oricuri Archive

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33	So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔 A long time ago I had something similar happen: Dude I really liked was actually clinically depressed and avoided telling me for a month. We used to have mutual friends, and even they knew. I confronted him after a month of dating. He “offered” me to just meet and “hang out” and obviously have sex. He’s just too depressed for more commitment. Oh, but you are not too depressed to fuck?! 🤣 Mind you, we were talking every day, meeting up for dinner, he always paid… Luckily I was already on my FDS j…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/12/21 09:27 PM
1	FDS is BACK! Omg I was so concerned it was gone too!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/21 05:43 PM
12	My best friend's BF dumped her on the day she got a PROMOTION! A blessing in disguise.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 10:52 AM
19	Be careful around your friends’ boyfriends/husbands. Vet them & NEVER get too comfortable, no matter what. It’s great that the other women recognised her behaviour as desperate and indirectly sided with you. Unfortunately you see too many people believing the “smear campaign”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/07/21 04:28 PM
2	For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok) Women age faster around LVM and being in stressful toxic relationships - I’m not talking about the physical part of aging necessarily, it’s like they become these stressed out closed-minded people with LVM! Every other woman I have seen with HVM or single 35+ has looked amazing, with a fun fashion style and a great young at heart personality. Men suck the life out of you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/06/21 07:30 AM
11	Are there men who don't look at porn? Definitely met some where I believed it enough, I was even in a relationship with a few men that openly expressed disgust towards it. There is no way of confirming this of course, but let’s assume it was true… they were still LVM! 🥲 Oh, and bad in bed. There is no way to know if they are lying or not tho, so it’s best to assume even if they don’t watch it they are bombarded with pornographic-adjacent imagery all the time on the internet.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/06/21 12:16 PM
4	Too little too late. I know him but not his wife, and all I could do was shrug and say "you go sis". Hope he really learned that lesson. He earned this. Me me me me me He’s just trying to attract his next pickme victim who thinks he’s so evolved with his pity party	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/05/21 11:07 AM
14	Keep your standards high for your friends too, not just partners and potential partners This is always very tricky. A lot of “friends” just want someone to validate their feelings and not necessarily be given actual advice, especially if it attacks their own egos. Small example: I had a very similar situation with an ex-friend. We were not very close but close enough. She always complained about her bf and cheated on him, then would be all lovey-dovey with him in public. It went so far that her bf caught her cheating. I gave her some advice, mostly that she is stuck in a toxic rela…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 07:23 PM
8	Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going! Was going to say this until you answered the comment. So many women say that to other women! Makes me actually mad, a man calling me a man hater is just acting on his narcissism, but a woman... oh well can’t help a pickme	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 08:17 AM
25	Why Pickmes hate FDS They feel so personally attacked when you voice your principles and standards too, even if you weren’t directly talking to them. Pickmes will always write you off as a “man-hater”. Ok bye! You can have allll of the scrotes for yourself!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/21 11:06 AM
10	Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist? Two of my exes absolutely insisted they never watch porn. Unfortunately I can tell you it does not necessarily make a man better in bed! Lol Yes not watching porn showed in their general behaviour compared to pornisck men, however they also had other problematic behaviours. So just not watching porn is not a clear sign of him being a HVM.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/04/21 07:22 AM
11	I can buy my own damn flowers! Gorgeous! 🀣	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/04/21 10:42 AM
42	If you have to snap a picture of a guy, contact Deux Moi, and ask them to conduct an international search on a dude that checked you out but didn’t ask you out, then he’s just not that into you. 🤦🏾‍♀️ His outfit is so bad	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/04/21 04:46 AM
8	Is not asking for a ‘got home safe’ text a bad sign? If you’re wondering if one if his behaviours is a bad sign then trust your intuition. On a slightly unrelated note, a completely LVM ex of mine always asked for a “got home safe” text, even when he was trying to treat me like trash. So keep your eyes open always.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 09:43 AM
15	Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dick Unfortunately there’s no way to know before you try to feel it through clothes or actually see it with your own eyes. Generally though, if a man brags about size or his abilities or how many girls he’s getting - he has one on the smaller side. Or he’s at least an extremely bad lover.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/21 08:43 PM
3	Is there a word for this? Yeah went through this once and he would tell me things like : „I would go anywhere in the world with you“, „The best thing to ever happen to me was meeting you“, „I can’t wait to have a future together and marry you“ I fell for it 🤦‍♀️ as I was inexperienced and no one had ever given me that type of attention before. I would call it a mix of an experienced and seasoned manipulative love bomber and a huuuge ego on his part. Sidenote - after we broke up he told me he never fell in love with me! L…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 09:22 AM
1	Is there a word for this? I experienced this and you summarised it perfectly. Always talking about „I/Me“!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 09:16 AM
2	Love her certainty and confidence. Yup, definitely!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/21 05:43 AM
5	Love her certainty and confidence. Brecht was an abuser and used his female “lovers’” work without crediting them. Just something to keep in mind! :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 08:18 PM
6	Are there any successful women here with tattoos? “Successful” is defined by your standards only. Don’t let others decide for you what is desirable or have a say in your personal aesthetic. In the end, it’s YOUR life and you need to be the one happy with yourself! If a man judges you because of the way you decide to present yourself - he’s as judgmental towards everyone else and will bring you down constantly with that miserable closed-minded controlling negative energy. So boy bye 👋 Professionally it really depends on your location and industr…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 05:06 PM
45	FDS became the last stop on my journey to fully recover from a pick-me and "not like other girls" syndromes. I used to either hate how I look, compared to other women, or hate on them in order to impress men. Not anymore, thanks to all you queens here! Thinking back I never felt that I have to compete against other women, in the looks and male attention part, that is. I always got weird looks and attitudes for my viewpoint and demeanour around this since a young age. People are just so bothered when a woman does not care about this and lives her life in peace. Luckily now I only have great female friends and don’t even give people, men or women, the time of the day if they even try starting this “women competing against each other” narrative 🥱…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 01:32 PM
7	Much of F. Scott Fitzgerald's writing was actually plagiarized from his wife Zelda. He barred her from publishing her writing under her own name because he insisted they would make more money if a man published it. Then he committed her to an insane asylum where she died. This happened so much. If you're into theater and leftist-socialist movements look up world-famous Bertolt Brecht, also often described as a "genius". His abuse and hypergamy was well-known since decades, only recently I found out that a lot of his work stems from Elisabeth Hauptmann (and also other women working in his surroundings that he abused into being his "lovers"): "She purportedly wrote the majority of the text as well as providing a German translation of John Gay's "The Beggar's Opera"…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/03/21 09:53 AM
1	I've noticed that a lot of women here have toxic mothers. While it's true that mothers are often unfairly scapegoated for all of society's woes, it's important to remember that mothers also socialize their children to perpetuate patriarchy. Power to you FDS sister. This sounds like my childhood growing up to a T :o down to the details... also the training to be silent wow. Being „independent“ but always kicking us to the curb as soon as some trash man showed her attention smh. So she was only financially independent. Looking back she was clearly abusive, when we grew up and didn’t „love“ her anymore (as kids do) she just stopped caring about us. Until this day she only has childhood pictures of us around and regularly cries bc we „…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/03/21 05:31 PM
12	madonna/whore complex much? They always get so upset about tattoos and piercings out of all things 😂 really shows how these incel type thinking men don’t have any contact with the outside world. Shut tf up nobody asked and nobody cares!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 12:52 PM
19	I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfil Hey, I used to be in your situation some time ago. I got the confirmation from someone I knew that the posts with his new “perfect gf” were all just a show. Even if you don’t have this confirmation, be sure that this will almost always be the case. I started empathizing with HER a lot (yes I did a bit of online stalking I admit). After finding out who she is, personal info, family background, I just felt... sad for her. That she met this asshole, my ex. He’s posting these things for himself, for…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/21 09:53 AM
7	What to believe? Bio? Or description? Answer: none. Ok this reminds me of a recent story. Met a guy on bumble, his profile said he wants a relationship, mine too, cool we meet up. Conversation goes well and we keep talking the following days (he even called me frequently). Around his birthday he stops talking to me and I just think 🤷‍♀️ Whatever. 2 weeks later I meet up with a female friend and one of her friends I didn’t meet before joins us. My friend asks her if she’s still meeting that guy, she gives some details that match with the guy I was…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/21 09:10 AM
6	Is this just an American thing? I have never even set foot in the USA but I can tell you it's not an "American" thing only. Maybe the actual manifestations of this type of mindset appears in different forms (religious, cultural, etc), but it's the same base thought in a looot of countries. I would argue that a lot of countries are being influenced by the USA more and more. Let's take baby showers and halloween - not a thing at all in the countries I grew up in (and I'm in my 20s and I lived in several places across the globe).…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/01/21 05:33 PM
2	“Your life is not perfect until you have a boyfriend,” Let her be. She is clearly unhappy being alone and can’t stand herself when she’s not with some guy giving her validation. She prefers a shitty LVM messing up her life over being single. Let that sink in. Seriously I wouldn’t talk to her anymore, my patience nowadays is 0! She probably felt really smug saying that to you too, ugh....	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/01/21 10:22 AM
27	Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM. Thank you for this wonderful summary, you are very eloquent! Also, no matter how much of a pickmeisha you were, there always exists something called KINDNESS in a human heart. If the scrote didn't even have the heart to be kind to you he will never be a good person, no matter with whom.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/21 09:04 AM
8	Love bombing vs making future plans and changing their minds later on After a huge disappointment with someone who seemed really so 100% sincere, I take EVERYTHING men say with a grain of salt. As long as they don't act like it, my anwer is usually "uh-huh" and walk away. If they actually do it then.... different question. This goes for friends, colleagues, any male acquaintance really.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/21 07:50 PM
54	Ignored and blocked, my dating life is starting to look like a sitcom lol Love the single emoji you used and then blocked him 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/01/21 01:51 PM
38	I highly doubt that most straight men are capable of loving somebody romantically. I wonder a lot. It seems a lot of them, even if they genuinely claim to love you, just see you as an extension of themselves and their values. How many times did a man treat me worse than one of his friends, even though he claimed to love me more than anyone lese? (Not speaking of a specific example from my life, but what I have experienced almost always) A long time ago I saw some threads somewhere on the internet full of men claiming that women are the ones unable to love as deeply as them and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/01/21 11:44 AM
5	I don’t understand the obsession with wanting to live with men I already hate answering to my parents when they ask where I am, with whom, when I am coming back home... imagine with a rommate boyfriend lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/01/21 11:37 AM
3	Dont Date Men Who Are Sports, Rap, Rock Stars I could DM you with more info if you want :) I would be surprised if anyone on this sub would know	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/01/21 06:51 PM
19	Dont Date Men Who Are Sports, Rap, Rock Stars This post called me out lol! Used to date a well-known rock star from my home country „seriously“ - or that’s what he made me believe. He was the one who pursued me like crazy and initiated all of the relationship talk. In hindsight I clearly recognize it was love-bombing and future faking. I never knew what he was up to and he would call me at the most random times, I did soo many small things (or things that I considered small that now I see was me trying to impress him) for him in the hopes h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/01/21 06:43 PM
42	I really hope his gf leaves him over this. How is she not supposed to take that personally? Of course he won't answer the question. Always hated this type of „advice“! Not only is it really misogynistic, I always kind of felt bad when people said it because my mother doesn’t take care of her appearance that well because of constant abuse and pressure from being a pickme in relationships with LVM for her whole life. While I am quite proud of my style and appearance and intend to keep it that way. So you want to judge my mother? Let‘s look at your beer-bellied scrote dad then!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/12/20 05:09 PM
31	Anorexia Fetishists/Pedophiles Deep-dive by Former Anorexic Wow I couldn't get through the video and I usually don't have a problem seeing heavy movies or documentaries. Just the descriptions. Clicked away so fast I was so repulsed. Men take one of the deadliest mental illnesses for women and fetishize it. I feel so disgusted.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 02:38 PM
2	How to rid yourself from pick me friends? Depends greatly on your friend and what kind of friendship you have with her. Nevertheless, people like that are difficult to be willing to compromise, especially being as vocal about her pickme behaviours as you describe it. She will only feel attacked if you try to have an open discussion with her (in my experience). The most telling sign for me is that you're feeling exhausted and that should be enough for you to distance yourself from her. There will be probably more behaviours about her tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/12/20 12:02 PM
11	This PostSecret shook me, I think most women can relate to this. I'm very sure my ex is just putting up a façade for his new gf while he cheats behind her back, wether it be physically or emotionally (because of corona, if there wouldn't be a pandemic 100% physically). Old habits die hard and the ego of these people is huuuge. One day he uploads so many pictures with corny captions, the next day they are all gone, it's a weird cycle. He needs that sweet vapid validation from women all the time. I blocked him a long time ago bc he was STILL texting me even tho…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/20 09:55 AM
6	How do you deal with friends who have low standards? There are already good answers to your question here! I found myself in this position not a long time ago and didn’t really know what to do as I always had well-adjusted friends. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. Even giving advice is too much looking back now, either they simply won‘t listen or - in the worst case - demonize you for supposedly being arrogant, feeling superior or simply just trying to involve yourself into their life/these particular situations in general. In the end, …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 11:26 AM
17	This is why we don't send long paragraphs to men who've wronged us It only happened once that I wanted to do this. I took a very deep breath and focused on all the worst things he ever did to me. He really really wronged me on a major fucked-up level. And then I thought... "he would like to know what I'm doing and how I'm feeling. He wants to keep that door open. He doesn't deserve to know even one thing about me!"And it worked. Blocked and deleted him. I am still struggling from trust issues out of this whole situation, but I am so incredibly proud of myself f…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/20 12:35 PM
1	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020 You're right! That's why I'm putting it off for so long...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/20 12:22 PM
3	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020 I would like to go on a first date soon, but what can you actually do with the covid restricitons? Everything in my country is strictly closed, and I mean EVERYTHING. The weather is getting very cold too. I'm waiting for him to give suggestions of course, but just for some guidance from you wonderful ladies: What could be a FDS-friendly date under these circumstances?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/11/20 09:03 PM
9	Applies to generic white males Really feel you! They just won't accept us into "normal" society even though "we" strive for higher education, respectable jobs (not saying other jobs are not respectable, but I'm talking about "spheres" where you wouldn't expect to find someone with an immigrant background) like any person in any other country. Had some really weird commentary at my jobs and universities. It's really hard to break into these circles. And then the dating part... well. There's a reason I don't have any friends fr…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/11/20 02:50 PM
7	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” 😂😂 In hindsight it is so funny right?? I remember being pissed with all of these comments that were meant to hurt my self-esteem. But then I recognized that a) she felt somehow attacked by my principles/standards and was trying to pull me down on her level and b) she was a bad friend anway.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 12:08 PM
5	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” Good for you! Always keep your standards high. It doesn't make sense them judging so much because the sex is usually shit, why do they make such a big thing out of it? It's really just to show off how "desirable" (aka availbale to LVM) they are.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 12:04 PM
7	Eh... I truly feel bad for her and I just cant stop being amazed at what some men r like.... they really don't give a shit, do they... Interesting to read so many similar experiences. Something close to this happened to me too, also LDR (never again), broke up with me over text! saying he met someone else. He was trash enough to try and keep the door open, saying stuff like "just for the moment", "who knows what will happen in the future". Last time I checked they were still together ... lmao do I look like I wait around on people as a Backup plan? Mind you, he was the one talking marriage, how wonderful I am. All lies. They go…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 02:09 AM
19	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” I really feel you, out of my own experience... trust me, one day you will pleasure yourself without crying afterwards. Sending you hugs	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/10/20 09:41 PM
15	As a woman you're always either too young or too old for things, because the perfect age is when you're a man So true! People will pressure you about the stupidest things based on your age as a woman. Just do you and keep being awesome ladies!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/10/20 07:46 PM
36	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” An ex-friend of mine asked me that frequently and it always rubbed me the wrong way. She somehow made it sound as if I was being "picky", i.e. prudish and stuck up. Well yes honey I have high standards I always told her, to which she never answered to. Turns out she was lying to me about a lot of things about her seriously messy life and used male attention to fill that void.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/10/20 07:43 PM
2	I called a girl friend stupid b*tch and we are no longer friends WTF, I stopped right there when she started talking about your mom. How dare she? I would have had to control myself so hard not to slap her! But you did right in telling her off and cutting contact. It's always crazy to see how pickmes defend the stupidest of men that play literally a very small or no role at all in their lives (and in this case, most of your surroundings seem to outright hate) just for that sweet superficial male validation. That's why it's important to keep empowered queen fr…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/20 09:10 PM
2	Viral videos of women having sex Yes no one is talking about the guys, headlines only about "Young woman has sex on a train" as if she is doing it alone... This is all suspicious af. I'm grateful my friends are not as immature, but I went on twitter out of curiosity (WHY tho) and the shit you read there a about this, wtf	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/09/20 12:09 PM
13	Viral videos of women having sex I'm not from your country but I have a lot of friends there. They started a conversation about it with me and they were all very shocked, my male friends also expressing disgust with this situation (we are a bit older than the people on the video though). The male friends being very committed HVM to their long-time girfriends/wives. The video wasn't hard to find at all, as it was all over the news. Yes the situation looks very sketchy, it's not clear if she is doing it out of free will. Last yea…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/09/20 06:43 PM
1	IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED! I was lurking here for some weeks and am shocked to see the sub will probably get banned! It helped so much through a difficult time. Like some of you I just created this account to join!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/20 08:18 AM