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I am a woman who has dated younger men and I do honestly feel triggered when I hear stories about grooming bc although it does happen I just don’t want to be grouped in that category that all age gap relationships are doomed to fail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:09 PM
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I will say I have also had female therapists that weren’t helpful either bc I felt they patronized me. Last one was LGBTQ+ and POC as well but I would omit info from her bc I felt judgement from her. I never feel that way with my new therapist but she is still disciplinary (which is the kind of therapist I need). It takes time to find one who fits you.
/r/askFDS28/05/21 05:31 PM
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Loser. Fuck him. Have you tried using online therapy?
/r/askFDS28/05/21 05:29 PM
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I would advise against it personally but that’s me, depends on how educated he is in female topics imo - and if he comes off unbiased which is almost impossible. My therapist is a POC lesbian woman and she’s the best.
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:48 AM
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Love bombers will most likely be the men who abuse you in some way shape or form bc they are narcissists that’s why I warn especially against those
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:46 AM
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Love bombing especially for younger girls I would say 25 and under who haven’t been dating for as long should really be careful w these guys
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:43 AM
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Thank you for all the support. I really needed it. Hope my silence will speak volumes
/r/askFDS28/05/21 12:34 AM
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Fuck yeah!
/r/askFDS28/05/21 12:19 AM
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Thank you 🥺
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:19 PM
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I’m going to. I decided to buy the coal burner again on Amazon so I’m already prepared to never see him again.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:04 PM
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I realize that now and it’s not empowering at all. I’m ashamed of myself but I do want to change this part about me
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:00 PM
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This opened my eyes, he’s not a friend
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:59 PM
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Thank you I’m so grateful for everyone here ❤️
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:51 PM
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Yeah I’m looking back at it and I’m just like wow, this boring ass male who all he does is provide me validation like why am I spending time with him? I’m still trying not to be a pickme
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:48 PM
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Thank you. I don’t think I will but would blocking him be too mean?
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:36 PM
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No reason he’s just a narcissist but trust me it’s not because he cares. I had a FWB also be cold with me bc I was disrespecting him in front of his face when I was shitfaced sending another guy emojis (this FWB is the one who doesn’t even respect me enough to consider a relationship with me so why should he gaf if I keep my options open and if I’m too drunk to care?) don’t let him make you feel bad he is just a narcissist he thinks that just bc he can’t get laid as easily as women can he can po…
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:18 AM
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I have had experiences with these guys and although I don’t always follow FDS guidelines on how I maneuver these relationships (often I give into them sexually) I know that I SHOULD. If you really want to give them a chance prepare to be completely emotionally detached which is near to impossible. I create my distance and just hang out with them out of boredom... but... this is also wrong and do not follow my example as I should be leveling myself up and spending time doing things that are actua…
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:20 AM
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Sounds like my brother and dad now I just try not to indulge them especially not their insane conspiracies about people
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:13 AM
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Currently reading this :)
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:10 AM
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Wow it really inspired me when you said those powerful words in the end. That it was them who are a piece of trash not you when so many men will shame or blame us for THEM sexualizing and objectifying our bodies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:32 PM
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Very true!
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:59 AM
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Well I haven’t found any good men yet but so far, men add nothing to my life... again haven’t found a good man... yet. Maybe one day haha
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:08 AM
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I personally prefer when men right off the first initial text exchanges tell me they’re just interested in meeting new people because then I would know not to emotionally invest but a lot of guys DO lie because they know that some women would cut them off if they are honest (if not all) so you kind of have to go with your gut in these situations and also by paying attention to their actions to me the lack of texting does really feel like he just wants to indirectly tell you he’s not really looki…
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:01 AM
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Literally they are looking for a mom they can have sex with
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:59 AM
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Agreed!!!!
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:40 AM
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You’re so right. The other day I had a dream that this one guy from OLD was going to cancel on a date... and he did 🙄
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:06 AM
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Thank you. I have to say I really appreciate these comments instead of just having say I’m just jealous like I would in another subreddit
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:04 AM
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Very true. And interesting that men can also be pickme’s. Usually the men who like to swoop in when a girl is going through a tough breakup for example
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:37 AM
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This was such a helpful analogy thank you 🥰
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:35 AM
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I did because I saw it as a red flag since he also liked all her photos so I cancelled on the date
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:35 AM
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And men never think women hobbies are valid and always ask me questions like if I like comic books or video games or sports (fine if you like them) but if I say I don’t it’s like OH well what do you like to do? just because they’re not male centered hobbies imo
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:52 PM
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THIS! Literally all of my friends are girls because I actually have things in common with them. What am I going to talk to a guy about? Unless they’re gay we wouldn’t have the same interests.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:51 PM
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Thank you! It was hard to do the block and delete bc I saw (some, albeit a minimal but SOME potential) I went on a blocking spree yesterday on IG of any guys I had matched with on IG and wanted to communicate via social media
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:20 PM
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However, I do think if you are liking ALL of her photos and you are actively pursuing me but you don’t bother liking any of mine he is likely trying to get her attention but she is more out of his reach than me because I’m not that popular on Instagram so it makes me think that I am just not a woman he values bc I’m within his reach 🙄 I was not going to let him have me
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:09 PM
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To my understanding he said it’s a “close” friend so honestly who knows what that means...
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:07 PM
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Sadly I blame libfems for this and I blame the phenomenon of libfems because of men and women feeling pressured to take back their power
/r/askFDS10/05/21 07:26 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️❤️
/r/askFDS24/04/21 10:06 PM
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My biggest worry I guess is facing rejection because of my appearance because I don’t want to let that be the reason why I relapse. So right now I don’t want to date until I feel more confident
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:45 PM
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Thank you! You have no idea how powerful that was for me especially having an ED. I am stronger now in trying to recover than I was before and I should be proud of my progress. I know it’ll be worth it in the end. And of course my ED was primarily induced by societal beauty standards and thinking my worth only comes from my beauty but I know I have so much more to offer and I’m starting to appreciate those idiosyncrasies more and that the right person will love me for me
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:40 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing. I am sure you are a gorgeous woman inside and out :) I definitely want to improve myself but I know my way of thinking and my perception is crucial and I’m proud that I’m slowly making progress there and it’s okay if I physically am not looking my best
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:36 PM
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I really dislike that he is not respecting your space! he needs to respect your boundaries and right now you want to be alone and you know he’s just an added stressor right now because he’s not going to fix your problem which is your car unless he’s a mechanic, which... is he?
/r/askFDS22/04/21 09:47 PM
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Yeah I def was being too optimistic in that he would hustle to make some money to take me out but that kind of shit only happens in romcoms broke guys don’t do that
/r/askFDS14/04/21 12:17 AM
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Yeah one guy asked me for coffee via IG and he was also upset I said no... and that I was missing out on a great guy
/r/askFDS13/04/21 11:02 PM
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Yeah and I mean one day I will have my own income and a career! But still, I sometimes put myself down because of it :( but I’m American so it’s different
/r/askFDS13/04/21 10:54 PM
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I honestly don’t really believe in attraction building over time, at least not in my case... no.
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:51 PM
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For example, people are always like “give him a chance! You never know!” And so I give them a chance even though I KNOW I am not physically drawn to them.
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:51 PM
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Thank you! Often times I have been the girl who gives guys she doesn’t like a chance because I feel I need to “humble” myself but I need to get out of that mindset
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:50 PM
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This was a helpful read. I already absorbed why men love bitches. It was a great read! Wish there was more. I actually saw there’s some more great reads by that same author and I also purchased another book that was suggested on here too, that one I haven’t read yet. But so far I’ve enjoyed reading all the content that’s recommended on here.
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:48 PM
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Yeah, I work out now whenever I get in my feelings. That’s become my coping mechanism just because ive never been big on napping.
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:46 PM
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I would say my time was wasted but luckily I had zero emotional investment in him because I had no interest in dating him I just wanted to give him a chance but glad he made things easy for me because I don’t need to feel bad for turning him down. He’s also a conventionally attractive male but no matter how good looking you are it doesn’t make up for your toxic personality and also being broke and jobless. He said personal training was one of his businesses and also his art business, which unles…
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:44 PM
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Thank you! Yeah. He really grossed me out with his assertiveness.
/r/askFDS13/04/21 09:41 PM
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Well, my family is always telling me to date someone who is of my ethnic background so I decided to give it a chance. My experience with them just has never been good which is why I am turned off by them. Not to generalize but many are extremely predatory and aggressive and they assume women like me love it and we love their toxic behavior but a lot of us don’t nor do I want to subscribe to that stereotype. For the record I’m Latina and we already get a bad rap for being emotional and toxic whic…
/r/askFDS13/04/21 08:42 PM
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I agree and I’m getting exhausted from it anyway I don’t even have the energy to text a guy
/r/askFDS13/04/21 08:39 PM
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It’s like I stated sometimes I feel like I gotta humble myself cos I’m not even high value bc I haven’t graduated from graduate school yet and I’ve never had a real job and I still live with my parents so I wanted to give him a chance to even though I didn’t like him
/r/askFDS13/04/21 08:32 PM
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And that is also the reason why I am more than kind to broke men and accept their low effort dates simply because I don’t have any money myself so why would I deserve an expensive date? Does anyone else feel this way so they settle for what they think they deserve because of income?
/r/askFDS13/04/21 07:44 PM
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For the record, the reason why I attract low value men is because honestly I don’t feel like I myself am very high value nor do I deserve a high value male and I’m intimidated by them because I’m in graduate school living with my parents and currently have no money. I know this does not define my worth as I am working towards a goal but I often feel like a HVM won’t take me seriously because I don’t have a stable income right now and I am 26 years old. Can I still be high value without a stable …
/r/askFDS13/04/21 07:43 PM
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Guys, he turned out to be a huge gaslighting manipulator. Glad I got out of there quick and he didn’t waste my time!
/r/askFDS13/04/21 07:30 PM
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You guys were right. Blocked and deleted. Felt disrespected by him because he wouldn’t set up a proper date. It was all bluff in my opinion and my friend kept telling me I was impatient but I don’t think I was. How hard is it to clear your schedule when you say you’re interested in someone? There is always time. Do you guys think I was too harsh in blocking him? I didn’t mention one very critical piece of information. We already had sex. We were both drunk and I thought the best way for him to r…
/r/askFDS07/04/21 06:54 AM
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This is super helpful insight thank you! Just want to make sure my judgment isn’t flawed
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:15 PM
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Thanks so much for everyone’s advice. I just started my level up process seriously in March but I’m trying to follow the handbook to a T and currently almost done reading why men love bitches! It’s an addicting read can’t put it down
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:14 PM
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Yeah, it’s pretty exhausting to invest to talking to a lot of people since I don’t really enjoy getting to know someone remotely. Phone calls are okay sometimes - I haven’t even gone on a date with him but I won’t put my eggs all in one basket since there’s still no date planned
/r/askFDS06/04/21 03:52 AM
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From what I have heard cos I’ve been following her for a while she always says he’s bougie and has money!
/r/askFDS05/04/21 06:27 PM
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My ex literally told me that posting thirst traps made him uncomfortable and they were BARELY that. In that moment I wanted to tone it down but now looking back I’m thinking that I should post whatever I want because I want to and not do things a certain way just to get their attention or to prove something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:51 AM
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I don’t want this to offend you but why have you not blocked and deleted? he really is not a person you need to remain in contact with even as acquaintances. you won’t feel better until you erase him
/r/askFDS04/04/21 10:29 PM
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I had one when I was 16 and never again. He also said I was overweight which wasn’t even relevant at the time
/r/askFDS04/04/21 10:28 PM
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I did that and he wouldn’t budge so he did me a favor lmao he was genuinely angry that I said no to coffee
/r/askFDS04/04/21 01:04 AM
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Honestly he’s all you need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:29 PM
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For me I just don’t feel anything but I feel maybe you find him so repulsive your body is legit rejecting him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:45 AM
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You are the one that wins by dumping him. He doesn’t win
/r/askFDS03/04/21 02:47 AM
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Thank you 😊
/r/askFDS02/04/21 09:13 PM
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Yes I’ve heard of that one too! Thank you! And I’m going to look into the wiki too
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:27 PM
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Yeah. That’s not the Steve Harvey one is it? Because if it is I kinda refuse to read it 😂
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:20 PM
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Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. They will leave on their terms when they’ve had enough :/ you really can’t make that decision for them. With my longterm ex I was constantly told by all my friends to leave him but I didn’t leave until I had enough.
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:10 PM
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Before FDS I was so desperate I would have freaked out over something like this but unfortunately the reality is like what everyone says... they are talking to other girls. Of course they never say that but that’s exactly what they’re doing.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 08:15 PM
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Personally I just like my hitachi
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:55 PM
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I met some cute guy on bumble, well matched cos I won’t even give him the chance to meet me now. Maybe I’m high maintenance but yesterday around 1 he said he was going to work on his paper. I didn’t hear back and I consulted with a friend and she just said to text him so I did... conversation was flowing fine. He responds quick. Anyway, I fall asleep and don’t respond to his last text on purpose because I wanted to see if he would text me this morning or today. Still hasn’t. I likely will not ta…
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:50 PM
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so I feel like the guys who complain about girls doing any of this kind of stuff tbh is just because they’re mad they can’t fuck them or don’t want to pay for their content. so... in other words they have no respect for women or let alone you and think it would be cool to bond with you over some stupid shit like that. Ew. Drop him
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:44 PM
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Definitely a hard no. I actually had a gut instinct with someone I was dating recently that he was keeping his options open because well, he never asked me to be his girlfriend after well over 3 months of dating. Anyway, this girl showed up on my suggested on Instagram. And the only mutual follower we had was him. I just KNEW it was literally a psychic moment my intuition provided me so never ever EVER doubt your gut. It’s not just you being anxious. It has you on fight or flight mode for a REAS…
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:08 PM
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Never... I mean, usually the only time I’ll mention it is because they start talking about it and then I’ll be like yeah, it’s happened to me too. However in general I never really bring that conversation up? I don’t know. Maybe that’s just me? I think it’s normal to talk about ex’s though to an extent.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 02:11 PM
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Someone had to say it!
/r/askFDS01/04/21 03:48 AM
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I don’t feel right ghosting her but I am slowly detaching
/r/askFDS31/03/21 08:17 PM
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I think it’s a red flag if they say everyone they’ve been with has cheated on them bc the probability of that just doesn’t seem likely or they have horrible luck.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:57 PM
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I don’t want to be friends with her because she’s not even a good friend to begin with
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:56 PM
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yeah I apologize I don’t think I’m allowed to post in the main sub
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:55 PM
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I dated someone who said he’s been cheated on by everyone he’s been with... so, suspicious
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:15 PM
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None actually just a warning
/r/askFDS31/03/21 06:05 PM
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That’s how I feel for sure. I just think she’s a deeply disturbed individual. I’m insecure too but that doesn’t mean I’m going to fuck around with a married guy... she just hasn’t had it done to her so she has no idea how bad it feels to be cheated on.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 05:28 PM
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Yeah. What upsets me is that she’s had the damn nerve to use me to cheat on her boyfriend. One time she left her bf and his friends with me cos she said she wanted to hang alone with me and I was cool with it turns out she then tells me the married dude is coming. I haven’t seen her since that day because it genuinely pissed me off.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 05:21 PM
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Exactly what upsets me really is that this isn’t the first time. She’s gone for married men before and it makes no sense she’s attracted to them. It seems like she just gets off degrading men
/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:43 PM
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It’s just like she’s never been cheated on so she does not know how it feels... I just honestly don’t want to be friends with someone who has little regard for this man’s wife. Could you imagine the pain she is in? And she’s convinced he’s a “good guy” but they deserve each other they’re both horrible people
/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:42 PM
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One guy I dated did this to me and it was a huge turn off he wanted me to delete my dating apps after our first date and would also snap me if I didn’t respond and send several messages on IG or something like that. Huge turn off. Doesn’t talk to me at all now thank god.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 06:04 AM
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I mean for myself because honestly yeah he doesn’t see me as worthy
/r/askFDS26/03/21 07:10 PM
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Agreed I think he was lonely and horny and I was available learned my lesson now to avoid love bombers
/r/askFDS26/03/21 07:10 PM
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How can you work on being a better person when your environment directly impacts your self esteem and creates negativity as well? I’m sure people will tell me to just leave my house but financially I can’t right now so how do I combat those feelings and keep working on being confident and loving myself
/r/askFDS25/03/21 05:24 PM
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I’m not sure why people are downvoting you. That is what most people tell me too. It’s hard to stop caring about finding “love” but I want to change my perspective on non platonic love and stop feeling like I need it
/r/askFDS25/03/21 05:22 PM
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I need to look more into that
/r/askFDS24/03/21 10:27 PM
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I am and on several medications already it doesn’t help that I decided to take adderall today and I know that’s a trigger for me
/r/askFDS24/03/21 10:27 PM
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Yeah I agree it’s definitely not helping me feeling tempted to look at his social media not that I have but still
/r/askFDS24/03/21 08:48 PM
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This was not him. This was another ex who actually broke it off with me because I was texting him and calling him way too much when I was abroad. I’ve learned to control that now but still, he must have outgrown his feelings for me. He also never gave me another chance he just blocked me everywhere and was done with me after that which I get it’s not attractive behavior and I really have been active in changing that about me.
/r/askFDS24/03/21 08:22 PM
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Where can I find it? Also, he is not changing for me he wants zero to do with me he’s changing for himself which is you know good for him I guess but he’s never even truly apologized for anything he did to me
/r/askFDS24/03/21 07:58 PM
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He was definitely not high value to me... at all. What upsets me is that he likely WILL be high value for someone else and not for me and that makes me wonder what wasn’t good enough about me for him to want to be better for?
/r/askFDS24/03/21 07:48 PM
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Yeah exactly lol well I just stopped texting him tbh bc I’m not even that interested anyway
/r/askFDS23/03/21 01:54 AM
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It’s definitely annoying me just stopped responding
/r/askFDS23/03/21 01:54 AM
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Definitely I think it’s the same for me it’s also not very wise from an evolutionary aspect to reveal all of yourself to someone so soon shouldn’t you be more cautious you know? so it makes sense that it would turn us off like that because those people are too trusting and would be eaten alive by not moving in silence
/r/askFDS22/03/21 11:02 PM
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Hahaha yeah I see you are not into texting. I’m fine with it but like it’s too much sometimes I need like an hour or so in between sometimes and I am more excited about people who don’t come off overly desperate through text. Rarely do I find someone with the perfect balance they usually text too much or too little :/
/r/askFDS22/03/21 10:26 PM
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I believe my brother to be a high value male and a great partner to his gf and he has two older sisters so it’s possible
/r/askFDS15/03/21 03:03 AM
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You’re not wrong
/r/askFDS13/03/21 05:02 AM
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I can see that but even if I date someone for a long time I want them to get into the habit of texting me first because those are my standards now thanks to FDS :)
/r/askFDS12/03/21 06:47 PM
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Yessss okay cool keeping that in mind for when I date someone.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 06:35 PM
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I agree and yeah I am not a fan of bumble either!
/r/askFDS12/03/21 05:52 PM
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Yep. Have a friend who will ditch me for some dick. Now that she has nothing to vent to me about and use me for emotional labor she barely talks to me... also, because she doesn’t like that I tell her this guy sucks. Oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:10 PM
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Last guy I dated was like this and my only regret was that I djdnt end things sooner! I don’t really believe a guy is a bad texter I think sadly they’re just not that interested and it’s a shitty reality to accept but it’s the truth
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:54 PM
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wow we sound very similar??? rising is also Aquarius
/r/askFDS10/03/21 03:49 PM
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Would really love a female supervisor if possible for the future :/ tired of having male predecessors
/r/askFDS10/03/21 03:44 AM
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Yeah he’s basically like what you described :/ my professors value him more as an individual than me
/r/askFDS10/03/21 02:51 AM
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I wouldn’t mind just chatting outside of Reddit :) I’m in Florida haha 😆
/r/askFDS10/03/21 01:59 AM
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I’ve made friends here now because unfortunately my female friends IRL do not want to be proactive in ending their pandering to men and I refuse to indulge them.
/r/askFDS09/03/21 10:50 PM
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Testing this
/r/askFDS09/03/21 10:48 PM
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Yeah it was so gross and he said it to be hurtful in my opinion. I don’t want to make this a horoscope thing but like scorpios tend to be extremely emotionally manipulative. I have a lot of scorpio in my chart but I’m a Sagittarius and I don’t try to emotionally manipulate people
/r/askFDS09/03/21 04:37 PM
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I don’t think I did know but I know if I go on my blocked list I know where to find him but I haven’t done that cos I know reaching out to someone who doesn’t even like me or care a kid me is just doing a disservice to myself
/r/askFDS09/03/21 04:36 PM
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God... disgusting. I hate when they turn it over to you. This one guy kept harassing me Bc I said I wasn’t interested and he’s like “just want you to know I’m here if you’re ever feeling manic or depressed that’s what friends are for” I barely know this guy and he’s def not someone I would ever feel comfortable talking about my mental health with. I get the vibe he will just tell me everyone experiences this shit and I just need to be “strong” and get over it. God I hate men. All of them. Lmao.
/r/askFDS09/03/21 09:21 AM
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Yesss exactly it’s like they’re dead Bc they are to you anyway and that’s where they belong OUT of your life
/r/askFDS09/03/21 09:20 AM
5

It was hard to do but once I did I have felt so much better now I’m on day 3 and I still haven’t looked back and hope this will continue! And yeah I agree. Nothing about that experience was positive he was NV
/r/askFDS09/03/21 09:19 AM
5

I dated a guy who was like this he 100% just wanted someone he could use for emotional labor and also wanted to stroke his ego like all the other women here have stated. also, don’t fall for the “good morning” text that should be a requirement from any guy worth dating tbh.
/r/askFDS09/03/21 12:13 AM
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honestly... I haven’t even been thinking that and if I keep up this energy that he really isn’t worth my time I don’t see myself thinking about him again by next week. he doesn’t deserve to be in your head I am sure. almost no man deserves that
/r/askFDS08/03/21 11:33 PM
1

I feel better I guess I’m kind of sad but that’s for other reasons not involving him I think my sadness is for other more personal reasons and also just loneliness
/r/askFDS08/03/21 11:04 PM
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Thanks! Day 2 no contact
/r/askFDS08/03/21 11:04 PM
1

No it shows up on recent I think in general. He’s blocked anyway and when I feel comfortable looking at his number again I’ll do that but right now just going back to my blocked list is going to trigger me
/r/askFDS08/03/21 01:49 PM
1

iPhone shows people on recents even if you block and deleted not sure how to take them off either
/r/askFDS08/03/21 12:20 PM
7

It can be quite a lonely experience honestly maybe that is what you’re afraid of to? I’ve noticed that since I’ve stopped settling for LV or NV behavior I am extremely lonely but ultimately I know that this is better for me. I’ll try to fill my time studying and focusing on my career instead or reach out to friends and family when I’m feeling lonely in need of human interaction. It’s an adjustment for me because all my life I’ve been seeking out the perfect male suitor, I’m not saying I’ve given…
/r/askFDS06/03/21 08:20 PM
1

It’s hard to be a HV person when I’m surrounded by so many LV people including my family
/r/askFDS06/03/21 02:59 AM
1

I do have a few friends who do not seem to help me in deviating from that behavior because they seem to actually condone that behavior themselves which doesn’t help so sometimes I don’t really see the point in enriching my friendships when they’re always going to pick a LVM over a friendship with me. It sucks. One of those friendships in particular has been negatively impacting me and it has nothing to do with a relationship involving a male and me, just how her influence seems to be a bad influ…
/r/askFDS05/03/21 09:14 PM
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Yeah I agree, I would say I am not actively looking at the moment but I still use them when I am bored and looking for a distraction. However, I would not even consider that a relationship it was def just a situationship because he kept prolonging commitment
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:58 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Not feeling 100% fulfilled. I never thought about it that way. Sometimes with guys who overstimulate me and overwhelm me I feel overly fulfilled (obv not in a good way if that makes sense) and then with some I’ll feel underfulfilled like this guy so clearly I can make the distinction between the two it is just finding the balance that confuses me. It also does not help that I have a mental illness and doubt myself a lot and often find my logic to be irrational even tho…
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:53 PM
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Thank you. To be honest since I’ve joined I’ve been a lot more choosy. I’m still on dating apps but no man seems to be even really worth my time so I don’t respond usually. I’m not in any rush to find a quality HVM but I def will not let a LVM into my life again and so far I haven’t had much difficulty making that distinction or at the very least just knowing I won’t be interested. I feel maybe I am being too picky and I feel guilty about that? Should I really feel guilty about being TOO picky?
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:43 PM
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I was so confused because he would be super emotionally supportive, yet he would ruin opportunities to connect with me emotionally by attempting to sext me. I feel stupid for doubting myself and just believing he was unaware and innocent.
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:27 PM
1

Well... I decided to emotionally invest into a guy who was trying to sext me the second night we were texting he apologized profusely and I saw him as being just not self-aware. I still am confused... is he really just not self-aware or did he absolutely know what he was doing? Can men really be that stupid? Was he testing my boundaries? I doubt my own intuition so much.
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:19 PM
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So what I’m understanding is to overall safeguard your heart and not invest emotionally regardless if they are HVM or not? This is definitely hard for me but I agree it’s going to help me moving forward in finding that HVM which I haven’t found yet. I got emotionally invested with a LVM for the reasons you stated above and it’s still been hard to emotionally detach but ultimately I have and it hurts less and less every day. There was red flags early on and I still beat myself up for not cutting …
/r/askFDS05/03/21 08:02 PM
2

So what stood out to me is that you said to not put out until they gave you a title well I def put out very early on so he really had zero reason to want to commit to me
/r/askFDS04/03/21 04:30 AM
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Thank you. 🥲 he hurt me a lot and I need to love myself more enough to just leave he’s not innocent
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:47 AM
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I don’t know like I need to just block him thinking about his response will never help me move on
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:46 AM
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I ended up texting him so I know now I have to block him otherwise he will keep texting me good morning to have control over me I don’t think it’s because he likes me he just wants validation
/r/askFDS04/03/21 12:09 AM
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I fucking caved in and texted him how I felt now I feel so pathetic I think I’m going to need to block him
/r/askFDS04/03/21 12:08 AM
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Doing my best! Honestly the only time I’m ever really thinking about it profoundly is when I wake up in the middle of the night but it would be worse to prolong things tbh and continue to be disappointed it’s the three month mark I gotta cut it loose before it gets worse
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:51 PM
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Yep. Same here. Feel that. It’s been hard af to just stop talking completely but it’s only the first day. Kinda hoping after a week of this I’ll be alright. Just yeah maybe it’s a bit of an ego thing for me too like why where they so deserving of his commitment but not me?
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:30 PM
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Was hard and I still am thinking about it but today marks the first day with absolutely zero communication and I want to stick with it I was already distancing myself but I finally completely cut the string off.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 08:10 PM
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I agree and it makes me also think about the other girls he was with who he did commit to like what’s wrong with me that he can’t commit to me?
/r/askFDS03/03/21 08:09 PM
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Yeah he def won’t and I guess they’re a good distraction but they tend to be crazy too I mean he’s also insane but I don’t want to keep meeting crazy men either
/r/askFDS03/03/21 02:15 AM
4

What do you mean by use old? Never heard of that before and yeah I was never exclusive to him but I never disclosed that. I’m slowly getting over him though he’s sort of just there. I haven’t fully blocked him but if he texts me I’m genuinely upset by it bc he could easily leave me alone
/r/askFDS03/03/21 12:48 AM
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I kind of wish we could talk personally so you can show me what this guy looks like and I can roast the shit out of him. Feel free to PM me. Not sure if anyone else agrees that this is a healthy coping mechanism but it usually helps me anyway I understand it’s prob not ideal though.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 11:51 PM
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Thank you 😊 you’re absolutely right
/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:54 PM
3

You’re so right. Today has just been a shitty day for me and it has nothing to do with him he sucks though
/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:45 PM
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Thank you! I’m just tired of even wasting my breath on him. What is waiting for the end of his semester even going to prove??? It sounds like an excuse tbh.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:13 PM
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You’re right lol actually like my life is being disrupted right now cos of him too like do you ever feel that when someone is not good for you they start to negatively impact other areas of your life too?? Not just romantically? Usually that’s a tell tale sign for me not just how they make me feel emotionally but like if work starts to go bad for me or I start to fail classes that’ll be a sign for me and I shouldn’t even allow for it to get to that point
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:00 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 05:42 PM
1

Can you explain abundance mentality? I’ve never heard of this before but I am sure it will really help me!
/r/askFDS02/03/21 04:09 PM
5

This sounds like the guy I was dating. He made me feel horrible. I think at some point you have to let that man go and put yourself first but of course that’s always easier said than done. I’m still struggling myself but now when he texts me he actually ruins my fucking day because he could leave me alone instead and stop stringing me along. I’m still contemplating blocking him bc I’m conflicted but I’m sure once I do life will start to fall back into place. Does he also disrupt other areas of y…
/r/askFDS02/03/21 04:04 PM
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Thank you. I guess you are right
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