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I am a woman who has dated younger men and I do honestly feel triggered when I hear stories about grooming bc although it does happen I just don’t want to be grouped in that category that all age gap relationships are doomed to fail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:09 PM
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I will say I have also had female therapists that weren’t helpful either bc I felt they patronized me. Last one was LGBTQ+ and POC as well but I would omit info from her bc I felt judgement from her. I never feel that way with my new therapist but she is still disciplinary (which is the kind of therapist I need). It takes time to find one who fits you.
/r/askFDS28/05/21 05:31 PM
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Loser. Fuck him. Have you tried using online therapy?
/r/askFDS28/05/21 05:29 PM
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I would advise against it personally but that’s me, depends on how educated he is in female topics imo - and if he comes off unbiased which is almost impossible. My therapist is a POC lesbian woman and she’s the best.
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:48 AM
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Love bombers will most likely be the men who abuse you in some way shape or form bc they are narcissists that’s why I warn especially against those
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:46 AM
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Love bombing especially for younger girls I would say 25 and under who haven’t been dating for as long should really be careful w these guys
/r/askFDS28/05/21 07:43 AM
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Thank you for all the support. I really needed it. Hope my silence will speak volumes
/r/askFDS28/05/21 12:34 AM
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Fuck yeah!
/r/askFDS28/05/21 12:19 AM
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Thank you 🥺
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:19 PM
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I’m going to. I decided to buy the coal burner again on Amazon so I’m already prepared to never see him again.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:04 PM
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I realize that now and it’s not empowering at all. I’m ashamed of myself but I do want to change this part about me
/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:00 PM
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This opened my eyes, he’s not a friend
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:59 PM
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Thank you I’m so grateful for everyone here ❤️
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:51 PM
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Yeah I’m looking back at it and I’m just like wow, this boring ass male who all he does is provide me validation like why am I spending time with him? I’m still trying not to be a pickme
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:48 PM
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Thank you. I don’t think I will but would blocking him be too mean?
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:36 PM
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No reason he’s just a narcissist but trust me it’s not because he cares. I had a FWB also be cold with me bc I was disrespecting him in front of his face when I was shitfaced sending another guy emojis (this FWB is the one who doesn’t even respect me enough to consider a relationship with me so why should he gaf if I keep my options open and if I’m too drunk to care?) don’t let him make you feel bad he is just a narcissist he thinks that just bc he can’t get laid as easily as women can he can po…
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:18 AM
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I have had experiences with these guys and although I don’t always follow FDS guidelines on how I maneuver these relationships (often I give into them sexually) I know that I SHOULD. If you really want to give them a chance prepare to be completely emotionally detached which is near to impossible. I create my distance and just hang out with them out of boredom... but... this is also wrong and do not follow my example as I should be leveling myself up and spending time doing things that are actua…
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:20 AM
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Sounds like my brother and dad now I just try not to indulge them especially not their insane conspiracies about people
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:13 AM
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Currently reading this :)
/r/askFDS26/05/21 07:10 AM
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Wow it really inspired me when you said those powerful words in the end. That it was them who are a piece of trash not you when so many men will shame or blame us for THEM sexualizing and objectifying our bodies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:32 PM
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Very true!
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:59 AM
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Well I haven’t found any good men yet but so far, men add nothing to my life... again haven’t found a good man... yet. Maybe one day haha
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:08 AM
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I personally prefer when men right off the first initial text exchanges tell me they’re just interested in meeting new people because then I would know not to emotionally invest but a lot of guys DO lie because they know that some women would cut them off if they are honest (if not all) so you kind of have to go with your gut in these situations and also by paying attention to their actions to me the lack of texting does really feel like he just wants to indirectly tell you he’s not really looki…
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:01 AM
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Literally they are looking for a mom they can have sex with
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:59 AM
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Agreed!!!!
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:40 AM
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You’re so right. The other day I had a dream that this one guy from OLD was going to cancel on a date... and he did 🙄
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:06 AM
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Thank you. I have to say I really appreciate these comments instead of just having say I’m just jealous like I would in another subreddit
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:04 AM
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Very true. And interesting that men can also be pickme’s. Usually the men who like to swoop in when a girl is going through a tough breakup for example
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:37 AM
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This was such a helpful analogy thank you 🥰
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:35 AM
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I did because I saw it as a red flag since he also liked all her photos so I cancelled on the date
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:35 AM
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And men never think women hobbies are valid and always ask me questions like if I like comic books or video games or sports (fine if you like them) but if I say I don’t it’s like OH well what do you like to do? just because they’re not male centered hobbies imo
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:52 PM
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THIS! Literally all of my friends are girls because I actually have things in common with them. What am I going to talk to a guy about? Unless they’re gay we wouldn’t have the same interests.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:51 PM
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Thank you! It was hard to do the block and delete bc I saw (some, albeit a minimal but SOME potential) I went on a blocking spree yesterday on IG of any guys I had matched with on IG and wanted to communicate via social media
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:20 PM
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However, I do think if you are liking ALL of her photos and you are actively pursuing me but you don’t bother liking any of mine he is likely trying to get her attention but she is more out of his reach than me because I’m not that popular on Instagram so it makes me think that I am just not a woman he values bc I’m within his reach 🙄 I was not going to let him have me
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:09 PM
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To my understanding he said it’s a “close” friend so honestly who knows what that means...
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:07 PM
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Sadly I blame libfems for this and I blame the phenomenon of libfems because of men and women feeling pressured to take back their power
/r/askFDS10/05/21 07:26 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️❤️
/r/askFDS24/04/21 10:06 PM
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My biggest worry I guess is facing rejection because of my appearance because I don’t want to let that be the reason why I relapse. So right now I don’t want to date until I feel more confident
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:45 PM
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Thank you! You have no idea how powerful that was for me especially having an ED. I am stronger now in trying to recover than I was before and I should be proud of my progress. I know it’ll be worth it in the end. And of course my ED was primarily induced by societal beauty standards and thinking my worth only comes from my beauty but I know I have so much more to offer and I’m starting to appreciate those idiosyncrasies more and that the right person will love me for me
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:40 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing. I am sure you are a gorgeous woman inside and out :) I definitely want to improve myself but I know my way of thinking and my perception is crucial and I’m proud that I’m slowly making progress there and it’s okay if I physically am not looking my best
/r/askFDS24/04/21 07:36 PM
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I really dislike that he is not respecting your space! he needs to respect your boundaries and right now you want to be alone and you know he’s just an added stressor right now because he’s not going to fix your problem which is your car unless he’s a mechanic, which... is he?
/r/askFDS22/04/21 09:47 PM
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Guys, he turned out to be a huge gaslighting manipulator. Glad I got out of there quick and he didn’t waste my time!
/r/askFDS13/04/21 07:30 PM
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You guys were right. Blocked and deleted. Felt disrespected by him because he wouldn’t set up a proper date. It was all bluff in my opinion and my friend kept telling me I was impatient but I don’t think I was. How hard is it to clear your schedule when you say you’re interested in someone? There is always time. Do you guys think I was too harsh in blocking him? I didn’t mention one very critical piece of information. We already had sex. We were both drunk and I thought the best way for him to r…
/r/askFDS07/04/21 06:54 AM
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This is super helpful insight thank you! Just want to make sure my judgment isn’t flawed
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:15 PM
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Thanks so much for everyone’s advice. I just started my level up process seriously in March but I’m trying to follow the handbook to a T and currently almost done reading why men love bitches! It’s an addicting read can’t put it down
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:14 PM
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Yeah, it’s pretty exhausting to invest to talking to a lot of people since I don’t really enjoy getting to know someone remotely. Phone calls are okay sometimes - I haven’t even gone on a date with him but I won’t put my eggs all in one basket since there’s still no date planned
/r/askFDS06/04/21 03:52 AM
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From what I have heard cos I’ve been following her for a while she always says he’s bougie and has money!
/r/askFDS05/04/21 06:27 PM
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My ex literally told me that posting thirst traps made him uncomfortable and they were BARELY that. In that moment I wanted to tone it down but now looking back I’m thinking that I should post whatever I want because I want to and not do things a certain way just to get their attention or to prove something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:51 AM
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I don’t want this to offend you but why have you not blocked and deleted? he really is not a person you need to remain in contact with even as acquaintances. you won’t feel better until you erase him
/r/askFDS04/04/21 10:29 PM
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I had one when I was 16 and never again. He also said I was overweight which wasn’t even relevant at the time
/r/askFDS04/04/21 10:28 PM
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I did that and he wouldn’t budge so he did me a favor lmao he was genuinely angry that I said no to coffee
/r/askFDS04/04/21 01:04 AM
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Honestly he’s all you need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:29 PM
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For me I just don’t feel anything but I feel maybe you find him so repulsive your body is legit rejecting him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:45 AM
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You are the one that wins by dumping him. He doesn’t win
/r/askFDS03/04/21 02:47 AM
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Thank you 😊
/r/askFDS02/04/21 09:13 PM
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Yes I’ve heard of that one too! Thank you! And I’m going to look into the wiki too
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:27 PM
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Yeah. That’s not the Steve Harvey one is it? Because if it is I kinda refuse to read it 😂
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:20 PM
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Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. They will leave on their terms when they’ve had enough :/ you really can’t make that decision for them. With my longterm ex I was constantly told by all my friends to leave him but I didn’t leave until I had enough.
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:10 PM
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Personally I just like my hitachi
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:55 PM
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Never... I mean, usually the only time I’ll mention it is because they start talking about it and then I’ll be like yeah, it’s happened to me too. However in general I never really bring that conversation up? I don’t know. Maybe that’s just me? I think it’s normal to talk about ex’s though to an extent.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 02:11 PM
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Someone had to say it!
/r/askFDS01/04/21 03:48 AM
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I don’t feel right ghosting her but I am slowly detaching
/r/askFDS31/03/21 08:17 PM
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I think it’s a red flag if they say everyone they’ve been with has cheated on them bc the probability of that just doesn’t seem likely or they have horrible luck.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:57 PM
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I don’t want to be friends with her because she’s not even a good friend to begin with
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:56 PM
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yeah I apologize I don’t think I’m allowed to post in the main sub
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:55 PM
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I dated someone who said he’s been cheated on by everyone he’s been with... so, suspicious
/r/askFDS31/03/21 07:15 PM
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None actually just a warning
/r/askFDS31/03/21 06:05 PM
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That’s how I feel for sure. I just think she’s a deeply disturbed individual. I’m insecure too but that doesn’t mean I’m going to fuck around with a married guy... she just hasn’t had it done to her so she has no idea how bad it feels to be cheated on.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 05:28 PM
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Yeah. What upsets me is that she’s had the damn nerve to use me to cheat on her boyfriend. One time she left her bf and his friends with me cos she said she wanted to hang alone with me and I was cool with it turns out she then tells me the married dude is coming. I haven’t seen her since that day because it genuinely pissed me off.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 05:21 PM
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Exactly what upsets me really is that this isn’t the first time. She’s gone for married men before and it makes no sense she’s attracted to them. It seems like she just gets off degrading men
/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:43 PM
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It’s just like she’s never been cheated on so she does not know how it feels... I just honestly don’t want to be friends with someone who has little regard for this man’s wife. Could you imagine the pain she is in? And she’s convinced he’s a “good guy” but they deserve each other they’re both horrible people
/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:42 PM
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One guy I dated did this to me and it was a huge turn off he wanted me to delete my dating apps after our first date and would also snap me if I didn’t respond and send several messages on IG or something like that. Huge turn off. Doesn’t talk to me at all now thank god.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 06:04 AM
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You’re not wrong
/r/askFDS13/03/21 05:02 AM
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I can see that but even if I date someone for a long time I want them to get into the habit of texting me first because those are my standards now thanks to FDS :)
/r/askFDS12/03/21 06:47 PM
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Yessss okay cool keeping that in mind for when I date someone.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 06:35 PM
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I agree and yeah I am not a fan of bumble either!
/r/askFDS12/03/21 05:52 PM
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Yep. Have a friend who will ditch me for some dick. Now that she has nothing to vent to me about and use me for emotional labor she barely talks to me... also, because she doesn’t like that I tell her this guy sucks. Oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:10 PM
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Last guy I dated was like this and my only regret was that I djdnt end things sooner! I don’t really believe a guy is a bad texter I think sadly they’re just not that interested and it’s a shitty reality to accept but it’s the truth
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:54 PM
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Would really love a female supervisor if possible for the future :/ tired of having male predecessors
/r/askFDS10/03/21 03:44 AM
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Yeah he’s basically like what you described :/ my professors value him more as an individual than me
/r/askFDS10/03/21 02:51 AM
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I wouldn’t mind just chatting outside of Reddit :) I’m in Florida haha 😆
/r/askFDS10/03/21 01:59 AM
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I’ve made friends here now because unfortunately my female friends IRL do not want to be proactive in ending their pandering to men and I refuse to indulge them.
/r/askFDS09/03/21 10:50 PM
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I don’t think I did know but I know if I go on my blocked list I know where to find him but I haven’t done that cos I know reaching out to someone who doesn’t even like me or care a kid me is just doing a disservice to myself
/r/askFDS09/03/21 04:36 PM
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Yesss exactly it’s like they’re dead Bc they are to you anyway and that’s where they belong OUT of your life
/r/askFDS09/03/21 09:20 AM
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It was hard to do but once I did I have felt so much better now I’m on day 3 and I still haven’t looked back and hope this will continue! And yeah I agree. Nothing about that experience was positive he was NV
/r/askFDS09/03/21 09:19 AM
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honestly... I haven’t even been thinking that and if I keep up this energy that he really isn’t worth my time I don’t see myself thinking about him again by next week. he doesn’t deserve to be in your head I am sure. almost no man deserves that
/r/askFDS08/03/21 11:33 PM
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So what stood out to me is that you said to not put out until they gave you a title well I def put out very early on so he really had zero reason to want to commit to me
/r/askFDS04/03/21 04:30 AM
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Thank you. 🥲 he hurt me a lot and I need to love myself more enough to just leave he’s not innocent
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:47 AM
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I don’t know like I need to just block him thinking about his response will never help me move on
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:46 AM
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I ended up texting him so I know now I have to block him otherwise he will keep texting me good morning to have control over me I don’t think it’s because he likes me he just wants validation
/r/askFDS04/03/21 12:09 AM
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I fucking caved in and texted him how I felt now I feel so pathetic I think I’m going to need to block him
/r/askFDS04/03/21 12:08 AM
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Doing my best! Honestly the only time I’m ever really thinking about it profoundly is when I wake up in the middle of the night but it would be worse to prolong things tbh and continue to be disappointed it’s the three month mark I gotta cut it loose before it gets worse
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:51 PM
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Yep. Same here. Feel that. It’s been hard af to just stop talking completely but it’s only the first day. Kinda hoping after a week of this I’ll be alright. Just yeah maybe it’s a bit of an ego thing for me too like why where they so deserving of his commitment but not me?
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:30 PM
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Was hard and I still am thinking about it but today marks the first day with absolutely zero communication and I want to stick with it I was already distancing myself but I finally completely cut the string off.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 08:10 PM
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I agree and it makes me also think about the other girls he was with who he did commit to like what’s wrong with me that he can’t commit to me?
/r/askFDS03/03/21 08:09 PM
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Yeah he def won’t and I guess they’re a good distraction but they tend to be crazy too I mean he’s also insane but I don’t want to keep meeting crazy men either
/r/askFDS03/03/21 02:15 AM
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What do you mean by use old? Never heard of that before and yeah I was never exclusive to him but I never disclosed that. I’m slowly getting over him though he’s sort of just there. I haven’t fully blocked him but if he texts me I’m genuinely upset by it bc he could easily leave me alone
/r/askFDS03/03/21 12:48 AM
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I kind of wish we could talk personally so you can show me what this guy looks like and I can roast the shit out of him. Feel free to PM me. Not sure if anyone else agrees that this is a healthy coping mechanism but it usually helps me anyway I understand it’s prob not ideal though.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 11:51 PM
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Thank you 😊 you’re absolutely right
/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:54 PM
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You’re so right. Today has just been a shitty day for me and it has nothing to do with him he sucks though
/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:45 PM
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Thank you! I’m just tired of even wasting my breath on him. What is waiting for the end of his semester even going to prove??? It sounds like an excuse tbh.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:13 PM
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You’re right lol actually like my life is being disrupted right now cos of him too like do you ever feel that when someone is not good for you they start to negatively impact other areas of your life too?? Not just romantically? Usually that’s a tell tale sign for me not just how they make me feel emotionally but like if work starts to go bad for me or I start to fail classes that’ll be a sign for me and I shouldn’t even allow for it to get to that point
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:00 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 05:42 PM
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Can you explain abundance mentality? I’ve never heard of this before but I am sure it will really help me!
/r/askFDS02/03/21 04:09 PM
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Thank you. I guess you are right
/r/askFDS23/02/21 06:21 PM
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