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 11:38 PM
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Goomba fallacy, usually the women who advocate for marriage are not the ones saying only men benefit from it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:26 PM
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My husband is a firmware engineer, and works from home 3 days a week I love it, we can live well on 1 income and it allows him to be at home with me and our kids so we all get to spend more time together He is the definition of strong and “masculine” in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:55 PM
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There is no problem inherently to being low libido, but she should be up front about it and try to find a man with a similar libido
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:36 PM
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Yeah that happens a lot too, but so does men getting comfortable and fat as well Once again, not a gendered issue and I’m not sure why everyone tries so hard to make it one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:33 PM
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Because I can bring up points that you have not brought up that are related to the topic we are discussing I’ve debated this point a lot and if I don’t bring up that women usually do want a man to have some (1-10) experience then it isn’t taken seriously No, ofc it isn’t, you seemed genuinely confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:45 AM
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You’re actually misunderstanding, I’m refuting that claim but conceding the fact that some women are repulsed by virgins Women are not repulsed by men who have only slept with 5 women unless she herself is a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:40 AM
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????? How on earth is this a response to what I said Obviously a virgin is zero, and a low body count is 1-5, but in your previous comment you stated “men should get 50 bodies” 50 bodies is unattractive even in men for the reasons I stated, only other promiscuous people will be interested in people who will sleep with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:34 AM
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A lot of women are definitely repulsed by virgins, but there is a limit, a man who has slept with over 50 women clearly does not value sex/intimacy in any romantic capacity and is more likely to cheat while in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:29 AM
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Neither sex is the prize lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:24 AM
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internalized misandry
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:58 PM
1

yes exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:55 PM
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Men are going to orgasm even if the woman is bad in bed but I have heard a few of my male friends complain about “starfishes” and women who suck at giving head
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:38 PM
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arrested development
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:33 PM
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well said
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:46 PM
1

based
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:03 PM
1

I will, get good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:02 PM
3

this is your 2nd bad take in this thread 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:36 PM
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Pretty funny that tradwomen and feminists are locked arm in arm about the whole sexual past not mattering thing. Sexual past matters, in both men and women, casual sex is degenerative.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:34 PM
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it’s a red flag over 18???? degenerate take, and I say that as someone who lost it at 15
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:09 PM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:06 PM
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Then they aren’t worth remaining in a relationship with
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:06 AM
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You’ve just fallen for the same in group bias that feminists do I can’t take anyone who generalizes 50% of the population like this seriously, whether they’re a man or a woman It’s a clear sign of low iq or significant spiritual damage, or both
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:20 PM
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If they were forced to be in the relationship and were unable to leave calling it slavery would work, but consenting adults can just break up If you accept a job that states you are not allowed to have another full time job while employed with them, are you enslaved to your employer? Your statement is incredibly loaded, I’m curious how you would respond if someone said homosexuals can have healthy and happy relationships, but it goes against nature
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:53 PM
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Everyone should practice whatever relationship dynamic they want, including monogamy Two consenting adults in a monogamous relationship are not enslaved, you’ve just swung the pendulum in the opposite direction and believe you are doing something morally superior
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:43 PM
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> makes for a more egalitarian relationship > an older woman has more power in the dynamics of the couple lol what
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:21 PM
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Yes of course
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:47 PM
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Most women consume straight smut stories I was once really into anime, and I was obsessed with gay romance (Sasuke and Naruto are in love btw) back then it was much more niche, the last few years it’s become more mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:29 PM
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The same reason lesbian porn is popular to men, two hot dudes are better than one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:41 PM
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All your disposable income takes away from vacations and experiences that rekindle the flames of romance. Skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:32 PM
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I typically don’t wear “sexy clothes” out of the house unless I’m with my husband simply because the normal staring from men turns into leering which makes me uncomfortable but no matter what I wear I still get approached regularly if I’m alone or with just my kids Women dress the way they dress because it’s what trendy and stylish, sometimes it’s for attention but usually it’s because thats whats being sold in clothing stores. and why would I stop putting on makeup just because I have a husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:13 PM
1

Are you a mother?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:05 PM
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“love” delusion absolutely no point in even discussing this topic further with you, have fun sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:04 PM
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Check out any other subreddit dedicated to just parents, I love how anti natalist redditors think that the existence of r/regretfulparents is some sort of gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:53 AM
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Yeah I’m sure the person who has never been a mother can tell us all about the positives and negatives of being a mother lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:51 AM
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“Why don’t men approach us anymore?” Very few women are saying this, I’m still approached by all sorts of men fairly regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:45 AM
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Initiating isn’t jumping through hoops, and telling young men and women it is, is counterproductive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:33 AM
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This is why I can never say I’m red pilled even though I agree with a lot of what is said Men believing they shouldn’t ever have to initiate or that they’re “the prize”(neither sex is the prize) is not great for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:43 PM
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100% agree, it’s nice but completely unnecessary
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:31 PM
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Low body count does not equal prude, low libido High body count does not equal kinky, high libido I have a family member who has slept with over 100+ men and a friend who slept with 70+ men, both have personally told me they only did so because of extremely low self esteem and men wanting to have sex with them felt validating Both ended up in LTRs where they find sex to be a chore, even though their husbands are objectively attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:39 PM
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Men do the same if they have the option, if a sub 5 man magically became a 9/10 he’d be happily running through dozens of hot but toxic/vapid women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:57 AM
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No, unless they’re personally insulting me or one of his female family members I wouldn’t think twice of my husband not calling out some random guy’s “sexism” (I don’t think what happened at your work was an example of that, just asshole husbands/bf’s) and I wouldn’t expect any other random guy to call out sexist assholes that they work with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 05:52 PM
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No and no
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:53 PM
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The gender war is working exactly the way it was meant to and any man or woman who falls for it is going to get exactly what they deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:34 PM
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I think most “modern” men and women should go 50/50 since they probably have no interest in adhering to traditional gender roles Either way, a first date is meant to see if this person is even base level compatible with you, I may not like him at all, I wouldn't expect him to spend money on me if I don’t have genuine intention on dating him Once I’ve established we both like each other after our initial meeting, then I would let him know my goals/values and that I expect traditional treatment if…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:22 PM
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Soul shattering, my life would never look the same. I lost my father, my brother and my best friend in a 10 year time frame and I know the death of my husband would just destroy me I would obviously have to keep it together for our 3 kids but I would never remarry or date again. No point, he’s my other half so there’s nothing else out there for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:09 PM
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It’s a sign of an escalating porn addiction problem I struggled with porn and it lead me to joining online circles with other porn addicts, they often talk about how they had to watch more and more “taboo” porn to feel the same dopamine hit that they once did A common “escalation” route was stuff like BabeCock and SissyHypno.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:04 AM
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“Traditional” is not some sort of iron clad doctrine If I was single and dating today I would be fine paying for my own coffee while I met up with a guy for the first time to see if I’m actually attracted to him and I like his personality in person Then I would establish my values/goals and let him know I expect traditional treatment in dating if we plan to proceed with seeing each other
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:11 PM
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I promote 50/50 for people who are not traditional, so a majority of the people on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:49 PM
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Yeah I don’t, but most western women are not traditional
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:48 PM
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Just because I’m trad pilled doesn’t mean society is Most modern men and women scoff at traditional gender roles (except the ones that are beneficial to them ofc) If you don’t adhere to traditional gender roles why on earth would you expect traditional treatment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:47 PM
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First dates are meant to see if you even like each other in person, each person should pay for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:39 PM
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If you’ve only had mediocre sex with average women who you weren’t really into I imagine sex with a very attractive prostitute who you’re paying for an exciting experience would be more enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:34 AM
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My husband is the sole provider of our family, if he suddenly became disabled one day I would do what I had to do and work for our family Unfortunately that would mean having to leave our family home and change our lifestyle completely since I would not be able to get a job that has a salary remotely close to what he earns I would also have to stop exclusively breastfeeding my youngest and just stop breastfeeding my middle child, I would also have to scrap our plans of eventually having a 4th ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:49 PM
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What is the percentage of women that dislike men as whole? I don’t know a single woman who feels that way
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:31 PM
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If my expectations are met then no I wouldn’t care how he treated his ex If I was asking him to do something he willingly and enthusiastically did with an ex I would be a bit upset (depending on what it was I would recognize that it may be unreasonable) I really don’t blame men at all who get bent out of shape in the scenario where they find out their girlfriend/wife was once extremely high libido/sexually adventurous with others but just not at all with them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:36 PM
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No not at all, the only time I’m genuinely annoyed or put off is if we don’t know each other and he doesn’t take my first no for an answer but even then I’m never really mean unless it feels like a genuinely unsafe situation (I’m alone somewhere at night)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:36 AM
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From what I’ve seen in society and the people around me who I’m close to, most people are not meant to get married, less people should get married I say as a very in love and happily married person lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:24 PM
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Believe it or not I'm not even upset about it ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:34 AM
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Ah yeah I misunderstood, I agree that is a mismatch Promiscuous men should be with promiscuous women, they align better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:39 PM
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It just comes down to wanting someone who values sex and intimacy the same way you do, I would prefer a less experienced man over a man who has sex with any woman who gives him the opportunity. I have a lot of sexual experience with a low body count, because I like to have a lot of sex when I’m in a committed relationship It’s not as black and white as everyone makes it out to be
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:35 PM
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Yeppppp
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:42 PM
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But no one likes to talk about how they're full of difficulties. Most people struggle with clearly communicating wants, needs and desires with just one person they’re close to, non monogamy just multiples this problem If you actually engage in ENM you come to realize quite quickly it’s not just a free for all and it is also filled with difficulties because relationships between humans in general cause friction My point is it seems you are just going in the opposite direction and “romanticizing” …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:27 PM
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Of course, but they’re statistically less likely to cheat
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:22 PM
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What you described is not exclusive to women who have casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:20 PM
2

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:57 PM
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Yes whenever, wherever. I also initiate a lot as well (:
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:49 PM
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I understand where this idea comes from but in my experience it’s always been far from the truth The idea of casual sex with randoms is disgusting to me, but I’m extremely high libido and in a free use marriage because I love sex, just not sex with anyone. Ironically my friend who has a very high body count (70+) is as vanilla as they come and currently isn’t having much sex these days in her LTR because she’s lost interest People do not fit neatly into boxes, shocker lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:42 PM
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Blood THEN spunk 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:37 AM
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Yeah there is definitely no benefit to keeping babies with the human who grew them for 9 months and who is designed to give them the exact nutrients necessary for fruitful development straight from their breasts for years This is clearly just a man made system to keep fathers down, all men are inherently better parents than women because men are magnificent Shitty bait, you can’t actually b this stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:34 AM
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The sisterhood is disowning me for this one 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:47 AM
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What if I shame both sex workers and the men who use them, am I still doing it for the same reasons lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:38 AM
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Find a woman who really wants kids but also loves her career and be a SAHD who cooks and cleans My sister is in this exact arrangement lol she’s taller than her husband as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:44 PM
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My brother’s ex would do this to him and it was mortifying She was insufferable and constantly talked about all her mental health issues, very happy they broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:40 PM
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Its very rare to hear anyone say that but one of my girl friends said that yesterday lol (and she definitely was the problem)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:44 PM
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tfw husband is tall, dark and handsome with a good paying job (:
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 05:27 PM
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It is 100% a preference I wouldn’t want to date a man that has slept with a bunch of different women, that’s a clear indicator we value sex and intimacy very differently
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:42 PM
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They wouldn't change their behaviour slightly to accommodate their loved one. Yet they would die for them, how hypocritical. inb4 OP cheated
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:12 AM
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Personally I agree, my husband is about to be 30 and is definitely in his prime but I think people on both sides of the fence misinterpret “prime” as “only time you are valuable” which just isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:08 AM
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They’re allowed to do whatever they want as long as it doesn’t impose on others (so dating AI is morally grey, but I personally believe it to be unhealthy) I’m allowed to make a value judgement when asked, and so are you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 10:27 PM
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Ah yes the two types of women, train riders and 40 year old housewives
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:23 PM
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Where did you get that number from, we should do a poll if we haven’t already it would be interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:58 PM
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lol I appreciate someone who can double down
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:49 PM
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I agree most people in general are hypocrites filled with cognitive dissonance, including myself, but I’ll continue to speak up about it when it’s blatant Also I do enjoy talking with blackpillers even when they’re just flailing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:34 PM
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They asked me a question and I answered, no need to project.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:31 PM
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I did actually pray for you, I have no incentive to lie to some random stranger on the internet I gotta ask; why are you larping as a catholic? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:55 AM
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Praying for you and your heart that has clearly turned cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:51 AM
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I should be clear I believe people are free to do unhealthy things, as long as it doesn’t impose on other people, I mean people drink alcohol everyday and it’s terrible for you but I’m also allowed to make a value judgement on said unhealthy behavior and openly express it Being approached less in public is nice sure, but honestly considering the possible long term damage normalizing AI relationships could have on society, I’ll take being approached in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:37 AM
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sharing the same couple of men This take is so delusional and just pure cope, I’m it feels better to believe this is why you struggle to find a girlfriend You should know being blackpilled and being Catholic is a paradox.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:29 AM
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Dating AI is like putting a bandaid on a festering wound
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:40 AM
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Except this isn’t really happening on a large enough scale that normal men and women are affected by it And you claim to be Catholic, do you really think men and women having relationships with AI is spiritually healthy?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:39 AM
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😍
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:10 AM
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Cmon now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:21 PM
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Interesting, do you still consider it a virtue when a woman wants to be romanced? Personally I think it’s neither virtuous or immoral, it is neutral. I’ve met assholes and I’ve met wonderful people who both desire to be romanced by the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:49 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:23 PM
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A lot of closet lesbians in this subreddit for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:35 PM
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I agree Why would I be excited that my husband isn’t expecting vacation sex? I’M expecting vacation sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:34 PM
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Women are wrong all the time, every single day, and just because I reflected your hypocrisy back to you doesn’t detract from my awareness of that Do you believe men and women are exactly the same? Do you believe men and women, on average, value and prioritize things the same way? Do you think that giving gifts is the only way romance is expressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:41 AM
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Do you consider wanting to be romanced a virtue?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:45 AM
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it’s literally the social life of most men to quote you; “And just cause your experience is like that doesn't men's experience is similar”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:43 AM
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A lot of women do seek out relationships for the reasons you outlined, but they are a minority (My guess would be at most 25% of the female population)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:53 PM
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If the goal of dating is a healthy sustainable relationship, then it isn’t success.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:34 PM
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How old are you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 11:43 AM
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I wouldn’t, stay safe out there Stacy’s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 11:41 AM
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gross
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:01 AM
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Just like a majority of everything said on this subreddit gg
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:00 AM
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believe it or not every woman on this earth is a debauched slut lmao lmao lel lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 09:27 PM
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To believe this is the normal experience is actually fucking bonkers It does happen, a lot, but it is not even close to what most normal men experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:06 PM
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I think it’s because it is very bonding and we have fun but also I’m VERY attracted to my husband, like on a primal level I think he’s sexy, just looking at him gets me in the mood
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 11:06 PM
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It feels accurate while I’m single. I can easily just masturbate and feel satisfied. When I’m in a relationship, like I currently am (married) I need sex. If I’m not regularly having sex with my husband I’m not happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:12 PM
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There’s a secret third option
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:19 PM
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You’re proving his point A lot of men are sexy, they are just objectively attractive, no skill involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:49 AM
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Ugly women do date ugly men, do they not count? I do agree a lot of average and even above average men get called ugly, usually as cope, just like a lot of attractive women get called mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:13 PM
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Lil B mentioned 🩷
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:43 AM
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If he did it in the way that you prefer he wouldn’t be following his heart, so not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:37 AM
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For following his heart and having discipline ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:48 AM
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I misread your flair as Revenge/GURO Pilled and got scared lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:11 PM
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Although Fathers support their daughters much more, I'd say. Incredibly out of touch take
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:22 PM
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a real high value man
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:31 AM
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Lol @ subtle
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:35 PM
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Not great My eldest brother is twice divorced (both wive’s cheated on him) and he casually dates now, he has success in the hook up department but claims all the women his age aren’t stable enough for anything long term, ironically he regularly makes fun of red pill and black pilled men. My other brother got an actual crazy person pregnant (she threatened to kill his cat when she was mad at him a few months ago) and is now trying to find a way out of the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:29 PM
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This was exactly what happened in my family, but my friend’s mom’s were hard asses. I’m a mother of 3 sons now and I’m appalled at the things my mother allowed, but she really isn’t the typical case.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:11 PM
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I feel incredibly blessed that I have ABC but with this hypothetical scenario I would go with B&C If my husband was for some reason suddenly unable to work I would obviously stick with him
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:52 PM
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I agree, it’s usually just cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 06:54 PM
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From hearing jaded men speak you would have been a lot better off not allowing jaded people to influence your perception to the degree that it has, now you’re jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:02 AM
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Goomba fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:13 PM
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In today’s western society, promiscuous women are rewarded as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:04 AM
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If I was her I would think he is uninterested in making friends with coworkers which is fair If I was pursuing him romantically I would think he’s either not at all into me, doesn’t date coworkers or is already dating someone and being respectful to their SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:14 PM
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I will only have sex with someone I’m in love with
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 12:03 AM
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I don’t think many people truly think sex itself is negative Casual sex is what people see as degenerative, myself included. I love sex, have an extremely high libido, but would never have sex with just anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:29 PM
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Eh, idk about your school but in mine even the kids in band spent most of the time dry humping in the hall, only a handful of super socially awkward or ugly kids weren’t getting any action.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:28 AM
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Glad I wasn’t the only one who misread the title initially lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 08:56 PM
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My body count is 2, I’ve dated 2 men in my life, and I’m married to the 2nd man I slept with and dated. For both of them we needed to be exclusively dating/in love before I felt comfortable enough to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:16 PM
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If you are seeking casual relationships with women who only have their looks to offer it’s probably the route you should go.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 12:16 AM
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I’ve really only seen women shame men for using degrading language when talking about single mothers Very rarely do I see someone have the gall to say people have a moral obligation to date anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:09 PM
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unemployed, balding, NEET guy The female equivalent to this is single mom, fat and ugly. Sure there would be a handful of delusional “girls girls” hyping her up, but a majority of people would be criticizing her “standards”, this is not a unique experience to men. Men accept women, whole heartedly on the other hand Men pumping and dumping women is not them accepting them wholeheartedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:08 AM
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which are considered sinful by Christians Not true, you’re thinking of sodomy. While I agree this was a LOT of marriages, trad or otherwise, I detest the narrative that a woman with a high body count is automatically going to be more enthusiastic for sex with her husband vs a woman with a low body count One of my close friends has slept with over 70 men, she has always been remarkably vanilla and is uninterested in sex now in her marriage I’ve always been uninterested in casual sex and never par…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:10 PM
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Yeah of course, men have it much worse when it comes to dating and loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:33 AM
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Finally someone affirms my worldview! Clearly they are the only honest one here (:
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:27 AM
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So just because you can’t have loud sex in the middle of the kitchen during the day your sex/romantic life is “objectively ruined”? Do you understand how ridiculous you sound? lol It’s clear you just have a really depressing view on parenthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:42 PM
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So you have no idea what you’re talking about, you’ve just imagined a scenario going off of your limited knowledge of parenthood. We have sex multiple times a day if we want to, and our children are not neglected or traumatized lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:33 PM
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You can, you just sound incredibly neurotic and like you don’t actually even have any children.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:26 PM
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Do you have children? Yes they take up A LOT of time but they do not take up all of your time, do you think you need to hover over them while they sleep? lol They don’t hear me and my husband because we own a big enough house, and when we lived in a smaller house we waited until they were asleep and tried to be quiet. “Neglecting and traumatizing them” to have sex is actually laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:24 PM
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babies sleep 18 hours a day Are you a parent? Do you think they sleep for 18 hours straight? Why do you think experiencing sleep deprivation is a common complaint with babies? Sex is vital to a relationship, but you’re ruining your argument by pretending that newborns are not stressful and draining, especially if mom is breastfeeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:59 PM
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No they do not objectively kill romance, that’s like saying any added outside stressor objectively kills romance and ends relationships. Me and my husband’s love/sex life is on fire, and we have 3 kids (2 under 2 as well) A lot of couples are actually not as compatible as they think they are and any change in dynamic (new job, big move, death in the family, pregnancy/kids), which is apart of life, will kill the romance for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:55 PM
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This is my husband, he’s a gem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:39 AM
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Lol what???????
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 03:29 AM
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My husband is very kind and socially conscious :3
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:53 PM
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I was friends with a serious ex and then we got married So I’m 100% team no, if you can be friends with your ex I assume a significant amount of time has passed since your relationship, you were never that attracted to them or it wasn’t that serious of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:45 PM
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I love sharing a last name with my husband but yes it felt like an endless task changing it, it was incredibly annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:17 PM
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If you, as a woman, are the one getting pursued by a man, chances are he's a fake bitch anyway Um, why is he most likely a fake bitch because he pursued me? lol Men and women should pursue each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:55 PM
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Clearly a very well adjusted individual!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:36 PM
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disappointed in all the women here who took this shitty bait
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:33 AM
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Everyone does it, especially you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:03 AM
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The sexualization of men exists in mainstream media, I never stated otherwise, but in comparison to the scale of sexualization of women in media it’s much less prevalent, probably due to it being a newer thing (in the mainstream media*, in the last 20 years or so) Are you seriously going to bring up Mortal Kombat? A roster full of half naked women or women with skin tight clothing and jiggle physics is much more common even in fighting games geared towards children (Smash Ultimate)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:33 PM
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While I think promiscuity is bad, for both men and women, most single mothers do not come from one night stands situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:19 AM
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Lol I hope you don’t ever plan on getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:27 AM
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Why are we still pretending that being a "strong single mom" is an achievement? I don’t know a single person who views it as an achievement, it’s viewed as an obstacle that women have to overcome Very few women actively choose to get knocked up knowing full well the father won’t be in the picture, they just accept it when it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:25 AM
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Source: live in a western country and have working eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:17 AM
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Genuine misogynists view women as nothing more than a means to an end They view women as property or a commodity that can further them in their own personal goals; sex and reproduction, and nothing more. They do not want love or romance, they want to feel wanted and desired without the requirement of genuine reciprocation. Genuine misandrists typically view men as nothing more than a nuisance, and they often see no use in men general other than for canon fodder, labor or resources. I’ve noticed …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:32 PM
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Has science disproven process addictions? Get off it Modern porn is like alcohol, some people can use it properly in moderation while others have trouble regulating their usage. Go look at r/NoFap or r/Loveafterporn, you seriously can’t look at all these people saying “I’m struggling with this thing and I can’t stop” and say that no problem exists because “science has disproven it” (with no source)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 11:47 PM
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Porn addicts should not be giving out life advice lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:13 PM
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Literally no point in responding to Tyrant He’s either a great troll or is actually retarded and believes that all women are some sort of cartoonish villain lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:35 AM
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Are you a parent?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:19 PM
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Unrequited love is a shitty experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:32 AM
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I’ve seen both scenarios, but a majority of the time it’s 1
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:11 AM
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I’m doing my part (married a virgin and shaming promiscuous men)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:38 PM
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There is no shortage of low integrity people willing to date shitty people as long as they meet some high level of status, wealth or attractiveness Your examples, all these men obviously meet status/wealth requirements, so there are women out there willing to be with them despite loads of legitimate evidence that these men are terrible (idk if they actually are tbh, I don’t get into celebrity drama) When it comes to normal, everyday abusive men who are able to find girlfriends, typically they ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:27 PM
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Yeah a lot of women refuse to initiate for the reason you stated, but it’s retarded to believe that all women behave this way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 08:18 PM
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She’s joking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 08:09 PM
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Did you take care of your newborn as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 10:22 AM
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I’m friends with a few “incels”, while they are typically well meaning people, almost every single one of them holds a lot of resentment and bitterness towards women. I don’t think my friends are dangerous but I can’t really blame other women being on some level, fearful of them, because they hold negative feelings about a group they’re apart of.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:36 PM
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How do you want people to respond to this sort of blind hatred
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:30 PM
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My Scenario involves a Women that loves a Men, but because off biological programming still can get carried away. So, you are essentially saying women are only as loyal as their options? The same is said about men quite frequently, do you think even if a man loves a woman, if a more attractive/younger woman approached him, he would cheat and leave his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:29 PM
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She sounds awful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:07 PM
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A man should only have to pay alimony if wife had no career and was a SAHM/SAHW.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 05:14 PM
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also inject Testosterone so that they are able to maneuver one. Have you used a gun? Are you a gun owner?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:29 PM
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This is such a deranged response to the original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:23 PM
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No, only 5-10% of women on onlyfans make “absolute bank”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:15 PM
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why are they not a good representation? Onlyfans is a great way to make even average women incredibly wealthy. Well only 2% of the female population (in the US) is a content creator on onlyfans and the average girl on onlyfans is only making about 130-180$ a month from it. Most women who have OF accounts are not incredibly wealthy, the women on the whatever podcast are typically, not average.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 04:22 AM
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The women brought onto the whatever podcast are actually braindead, not the best representation of how a majority of women think and behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:53 AM
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Very true One of my older brothers is the definition of a “hobosexual” and he has never had any issues with getting a girlfriend, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:44 AM
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Hmm I’ll have to give it a try next time I make apple pie
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 06:30 PM
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If she’s having casual sex with him, she’ll continue to have casual sex with whoever until they’re exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 06:29 PM
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Phrasing it as “so many” feels like you’re implying this is a very common occurrence, which it certainly isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 06:27 PM
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add some cheddar…..to apple pie? 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 05:53 PM
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Women won't date or sleep with a man unless he's tall, full head of hair, and has a sub 15% bodyfat muscular figure Women date men who don’t fit in these categories literally all the time Gabby Petito was killed by her boyfriend who was a bald, 5’8, average man. (I bring her up as an example solely because she was a well known, attractive average girl.) Men and women can both be extremely shallow, men just have lower standards when it comes to sex and lonely men will take whatever they can get w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:47 PM
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Women date men with poor hygiene all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:23 PM
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Disloyal people are typically shitty partners
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:32 PM
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Is this the right perspective to have? You get to decide that. It sounds like you have no issue with this set up, so I think your perspective serves you and your relationship Personally if I was in your position, reversed with my husband, I would feel hurt if my husband wanted to incorporate pocket pussys into our sex life because I couldn’t satisfy him, but my perspective is different than a lot of women simply because I can orgasm easily from PIV, so dildos are never used in the bedroom (plent…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:43 PM
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I think casual sex is degenerate behavior, so ofc I believe participating in porn/OF is also degenerative and humilating My sexuality is reserved for myself and my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:53 PM
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Why would I need to submit to a man other than my husband or father?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 03:36 PM
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The traditional/chilvarous treatment that a lot of women expect is paying for dates and gifts, approaching and pursuing first, opening doors etc etc etc It goes beyond merely just showing up with your “masculine presence”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 02:52 PM
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women now have equal rights they "have" to do 50/50 To play devil’s advocate, I don’t think most red pillers claim women have to do anything, they’re just pointing out that it’s hypocritical to expect chivalrous/traditional treatment while giving nothing but your “feminine presence” in return
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:29 PM
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To me, yes, they are. I’m sure they are other women who take no issue with those traits as long as they make up for it in some other department (looks, money, status)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:46 PM
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Just right, I guess. The men in my life get shit done and take pride in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 03:19 AM
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What is the definition of a low value man? Hedonistic, unintelligent, disloyal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 03:11 AM
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You’re allowed to think that, personally I don’t think either sex is generally more idealistic than the other
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:19 PM
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Tbf the person you were replying to wasn’t responding to the wholesome guy, she was responding to the guy that claimed one guy being wholesome was “proof that men are the idealistic sex.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:44 PM
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I did this for one of my best male friends in high school with one of my best female friends, they dated for a few years, had a horrible break up and now they both give me attitude occasionally about the situation lol Sorry I’m small and can’t do shit in a fight against another grown man, would if I could buddy No u All of my male friends (2) bitch about women to me, I don’t discuss my marriage to others so it’s very one sided. P.S i have a lesbian friend that i don't find attractive at all but …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:03 AM
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I wouldn’t say a majority, but it is a lot of women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:42 PM
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My brothers attract these types of women Our mother is extremely emotionally volatile and illogical, it’s like talking to a brick wall when she gets in her feelings Maybe freud was onto something 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:39 PM
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And yet when women recognize certain behavioral trends in men we’re labeled as man hating, insane feminists lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:37 PM
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No they don’t You’re recognizing a pattern of behavior that is not exclusive to either gender
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:45 PM
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most women find pictures of men with guns and fish to be icky. tell me you live in a liberal city without actually telling me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:42 PM
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because they dislike the unflattering nature of our world - then how are they equipped to have reasoning that would be beneficial for us as society? Men flail and whine about the uncomfortable truths of the world all the time as well, what are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:41 PM
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Glad my husband is both
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 12:57 AM
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Criticizing the opposite sex is normal and not indicative of being gay Being unable to say a single nice thing about the opposite sex and obsessively posting about how horrible they are is evidently, a little gay Don’t worry, I call out women for the same behavior as well ;3 lots of in denial lesbians here too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:30 AM
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We get it, you think all women are terrible and stupid Marry a dude and find a hobby, you’ll feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:40 AM
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You also type like a retard, add that to the list
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:15 PM
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I saw the post title and thought it had to be from Lillth lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:12 PM
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I’ll never understand women who expect chivalrous/traditional treatment while giving absolutely nothing in return You don’t deserve princess treatment just because you were born with a vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 03:07 PM
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That’s extremely depressing, she definitely does not like her husband
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:43 PM
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I’m in a free use marriage, so obviously my husband and I have very active sex life Never engaged in hook up culture, and I know if I ever did I would not be really comfortable to sexually explore with a guy I barely know My female friends who do have ONS are less adventurous than they are with a long term partners So the results of these studies make sense in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:37 PM
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no u
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 08:17 PM
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But women don't face that struggle? Women find those partners every day Eh not really, as I stated before, a LOT of people in general are really not fit partners. That includes men. I am curious how you think “feminism” is brainwashing women into rejecting good men, thats quite a “boogeyman” scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:00 PM
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The issue that both sexes face, the struggle to find a good, safe and compatible long term partner A lot of men and women today are emotionally unfit for long term relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:33 PM
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You believe women’s only struggle in dating is solely that she can’t get hot guys to settle down with her, and that if they were more “moral and virtuous” like men, they would have no struggles in dating Why would anyone try to even have a discussion with someone with such a skewed and limited perspective, it would be like trying to argue with a house plant
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:28 PM
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Yeah cause women struggles are chad left me cause he found someone hotter, I want chad to date me but he is only having sex with ms ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:25 PM
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Most people are intensely self centered, and consciously or subconsciously want their needs/wants prioritized over their partners You sound like a whiny feminist who genuinely believes women are somehow morally superior or more virtuous than men, just reversed People need to work hard to figure out their own boundaries within relationships, actively stick to them and not succumb to their fear of loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:13 PM
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Xanax is a highly addictive benzodiazepine, it is nothing more than an extremely dangerous, very temporary bandaid It does not heal anything, in fact it could further ones mental health problems by making them more likely to fall into substance abuse It’s not like an SSRI, which are meant for long term use, and it can be easily argued that SSRI’s don’t “heal” you, they just make your symptoms manageable when taken. (Been prescribed SSRI’s and benzos since 6th grade, overcame the need for them 🤷🏻…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:12 PM
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> xanax is how you heal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:21 PM
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Beautifully put, but will probably too “woo woo” for a lot of people here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:20 AM
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Of course anyone can become anything I mentioned that point specifically because he’s a salaried software/firmware engineer who’s achieved his career without any formal education beyond a high school diploma In a field where currently college grads who dropped 50k+ to become software engineers are struggling to find work And to be clear, he’s not doing low level, easily automatable grunt work, he’s in a genuinely high responsibility, high skill position.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:45 PM
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Blue collar job would only be a negative to me because less availability at home with family and our children Driving a train is sweet, but I imagine you’re away from home more often than a white collar worker? Maybe that’s an incorrect assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:29 AM
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No lol my husband is a member of Mensa and became a professional software engineer without going to college, he’s gifted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:05 AM
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I’m already proving that point by living happily despite the trauma I’ve endured Wouldn’t I be cruel to keep an unborn from experiencing joy and love as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:48 PM
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Reading posts from a self loathing, illogical antinatalist makes you happy to be one? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:41 PM
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That’s unsurprising, I would bet you read most people and their perspective pessimistically What sort of point could I prove through another human being?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:37 PM
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Yeah the self loathing is palpable, it’s sad to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:01 PM
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I am fine with them experiencing life, yes, it would be pretty stupid of me to have children if I wasn’t otherwise okay with reality that. I’ve lived a very difficult life, and was actually almost aborted, but despite everything I’ve gone through I’m happy to be here My sons will be much better off than I ever was growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:55 PM
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Suffering is intrinsic to the human experience So is joy and love. I’m not excited or happy that my 3 boys one day will face many hardships, as will every human being on this planet, but it is apart of life They are here because they were meant to be here and I hope I can help them garner the fortitude that it takes to persist in a world that is sometimes cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:46 PM
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Will you fight? Or will you perish like a dog?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:34 PM
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“Telling on yourself” is simply you being the most authentic version of you, in the end the people you allow close to you will see you eventually If that causes the relationship to crumble or fail then it was meant to If you’re looking to just get laid and nothing more, your advice is great advice, but imo it’s incredibly unhealthy and harmful for that to be your only goal in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:23 PM
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Don’t get me wrong, I’m well aware women can be really shitty at communicating their intentions and feelings, a lot of women are practically taught that if a man really loves you he’ll just read your mind and do what you want (“if he wanted to” lol) so they think why bother communicating anything My comment isn’t meant to be a blanket statement @ men, but just a direct reply to OP and his post that at face value, seems to be encouraging intentionally masquerading yourself and your intentions so …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:19 PM
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they are usually trying to get you to tell on yourself so they can swiftly reject you They are uninterested in the thing you have to offer, they’re not just getting their rocks off by rejecting you Lying by omission is still lying. You do you but games like this always come back to bite you in one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 06:46 PM
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Sounds like a really shitty experience, sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:03 PM
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My husband is the 2nd person I’ve slept with, always been sad he wasn’t my 1st (especially since I was his 1st)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:33 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:11 PM
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Okay now I know you’re just trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:10 PM
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Let’s be honest, most women can’t keep up with men’s sex drives and it gets annoying after awhile Speak for yourself From talking to chatgpt I realized all of the guys I’ve been with had- Is this rage bait? I’m not going to take anything you say seriously, you use chatgpt as a therapist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:09 PM
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I am not very polarized at all, and to be frank I think people who are, are typically just incapable of understanding how nuanced things can be or they’re blinded by negative emotions I side a lot with the opposite gender but I also side with my own gender as well, it varies from topic to topic. Gender solidarity is bs, I’m not going to side with someone acting like a fool just because they have a vagina and we may have similar lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:39 PM
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Is it not worse when a man lets another man openly disrespect him?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:21 PM
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I have 5 brothers and had 2 father figures in my life Some of them ended up liberal, some of them ended up conservative, but they all drilled into my head not to trust men, especially in places where I would be “vulnerable” (alone at night, parties, dates) I did my best not to take this advice at face value since I assumed they were just being over protective and that there are plenty of good men out there like my brothers and father; but a lot of my hesitation around certain men in specific sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:34 PM
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Indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:31 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:30 PM
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Ah okay, that’s actually a great comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:30 PM
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What are the other reasons? STDs?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:30 PM
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I’m not sure they all would, some would probably still feel attacked and be on the defensive I’m low n count and demanded the same in a partner, I don’t think there is anything wrong with a virgin wanting to be with a virgin. Good luck, hope you find your person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:43 PM
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“I really don’t like when people do this thing and I think it makes them worse off than these other people who didn’t do this thing People who do the thing: 😡” Anyone is going to feel attacked when they are being judged loudly and harshly, it’s human nature Men are allowed to want low body count women and women are allowed to feel however they want about it (and vice versa)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:21 PM
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No that isn’t a bad thing at all
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:12 PM
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One gender is not inherently morally superior over the other and actually believing that is just a sign of being a neurotic person who lacks critical thinking skills I could tell you dozens of horror stories about men in my life the same way I’m sure you could tell me dozens about women in yours I could take these experiences I have with men and decide that men in general are bad people in comparison to women, but that wouldn’t be very wise and would hurt my overall experience in how I socialize…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:44 PM
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Ah okay you clearly surround yourself with women of similar mental caliber to you, that’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:19 PM
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Because if you stub your toe in the sidewalk the woman appoint 3 different doctors to look at something that would heal naturally. What sort of retarded women do you surround yourself with
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:29 PM
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Too much logic for this subreddit, I’m sure OP will gloss over your comment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:22 PM
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If that’s all they add then why aren’t they satisfied with just using sex workers? Asking genuinely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:16 PM
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I am 28, Gen Z (born 97) so his my husband, we also have kids. A majority of our Gen Z friends are married as well, ironically the majority of millennials I personally know are not married It’s very odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:13 PM
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Anyone who disagrees with my lifestyle is brainwashed!!!!!!11!!!!1 They couldn’t possibly value and prioritize things differently than me without some sort of oppressive outside force!!! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:24 PM
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I get told by men here regularly that; “men are only as loyal as their options” I think its incredibly misandristic and don’t believe it but nonetheless it seems to be a very common sentiment among men I bet if we were able to poll the entire world while on a truth serum (lol) we’d find that there isn’t too big of a difference between the sexes in regards to frequency in desiring genuine monogamy/exclusivity or non exclusivity
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:11 PM
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I don’t think these 2 statements are inherently contradictory, especially at face value. All I’m saying is; I acknowledge a species-wide power asymmetry which instills in me a level of discernment and hesitation towards certain men in specific situations, and yet men will tell me this discernment and hesitation is completely unfounded and actually just an act in order to manipulate those around me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:24 AM
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Me having hesitation around some men in specific situations =/= I’m terrified of every random man I come across, all the time. If I have to say it plain english for you I will; I would still choose man over bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:18 AM
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Stop conflating a description with a prescription I want you to point out where I did that I was simply reflecting on the experience of seeing 2 vastly different descriptions of the female experience in real time I agree with Andrew Wilson on this, because I do believe in the existence of the patriarchy and that on average, most men would be able to easily overpower me if they wanted to. I cannot acknowledge this reality without having some level of subconscious hesitation and anxiety around men…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:46 AM
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It’s an interesting experience, seeing this post and then almost immediately after reading another post from this subreddit titled “Womens' actions have repeatedly revealed their claim of living in constant fear of danger at the hands of men is likely just another smokescreen and deception/manipulation tactic”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:11 AM
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You say that and also say we should embrace the madonna/whore complex? Experiencing the inability to consistently feel sexual desire for your wife, the person you want to build your life with while simultaneously only desiring women who behave in a way you find immoral is a very clear indicator of someone who cannot properly pair bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:21 PM
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What’s wrong with men making it more difficult to effectively pair bond? geeeeee idk It should be embraced if they have no interest in exclusivity, monogamy or marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:47 AM
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How would masturbating to an unrelated third party help men sexually bond with a woman they are physically with? If anything masturbation inhibits interest in actual sex because the need for sex has not only been met but met quicker and more easily
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:42 AM
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How does one even get a degree in pussyology™️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:35 AM
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Porn is not only promoting but fueling the increase in promiscuity and degeneracy displayed in the modern dating scene and the women they are seeking out as potential partners, these men claim to hate this Personally paying OF models is a bit worse than just going on pornhub or xhamster or whatever because they are funding and putting direct sexual energy towards certain women that they wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole in reality. Programming themselves to (only) sexually desire women, that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:31 AM
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comments are filled with women saying they hate sex and just want to cuddle, etc. and not have sex be a major part of the relationship Sounds like they’re either asexual or their hormones are completely out of whack.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:30 AM
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great schizo post knight-bishop, you really knocked this one outta the park
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:17 AM
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Most of them don’t even know we watch porn let alone hardcore gangbangs. You can’t be serious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:10 AM
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They aren’t a hypocrite, but they are weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:09 AM
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Of course its outrageous to genuinely believe that sleeping with other people while in a monogamous relationship is somehow okay Men having fantasies is one thing, but when these fantasies seep into their daily life in a way that it becomes apparent to the people around them is another thing entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:44 PM
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If you’re living a chaste life I hope you’re able to find someone who fits your standards There is nothing wrong with wanting someone who aligns with your values.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:39 PM
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No one thinks it’s actually the same thing However they do believe that if their future husband’s are going to jerk off to other naked women in their spare time and ogle every attractive woman they see in the streets, then those men aren’t worth being chaste virgins for anyway. It’s essentially a if “you can’t beat them, join them” scenario. Men and women are in this together when it comes to the overall increase in promiscuity in western society.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:36 PM
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yes everyone must fit neatly into the boxes I place them in!!!!! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:05 PM
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Men normalised porn, paying for sex, pushing for open relationships etc. And then they get mad when women participate? Porn rotted their brain ): tragic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:51 PM
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Are you religious and/or traditional?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:48 PM
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> Nowadays expecting a chaste wife makes you the equivalent of an incel serial killer. Holy hyperbole. Maybe if all you watch are drunk street interviews or the “whatever podcast”, most women do not think you’re some sort of serial killer if you want a virgin They’ll just say you’re hypocritical if you’re not a virgin, or you’re going to struggle to find that unless you’re religious and/or traditional Which a good chunk of men looking for a chaste wife are not. They’re gooners paying said only f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:59 PM
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That’s okay, I have no desire to convince you of anything. I was genuinely curious in my initial questioning but your lack of willingness to engage and your own comparison to misandristic women answers my question. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:33 PM
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Yes with_no_addressee on reddit.com I am lying to you for some reason about this very mundane topic, probably because I am a woman and dishonesty is inherent to my nature You got me, you clearly have this whole thing all figured out (:
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:24 PM
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At this point we should rename this subreddit whataboutmenwomen debate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:18 PM
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I do often ask them the same question, and honestly a lot of those women and a lot of women here don’t seem to actually like or are even sexually attracted to men at all but your response tells me enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:14 PM
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The world doesn’t cater to male sexuality but only certain, major industries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:10 PM
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Men, because they are responsible for nearly all significant inventions, are the cause of almost all human joy in the world Do you really even want a female mate if this is how you feel about women? This isn’t some sort of gotcha, I’m asking you genuinely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:07 PM
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I helped my brother get away from a horribly emotionally abusive ex, but I agree that what you’re saying seems to a prevailing part of our culture I’ll continue to do what I can and advocate for ALL victims of abuse but I know in the grand scheme of things I can’t change how society as a whole views male victims of abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 04:45 PM
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Men date abusive women all the time, the abuse just isn’t (typically) physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 12:35 PM
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Idk while I’ve never been down with casual sex, it seems to be working just fine for a lot of women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:42 AM
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He’s just another manwhore projecting
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:39 AM
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men are usually the ones responsible for making money. Modern men and women expect 50/50 these days, if a grown women expects to be treated traditionally but won’t behave traditionally they’re a hypocrite and vice versa It's kind of ridiculous women would even expect this stuff to continue as relationships will always cool off over time. Pursuing each other, keeping the romance alive and regular date nights are extremely beneficial for a healthy LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:14 PM
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Like I said in my initial comment; casual hook up and online dating shenanigans.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:11 PM
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You’ve never had a girl you were dating initiate or plan a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:49 PM
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Relationship advice and Marriage subreddit are FILLED with posts about how women feel like they plan or initiate everything in their LTRs Men initially have a lot pressure on them to pursue, but once they enter a LTR they often stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:48 PM
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Sure I agree but even in relationships where the man reciprocates, women are still pursuing by giving gifts, initiating and planning things (dates, sex, etc) Not all women just sit there thinking their mere presence is more than enough, only extremely air headed shallow women actually believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:41 PM
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This is purely casual hook up/dating app shenanigans 7/10 women are pursuing the men they actually want to date as much as the man is
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:19 PM
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It is 100% gender neutral behavior but it is behavior that is encouraged in women much more than men Though men still seem to behave this way at the same frequency regardless, such tenacity lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:30 PM
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Ah good ol misandry Believe it or not, not all men are animals that follow every primal urge they have lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:56 AM
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No he actually had other women asking him out in front of me, and dated other women He was extremely picky
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:54 AM
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Yeah this is an accurate assessment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:54 AM
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Pick me and simp are not interchangeable but my husband was accused of “simping” for me a few times, now I’m married to him and suck his dick everyday so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:37 AM
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I personally believe helping the poor, the destitute and the needy is not only morally good but is also the best path to a better functioning society
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 12:45 PM
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Those children will eventually be caring for you when you’re old and decrepit in a state funded nursing home
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 02:29 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 12:26 PM
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A man has to be hot to get away with being an asshole. Being average is not good enough Being average on its own is not good enough, but he can make up for being average with charisma, money or status. If a woman is ugly or fat, she cannot make up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:58 PM
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broke stingy men begging for them to see value in SAHMs in the first place should inform you enough on how the situation for a SAHM would be. This is what it comes down to. Women should NEVER become a SAHM with a man who sees no inherent value in motherhood to begin with Otherwise he will eventually just feel like he’s being taken advantage of, which will lead to resentment and financial abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:32 PM
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My husband has it set up so I get a certain amount of money from his paycheck every month put into a separate account for me I can either save it or spend this money as frivolously as I want, anything outside of this money I need to discuss with him first but I do have access to all of our money/credit cards, this is just my “monthly budget” I’ve never gone outside my budget and I’ve never felt I couldn’t buy something I’ve needed, or even really wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:14 PM
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This becomes a more complex issue when children get involved A man cannot go 50/50 on pregnancy, labor and delivery, postpartum and breastfeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:06 PM
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I agree with this as long as he isn’t also expecting her to have children with him
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:49 PM
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Tbf you can know your worth, keep your standards and never settle and still do all these things for your husband I would never cook, clean or fold a man’s laundry if he didn’t treat me the way a loving husband should.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:15 AM
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There will always be desperate women who feel the need to demean themselves to a maid to feel “loved.” Caring for your loved ones is demeaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:13 AM
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How on earth is it “pick me” to make your boyfriend’s lunch, fold his laundry and allow him to pay for dates? On what planet does taking care of your SO = servitude? I can understand believing that if it is all one sided or he’s an asshole, but otherwise there is genuinely nothing wrong or “pick me” about doing these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:06 AM
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The only 2 points hard to come by in average women is not wanting children AND not on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:24 PM
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Ambitious Loyal Confident Good communicator Intelligent Funny Taller than me (5’2) Some shared hobbies (anime, gaming, snowboarding, art, etc) I’m physically attracted to them They are into me and vocal about it Not a man whore or have eyes for many women, preferably has same body count as me Not a porn addict Not an atheist I’m married and my husband fits this criteria easily, I’m very lucky ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:12 PM
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These are requirements for a SO or just a fuck buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:06 PM
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I understand, I was just saying what I find attractive and I was lucky enough to find it If a man’s primary goal is sexual success with many women then what I stated is definitely not the route to take lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:58 AM
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That's not saying much. That's like saying "I'd prefer a cow shit sandwich over a horse shit sandwich". They're both still shit. So only men who have sex are not shit? Most male virgins are not virgins by choice. And even if they were, most people would still look down on him unless he was asexual or something. My husband was but tbf I took his virginity when we were 17 lol, too young for it to mean much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:32 AM
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As a woman who prefers a virgin over a man whore I think it’s important to note that it can be unattractive if the man is desperately seeking sex from virtually any woman willing to and is just incapable of getting it A man who is a virgin by choice, regardless of age is extremely attractive because it shows a certain level of discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:30 PM
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Lol it’s relevant because I am a “fit mom” (something you say you see) who still has other issues after childbirth Increase in stretch marks, cellulite and hair loss are a few examples of things not necessarily related to stagnant weight gain that men find undesirable about postpartum bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:20 AM
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As a fit mom of 3, the effects of pregnancy and childbirth go far beyond weight fluctuations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:23 PM
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My understanding is that u/Barely-moral has a retirement set aside for his SAHM/wife. If she divorces him; if he dies; she is protected for the work she has done as a mother. That is putting one's money where one's mouth is. I've This made me smile. My husband is actually doing something similar, he also budgets a certain amount of money from his paycheck every month that goes into my personal bank account that I can either save or spend as frivolously as I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:20 PM
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Genuinely curious to see the responses to this As an extremely fulfilled “traditional” wife and mother, I notice when men are just bullshitting about this and when they actually see the merit in what I do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:19 AM
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My husband is nerdy tech geek, like “Arch linux user” level tech geek so ofc I gotta go with that lol Ironically he spent most of his life also being an athlete since his father was a coach of a professional football league, so athleticism was important growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:05 AM
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However, women don't mind of men sleep around a lot and don't seem to think it will ruin their pair bonding abilities. Men are just more vocal about it. The women who don’t care about a man’s body count are the women with higher body counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 05:48 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:07 AM
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> which means that to them a sexless relationship and a relationship with sex has the exact same level of affection in it lol no, while there are a lot of women who find themselves craving sex less as they age, most women are going to be upset if they find themselves in a sexless relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:06 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:55 AM
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There are plenty of “happy single” women who are fine with having a one stand with chad It’s the women that are in “situationships” that more likely being pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:16 PM
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And yet if I said men get off on beating and controlling their girlfriends and wives you would call me a delusional feminist, even though the reality is a lot of men are as described and many women have dealt with them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:06 PM
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It’s a stretch to say the US is puritanical When I was in 9th grade my friend hosted an orgy at her house with other kids in our grade, this was in 2013 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:10 PM
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Me and my husband were the youngest people in my birthing class (26 at the time) Everyone else was mid 30s, the oldest woman there was 42 It’s much more likely for people to have children in their early 30s in the western world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:26 PM
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“I <3 my alphabux husband” getting that on a tshirt
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:23 PM
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I think sex work should be decriminalized and regulated That being said, I also think it’s degenerative behavior to engage in sex work, to buy sex and to have casual sex. That’s just my personal opinion though and I shouldn’t, nor do I even have the authority to dictate how other people choose to live
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:30 PM
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What pushes men who pay for sex slightly farther up on my judgement scale is the fact that they could be unknowingly paying to sleep with a trafficked person If prostitution was completely regulated and there was no chance of that scenario, then I would them the same as women who have lots of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:59 AM
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Don't praise celebrities like Saberina Carpenter or Cardi B for catering to the male gaze. The women who take issue with the sexualization and objectification of women are definitely not praising Sabrina Carpenter Have you not heard the phrase “Sabrina/Sydney/Bonnie Blue is setting us back hundreds of years” because I’ve heard it a lot the last 6 months The women praising these celebrities are not the women who genuinely take issue with objectification.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:07 PM
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As a woman with a different color purse for each day of the week, this guy is (unfortunately) correct
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:25 PM
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Being penetrated is the best part lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:33 AM
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Sex at least once a day is preferable, but we have 3 young kids (2 under 2) so I’m satisfied with 2-3 times a week with that current situation I like random “I love yous”, kisses and hugs, regularly expressing his attraction. I’m grateful he checks all those boxes easily
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:25 AM
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Oh thats nice (:
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:21 AM
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You’re right, because men are less inclined to withhold sex when they’re dissatisfied because it would feel more detrimental to themselves Men in that situation just withhold money from the women they’re “providing” for, in those scenarios it’s usually a SAHM who literally can’t work unless she wants to leave toddlers home alone so she’s just stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:04 PM
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I feel like this is rather obvious It’s a combination of NRE (new relationship energy) and she doesn’t share a household with the new guys, so things like division of household labor aren’t even applicable to him Men who are capable of sleeping around after a stale marriage do the same
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:38 PM
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it's essentially impossible to live a comfortable lifestyle on one income in most developed areas. Essentially impossible? This is simply not true
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:18 PM
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Misandry is saying men are only as loyal as their options, or that men are only capable of loving a woman who dresses sexy all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:17 PM
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Even if sex is eventually outsourced, men will still want to build intimate relationships with women, have families and sleep with women that they don’t have to pay Believing that men in droves will denounce women all together is a revenge fantasy It’s unfortunate the women you surround yourself with only have sex to offer, but that isn’t a universal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:48 PM
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In a perfect world where it was properly regulated and human trafficking was not an issue I would be all for legal prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:42 PM
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I’ll continue having empathy for men even when they tell me I’m inherently untrustworthy, unable to feel empathy and/or retarded and subhuman simply because I’m a woman I say that genuinely, even if they never understand the struggles that come with being a woman, I will still try to feel for their struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 12:21 PM
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They just need to hire prostitutes at this point if this is all they want
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 12:18 PM
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And yet women have babies with men who are openly untrustworthy. Those women are either young and immature or straight up retarded, unfortunately most of the population falls into these categories (both male and female) Thats without mentioning how a lot of women had sex with men who were "like a brother". someone “like a brother” and actually a brother are two very different things Trusting the words of a woman You’re blackpilled, your overall lack of trust in women is clearly serving you great…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 03:03 AM
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Parents, brothers, sisters, friends. That's the normal way to be. The career doesn't matter, you're loved regardless. Women are weird for caring what their partner does to pay bills. You’re not getting pregnant and having babies with your parents, brothers, sisters and friends The precedence comes from knowing the man you marry will be able to support you when you can no longer work due to pregnancy and raising your children Women who don’t plan on having kids are a different story though, I’m n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 05:26 PM
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“the thousand cock stare” lmao stealing that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:16 AM
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high status jobs potentially I know women who have fucked literal homeless men and drug addicts because they were attractive, did not want relationships with them though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:08 AM
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Women will marry men they don’t actually like so they aren’t taxed Just a really bad idea all around
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:40 PM
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Yeah some do for sure, but I’ve met a few who genuinely do want to go 50/50 and there are clearly a few women in this subreddit who are the same way It’s valid until the man also expects the woman to do a majority of the cooking, cleaning and childcare. If he can’t afford to provide for his wife and kids then he needs to be prepared to go 50/50 as well. There are shitty hypocritical people everywhere 🤷🏻‍♀️ I call them out whether they’re a man or a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:14 PM
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They like to have their cake and eat it too, just as many modern men do this and then blame the economy Date more progressive women if you want someone willing to go 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:38 PM
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South Asian women are gorgeous!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 05:20 PM
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I have issues, it’s probably weird that I’m weirded out by this. Nah I think this is a very reasonable ick. It really is inappropriate at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:40 AM
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> frankly, a 304 will desire him more than a chaste woman. Not necessarily, the friends I have with very high body counts are more vanilla in the bedroom and have much less sex with their long term partners than I do, someone with a very low body count. Just because a woman was chaste and didn't sleep with whoever doesn't mean she won't desire her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:33 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:53 PM
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Did you not read the following sentence Spending the rest of your life in an asylum for the criminally insane is not much better than prison
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:44 PM
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A US woman can kill her entire family and get diagnosed with depression. Postpartum psychosis and depression are not the same thing (high comorbidity rate tho) and even when they are diagnosed with PPP, they still spend the rest of their lives in prison or a mental hospital. Women are always unhappy Only the women near you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 08:45 PM
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100% The men that take the phrase “husband material” as insulting and “hook up material” as a compliment have probably never been called either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:02 PM
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Noticing someone is hot is normal, but I assume when we are talking about entertaining sexual thoughts about people we mean we’re putting intention into trying to picture them naked or envisioning having sex with them etc etc Which is a lot different, and imo inappropriate to do while in a monogamous relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 11:56 PM
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You don’t have the to be the thing to seek it in a partner, but it’s unwise to marry/date someone who has different values than you do, body count is a pretty solid indicator of how one values sex and intimacy. A virgin woman who holds sex in a high regard marrying a man who was a whore in his 20s is a recipe for disaster (same goes for the genders reversed)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:26 PM
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I mean if a bunch of fat ugly chicks started calling Henry Cavill mid after he put on 15lbs I think men would mock them too but I looked this up and the first post was mostly women saying who cares, attractiveness is subjective or that they also think shes mid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 04:38 AM
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While I agree a lot of women do feel this way about marriage/weddings, it’s definitley not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:22 PM
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I guess you’ve never watched Parks and Recreation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:00 PM
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If I was single I would have no issue with it but I’m married so obviously that would be inappropriate to keep being friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:22 PM
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Having a village is vital for sure, but it’s important women don’t reproduce with men who aren’t willing or interested in trying to go 50/50 on childcare (especially if mom works outside the home)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:14 PM
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Conservative women also have complicated relationships with their mother lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:12 PM
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Tantrums and flailing around feels cathartic, but you’re truly lost if you think it will actually improve anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:07 PM
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I don’t agree with OP but are you really trying to compare busting a load to 9 months of pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:17 PM
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Obviously the scenario you outlined isn’t a compliment, but most women aren’t saying that when they say a man is husband material The only time I’ve heard a women actually use the phrase “husband material” is in a positive way and “hookup material” in a negative way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:49 AM
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Most women view it as a compliment because it means something entirely different than what men think it means It’s just lost in translation
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:45 AM
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Most of the men who view it as an insult have never even been called husband material lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:32 AM
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A healthy, loving, life long bond is the prize. The best relationships are when both the man AND woman are in love and pursuing each other. An unbalanced dynamic in either direction is usually unsustainable and unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 10:12 PM
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At this point, female hoes still get respect. I have a friend whose body count is 70+, she’s getting married to a man she’s madly in love with and has a kid on the way. You’ll hear women criticize other women for being “easy” or “low value” while simultaneously being drawn to the same “player” guys. I’ve criticized promiscuous behavior in both men and women. I took my husband’s virginity (tbf we were young, 17) so, no, I’m not drawn to players.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:26 PM
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Men who cheat are the same as women who cheat, cope harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:20 PM
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As someone who is married and very much in love, I’m always so confused why people get so angry at statements like this, whether its from a man or a woman Some people are much better off single, good for them that they’re happy and enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:38 AM
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the gender-swapped version of this would get TONS of upvotes 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:36 AM
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It's one thing to think there's women out there hotter than your significant other. It's another thing entirely to not feel drawn to her physically. Going with this, probably 5-10% of men in relationships. I can’t imagine staying with someone you have no physical attraction to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:48 PM
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Yes exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:30 PM
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we also know that married women also use this rejection tactic because it’s become incredibly ingrained within women that I Have Husband doesn’t roll off the tongue as much. Had to tell a guy “I have a husband” literally yesterday lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:50 PM
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The circumstances and experiences involved in promiscuous behavior is vastly different between men and women The end result is the same though, which is all I care about
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 11:01 AM
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Okay great, but believe it or not some women share the same sentiment about average men. They would pick the average guy over Brad Pitt if the average guy actually likes them. Which was the whole reason why I said what I did. Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, some average people are always going to be dissatisfied with their average looksmatch It isn’t a gendered issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:23 AM
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Always the better option tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:02 PM
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Are you even attracted to your BF if you were charging him for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:22 AM
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I’d take a virgin over a man whore any day
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:52 AM
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Hell ya I know I do :3c
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:50 AM
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It’s illogical to think marriage doesn’t mean anything
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:21 PM
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Like if you ask most avg men they have no issue being with the avg women and actively cherish being with them Just the other day I got into a discussion with a man here claiming to be ugly/short. He spoke about how he flirts with attractive women at work because he’s unhappy with his ugly/fat gf (his words) He even made a few posts in other subreddits talking about how unsatisfied he was in his relationship, even though she is caring and does things for him. This is not uncommon among average ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:45 PM
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I’m not blue pilled, but I’m fairly certain they don’t deny the existence of physically unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:41 PM
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My sister is currently in the situation you described, she is the primary breadwinner and her husband is SAHD with their toddler She is typically fine with this set up, but she’s currently pregnant so a lot of feelings are coming up about the arrangement. You as a man do not go through 9 months of pregnancy, hours of labor and delivery and then the long period of adjustment during postpartum and breastfeeding. Optimally, baby should stay close with mom for at least the first few months of life, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:09 PM
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You want to be a stay at home dad, that’s wonderful, but it’s not synonymous with “family oriented” My husband is extremely family oriented, very hands on with our boys and has no issue going essentially 50/50 on childcare when he’s home even though he’s the sole provider
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:04 PM
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Pretty much anyone who claims to be “sapiosexual” is not actually “sapiosexual”, they’re just trying to seem sophisticated and intelligent
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:22 PM
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idk about you but I very often see sub 5 fat women post themselves on the internet and get nothing but ridicule.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:32 PM
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> men of this generation are 70% single despite being the most caring and look focused generation. where on earth are you getting this number from
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:04 PM
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Men in general are much more sexual than women but it’s retarded to think women only view sex as some sort of tool to get one over on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:07 AM
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> This thing isn’t worth it > I’ve never experienced this thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:50 PM
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Men will sacrifice their happiness for the family, women will sacrifice the family for happiness. Men also sacrifice their families for happiness all the time. Humans in general can be incredibly selfish, this isn’t a gendered issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:33 PM
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You always have a choice, but judging by your post history you seem like the type of person who floats around in life without any sort of agency. Why do you feel entitled to attractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:41 PM
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Odd question, being ugly and short isn’t pathetic. Lying, cheating and stringing someone along who you don’t find attractive because you’re afraid of not being able to get your dick wet on a regular basis is pathetic. Especially because your current gf is most likely in your league anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:06 PM
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lol pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:52 AM
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Tthe effort it takes for women to change partners is so low that there is nothing you can do to keep her attention with any sort of guarantee If the person is actually into you, they aren’t going to leave you just because someone more handsome/pretty walked by.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:33 PM
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Slave? My husband worships me. We provide each other an incredible life, we’re best friends (: Believe it or not some people actually want to be a parent and have children, they aren’t just a product of boredom or as a way of “locking someone down” and by your definition I did plenty of exciting things when I was younger (minus the sleeping around) that shit gets old real quick, but you’re 18 so I can understand why you think the way you do. Now I just travel and hang out with my favorite people…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 02:56 PM
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It means staying out late with friends, dancing at clubs, going to festivals, travelling on girls trips, wearing fun sexy clothes, experimenting with guys etc. Yeah really profound self exploration going on there, woe to any women who didn’t get to experience that while young and single lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 01:25 PM
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Ideally no one breastfeeds Breast milk is inherently superior to formula in almost every way for the child and has a lot of benefits for the mother. I refuse to treat a woman anything more than 50:50 until she’s actually pregnant with my child. I think this is fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:36 AM
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Only if they married a piece of shit, but unfortunately the odds are high.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:59 PM
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Not many people have relationships that are suitable for marriage, it wouldn’t benefit either individual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:19 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:11 PM
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> No. He is not settling. He is getting the best he can get Is this not what it means to settle? He is only with her because it’s all that he can get, he settled for her over being alone. The RP narrative is that women settle because beta buxx is their only option after fooling around during their prime. The other, “better” options of men no longer find them attractive and are uninterested in them for a LTR. So they also essentially have no choice in men when they settle for beta buxx.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:13 PM
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I think for some it is horrible, and those are the people that don’t realize how average they actually are
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:44 PM
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Yeah, it comes back around to ending up with who you match with. Average women end up with average men, and both often dream of being with better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:05 PM
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I assume the women that operate this way simply have a low sex drive, because I could never My husband is the best I’ve ever been with. I’m obsessed with him. I think it’s important to note I was only with one other man (highly experienced, habitual cheater) and my husband was a virgin when we first slept together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 10:21 PM
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had the gall to ask for help with the kids forced grandma to have kids Both scenarios involve someone who clearly did not want children. Children do not destroy relationships between 2 people who actually want to be parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:22 PM
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You slave away for 40+ hours a week to receive an income and pay taxes to benefit from public goods and services I don’t believe the draft should be a thing, you shouldn’t be forced to risk your life in war
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:38 PM
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This is an issue if you are having kids with shitty men who only value your looks, but either way, not every woman’s body is unrecognizably altered after pregnancy. Only if you have kids with a man who doesn’t actually want to be a father Only if you can’t actually afford to have kids. Yeah thats always a possibility, if you’re unable to face this reality you shouldn’t have kids. It can be traumatic, my 3rd birth was scary, my 1st was normal and my 2nd was great. Never tore either, but that was …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:49 PM
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I thought most passport bro’s openly admit this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:34 AM
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I get approached about once a week on average Maybe 1 out of every 5 guys I find attractive enough to consider dating if I was single
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:59 PM
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Loyalty is for incel adjacent men ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:22 AM
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……I’m a fairly laid back parent, but getting hit by a car is insane. Depending on their age at the time, the parent in charge of watching them was 100% responsible for that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:51 PM
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Probably because a very loud portion of men claim that “men are only as loyal as their options” and are “polygamous by nature” I think these ideas are genuinely misogynistic, but like I said, I only ever hear men say these things. They insist all men behave and feel this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 03:24 AM
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Most men are just jealous, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:01 PM
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Yeah same
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:00 PM
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My brother dates women for resources and free food, the term “hobosexual” exists for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:00 PM
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I was interested in my husband back when we were both 12, long before he could demonstrate his ability to procure money, resources, free food, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:41 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:20 AM
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Hopefully
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:19 AM
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This has had more to do with men doubting women’s competency in these jobs than it does with protecting women from these jobs. (in a historical context)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:02 PM
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It isn’t. I wish posting screenshots didn’t involve outing these men or I would. 90% of the guys posted are average men that get no responses/mocked or women warning others of their long time boyfriends on dating apps Now tbf I don’t live somewhere like Miami or LA so I imagine the men posted in these groups changes a lot depending on the location
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:57 PM
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I really wish I could post screenshots from my local “are we dating the same guy?” group. Saw a woman yesterday post a fat, balding, 50+ year old men. “Sub 5” men are posted all the time. If anything it’s proved to me women are not all dating the same guys, but no matter what a man looks like women are paranoid he’ll cheat if given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:02 AM
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100% I often see both men and women saying they’d like to get married and have children but cannot afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:17 PM
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the men who meet the 3 E's are the men who are NOT interested in marriage. You see them stringing along their girlfriends for years, dangling marriage like a carrot on a stick. These men don’t meet the “3 E’s” if they are stringing their girlfriends along for years. A man who is actually emotionally intelligent would clearly communicate that he is uninterested in marriage from the jump and not take interest in a relationship that has a massive incompatibility. This hasn’t been my experience in g…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:12 PM
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Are you blind? This happens every single time women make generalizations about men on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 07:41 PM
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Man with ability but no resources currently My husband worked low paying kitchen jobs during our early years, he’s now a successful software engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:48 PM
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Of course As long as they have other ambitions, hobbies and skills I really don’t care if they don’t work a 9-5
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:15 PM
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Agreed but as a woman formally diagnosed with ADHD it’s incredibly silly to say “since when do women have ADHD” and you should probably just edit your post
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:01 PM
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> so many men get off reddit and wizchan for a few days and you’ll realize most men don’t feel the same way you do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:15 PM
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Wouldn’t this already be happening on mass scale in destitute 3rd world countries? You actually see the exact opposite, the family unit is much stronger than it is in the west and dirt poor men have wives and 5+ kids Just because you and other men are incapable of finding a partner or getting laid does not mean a majority of average men are in the same boat as you. Sure they’re not fucking a new 9/10 woman every weekend, but they’re also not destined for a sexless, loveless life unless they opt …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:10 PM
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wow piping hot schizo shit post this morning, how refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:10 PM
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If you choose to cheat instead of leave when unhappy/unsatisfied, you’re a person of low integrity, doesn’t matter if you’re a man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:55 AM
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Libido mismatch is 1000% a thing, which is probably the best example of sexual incompatibility It exists and it isn’t just a tool men use in order to pressure women into sex quicker Open communication doesn’t eliminate the fact that there are lots of people in this world that wouldn’t be sexually compatible, even if they are attracted to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:53 AM
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If they have a pattern of only dating these types, again and again and again….then yeah, they are. Same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:25 PM
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It’s hilarious you think that men only cheat when they’re stuck in dead bedrooms or with a bitchy wife
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:24 AM
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This would work as an argument if a majority of men who cheated came from dead bedrooms, but they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:59 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:57 PM
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People who cheat are people of low self worth, low moral character and 0 integrity. They are unable to really care if it’s detrimental to themselves because they usually find any way of coping and rationalizing their harmful choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:54 PM
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Dating apps are an entirely different game that only 20-30% (a generous statistic btw) of the US population is currently playing Dating apps would have proved what you stated if they were set up in a way that was actually favorable for creating relationships, but they aren’t, they’re set up in a way so their main user base (men) keeps coming back. If relationships and marriage, the end goal for a majority of these users on said apps, are not proof of “genuine attraction” or love, then what actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 03:30 PM
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A majority of men are not desperate. This is just cope that actually desperate men tell themselves to feel like everyone is struggling as much as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:44 PM
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Only circle glasses wearing millennials use the term karen in a serious way, you fit right in on reddit.com I’m sorry not everyone wants to participate in a 12 man polycule or believes that monogamy is an antiquated relationship model, but that doesn’t mean the site isn’t full of liberal atheists lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:18 PM
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Yeah when you decide to live in NYC or Silicon Valley you’re going to need more than 1 income
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:48 PM
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A lot of families. More than half the people who claim it’s impossible to live comfortably off of one income are people simply living in extremely HCOL areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:03 AM
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Exactly. The ones who end up bitching were either cheated on or not actually traditional to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:58 AM
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And how much is that labour worth? How much does a cook earn in a year? How much does a cleaner earn in a year? How much does a nanny earn in a year? My guess is much less than $600,000 a year: Personal chef makes anywhere from 40k-90k, professional cleaners make about 40k, surrogacy costs about 100k-150k, and a nanny earns about 50k-70k. The case you outlined is not the norm, I mean only 10% of divorces end with alimony payments, despite the fact that much more than 10% of marriages often invol…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:55 AM
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It’s probably just this, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:35 PM
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People change, their values change and it’s reflected in their actions I can understand the feeling that she’s settling if you were on date with Bonnie Blu and she says something like “I don’t fuck on the first date 😃” But you’re most likely not dealing with someone like Bonnie Blue, you’re probably dealing with a girl who has slept with a handful of men quickly and now doesn’t want to operate that way anymore for whatever reason and you’re taking it as a strong tell that she isn’t sexually inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:26 PM
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This is not a super common thing that happens to normal, average girls
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:44 PM
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I don’t have an aversion to sex though, which is what your disclaimer in your very first sentence is saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:30 PM
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Of course It’s exactly why promiscuous women and promiscuous men make such a great match.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:28 PM
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What are the rawest aspects of our nature, women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:23 PM
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Yes, multiple times a day, every day. I have young kids so at the moment it’s usually 1-2 times a day :/ morning and night.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:55 PM
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“Women should have sexual autonomy…..NO NOT LIKE THAT” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:07 PM
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If women learned and accepted male nature, you'll realise that males are males no matter what circumstances you become intimate with them in. If it’s naive of me to believe not all men are at the mercy of their primal urges, I’m okay with that, but you should know you sound exactly like all the misogynistic men here constantly whining about how “all women” behave. Most women with a brain understand that LTRs/Marriages often fail, their partners can eventually become abusive or cheat, etc My ex e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:03 PM
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It’s funny because they don’t see they are just the other side of the same coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:17 PM
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When did I say casual sex = giving my body away? Obviously my body is mine and always will be mine no matter what activities I engage in. I also don’t invite random strangers off the street into my house to share a meal that I made, do I have shame around my cooking/food because that experience sounds unpleasant to me? Eating good food is a pleasurable experience so I should want to do it with everyone, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:11 PM
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Just because I have no desire to jump into bed with a man I barely know does not mean I carry any sort of shame around my sexuality. I have an extremely high libido and I love sex. The idea of someone I do not have any sort of emotional connection with getting access to my body in that way is repulsive to me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:50 PM
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50/50 is basically impossible if the couple chooses to have children. The 50/50 dynamic should be left for childless couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:29 PM
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There is no real benefit to getting married as a women. You will most likely end up doing the vast majority of cooking, cleaning, childrearing while the husband games or relaxes. AND you're supposed to hold down a full time job. This only happens if you marry an asshole. While people do hide their worst traits early on in relationships, you can usually see some red flags that can be an indicator that a man will end up behaving like this down the road. It’s important you date for at least 3 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:25 PM
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No a manwhore is incapable of successful, longterm monogamous relationships, typically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:11 PM
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Chaste women don’t engage in hook up culture You have no idea what they’re doing with their husbands or LTRs lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 11:36 PM
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Can’t turn a manwhore into a husband, most women over 25 know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 11:29 PM
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This all comes down to what you value, which is not new information. Not all men aspire to be the town pogo stick though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:57 PM
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Feminists are not the only people who are uncomfortable with the age gap you specified
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:58 AM
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Women who have good experiences with casual sex are women who genuinely enjoy sex with strangers, their values and their actions are in alignment. Women who have bad experiences with casual sex are women who don’t enjoy sex with strangers but for whatever reason choose to engage in said behavior. (using it in hopes of entering relationship, following the crowd, etc) their values and their actions are misaligned. It’s really that simple. I’ve never engaged in casual sex because I value sexual int…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:52 AM
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> I’m 30 years old > it’s too late for me ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:41 AM
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I would say half of this subreddit is dating with the intention of eventually finding someone to marry and have children with. Not everyone is just in it to casually date and fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:37 AM
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I could ask you the same question Don’t get me wrong, the scenario you’ve outlined in your comment does happen, but it’s actually sort of insane to think this is a scenario that a majority of women/men are in
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:46 PM
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This does happen, but once again, it isn’t the norm (what happens to a majority of women/men) “Gigachad being the only one able to fuck, betabuxx gets the leftovers” narrative is typically just cope sub5 looks and/or personality men tell themselves to feel less bad about being unable to get laid or find romantic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:40 PM
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Some women do, some women don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:26 PM
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This isn’t the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:25 PM
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I’ve never postponed sex as some sort of test, I’ve postponed sex because I believe it to be an incredibly intimate and “sacred” act, and at the very least I’d like to be emotionally bonded with the person I share that part of myself with. I’ve only had sex with 2 people and both of them I was friends + romantic interest beforehand for a few months/few years Luckily this worked out for me both times, my ex was extremely experienced and my husband was a virgin, but I was so attracted to my husban…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:07 PM
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You see extremely overweight women with slim/fit men on a regular basis? I might see that a few times a year More often than not, couples are matching in looks. I think people are just more critical of the gender they are sexually attracted to (tho women are much more prone to this behavior)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:04 PM
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I only see these women with men that match them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 07:49 PM
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100% agree that men have it harder simply because of how that dating game is set up, that’s undeniable. I disagree that women can find the right man like that 🫰 though. There are so many shitty people on this planet, and just because more of those shitty people are throwing themselves does not mean you’ll find the right man so easily. Women NEED to be more selective, especially if they plan on having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 04:33 PM
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Men and women are completely different, and never will be the same, I 100% agree Men and women need each other. It comes off as self hatred when you put down yourself in the equation just because a man’s role in society looks different than a woman’s. Luckily not all women are just working in HR, a lot of them are doing what comes more naturally to them than the average man; working as nurses, teachers and raising children. Working with the vulnerable in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:36 PM
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This is such a fucking redundant, meaningless debate. All it devolves into is school yard jabs at the other gender, men and women both wholeheartedly insisting that no it’s actually the other gender that is boring by default. And the people who are actually boring and have copy pasted personalities aren’t going to realize it. If you detest the opposite sex so much, just hire a prostitute occasionally and hang out with your bros/girls for the rest of your life. I promise it’ll be better than forc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:20 PM
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Maybe I give men’s sexuality too much credit, but I don’t think it’s inherent for men to look at porn, pornography is simply feeding off of men’s nature to seek out sex. Men who become dependent on porn often escalate their usage into more and more taboo genres that they actually have no interest in in real life It’s a corruption and distortion of something that is natural to men, and average men are victims of the porn industry. (as are women, but in a completely different way)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:58 PM
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Traditional housewives are expected to bear children, raise them, feed the family and care for the home. Modern housewives are a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:38 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:57 PM
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INFP :/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:30 AM
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Your girl is probably going to respond with something like, “Sooo you’re saying I’m a rooster?? OMG, I can’t believe you’re calling me a chicken! So I’m just an ugly little rooster, right? And I have a chicken brain, huh?!” I know this is just an example, but your girlfriend is either a moron or blatantly manipulating you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:01 AM
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Hanging out with my best friend, raising our kids, shared hobbies, experiencing life, exploring the world and growing together, good frequent sex, loyalty and devotion. Luckily I get all these things from my marriage, very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:40 PM
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He does? He works 9-3, 5 days a week from home and has an hour paid lunch break. He just told me he’s taking our kids to the park actually, right after he got off work. Why is it one or the other lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:36 PM
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When did I say had no other choice? I could pursue a career and outsource childcare and eventually send them to public school as well (probably will when they’re high school aged), but both me and my husband don’t want that. I get to spend time with my favorite people yes, a lot of mothers/fathers don’t get that luxury because they need 2 incomes. and of course if something happened and our situation changed, I would do that, but that isn’t the case currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:28 PM
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Lol it was simple math, the only reason it was brought up was because the person I was replying to is acting as if my husband is in some sort scenario he doesn’t like or he think’s is unfair, which isn’t the case. Oh nature 100% burdens us in different ways, I would never argue against that I appreciate everything my husband does for me and our family, I always make sure to show him that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:14 PM
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Luckily for him he works, in his words, a “cushy remote job” and has plenty of time with our children, we’re very blessed. He also thinks it’s a fair trade since he hasn’t had to spend 810 days pregnant (so far) and 1,460 days exclusively breastfeeding (so far)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:57 PM
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Yes I do and yeah I could, but it would mean a lot less time with my kids and outsourcing childcare which seems pointless and expensive since my husband makes more than enough for me to stay home with the kids and for us to still live comfortably
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:42 PM
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no ambition Yeah it’s not like I can be ambitious in any other way at all, working a corporate job is quite literally the only way of being ambitious You have no idea what other hobbies or intellectual pursuits I do in my day to day life, but clearly they would only count if I’m on a pay roll lol dont value your independence I spent a majority of my life being independent from a very young age. I have plenty of savings in my name, that continues to grow. I’m just fine in the department too (:
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:33 PM
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Aren’t women more likely to end up as stay-at-home once the kids are popped out? Is it worth losing employability if this happens? Wow how terrible…I get to spend my days with my favorite people in the world instead of working in HR in some random office with coworkers I don’t like, not like I can do that when I’m 38 when my kids need me less A lot of people don’t want children and they shouldn’t have them, but if you actually want them and are able to find a man who is loving, values who you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:58 PM
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Is this really a question that you need to ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:34 PM
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That’s just “trad” influencers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:10 AM
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Look I think Lauren Sanchez looks scary due to all the work she’s had done, but it’s a bit of a leap to jump to the conclusion that he isn’t attracted to his new wife at all lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:44 PM
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black pill brain worms
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:20 PM
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I agree, it doesn’t make you misogynistic, it would only be misogyny if this treatment was rooted in a hatred for women It does make you a shitty person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:32 PM
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Lol no, not in the slightest. I was still living at home in extremely toxic and abusive household when I first began dating my husband in high school (both 16 y/o), and my mental state and environment is a big reason why we dated off and on for a few years before we finally stayed together for good. I think the advice that you should be healed before finding love is generally good though. Not that you shouldn’t commit and accept it if love happens to find you during a dark time in your life, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:02 AM
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If ChatGPT says so then it must be true!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 05:15 PM
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How often do you think a scenario like this happens…. Have you been in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:43 PM
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Are you straight? I find it so bizarre when straight/bisexual women say they find all men unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:43 AM
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? She has grown children, I’m sure they’ll inherit her home if she owns it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:56 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:35 PM
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wake up babe! new glowupgirl111 bait post just dropped :3
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:16 PM
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The only man I’ve ever experienced primal lust with is my husband. (Only been with 2 men in my life) With my ex I thought I had no libido, with my husband….well we are in a “free use” marriage lol. He checks all my boxes physically and emotionally. I’ve known him since we were 12 so it’s been interesting to be able to experience some many different levels of attraction with him over the years, as we’re both 28 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:21 AM
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It’s a well known fact how much MOST men hate makeup and plastic surgery on women. Most men cannot tell the difference between natural vs unnatural. Most men can only tell if the woman is wearing an excessive amount or if she had a botched BBL/breast augmentation. If it looks good and isn’t cartoonish, a lot of men either don’t care or actually believe it’s natural, and most likely would pick the woman who’s had some subtle work done with great “assets” over the natural woman who has a flat ass/…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:58 PM
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It doesn’t, people are just stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:00 PM
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If it’s meant to disappear, let it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:09 PM
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How predictable. Denying that women could ever be bad and pinning it all on men. Where? Where did I say this? Women can be horrible monsters. Men can be victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 03:18 PM
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You don’t remember Elliot Rodger? Sorry he didn’t shoot up a grocery store, he shot up a college campus. Killed 6 people, the murders he committed, his suicide and his manifesto centered around his inability to find a girlfriend. Where on earth am I saying I’m a victim or even that all women are victims? I’m the one saying there are lots of unviable whiny women, along with men. You on the other hand claim that all women are this way, none are viable while there are LOTS of viable men, there just…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 03:14 PM
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Happy marriages do not come from ultimatums.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:27 PM
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It means that you can push a man's buttons to pressure him to marry you and give you kids. Lol if you need to do this, you’re playing a losing game. If a man doesn’t want to marry you and have kids with you enthusiastically and of his own volition, you probably shouldn’t be marrying him and having kids with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:26 PM
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The only people I’ve ever seen devalue and mock male sexual assault is other men and boomer women. Nonconsensual sex is the same whether the victim is a woman or a man. One is more prevalent than the other but that’s beside the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 03:52 AM
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Idk while I agree there are loud/whiny women, you don’t see any women shooting up supermarkets because they’re unable to find a husband. but I digress, I think you’re falling into the same mindset that women do when they shout “there are no good men left!1!!” It’s a preposterous statement for them to make, and the inverse is just as asinine. There’s a plethora of viable men and viable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:59 PM
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I was referring to the offspring part when I mentioned that, but that was unclear in how I phrased it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:51 PM
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Yeah and those people should stick to 50/50 relationships. Which I’m sure most probably want to. It’s ridiculous to expect a man to uphold the traditional role of “providing and protecting” when they aren’t willing to be in a traditional role themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:54 PM
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Men and women are different, and have different things to offer one another. Imo men and women are meant to have a mutualistic symbiotic relationship, not a totally equal in every single aspect reciprocal relationship. In this day and age more and more people are getting on board with 50/50 relationships, not having children, etc. So there’s someone out there for everyone if that’s your jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:51 PM
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That’s the thing, at higher and higher rates unfit women and unfit men are not reproducing (specifically in western society) At this point, there are as many unviable men as there are women. Women are just less loud in the tantrums they’re throwing about being unable to find a husband when it happens, and also men are more willing to seek out unviable women to mate with because they fear loneliness and not reproducing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:45 PM
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In exchange for loyalty, attention, intimacy, companionship and the big one, offspring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:30 PM
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It’s good for the next generation as well, if the men women are choosing actually have the traits OP stated (many of them don’t tho)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:29 PM
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Would men also be getting pregnant, giving birth and raising children in this scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:53 PM
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There’s really only one way a guy can come off as genuinely creepy to me if I’ve never met him and he’s just cold approaching me And that’s excessive staring. One time I was on the city bus and this guy literally stared at me, for 15+ minutes (I started timing it after 5). Quick nervous glances here and there are fine and can even be endearing, but this made me incredibly uncomfortable. Just uninterrupted staring, not smiling, just an unreadable expression. He eventually tried to sit next to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:05 PM
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Sex workers have sex for money, no amount of mental gymnastics can equate actual emotional intimacy, loyalty and love to something as transactional as the exchange of money for a service Maybe if women genuinely did not like their partners or if they hated sex and only stuck around for the provisions and protection, but this typically isn’t the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:44 AM
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Typically not talking about the dick itself but how he uses it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:02 AM
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Maturity level varies much more at 25 than say 21. By 25 I had a child, had a steady job for years, had been living on my own since 17, etc etc Ofc all these situations are case by case, but I don’t think we should infantilize grown adults. 25 is not fresh out of high school. No matter what age you are you’re still growing and maturing, but I’m not going to look side ways at a 25 year old choosing to date an old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 03:41 AM
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Yeah that’s fine. Those people are dumb. They’re an adult, and have been for over half a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:54 AM
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Honestly large age gap relationships are only unusual/unsettling to me if one of them is under 25
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:43 AM
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Agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:10 PM
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As as a trad SAHM, no it’s not the hardest job in the world and it feels like you’re saying that in order to garner a negative response from people Don’t get me wrong, it’s incredibly taxing emotionally and physically (the pregnancy and breastfeeding) and can be super isolating especially if you multiple children and/or you have no help But it definitely gets easier over the years as the children age and become more independent It is harder than being a button pusher, says my software engineer h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:32 AM
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The only women here I’ve seen say this sort of thing are the women also making 100k+ themselves I should have specified I do recognize the “he must be over 6ft tall” standard is very real, even though I know plenty of popular men under 6ft.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 01:52 AM
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This is 100% how insecure women behave, my brothers ex did this shit constantly, was infuriating to witness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:06 PM
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I’m just curious, why do you think this is good? It’s one thing to understand and acknowledge that attractive people will always exist even after you enter a monogamous relationship, it’s another thing to act on it (flirt)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 04:52 PM
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Since I’ve never really casually dated, the 3-4 weeks into our relationship would already be pretty deep for me (i.e we were friends for much longer than that) and I would already be in deep “limerence” for my SO So no, I would not pursue the new guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 03:57 PM
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Yeah the women spending their lives in clubs getting wasted and taking 20 selfies a day for external validation from random strangers are the honest women of the world and all women are secretly like them. They just affirm your pessimistic view on the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 03:54 PM
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Do you get flustered when talking to him? Do you feel any physical attraction towards him at all, even though you have a boyfriend? And if he flirts with you, would you feel flattered and flirt back a little bit? I typically have an automatic thought like “oh he looks nice” but that’s about the end of it. No flustered feelings. If he flirts with me I immediately shut him down and let him know I’m uninterested and I have a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:53 PM
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Men say this all the time but the only women I’ve ever seen saying shit like this are the OF girls that go on manosphere podcasts and girls outside clubs in Miami/LA/NYC that get caught in a drunk interview with some random tiktoker. Your average girl down the road in your small town typically does not have these wildly unrealistic expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:48 PM
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Check out r/loveafterporn while your at it and see it’s not just men in dead bedrooms becoming porn addicts lol It’s a boomer take at this point to believe that. Porn is destroying an entire generation of young men who have been exposed to it since the 3rd grade. These men are victims and their spouses are paying the price.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:21 PM
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In what warped world does average mean those things. You’ve changed the definition of average to fit your incredibly pessimistic view on the world and the people around you. Bottom of the barrel is bottom of the barrel, average is the people in your grocery stores, the people sitting beside you in traffic, your coworkers. These are just normal people, who aren’t famous, rich or remarkably intelligent I gotta ask, how is this working out for you? Being incredibly pessimistic and thinking everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:13 PM
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I gotta ask what was the last con you went to if that’s really what you think
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:33 PM
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This dude specifically is a lost cause, there absolutely no point in reasoning with him because once you get into an actual discussion he stops replying He just projects his hatred onto women and claim they feel the same way towards him. Most men are average and most women believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:24 PM
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The men who feel this way don’t value sex on a sacred or truly intimate level, similar to the “ran through” girls. They think it’s some sort of contest or skill. Something fun to do and only the best players get to do it. Tbh I personally think it’s all cope and even though it’s more difficult for men to obtain sex, it’s just as damaging to be debauched and excessively promiscuous for them as it is for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 12:51 AM
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Healing and finding themselves? I haven’t met many women who feels this way, but the ones I do know just really don’t think sex is something sacred or to be held in a high regard It’s just a fun, casual activity to do with people who spark their interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:57 PM
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That’s true, my brother is one of those losers His girlfriend is obsessed with him too, she also is a legitimate psychopath who threatens to kill him, his cat and take his kid away from him anytime he glances at another woman She also isn’t that physically attractive either. You can definitely be a loser and find some desperate, mentally unstable, insecure girl to be obsessed with you but she won’t be some hot manic pixie dream girl. (depending on your age)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:11 PM
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You have to be someone worth obsessing over.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:03 PM
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I essentially do all the cleaning My husband has never ever complained about my cleaning. Even when I’ve slacked on it for a few days for whatever reason. If he had an issue with how the house looked he would just do it himself, his words.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:25 PM
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If one woman chose you, there’s bound to be another that will also choose you And if you value/prioritize being in a relationship (even with a POS) at all costs over not being single, that’s on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:36 PM
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In a casual dating setting, spouting off about requiring princess treatment shows a lack of decorum I mean imagine a man saying he requires king treatment or it’s a no go, it’s a bad first impression Other than that though it’s silly when men apply this to LTRs and get bent out of shape about it, you should want to treat your partner like a “princess” and she should want to treat you like a “king”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:27 PM
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Also, what do guys get for treating a woman like royalty? Spoiler: The answer isn't "Get treated like royalty in return." Choose better women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:22 PM
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Young women don't want relationships older post wall women and single moms looking for a beta cuck simp daddy do This is so detached from reality it’s fucking hilarious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:09 PM
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Another one bites the dust
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 07:35 PM
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Unfortunately this is becoming increasingly common behavior among men AND women Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too. Luckily there are still plenty of traditional men who actually understand they need to live up to certain standards in order to secure a traditional relationship, and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 05:17 PM
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These groups of women typically don’t overlap, the women buying male strippers for parties are usually the “me and my bf check out girls together!1!1!” type And the women who do put down men for using porn and OF while simultaneously engaging with male strippers are hypocrites, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:39 PM
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I think a few people are happy alone but not many, having some form of romantic companionship is always best case scenario….until it isn’t (abusive/toxic relationship, misaligned values, incompatible personalities etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:29 PM
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Buddhist enlightenment? More like simple mindfulness practices. I’m not saying negative feelings around attachment will go away completely, we’re all going to experience shitty things in life and feel shitty things because of it. How far we go with those feelings and for how long is within our control typically. How much we allow those feelings (fear) to impact us on a day to day level is well within most people’s control, if they have an ounce of agency, accountability and self awareness. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:24 PM
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That’s life and the sooner you accept it and don’t allow fear to seep its way into every aspect of your decision making process, the better off you will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 01:02 PM
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Why bother being in one then? Because you genuinely enjoy the person you’re dating/married to and you add value to each other’s lives? Understanding that literally everything in this life is temporary is important. I could die tomorrow and my husband would be left without a wife, does that mean he should have never married me?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:59 PM
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My husband is a software engineer that primarily works remote. He’s extremely masculine. Very athletic, confident, and competent. A wonderful provider for our family and an incredible leader…him working from home does not change that lol The people telling you, you aren’t working a proper job are most likely just jealous of your position in life. Who wouldn’t choose to make fantastic money without leaving their home?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 05:15 AM
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I hope all cheaters get handed divorce papers 3x faster than the normal speed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:05 AM
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Met my husband in middle school
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:59 PM
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A large portion of Latino immigrants are sending back money and providing for families they don’t even get to see It’s the 2nd gen latinos more prone to the behavior you stated. (I say as a 2nd gen latina lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:22 PM
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men still at least have a chance past 35 a chance at what? there are plenty of attractive 35+ women who have success at dating, as long as they take care of themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:50 AM
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And no, the vast majority of men don’t “abandon” women & their kids. It isn’t statistically accurate: 80% of divorces are filed by women. I know 5 single mothers, none of them were ever married in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:30 AM
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At least you’re consistent there
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:10 AM
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Do you believe that forced military conscription is immoral?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:48 PM
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Compare that to how men with any “nerdy” interest, be it sci-fi, gaming, or anything else is seen…as a loser nerd. As someone who has been apart of these communities since I was a kid, I hate to break it to you, it’s not 2007 anymore. There was in a time in my life I had to actively hide such interests because of bullying. These days most nerdy interests are incredibly mainstream. NEETs, which are more often than not, apart of these nerdy subcultures, still get shit on but I think it’s obvious w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:56 PM
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You’d never make me believe that a woman would willingly choose a nerdy interest or even a career in tech or engineering without having an angle. The mentality of a literal middle school boy. I’m shocked you can say this so confidently without feeling mentally handicapped. I’ve loved anime and video games since I was 7, back when anime was still considered niche, cringey and uncool. I actively hid my interest in it for years due to being bullied for it. What sort of ulterior motive did 7 year ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:49 PM
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Babies getting made to be raised by unwillingly and unhappy mother’s on such a large scale is a recipe for disaster The nuclear family needs to be spiritually and emotionally aligned in order to be strong and it cannot be artificially created through force.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:14 PM
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I agree men aren’t stupid They would eventually realize a forced wife would not be meaningful either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:56 PM
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53% of the male population in the US is married (so not even including LTRs) Are every single one of them chads and/or rich?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:52 PM
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Ew, she’s gross. You should have called her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:12 PM
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who is literally expressing his deepest thoughts right off the bat to your face Where did I mention that? Unfortunately in some of the communities I’m apart of, bad body odor is common (anime conventions) so it really doesn’t seem like a very outlandish example to me These people struggle to make connections with others, even when they have things in common, because it’s unpleasant to be around them When people are meeting for the first time they are subconsciously looking for points of connecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:10 PM
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This is how a large majority of human interactions that lead into friendship or romantic relationships go If someone smells bad and dresses in an extremely outlandish way, even though these are superficial characteristics, they’re going to struggle to make friends or attract romantic partners Can you really blame someone for not wanting to befriend/date someone who smells like shit? Or are they asking you to be a commodity?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:01 PM
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Whenever I see posts about AI girlfriends and sex robots, these are the men that I think will greatly benefit from it and in turn society will too Imagine believing you are owed sexual intimacy from strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:32 PM
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Average women are dating and sleeping with average men. If you are incapable of finding a sexual/romantic partner, that’s unfortunate but life isn’t always pleasant or fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:28 PM
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This is said about women who criticize the behavior of men as well I don’t think it’s very surprising people who make sweeping generalizations about the opposite sex are often labeled as someone who hates men/women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:35 PM
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I think in casual dating, this behavior could feel like too much too soon depending on how long they’ve been interacting In a long term relationship this behavior is ideal for securely attached people My husband is incredibly nurturing towards me, and he’s the most effortlessly dominant man I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:26 PM
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*unhealthy/insecure women The same way unhealthy and insecure men cling to BPD psycho chicks just because they’re attractive Luckily not everyone is unhealthy or insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:20 PM
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Women like when men they’re already sexually attracted do nice things for them, what a shocking revolution, it must be a lie lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:36 PM
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I would imagine this behavior would make an avoidant crawl out of their skin
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:33 PM
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Damn 50-55 seems old, what do you think of men who claim to be family oriented and not looking to play the field? Do you believe they’re lying or just a minority?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 11:17 PM
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100% Before I was with my husband I was with one other man, who groomed me and was later on extremely abusive. His body count was in the 10-15 range so he had experience with women. We were together for years and I struggled to get wet with him, eventually I would during the act but never anything substantial. Because I had been with no other men I literally thought something was wrong with me. When I first slept with my husband he was a virgin, so 0 experience and it showed. Just us making out …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:13 PM
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As a man, your partner is always a measure of your social worth and youth/beauty are among the most valuable things a woman can bring to the table. Does this idea extend to men who have been married for many years?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:56 PM
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Tbf no one said anything about getting baddies
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:43 PM
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Only people who don’t actually know virgin women say this Some do want men with a bit of experience, but definitely a not a promiscuous man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 08:18 PM
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I gotta ask because I’m genuinely curious; does she know you perceive her as old, ugly or fat? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:17 PM
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The urge to troll and call every man who said yes a liar and say they’re just virtue signaling is strong but I’ll refrain They would probably take me seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:15 PM
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I’ve been blessed with some incredible men in my life, men that I’ve seen move mountains to achieve their goals. Competent, loyal, fair and emotionally sound. Good men are irreplaceable in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 12:15 AM
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> disrespectfully larps as god to put down his fellow man > gets offended when person he’s insulting doesn’t believe in god pick a side, man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 12:03 AM
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Yes, going off your description I would consider him a good “feminist”. I would think he’s a hypocrite for having a high body count and wanting a low body count woman, but that does not detract from him being a good feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:34 PM
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The way men neuter themselves and their fellow man, and then in turn project this onto every woman (and man) around them is fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 11:06 AM
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Everyone who disagrees with me is a liar….classic ppd cope :3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:22 AM
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Yeah overall I agree, but just like women often times have unrealistic preferences, so do men. The older they get, their preference for younger women gets categorized as unrealistic to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:02 AM
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Yeah and your accusation is retarded and based purely from your emotions (great username btw) Believe it or not my husband struggled with girls and was a virgin when we first slept together, I would take a virgin over a promiscuous man any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:17 PM
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Oh ya Psykotyrant on reddit.com, I’m DEVASTATED you’ve seen through my facade )))))’:
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:13 PM
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So a man who is capable of getting laid regularly could never be classified as a loser to you? I would consider a man a loser if he has no life goals or ambition, no hobbies, and is extremely negative to the people around him. Plenty of men fit my description of a loser and still get laid. A man doesn’t automatically become a loser to me just because I don’t want to sleep with him, he’s just someone I don’t want to sleep with. A man can be successful in all other areas of life and not be success…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:10 PM
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Anytime someone says something that doesn’t align with your worldview you immediately jump to “they’re just lying” It’s a shitty cope
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:41 AM
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So in order to not think a man is a loser we need to want to have sex with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:34 AM
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I respect them, they act nothing like women, they aren’t women, why would I feel like they’re my girlfriends? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:26 AM
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> other guys You mean my husband? lol I’ve put men in the “friendzone” before, this isn’t that. Especially because these friends are internet friends, there’s no way we could have a sexual relationship to begin with We’re friends because of shared hobbies and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:23 AM
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No, I’m friends with a few “incels” If the man also has a really shitty attitude I’ll probably think they’re a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:57 AM
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4, not including myself because calling yourself a “gamer” feels cringy to me, but I do play video games through out the week when I have the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:22 AM
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Yeah I don’t know a single self proclaimed female gamer who only plays mobile games or Candy Crush Though I don’t know anyone under the age of 35 who still plays Candy Crush either
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 12:09 AM
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When I worked a shitty job I was able to spend money the way I wanted to, and wasn’t berated for buying basic hygiene products OP is asking if he’s wrong for thinking there are no SAHM’s doing unpaid labor because they’re housed, clothed and have food; while it isn’t all SAHM’s, there are A LOT who are doing uncompensated labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:47 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 06:03 PM
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This is exactly why women should have more selection power if they plan on having children
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:48 PM
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You wouldn’t be wrong if the scenario that you outlined was the reality for every single SAHM, or even the majority I won’t go into details but I’ve been a SAHM for 2 different men, both scenarios vastly different from the other. With my husband it’s essentially the scenario you outlined in the post (minus all the luxury things and excessive grooming lol) He provides me with essentially everything I need and want. I feel very fairly compensated without being paid 80-100k a year or whatever other…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:32 PM
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I’m glad you acknowledged that age factors into to difficulty, because it definitely does Looking after 2 ten year olds? Easy. Looking after 2 two year olds? Rough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:08 PM
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Just yesterday I heard a woman say “all men are trash” so I stand by what I said Also, some men are trash, just like some women are too, but to say they’re ALL trash is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:25 PM
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Yes: weed once a month, 1000 miles away (temporarily), feminist, refuses to use marijuana, devout christian, very quiet, never kissed a girl, 5’5, wants 4 kids, farmer, autism, messy room, Trump, Harris, reincarnation, same first name No: porn 3x a week, SAHD, refuses to have kids, dislikes physical exercise, 5+ years younger, abortion, gay marriage, gang, police, gets drunk and hungover at least once a week, slept with 20+ people, sex offender, prostitute use
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:08 PM
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“A man is only as loyal as his options” (though I hear this more from men these days) “All men are trash” “Where are all the good men?” “Men are all misogynistic” (a lot of men here are, but PPD is not a great representation of the world) “All men are privileged”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 01:46 PM
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Just curious, have you ever had a female friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 01:39 PM
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A lot of men do measure up, most of the men here happen to be in the group that do not, unfortunately. Average men are perfectly capable of reproducing with average women. About 60% of all the men in the US end up fathering children, do you believe the majority of them are fuck boys and cheaters?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:12 AM
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They say that all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 01:59 AM
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Yeah 15 year old’s groomed by adults often make shitty decisions, luckily I eventually got some sense and escaped (: but I gotta say, I assume you wouldn’t have the same response to a man who was cheated on and “divorce raped” by a woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:29 PM
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So true, all men are magnificent and should be protected from the evil women ),: I’m sure if a woman spouted this sort of nonsense about men you would think she’s retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:42 PM
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Actually he’s my ex because he was physically abusive and a cheater but okay sure lets go with your idea lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:14 PM
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Exactly! You can typically tell the difference between a more masculine female and a more feminine man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:47 PM
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My ex was 5’7, skinny and could only grow a patchy beard, he did just fine with women. The lack of adam's apple and how androgynous she looks is why she doesn’t pass to me. Reminds me of every “butch” woman I’ve ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:45 PM
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Lol her alter ego “Ned” barely passes, I assume her lack of success in the dating field had more to do with the fact that she was a woman larping as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:12 PM
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Of course, I’m a human being who makes mistakes. I try to make sure to always volunteer apologies when I need to. I’m currently VERY pregnant and my god am I in pain + the hormones, it’s making me emotional and irritable and I’ve needed a lot of support from my husband these last few months I pretty much apologize every other night and thank him for his patience and kindness while I’m in this vulnerable state. Luckily never done anything crazy in my life like abuse or cheat, but there were momen…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:30 AM
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The core issue in men vs women is both sexes making blanket statements about the other, genuinely believing one sex is inherently morally virtuous/superior over the other, and that one sex has more value over the other. Your post is apart of the problem and perpetuates the “gender war”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:30 PM
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You’ve been blessed with some great men in your life then! My husband is one of the only men I’ve met 100% willing to take responsibility, then I have men in my life like my brother who would rather die than take any sort of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:23 PM
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To preface, I have 2 boys, 1 on the way, all uncircumcised. I’m 100% against MGM and speak out about when I can. This is a ludicrous statement though. A majority of MGM victims have a “normal sex life” and a lot of them will tell you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:50 AM
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Men still approach though. I get approached even when I’m out alone with my kids and or when I’m visibly pregnant. I’m definitely not an outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:22 PM
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Well said, so many better ways to see if you’re actually aligned in what you value and your life goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:07 PM
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It may be a fantasy to someone like you but it’s a reality to many others lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 01:22 PM
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I will always feel bad for people who aren’t married to their soulmate bestest friend in the whole wide world
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:52 AM
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If the woman is childless and able bodied, it would be odd to expect a man to completely financially support her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:55 PM
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Love giving but hate receiving. So no it wouldn’t be a good replacement for mediocre PiV sex/lacking package for me personally, I’m sure other women would feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:31 PM
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that’s bait
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:20 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:38 PM
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The “ick” is mostly exclusive to romantic interests/relationships, it’s odd to use it within the context of a platonic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:31 PM
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Any person who thinks this way will hopefully not reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:57 PM
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From what I’ve seen, if you don’t marry someone you consider your best friend, you end up in a cold and transactional marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:50 PM
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No, I definitely don’t think that. I’m a married, SAHM with 2 kids and currently pregnant with my third, younger than 30 Odd response lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:51 AM
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Everyone that disagrees with me is virtue signaling
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:58 AM
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Not always. I have an extremely high sex drive and I’m not outwardly promiscuous to men I find attractive. (when I was single)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 01:30 PM
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What’s undeniable is that everyone has a concept of their own value You’re right, and in the same vein, what people prioritize and value will vary from person to person. What you deem as valuable will not be valuable to the guy next door.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:53 PM
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How do you objectively measure value?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:47 PM
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Well I mean men ARE allowed to cheat and replace their wives with “better” women, they do it all the time. In western society, you’re not going to be thrown in jail because you cheated on your spouse. The idea of being a cheater is viewed as disgusting and morally reprehensible because it involves having to be a liar and engage in manipulation , 2 character traits that demonstrate one as being morally inept and unprincipled. If you choose to be that way then fine, but stop fucking crying about o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:20 PM
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Of course, why is that even a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:10 AM
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I should have put an /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:31 AM
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we will never be satiated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 12:18 AM
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With the people I know who have been involved in arranged marriages, no, it’s primarily the father who takes the lead
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:32 PM
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Because they’re afraid
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:30 PM
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Marriage is a risk? Wow did you also know water is wet? Rich men, “high value” men and the everyday guy are, for the most part, still getting married. Good for you for realizing it’s not for you though, a lot of people shouldn’t get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:39 PM
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Average age to lose your virginity is 17-19 worldwide apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:27 PM
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Nothing wrong with a man being a virgin, especially if it’s intentional. My husband was a virgin when we first began dating but tbf I took his virginity when we were 17, so he was young
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 05:46 PM
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At this point you should change your flair to penis pill
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:58 PM
1

It’s undeniable, this dude is obsessed with penis size, more so than a majority of women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:54 PM
3

Yeah, if the husband cannot provide for the family efficiently, they both should work
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:25 PM
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It’s not impressive, it shows a lack of sexual discipline and most low n count women will never seek out promiscuous men Promiscuous women love promiscuous men, as they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:52 PM
1

Wholeheartedly agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:43 PM
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While I agree that I’ve seen the example you’ve given of pick me’s comment on places like TikTok and Instagram, and I think those comments are disgusting, we really should not be encouraging women to be giving birth out of wedlock. If it happens, it happens, but let’s not aim for it. Of course a man can use and abuse you at anytime, ring or no ring, but if you’re a SAHM, you 100% should at the very least be married to the father of your children who is the sole financial provider. That way if he…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 12:21 PM
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If you have this many failed relationships, the problem is most likely you Whether it’s the women you’re choosing to engage with or some personality trait you have, the common denominator here is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:57 PM
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I’m tempted to make a post asking men why they think a majority of “low n” women are “low n” in the first place Because typically, it’s because we value sexual intimacy and romance to a certain degree that just does not align with casual dating/sex. Whether those values stem from being raised in a religious/traditional environment or otherwise, is mostly irrelevant. These low n women do not value things like money and looks above all else like so many men in this thread seem to believe because T…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:00 PM
3

I gotta ask; where did you get this information from? How many women and successful couples are you close with and what is the longest LTR you’ve had?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 10:51 AM
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Nothing really, I wish them well on their journey to get laid :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:20 AM
7

Women put up with cheaters typically because of the sunk-cost fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:12 AM
4

Oh the irony lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:08 AM
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Most “low n” women would not put up with a cheater, especially in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:43 AM
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Yeah, this is how the average men around me date, at least the ones that participate in online dating. None of them are FWB/casual dating super models, just other average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:47 PM
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My perception was skewed because I was surrounded by average looking guys who got laid at what I considered a normal rate It wasn’t until I became more active in online spaces did I realize a lot of guys struggle with finding sexual partners, not most but a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:14 PM
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Those don’t exist for a lot of people but then they’ll piss and cry when you call them a bad person lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:55 PM
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28F married to 28M. Met and became close friends in 6th grade (12 yrs old). Dated on and off in our teen years due to certain circumstances (primarily because of my abusive home life) been married since 2021 We’re each other’s best friends, we live a very happy and fun life together, currently am pregnant with our 3rd child, he’s sole financial provider and I’m a SAHM. I joined this subreddit because I was fascinated with the “gender war” topic and my single friends/family member’s complaints ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:12 PM
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If he can afford that and wants to live that way, he should do so. Ethical non monogamy is far better than being a cheater. A man would be retarded for settling for a woman he doesn’t like just to have sex on the shelf, especially if he can afford a prostitute. All I’m saying is some men actually find their wives attractive and are uninterested in casual sex, you seem to think that doesn’t happen at all, and imo that idea is sexist towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:31 PM
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You didn’t answer my question and of course a lot of people don’t end up with their first choice, that isn’t a shocking revelation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:19 PM
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Are you implying that if all men do/did have the options to cheat on their wives or just endlessly engage in casual/non-monogamous sex, they always would?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:15 PM
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soulless mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:37 PM
9

Believe it or not, not all men cheat or are even willing to sleep with sex workers while they’re single A lot of them do, but not all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:35 PM
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Yeah I’ve only heard men label other men as simps
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:31 PM
6

Were you also eating a burger? She probably wanted a bite
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:28 PM
0

Most people are able to figure out real traditionalists wouldn’t be willing to use any form of transhumanism, so your jab is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:27 PM
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The way you fall for rage bait like this is hilarious and sad If you can’t recognize 95% of women wouldn’t be willing to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on making designer babies is a clear sign you are a lost man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:17 PM
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Your friends are weird, and rich if they’re choosing to go through with IVF for something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:09 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:34 AM
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I have never met or even heard of a single woman hating some random man because he uses pornography in private I’m fairly anti porn these days but I don’t hate the viewer. If anything I think the viewer is a victim in their own way. thanks to porn they could end their "enslavement by women" These men are still “enslaved” btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:33 AM
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Completely disagree, there are just as many bad men as there are bad women. Being a bad person is not a gender specific issue. Just because women are far less prone to physical violence does not mean they don’t do evil things in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:25 PM
3

Yes. Asshole men and women will always exist, the only thing you can actually do about it is not associate with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 02:03 PM
2

I never say no to my husband but I would if I was in some sort of extreme pain or stomach sick but both those instances are rare and he just doesn’t ask if that’s apparent. Even if I’m not really in the mood I won’t say no. I have said no to many other men who have came on to me when I was younger and single. Simply because I have never had interest in engaging in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:03 PM
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Some women are just sooo stressed out after they give birth and their minds can't handle it! So they go whoopsies, I just bashed my baby against the floor until it died! It's not murder! Sure they brutally killed their own child, but give them a break!" Lol is that what you think postpartum psychosis is? The inability to handle stress? Next you’re going to tell me schizophrenia is self induced and fake too, right? (No I don’t excuse the actions of these women but holy shit, learn about it before…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:40 AM
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I’ve actively spoken out against forced military conscription many, many times, I’m extremely anti war because of all the innocent men used as cannon fodder. You shouldn’t assume what I do and don’t care about. These wars and laws of forced military conscription are created by richer and more powerful men, not women. > It’s so blatantly obvious you people care more about some woman somewhere can’t study at university somewhere Girls in countries like Afghanistan have no access to any form of edu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:30 AM
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If the woman is actually interested in the man, no her first instinct would not be to defend his past partner lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:12 AM
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I see men make jokes about “roast beef” pussy just as much as women talk about small dicks. Both are extremely crude remarks so I don’t speak that way or really associate with people who do. But this is just kind of silly. Women aren’t even allowed to speak in public in Afghanistan and your upset that some dumb college girls say “small dick energy”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:09 AM
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How I would define a man of high value; Emotionally intelligent, competent, loyal, kind, confident, strong leader, actively pursues and achieves his goals, family oriented. “High value men” typically don’t describe themselves as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:58 PM
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Yeah it’s actually depressing and I feel bad for OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:09 PM
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If I wanted to go deep sea diving and needed advice on how to go about it, I would ask someone who’s had a lot experience going deep sea diving I would not ask the guy who’s just watched a whole bunch of documentaries on deep sea expedition. I would hope the guy who’s only watched videos of an experience would also have the ability to understand that their perception on the topic is extremely limited in comparison to someone who’s actually done it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:07 PM
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Yeah that was jarring to read, there are a lot of couples who are only together in a poor attempt to keep loneliness away, but 99% of them? Completely out of touch with reality. Especially when you consider OP openly admits he’s never even been in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:41 PM
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Women do not want to hook up Lol are you sure? Plenty of women choose to engage in casual relationships. How many women are you close with? Not every woman’s end goal is to be married with kids. I’m Gen Z, the primary reason my generation is having less sex is because of overall social isolation. The reality is men do care but men also want casual sex Believe it or not, so do a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 06:07 PM
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Where do you live that you actually believe promiscuity isn’t normalized? It is certainly normalized in the west. By the end of high school most of the people in my social circle had a body count of over 5-10, I was the odd one out. They aren’t exceptions to the rule, the reality is at the end of the day, most men don’t give a shit unless her number is hitting triple digits.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:23 PM
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You didn’t, but it’s a reality that more often than not, 10/10 people have higher body counts, especially in today’s society where promiscuity is normalized and sometimes celebrated. The opinions on promiscuous women struggling to find partners later on in life does not affect me in anyway, I am in the opposite situation. I just recognize this scenario is not as prevalent as the red and black pillers like to make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:09 PM
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If most 10/10 women have a body count higher than 10, the men with many options will still have to pick through women who have higher body counts. I assume once every woman you’re engaging with has a higher body count it becomes relative The young virgin women of the world aren’t the type to be bought out, so the man will have to rely on something other than wealth and looks in order to secure those types of women. This isn’t a revenge fantasy, this sounds like cope coming from you What am I cop…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 02:35 PM
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As someone who personally looks down upon promiscuity, this is nothing but a revenge fantasy used to cope with the reality that some people were born with a better hand than you. Any man or woman who is actually 10/10 will have no issue finding long term partners, no matter how many bodies they’ve accumulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 12:46 PM
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If it’s a mid-low paying job her entire paycheck will be going to the childcare you’re outsourcing to strangers. Set ups like this can very rarely be truly 50/50, the woman will always inevitably end up doing more labor if she is bearing/raising children while also expected to work outside the home. It’s a big reason why more and more women are picking one or the other, continuing their career or children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:45 PM
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It seems easier not to have children at all, just to avoid going through that especially if men tend to reject single moms. Every single mother I know is now currently dating/engaged/remarried. I’ve never seen single mothers genuinely struggle to find partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:09 PM
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Do you think traditional, family oriented husband’s ignore their children 24/7 and never engage with them? lol The fake ones like to believe their job ends at bringing home a paycheck, but genuinely traditional men understand that their role as an engaging father, while more limited compared to the mother, is still essential to their child’s development.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 03:41 PM
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Probably 1 out of every 300 posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 02:14 PM
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Are you close with these women? If she doesn’t sacrifice her high paying job to focus solely on motherhood during pregnancy and the first 4/5 years of life she’s going to inevitably become extremely burnt out. Or you’ll be spending thousands and thousands on daycare every year so someone else can raise your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 02:04 PM
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That’s nice of you to go, my husband would have immediately responded “oh wow have fun with that, I’ll stay home and watch the kids” 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:54 PM
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No ofc not, but I’m not miserable (:
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:32 PM
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An overwhelming majority of people in general would not agree with that statement It’s important to remember that an overwhelming majority of people are also fucking miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:37 AM
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This response would be meaningful if I actually said or believed any of the above lol Shame all the women you want, they shouldn’t care either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:53 AM
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No I mean what I said, every demographic shames age gap relationships, it is not behavior exclusive to older women. I was once in an age gap relationship and got shit for it from men and women of all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:16 PM
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If you genuinely aren’t hurting anyone, you should stop giving a fuck what society at large thinks about how you maneuver the dating world People are always going to have a problem with how you live, no matter what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:46 PM
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That’s a nice theory but younger women are also shaming older men for pursuing them. I’ve seen age gap shaming come from every demographic. Even men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:44 PM
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You do have an extremely pessimistic view on the world. If it’s working for you, you should continue having said view, but it’s kind of silly to deny it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:39 PM
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I’ve noticed this double standard as well and I assume it’s because there is a sort of “novelty” to it as women are usually not the pursuers in general. Still disgusting nonetheless and I’ve openly shamed women for it before.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:57 PM
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The only one who doesn’t have faith in the opposite sex is you I love my husband, plenty of good, loving men exist and are out there, but men are not a monolith and a lot of PEOPLE in general are opportunistic. Whether it’s a woman leaving a man because richer man came around or if it’s a man leaving a woman because a younger, hotter woman came around.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:23 PM
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You claim to be a believer of Jehovah and yet you’ve deeply misunderstood a very basic concept within the Judaic/Christian religion Men and women have very distinct roles in Judaism/Christianity, and women are not meant to physically protect their stronger, more masculine husband. Yet it seems you take this as evidence that women do not love as genuinely as men? It’s an odd conclusion to come to. In a Christian household, a woman’s role is not to be protectors, they’re meant to uplift their husb…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:14 PM
2

And yet you can look around and see 5’5 men dating 5’4 women and below literally everywhere, especially in countries like Mexico where most men are 5’4-5’7.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:49 PM
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Most women just want someone who is taller than them. In the same way men say they prefer “natural women” but will go bananas over a woman with realistic looking fake tits/bbls and “natural looking” make up, women will often say they only want a man over 6’0 and then think the guy who’s 5’8 is tall enough for her They typically don’t even know how tall 6’0 really is unless they’re tall themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:31 AM
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but they still kept the wife/girlfriend Oh wow they still kept the girlfriend around after cheating on her? How nice and considerate of them! /s They still kept them around because they could still have mediocre sex on the shelf with them….while also sleeping with other women behind their backs. Men typically don’t initiate divorce or break ups but will be completely checked out of the relationship, women are less prone to this behavior and just leave Which is easily the more decent and kind opt…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:23 AM
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Luckily I think most men are self aware enough to understand that they have no idea what’s natural and what isn’t unless it’s borderline clown makeup or disturbing bimbofication plastic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:43 PM
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I think most people understand that yes, a lot of people cheat and casual sex is the norm. If anything, I see more people take this notion and run with it and assume all happy/healthy monogamous relationships are a sham because one of them MUST be cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:20 PM
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Is your only extensive exposure to women through the internet, television and social media? Women are often the first ones to point out shitty behavior in other women, sometimes for no other reason but to put the other woman down in order to elevate themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:20 PM
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Women aren’t shamed when they aren’t able to make their man orgasm On average, women have less of an issue with this. Men can easily cum solely from PiV sex, while women more often than not require more foreplay. But women are also shamed when they are lacking in the bedroom, male friends would openly complain about all the “useless starfishes” they would encounter lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:23 PM
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The good men are not gone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:30 PM
2

“Freeuse is a fully-consensual sexual dynamic where one or more partners are allowed to use sexually the other(s) at any time.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 07:09 PM
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I have a free use kink so he’s often initiating, but I initiate a lot as well I don’t really take it personally if he’s not in the mood and he doesn’t either when the situation is flipped. Probably because we have an active sex life already.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:48 PM
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I am in a “traditional” marriage similar to one you’ve described For us it’s bliss, but it only works if you find a man who genuinely values domestic labor and the act of bearing/raising children. It only works if you marry a man who loves and respects you. It only works if you find a man who wants to be provider, husband and father, not just someone who wants a wife and kids. Lots of men say they want this set up because they really just want a bang maid who will raise their offspring while the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:50 PM
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> She can join me on my ride or leave > My kids and my kids only Do you have children already or are these hypothetical children you will have mothered by a woman you don’t consider apart of your hypothetical family? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:19 PM
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This goes beyond status. Does she have any other goals in life (not necessarily related to career) or is she just going through the motions of life? I’m not sure why RP’s try to say all men don’t care about this, more and more men are seeking women to go 50/50 financially with these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:40 PM
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> Goals in life Why are goals and ambition always attached to corporate careers I’m a SAHM and I have plenty of goals, ambitions, hobbies, intellectual pursuits, and none of them involve working for some company OP most likely isn’t looking for someone to raise his children and provide for, which is fine, but we really need to detach the idea that you need to be working a “fancy” job to be considered ambitious
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:32 PM
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I was referring to their choice of venting and complaining online
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:04 PM
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We’ll never be able to really end sexism and racism, it is also a by product of free will.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:03 PM
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Loneliness and sexlessness is just an unfortunate by product of free will Objectively the truth, and I would be surprised if anyone has a solid argument to refute it. Lonely men (and women) are always going to be upset about it and vent online. We should stop trying to stop them and let them live the way they are clearly choosing to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:57 PM
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People in general are boring, you just don’t pay attention to men in the same way you pay attention to women, they even don’t come up on your radar. Why would you attempt to befriend a man you find boring for no reason? With women you do have interest in engaging with them, solely off looks alone in search for a partner or fuck buddy, because of this you’re going to engage with more random, boring women. It’s an interesting take to say the less sexual someone is the more boring they are, and as …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:47 PM
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So now you think just because on average men are hornier (which I agree with) that high libido women don’t exist? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:34 PM
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South Asian Penis Guy is back with his weekly post!!!!!! (:
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:43 AM
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I trust my husband has my best interest at heart, especially with how we have set up our finances that he insists upon. He deposits a certain amount of money into my personal bank account (from our joint account) every month to do what I want with. I don’t need to consult or tell him about purchases I make with this money. It’s not meant for groceries, bills or gas. It is for me to either save or spend. This has allowed me to have savings. I also have access to our credit cards, our joint bank a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:55 PM
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From what I’ve seen, most single women aren’t miserable. The women you’ve described most likely are, but they are a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:24 PM
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I’ve run into both types of people OP describes on multiple occasions, they definitely exist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:19 PM
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Quora has always been filled with men larping as women writing out their sexual fantasies You should really take any website where someone is mostly anonymous with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:51 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:41 PM
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People often marry women/men they can barely tolerate because they’re afraid of being alone. People need to stop viewing marriage as a necessary next step in any relationship. A large portion of long term relationships aren’t meant to be lifelong and that’s okay. Just because there are a lot of unhappy marriages does not mean happy marriages are non existent. I’m in a happy/fulfilling marriage with my best friend and I’m surrounded by happy married couples, it’s really about where you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:50 PM
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Embracing the decline and realizing you may never have a devoted partner/loving family would be an easier pill to swallow if it was actually “a lie”. Plenty of successful, fulfilling and genuinely loving marriages/families exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:00 PM
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Because 90% of the time this is what you get from marriage nowadays. Lol. 90%? Maybe if you marry someone you don’t even like, and only have children because mommy and daddy said they wanted grandkids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:48 PM
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I assume in a sugar daddy/trophy wife scenario they are probably seen as competition, but I would find it hard to believe a woman willing to go 50/50 would be pursuing the same men as women who aspire to be a trophy wife. I’m a SAHM and my husband is the sole financial provider, 50/50 women are not competition to me. My husband always has said he would support anything I decide to pursue but say his preference will always be for me to stay home and raise our children. He values my contributions …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:25 AM
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I actually agree with goldilocks size being a thing (though I’m not sure it’s 6-8 inches) but… I’ve seen them take is so easily in all kinds of porn This is like citing watching hollywood movies as understanding/experiencing real life events. It’s not real life. Women will get wet just looking at one in person ….Very few women get excited at the appearance of a penis but it’s more so related to the guy it’s attached to. This tells me you watch porn more than you actually engage in sexual relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:22 PM
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Tbh I do this with men (minus marriage, because married) I have no interest interacting with random men irl. I really don’t think there is anything wrong with men behaving the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:17 AM
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I’ve cultivated my community and supportive social networks. I’m in no way isolated. I encourage others to do the same, but at the end of the day, I cannot police the way random strangers feel about me or my trauma. I won’t ever attempt to do so. Ofc there are other ways of seeing the world. Just because I can see and acknowledge those other ways, does not mean I want to live or operate the same way you do. I can keep my opinion to myself, doesn’t mean I will, especially on a fucking reddit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:56 PM
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As one of those people who has suffered life altering abuse, I am “abnormal”. No one in my social groups has had similar life experiences, making me the odd one out. That’s just reality. People may look at my past and not want anything to do with me because of their own judgements. That’s fine. They owe me nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:41 PM
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Honestly I think it has less to do with you not earning enough money and more to do with certain “red flags” women are perceiving from your lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:50 PM
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You’re more likely to find a woman who is looking for something purely casual or an open relationship. Would you be open to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:39 PM
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Sexlessness while single and sexlessness while in a romantic monogamous relationship are 2 very different scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:59 PM
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>Men are also not enforcing any kind of traditional gendered expectations on women What world are you living in? I can barely go a day without hearing a man say a woman needs to be submissive and willing to have children in order for her to be a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:53 PM
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Have you ever been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 12:06 PM
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A lot of men do not exhibit these behaviors either. The men that do, lack discipline and self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:50 AM
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I didn’t think it needed to be explicitly stated because it’s common sense, but yes, personal growth is important and we are constantly changing as that is quite literally the nature of everything in this world. Changing. When I say I hope my husband never changes, I mean who he is at his core, his character, but even if that changes, that’s okay too (:
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:53 PM
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Eh, teens and young adults aren’t known for their sound logic lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:17 PM
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Lol ironically my ex of 8 years, the guy whose potential I was clinging to was objectively poorer, “uglier” and shorter than my husband. I lust after my husband much more than I’ve ever lusted after any man I stayed with my ex for so long because I loved him and those things didn’t matter to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:01 AM
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Comparing the absolute gooner brain rot that is being spewed out of Tiktok/Instagram reels by OF creators and young girls emulating them to normal women taking mostly unedited beach selfies on Myspace and Facebook is kinda crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:03 PM
2

Would you ever date an older woman? (a woman your age)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:54 PM
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People who are genuinely rejuvenating for you are simply people you like and enjoy being around It’s not really a matter of age, but rather personality and life experience
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:46 PM
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This was true for me in my first long term relationship of 8 years. Then I grew up, got smarter and realized how idiotic it is to cling to the “potential” I’ve assigned another person, a person who is telling me loud and clear who they are in that moment. Luckily I’m now married to a man who I hope never changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:30 PM
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Drive, intelligence, loyalty, dependability, empathy, curiosity, kindness and humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:37 PM
2

Maybe 2-3 times a week max. I’m also married so I’m not looking, when I was single I think I paid more attention to random men out in public
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:51 PM
4

I hope you’re being facetious
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:27 PM
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lol this is cute
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:13 PM
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The only time I’ve seen women shaming men for this behavior is when discussing men who approach in a “disrespectful” manner Most of the time these women are trusting that the men who don’t behave disrespectfully won’t lump themselves together with the men who do. The women who are genuinely making “all men” statements are simply fed up with the repeated behavior and are acting out of hurt and distrust of the male population. A behavior that’s also observable in some men in this subreddit, in rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 04:37 PM
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Exactly, and I think most people understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:51 PM
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I really don’t think this is a man vs woman debate Some people lack emotional fortitude, and unlike other things, this has been a clear 50/50 split among men and women in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 04:10 PM
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I’m a firm believer that if you knowingly engage in unprotected sex, you’re an idiot if your first thought is “how did this happen” and “I don’t even want kids”. That goes for men and women. Unprotected sex makes babies. Stop having unprotected sex if you do not want children. Especially when so many forms of birth control exist now. Always wear a condom or get a vasectomy if you’re a man who doesn’t want to be a father but people will always make poor choices, so I know this will always be an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:34 PM
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I live a happy and fulfilling life with my husband and children, spending my days doing exactly what I want to do, with who I want to do it with and I’ve also made some sourdough just for you red pill man on reddit (:
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:22 AM
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I did. You’re saying that both groups of women are essentially the same, just one group is a better at acting. One group wants to be provided for and give nothing back in return. The other group is willing to dedicate their entire lives to their husband and their children. Whether or not you perceive these women as “acting” is irrelevant to the reality that they are doing something in return for being provided for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:09 AM
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They’re “acting” when they give what their husband wants/expects in return? Ngmi
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:57 AM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:36 PM
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Women who want a sugar daddy vs women who want a “traditional provider” are 2 different groups of women. You’re describing the first group of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:14 PM
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Have you ever been in love? Why is a childless life automatically considered hedonism? It doesn’t inherently match the definition at all. I’m a SAHM of 2 soon to be 3. My children are essentially my whole life (besides a few hobbies) right now. One day they won’t my whole life because they’ll be independent adults, living their own lives. Will my husband and I be living hedonistically then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:26 AM
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What part of the world do you live in? I do all these things for my husband and family (but I don’t work outside the home) The issue of women taking on a majority of the household chores and childcare while also working full time outside the home comes up almost every day on my feed with the subreddits I’m in (primarily r/marriage and r/mommit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:10 PM
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Is it hard to keep up the charade you actually enjoy/desire sex with your partner? Have you ever considered that you might just be asexual? I really can’t imagine not desiring sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:10 PM
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You’re in denial if you don’t recognize the majority of young adults (in the west) view sex as purely something “fun” to do. Typically when a stranger sees me and says sexual things to me in the street or in a casual setting, he is objectifying me, he doesn’t want to be closer to me, other than physically. This is why body count matters for me personally. I’m no longer dating, but I would be uninterested in dating someone who did not value sex the same way I do. I think you should only be having…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:45 PM
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Because men are physically, morally and spiritually superior to women in every way and if you deny that you’re clearly just a brainwashed leftist third wave feminist. Duh! It’s just normal gender war nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:21 PM
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The way he behaved can easily be read as aggressive, especially by women. That’s my main point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:06 PM
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And his “point” crossed certain physical boundaries set by the game, that can easily be read as aggressive. He could have made his point by using his words. That would have actually gained my respect, he knows his preferences, what he stands on and he can properly communicate it like a healthy adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:50 PM
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Have you watched these balloon pop videos before? He’s not supposed to pop anyone else's balloon, it’s not how the “game” works. In the context of the show, him popping the balloon was extremely aggressive behavior. I believe that man has a right to his preferences. But the manner in which is he conducted himself in that moment was a horrible first impression to give those women. He could have easily said he was uninterested, instead he decided to make a spectacle of himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:44 PM
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Some abusers have a history, or tattoos, or a prison sentence But definitely not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:34 PM
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Only a small fraction of rapes are accompanied by intense physical violence? Why are you only focusing on the western world? The epidemic of violent rape is well documented in India, Pakistan and parts of Africa. When looking at the entire world, it’s actually asinine to state men are as unsafe around women as women are around men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:43 PM
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A study on a small group of college students discussing what they could possibly imagine themselves doing in a hypothetical situation? Real hard facts and evidence you got there, bud. I have a question for you; do you believe the average man is stronger than the average woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:32 PM
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As you said, I think if a person’s preferences become too specific or high, they only end up punishing themselves. I’m a firm believer you can have whatever preferences you want. It’s not inherently wrong or morally reprehensible to not want to date heavy people, skinny people, people with high body count, people with low body count, people not tall enough or too tall etc etc etc If you’re openly talking about those preferences on a public forum such as this, you should always expect someone to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:24 PM
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hundreds, thousands
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:53 PM
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I could send you dozens of screenshots from various platforms (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc) of men loudly claiming that when a man cheats it’s not as morally reprehensible as when a woman cheats; because male biology/conditioning. I’ve had male friends tell me this practically my entire life. Much more than I’ve ever heard women say they won’t date a bi men, but I know women definitely say that even though I don’t see it very often It’s even a common discussion point in manosphere podcasts,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:34 PM
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A lot of women are not as sexual as a majority of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:27 PM
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Anyone, man or woman, who has preferences is a bad person. Haven’t you heard? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:25 PM
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The same could be said about all the men who claim non monogamy and cheating is an inherent trait of men due to biology or social conditioning. It’s a classic move for humans to resist taking accountability for their actions because it can uncomfortable, it’s a non gendered issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:22 PM
1

Yum, delicious ragebait
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:09 AM
8

Where was the threat? I’m sure dying alone is preferable for someone who hates the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:45 PM
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Research has also proven men/women who speak about the opposite sex this way are deeply miserable and 9000x more likely to die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:08 PM
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At this point in my life, I spend most of my free time/energy/money on my marriage, raising my children, making my art, cooking and attempting to make my home look more aesthetically pleasing and welcoming. In short, I value my family, my home and our comfort. My husband’s values our family, our home and our financial security.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:02 PM
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A lot of men (and women) struggle with either 3, 4 or 5 and don’t even realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:16 PM
0

I’ll take the occasional measles outbreak over a totalitarian system. And I say this as a vaxxed person, with vaxxed children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 06:24 PM
0

People should have the right to opt out of whatever medical decision they want Anything else is unethical, it’s bizarre you think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 06:13 PM
1

I wouldn’t hate him and of course he would be within in “his right” to leave but I would think he lacked integrity, and wasn’t built for marriage Unless of course this scenario also includes the fact that we were dependent on my portion of income to afford our bills/food/housing and I was just sitting on my ass all day for months not looking for another job, putting the life we built together in jeopardy. Then I was failing us majorly and he was just doing what he felt he needed to do
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:33 PM
2

This is why you don’t marry the thing you dragged out of a shithole People need to stop getting married if they’re not prepared to be with them for the rest of their lives, unless abuse or infidelity occurs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:23 PM
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People who feel valued and fulfilled in their roles within their family unit are happier. This has nothing to do with whether the woman is working or not, I know plenty of working moms who are downright miserable. I do think there is a trend in “traditional” family units/marriages with overworked husbands and undervalued wives, but this is just part of the reality that most people cannot afford to have one parent stay at home. I’m a SAHM, and my marriage is better than ever and my family is very…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 07:58 PM
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But finding a good man is as easy as finding the sky when you walk outside, right? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:44 PM
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People in general often prioritize themselves and their own interests. This isn’t a trait that is difficult to recognize in humanity. You’re burying your head in the sand and feeding into gender war nonsense if you don’t think many men are also primarily focused on their own interests over their SO’s. Choose better partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:21 AM
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Oh wow a woman did this? That’s impossible and clearly it’s all a lie in order to destroy her reputation!! Jk. Obviously this should be investigated and she should be removed from her position if it’s true. Any abuser, man or woman, especially one in a position of power should be held accountable for their crime. There will probably be less of a public outcry for a few reasons but a big one being the media barely reporting on it, but I’ll scream she’s an abuser all day. It doesn’t hurt the MeToo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 11:59 AM
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Lol yeah, that’s the response I expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:49 PM
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This is largely due to the sociobiological variability of men, e.g, men have larger variances in personality, desire, behavior, achievement, than women, and they have a greater tendency of "splitting" or having different "selves" that aren't so consistent throughout every part of their life. Do you have many close relationships/friendships with women? I’m going to be honest, this post just seems like ragebait. Any man or woman who makes a blanket statement like this about the opposite sex is eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:07 PM
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We know women feel no pleasure from sex Okay I’ve replied to you a few times now, and always gave you the benefit of the doubt when it’s come to your “interesting” takes on women but this tells me you’re just a troll. no adult man with an IQ over 90 would actually believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:23 PM
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Out of touch take, at least in the US. I know 5 single dads, none of them have had any issue with getting 50/50 when going to court, but 2 of them we’re able to reach a custody agreement without going through all that. Only 1 of them pays child support. It’s not 1950 and most states don’t automatically favor the mother anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:48 PM
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I agree but the first finger you should point is always the thumb. Stop choosing to go after women who are clearly materialistic in their goals. They tell you very early on who they are, essentially on the first date when they demand you pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:03 PM
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I live a “traditional” lifestyle and I adhere to “traditional” gender roles within my marriage, which is why I’m “trad” pill I’m a “feminist” in the way I described because my traditional lifestyle is just that, MY lifestyle. I don’t believe women or men should live the way I do, and I certainly don’t ever say anyone should. People should do what they want. The word has bad PR because so many people believe it’s correlative to simply hating men/believing woman are of more value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:34 AM
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I want to preface by saying I’m not anything close to a modern/third wave feminist. I simply believe women and men are inherently equal in their value as humans and women should have access and the right to pursue the same opportunities as men. The first “privilege” that comes to mind is the draft. While I don’t believe there should be ANY draft, there is, and I would be okay if women had to participate in a draft if the US went to war.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:18 PM
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? Why doesn’t he have a right to be picky?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:29 PM
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This was my husband. I really didn’t see it as a red flag because we were very close for years so I knew who he was as a person, and he was very picky, didn’t believe casual sex was healthy and valued his time. If anything, it was a bonus, he had all sorts of women interested in him but he chose me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 01:16 AM
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What in the hedonistic debauched fuck is this Hypersexuality can be reserved for one’s partner, it can work just fine in monogamy. Constantly lusting after every woman you see online or irl is just unhinged, animalistic behavior that is shamed because it’s unbecoming. Men (and on a lesser scale, women) are capable of control and tact, they don’t need to give into every urge they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:35 PM
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Lol well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:28 PM
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15 and 21, nothing insane but definitely a large enough gap for their to be a major difference in life experience. I’ll always stay accountable for my participation in the relationship though, I was dumb. It’s all in the past and it was a learning experience, I’m very happy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:07 AM
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The genuine answer is kinda fucked, but I was young and he was a lot older than me and essentially groomed me. I was in an extremely vulnerable position at that point in my life that made me a perfect target for it. He had a gift for smooth talking and we had similar interests (anime, gaming, etc) Luckily I got older, and realized I how messed up the situation was and left. Ya live and ya learn, but I would be lying if I said the situation didn’t make me weary of outwardly promiscuous people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 04:41 AM
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Oh wow you seemed to take my personal assessment of my asshole ex to heart I was an idiot for messing with him, was 100% settling and chose poorly, luckily got some sense eventually, but he was my first boyfriend and I was extremely inexperienced at the time, so I give myself some grace He went on to be a full blown pedophile so I have no qualms with anonymously trash talking him on the internet (:
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 04:32 AM
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I don’t doubt that and am curious to see the statistics, but I’m usually “generous” with my ratings, give me a group of random guys I’m rating most of them at least a 5 or 6, I mean most people are average. This dude was below average, and if you saw him you’d probably agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:45 AM
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No longer dating (married) but I would never knowingly date a player again and I always advise other women against it. Did it once, he was incapable of being satisfied with 1 woman and was constantly talking to other women behind my back. Ironically he was a solid 4/5, 5’6 and was poor, he was just a smooth talker and extremely confident. I can only imagine how bad it would have been if he was a “chad” 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:09 AM
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I don’t really pay mind to what pill people claim to take, man or woman, I’ll judge them a lot more based on what they’re actually saying Though I find the most infamous red pill woman, Pearl Davis, absolutely insufferable,
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 11:07 PM
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