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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 7 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.Weak and cowardly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:35 PM |
| 8 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂The last slide. I am screaming. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse's mouthYuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:35 PM |
| 143 | Trigger warning for exes of porn addictsWeird flex. What a world we live in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:28 AM |
| 2 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.“Uses haha.” Holy shit. You’re right. It’s always bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:39 PM |
| 4 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.Lol. I thought the same. What the hell does that mean? Mama cooks for me? I’m from a “good family” and have lots of high quality socially acceptable faux acquaintance friends? Pff. I had NO support system, got sober and dragged myself up from nothing. That’s a fucking flex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 3 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.“Tall skeleton and fat tall men” - I am screaming. Forevermore going to see men in these categories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Husband “face fucks” pregnant wife for 45 minutes, gets verbally abusive when she wants an orgasm too; OP thinks it’s her fault for “not communicating”Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 01:22 AM |
| 80 | Promise rings are a fucking joke.I got a promise ring from a boyfriend when I was 20. I thought it was sweet. I think he would have married me eventually. Shortly after he gave me this ring, he escalated his abuse to slapping me across the face. I dumped him immediately and never spoke to him again. Dodged that one haha. Funny, this same dude just tried to add me on Facebook, after twenty years of no contact. Block and delete. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:58 PM |
| 148 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)General tips: Don’t make it obvious to anyone that you live alone. Don’t post anything personal on social media and dear god don’t post sexy pics / thirst traps (it’s just a magnet for the wrong attention). Think about the digital trail you’ve left, everywhere. Never use OLD lol. Take a self defense course. Be strategic about how you dress and move about the world. I find it easier to avoid clowns if I don’t draw attention to myself. I also need to be able to run in any shoes I wear if I’m going… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteHe’s a pedo. Law enforcement, divorce lawyer, asap. Also - potentially cheating? How is this not cheating? Odd how the cheating is the part she seems to focus on. I’d be more worried about my husband pursuing someone who is a minor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneBluntly: A 39 year old man suddenly deciding he wants to settle down with someone ten years younger is potentially a sign of a man who dragged his heels for a decade, and has now decided he’s ready and is looking for the first woman he finds to meet his criteria. This would have me running. There are men who finally decide it’s time because of social pressure and their own internal clock. This is recipe for misery if you are looking for anything beyond a transactional relationship. Red flags all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:18 PM |
| 17 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceExcellent analysis. Always thought the dude looked creepy, couldn’t shake it. I mean look at his face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:19 AM |
| 8 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I do this and I do it early. If he doesn’t respect my “no”, I’m out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:38 AM |
| 28 | This is why setting clear boundaries from the beginning is important. He showed his true colors before wasting any time. I had ghosted him many years ago after a few dates and always felt bad cause I thought he seemed nice, so I decided to respond when he reached out again and this happenedNice work dodging this fool. I don’t explain myself to guys like this - I just block with no reply and leave them hanging for all eternity. I figure why waste a minute more of my life. Silence is powerful and it’s zero work for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:26 AM |
| 23 | First real date post-breakup and FDS helped SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!Glad you dodged him. I might be missing something but if he was this much of a creep, what made you continue with the date? (eg go to a speakeasy, etc)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 10:49 PM |
| 4 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateThis can’t be real. No way this was written by a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:09 PM |
| 66 | Advice for Moving In with a BoyfriendSuggestion: Remove the “desperately want to escape parents” from the equation - pretend you already live on your own. Would you still want to move in with him? And, do you think it would be beneficial / would you like to live on your own before marriage? And, do you love him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:41 PM |
| 38 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesI moved in with a man who I thought was HV after we got engaged. We bought a house together. His behaviour changed drastically once we moved in. I realized that he thought he had me locked down and I wouldn’t leave at that point (he said as much), so he dropped his nice guy act. I outlined my expectations and when he wouldn’t meet them, I left very quickly. I feel that for me cohabitating was an important step in the vetting process. I shudder to think of having married him, moved in, and then h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:37 PM |
| 50 | Be aware of “holiday daters” looking for an entertainment while on vacation.Translation - convo 1: “Fortunately for me I’ve got two weeks away from (wife / gf / real life) to fuck as many different women as possible with no pressure for commitment or decency, but let’s pretend I care about your feelings and throw in an ‘us.’” Convo 2: “This is a minute fraction of disclosure intended to set you at ease to distract you from the larger and more relevant fact that I am married with kids.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you have any male friends?I have one left. He’s on thin ice. He was in love with me years ago, told me directly, and we had an honest conversation where I clearly stated that I don’t feel that way. He never broached the topic again or made me feel uncomfortable, and went on to date other women and ultimately settle down with a long term partner. Yet I still have a nagging feeling he’s attracted to me and she picks up on it and is jealous. Its weird and it now makes me feel awkward and shitty, which I think makes the whol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:24 PM |
| 128 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!Thank you for this reminder. And I am so sorry this happened to you. Stating the obvious but he could have killed you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:00 AM |
| 25 | Negotiation tactic: always be willing to walk awayExcellent post. This is why it’s all the more important to vet fully before becoming sexually invested. For me — and a lot of women — having slept with a man makes it 1000% harder to walk away. My brain works more effectively without the bonding hormones, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:38 AM |
| 51 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Uses the word “cheating” completely out of context. Say your favourite food is pizza and suddenly you start ordering nachos all the time. And he says, “you better not tell your pizza youre cheating on them with nachos.” IRL example (with details changed for anonymity). Who says that unless they’re thinking about cheating? Other one is telling you upfront - unsolicited - about how great a guy he is / trustworthy / monogamous / loyal, etc. If you are those things why say it it hasn’t been called i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:50 AM |
| 104 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?“Very private person” - stingy with detail other people wouldn’t think twice about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexI am 42 and this so precisely describes my experience that my eyes blurred with tears as I read it. Thank you. The most important thing is to never give up. In giving up and accepting what harms us we participate in our own destruction. At the end, all we truly have is our own integrity. Thank you again for writing this. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:25 PM |
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