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| 6 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?Or maybe average/unattractive borderlines don’t escalate as much because their shit is less tolerated and they get called on it more. They may have less leeway to act out/be forced into treatment faster before they really reach spectacular levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 11:22 PM |
| 3 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?I would also say that BPD individuals tend to easily identify those who will fall for their bullshit - RP guys may tend to have qualities that make them easily taken advantage of by these people - maybe a bit more accepting of BS because they don't have a good sense of boundaries, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?Oh yeah she's pretty hot. So I get the initial attraction, and even the tolerance for some crazy (especially if the crazy didn't end with a course of antibiotics) but this going on for over a year is bizarre. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?Oh dude, his entire friend network has done everything they can to separate them but all it takes is her showing up weeping and pounding at the door and she's back in. I pointed out to him that they've been "broken up" and her "not living" at his house for like 3 months but she hasn't bothered to get an apartment of her own or any of her stuff out of his house because she knows she can work her way back in. She uses us trying to help him as fodder too - "Your friends hate me and it's so hard to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?It's definitely floating around somewhere in cluster B. Regardless, she's chewing him up like a human meat grinder and it is painful to watch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 04:28 PM |
| 6 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?I used to have no idea, but then my male best friend started dating a woman that turned out to have BPD. Their relationship now reads like a red-pill fantasy tale gone wrong. She has: cheated on him repeatedly with the same guy, for over a year. She claims she doesn't even like this guy but has flown overseas to go on vacation with him and met his kids. was caught fucking the other guy in a hotel room two days after meeting with a couples counselor and declaring her intent to try and work throug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 01:52 PM |
| 4 | Why do women date assholes and then complain about male assholishness being a systemic issue?Like lol girl did you pay any attention to me or are you just giggling your way through drunken nights with men you meet in bars hookup != date Most RP guys wouldn't date a lot of the women they'd plate, many feminists wouldn't date a lot of the guys they'd bang. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/18 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Chad is easy to identify and universal.Sooooo, basically OP is saying that Chad is Bill Brasky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/18 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Q for Women/ FeministsTypically in these scenarios additional legislation helps to enforce the provider operating one practice. Many require things like hospital admitting privileges, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/17 12:16 AM |
| 3 | Do men genuinely not understand that, for women, having some guy who wouldn't been seen in public with you dump a fuck into you isn't some great thing?It's not integral, you're not a bad person if you don't have female friends. In my social circles, however, everyone tends to have friends of both sexes. Whenever there has been drama, it has been because someone from outside the circle dates in, isn't comfortable with their girlfriend having guy friends (or vice versa, doesn't want their boyfriend hanging out with other women), and then causes drama because the person in question doesn't stop seeing the friends they had before. It can also be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/17 09:16 PM |
| 10 | Do men genuinely not understand that, for women, having some guy who wouldn't been seen in public with you dump a fuck into you isn't some great thing?Man you know some stone cold bitches. Myself and other female friends run wingman for all our single guy friends. It acts as instant "verification" that he's an ok guy who can maintain non-sexual relationships with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/17 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Is there significant evidence that feminism has made life for men in Sweden horrible?Well yes, in general those who are too poor to pay don't pay for things. That's true regarding child support and pretty much everything else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/17 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Most women have at least one relationship in their past out of convenience and not one of genuine attractionWait wait we're not answering important questions here. Is it an alicorn? Is it magic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/17 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Is there significant evidence that feminism has made life for men in Sweden horrible?It makes sense then that child support would be much higher - Sweden's socialized healthcare programs remove some of the medical burden of raising a child. It looks like they also have government run preschools and provide more parental support/leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/17 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Is there significant evidence that feminism has made life for men in Sweden horrible?You're American, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/17 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Would you date a man who is 5'4", but wears 4 inch lifts out in public?My husband (we were together 10 years) was 5'5" and my current boyfriend (together 5 years) is 5'5". He's definitely slightly shorter than me but WAY stronger than me, no matter height. It has never occurred to me to consider him weak. I think all people have something that bothers them about their size, shape, or personality, and other people can be dicks about it. It's hard not to be insecure, but try not to be. Think about how insecure someone has to be to bring it up - it doesn't affect them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/17 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Would you date a man who is 5'4", but wears 4 inch lifts out in public?I'm 5'6". (So not tall) I also dated a guy who was 5'1" but broke it off because he was obsessed about his height and joked about it constantly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/17 11:17 AM |
| 9 | Q4Women: Would you date a man who is 5'4", but wears 4 inch lifts out in public?I would date a 5'4" guy, and have dated MULTIPLE 5'4" guys, but not if they wore lifts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/17 03:53 AM |
| 15 | If your SO had a secret box of pictures/letters of their ex, and would not get rid of it, would you break up?Only if it was something they obsessed over and reviewed often. I've got a scrapbook from my last marriage, and my boyfriend has his wedding album floating around somewhere. Those weren't all bad times, it's nice to sometimes look through and remember the good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/17 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Would you judge if a man filed for divorce because of lack of sex?I don't know that it's common, but in every group there's going to be some idiots. Usually it's guys that just have their head in a hole in the ground that don't realize that caring for multiple toddlers alone all day doesn't make wifey hot to trot when he walks in the door -- it makes her want to have an hour to herself alone in the bathroom drinking wine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/17 02:24 AM |
| 9 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?Can you remind me when that quotation was attributed to you? I was using a tongue-in-cheek example of the kind of anecdata that is frequently "cited" in PPD (which is what your original question asked). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?I get where they're coming from - just saying something has a study that backs it up doesn't make good claims or good science. But I think they're on board when I explain my intent is that you can actually look at the science, vs. people giving anecdata on reddit and trying to extrapolate the entire world's population based on 3 chicks their friend banged haha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 07:51 PM |
| 8 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?Funnily enough it does not, because nothing in the book claims that. In fact, nothing in the gender studies deals with partner count at all. But if I get to the part where it says that you should, I'll let you know the source it gives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 07:46 PM |
| 13 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?Not much of the course deals with assault, tbh. It's only got one chapter and we haven't gotten there yet. This course focuses on communication and gender in society. The statistic they report is "One-third of undergraduate women report one or more unwanted sexual interactions, ranging from kissing to intercourse, during a single year." (Crown and Roberts, 2007) Skimming the assault/violence chapter, the focuses are: Gender intimidation Rape (including how difficult it is for men who have been r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?There is potential. Having a source doesn't justify everything, obviously. But I'm then able to go back, look at the study, see what other studies in the area have done (and in fact, that's a large portion of the class - do you agree with this? provide additional sources to back this viewpoint), and then shape your viewpoint. "My ex totally dated someone taller than me because she's a slut" is a less sourced claim, unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 06:17 PM |
| 15 | Q4 Gender studies students. Has the material on PPD and similar subreddits made you question any of what is taught in those classes?I'm taking a gender course currently as part of my larger degree and so far nothing I've read here makes me question what I've read there. Everything we've ready is heavily sourced. It also has sections dedicated to men's issues and the men's rights movements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/17 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: What do you think of Ivanka Trump?considering how many people see "hi" as a catcall I have never yet met a woman who thought "hi" was a catcall. I'm not saying there are none, but by most standards that would not be considered catcalling. The women that think "hi" is a catcall are the equivalent of men who bounce up in TRP talking about how the waitresses are IOIing them because they're nice to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/16 04:29 PM |
| 1 | The common TRP trope of "wait until you lose your job and then she's gone" is because him losing his job was the last strawFrom what I've seen professionally, it tends to be a wakeup call. The money and family danger typically is very gradual, but the firing is usually a slap in the face that there is a real significant problem. This is mostly because if you can hold down a job you're seen as at least somewhat successful at being an adult human (rightly or wrongly). Functioning alcoholics hit the same kind of point with a job loss a lot of times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/16 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Discussion Repeat after me, I'm not that kind of guy.Hah, I thought I was the only one that did this. I ask boyfriend to head up a security detail for mine (moreso to make fun of the fact that I have a single piece of baggage that needs minding). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/16 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Can blue pillers and Red pillers be friends in real life?I would have a hard time being close friends with someone that was redpill. I try to be tolerant, but it would be very difficult to build a relationship of trust with them knowing that much of the sub preaches how slimy and treacherous women are, and also to "act like everyone else" (so there would always be secret paranoia that they held me in contempt or just thought I was waiting to jump their bones). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/16 02:22 AM |
| 0 | Men's Problems will Never be Taken SeriouslyBut why were they prized? Because they were the ones that got to work and fight and die. Well, also in many societies they were the only way to pass along your name, title, etc. A house with four sons would have four scions of that family. A house with four daughters would have no one to carry the name. They were also cheaper to marry off as you had to dowry a daughter and they could hold jobs/positions/professions/titles on their own. I'm not saying that men inherently devalued women, but the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/16 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Is man wrong for not helping a woman who rejected him for a date?Because she apparently doesn't know him well, I think she's overstepping her boundaries tremendously. The man is not unjustified. If they'd been friends for years and then he got salty when she didn't return his feelings that's a bit different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/16 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Q4women: would it be ok for you if sexbots and virtual sex were a thing?I think that sounds awesome. I think many people would be happier if this was the case. Assuming there's no harm to the people using them (electro-gonorrhea, the noisy killer!) I'd definitely support it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/16 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Anyone actually had a good experience while losing their virginity?"hmph, this RPer thinks virginity matters, time to rebel by pretending it meant NOTHING", reflexive rebelliousness in this little debate we're having here? Do women REALLY toss away their hymens so casually? Lol. I don't generally evaluate my own experiences against what someone else thinks matters. At the time I thought it was a very grand, romantic gesture. He'd just taken me to a jewelry store and we'd looked at diamond rings. We watched Serendipity and celebrated our anniversary. Turns out h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/16 01:48 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Much like Tumblr feminists do with men, red pillers immediately assume any infidelity, regardless of who cheated, is the woman's fault.They're typically done in conjunction. You pretty much won't win an AoA suit unless you're also filing for divorce. The party you cheated with also has to be seen as "malicious" (ie, they knew you were married and this would break up your marriage) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Much like Tumblr feminists do with men, red pillers immediately assume any infidelity, regardless of who cheated, is the woman's fault.It depends on the state. Our state has alienation of affection laws and you can sue the person your partner was cheating with for breaking up your marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/16 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Why is "men work more dangerous jobs" an example of female privilege, but "women work jobs that earn less" not male privilege?Surgical specialties are known to be particularly grueling compared to pretty much any other type of clinical practices. Gastroenterologists also average 55 hours a week. Is it because all the men just want flexible schedules? There is a slight possibility that actual type of care and it's emergent need probably has a significant part to play in how many hours each specialty works weekly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/16 06:21 PM |
| 5 | Why is "men work more dangerous jobs" an example of female privilege, but "women work jobs that earn less" not male privilege?Pediatrics averages 50 hour weeks, per the American Association of Pediatricians. Any other specialties you think don't work a lot? You think you'd pick on dermatology like everybody else, but that's too easy and also male dominated :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/16 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is "men work more dangerous jobs" an example of female privilege, but "women work jobs that earn less" not male privilege?I actually checked that and the applicant base is pretty similar although it does vary between subspecialties. Pediatrics is tilted towards women, surgery towards men, etc. In general, though, roughly 40-45% of applicants are women, and this percentage has consistently gone up each year. It would be nice if I could find some data on undergrad studies but I can't find anything easy to get at. Anecdatally, I can say that our docs very rarely have degrees outside of a biology or chemistry field. We… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/16 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Why is "men work more dangerous jobs" an example of female privilege, but "women work jobs that earn less" not male privilege?If you look at enrollment for medical schools, the gender divide is much more even (roughly 46% women). Do you think women choose to be doctors because they can be lazy and reap financial success? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/16 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Are women more harsh on body image than men?I don't thinks she's fat but I also find her proportions odd. But hey if she's happy and likes it then go girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/16 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: what's your code of honor when it comes to having sex?I get what you're saying, for many men a pack of women having drinks is like going to a grocery store when you're hungry. We are also all paired up people (mostly without kids) so we manage to effectively route any romantic interests in group formation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/16 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: what's your code of honor when it comes to having sex?That's fair, but I also think all too often that "going to bars" becomes a short hand for "flirting with randos" in these kinds of groups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/16 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: what's your code of honor when it comes to having sex?I totally understand that and if that's what you guys decided more power to ya. We're slowing down on bars because we are old farts that go to bed at like 10 now and the kids make fun of us when we leave! I was more responding to the comment: One might argue that a woman getting dolled up then hitting up a bar or club and flirting with other men is already cheating. By clarifying that there are plenty of really fun reasons for a bunch of girls to get dolled up and hit a bar that don't involve ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/16 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: what's your code of honor when it comes to having sex?There's nothing wrong with a married woman going with her husband to the event at all. I go with my boyfriend to a lot of these. It just seems odd to me that it's assumed that going out to a bar = looking for men/open to advances from men. Maybe the bars here are just more "friendly" but both boyfriend and I (alone and together) go to just hang out with friends who happen to be there or hop on a trivia team. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/16 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: what's your code of honor when it comes to having sex?I think the point is more that a lot of women don't see bars as hotbeds of male attention in the way they're traditionally thought of. Hell I'm looking at bars around here tonight and we've got: Fundraiser beer tasting for an animal shelter 90s dance off 80's Karaoke Live Band Karaoke Trivia Multiple live local shows Improv Show Fundraiser for kid's cancer charity Classic Hiphop DJ Open Mic Knitting Circle Yoga? (this is bizarre even to me, I admit) Bingo Drink and Draw Meet and Greet with local… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/16 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Problem I noticed with RP reasoning. Generalizing from a minority.Out of curiosity, if there was a "blue pill endorsed" guide for this that didn't conflict with TRP values, do you think it would ever be used? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/16 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, why do you rarely ever see a female doctor married to a male garbage man?I understand what you're getting at, but I don't see how flinging around anecdotes is particularly helpful for either side. There will always be an anecdote that shows otherwise. (And again, I'm also applying that to the comment that started this chain - saying you don't know docs who do that doesn't mean there aren't docs who do that). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/16 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, why do you rarely ever see a female doctor married to a male garbage man?That was going both ways. Saying anecdotally "no one does this" is equally as false as saying anecdotally "If you haven't seen this you don't know a lot of doctors". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/16 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Q4women: is being jobless a big disadvantage for guys in the dating market?For me personally it depends on why he's jobless. If he's coming out of a relationship where he was a stay at home parent, if he's just graduated and is looking, moved to the area, etc I don't consider that problematic. If he's jobless because he punched his last manager and doesn't have a GED, that's likely going to cause significant problems. I dated a vet for several years who'd gotten his degree 8 months earlier but just hadn't found a clinic yet. He picked up per diem work here and there un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/16 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Blue Pill, why do you rarely ever see a female doctor married to a male garbage man?I work with over 50 doctors and I can't name a single one that has a trophy wife. Most of them are married to other docs or researchers. They tend to pair up in med school before residency and the only people who are insane enough to date someone in med school are other med students, nurses, and research people at the program. It's crazy, it's almost like anecdotes don't make good reliable data. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/16 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Guys, how many have you have had a variant on this "Just Be Yourself" talk? BP and women, how do you respond?I just wanted to make the point that telling guys to bore women with the geeky shit isn't doing the guys any favors. If a guy stumbles onto a woman that likes games, too, great. If not, they're hosed. Honestly I think this ties back in with lack of social skills. A nerd who's got some social skills knows how to discuss his weird nerd hobbies in a way that's engaging and to the point. "I play a lot of video games, I really like playing in a team with my friends online. Also, I'm kind of a big dea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/16 01:44 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Guys, how many have you have had a variant on this "Just Be Yourself" talk? BP and women, how do you respond?Agree with other commenter, every time I've heard someone say this, their intent has been to stop idolizing women or thinking of them as an unattainable object. They're just people, go and talk to them like a regular people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/16 01:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV: If a man is short, he's pretty much invisible to women, and is bound to be doomed in dating market.I have only anecdata to offer but I've dated a lot of short dudes (actually predominantly short dudes, now that I think about it. huh.) and they all seemed to be doing ok in terms of women. I've always thought it was kind of nice to date someone close to my height - I can smooch them without having to find a stepstool. I've never heard any of my female friends say they thought a guy was too short. I also acknowledge that they could simply be keeping it to themselves so they don't appear to be sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/16 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women specially BP: Does your bae lift?Yeah, I'm definitely more of a couch potato. I do a lot of reading, knitting, video game playing, etc and I hate working out with a passion (I think it's so boring). Funnily enough, we're together mostly because he wouldn't shut up about it. We met online dating and after the first date I basically wrote him off because workout dudes don't like slothy nerds. He didn't go away though and kept asking me out and he was fun to hang out with. I remember lecturing him several times about 'not getting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Q4Women specially BP: Does your bae lift?Yes, he's a nutty workout guy. He lifts, bikes, boxes, rock climbs, runs, and does yoga (not all at once). We are hilariously mismatched in that manner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Q4 Women: How many of your friends know your N-count. More importantly, how many friends (past or present) have ever "outed" your n-count to SOs or perspective mates?I only really talk about it with friends if there's an issue and I'm trying to confide in someone that I think might have a similar issue. We don't really sit around and gab about who we've slept with, there are more interesting things to talk about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 04:52 PM |
| 0 | I think the saddest part of the Redpill vs Blue pill argument is that the Redpill is motivated by the fact that hetero men need female affection to feel normal, and the Bluepill mocks them for this.Where on the sanctimonious scale does it fall when one assumes that anyone not behaving in a redpill matter can't possibly be getting sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/16 01:10 AM |
| 0 | I think the saddest part of the Redpill vs Blue pill argument is that the Redpill is motivated by the fact that hetero men need female affection to feel normal, and the Bluepill mocks them for this.I was playing on TRP's mantra to treat women as an abundant resource and practice an abundance mentality in their interactions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/16 05:35 PM |
| 3 | I think the saddest part of the Redpill vs Blue pill argument is that the Redpill is motivated by the fact that hetero men need female affection to feel normal, and the Bluepill mocks them for this.We call that an abundance mentality. When you have an abundance of a resource you don't think it's a big deal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/16 04:58 PM |
| 5 | I think the saddest part of the Redpill vs Blue pill argument is that the Redpill is motivated by the fact that hetero men need female affection to feel normal, and the Bluepill mocks them for this.The people on bluepill are apparently able to get laid by acting like normal human beings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/16 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Have you ever stayed with a boyfriend despite peer and family pressure to get rid of him?I mean, it wasn't an easy relationship the entire time, but it's not like he hid his faults. He was very forthcoming with his issues and I chose to deal with it. There was a lot of good and I'm not sorry I married him. We had a very amicable divorce (even shared a lawyer because we divided everything up ourselves) and still grab dinner every now and again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 01:04 PM |
| 12 | Q4Women: Have you ever stayed with a boyfriend despite peer and family pressure to get rid of him?Yep, my ex-husband. (He's my ex because he decided he wanted kids and I don't, not because of friends and family). My parents hated him as they're republican conservatives and he was a a femmish, liberal guy with long hair and a degree in anthropology. My friends didn't like him that much because he had severe social anxiety and some other health issues that made him not especially social and as a bonus meant that I supported him (he worked as much as he could). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: How big a dealbreaker is erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety?Well one is to get a full health checkup - stress, anxiety, some medications, underlying conditions, etc, can all contribute. Especially psych meds. If performance anxiety then seeing a couples or sex counselor. Failing all that, toys toys toys :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/16 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: How big a dealbreaker is erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety?As long as he was willing to try and pursue care to try and remedy the problem and be down with bringing in some toys, game on. (This is LTR obviously) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/16 04:06 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: How big a dealbreaker is erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety?http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cncr.24577/abstract Whew, it was tough, but I did manage to dig it up by googling "2009 cancer study spouses". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/16 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Why do women constantly complain about skinny models promoting unhealthy body image, despite obesity being a far worse epidemic?Right, I indicated there are plenty of normal reasons to do it as well that would preclude a diagnosis of anorexia. You said it wasn't as symptom of anorexia and I was clarifying that it could be, so if someone was concerned about a relative having anorexia they'd obviously fit it into their narrative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/16 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Why do women constantly complain about skinny models promoting unhealthy body image, despite obesity being a far worse epidemic?Obsessive behaviors centering around food (such as cataloging, weighing, cutting into tiny pieces, or chewing and then spitting it out) can be considered a warning sign for anorexia. Obviously there are also plenty of normal health reasons you'd do that, but in conjunction with other alarm signs it would be considered problematic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Women of PPD, how hard was it to get your current SO to commit to you?I had the opposite problem. We went on a couple of dates and then I lecture him on making goo-goo eyes at me because I wasn't looking for a long term serious relationship (had just divorced, wanted to have some fun and not be tied down). Three years later we're living together so you can see how well that worked. We did have sex first, he pushed for it, he's way more attractive than I am, we're both in our 30s (me early, him mid). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/16 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Women of ppd, what's your opinion on women being eligible for the draftI'm torn. I believe in equality for both genders. If a man has a chance of being drafted, I feel that women should be in the same pool. However, I also recognize that the majority of women would not be well suited for combat positions. That would mean pushing them into support positions, which would then arguably push less combat qualified men into combat positions and may result in a higher mortality rate for men. If there was some way to guarantee that this would not happen I think the draft s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/16 02:35 PM |
| 1 | If a man puts a girl in the "f***zone" does it make him an asshole?Yeah, he worked at a jewelry store and always claimed it was "just checking out competitors" but he also always made a beeline for diamonds, it wasn't like he lurked around any men's jewelry or earrings or anything. He got really mad at me when I shut down his game one day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/16 09:14 PM |
| 4 | If a man puts a girl in the "f***zone" does it make him an asshole?I'd say he's an asshole only if he is trying to retain her in the fuckzone by suggesting that at some point he will want a relationship of the type she's looking for. If he's clear with his expectations, that's on her. I knew a guy that did the faux relationship signals, it was gross. He'd routinely take FWBs to do things like look at diamond rings and then act personally affronted when the women for some crazy reason thought he wanted something more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/16 12:51 PM |
| 1 | I'm looking for female thoughts on abortion, child support and paternal responsibility.So... basically open up a system ripe for the abuse of human trafficking under the guise of adoptions and increase the amount of money for law enforcement to try and rule that out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 05:24 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the actual prevalence of sexual harassment against women in the work place?Ok, but you're assuming the only possible reason a woman would be skipped for such a promotion is that women are slothy, lazy jerkwads who are terrible at their jobs. Even if you assume that there is literally no sexism in the world, it makes zero sense to also assume that all women are lazy and refuse to work overtime or weekends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:54 AM |
| 1 | In this situation, would you believe your SO?I'd obviously be pretty suspicious because it's a really unusual situation, but if he had a story that made sense I'd tend to believe him. I've found him to be very unlikely to lie, and even when he does if I confront him he pretty much immediately gives up the truth. I mean, I don't think that the scenario you propose would actually fit in with 'having been raped' (in the case of a man) but I'm trying to answer the question more in the spirit it was asked than picking at details. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:50 AM |
| 10 | CMV: The idea that nice guys are evil and manipulative is spread by narcissistic and entitled women.If a woman was rejected and then called a dude constantly, tried to stalk him, and badmouthed him to all her friends I'm pretty sure people would think she was a crazy asshole as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:42 AM |
| 2 | If you could go back and give yourself advice right when you entered the SMP, what would you tell yourself?Stop trying to be what you think you should be and be what you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:41 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the actual prevalence of sexual harassment against women in the work place?Your definition of "serious harassment" is downright laughable. Only the stupidest people alive are going to participate in overt, outright sexual harassment because most people have gotten the message that they can't outright say that they're going to fire you if you don't put out. They've gone underground. This is like saying "Are there studies which show racism in the workplace? You know, actual serious racism like 'Hey you're a nigger', not just things like being skipped over for promotions … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:36 AM |
| 1 | I'm looking for female thoughts on abortion, child support and paternal responsibility.That wasn't your argument, your argument was just "well give it up for adoption, why not?" That's the why not - the system is overwhelmed and can't handle that. We're also already paying for the foster system, so it makes just as much sense to provide social services to the actual mother if she wants to keep the child instead of paying them to strangers to help raise the child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/16 04:22 AM |
| 1 | I'm looking for female thoughts on abortion, child support and paternal responsibility.Why do you feel like adoption systems are able to handle all unwanted children? Domestic adoption numbers are abysmally low and many children already "age out" of the system. Calling the magic adoption fairy is a pipe dream. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/16 03:33 AM |
| 1 | What should the consequences of Infidelity be in an LTR or Marriage?Yes, and your head injuries are such that you often don't know who she is (or may mistake her for someone else, like your sister or your mom) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/16 04:07 AM |
| 2 | What should the consequences of Infidelity be in an LTR or Marriage?You've got a massive head injury through no fault of your own but it's left you extremely limited and you're in a care home for the rest of your life. She could divorce you but then you'd lose the health coverage her insurance provides and she does love you and doesn't want to leave you without. However, you also have 0 chance of recovery and she's looking at 10-20 years alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/16 03:31 AM |
| 2 | This is what all women find attractive.Matt McGorry fanclub meeting here? Hubba. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/16 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Hey gals of PPD, how many of you would be into the type of guy TRP describes as alpha?Above average in looks and fitness. Works out regularly, has a sense of style. Is relatively popular among other women. Nothing wrong with this, although I'm not an HB9000 or whatever the kids are saying so I'm usually not their speed. Has a non-nerdy, masculine job. Owns his own business, travels a lot, manages a lot of people, or works in a physically demanding field. That's fine if he likes doing it. I wouldn't seek that out to the exclusivity of other job functions. Has exciting hobbies such… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/16 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Do you think this new barbie model is fat and encourages being obese?Broke my heart. I wanted to do anything and I want that anything to include owning Swift Wind :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/16 10:37 PM |
| 8 | A Discussion of MoralityOrgan harvesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/16 05:50 AM |
| 1 | BP: How did your past failed relationships go wrong?Yeah, I'm sad that it ended but it was on good terms. His new girlfriend has kids so I think he's a lot happier (and I'm happier with someone who doesn't want them as well). We have dinner every now and then to shoot the shit and see what's going on. It's pretty much the best divorce anyone could hope for tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/16 06:15 PM |
| 4 | BP: Is it ever acceptable to have deal breakers about people for relationships? If so, what are they.I think all dealbreakers are fine, to be honest. Even if I don't agree with the reasoning behind them (if you don't want to date a DV victim because it means she's crazy I think that's kind of silly) in the long run I think it works out best for everybody. No matter how weird or off your dealbreaker is, it pretty much always protects the other party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/16 02:55 PM |
| 2 | BP: How did your past failed relationships go wrong?I've only had one other major relationship (ie, not casual dating). It lasted 10+ years Breakup was mutual Main cause is that he changed his mind about wanting kids, secondary to severe health issues that he was unwilling to address appropriately. I don't think either of us carry blame, we just weren't compatible anymore. Not really, kids were a dealbreaker and we both knew it. His desires just hanged. Yes, it was virtually non-existant, mostly because of the kid thing. I doubt he'd 'oops' me, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/16 02:49 PM |
| 3 | CMV: The vast majority of men are broadly average. Archetypal "alphas" are a tiny minority.I want to go to there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Would you ever date a teen mom/dad? Why or why not?No, because I don't want kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/16 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Q4 Women of PPD who are considered at least fairly attractive today: Did you grow up as a "pretty girl"?They really are! And one time I was seen reading a book about Buddhism so then I was a devil worshipper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/16 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Q4 Women of PPD who are considered at least fairly attractive today: Did you grow up as a "pretty girl"?Nope, I was a nerdy dork. I grew up in a rural community and pretty much never got a date until I made it into college. I was fairly plain and my complete lack of fashion awareness did not help. (Mom, why in the name of the lord did you let me wear stirrup pants to school. WHY.) Weirdly, I developed kind of early so I got gossiped and picked on for being a slut while simultaneously no one would date me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/16 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Hey I tend to agree (total ladyboner for her), but there's always one or two that just HAVE to let you know that they don't think that whatever celebrity is all that hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Yeah I'm being hyperbolic for effect. But things like that do matter, and who they survey makes a huge difference. Heck, if a big segment of the raters were older women they may view them as too young and thus "below average" compared to guys that were 40 and 50 in the mix. Bringing the point back to -- too many uncontrolled variables to say anything other than "hmm, interesting". Just like the horror movie and beer questions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.I don't think that saying one celebrity is less hot than the other five they were drooling over accomplished that, but duly noted. I don't think you need to see thousands of pictures to see that those men aren't all 'below average', just compare them to men you see IRL every day. We have male college sports students through our clinics all the time so technically the average guy I see is 'traditionally' way hotter than that. Which is why I'm saying if 90% of the raters were 25 year old bikini mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Are you a guy or girl. A girl, but I'm assuming my brothers aren't trying to bang me. Click the first link. The examples they gave were of guys who are CLEARLY average or even above average. Right, but my point was that it shows us 4 pictures of how many thousand? And none of the ones that were considered above average. What traits do above average guys share that are pushing them up there? Not sure what that has to do with physical attraction Point being, data can be very broadly interpreted. L… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Or, like men, women have specific tastes. I mean, I have guy friends that assure me that they don't think Scarlett Johansson is "really that hot". Objectively, I'm pretty sure she's not cast in so many roles as a seductress because she's perceived as "not that hot to guys". Doesn't make their opinion wrong, just subjective. It'd be nice to see a broader range of the guys sampled. 4/???? that were "below average"? What is "below average"? Did they rate a 4.8? Or were they rated 1? How many above … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 06:42 PM |
| 4 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Women rated 80% of men on OKCupid as BELOW AVERAGE Women rated 80% of men on OKCupid as BELOW AVERAGE looking (which is statistically IMPOSSIBLE). Attractive men are RARE. Well, not really. One could conclude that men who were average or above looking did not go to OKCupid for dates. (Not saying that's the case, but there are plenty of ways that guys on OKC could primarily rated below average looking). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 06:31 PM |
| 4 | What makes a man sexually attractive?I don't tend to worry about looks (above a threshhold, as someone else mentioned) because I tend to be into nerdy gamer dudes so it's not like my key demographic is known for rippling muscles and their devastating jawlines. The guys I've really enjoyed dating have tended to be small, about half are very androgynous, and they have a tendency to be either skinnyfat or babyfat. I don't think I've dated anyone over 5'10" or so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Would you Date Someone in Prison?I wouldn't start dating someone who is in prison. If my boyfriend went to prison it'd be really dependent upon what he did to land him there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I just found this place. Wow. Anyway, in regards to first dates and who pays and what it signifies mentally.You may just be fishing out of a pool that has a lot of progressive/overly polite women who feel like they should offer to pay their part. I wouldn't read too much into it since it seems like you're not having trouble closing the deal! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/16 06:02 AM |
| 1 | I just found this place. Wow. Anyway, in regards to first dates and who pays and what it signifies mentally.When these women insist on paying, do you usually have a second date with them/continue dating? Or is that the last time you see them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/16 04:38 AM |
| 3 | I just found this place. Wow. Anyway, in regards to first dates and who pays and what it signifies mentally.So for what it's worth, I will always offer to split the ticket on a date. I was taught that it's incredibly rude not to offer to pay your part when you're out with another person. If the guy then really wants to I'll let him, but I don't expect it. If I really don't think we're going to have another date, I'll insist on splitting it after he offers because I feel like it's a really ultra-shitty thing to do to let him pay for my dinner knowing that if he asks me out again I'm going to say no. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/16 04:29 AM |
| 5 | Q4Women. What's most important?So I don't know if I can articulate this appropriately, but the qualities are fluid based on their values. So, for example, if the guy is Quasimodo after being in an industrial acid accident, looks rises in the rankings. You've got to have a hell of a personality to overcome that, sorry Quas. Meanwhile if we have sex and you have trouble identifying where my clitoris is, I really don't care what you look like because it's not doing me any good. Assuming all things equal (say all qualities averag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/16 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Does daft punk's song 'get lucky' prove how it's easier for girls to have sex in night clubs and parties than boys?The song doesn't state that having good fun and getting some are mutually exclusive. Do you think having sex with her would not be good fun for her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/16 04:44 AM |
| 2 | CMV: There is a general idea on TRP that feminists are holding them back from fucking young hot womenafter I feel like the big concern here is not so much with the texting, and is moreso with the fact that she's 14. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 11:38 PM |
| 3 | Debate: Do most women enjoy victimhood status?Anecdotally, I managed to drive myself into the hospital one night with agonizing pains from gallstones (I've seen many women say it's up there with giving birth on the pain scale). The doctor palpated me, declared I'd probably pulled a muscle, and then they gave me ibuprofen and let me lay there for six hours until it resolved. I couldn't even move, I just laid there and cried and begged them to do an ultrasound to prove I wasn't faking it. I worked at that hospital, in the gastroenterology dep… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 03:56 PM |
| 1 | CMV: There is a general idea on TRP that feminists are holding them back from fucking young hot womenIs there a situation in which a man approaching a woman, one time, to ask for a date would land him in jail? Most harassment laws specify it has to be a pattern of harassment which would be considered to be distressful by a reasonable person. (As evidenced by my recent law degree from Google!) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 04:50 AM |
| 8 | Why don't more women help guys become more attractive?But there are so many kinds of attractive to different women that it's almost impossible to say with any confidence that xxx will attract women. Of my three closest friends and myself, one is into quiet nerdy types, one likes a big burly lumberjack type with a beard (she will not date anyone that is beardless), and one is into artistic music guys. The only really overarching advice would be to find women who are into your type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/16 04:48 PM |
| 4 | To Compliment or not to Compliment?I have a coworker that kind of has taught everyone in the office to do this. He often complements people and notices things like that and it does make the day a little cheerier and it spread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/16 05:29 PM |
| 6 | To Compliment or not to Compliment?Yeah I complement randos too, you're not the only one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/16 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Why do single moms receive so much praise?It depends on the area. In some states there may be only 1-2 operating clinics which may also be hours away and require more than one appointment. (Some have required waiting periods - you have to go in and see your fetus on an ultrasound and then come back). In some cases, you will be verbally harassed and there's a chance you may be listed publicly. (Some really nutty religious people will photograph license plates to dox women going to get abortions.) In our state, 90% of counties have no abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/16 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Q4BP: Are Women GENERALLY More Emotional Than Man?I think both are emotional but societally it's only deemed 'acceptable' for them to display certain types of tradionally ok emotions. A woman breaking down crying in public over a relationship woe wouldn't be seen as unusual, but if a man did it it would be even though both probably feel as upset. So men learn not to do that. Angry/aggressive emotions are seen as traditionally male so there's more perceived ability to let those fly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/16 06:28 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as cheatingIt's a bit different - it's like looking for a job when you've got an employment contract. There are typically fines and penalties for breaking employment contracts by leaving early or not following certain procedures. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/16 04:00 PM |
| 0 | BPs disagree with TRP theory but not all TRP actionsSorry, I was trying to be succinct and a little tongue-in-cheek with the AWALT divorce raping - hard to convey that tone! I get that there are many, many, many subreddits and blogs and whatnot about RP and that TRP isn't the end-all, be-all, but sentiments like these (that women aren't "capable" of doing things like being loyal or having real friendships because AWALT, they are driven by hypergamy to find the best possible mate) pop up many places. A lot of female specific language works its way… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/16 04:02 AM |
| 1 | BPs disagree with TRP theory but not all TRP actionsTo follow on this, if everyone can be shallow and terrible, why are there the endless circlejerks about how you can't have a real relationship with a woman because they're not intelligent/loyal/??? enough. It comes up pretty frequently. If people can be terrible, the logical advice is 'form friendships and relationships with honest people who value you', not 'AWALT you're going to be divorce raped'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/16 03:28 AM |
| 1 | CMV: "Nice Guys" are the ones "tricking" women into sex; TRP tells men to be up front about itI find it's a weird two-sided coin with RPers. On one hand, you see a lot of discussion about abundance mentality and how you're not supposed to get oneitis, etc, etc. On the other hand, there seems to be a big focus on things like "last minute resistance" where they tell you to just keep going. Which is just creepy. It seems like the real philosophy is to go away if you're blocked at first approach, but once you breach initial defenses just keep drilling at the shield. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/16 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Are you aware that most RedPillers are outwardly normal people? How do you plan to screen for these guys?HuffPo has a metric crapton of opinion blogs, some with fairly outlandish beliefs. Was it reported as news that men need to man up, or was it someone's editorial opinion column saying men need to man up? I mean: http://jezebel.com/5664951/stop-telling-men-to-man-up http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/09/responses-to-man-up/ http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/shortcuts/2013/mar/05/not-ok-to-man-up Many many corners of the Death Star feminism/social progressives/whatever you want to call it have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 11:00 PM |
| 7 | Are you aware that most RedPillers are outwardly normal people? How do you plan to screen for these guys?And I've read a lot of articles about how the moon landing was faked. It's the Internet. Everyone writes articles about everything and they do. I've never told anyone to man up (except in a clearly joking fashion - I don't even want kids!) but TRP knows best and AWALT amirite?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Do you consider it acceptable for articles such as the below to be sympathised with for women's POV, but not men's? If so, why?Yeah, year one I did a lot of that because I kind of couldn't, but then you're just a dramatic nut and it doesn't seem to occur to them that maybe they could just not comment on stranger's heads for no reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Do you consider it acceptable for articles such as the below to be sympathised with for women's POV, but not men's? If so, why?I'm from the South, and I'm led to believe by colleagues that it's worse down here, but I've never worked elsewhere to really be sure. Also to be fair, small business (where there's no HR, and nothing really done except lip service to anti-harassment) is where the problems tend to be. I mean technically I could have quit and filed for unemployment over the makeup comments but it's he-said/she-said which doesn't generally win you a case unless you've got outside proof and then I've killed my refe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Do you consider it acceptable for articles such as the below to be sympathised with for women's POV, but not men's? If so, why?Usually it's not requests so much as verbal harassment if you don't do it. I had a hellish college year when I cut my hair short because we were doing a lot of field work and I got tired of having to cut little sticks out of it. An entire year of "DYKE" and "You just need a man to show you some real dick sweetheart" from pretty much every dude I had classes with. It contributes to longer hairstyles. A couple of jobs back I worked in a small company and dealt 90% with three older male managers (a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 07:42 AM |
| 2 | Do you consider it acceptable for articles such as the below to be sympathised with for women's POV, but not men's? If so, why?I feel that the article is over-exaggerating the extent/tone of much of what it's saying, but I will say that I've dealt with pretty much every one of those at some point in my life. (Again, not at that level). I'd liken her to the 'super-angry' TRPer that constantly rants about spermjacking and being divorce raped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 06:38 AM |
| 10 | CMV: "Nice guys" rarely, if ever, just want to get their dicks wetI guess maybe I wasn't clear, but they're childless by choice. They have made a conscious decision to not have children with their partners. They function as married couples but most are not married, so there is no financial takeaway. (no common law marriages here) A couple of them wear rings but don't want to deal with the legal BS or aren't religious and think it's bullshit. I mean I guess maybe they've got a master plan to date for 8 years instead of 6 and then have a kid, but these are estab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 06:29 AM |
| 5 | CMV: "Nice guys" rarely, if ever, just want to get their dicks wetI don't know their exact salaries, but they're all in career type jobs, most in either computer science/networking/STEM fields (so I'd assume in the 50-70k range). They're all in their late 20s, early 30s. I guess that's post-wall, I just consider it dating within your age range. For maybe half of the paired couples they're divorced and this is their second go-round. They function as married couples (often including rings) but don't want to deal with the legal bs when both of them have their own… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 05:45 AM |
| 6 | CMV: "Nice guys" rarely, if ever, just want to get their dicks wetThis is one of the things about RP that I find most baffling because I have a lot of guy friends, I'd consider them all to be "nice guys", and they all do pretty damn good when it comes to women. I'm a nerd, most of my guy friends are scrawny 'beta' beanpole/dadbod nerds. In our immediate group there are about 30ish guys and I'd say 70% or so of them are in long term relationships with attractive women. The ones that aren't have a few standouts as to 'why' they aren't dating (one is incredibly b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Women: Can a man have a partner count that was too high for it to be a dealbreaker?I don't judge him, I just think we may have different relationship goals. I don't go OMG AMALT, assume he's actually had 400 partners, or that he's somehow damaged the physiology which would allow him to form a long term relationship - my main concern is that he doesn't want to form a long term relationship. I doubt he'd cheat tbh. Why go through so much BS of setting up a relationship just to cheat when you're clearly pulling plenty of game on your own. TRP's premise seems to be that all women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 04:56 AM |
| 2 | [Question for Women] What advice would you give the man who is in this deadbedroom?I would be interested to see what she says about it to see how different their opinions are of the situation. He speaks a lot about all the things that he does - he works, he provides money, this life is something he BUILT, he deserves, etc, but I don't actually see him speaking about her as a person or about anything that he enjoys about her. From what I can see, they work polar opposite shifts and never spend time together. They've got a young child in addition to this, and although he says sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/16 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Women: Can a man have a partner count that was too high for it to be a dealbreaker?1.) It wouldn't be an immediate dealbreaker, but it would be a concern. There'd be a lot of factors, including age. (A 50 year old dude with 100 partners is less eyebrow raising than a 20 year old dude with 100 partners). 2.) I'd generally lean towards the 6, but as others said it's more that I'd be concerned that the higher number would be incompatible with my relationship values. (I tend to gravitate towards LTRs and someone with 300 partners would not seem to). But I'd at least tell them my c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/16 08:04 AM |
| 4 | Beautiful BPLadies, what you would that you found I was a terper?I'd discuss it with you, but I think in the long run I'd end up having to call it off. If you were reading it seriously (as in, not because you thought it was hilarious) every time we had an issue I'd overanalyze what you were doing and read it as disrespectful and patronizing even if you were doing it innocently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/15 04:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Equal relationships don't exist.Not really sure how you expect people to 'change your view' on this since it's an opinion. My relationship goal is balance. I'm better and more dominant at some things, he's better and more dominant at some things, we recognize and appreciate each other's strengths and function as a team. I don't know any billionaires, but I work with doctors all day and although they are undoubtedly rich, most of them are also neurotic, touchy, and high maintenance. Pretty much every woman in our department has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/15 08:01 AM |
| 7 | Bluepill cares more about making women look good than giving helpful advice.I think the pictures you put up and how you match depend a lot on what you're looking for. If you put up a torso pic and are looking to find someone to marry you, you might have a harder time than if your goal is to find a one night stand. I usually skipped dudes with torso pics because they seemed to primarily be looking for one night stands and that's not what I was looking for. Anybody that sent me an unsolicited dick pic got an immediate block, no questions asked, so I can't back up your exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/15 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Are women oblivious to what constitutes average?I think that dude is super hot. Assuming he wasn't a douchebag, he'd be all three :P | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/15 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Men's heightsI'm 5'4" and the majority of guys I've dated have been between 5'6" and 5'10" or so. I haven't ever dated anyone over 6' and I've only dated one guy shorter than me (he was obsessed with being shorter and talked about it constantly which was my only real issue with his height). This isn't a conscious preference, most of these guys I met through online dating and didn't realize their height until we met up. It's not something I typically worry about a ton. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/15 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionI agree with you 100% - especially in physical endeavors, the average woman is not going to be able to compete with even a low average guy. Sure, there's an occasional Ronda Rousey, but yeah, I don't think there's any safe/reasonable way to get an 'even' split for things like Navy Seals. I think of myself as a pretty strong woman (not in the grrrl power sense, but in the actual lifting sense) because I grew up on a farm baling hay and tend to stay pretty physical, but I'm still shocked sometimes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionI certainly acknowledge that men and women face very different problems in society, some of them are skewed against women, and some are skewed against men. They also have very different reactions/interpretations/needs typically. I don't feel this is necessarily biological (I feel a lot of it is more cultural/social conditioning) but regardless of what we view the cause to be, you and I at least agree that it's there, fair? Is the 1960's equal opportunity fight still in play? I'd say no, I could … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-Delusiongreat choice of words. Figured you'd appreciate that. Hire a lawyer, hunker down, make sure there's no legal repercussions (ie, that he's not actually being charged/is acquitted), bring civil charges for damages (if we can), and then in a year or so move to a bigger city if there's still local pushback. And I agree with you in both these situations - it completely sucks, and is unfair. At least in the first situation it's unfair in the name of providing for an innocent party (the child), but sti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionMy bad - I can't imagine any legal scenario where a non-involved party is on the hook for child support so I legit didn't know that's what you were getting at. OK, so assuming we're in a situation where for some reason we're both on the hook for this together, I'd meet with her and see what her reasons for keeping the child were. I'd offer to pay for an abortion or to help set up an adoption, but at the end of the day if she wants to keep it then we're stuck paying for it. I'd ask for a paternit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 12:04 AM |
| 0 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionI'd break up with him for cheating on me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/15 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-Delusionits almost as if TRP is aimed at men. And if I was in TRP asking about it, I'd understand more. Yet here we are, in a purple pill community designated for debate. Presumably you didn't come here by accident thinking it was TRP because you're colorblind. "You wouldn't understand" isn't a great debating tactic. because I am able to separate morality from the discussion and attempt to look at it objectively from the position of the man who is backed into a corner. I have never met a woman who can d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/15 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionPart of the reason I have such a problem relating to TRP posts is that if you question any part of what they say EVEN for the purposes of trying to understand the thought process or learn more about it, immediately the response is well there's no way you could understand, you're a woman. I know I picked an extreme example, I specifically picked an extreme example to see what you thought about it. I already stated earlier up that I felt like the average, moderate TRPer wasn't like this. However, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/15 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill is Equal Parts Self-Improvement and Self-DelusionI'm asking this for clarification, and not trying to be 'haha gotcha' or anything, but how do you reconcile "TRP does not hate women" with some of the posts that have been put up which advocate frankly awful behavior while any person who suggests that it might not be sympatico is shouted down because 'game is amoral'? A recent example that comes to mind the post discussing how to to pressure your partner into having an abortion, with multiple people inside suggesting things you could spike your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/15 10:37 PM |
| 3 | Star Wars 7 Gender Roles and General SpoilersWith so much time gone by, you'd imagine more women would have joined the ranks of the dark side. But nope. 99% men. Men =evil. Women = good. You know, now that you mention it I'd never really thought about it, but I guess I always assumed that the Dark Side was mostly dudes because they had a more stable structure (and would be drafting men and keeping women at home to keep creating more stormtroopers) and the resistance had more chicks and random aliens because they were stragglers who survive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/15 05:40 AM |
| 1 | What was your parents' relationship like, do you think this factored into your beliefs on relationships and sexuality and if so how?My biological parents divorced when I was very young, apparently acrimoniously (although neither of them told me - I found out at my biological dad's funeral). They both remarried and I had two stepfamilies that I went back and forth between (they lived fairly close to each other). My mom and stepdad were very traditional but my mom was what I guess I'd call 'redneck feminist'. Because of her divorce she became very self sufficient and pretty much demanded that I be the same. She's the reason I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 07:22 PM |
| 1 | TBP: How come you guys say that TRP methodology is advice you can get from anywhere, but yet say that it is ineffective on most women?I'm not claiming to understand anyone else's problem, I was responding specifically to the crack that the only thing that a BP person would do in the relationship is "give up". There's a lot of reasons behind dead bedrooms. My last marriage ended up the same way, basically because over a 10 year period we completely changed as people and just weren't compatible anymore even though we communicated well. The person I was at 20 was just not the same as the person I was at 30. Secondly, you're going… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 06:27 PM |
| 3 | TBP: How come you guys say that TRP methodology is advice you can get from anywhere, but yet say that it is ineffective on most women?Well, ok, if expecting to be treated decently is dread then I am dread queen. My point was that I'm not going to go out and flirt with a bunch of dudes so that he knows I can have sex with someone else. Presumably he knows that since we both were married before this - we could each go out and have sex with another person. Pretty much anybody you date can go out and have sex with someone else if they really want to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 05:50 PM |
| 1 | TBP: How come you guys say that TRP methodology is advice you can get from anywhere, but yet say that it is ineffective on most women?I didn't tell him he was maliciously taking me for granted. In fact I knew he wasn't, he was busy. I reminded him, and it hasn't been a problem since. I know that he appreciates being told there are problems instead of having hints and passive aggressive games going on. He has TOLD me this. I'm not assuming it, it was laid out front at the beginning of the relationship. I'm pretty laid back so if I'm upset about something, I tell him. That goes both ways - if he has an issue he just tells me wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 05:48 PM |
| 1 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillHe may be. He's very extroverted and is part of a lot of social type planning meetups and committees and likes to do attention seeking things like standup comedy (whereas I tend to associate aspergers folks with being shyer/more introverted), but that could also be him trying very very hard to overcome any setbacks related to having aspergers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 05:21 PM |
| 1 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillOh yeah some of them are nice right up until abuse, that's why I always consider "Nice Guys" to be a sarcastic moniker - they're not nice. Greatest hits of awkward dating: On a first date I begged off earlyish (around 10) because I had to get up the next day and go out to take care of my elderly dad and mow his yard. The guy immediately offered to come pick me up and go with me to mow his yard and meet my dad. One guy wrote me a poem circa date 3-4 comparing me to his dead ex-wife. That I didn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 04:54 PM |
| 1 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red Pill35ish - when he got divorced his wife had to get a restraining order against him for the same kind of badgery behavior so apparently he's mellowed in his old age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 03:47 PM |
| 2 | TBP: How come you guys say that TRP methodology is advice you can get from anywhere, but yet say that it is ineffective on most women?Don't know what other BP people would do, but last time I had that problem I just told the guy. "Hey, I know you've got a bunch of shit going on but I do too and I still do nice things for you." That was a kick in the ass, things normalized. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 03:31 PM |
| 3 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillSo desperate nice guys shouldn't want to date desperate post wall women? In that case it's not "they can't get a date" but "their standards are too high". "They can't get a date that they feel they deserve." I'm not saying you have to marry everybody you date, but desperation implies that you can't get any dates, not that you can't get a date that meets all of your standards. (And to head this off, no I'm not a hot chick. I'm pretty average looking and over 30 so my uterus is rotting out from di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 02:49 PM |
| 3 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillI'm more confused about why this nice guy wants her to settle with him when she's clearly got some emotional issues if she keeps going back to an abusive relationship. Stop orbiting Henry and his women - go introduce yourself to women who are open to meeting you and dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 02:35 PM |
| 3 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillOK, I guess we're defining successful differently. I see success as a healthy relationship (or hell, even a healthy FWB situation) where nobody is afraid of anyone and nobody is getting beaten. If by success, you mean putting your dick into a person, then yes you can prey on people with mental illness and emotional issues and have sex with a lot of them. I was assuming that a legitimate nice guy also would not want to have a relationship which centered around physical and verbal abuse, but if th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 02:24 PM |
| 1 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillI would tend to agree with the breakdown you've got. To me, only the first type of Nice Guy is the problem - the narcissist. The other two may bring their share of awkward dating (or even boring dating) but they're not someone I'd complain about or deride as trying to get one over on me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 02:12 PM |
| 2 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillThis is only my opinion, but i don't consider those to be Nice Guys. They're just confused or awkward. My primary dating 'type' is scientists, computer programmers, networking guys, and other nerds. I have experienced quite frankly an astounding amount of awkward-nice dating ritual because of this and it doesn't come across to me as something that they're doing in demand of sex. Nice Guy is meant to be a sarcastic term. They believe their gestures to be nice when they're instead often very aggre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 02:04 PM |
| 4 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillThanks for posting that, it's really interesting read. There's parts that I agree with and parts that I disagree with. So going along with the comparisons in the article above, let's examine Henry, the abusive asshole with five wives. The conclusion drawn from the anecdote is that Henry is a fucking asshole and has five wives and Dan is a super cool dude with none. But if Henry is a domestic abuser, statistically he's going to target women who will submit to his abuse. The tendency of partners w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 01:50 PM |
| 9 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillI have no real numbers because I have no idea how you'd even measure that since most Nice Guys don't have the ability to evaluate that behavior objectively. I'd guess that it's a small portion (maybe 10-20%), but because they tend to have a shotgun approach and will complain at length to anybody that will listen there seems to be lot more of them. I've had Nice Guys tell me Nice Guy stories about how terrible women just can't appreciate a Nice Guy pretty much as soon as they meet me on a date. O… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 04:55 AM |
| 12 | TBP: How come you guys say that TRP methodology is advice you can get from anywhere, but yet say that it is ineffective on most women?I'm a chick, but I'd like to observe (Women get jealous. This is no secret. People want what they can't have. A woman who has been in a relationship with a guy for a long time is going to want to keep him around. If she see's that other women are interested, then she isn't just going to let that happen unless she really doesn't care about the relationship anymore. She's going to work to keep him.) This is a sunk cost fallacy. I'm not staying with a guy just because we've been together for a long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 04:40 AM |
| 13 | If Feminists/Blue Pillers STOPPED claiming Nice guys are actually manipulative assholes entitled to sex, maybe less people would turn to The Red PillI think there's a huge difference in nice guys and Nice Guys™. Regular nice guys are just nice people. I got no problem with that, sometimes they're cool and we're compatible, sometimes they're not. C'est la vie. However, Nice Guys™ are a completely different breed. These are the kinds of guys that will do things for you, unrequested (and often not wanted), and then be upset or enraged that you aren't falling over yourself to thank them for it. One of the worst Nice Guys in our group used to com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 01:30 AM |
| 1 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.I would agree with you that spousal support when there are no kids is something that should be the exception and not the rule. I can think of very few situations where it would be appropriate. I'd say things like outstanding, serious medical issues, considerations of spousal support during the marriage (if one partner supported the other through college, for example), etc. I'd also say that in the majority of those cases, they should be time limited as well and for a very specific purpose. Obvio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/15 01:49 AM |
| 2 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.Oh yeah I'll fully admit we're the exception and not the rule, but on the same hand I also don't know of anyone in my peer group/colleague group that had a really acrimonious divorce. There's an argument that maybe the dudes aren't airing that they got taken to the cleaners, but they still seem to be on friendly terms with their exes so it seems unlikely. That said, I also fully support a fair prenuptial agreement because you can't really rely on people not to go apeshit if things go sour. I wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/15 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Are most of the non-RPW women and blue pillers on here more interested in defending women and maintaining their power over sexual strategy, than learning to empathise with men?So with the immediate disclaimer that I'm not claiming that any of these are part of the RP bible or sidebar or whatever (because people are always quick to #notmytrp - and I tend to agree that loud obnoxious angry converts are usually loudest...), just that I see them as the most interesting. A recent post had a guy complaining that he was having sex with several different girls without protection and one of them had given him chlamydia. His conclusion was that women are disease spreading machi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 07:42 PM |
| 5 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.Ah, mine was even further back, way back in the early 80s (I'd assumed they were before most alimony reform - my bad! You know what they say about assuming). I was a kid so they obviously didn't give me their salaries, but they had jobs that would have had similar pay in that time (although my mom didn't have benefits like my dad did, I remember that - because of that my doctor was like an hour away if I got sick). She didn't get alimony from what the divorce papers said, citing that she worked … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 06:35 PM |
| 3 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.My parents got divorced in roughly the same time period (I'd suspect) and my mom kept the house and had to refinance to pay equity to my dad. And we're in the south so it's not like it was a liberal island. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 06:27 PM |
| 5 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.I love getting a divorce and giving 70% of my shit to the girl. I love taking the hit fully! j/k.... kind of. So I'm legitimately curious about this - is this a common phenomenon in your circle? In our circle there's plenty of divorced people (including me) and none of our divorces worked like that. But, we all tend to be childless and have stable careers (male or female) so child support becomes a non-issue. "Take what you came in with and split half of whatever you got together" seems to be th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 05:40 PM |
| 11 | CMV: When Red Pillers show their true beta side some months into the relationship and get dumped the problem isn't that they are beta, the problem is that they got into the relationship under false premises.I think there's also a large correlation ≠ causation bias going on here as well. Right around the time that the guy is "going beta" is also right around the time you start really learning things about each other and when tiffs and fights tend to start in general. Without emotional buy-in you don't tend to get a lot of fighting because who cares. Some rando dude doesn't call me for a week, oh well. Some guy I'm dating for six months doesn't call me for a week, wtf. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Are most of the non-RPW women and blue pillers on here more interested in defending women and maintaining their power over sexual strategy, than learning to empathise with men?I'm here because I honestly find the conclusions that TRPers tend to reach really interesting. Most of the core values of TRP are good or neutral at worst: take care of yourself mentally and physically, find things you like doing, don't do things just to make other people happy, etc are all solid advice that I'd give to any person regardless of gender or sexuality. Being good to yourself is important, and being a confident, secure person is an attractive quality which will make you more attracti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/15 07:31 PM |
| 2 | (Both pills) Does anyone have any idea how to get over "approach anxiety"?Some of my more anxietal male friends have had a lot of success by focusing on finding non-romantic situations to interact with women in. Local meetup groups are great for that. Our big local one holds meet and greet type events a couple of times a month where there are lots of people there if you want to try just jumping in to talk. Hobby-based groups are also helpful because you've got a built-in conversation topic. A bonus is that they also opened up their dating pool because they found peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/15 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Actual Nice Guy, Asshole, and SupplicantI'm not actually the dog crying poster - sorry about that, kind of hijacked. As far as buying favorite food, I thought that wasn't that uncommon. His best friend drinks Blue Moon (which he hates) but he'll grab a six pack to have around in addition to whatever he's drinking. I haven't found that to be too unusual. If we get couple invitations it's usually accompanied by "Oh and Bill said to tell Jeff that he got those jalapeno poppers" or something similar. Granted, that's not always the case an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/15 08:24 PM |
| 3 | Actual Nice Guy, Asshole, and SupplicantImagine my boyfriend's dude friend going "Hey dude I'm making WINGSSSS mofo, bring your sauce". His dude friend knows that my boyfriend likes wings, and that they both like wings, and that eating wings together watching sports is a fun thing they do together. They manage to do this without accidentally making out or having buttsex or anything, it's super amazing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/15 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Scenario for discussion regarding unwanted/ unplanned pregnancyI'd propose that a system divorced from depending upon the man would probably be better. I think ideally every working person would pay a 'child tax' of some sort. Male, female, infertile, 15 kids, whatever, a small portion of income would be paid into a child "fund". The fund would cover sex education to teens, provision of birth control for both women and men (providing condoms, vasectomies if they want them), prenatal care, and providing support to women to help raise children. If the father … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/15 05:11 AM |
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