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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	Shelter in Place while Divorcing		originaldopey	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/20 12:04 PM

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2	Moving forward - how should this look? This. First thing first, go talk to lawyers. Find free consults and get a few of them. Listen to them and ask questions. Things can turn south quick and you need pieces in place to ensure you have time with your kids before moving out. I also agree with the counseling suggestions. You didn’t mention anything that is crazy or abusive, so it might be little things that can be worked out through communication. If there is a way to work things out, try.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/20 04:00 PM
1	Anybody figured out how to do "homemaking"? I have a 7 yo and twin autistic 5 yos. For all of the kid stuff I let that just be where they put it and straighten up quickly when they go to bed and clean up more once they go back with their mom. It you try to stay ahead of it a little it keeps it from becoming an impossible task.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/20 11:23 AM
1	Anybody figured out how to do "homemaking"? I’ve been out of the house for a month and this is the thing I think I pulled off fairly well. I decided early to go minimal and add as needed. Furniture - places to sit and rest a drink. I have nice side closets so I skipped the dressers. Decorations - framed 80s movie posters and a few photos, all hung on the walls. Nothing sitting on the furniture Cleaning - I clean as I go. If I spill something, I clean it up. If I drop something, I pick it up. Vacuum once every day or 2. If a surface looks …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/20 10:40 AM
2	Mediation advice I did learn in the mediation that I had the right lawyer. She stated multiple times “We will not entertain crazy.” Referring to her no overnights proposal. After mediation my wife directly offered me every weekend. I saw right through it. She gets more money, they are in school most of the days she has them, and I get no possibility of a social life. That’s a hard pass.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/20 08:02 PM
7	Mediation advice After both my wife and I hired lawyers we went to mediation with them. No assets, just parenting time and custody of our 3 kids and alimony. I work, she doesn’t. I walk in having already proposed a fair 50/50 split and fair alimony. She goes into the mediation saying she want me to have zero overnights with the kids. The mediation ends in about an hour with her suggestion of more like a 60/40 and similar money to the original. My wife didn’t respond for 3 weeks and her response was “I don’t acce…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/20 04:27 AM
7	Responsibility in Counseling. I suggested to my wife for years that we go to counseling. She said “Why? They are just going to tell me that it is my fault and I need to change. Why would I pay to hear that?” We finally spoke with a Pastor that she had befriended. Every issue she had he told her wasn’t an issue and the issues I had he asked her to try to change. Needless to say we didn’t speak to him after a couple trips. I finally lost my patience with her and told her I wanted a divorce and she is saying it is my fault.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/20 12:48 PM
3	Shelter in Place while Divorcing On day 0 (the day they said the rules begin that night) she said : This isn’t a good idea. Some husbands and wives don’t get along and shouldn’t be forced to be together. People that are going to get violent.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/20 12:48 PM