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https://youtu.be/qPxSU7zDmOE?si=ZmKa-WiOTVWTCRUV
/r/seduction25/05/26 06:23 AM
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Your reading comprehension is poor. This guy commented, and it seems to be true, that you don’t actually seduce women. A lot of women will just hand out a number, who knows if it’s theirs or not, to be left alone.
/r/seduction26/04/26 01:28 AM
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No, you never get what you don’t ask for. You want to date a hot girl, you have to ask her out. You want a promotion or raise, you have to ask for it. You need a favor from a friend/family member, ask them. Asking for things is normal.
/r/seduction24/04/26 03:58 PM
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It’s flirting but it really. It’s like when you tease the fat girl at work. You do it cuz you’re bored but you would never really pursue anything with her.
/r/seduction16/04/26 06:15 PM
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You’re very first paragraph is wrong. The number of women I want to date and fuck is less than the number of women who want to date or fuck me.
/r/seduction14/04/26 03:24 PM
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Pre-selection, they’re assuming you’re bringing them to your wife, fiancé, or girlfriend.
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:03 AM
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I’m 34, last year I dated a girl who was 24 for a few months. I find girls in their mid 20’s to be the best. Still very physically attractive, have better sense of style, right level of confidence, can hold a conversation, has a career so I don’t have to pay for every thing.
/r/seduction01/04/26 09:33 PM
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Some ‘ambers’ will appear as ‘reds’ due to the situation. Those can be flipped. For example, I once met a girl at a party in college and we flirted a little bit and exchanged numbers. Later in the night, I made out with a different girl on the dance floor. The first girl had to act like she didn’t want me anymore due to public optics, who wants ‘sloppy seconds’. So at the party she had to put on this front, but when I called her a few days later to ask her out, she said yes.
/r/seduction18/02/26 05:49 PM
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Of course you’re not gonna know someone’s personality after five minutes. But if you changing after talking with someone, that means you’re the one not being authentic. You’re the one changing, not that they don’t know the full picture yet.
/r/seduction14/02/26 10:10 PM
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You literally use the phrase “once they get to know me, and once I open up”. Doesn’t sound like even you consider you shy and reserved personally as your real self.
/r/seduction14/02/26 08:39 PM
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What makes you think she has a bf? You’re being the weird one haha
/r/seduction13/01/26 09:19 PM
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I know I am very handsome cuz I’ve had beautiful women approach me too. But I’m no where near as successful with women as my friend who looks like a thumb. Anecdotal I know but, yes game can put you ahead of someone more attractive.
/r/seduction06/01/26 04:14 PM
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If you’re scared to go talk to girls, girls you say are giving signs of interest, you do not have a ‘cool guy’ image. Cool and confident people have no issues talking to strangers. I think it would help you by talking to everyone all the time. Not just focusing on hot girls. I say hi and sometimes chat with the woman who works at my train station and my office doormen every day. Get comfortable starting conversations all day everyday and it will no longer seem like a big deal when it ‘matters’.
/r/seduction17/12/25 05:14 PM
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You weren’t a joke. You treated her like a friend and she treated you like a friend back. And you’re upset and down on yourself? This might sound harsh, but you got back what you gave and have no one else to blame. You need to treat a girl how you want the relationship to be right off the bat. If I meet a girl that I want to fuck, I treat her like a girl I want to fuck. A girl I want to date, I treat her like a girl I want to date. A girl I’m not attracted to and just want to be friends, I treat…
/r/seduction24/04/25 08:35 PM
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Meet women in real life. You can get a better read on if they are down for something casual. I’ve had success with career girls who like to party when they can. Met one girl at a bar and her friend kinda pushed her into me and told me, ‘she needs to loosen up.’
/r/seduction07/04/25 10:56 PM
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Being a ‘nice guy’ isn’t anything. That means you do the bare minimum of basic social etiquette. I’m a very ‘kind’ man and do well with women. Have passions in life and don’t be a doormat.
/r/seduction29/03/25 07:58 AM
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One night stands don’t do much for me. But short term relationships, bang buddies, or friends with benefits have definitely been a lot of fun. But I’m a person who knows he doesn’t want kids so family life isn’t an end goal for me.
/r/seduction20/02/25 07:25 PM
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Confidence. I know that’s a bit of a copout. But if you can walk up to a girl who is smiling at you in a bar and can introduce yourself with confidence, you will immediately be ahead of a lot of men. There are a lot of posts on how to take it from there.
/r/seduction13/11/24 04:46 AM
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Go experience life. Whatever you want to do with life you have to make it happen yourself, no one is going to do it for you. I go to bars, concerts, and clubs by myself regularly. It forces you to talk to people you don’t know.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:11 PM
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Cut or style your hair differently. Wear jewelry, I have a watch that I’ve got a lot of complements on. Don’t wear black or blue shirts when going out, men are always wearing black and blue. You may have heard the term peacocking. I don’t go crazy with it most of the time, but sometimes I do if I’m going to an event that calls for it, ex. bar crawl or EDM show.
/r/seduction12/11/24 08:39 PM
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You’re Superman not Geralt. Henry Cavill is a very handsome man. But women don’t really find his Superman sexy. He’s white bread. He’s a Boy Scout with no edge. To be blunt you are probably boring. Geralt has an edginess to him, both style and the way he speaks to women. Dress a little more daring and different from other men and work on your conversation skills.
/r/seduction12/11/24 07:49 PM
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This has nothing to do with inflated egos. This has to do with women getting judged for sex. It’s like the original meaning of the “Baby it’s cold outside song”. Women can’t just say they want sex or people will call them a slut.
/r/seduction02/11/24 11:18 PM
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Not the guy you asked this question to, but I can get laid every weekend, not every night, if I’m really trying. I about 80% of the time I just say “hi my name is Optimal”. Every now and then i’ll say a “pick up line“ but it’s mostly just referencing her or making a joke about something nearby.
/r/seduction24/05/24 08:16 PM
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I got chlamydia in college while I was being reckless. Thank God that is something that’s curable.
/r/seduction20/11/23 05:50 AM
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If you are just fucking around, always use condoms. Both children and STDs are lifelong sentences. When you’re in a committed relationship, and she’s on birth control, go ahead and hit it raw.
/r/seduction20/11/23 05:47 AM
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"One day I am going to die, do everything I can with my life now"
/r/seduction22/10/22 01:51 PM
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So a straight woman rapes you but gay people are the groomers?
/r/MensRights13/06/22 08:06 PM
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This is such a stupid comment. So if anything you think is not 100% perfect and fair you abandon? You don’t try and improve anything in your life? Anything you are apart of?
/r/MensRights08/04/22 05:29 PM
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I'm sorry but that phrase is bullshit. We can criticize Bezos all day long, but don't you dare say anything bad about children.
/r/MensRights21/07/21 08:03 PM
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My old man owns his own construction company. I asked him how many women have ever applied to work for you. He said maybe 5. Asked how many men, he said 100's. Women don't even try to and work manual labor jobs.
/r/MensRights03/07/21 05:27 PM
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Up until recently, I had a piece of shit car with a banged up hood. Never stopped me.
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:36 AM
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I believe women also get more scholarship money, and that’s included all the men who get free rides due to athletics.
/r/MensRights25/04/21 06:01 AM
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Pick out a few key goals. Work on them in the absolute smallest increments everyday, or most days. Things don’t become awesome quickly, it’s a slow process.
/r/seduction25/04/21 04:23 AM
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So women are the same as men with disabilities? What are women with disabilities then?
/r/MensRights19/04/21 05:48 AM
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Men are less likely to seek mental health because there are vastly less resources for us. Women suicide attempts are greater because they are more likely to survive and attempt multiple times. Men also work more dangerous jobs, dying at I believe 7 times the rate women do at work.
/r/MensRights10/04/21 04:41 AM
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I disagree and apparently you do to. You literally wrote "or have social proof". When people see you leading others in any capacity or interacting with other girls (the hotter the better), they will find you more attractive.
/r/seduction07/04/21 02:15 PM
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I can't tell you how many women have told me I smell good. It's so simple.
/r/seduction06/04/21 05:31 PM
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Late to the conversation, but I finally got a new job after applying for the last 3 years. (Old job was good pay not not the field I wanted.) Starting in 2021, I stopped checking the boxes for “male” and “white” and started checking “do not wish to identify”. I was getting a ton more interviews. Now was this because places are hiring again after COVID? Maybe
/r/MensRights04/04/21 03:29 PM
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Imagine the national outrage if a father did this with his girlfriend
/r/MensRights01/04/21 01:42 PM
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Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s pointless
/r/MensRights12/03/21 02:33 PM
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FYI it is not 1%, it’s 9.01/100000 or ~0.01%
/r/MensRights12/03/21 04:46 AM
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You can 100% flirt and connect over text. It’s just some people are so bad at it, that they never have success, so they tell other people it doesn’t work.
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:55 PM
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Seeing how the FBI says that <.04% of the population is raped a year I doubt that
/r/MensRights19/12/20 05:38 AM
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I thought it was 1 in 5 are sexually assaulted which includes verbally
/r/MensRights19/12/20 05:12 AM
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I thought you meant as individuals, not these general opinion pieces aimed at no one in particular. I don’t let shit like that get to me, hell it doesn’t even register.
/r/MensRights10/12/20 06:15 AM
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I half disagree with you, I’ve never seen men condemned for being successful. But yes women constantly getting praise for every thing they do.
/r/MensRights10/12/20 05:54 AM
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I do not agree. There are always gonna be excuses to not approach, you can't have this mindset.
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:35 AM
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The killers - the man
/r/MensRights06/11/20 12:43 AM
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Being vulnerable in dating, is showing your true self. So many people fake who they are when meeting new people and the first few dates. Mason's point, is to be comfortable and confident in who you are as a person so that you don't need to put on an act. This also helps attract people who attracted to your true personality right away.
/r/seduction29/10/20 05:15 PM
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Right, isn't mansplaining just a sexist word for condescending? Like we already had a word for it, but now when a man does it, it's somehow inherently worse?
/r/MensRights24/10/20 04:13 AM
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That line "whoa, haven't even had our first date yet and you're already inviting me in." Is a perfect example of putting it on the woman. This is how you make the conversation sexual without being that creepy over sexual guy.
/r/seduction20/10/20 02:17 PM
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How is this men's rights?
/r/MensRights17/10/20 04:18 AM
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Exaggerate really old or real young and make a joke. I’m actually 72, I moisturize 5 times a day every day. I’m 13, been smoking since 5.
/r/seduction16/10/20 03:33 AM
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Why can't you talk to her like a normal human and build attraction at the same time? Also, you've never tried this but are so sure it will work? Good seduction doesn't look like much from afar, but the two people experiencing can feel it. That's what you want to be doing, not this "How are you? Wonderful weather we having" BS.
/r/seduction14/10/20 04:41 PM
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Ignoring it isn’t the best option, but it works. And it’s people who are thinned skinned and insecure who jump to defend themselves. I don’t let some snide comments from strangers get to me. Hell even when my friends make fun of me I just play along and laugh it off. The best way to deal with shit tests in my opinion is to agree or disagree in a exaggerated way.
/r/seduction03/10/20 06:47 PM
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I think it should be noted, this is not stuff you should be doing when you first meet. Basically, if a woman is into you, she wants to know you desire her, not with words but with actions.
/r/seduction02/10/20 04:57 PM
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I think different people will have different levels of success with each of these. Cold approach works best for me, but I have friends who struggle with it. Social circle to me is very slow and you don't have control over the women you meet.
/r/seduction28/09/20 04:38 PM
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Your comment, “sexual rape lasts a few minutes but finical rape lasts many years” it totally unnecessary. Rape is terrible and no one deserves it. You could have made your point without it.
/r/MensRights19/09/20 08:59 PM
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Everyone is saying, “if you weren’t ready for kids you shouldn’t be having sex” but they were using condoms and birth control so clearly they both didn’t want kids and were taking the necessary precautions.
/r/MensRights15/09/20 06:06 AM
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Domination doesn’t have to always be physical, maybe one night you just be very demanding and instruct him into position. Ex. “Get on your knees” or “take my ____ off”
/r/seduction14/09/20 04:50 AM
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I had to tell some girls last weekend to stop slut shaming their friend. Every single woman has done this too.
/r/MensRights01/09/20 09:36 PM
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Girls really like photography, and you can definitely use it to flirt. I would make that your #1 when talking to girls.
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:32 AM
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But men can be desirable for decades. Most women are considered very attractive for a decade or less, if at all. Yea sure men might have to do more, but we have a longer high quality dating shelf life, and all these things help other aspects of our lives as well.
/r/seduction25/08/20 07:51 PM
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Holy shit, yea that’s a dick move. She worked 2 jobs and paid all the bill when he could have easily paid them all, at least half.
/r/MensRights22/08/20 03:43 AM
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23 is not old, and more than half of college students in USA are 24+, so don't worry about that. Also being older in college has advantages, I did not do 4 years in a row and graduated at 26. Some women are attracted to older men, you probably have more life experiences than other men, maybe you have a job or your own place, and for the 18-20 year old's, you can be their contact for booze. Don't buy it for them, they should pay for it, but by just being the guy who brings it some girls will like…
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:49 PM
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They would be more flattered if it was a confident man asking then out
/r/seduction12/08/20 12:53 PM
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That works but don’t follow up with can we be friends. Also try and complement her in a more unique way than pretty, beautiful, etc. if she’s a hot girl she hears it all the time, stand out.
/r/seduction11/08/20 03:10 PM
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If you treat a woman like a friend, then she will see you as a friend and not a potential romantic/sexual partner. For new people who don’t know how to be subtle, you should say something right away that lets her know you are interested in her sexually. That way she at the very least considers whether or not you can be a sexual partner. You’ll get rejected faster this way on average, but when you ask for her number she’ll know it’s to ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction11/08/20 02:19 PM
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If you meet one asshole during the day, they were an asshole. If everyone you meet during the day is an asshole, then you’re the asshole.
/r/MensRights10/08/20 08:48 PM
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Girls in general care more about hair than men, both on themselves and on men. If you have balding hair you might want to think about just shaving it off. The bald look works on some body types. Thining hair might be okay, there is a gray area.
/r/seduction07/08/20 07:22 PM
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I’m a good looking guy, I know this because beautiful women have actually approached me. I’m not super buff or cut, my muscles are above average, but I’m not in the best shape of my life anymore. I changed up my haircut and updated my wardrobe about 2 years ago, seems to have helped.
/r/seduction07/08/20 04:25 PM
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Men approach women all over the world, you shouldn’t write it off. Met a girl last weekend.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:23 AM
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If you’re this toxic and angry, people can tell. Also what was the point of this post, to complain? That’s not the point of this sub.
/r/seduction05/08/20 02:38 PM
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2 basic things, don’t act like she is so much better than you. Yea she hot, but you are an awesome person, I hope she wins you over. And, don’t ask questions she has had to answer 100 time before. Asking about hobbies is pretty good but also ask why she likes them and/or how she got into them.
/r/seduction28/07/20 03:01 PM
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I'm about to turn 29 and before covid was sleeping with a gorgeous 21 year old. For men age doesn't matter as much. First get five things in order, 1 get in physical shape, get a trainer if you have to, 2 upgrade your wardrobe, clothes should fit your body and your personality, 3 good hygiene, this includes a good haircut, seriously, 4 job satisfaction, self explanatory, 5 have at least one creative outlet, this is good for you mental health and you have something to say when people ask "what do…
/r/seduction23/07/20 04:08 AM
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Taking action is great keep it up. And know that dating app (in my opinion) suck. Pretty girls on tinder or whatever match with almost everyone they swipe right on. So that means you are competing with every other guy on the app. Unless you are in the top 25% in looks and can convey your personality over text, it’s a waste of time.
/r/seduction08/07/20 05:32 AM
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Way too much at once. You do want to use that kinda language, but one sentence at a time man.
/r/seduction27/06/20 01:16 PM
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My go to opener when I started out was something like, “Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you (walking by) and thought you were kinda cute/had this interesting look/looked interesting, so I wanted to say hi. My name is ____” Say it with a natural pacing and not as fast as you can. Make sure you have good body language; stand up straight, eye contact, smile, open body, non-fidgety, and speak low and slow.
/r/seduction25/06/20 06:05 PM
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Well saying things like “trying to go to pound town” and “I assume I’m too nice” makes me think you’re probably a dick.
/r/seduction19/06/20 04:26 AM
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Is she in a relationship with the other guy? If not ask her out on a date. If she says no don’t wait around hoping. If she is in a relationship don’t let her lead you on, pursue other women.
/r/seduction18/06/20 05:37 PM
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Girls do this quite a bit, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t set boundaries. If you don’t call her out on shitty behavior she will keep doing it.
/r/seduction23/04/20 06:03 AM
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I don't have any social media and I do fine. You are really only gonna stand out if you're a 10 or you have a job in entertainment. Otherwise it completely unnecessary. Post what you want and don't let it stress you.
/r/seduction19/04/20 05:29 AM
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Defintly not true. Why are you adding random women on Instagram, that's not game.
/r/seduction19/04/20 05:25 AM
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Don’t worry 20 is still young
/r/seduction13/04/20 05:40 PM
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High school? Learn what it means to be truly non needy and confident, I recommend a book called models. And learning to be comfortable flirting with and asking girls out at a young age will put you years ahead of everyone else.
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:19 AM
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I’m guessing you’re pretty young; introduce yourself, flirt, ask for her number, flirt more, ask her out, escalate, date, etc. Also get into the habit of not obsessing over one woman who you are not dating, if you are interested in someone do something.
/r/seduction13/04/20 07:35 AM
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You are a bench warmer, stop waisting your time and effort.
/r/seduction13/04/20 07:24 AM
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I just want to say friends with benefits and fuck buddies are different, make sure you communicate what it is you want. When I was in college, so take with a grain of salt, I had a FWB and we would occasionally go on dates cuz it was fun.
/r/seduction13/04/20 07:21 AM
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So you’ve never talked? You are over thinking this way too much. If you are interested in her actually do something, make a move.
/r/seduction13/04/20 07:18 AM
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This is not the sub for this, if you wanna cheat on your wife that’s on you.
/r/seduction24/03/20 01:44 AM
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You sure you don’t mean breaking rapport?
/r/seduction21/03/20 03:00 AM
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We have no idea what you are saying or doing so how are we supposed to help?
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:06 AM
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I don’t live in a small town but I think massive approach numbers don’t really do anything for the most part. Women want a man that fulfills three things; the provider, the sweet romantic, and the fun guy. In the short term you just need to be the fun one, which a lot of guys mistake as the bad boy. You don’t need to be bad or the asshole just be someone who bring fun and joy into her life.
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:07 AM
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The first step is approaching, what is holding you back?
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:01 AM
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Friend is having a house party, his fiancé has some hot friends though. I hope some of them come.
/r/seduction31/12/19 07:48 PM
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And if you make the effort, with the right mindset, you’ll improve
/r/seduction28/12/19 07:18 PM
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I’m 28, girls in their early 20’s think I’m the same age as them but more mature. Then they find out I have a good job and my own place, and I look even better in comparison to the men they know.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:57 PM
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Just the opposite, bad damn, I should do another approach, don’t want to end on a low note, good wow, I should do another approach, keep this vibe going
/r/seduction30/10/19 02:15 PM
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Nope, I have no idea
/r/seduction17/10/19 04:38 PM
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Can you talk to any girls? Any strangers? You might have social anxiety, fix that first before anything else.
/r/seduction17/10/19 03:36 PM
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She’s your ex for a reason, even if she was trying to meet up with you, you shouldn’t be thinking/spending so much time with her, you do you brother
/r/seduction29/09/19 09:58 AM
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Tom torrero is proof that if your old and ugly you can still get hot women.
/r/seduction19/09/19 05:19 PM
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What did you say?
/r/seduction09/09/19 06:55 PM
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This is more when you are starting a conversation or a new topic. Instead of asking say, what do you do for a living, make a statement and assumption, you look like a because . Asking follow up questions is good but make sure the questions you ask can’t be answered with one word; yes, no, good, etc. -What was your favorite part? -I loved... vs -How was that? -Fun
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:28 PM
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Those are not IOIs, it sounds like you put yourself in friendzone, she does not see you as a potential boyfriend/lover. Learn how to spike attraction and make the conversation more man to woman. A good way to know if the conversation to not sexually charged enough is to ask, could I see myself having this take with a male friend?
/r/seduction23/08/19 01:37 PM
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And when I take these clothes off you’ll want to call me Superman
/r/seduction22/08/19 12:53 PM
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Your negs don’t have any pull to them. So a push immediately after the opener will lower your SMV. You need to understand what a good neg is before you start using them so quickly.
/r/seduction21/08/19 05:07 PM
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Dude, this sounds like you need therapy
/r/seduction16/08/19 02:52 AM
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Recently got a new job, was much more relaxed and confident during interviews. Also have a better understanding how to get someone to like me over the course of a conversation.
/r/seduction14/08/19 09:08 PM
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Watch Tom Torero beginners guide to day game, this ugly dude knows his shit
/r/seduction08/08/19 01:53 PM
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Go to this park, hit on other girls. This girl will just play games, even if she says she interested, the second you show interest she will totally change.
/r/seduction07/08/19 04:15 PM
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Wait, you’re into her but you don’t flirt with her? Unless you tell her it’s a date you are just two friends.
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:04 AM
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Look up Tom Torero beginner day game on YouTube, you well get a good base on how to approach women during the day. And trust me it works.
/r/seduction05/08/19 04:01 PM
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Yea that sounds miserable, I think it has changed a bit, girls are better at recognizing canned material
/r/seduction04/08/19 12:11 AM
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I get numbers pretty easily, 50%ish. I suck at texting and don’t always follow up so a lot of girls end there. If I get them out on a date, between 40-50% of the time we’ll eventually have sex. Not necessarily on the first date, within first 3 dates.
/r/seduction03/08/19 11:46 PM
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Look up Tom terrero (spelling?) beginner day game, he take out two guys and teaches them the basics to approaching during the day. If you do that 100 time you will lose all nervousness.
/r/seduction01/08/19 10:31 PM
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Never give your number to a girl, weak move. Women love a man who is in control, dominating. Take the lead and ask for her number. And you can ask her out so she knows you’re not just a friend, you are a potential lover.
/r/seduction28/06/19 11:50 AM
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10 girls in a year is way to little, you probably are very awkward and nervous from lack of experience. When you are trying to gain experience in flirting, you could easily be approaching 20+ a week. And remember to reflect on what you did well and what you did poorly on each interaction.
/r/seduction29/05/19 03:23 PM
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Haha I’ve has a lot of relationships last <1 year
/r/seduction17/05/19 02:12 PM
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Let me tell you, I got my first real gf at 18 and it was amazing, always having someone to talk to and everything else in your life, sneaking out to be with each other, exploring each other’s bodies. High school is an amazing time to have a gf. It may hurt when it’s over, but that is something you’re gonna experience throughout life.
/r/seduction17/05/19 01:59 PM
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Low and slow
/r/seduction16/05/19 03:06 PM
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First of all, I would suggest flirting with everyone. This will be great practice for you, and as the man you never have to ask for their number. It will also build you confidence. Next I would say don’t set your goal to get laid right away, if you fail you are just going to feel worst about yourself. If you have AA start with “approach x women this week” then when you have no problem approaching step it up, “get x numbers in a week” “go on x dates” “get laid” “get a fuck buddy” etc.
/r/seduction15/05/19 08:18 PM
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Not everything rare is valuable, your premise is flawed
/r/seduction12/05/19 10:37 PM
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I want someone who knows and acts like they like me, never put up with that wishy washy crap
/r/seduction24/04/19 11:04 PM
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We have no idea what you are doing so can’t do anything but give general advice you probably see/read all the time. You want good and honest feedback, record some approaches and post them. You can just use the audio on your phone.
/r/seduction11/04/19 03:27 PM
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90% of what I know about dating, flirting, etc. is from experience. Go out and take it one step at a time. First start approaching women, then try for numbers, then dates, and so on. The sooner you start the sooner you will be experienced.
/r/seduction06/04/19 04:28 AM
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Don’t ask boring questions or any questions that can be answered with a yes or no.
/r/seduction15/03/19 12:47 AM
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Go out with younger women, nothing wrong with fooling around with a 21 yo if that’s what you (both) want
/r/seduction09/03/19 02:50 PM
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You can but don’t plan every little detail, hey let’s get drinks next Thursday over let’s get drinks at 8 on Thursday at xyz. This gives you a reason to check if your still on the night before or morning of the date without seeming needy to hammer out the final details.
/r/seduction07/03/19 04:08 PM
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You probably became more relaxed and it showed. I normally have to do about 5 approaches to get in the right headspace.
/r/seduction02/03/19 03:04 PM
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Yea kinda, just know you don’t have to text a girl all the time, you don’t always have to respond right away
/r/seduction02/03/19 02:56 PM
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Sounds like you know you are texting boring stuff, if you haven’t been on a few dates yet stay away from that everyday-bullshit texts
/r/seduction02/03/19 05:53 AM
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I am so much better at interviewing
/r/seduction16/02/19 08:51 PM
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What kinda messages are you sending these girls?
/r/seduction12/02/19 11:35 PM
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Fake boyfriend, ie she is catching feelings, you shouldn’t go if you have no intention of dating her
/r/seduction09/02/19 12:20 AM
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On dates, a girl talking about sex is a good thing, she currently has sex on her mind. Say fucking anything to include yourself in her sexual thoughts; that’s so hot, I’d love for you to do that to me, whatever. Incorporate touching, starting innocently and becoming more sexual. Then work on inviting her back to yours. You can just approach a girl and ask for sex. Idk about female friends talking about their boyfriends. Tell them to stop?
/r/seduction08/02/19 07:50 PM
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Don’t approach women when frustrated or with the expectation of failure, women will be able to pick up on this. It’s like that old expression, if you think you can do it you’re right, if you think you can’t do it you’re right.
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:36 AM
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Wait, has she ever come home with you? What happens physically? Has she explicitly told you she doesn’t wanna have sex? Details man.
/r/seduction22/01/19 12:55 AM
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Have you invited her back to your after the dates?
/r/seduction22/01/19 12:37 AM
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Aim low?
/r/seduction06/01/19 01:43 AM
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Don’t do it
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:42 PM
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Dude unless you are one of the most attractive people on the planet, you are not gonna get numbers doing this. You need to start a conversation first, doesn’t need to be long. But the longer and more memorable your first interaction is, then she will respond more positively to you later on.
/r/seduction24/09/18 06:20 PM
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Yes
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:36 PM
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I hate to be that guy, but there is tons of information on texting on the side bar. If you’re on mobile, go to community info.
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:30 PM
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This guy knows what’s up
/r/seduction12/09/18 11:46 AM
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Do you like bread? Ended up at her place with pizza.
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:49 AM
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I’ll both succeed and fail over and over again, “failure” is never ending
/r/seduction30/08/18 04:01 PM
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Going forward, when asking a girl out you should Call her, don’t underestimate the power of an actual phone call; in person > phone call > text Ask her to a specific event, date, and time. Ex “Hey you, wanna get drinks on Thursday? I can pick you up at 7:30.”
/r/seduction30/08/18 03:48 PM
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The closest thing I have to social media Snapchat, and I’m doing great. As long as you’re not weird in person, not having social media I think has you come off as more mature.
/r/seduction29/08/18 12:33 PM
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The ones who are willing to meet you, yes. I’m assuming it’s the same for men.
/r/seduction29/08/18 02:21 AM
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Personally I never buy a girl a drink the night I meet her. If we are going out for drinks sure. When girls ask me to buy them a drink I jokingly flip it on them. “ It’s 2018, aren’t you a feminist? You should buy me a drink.”
/r/seduction28/08/18 01:48 PM
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I have a small notebook that when I was first starting I wrote down all my interactions and what I could have done to improve. Consciously going over experiences really helped me improve.
/r/seduction27/08/18 02:09 AM
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That’s not the right mentality, no sex and the time spent with women is a disappointment. If you’re on a dry spell I get it, but you come off so much better if sex is something you can take it or leave it.
/r/seduction17/08/18 04:29 PM
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Why is sex the only win in your mind? Like you can have good dates and not fuck. You sound kinda pushy for sex which can be a major turn off.
/r/seduction17/08/18 03:25 PM
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I have no idea where you are struggling at so, if you are at the date/hangout stage, make the conversation sexual. You need to get her thinking about sex but also you need to be relaxed. If a girl tells you she has had threesomes don’t respond with and over eager “really!?” More of a “cool/nice” and move on.
/r/seduction15/08/18 05:56 PM
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You really shouldn’t ask to hangout then plan the date with them, ask them out. “Hey wanna (event) on (day) at (time)?” If they are interested in you but truly can’t make it, they will ask for a different day or time. It’s a good way to gauge interest.
/r/seduction15/08/18 01:44 AM
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If it’s girls you are flirting with asking the question, answer with, “yea I’ve never even kissed a girl” in a joking tone with a smile.
/r/seduction14/08/18 11:41 AM
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I’m 27 and have had girls ask me “are you even old enough to drink”. Mostly it’s in a joking tone, but I found it’s best to just roll with it no matter what, “no, I’m actually 12” 😁
/r/seduction13/08/18 09:08 PM
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I haven’t read any books on seduction, just go and experience conversation, talk to anybody and you will get better at talking to everyone
/r/seduction12/08/18 10:41 PM
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It’s girls you don’t even or barely know, how do you know their value besides “she’s hot” there are millions of hot girls, you should feel like you have more value than hot.
/r/seduction10/08/18 10:35 PM
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When telling a story describe how it hit your senses, touch, taste, sight, smell, and sound. Don’t just say, “then I saw the sunrise on the beach it was beautiful” more descriptive, “then, After staying out all night, my head was pounding, the sun started to rise, and I could smell the saltwater, and hear the seagulls, and the bright colors of the sky hit me in a way I just felt happy and couldn’t not smile” descriptive words.
/r/seduction10/08/18 10:31 PM
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Fear only happens in moments that matter, unfortunately it seems you do not capitalize on those moments. You need to learn that a moment of rejection is nothing compared to a life of regret.
/r/seduction10/08/18 08:55 PM
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Unless you are in a committed relationship, you should never put most of your effort into one girl. Especially if that girl is in a relationship. I’m not gonna pretend that I know what it’s like to have asperger’s, but you sound like you’re hung up on this one girl. Maybe you should stop hanging out with her until you can see her as just a friend.
/r/seduction10/08/18 08:08 PM
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Be willing to talk to everyone and make the conversation fun, doesn’t have to be sexual. Don’t put so much effort into chasing girls, it’s a turn off. Being comfortable having a conversation with anyone takes time, but you are so young, really. You wanna start having experiences, a job (I recommend lifeguard), go to concerts, and take trips when you can, and hobbies so you have things to talk about besides pop culture. If you think you need therapy because of how you view yourself then do it. Mo…
/r/seduction10/08/18 07:45 PM
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I don’t see how that would improve your game, it could help if you have anxiety.
/r/seduction10/08/18 06:22 PM
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Be interesting, have other things in your life; hobbies, job, trips and events planed. And speak with emotions, you won’t spark interest talking about logistics.
/r/seduction10/08/18 06:21 PM
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Is there no other girl you are interested in? And you can bring anyone as long as you have a good energy they will have fun!
/r/seduction10/08/18 05:58 PM
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I’m wondering why you want to bring a girl who has a boyfriend who you have feelings for over someone else?
/r/seduction10/08/18 04:21 PM
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Common shit test, just say ok and escalate as you normally would. I’ve had girls say this on 1st dates and we still end up fucking. Just act like you can take it or leave it.
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:44 PM
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Dude you can ask girls out the day you meet them, and you kinda did but we’re wishy washy. “Hang out”, “sometime”, don’t do that shit. Have a date and something to do when you ask. She suggested the activity, you should have immediately suggested a date. Could have honestly been that night. If she’s an amazing girl don’t wait or someone else will ask her out.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 02:04 PM
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If it’s you friend’s girlfriend’s friend, you’ll probably see her again
/r/seduction30/07/18 11:02 PM
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A lot of girls some need some sort of excuse, for themselves or their friends; food, a drink after the bar closes, listen to me play guitar, anything you two might have talked about doing together, etc. Some girls you can just say, “let’s head to my/your place”, depends on the girl. If you stop the kiss and she keeps trying, teasing is great here, “wait until later”, “wow your really into me”, whatever.
/r/seduction23/07/18 04:48 PM
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Yes, but after a makeout and groping she and everyone around you knows what you want/expect when she goes home with you, plausible deniability is for the people around you
/r/seduction20/07/18 08:47 PM
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Kinda, making out releases the sexual tension, you wanna keep building on it until you are somewhere you can release it fully.
/r/seduction20/07/18 08:37 PM
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I personally don’t make out in clubs or bars. Give the girl a good kiss, then pull away before she wants to, look in her eyes with intensity and smile. Have her wanting more then invite her back to your place.
/r/seduction20/07/18 04:03 PM
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Something referencing your interaction, an inside joke or whatever
/r/seduction17/07/18 11:03 PM
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Always approach if you feel like maybe you should. Unless you’re a weirdo, the worst case scenario is that you missed out on meeting someone new. The things you are afraid of, rejection and judgment, won’t matter to any of those people in an hour.
/r/seduction16/07/18 03:05 PM
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