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ouaaia/r/askMRP09/06/24 02:15 PM
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1) what supplementation would you take? I was taking a ton before (zinc, magnesium, pygeum, lechitin, arginine, desiccated liver, magnesium, creatine, glutamine) and couldn't sleep. Now I cut them all out except glutamine and creatine. Sleep better, lift better, no libido. My diet is good- lots of eggs, skyrr, natural foods. I added carbs back (think you and better man had the same suggestion) and it's helping to bulk, don't think that affects libido tho. 2) yeah, I get how it sounds, been throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/25 10:12 PM
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OYS #48 40s, 165lbs (+2 over 2 weeks), 15% BF (+1), 5’9″ Married 20y, 2 kids Lifts / Fitness BP t2: 185x8 three times, 185x6 three times BP t1:215x3, 215x2 (at altitude, raised leg bench, think I am maintaining) DL: 225x3, regular bar, hit goal Squat: 225x10 3x, rebound from a 5 rep set, on a smith machine while traveling Excited that I finally am feeling the dl hip hinge. 225 was a big milestone as I've struggled on this lift. Was getting close to two plates on BP, travel gym throwing me for a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/25 05:01 PM
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There's a big picture thing I want What I really want now tho is a break to settle down
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/25 09:41 PM
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Ayurvedic, acupuncture, tea, vitamins, supplements, whatever homeopathic routes
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/25 09:40 PM
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Not really. Never been present or settled. I am slowly getting better at meditation and not letting thoughts consume me. Bored kids is a good analogy - I'm never settled.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/25 09:40 PM
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1) I'll check out the rabbit hole, I usually obsess with deep dives but worth doing here, thx 2) I actually know what I want to do, more lost on the path to get there, doesn't really change the point you made tho 3) it was mostly her idea, thought it sounded fun, but some of that was just to get a reaction from LTR, which is basically the validation point you're making
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/25 06:20 PM
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OYS #47 40s, 163lbs (+4 over 3 weeks), 14% BF, 5’9″ M20y, 2k 23.8 BMI, 60bpm (+6), 59 Sleep (-3), Battery 57 (unch) Lifts / Fitness BP: 210x5, 215x3, 175x10 3x hit goal DL: 215x5, +30lbs (trap v bar), hit goal Squat: 225x5 3x, bad performance Squatted at 5:30 after a 2am conf call. Still not happy. Much more flexibility post recovery, but lost a lot of strength in balancing muscles. I've been resting my back but I have little progress in 3 months. BP went 210x3 to 215x3. Pull ups from 15 to 17. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/25 03:47 PM
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Sounds like you're juggling a lot - just target 300lbs. Calories in, calories out, and make every decision based on minimizing the former or maximizing the latter. Just one goal -300- Try measuring it. I was really surprised how many more calories I burn on compound lift days versus accessory lift days, biking, skiing, any cardio. I think you're off track with the carbs, couple others alluded to it. I try to get 160-200g of protein a day and I weigh 160lbs. -300- Don't make it hard, if you like …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/25 02:06 AM
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You're tracking calories in. What are calories out on a run day versus a heavy lift day?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 11:39 PM
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OYS #46 40s, 159lbs (-2), 13% BF, 5’9″; Married 20y, 2 kids 23.8 BMI, 54bpm (-3), 62 Sleep (-10), Battery 57 (+8) Lifts / Fitness BP: 205x5, hit goal DL: 185x5, hit goal Squat: 225x5 3x, bad performance Squatted at 5:30 after a 2am conf call. Still not happy. Much more flexibility post recovery, but lost a lot of strength in balancing muscles. Goal: 210x5 in BP, doing IF to mini cut for long weekend Still need to rest vertebrate for about a week after heavy dl/squat day, but starting to feel sor…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 01:46 PM
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I don't get it. I think I'm doing what you're saying, so either I'm not getting it or miscommunicating. Problems I create - yes, that is what I am saying. I am jumping to a worst case scenario. Mostly because if I believe she's cheating, I can leave guilt free. Nice guy leftover complex. So I went through the various ways I was hamstering it. And arrived at my projections, and acknowledged that's what I'm doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/25 11:46 PM
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One of the reasons I was finding a Dr What makes you call that out? 2nd rec here
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 10:41 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 05:09 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 05:08 PM
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Yeah, I gotta get better at that. Been around cultures that celebrate suffering too much, you can't cc plowhorsing. The pace is frustrating but the rec to go back over the post history helps. One of the first comments I got was "sounds like your problem is your career but you're on a sexual strategy forum?" Someone else told me to update LinkedIn and I'm like "people don't LinkedIn at my level." When I started doing outreach weekly on OYS, a high level recruiter told me my LinkedIn sucks. Update…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 11:26 PM
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OYS #45 40s, 161bs 13.1% BF, 5’9″; Married 20 y, 2 kids 23.8 BMI, 57bpm, 72 sleep, Battery 49 Lifts / Fitness Getting back from rehab days to GZCL T1-3. BP: 165x10 three times, going to 170 next vol day DL: 175x5, going to 185 this week Squat: 225x10 twice, 250 next Need to rest vertebrate for about a week after every heavy dl/squat day. Much improved range of motion. Goal: BP hit 205x5 this week, on way to 225×5, 750x3 across big 3 Career Took a break from the search grind, tried to just focus …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 07:09 PM
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I get it, I'm not processing it yet Words betray
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 04:23 AM
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Yes, you have, appreciate it. I actually feel way worse in career but feel better in every other aspect. I realize the hole is mission/ purpose. Realizing it is making me less erratic, now I'm just trying to figure out what to do about it. I might be best served by taking a step back and letting myself go back to reactive mode in the sense that I've played my hand on a couple career moves, maybe I should wait for the river card before making my next move. Pushing too hard on acta non verba is sw…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 04:22 AM
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Thx, just saw your OYS, good luck on your Step 9
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 04:16 AM
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It's funny, I get the 12 step relevance more. It's a better lens for this than sidebar. Environment or ambitious rec'd 48 lop Horns noted I was using too much Mrp in a work situation where I was beta I am actually at step 1 and 4-7, albeit inadvertently I made a bad career choice, was in denial for a long time I realized the game was rigged I got angry I accepted that I made the choice and benefited from the rigged game until I didn't anymore Now I'm just deep in a hole trying to figure out what…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/25 04:36 AM
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I understand this conceptually I don't get it in practice I waited and waited for a break that never came So I spent the past 2 years doing something every week to make it happen I realize it is a fine line between being passive and letting events playing out at their natural rate. I think you're right - my energy has been too frantic. Made me realize I have never been in flow state at work. I know what it is and how I should be there, just haven't figured out how to get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/25 12:24 AM
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OYS #44 40s, 161lbs (13.3% BF, 24 BMI, 58bpm, 61 avg sleep score), 5’9″; married 20 y, 2 kids Lifts / Fitness Back is settling down after chiropractor session and stretch drills. Trap-bar deadlifts at 135×10 felt smooth, and I did some conventional DL volume without pain. Much better ankle flex and hip hinge. Bench press got stuck — I missed 205×5 twice, stalling at four reps both with and without a spotter. Worked more on pull ups since leg day is lighter: got 15 one session, 16 the next. Goal:…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/25 11:39 AM
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I'm looking into it My plan has been to get a new job, take time off, do a 1-4 week rehab wellness detox retreat Therapist I'm seeing is good and will get her take too. Thought the guy I want to be my sponsor had been sober for a few years but relapsed 6 months ago. Make sense to ask someone with a longer streak? Appreciate the positive / negative surrender breakdown.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/25 05:13 PM
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I have extensively psychoanalyzed this, and I think I have my head around the first part. I find the requirement from my boss unreasonable. I can quantify this and compare it - not feelings. He controls my finances, which I equate with livelihood; I need to change both. Simple not easy - I don't see a path for me to align my current work with a mission or purpose long term. I did have some tools to build something, but these were mostly taken. ChatGPT tells me I suffered loss of agency, you've c…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 07:11 PM
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That's pretty close. I have unreasonable expectations put on me, mostly professionally. Because fam depends on work, I feel the fam expectation is unreasonable. Then, I in turn extend that standard to friends, family, LTR, coworkers etc. There's always a little bit of truth though. I do a lot, I demand a lot. I am high performing, I should be around high performers. Of the 20+ people I have let go, only two are still in my industry. I don't regret any of them. Cut off dad, mom, sister, some mili…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/25 08:05 PM
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Change your handle tagline when you cross under 300
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 11:16 PM
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OYS #43 40s, 159lbs (12.9% BF, 23.1 BMI), 5’9”; married 20y, 2 kids Lifts / Fitness BP: 205×4, basically where I was a month ago – better form at least. Hurt my back again while squatting - felt a crinkle in L4/L3 in the hole. I pushed too hard by doing heavy squats and deadlifts in the same week without a belt (on top of rucking). 3rd back injury in 6 months, need to rethink my program. I’ve switched from the GZCL 4x routine to a ChatGPT guided rotation to balance work and recovery. Dedicated d…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 05:01 PM
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I get it, not explaining it well Past choices made, have accepted Future choices, I know they are mine, I just catch myself inadvertently making excuses about why it's so hard
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/25 02:55 PM
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I've accepted responsibility for where I am. I still blame others for why I can't get to where I want to be. Basically where futile just called me out for pathologizing. It's just killing bsg over and over again.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 08:43 PM
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Yes, the pathologizing is a pointless doom spiral. Now- I was actually in my home office when I read it. Resonated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 08:42 PM
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I think problems with fucking your wife is the check engine light. It's actually an overt contact violated- this woman stood up in public, said love you in sickness and health, til death do you part. And you gave up hanging with your buddies and chasing girls to give her a family and be a good provider. And after all that, and she's not fucking you? My being a good provider came at the cost of my physical fitness and mental health. So ofc that's unattractive. Like pathetically so. Eeyore plow ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 04:15 PM
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Ego Yes, you got the gist of it. Similar professional issue. I have a hard time accepting that I live in the world that is, not the world that should be. I'm right and it doesn't matter. Nuance is that my boss / founder is also a father figure, so this breakdown has every psychosis archetype of Stockholm syndrome, ptsd, covert contract, cognitive dissonance, mania, hyperventilation. Generally accepting that I am powerless in my current state. IOI / Career I was using IOI as an analogy. I need ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 04:08 PM
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I think so I think I'm moving past the external validation stage I got a sense of what I need to be doing internally, but still need some external resources to get there
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 11:20 PM
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I don't think you've been hard - the whole point of being here is to get a hard look at yourself. I'm frustrated because of what's not clicking. The point a few weeks back was that ego is your mental perception and when it is disconnected from reality, the cognitive dissonance is excruciating. So the delusional part is what's had me hamstering. I'm actually more confident what I am building is awesome and the people around me don't get it. I think the analog is I have enough IOI's but I'm terrif…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 11:16 PM
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This is a little in my answer to alpha, but yes, I have assessed, it just takes a long time to crystallize for me. I finally have an outline of what I want, and my current career won't get me there. So I'm trying to keep going at my current job to make sure bills are covered and pivot to one of 3 options. I'm not being efficient with it so I'm using up a lot of frantic energy. Mission is build something, unsure of purpose. To really build something I need a new job and my plan is bridge there an…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:54 PM
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Hadn't seen Goggins, will check out, thanks. I've done calm app, binaural beats, yoga nidra, have a meditation pillow and need to try something else. Hobbies are skiing, boating, cooking, gym. Yeah, you are right on calories. I've dialed back on food because my leg workout intensity dropped. I've lost lbs and bf but feel worse. 15% is prob about right for me too.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:51 PM
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I literally thought about saying I was going to use my victim puke on this OYS, then didn't have time to do the whole backstory that has me caught in a mental loop I get the concept of cues and presence, it's just hard for me because I've spent my whole life fitting into someone / something else's frame. IF and gym at 5:30 are easy for me, quitting drinking is hard. IQ is easy, EQ is hard. Trying to push through hard shit just takes time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:49 PM
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OYS #42 40s / 158lbs / 12.8% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Sq: 225x10 for 3 sets, was at 275 a month ago, 185 last week BP: 205x2, was at 210x3 a month ago Strength’s dropped since I shifted toward rehab and form. Workouts were burning 500–600 cal, now hitting 200–300. About ready to start coming back up. Practicing hip hinge like people do golf swings. Traveling, 3 ski days Goal: 750 Big 3. Career Final round got shifted to penultimate next week. Five one hour zoom sessions, then an in p…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:46 PM
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Maybe I started on the step 4 stuff a while ago Was thinking about your greatest fear question It's prob along the lines of I'm not as good as I think I am or I am actually crazy That's important to figure out, but I think it's next phase for me Delusion and faking til I make it is the interview process Regardless of where it ends up, that's a better time to complete step 4 and address those fears
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 12:13 AM
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You mean step 4, or smt else?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 09:18 PM
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Thanks, I gotta try it out, I'm a learn lessons the hard way guy...but I'll prob come back and tell you it's a garbage bag with lube
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 04:23 PM
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Is there something you think I should be doing differently? My worst situation is professional, I have a chance to change that, I'm focusing on the interview to create a new option.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 04:22 PM
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Agree on challenges I think IUD diminished her libido, but it also came after the baby rabies stage. Not sure if yours has copper or hormonal but if you're in the managing dread stage it doesn't seem like it's an issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 04:16 PM
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Yeah, even though I know sexual dynamics are a brand of relationship dynamics, I'm still surprised at how much of my relationship one-itis over lapped with career one-itis I've been chiseling at this for a year and focus each OYS on a career outreach, I have the outline of creating some options now I didn't actually know there was a shot. She was on some copper hormonal regulator for a decade, will check that out. Is there an anti-snip school of thought? I never wanted to for leaving options ope…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 04:37 PM
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OYS #41 40s / 161lbs / 13.5% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. 3 gym sessions BP: 175x8, unch. Sq: 185x10 for 3 sets, with / without lifts, working on mobility DL: 185x8, trap bar. Lots of yoga and stretch work Career Navigated a lot of ups and downs. Founder was in town last week, and that heightens the anxiety level. Living outside my frame. This is what I need to solve. Best career change opportunity in a long time- have a final round interview in two weeks. I need to focu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 11:39 AM
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First answer, idk and almost never Second, closest is when I ski Third, oh, at the gym sometimes...that's the whole point of lift
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 05:41 PM
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Would've said id or self, but think its presence or consciousness
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 04:12 AM
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I thought of them as feminine. It makes sense that emotions were evolutionary triggers for a "flight" response. It's not logical to think 75% of the things that can happen are bad when the world evolves. I guess at some point in time you got eaten 3 out of 4 times you left the cave. I want to be rational, so I rationalize why I act irrationally when I allow emotions to dictate a response. Anyways, I got asked to the final round and I'm pumped. Then I realized how I was wasting energy on revenge …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 09:44 PM
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I get a lot of feedback on anger that I hadn't fully grasped. The pie chart helps me see all the ways it can manifest itself. I inadvertently made your point to the therapist - 75% of the pie chart sucks. Most people don't control the negative part, or can't allow themselves to feel happiness, or both. I need to do both better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 02:59 AM
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OYS #40 40s / 159lbs / 13% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3 by 4/30 BP: 175x8, prev best was 160x10 for volume. Sq: 135x10, 8 sets, with / without lifts, working on mobility Lots of yoga and stretch work Career Good third round interview. Have used a lot of relationship dynamics in work with recruiters over past 6 months. Tried to figure out if the right analog was to "play hard to get" or send a follow up note. Decided that I want this opportunity, so the best path is to be …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 11:19 AM
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Thanks. I guess the rephrase would be: Vision and Purpose is to build something. I'm a fintech guy, so that may be code or product. Or a real estate concept - that's the complete different path. Mission is to build something at another firm in current capacity, or do it on my own. Or change careers. Success in any would make me happy, new firm / on my own would leverage more what I've built this far. There may be a sunk cost fallacy here. I think of pros/cons and risk reward as synonymous, I thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/25 04:42 PM
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Decided on a mission sometime last year. Three ways to get there that are change firms same job, start on my own, do something different. Each path has its own pros / cons and I know how I can make each work, I need to create the opportunity. Physical health and wealth are fine, mental health and relationships are a mess. I think if I solve for mission the messes get cleaned up. I'll get another set of labs, should prob do every year anyways. Doesn't change the point but it's the quantity of agi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/25 01:44 PM
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Thanks I have my vision around a mission, my issue is in getting there. That's where I've been frantic between staying, going and doing something new. Finally realizing I have to commit to a path. Neither here nor there, but there is a clear bifurcation between the best people who want to work with me and a good chunk of people I have to work with. The good people usually leave for firm bureaucracy, but the smartest people want to be on my project. I have 20 year old interns embarrassing 40 year…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/25 08:10 PM
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These are all good exercises I am trying out
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/25 08:06 PM
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My first answer was yes, obviously that's the case. I think that's inherent when you buy into Mrp, admit shit is your fault, and focus on stuff you can change. If I liked myself, I wouldn't be here. Thought more and I still have a hard time reconciling the deeper concept of ego, anger, and loving one's self. How can I loathe myself and have a big ego (classical definition of ego)? Seems incongruent. So then I start hamstring and think, I actually think I'm pretty awesome, it's just all these peo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/25 01:30 AM
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OYS #39 40s / 160lbs / 14% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. New scale, new measurements need calibrating Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. Failed on BP 215x3. Had a steady progression of +5lbs upper / + 10lbs lower that stalled. 200, and 205 were smooth. 210 was a tough 3. 215 was a solid fail halfway up 2nd rep, only got one clean one. I need to reset - I am overtraining pushing for a 3/31 goal. L3-L4 are sore, need to focus on yoga, stretch mobility, and high volume. Reset to 4/30 goal. Disappointing to fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 05:27 PM
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Re: the overreacting and negatively interpreting other comments. I do this all the time. Cynicism is often the appropriate response in a Machiavellian corporate environment. But it has bled over for me in an unhealthy way. Conceptually I think it's a flavor of ego - I'm so important this must be meant to sabotage me, or I subconsciously set it up so, if I fail, it was because everyone was sabotaging me. I've caught myself a couple times by just stfu. I don't need to email or text now. Why don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 11:07 PM
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Typical warm up is 10 minute elliptical, Ido Squat Routine 2.0 (knee push, sky reach, Buddha prayers, squat bows). I work Jefferson curls and foam rollers on off days. Don't do quad extension but added leg curls a while back - always have been weak in this direction. I hurt my back this time doing 275lbs for 10. Around 5th or 6th rep I did something off balance and felt like I threw out L3-4. They've been weak /sensitive since then. I get the dl < sq is weird, it's more flex than strength. Never…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 10:50 PM
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OYS #38 40s / 156lbs / 15-16% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. 1 proper gym day. 1 db workout in hotel gym. 2 day ski trip. Focus lifts:. DL : 215x3 Sq: 295x3 BP: 160x10 Focused on dl in the gym. Had a back injury last year, have hurt my back in the lifting progression, wanted to focus on form. My issue here is more chronic hip tightness. When I get into position and push the ground away, I feel strong coming up. It's lowering the bar down where I have issues. When I do db R…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 02:42 PM
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I've been at the subconsciously avoiding stage, and this stage is different. My mindset was very LTR-centric then, it's different now, I think. But will keep an eye on this. The rest of this is gold, especially the oxygen mask metaphor. I just gotta put it into practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 01:53 AM
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I don't get it I was being sarcastic, I thought his slight was funny He had ups and downs with his wife, lifts a lot, overcame drinking Why would I not learn from other's OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 02:02 PM
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I thought it was cool of him to do an OYS 70 or smt. I hope I am not still doing these at 120.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 01:13 PM
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First point: got it. I need to be a protagonist who takes action versus being a passive observer. I didn't actually see the verbiage as passive until you pointed it out. Second point- answer is yes, it's anger and resentment. I am only starting to see it. Horns and Futile have both made this clear over the past few weeks. I didn't / still don't fully understand Ego in an mrp sense, nor anger. I got resentment. But I am only now seeing those all flow together. The fear of inadequacy leads to appr…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 04:06 PM
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He's nervous. I'm on OYS 40 and already 3/4 of where he claims to be on OYS 80. I'm on pace to pass him by OYS 120 or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 12:23 AM
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Yes, I've asked to get CBT and finally have a referral. Appreciate the rec, I'll let you know how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 12:19 AM
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Fits and starts. Was good 4 weeks ago, been bad over last two weeks with work stress ramping. I have two decades of insomnia to overcome (2-3 hrs on avg, 4 hrs max sleep in a row). The single melatonin was a good rec btw, I was taking too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 06:34 PM
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OYS #37 40s / 156lbs / 15-16% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Withings scale broke, any biometric scale recs that talk to Garmin? Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. • Focus lifts last week: BP: 210 x 3 (+5lbs) Sq: 265lbs for 10, hurt back. DL: nursed back injury, 135x10. Yoga/feldenkrais/high volume to rehab. More stretching and goblet squats. May trap dl. Need ~10lbs per week on squat and 5lbs per week for 3 weeks now. 3/31 Goal: 225 BP, 225 DL, 300 SQ for 3. Career Goal: Spin off project by EoY. KPI: One o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 10:56 AM
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I never had ED until plates so the correlation is 1. All good points. The Horns link is great. I need immersion and presence. I don't get any joy from the game with LTR but love it everywhere else. I didn't want to play on hard mode for a while and am trying to level back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/25 01:29 AM
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All true, I talked with you last week about Step 4 and realizing I checked every box for common fears. I'm on realizing I have no trust to offer and trying to figure out the root fears that drive that. I do have a purpose and mission, I let my fear metastasize when the mission is threatened. That happened last week, I'm working on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/25 01:27 AM
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Not at all. She's toned.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 04:38 PM
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I wouldn't have called it anger, but I'm realizing I hadn't properly defined anger, ego, etc. I do have a deep seething sense of resentment, that's probably anger. I don't think that was the case here in my specific ED, although I'm sure poor emotional control spills over here. This was an episode of focus, which was caused by the work disruption, which was half Rubik cube spinning to solve a problem, and half fear of getting cut off before my goal at work is achieved. Maybe that all stems from …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 04:37 PM
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OYS #36 40s / 155lbs / 15% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. • Focus lifts last week: BP: 205 x 3. DL: 205 x 5. Goal was 205lbs BP and DL, 250lbs squat for 3 this week. BP and DL goals hit, DL was stronger. 2 days skiing, squat day is today. Need ~10lbs per week on squat and 5lbs per week for 4 weeks now. 3/31 Goal: 225 BP, 225 DL, 300 SQ for 3. Diet: burning ~2600 calories/day, consuming 3000. Need to make sure strength gains match weight gains. Career Goal: Spin off project…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 12:53 PM
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All good questions, made me think. I've figured out the captain mission purpose thing, I haven't figured out how my family fits in. I had a long week, didn't think I sounded that miserable, but you calling it out leads to the "my words betray me" realization. I like stuff, two broad categories. Adrenaline dopamine hits. Love a lot of things there, but would find them unfulfilling full time. Philosophically, I like solving puzzles and elegant design and engineering, which is why my mission is bui…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/25 02:11 AM
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You're asking a simple question, and the simple answer to your first question is mostly the latter (busy / fell asleep) but enough of the former (fear) that I need to work on it. I really don't even know what I want still, which is its own problem. I'm usually not around her when I feel desire. Part of that is eroded attraction, part of that is ego protection. That's what I liked about daily initiating just as a goal. I've wanted to do more during daytime, had a plan to go home early, had a bad …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 03:46 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 01:27 PM
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Thanks, this is 100% of where the problem started. Thought there were new "rules" after kids, adjusted, ended up being weak late night initiates, trying to dig out of that hole years later now. I was at work at 5am yesterday, home for 10 minutes at 5:30pm, went to the gym, had dinner with wife and daughter, wife left to pick up son, and I fell asleep. I don't know if that's another deer on the fail or just acknowledging logistics suck and I gotta improve them. Gonna at least leave early today an…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/25 02:58 PM
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OYS #35 40s / 153lbs / 14-15% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness. Goal: 750 Big 3. • Focus lifts last week: BP: 155 x 10, 3 sets (prev best 145 x 10 for 2, 155 x 10 for 1). DL: 135 x 10, 145 x 10 for 2 (prev best 135 x 10 for 3). SQ: 255lbs x 10 (prev best 235x 10, but this was Smith Machine). OHP: 105x 3 for 3 Goal was maintenance while traveling, fine. Skied twice. Should get 205lbs BP and DL, 250lbs squat for 3 this week. 3/31 Goal: 225 BP, 225 DL, 300 SQ for 3. Diet: have been manorexic, go…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 01:51 PM
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I'm looking into this. I think OYS has a lot of parallels to 12 steps. Admit there's a problem, find actionable things each week, focus on what you control. I have the whole laundry list of maladaptive behaviors: *Approval seeking, Passive-Aggressive, Anger, Secretive Behavior, Manipulation, Avoidance or Escapism, Substance Abuse * And fears: Rejection, abandonment, failure, success, intimacy, vulnerability, judgment, being unlovable, loss of control, confrontation I guess I was in a "why doesn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 04:50 AM
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FWIW, don't have a good answer yet
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/25 05:08 PM
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I crossed over from external to internal validation with lifting and OLD. I want to bench 225 just because, it feels different. OLD is now just gaming, it's fun. I game the pool attendant, sandwich girl, grandma in the elevator, the pilot, whatever. I can bring positive energy and make everyone's day better. It's easier to find beauty. I read horns' nuke everything a couple times, it's kinda what inspired me to go on this project track at work. I was explicitly told not to, had my bonus cut, kep…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 02:56 AM
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Poetry: Many people from the great reaches of middle management can become true believers in The Organization…But the most able are not vouchsafed this solace
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 03:04 PM
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Thanks. I use the calm app, have a yoga nidra meditation, and a bunch of binaural tracks. I used OYS for journaling but think I am going to do the write 3 pages every day when you wake up thing. Analog vs digital. This is an area where I direct a lot of energy to calm the hamster but probably would benefit from doing even more. My hamster needs like a bear tranquilizer.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 02:48 PM
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Fuck me, I miss that every time
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 02:44 PM
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I thought a lot about frantic energy after your comment btw Each OYS section is a thermodynamics system. You want to have less energy in than energy out. +ve rate of change --> progress. You feel it. Once you start eating healthy and sleeping well, and the gym is your routine, you put less energy in to get 5 more lbs than you did before. You look forward to what others dread because your energy is well directed. OLD takes a ton of time to set up the profile and figure out how to game, but once y…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 02:43 PM
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Hadn't heard that one before. Not sure if you're referring to the professional part, but it totally applies. I actually think Mrp has huge overlap with professional philosophy. Incompetent managers are drunk captains, competent managers are the beta husbands wondering why they get passed over for promotion when they're such good team players. inspirational leaders are the alpha husband chad dad we wannabe.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 10:52 PM
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OYS #34 40s / 152lbs / 14% bf / 5’9” / M20y, 2k. Lifts/Fitness Goal: 750 Big 3. • Focus lifts last week: BP: 200lbs x 4 (prev best 195 x 3). DL: 200lbs x 5 (prev best 185 x 5). SQ: 235lbs x 11 (prev best 225 x 10). 200BP - hit goal for the week. DL finally > BP. Flexibility improved; starting to do this exercise correctly. Goal this week: maintenance while traveling. 3/31 Goal: 225 BP, 225 DL, 300 SQ for 3. Need to start tracking RHR, BB, and SS again. RHR avg: 59bpm. BB: 78 Mon, 90 Wed, ~40 TH …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 12:10 PM
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Like I said, I've gotten good advice from you, usually where I fucked smt up. I don't know why you think I'm lying - you should see the crazy shit I leave out. I'm manic, and I have accomplishments, so when I'm on people buy into a vision. But it's not sustainable, which is why I'm doing all this.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 02:39 AM
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Appreciate you noticing, but the why doesn't really matter. Lots of people battle through worse. I do not get the formatting. I literally do this in iOS notes every week, send to ChatGPT to format for Reddit app on iOS, and get something back diff every time. Is it just two asterisks for bold and one for italics? Bullet points and spacing and everything else fucks me up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 02:32 AM
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OYS #33 40s, 152lbs, 14% bf, 5’9” Married 20y, 2 kids Lifts/Fitness Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 lifts • Focus lifts last week: • BP: 195x3 (prev best 190x3) • DL: 5x3 at 185 (prev best 175x3) • Squat: 235x11 (prev best 225x10) • 5 gym workouts, 200-700 cal per session • Improved flexibility Career Goal: Spin off work project by EoY KPI: One outreach per week (Hit) • Made progress on hiring • Had to cut 5 in my area, 2 in another to fund one key hire. Tough move, but it bought time. Project worked,…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 05:27 PM
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We actually had some things in common at the outset. Academic, financial success, clockwork 9:30 initiates. Seems like your routine breaking had success early on, mine didn't, so I tried a bunch of other things. The internal validation is really not sinking in for me, and I'm still not seeing the cc's until called out. Was there anything like a comment or reading that made it click for you? Your OYS9 had a good convo on it, curious if that was the turning point.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/25 10:46 PM
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Thx GZCL concept is one high weight day, one high volume day Basically, BP/Sq day 1, DL/OHP/Row on day 2 Yesterday was Higher weight low volume bench/low weight high volume squat Today is DL day, 2mrw is high weight squat + high volume bench Just curious if that makes sense to you? I'm coming up on Week 10 of a 12 week program. Been ok, but I had a lot of interruptions with travel where I was away from barbells/cages. Deciding whether to repeat GZCL or try something else in 2 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 10:40 PM
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I thought you did 1200lbs across Big 3? Pretty sure you're jacked. I went form Phraks to GZCL, lmk if you would adjust. Today was 600+ calories. BP: 135x10 twice 160x3 180x3 195x5 135x15 Sq: 135x10 twice 185x10 four times PU: 10, 8, 5 15 min abs These have been my measurements Feb 4, 2025 • Arm: 33.5 cm • Chest: 99 cm • Hip: 94 cm • Midsection: 84 cm • Thigh: 54 cm Aug 26, 2024 • Arm: 33 cm • Chest: 97 cm • Hip: 94 cm • Midsection: 84 cm • Thigh: 54 cm Jun 24, 2024 • Arm: 31 cm • Chest: 92 cm • …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 04:37 AM
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It's more like I went to work as a brick layer for a guy who made red brick houses But then I did landscapes out of Pennsylvania bluestone, and waterfall cuts, and live edges And I never cared about the credit, because it was the founder's. And all these lawyers and accountants and managers lived off what I built, and I didn't really care (pretended not to care) But now no one wants red brick houses, they all blame me, because they're scared to blame the founder And I'm looking at this slab of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 03:03 AM
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There's a lot of good points I actually think it's the opposite conclusion I'm not intermittent, I'm too involved It's important to be there for the games, but if driving to practice takes away from what I need to accomplish, it's detrimental for me and them
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 04:34 PM
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I realize I don't get it To me, validation and purpose and mission and congruence are all conceptually related How do you self validate along the way? It seems like the accomplishment is what provides the internal validation (fulfillment), not trying to accomplish something
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 02:56 PM
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Yeah, just the office
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 01:55 PM
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I'm unsatisfied with what I've accomplished professionally I'm responsible for that So if I don't fix it, I won't feel internally validated
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 01:55 PM
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Horns pointed out the neediness a week or two ago, I tried to focus on all the areas I see that playing out across my life. I won't feel internally validated until I fix my work situation. It takes time to fix but I need to stop blaming others or resenting them when it does.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 12:54 PM
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OYS #32 40s, 152lbs, 14% bf, 5’9” Married 20y, 2 kids Lifts/Fitness Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 lifts • Focus lifts last week: 165lbs BP for 10 (prev 155 for 10); 5 sets of 135 DL for 10 (prev was 7-8 reps over three sets • Worked on flexibility, yoga - ski trip. Career Goal: Spin off work project by EoY. KPI: One outreach per week. • Followed up with potential hires. • Need to engage investors, didn’t. Fail. OLD1: Goal: 2+ plates across cities I travel to. Action: Double texted date from last Fri…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 11:49 AM
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Not sure yet. Plan was make my career move. Divorce then at income low. Horns wrote a big piece a while back that gave a lot to think about. It was kind of a holistic divorce field report from an objective observer view. Don't have a good answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/25 12:13 AM
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I am gauging how much backstory to put in a comment response. I try to restate the mission once a month: build something. That has deeper meaning for me. I change the goals and KPI's along the way. My first two goals are career and lifts, I start with lifts b/c of the format but career is 1. This forum is better suited to helping me with sexual strategies than my career goals so I tend to write more on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 03:59 PM
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Yes We haven't talked, so I think this is more Socratic. I'm thinking it through regardless. Where I am now is that career is goal 1, and I will feel unfulfilled if I don't make best efforts to pull off my project. There's a true passion there to build something. But a huge part of my career was funding a lifestyle for LTR to impress wife friends I don't even like. So if this fails, my ego can accept dropping a couple tax brackets, because OLD has shown me the downside is to be a ski guide in a …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 02:09 PM
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This is a tough spot because I've appreciated your advice. But if I answer, I'm validating seeking. She hasn't followed up to my 2nd date asks, so I fucked something up. I'm glad to dm the profile and convo and break down where I fucked up. Good point on the app move being desperate. She said she had a 5:30am, prob didn't, and the 20 min ride may have been a better call. I thought it would kill the vibe but what I did didn't work, maybe yours would have. A 40yo can't pull a 20smt is a limiting b…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 05:12 AM
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One of my buddies said I'm being stupid and should just go to Secret Benefits. I actually enjoy the chase and am meeting high quality girls that I enjoy staying in touch with. Sex with my wife is actually good, it's the sexual experience that is lacking. But you're right on the general desperation / time pressure / stressing myself out vibe. I just don't get why that would materialize at 1am in a hotel room on D1, but that's why it's called LMR and why you're saying have a plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 12:56 AM
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I travel a lot for work. My goal is to have 2-3 plates in 2-3 cities.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 12:51 AM
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Fuck, missed that irl and on the pass Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 03:59 AM
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It's conceptually the same as what you had, but 1) it's longer, always worse 2) it has more don't in it, which just makes it negative 3) the whole point is to turn it over to her, and I'm projecting / mansplaining what I think...this is actually a time to lay off the assertion
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 02:44 AM
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Heard of it, forgot, thanks for the reminder It was a strange hotel room, so reading or watching tv wouldn't have worked. Should I have just disengaged, changed the subject, and starting talking about something random?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 01:34 AM
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Point 2 ("we don't do anything you don't want") - The first time this happened with another girl, I said "relax, we'll take it slow, you're in control." She instantly flipped and said "no, I want you to take control". I thought this was gold. This time, I said "we don't have to do anything you don't want to do...I just don't think you're doing what you want to do." (She said she had to leave, early morning). I was OI, a big part just because I was confused how I could book a hotel past midnight …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 01:30 AM
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OYS #31 40s, 152lbs, 16% bf, 5’9” Married 20y, 2 kids Lifts Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 • Focus lift last week: 225lbs squat for 10. • Now on ski trip with hotel gym. Worked on deep dumbbell BP (50lbs for 15) and leg curls. • DL is weak; hips are tight. Flexibility focus to improve DL faster. Career Goal: Spin project by EoY. KPI: One outreach per week. • Followed up twice with strong potential hire last week. • Need to stay consistent engaging outside investors. LTR Goal: Improve game and initiat…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 12:05 PM
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This works for now. She keeps things settled at home. Good cook, good mom, the sex issues are my fault. I get to have fun when I travel. I need to focus on the career move, a divorce would be a distraction. I only want to change one wheel at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/25 05:39 PM
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Not jerking. She used to have great tits, not so much anymore. I'm just noticing now because daytime sex is increasing. Think I was in the brain rewiring stage, and the OLD is fucking it up a little. Also general DEVI probs
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/25 02:54 AM
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Thanks, got it, I'm missing DEVI completely
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 06:27 AM
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1st point - no right time, need to be more instinctive, got it. 2nd - both low attraction and immersion. She has a hot body but the chest is aging. Used to be top shelf, now it's a turn off. But 100% my immersion was low, I never got to SGM and thought I picked up enough DEVI but should refresh. 3rd - Busted on my side too. Copied and pasted exactly from iOS notes from previous week, no idea why it broke.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 06:18 AM
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How do you work on it?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 01:03 AM
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<u>OYS #30 </u> 40s, 150lbs, 16% bf, 5’9”. Married 20y, 2 kids Reading: Praxeology 2 <u>Lifts</u> Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 lifts Focus lift: 185lbs bench for 6 last week, 190lbs for 5 this week <u>Career</u> Goal: Spin project by EoY. KPI: Goal- One outreach per week, last week made 2 (potential hire, potential investor) <u>LTR</u> Goal: Improve my game and initiations. I don't see her often, don't game, and am usually not physically in the same place when I am at peak sex drive. I'm just going…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 05:34 PM
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Limiting beliefs. Like I never even thought of it as an option until you said it. I think your question is more why I hold those limiting beliefs, if so, don't have a good answer yet. But I get why you told me to read up in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 08:09 PM
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Again, mostly right. I don't actually see the layer of excuses until reflecting. Ego layers. So my first DEER was that status quo = I don't game her because I'm gone before she wakes up, back when things are hectic around dinner or bedtime, and then make lame initiates. We actually have good sex when we have sex, I find the sexual pursuit exhausting. I thought that was sleep stress, your point was that I'm not OI. I decided to test that the next day by creating other opportunities. It's more tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 08:06 PM
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Fuck, I didn't even see it...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 02:32 AM
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You've given me good advice over time (thx btw) First point - yes, I can say "what did you expect". But the fact that I have rehearsed the moment makes your point. Initially, I was going to respond to you by saying: I am usually at work before LTR wakes up, come back late, don't game, do roll over initiates, and need to be OI about rejection. I don't know if it's energy draining to initiate or because I'm already tired or both. The fear comment is right, but this is mostly a logistics strategy i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 12:39 AM
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I know what I want professionally I don't know what I want in a relationship Your comments are generally right It's easier to get depraved with new girls, that's why Mrp is hard mode I fucked my wife every other day during break and 1x last week. I still suck at initiating with her, but she's dropping boundaries like kids at home, daytime, etc. The goal right now is line up dates when on the road, live the family life back home.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/25 02:18 AM
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OYS #29 40s, 150lbs, 16% bf, 5’9” Married 20y, 2 kids Mission: Build something Read: Praxeology (good sidebar refresh) Reading: Praxeology 2 2024 Goal Assessment and 2025 Realignment Goals: Career. Fitness. LTR. OLD. Career Goal: New job, internal or external, by EoY. Result: Fail. Status: Explored alternatives: internal options at my firm, industry-adjacent roles, and completely different fields. Narrowed it down to spinning off my team. Negotiations internally are difficult, but I’m building e…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 05:14 PM
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I get my ass kicked here every week That was just bad OpSec
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 07:45 PM
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Yes. That’s why it worked at first - I was legit booked Tuesday. It failed when I made it my goal on Monday. Congruence, frame; games versus game…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 06:34 PM
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Three nights in Town 1: Night 1 date was a Profile 7 / IRL 5, no moves Night 2 out with buddy, hoped HB9 would be in play, blew it by caving Night 3 is tonight, which will be another Profile 7 Night 4 fly to Town 2 Date on Night 5 in Town 2 is a Profile 8
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:41 PM
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Thanks, I did see that. I’m not at a point where I can approach, escalate, and close irl. That’s why I’m using OLD to line up meetings while on of a trip. I’m not OLD in my hometown. Your story was making yourself scarce worked well with your HB9 after bar hopping. I saw the scarce thing work for a little until I caved. New lesson, I prob had a better shot at ONS from not engaging anymore. She said “straight up, the whole prove it thing isn’t working for me.” I just said “cool, you seem nice, ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:15 PM
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My failure to achieve it is stressing me out and it’s distracting me from my other goals
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 09:44 PM
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I try to use OYS to reflect on the most important goal. When I started, career was goal 1, better sex was goal 2, but really it was better sex that started. After lifting and reading and three rule 9’s, I made an OLD goal. Over that time, was whining about exhaustion, got rightfully called out on drinking, cut it back. But realized my exhaustion and depression stemmed from work dissatisfaction. Cutting back on drinking gave me the clarity to see it was numbing this, which I resentfully attribute…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 07:20 PM
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OYS#28 40s, 150lbs, 17% bf, 5’9”. Married 20y, 2 kids. Mission: Build something. Read: 48 laws, promise keepers, limiting beliefs. Career -Career Goal:- New job, internal or external by EoY. -Career Goal Status:- Discussed different paths forward internally w/stakeholders -Action-: Evaluate pros and cons of internal pitch before/after year end. Prob have to move goal deadline. 1 outreach call this week, 3 next when traveling for outside investors Health Fitness Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 -Fitness…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 04:45 PM
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I’m trying to align goals for this OYS or next. We talked before about dropping one goal to focus on another. I have 4 key OYS goals. I’m behind on all except one. But I made more progress towards all than if I wasn’t OYS. Rp progress is actually making my bp life more difficult, but that’s also why I see bp success isn’t gonna be fulfilling for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/24 11:09 PM
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Thanks. I do appreciate the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/24 05:03 AM
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It’s hard to say. I didn’t drink for a couple weeks early in the summer and nothing changed with my insomnia, exhaustion, depression. It’s all work stress, not the drinks. But drinking is what made the unbearable work situation bearable, so I needed to feel the pain to start really planning the exit. I’m not answering your question because I don’t really know for sure. I’ve learned shit I didn’t know by cutting back, so I wonder what I would find out if I was at zero. I think it’s for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 08:20 PM
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I’m not clear what “this” you are referring to here?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 07:25 PM
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Quota is staying under 4 per week. I usually end up at 6-8. Last week was very social, but I didn’t drink on a date or out with friends. So I was at 0 going into the weekend. Then, I had a weekend date, split a bottle of wine, she invited me to a bar after, I went along and had fun. But I blew through the 4 drink quota along the way. I’m not blaming others. Red copper asked how my number 1 goal was not 0 drinking and I was trying to answer that. It’s on here every week because I’m embarrassed ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:58 PM
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Trying to answer this without deer. It’s not defensive, it’s inherently explaining. My whole professional, personal, and social world is based on drinking. My founder is an alcoholic, my wife is an alcoholic, all my best friends are college or military drinking buddies. The OLD was to get past wife one-itis, that scene is drinking centric. I got enough clarity to realize it was masking my lack of fulfillment. I need to change my job, doing that will lead to less drinking. But the bridge there is…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:28 PM
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OYS#27 40s, 150lbs, 17% bf, 5’9”. Married 20y, 2 kids. Mission: Build something. Career Career Goal: New job, internal or external by EoY. Career Goal Status: I have a major project that was at risk of being defunded. Awesome prototype, needs to scale. Stakeholders running out of patience for scaling. Bought some time last week. 3 paths forward: 1. Internal breakthrough, get current firm onboard with the proof of concept. This is the logical path, but there are personalities and egos preventing …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 12:39 PM
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Is 1g of protein per lb of body weight goal what you’d target?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/24 12:21 PM
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Thanks. I was getting 180-200g of protein a day and it fucked with my bladder. Now, I’m doing ~20g from eggs, 40-50g from yogurt, and 40g from a protein shake. Then round it off with some meat at dinner to get to 120-150g/day. I get the point on bf w/of muscle not mattering, I wanted a six pack for some OLD goals. Those are hit so I am gonna try more carbs and really hit big 3 goal before year end. Ate more carbs last night, and today was able to go 5lbs higher and 2 reps more on BP than last we…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/24 02:08 AM
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Thanks. Took a setback when I shifted from phraks to gzcl. Traveling now and gym only had 50lbs db. But usually I’m moving up 5lbs upper / 10lbs lower every week and am happy with progress Carbs are more my issue than protein. I eat 6 egg whites, 3 cups of skyr, and fair life core elite every day to get my protein. I don’t get enough calories b/c I wanted to stay cut - my actual SECA bf is 14% - 15%. I report my scale measured bf every for direction of travel but it’s a couple percentage points …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/24 05:22 AM
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Appreciate the feedback. I don’t think 4 drinks a week is too much, but often can’t stop when I start. I thought 0 was as unrealistic for me as starting at 1000lb club. What are you using to say I should be 180? I dropped from 165 to 150 and don’t think my lifts suck that bad. Is there a diff program you’d recommend than GZCL? These are my last 4 workouts: Workout Day 1: Squat-Focused Session • Main Lift (T1): Squat • 5 sets, best set: 220 lbs x 3 • Secondary Lift (T2): Bench Press • 3 sets, bes…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/24 10:50 PM
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OYS#26 40s, 149lbs, 16%bf, 5’9”. Married 20y, 2 kids. Mission: Build something. Career Goal: New job, internal or external by EoY. Career Goal Status: Thought I was getting fired despite having best year ever. Currently staying alive. This week is GOT. Either way, I need to ramp external outreach back up. One pitch mtg w/outside investors scheduled for Th, one early Dec. Keep building pipeline. Fitness Goal: 750lbs across Big 3 Fitness Goal Status: Steady GZCl Progress. Traveling in a hotel gym …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 10:34 PM
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I thought so. Remember it being mostly hyper gamy, can’t negotiate desire. I’m focusing on convincing a narcissist that our interests are aligned right now. Even if I’m right, he might crush the best path just because he can. Laws of power was good to explain the dynamics, but didn’t help with tactics. I’ll check if rational male has a section in there I blanked on.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/24 07:19 PM
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It’s a good question. I travel a lot so thought I could set up a rotation when out of town and not disrupt home life. Kids can grow up with an illusion of a happy marriage, better model than I had. Ltr has actually responded very positively in compliance as I’ve been gaining confidence with the OLD attention. But it’s also self medication, dopamine click bait distracting me from the bigger work stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 04:35 PM
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My primary goal is to professionally divorce my career and start building something new. I thought simultaneously going through a personal divorce would be too much to take on.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 02:17 PM
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2x with LTR, but cancelled my work trip with Hinge dates lined up. Thought for a while about whether I was sabotaging myself. Decided to focus on getting my shit tied down for work because it’s a bigger goal, maybe I’m lying to myself, but I don’t think so.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:10 PM
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Thanks as always. Debating whether contrition, dngaf, or Acknowledge/disarm agreement is the best approach. I do need to read the room.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:08 PM
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OYS#25 GZCL lifts progressing, +5 upper body, +10 sq/dl. Fitness / diet ok, weight -3lbs, bf-1%. Work stress when I should be bulking. OYS has been tracking side goal progress and setbacks while running in parallel to professional challenges. Fixing career was the main goal from OYS1. I need to find ikigai. I am in the middle of a career main event. 48 Laws was textbook- I inadvertently outshone the master, I cared about system engineering like Nikolai Tesla and got outmaneuvered. I’m at peace w…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 04:52 PM
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Yeah, I really need to internalize this right now. The career stuff is still kill ego, stfu, don’t deer basics: don’t let feelings and emotions get in the way of a goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/24 08:34 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. Haven’t read 48 laws. Do you think it’s that different to lay groundwork before ending a relationship (divorce prep ~ talk to an employment lawyer)? I have communication problems so not sure this came across. The results of my work are there, financial metrics and KPI’s. The project is getting killed because someone else looks bad. I’m making moves to protect and secure the IP. That’s why I said the issues aren’t technical/financial, they’re political. My understanding f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/24 05:29 PM
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Faux alpha is right. I’m trying to lead for the date even though I’m on her turf. Goal should be to have fun, I’m video gaming.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 03:30 AM
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I’m slow, but not quite that slow. Texting for 4 weeks with foreign girl. I am in her city next week. I say let’s meet at x bar on Tuesday. She said meet at y. I said, if it’s raining, we’ll do a (my second choice), b if it’s sunny (my 3rd choice), or c (her choice, which is a cool spot, and it’s her city). Then she asked, on Tuesday. I said yeah. Then nothing, so I’ve ignored for a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 09:52 PM
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I am going to answer the specific question: 2x last week. I am adding more info that is relevant. Lmk if you think this is DEER - I still don’t see it a lot. 2x was with LTR. That’s no longer a goal. I see OLD as a 1 month project so far. For OpSec, I have done in my area outside our friend radius and 2 foreign cities. Logistics suck. Logistics is game. I have one d1 that went d2 in foreign city that I fucked up after she self isolated. I attribute this mostly to no kino (we previously discussed…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 03:18 PM
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OYS#24 5’9”, 152lbs, 17%bf LIFTS Goal: 750lbs SBD Lifted 4x, Yoga 6x (GZCL top set): Squat: 210x12 (+5lbs, +5 reps) BP: 185x4 (was -10lbs to 175, +10lbs recovered, -3 reps from peak) DL: 165x10 (back to where I left off) Notes: Phraks to GZCL transition had some setbacks; Think I’m squared away ~same weight with Deeper squats, slower DL; Using flat shoes; Unlocked some glute tightness HEALTH: Good acupuncture session to reset shoulder and lower back. Sleep sucks - LOTS of work stress. CAREER: Go…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 10:54 AM
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OYS#23 Age: 40’s Weight: 153lbs (-1) Height: 5’ 9” BF: 16% (-2% scale) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids Read: Models, Limiting beliefs Didn’t yet restart: NMMNG and WISNIFG LIFTS (GZCL top set): Squat: 195x10 (-20lbs) BP: 175x6 (-10lbs) DL: 145x10(-20lbs) Higher volume workouts ; Much slower reps Tweaked back again on DL, but should be able to move up fast from here 4 gym, 1 yoga last week HEALTH: Good acupuncture session to reset shoulder and lower back. Follow up this week. PROFESSIONAL: Good secon…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 12:36 PM
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Day late, dollar short. It’s not a line. I didn’t want to be a penpal or friends, so it was inauthentic. Maybe the line works, doesn’t matter. It has a better chance because authentically, I wanted to bang both. I put limiting beliefs in the read on OYS. Found more in manifest threads than pua but all relevant. I had some silver bullet favors professionally I didn’t want to call in. Reaching out on those because waiting for the perfect time was a limiting belief and cc.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/24 11:14 PM
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That’s a better line
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/24 01:14 AM
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Got it, thx. It’ll take reps but at least C—>S has some map. “Because it’s closer” is the kind of illogical response to emotion where she says later “it just all kind of happened.” I’m interviewing too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 11:12 PM
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Also replying to u/Alpha_wolflord9 here Simple answer: my date wouldn’t be in town when I came back. I thought I had a better lead with her cute friend I met in real life than an app match when I came back. Doesn’t change the broader point. The embarrassing part isn’t cringe post asking internet randos how to game. It’s not being able to answer these simple questions authentically. I have lots of bullshit layers but I am starting to see where I am protecting my ego. I thought about it. The last …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 11:09 PM
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Thanks. Appreciate the detail as always. Met LTR in school and never learned any of these. The double date wasn’t quite as retarded as it sounds. He actually clicked with my date more. Was hoping we could date swap but that didn’t work out. It was actually a lot of fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 05:06 PM
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Agree. Just some clarification. I failed to close. I also thought her friend was cuter. Date won’t be in town when I return. Friend will be. So I pulled the let’s be friends card. Banter on way to airport escalated after. Then I asked for her friend’s number so I could line something up when I’m back. That didn’t go well…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 04:53 PM
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Already had plans with my buddy that night. When the convo got going with date, just thought it would be fun so threw it out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 03:47 PM
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*tone is hard. I was conceding the point on happy that you made, not debating it. I used the wrong word.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 01:32 PM
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I talk too much, so I’m trying to stop deer via editing the raw journal. Sometimes when I edit, it adds precision. Usually, it’s my ego twisting the words so I don’t have to face hard things. I often can’t tell the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 01:26 PM
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It’s not. These are things to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 12:50 PM
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Happy isn’t the right word. I failed, but it wasn’t that bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 12:49 PM
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DATE I open with a comment on common activity in profile Move off app in 5 msgs Invite her to hotel courtyard for a drink Have a dinner scheduled after (true time constraint) Go back in her direction so share Uber Leave with hug, both open to doing it again Get a cordial thank you text that night Respond next day more playfully (ignoring her, but not bs ignoring, I was out with a friend for an epic night) Couple texts in, she complains about her day I say “that’s a lot to get off your chest, you…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 11:30 AM
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OYS#22 Age: 40’s Weight: 153lbs (-1) Height: 5’ 9” BF: 17% (-1% scale) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids Read: Models, Limiting beliefs Reread next: NMMNG and WISNIFG GENERAL I’ve wasted a lot of time worrying about others and managing perception - kill the ego All my communication conveys nervous energy, because I have nervous energy - kill scarcity mindset and STFU I’m overinvested in every relationship and every interaction - get options - Professional: pursue job leads, focus on best fit - Persona…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 11:26 AM
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No. I’m 95% of the way through Models for the second time and may have completely missed it. I’ll look it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 07:13 PM
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I was replying to woken and don’t want to be redundant. I often don’t even realize my defending as DEER until it’s called out. Appreciate the callouts. I think your body can only absorb x grams of protein at a time, I was overdoing it and straining the kidney. Strained kidney, worse bladder makes sense. Not sure if it makes me more susceptible to prostatitis but whatever the point is just deal with it, that’s why I bumped up the medical tourism when I was writing about this every week.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 06:08 PM
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Thanks. I do appreciate the callouts. It is improtant to me to prove I can be attractive outside of LTR. The best opportunity set is work and friends, where I am highly pre selected. I decided not to go this route. In OLD, no drinking takes away my best weapon. I’m a subject matter expert and it’s a great opener. I tried coffee dates and can’t get logistics to line up. I got a date with a girl I liked for a 4:30 drink. Got there early, ordered soda and bitter before. I was very nervous but playe…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 06:00 PM
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Yeah, whining over. Focus 1 was lift, focus 2 was 2nd date (you were right, couldn’t close), focus 3 is all in interview to get career options.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 07:17 PM
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Thanks. Great links. Will go through a few times. I hit the 17% yesterday and went outside. Got the follow up date, couldn’t close, at least did something. Interview to move to another city on Friday would hit the 33%.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 07:16 PM
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The take away is that I am writing like a pussy because of my mindset. I divide girls into a big group of not good enough so I don’t even bother trying. Then there’s a small group I don’t think I can get. I freeze out approach / escalate / initiate so I don’t have to deal with rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 07:14 PM
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I didn’t realize how much I was bullshitting myself. Confronting that fail each week reinforces that. In the cut cycle, I did 6 eggs, protein shake with nonfat yogurt in coffee w/creatine and glutamine in the am to keep me full all day. That’s when bladder issues started and PE/Ed followed shortly after. Doctor thinks it is prostatitis which wouldn’t be related.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 07:11 PM
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OYS#21 Age: 40’s Weight: 154lbs (unch) Height: 5’ 9” (unch) BF: 18% (unch scale), 15% (measured SECA) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids Reading: Models (75%) Reread next: NMMNG and WISNIFG LIFTS Goal- 750 1rm between BP (~230), DL and SQ (~260) Status (best Phraks)- BP: 190x 4 (+10lbs, -1 rep) / T1rm: 215 (+5) Sq: 215x10 (+10) / t1rm: 285 (+10) Dl: 165x7 (+5lbs, unch rep) / t1rm: 204 PU: 15 (+2 rep) MINDSET: Ambitious and environment had a convo a few weeks back on onion layers of cc. I actually thoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 12:31 PM
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3-5 days. Pitched Friday day dates on Tuesday. I am traveling so matching girls in foreign city on Thursday/Friday this week and pitching M/T next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/24 03:29 PM
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Reading/homework: yes, lots of online tips. A lot of them seem even douchier than me. Don’t plan on reaching out every time for help, actually was embarrassed, then figured that was ego I haven’t killed. Close a 10: first answer was about mystery having a playbook for 5-6, 7-8, 9-10, sphinx. Thought it may have an OLD update. Then realized it’s a deeper question whether you meant it that way or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/24 04:34 PM
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Pitched ratio: 1. ~ 1/4 are 5-6 that are for reps. 2. - 1/4 respond match my opener with no comment and I don’t have a good follow up. 3. ~ 1/4 I oversexualize and kill convo. 4. ~ 1/4 I talk too much and kill convo. Obv stfu is step 1. I thought haha’s and emoji were blow offs from 20-35y. Will push the date ask instead of follow up. 35y+ seems to need more convo to warm up. Flakes: I’m at 5 accept now, 2 neg. 6 coffee asks and 1 drink ask (this is geo driven). 1 coffee flake b/c I said nothing…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/24 03:06 PM
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Got it, thanks- ofc seems obvious in hindsight. Not sure why I always need OI explained. Prob because I’m not yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/24 04:32 AM
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Thanks. I agree with mrp and deer. About to travel and would rather just have fun with this for a few days. I know there’s a lot more real work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 08:35 PM
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Yes. I’m an introvert who communicates poorly professionally and personally. Gaming and being more social in general has been fun. I think there’s more to the question but trying to keep it concise and not DEER. I know there’s issues around unfulfilled potential and validation. But the simple answer is it is also fun for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 05:15 PM
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Slowly calibrating. Date sked with a 5-6; #close from a 6-7. 5-6 was recognize location pic in profile, observe something, find common ground, allude to stories, give a time and place to meet. 6-7 was pretentious in the profile, easy to neg. I need a lot more reps - years of catch up. But I currently have the only HB10 I’ve come across on either app in my inbox. My goal is to close a 10, the steps are to get dates off the OLD app, the process is improving myself in real life so the text game is …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 01:55 PM
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Yeah, agree, need to work on it. I’m not sure the “not that funny” applies as much here though. Read it 100 times because my initiates suck. It 100% applies to LTR. I think you need to be playful in early text game for attraction and comfort, then confident in seduction.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 06:20 PM
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Agree with the first. Kind of on the second. If there’s nothing in the profile to build off, and it’s just hot photos, I think the honest approach is just “I think you’re hot” and see where it goes. Last point, more important, is that I don’t know. I know it’s something form WISNIFG or NMMNG that I haven’t internalized yet. Guilt, shame, undeserving - don’t want to navel gaze. I think it’s the inverse of rejection butthurt. I shouldn’t let rejection bother me, I shouldn’t enjoy the validation. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 06:16 PM
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Yeah, I’m lying to myself. I wasn’t inspired. I was jealous.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 11:26 PM
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Yeah. “Favorite thing” is a Strauss line. Sounds waybl worse when I reread. Hinge clean was one the first girl used on me which I thought was good. In hindsight, probably not the best course of action to use a girl shit test in a pickup line.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 04:45 PM
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Writing too much. I think I need context to make it interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 04:42 PM
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Yeah, this one was embarrassing to reread.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 04:40 PM
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He did everything out of instinct that I’ve needed a sidebar and years to even think about. Already had a great wife/life. She slips up, but it was a hard boundary for him. He enforces the boundary, and deliberates over the correct course of action. Maintains his position when everyone is against him. Evaluates all opportunities, commits to his own path forward, does everything the right way down to returning the tools to his father in law. He will prob have children with a better woman, and his…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 03:14 PM
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Legit HB8+ who is 15-20 years younger liked my photo. My comments start: Tue, Sep 17 2:42PM What’s up smokeshow? Love the profile pics. But you also seem genuinely happy with your dog. What’s the craziest thing he’s ever done? Mine chased a bear up a tree in {location} this summer. hi :) my dog is pretty chill but he will chase squirrels hahha All dogs chase squirrels, but no dogs ever catch squirrels. It’s the funniest thing. Cool montage: golf, beach, bear down grad pic (congrats), and a cool …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 03:11 PM
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Two: HB7-8, pic of a cocktail between her cleavage, comments that she works out every day: Me: Please tell me this is a paper airplane or a yellow jacket or naked and famous or some real cocktail with chartreuse… Fri, Sep 20 5:36PM The fact that you know chartreuse!!! 🔥 My favorite cocktail is the last word. Sun, Sep 22 3:15PM Most of my outreach on dating apps is essentially community service. I’m like Rombauer Rehab for wayward palates. But you’re a smoke show with some class. Did you tear up …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 03:07 PM
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First one. Friday night match from HB5-6, Burning Man Girl. Me responding to her two truths. I know this is autistic, should have specified time and date instead of “how’s Wednesday”: Two truths and a lie I’ve swam with sharks and rays. I survived a chainsaw accident. I DJed at Burning Man. 1. You’ve been to Bora Bora? 2) High school woodshop? 3) That’s the lie. Fri, Sep 13 8:31PM Fri, Sep 13 8:55PM Hey, Happy Friday! 1) It was in French Polynesia. 2) The chainsaw accident happened when I was a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 03:05 PM
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Game - LTR: Outright defiance from 8-12 weeks ago is tacit compliance. Out of nowhere, I was told her and her friend decided not to do girl ski trip (boundary observed). She mentioned how she is toning up. I liked that she wanted to validate herself to me. I don’t like that I like her validation. Same thing happens when she brags she drinks less than other moms. I shouldn’t care when she does what she is supposed to do, but I still do. Ltr moved my MTB to a better place. I was on my way to a cam…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 12:30 PM
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OYS#20 Age: 40’s Weight: 154lbs Height: 5’ 9” BF: 18% No change across the board Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids LIFTS Goal- 750 1rm between BP (~230), DL and SQ (~260) Status (best Phraks)- BP: 180 x 5 (+5lbs, -1 rep) / T1rm: 210 (unch)/ rate limiting factor: strength Sq: 205x10 (unch) / t1rm: 270 (unch) amount/ rlf: cardio, focus Dl: 165x7 (+5lbs, unch rep) / t1rm: 204 (+14) / rlf: form, injury recovery, grip PU: 13 (-1 rep) Finished 8 week Phrak. Switching to GZCL. Monday was the first mental fai…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 12:30 PM
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Got it, thanks for the details. Will try all that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 02:18 PM
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Bad phrasing on my part. I didn’t go on hinge first because it’s branded as more “long term”. I think that’s good cover for the girl- more socially acceptable. I’ll play around with the photo lineup every month. Action shots, shots with friends, etc. Seems like the cadence needs to be faster than text irl. I was getting #close in the wild but not a lot of traction with text follow up. I was too much too fast. i’d leave text responses 48-72 hrs, but my OLD convos die if I leave it much more than …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 12:56 PM
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Ok, will work on that. I thought FR’s were for success stories and OYS was for calibration and strategy, hence all the dialogue. But it’s the same consistent message about taking ownership of my actions, prob why u/theactionnerd is writing about closing and I am trying to figure out why I am ghosted.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 05:30 AM
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1) I am actually very busy this week. Plus, I have a safe radius built in that makes logistics challenging on top. But I think I was excited to say I was busy to convey scarcity and she sensed the incongruence. 2) I agree, I think that’s what happened with the ghosting. Some apps are clearly dtf, some are cover stories. I blew this and should recalibrate but I also don’t want to pretend like I’m serious. 3) it was 10mg one day and 5 another, so prob 7.5-10mg altogether with the half life. Full s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 06:59 PM
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OTHER: Good follow up with friend who opened up about getting strange outside his wife. Helped explain the game to me a little more. Hot girl matches you on Tinder with education at “Fashion School” and talks about favorite designers…she trades hand bags for sex. I use skyn condoms, he rec’d unique. OLD hook ups expect you to wax every 6 weeks, manscape shaving aggravates with stubble. He asked if Ltr would ever consider something like this, I said no, we left it there. DRINKING: I’ve dropped fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:52 PM
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OYS #19 Age: 40’s Weight: 154lbs (+2) Height: 5’ 9” (unch) BF: 18% (+1) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids LIFTS Goal- 750 1rm between BP (~230), DL and SQ (~260) Endpoint- Epley theoretical for 5 reps total to 770 for buffer, confirm at 3, then execute m/w/f, then all on same day Status (best Phraks)- BP: 175 x 6 (+5lbs, -1 rep) / T1rm: 210 / rate limiting factor: strength Sq: 205x10 (+5lbs, unch rep) / t1rm: 270 / rlf: cardio Dl: 160x7 (+5lbs, +1 rep) / t1rm: 190 / rlf: form, injury recovery, grip PU…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:52 PM
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I have a long answer, but the short version is 1) I travel and don’t think it will come to light, 2) if it does, I will have improved myself and become more attractive, so at that state either a) my marriage will improve, b) I will get separated, or c) I will get divorced. I’m not happy in status quo, and I think I have a better chance being happy in any of these scenarios.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 03:16 PM
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Yes, it became a distraction so I dropped listing goals altogether. Alpha and Woken had specifically asked so I was trying to specifically answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 03:14 PM
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Increased my limit from 4 per week to 8. Out with college drinking buddies for a long weekend and kept it at 8. But other things were thrown in the mix so I don’t count it as hitting the goal. Thanks for following up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 12:45 PM
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No, I never got that speech. Worst was that I asked if we should see other people when she went out late one time. Got a hysterical response but it was still awful frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 12:00 PM
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The point is to fuck a hot girl. I wasted Ltr’s prime dicking around with my career. Now I want to fuck a hot younger enthusiastic woman. Even if I nail the MAP, I can only make Ltr more enthusiastic at best.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 11:37 PM
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I saw that guide in the sidebar and figured that’s the best starting point. The success rate on H seems great for you- “looking for long term” and D1/D2 offer plausible deniability to the girl. Did you hone your profile over time? How many pics, what kind of line?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 11:34 PM
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Thanks. What was your approach? Irl or OLD when you met the married girls? I never see anyone walk up to a table of clear mom night outs. Seems like you say hi, ask if your friend should put his white collar conviction on bumble or not, pass a few shit tests, see if any of them isolate and try to #close.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 11:32 PM
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Was this the best guide you found to getting started with OLD? https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/221209/detailed_roadmap_on_how_to_actually_succeed_at_tinder_bumble
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:59 PM
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Can you help me understand this? I am a high functioning autist and haven’t understood some recent feedback. I know all caps or bold is annoyance. I have no interest in annoying people who are trying to help. I think the correct answer was that I was dicking around for the 750 goal by prioritizing my OLD goal. I consciously did that because I knew I would be at hotels without barbells and wouldn’t measure gains along the 750 goal. I would have done an 18-24hr IF anyways, took it to 36 for the se…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:55 PM
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Bulking. I know IF doesn’t make sense for that. I started at 18-20%bf. Wanted to cut to 12-14%. Latched onto the idea of 750 when I saw some progress in weightlifting, so stopped cutting the second my scale was at 13.8%. I don’t want to go much past 18%, so that was part of IF. It has always been something I do when I travel though. Also, I wanted to show a 6 pack (outline) on my OLD profile I started last week. If you have bulk / cut advice, I’m glad to take it. I was very focused on protein un…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:24 PM
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750 goal- I was on dumbbell hypertrophic, 1 day on, 2 days off. Now on week 6 of MWF phraks. Going to madcow or gzlp when done to get 4 days. I’m not far off on 1rm sq/bp, need to work on dl. Was going for 2500 calories a day, 200g of protein. Dialing it back to 2000-2500, 150g. Alcohol- increased my weekly. Out with college buddies on road trip. Kept it within new limits, but they’ve moved on to other things so I was still self medicating.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:23 AM
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Working through drills in “Models” from sidebar now. Yes, trying to figure out how to polarize from neutral to receptive in text game. Yes, fucking LTR. Will ask my friend - it’s actually a good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:53 PM
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Oh, I missed that. I am already trying to do too much professionally in my day job, get a new career going, and improve my health/ fitness. Divorce would be a distraction and I get most of the benefits from a separation anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:24 PM
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Two decades invested in this relationship with too little to show. I want to put my energy elsewhere for the next two.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:14 PM
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Physical: 750lb club. DL and SQ ~265, BP: 225. Sometimes IF helps, this time it didn’t. Professional/career: build something. Traveling for work helps in a lot of ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:13 PM
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Any better text game responses? I set my location between my city and cabin so I physically pass matches. She’s southern, now on left coast. Good profile with a hot pic, a couple activities, and some arches. Me: Cool profile, you seem like a fun person. So, 1) are you really a southern belle? I just got back from (state a) and (state b). 2) is that red rock or arches? Her: hey there! Happy Sunday! 1) Tx. 2) Arches. 3) did you watch the (actual event i was at). Me: ok, you seem like a legit perso…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:43 PM
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I skip counting macros when on the road. I fast on the travel days so I can eat whatever I want at the destination.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:54 PM
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Yes, stfu is still usually the answer for me. Ready to pull the plug…but would need a hard confirm. First got concerned when I read rollo about 10 years ago. Sex died down after kid 2, lots of moms night out. I did MAP v1, it went away for a while, but it came back last 2 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:43 PM
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Thanks. He actually reached out to talk later this week so will see what he says. Trying not to play out imaginary scenarios in the meantime. I had paralyzing one-itis. Something in the sidebar referenced dropping “wife” as an honorific - it’s depedestalizing. I prob have paranoid suspicions, but LTR takes some of the sting out of it if those suspicions are correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:09 PM
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OYS #18 Age: 40’s Weight: 152 (unch) BF: 17% (unch) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids LIFTS / HEALTH / SLEEP Traveling Dumbbell maintenance routines 2x, 1x yoga, 1x Phrak Phrak session: BP: 170x7 (unch) Sq: 200x10 (+0lbs, 3 rep) BR: 135x5 (-15lbs) PU: 13 (+1 rep) Health / sleep: Bicep slowly healing Sleep much better Diet- travel diet with more calories, bigger meals. I bookended it with a 36hr and 24hr IF. First one really affected my workout- I was way weaker then expected. CAREER: I ramped up effor…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 11:57 AM
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1-4: thanks 5: the ski trip… I don’t care about the trip, I care about the ski. it’s like if your family needs a new car, and a Model Y will work great. Maybe a Model X because it’s a little more spacious and can take more kiddos for the soccer carpool. And your wife says the family should get a Lamborghini Urus. These girls ski, sure, and I like a few Taylor Swift songs. But these girls going on a ski trip makes as much sense as me asking my MTB buddies to road trip to a Taylor Swift concert.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:49 PM
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SMV, woman ~ HB# SMV, man ~ f{HB#, 1rm, $/d$, humor, confidence…}
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:44 PM
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I think SMV is a succinct objective summary of a litany of subjective parameters: personality, fitness, financial security, charisma, looks, clothes, confidence, humor, frame. It helps assess a balance between all of these. If I lose my job but bench 3 plates, does my SMV go up? Yes if I find a better job / better place / better lifestyle. No if I can’t make the mortgage and hit the bottle. All these factors distill into one number with SMV for me. I was called out on goals a while back, always …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:19 PM
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I was curious what he should have done, right after I hit send…I thought, just go “hey sweetheart, please don’t make threats you know you can’t keep…”. I thought I was a full paint chip eating autist for not seeing such a simple one liner. And if it’s really playful, a one liner prob works. But I think you’re spot on for the wider dynamic at play. Again, it’s kind of funny that I’ve known them for a decade and you see it after two posts. Generic social circle is above average guy (IQ, fitness) g…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:06 PM
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1) injury recovery 2) 1-1.5g/protein per lb of body weight 3) vitamin e- sun/skin, b2 - energy, b12- liver, glutamine - recovery, creatine- muscle, holy grail - mrp 4) yes, called out with some obv valid points. How do I read this? Comment one got 6 upvotes. I think there are 3-30 people online most of the time but like 30k people in the community. So let’s say 6/30 take the time to upvote. I should pay attention. The comment said I had a short term goal for months. I appreciate that someone is …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:02 PM
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Hahahahaha… it’s funny when the vets dissect these so quickly. I missed a ton here. Can we play it back and say how does he handle this mrp style? I know the details are prob not that important but here they are. They’re pretty good friends. He is active, let’s say purple pill. Was an alcoholic, hasn’t had a drink in 10 years, developed a solid DNGAF. But he’s getting older, has some health challenges, and unnecessarily interjects political comments. I don’t have any issue with controversy, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 02:40 PM
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Hmmm…thanks. I guess I misread the situation. Thought he passed by stfu, and I was defusing the situation but sort of taking his side. I thought she was basically testing the group for how comfortable everyone would be talking about sex. Maybe “using game” to lighten things up for everyone versus “gaming his wife” is a better way of thinking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 01:17 PM
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OYS #17 Age: 40’s Weight: 152 (unch) BF: 17% (~up a little) Status: M~20y/T~25y, 2 kids GOALS Short term: One career outreach per week Lift 3-4x/wk, other activity 2-3x Improve sleep / resting heart rate 4 drinks/wk or less Medium term: 75+ Sleep score 2/3 of the time; RHR < 50 750 club (~270 dl/sq, ~230 bp) Change career or job Long term: Build something LIFTS / HEALTH / SLEEP Phraks: BP: 170x7 (+5lbs, -1 rep) Sq: 200x7 (+5lbs, -1 rep) DL: 150 x 8 (+15lbs) PU: 12 (+1 rep) Health / sleep: Workin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 12:01 PM
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Appreciate all the feedback. I think I phrased this in OYS poorly. I am a high functioning autist and alcoholic. This is a problem, but it’s not the core problem. This just happened to be a week with two “occasions”. For me, journaling that focusing on sleep like a job for the next three days helped calibrate and reset. I set a qualitative goal to drink less, I did. I did stop entirely for a month. There were huge physical benefits in terms of finalizing my cut, recovery time, and lifts. The men…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/24 04:19 PM
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4 drink per week limit is new 1-2 on any day, with a budget of 4 per week Tracking with an app rec from r/sobercurious
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 08:13 PM
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Age: 40’s Weight: 152 (+4) BF: 16-17% (+1-2% Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (one early teen, one preteen) Goals: Short term: reduce drinking to 4x per week make one career outreach per week Lift 3-4x/week, yoga/mtb/ski/surf 2-3x Improve sleep score / body battery / resting heart rate Medium term: 75+ Sleep score 2/3 of the time Resting heart rate below 50 750 club (270 dl/sq, 230 bp) Change career or job Long term: Build something (new business, new home, new family) Top Lifts from Phraks: BP: 165x8…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 05:58 PM
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Appreciate the thoughts. Been mulling back and forth. I am really demonstrably exhausted, because I can’t sleep. Because my mind is racing. Is that weak? I should be able to set aside negative thoughts about other people, but if you are working on something passionately, it should consume you. Now what if the other people get in the way, am I weakly thinking about the people or passionately thinking about the mission? I get it though, anger is weak. I was in the military and hated my second boss…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 09:51 PM
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OYS#15 Age: 40’s Weight: 148 BF: 15% Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (one early teen, one preteen) Goal: build something 6 months in and need to reassess what isn’t working. Professional isn’t moving as fast for me as I need it to. I set a goal to leave my job by the end of the year and I am bogged down fighting internal battles and project work versus networking and interviewing. Need to make tangible goals here and keep milestones. Lifting Have been on dumbbell and resistance band workouts while tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:01 PM
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OYS #14 Age: 40’s Weight: 148 BF: 15% Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Fitness Good enough. Have been traveling for a month with work and vacation. No gyms, used resistance bands 6 days per week. Vacation was very active burning 3500-4000 calories per day. Back to the weight room this week. First session: Dumbbell bench 8x35 8x50 10x60 Barbell bench 135x8 135x9 OHP 65x8 95x8 Dips 7 7 Overhead dumbbell tri extension 45x10 Lingering bicep injury from mountain biking two months ago. Shit isn’t …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 03:16 AM
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Clinical explanation of autophagy, dry fasting
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 11:11 PM
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This was an amazing clinic. I do 48-72 hour IF once a quarter but never went dry. Gonna try this.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 10:55 AM
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OYS #14 Age: 40’s Weight: 145 BF: 15% Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Fitness Been in 5 hotels over the past week, kept workouts up as best I could. One had a decent weight room so I tried out barbells for two days vs dumbbell/bands/hiit. Key lifts: Squat: 225lbs x 5; 2x Bench press: 185x5, then 135x10 5x Epley theoretical 1RM would be 216 bench (I guessed 200-225 from db/band workouts) and 262 on squat. New end of year goal is 3/4 of 1000lbs club. Will see where I can go after 750. Sleep s…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 02:18 PM
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Thx, appreciate it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/24 03:20 PM
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So perceptive is a good one
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/24 03:19 PM
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It was #3 here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/j4NSKaGwl9
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/24 03:19 PM
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OYS #13 Age: 40’s Weight: 144 (unch) BF: 14% (unch) Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Listening: sep/div prep on sidebar. Fitness Travelling HIIT, Bands, Yoga, ocean kayak Sleep score/resting heart rate: 7 day avg: 56 / 56 (unch) Sleep pretty good considering jet lag Goals Short term: less drinking (good progress, 2 nights this week: one work dinner, one wedding, stayed moderate at both) Medium term: new job (Upswing in recruiter activity since LinkedIn overhaul, leads increasing) Long term: …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 12:52 PM
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OYS #12 Age: 40’s Weight: 144 (-3lbs) BF: 14% Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Listening: on the road, didn’t make progress. Next week: stocks and sep/div prep on sidebar. Fitness Travel 6 days, bad gym 4 days band workout, one yoga, one rest Gains have completely stalled on IF/cut 65lbs db x 10 bench and squat 60lbs db x 10 RDL Down to 14% bf, about to be on road for a month and will increase caloric /carb intake Sleep score/resting heart rate: 7 day avg: 56 (-14) / 56 (unch) 4 wk avg: 63 /…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 01:05 AM
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OYS #11 Age: 40’s Weight: 147 (-3lbs) BF: 15% (-2%, 14.2 - 16.4% on scale this week) Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Listening: on the road, listening to Rian recap sidebar Next week: separation/divorce prep on sidebar. Fitness 1 day lift, 1 day MTB, 1 day yoga Lift Workout: 12 full body exercises to hypertrophy, 8-12 reps, 2-3 seconds down slow, 2-3 up slow, all dumbbell each side Warm up: short cardio plus Jefferson curls 60lbs x 10 RDL 65lbs x 12 Squat, Calf Raise 12 pull ups 100lbs mach…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:53 PM
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Agree on ahead of myself. Trying to fmofy based on some new ioi’s vs legit plate potential. Trying to push the divorce without laying the groundwork per sidebar. Good rec on the broken record being better than the speech
/r/askMRP10/06/24 04:22 PM
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Did you have oneitis? How did you kill it? All the takes that seem the most real are hit on other women. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/48wp1e/men_of_mrp_how_diddo_you_gain_abundance_mentality/?rdt=53962 https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/6hzzgd/how_did_you_get_over_oneitis/
/r/askMRP10/06/24 12:41 AM
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I realize that it is stupid, but I don’t really get why it was stupid. I need to work on frame by becoming more OI and eliminating validation seeking behavior. Used Sidebar top post “secrets”. Just started doing shit without telling anyone. Got some early dread signs, I responded, alpha called me out in an OYS for responding when my chick withdrew time and attention. Noted. Stepped up initiates, tried to push through LMR, said I wasn’t coming back the next day. Used “cuddles aren’t free” to hide…
/r/askMRP09/06/24 11:34 PM
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Rrme - not trying to be defensive. That was actually a technical question to vdv. I thought the last part of your first response hit hard about not liking myself and introspection. Then I tried to answer your questions and think about implications. Vdv then asked a follow up. I thought I covered it in my answer to rrme so I was inquiring if I was missing something. Maybe I’m doing the comment and reply wrong. Self disclosure - I am an autistic Reddit retard. I appreciate anyone offering advice o…
/r/askMRP09/06/24 08:47 PM
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Yes, that was my point about dancing monkeys. The specific question was do people want to be around you? The answer is yes. The other was are you fun loving and carefree? The answer is no. I’m an autistic Reddit retard- were you pointing something else out?
/r/askMRP09/06/24 07:33 PM
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All good points
/r/askMRP09/06/24 06:24 PM
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Self aware enough to know I can’t be awesome if I’m asking internet strangers how to fuck my wife. Outside of her, I think I offer a lot. I’m on company website, if I say I like a specialty item in the kitchen, one girl and one guy bring a bag the next week. If I order something a couple days in a row, some girl will she had to try it. Asked 10 buddies to head out on Saturday for a ride, 5 showed. Planning 3 winter guy getaways with 3 different groups giving up a week with their family to hang o…
/r/askMRP09/06/24 06:20 PM
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The candor is helpful
/r/askMRP09/06/24 06:12 PM
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Appreciate it
/r/askMRP09/06/24 03:58 PM
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Half fmofy, half over. But you’re right, make decisions, stop whining.
/r/askMRP09/06/24 03:39 PM
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I don’t know if this changes anything, but the speech was if she reaches out. Radio silence if she doesn’t. I get what I’m supposed to do re: stfu, I still don’t get how. It’s nmmng 101 deer. Trying to kill it. Uninspired, read. Overthinking, write. I just keep writing to kill the hamster. The overthinking is way worse in my head. The stfu is a little better irl.
/r/askMRP09/06/24 03:38 PM
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SEX: (poor) History of pajama roll over sex. I typically initiate after we’re all ready for bed. Half of this is schedule driven, half of this is because I suck at this. Friday night after couple date, I initiate earlier and get a good response. This is textbook. Had a good week, Friday was my plan, did what I wanted, enthusiastic sex Then I go totally off the rails Saturday. Ltr attends annual girl day event, I have fun with both kids. Girl day event bleeds into dinner at a bar (I know because …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:11 PM
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OYS#10 Age: 40’s Weight: 150 (-4lbs) BF: 17% (-1%, goal 15%) Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Reading: sidebar (validation needs and anything ever linked to it, looking for anger management), RParchive, Praex (frame, dread) Lifts (all db each side): BP: 65x10 (same weight, goal: 100) // Squat: 60x12 // Pull ups: 11 (goal: 20) // DL: 55x10 Sick last week, forced the workouts and a fast to accelerate the cut. ASSESS I’m three months in. Some tangible gains, but I’m lost. FITNESS: (tangible pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:11 PM
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Good advice, appreciate it
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 02:59 AM
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Age: 40’s Weight: 154 (~) BF: 18% (~, goal 15%) No change, traveling Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Reading: sidebar top posts (validation needs, no one cares), RParchive, audible wisnifg, Rogan/Shrier interview Lifts (all db each side): BP: 65x10 (same weight, goal: 100) // Squat: 55x11 // Pull ups: 10 // DL: 50x10 Goals Short term: less drinking Medium term: new job Long term: build something Reds: Insurance case- needed to deal with dmv and credit bureau, draining but did it, more steps…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 06:39 PM
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I’m here because I’m unhappy and need to fix it methodically. Lots of reasons, mostly my career choice. I want to build something: a company, real estate, a new family…I don’t know, I just know I want to build something. Tracking what I am doing each week helps calibrate the path to building something. A/b testing is the backbone of the scientific method, the algos behind the world’s most valuable companies, lift logs, pua, mrp, tracking macros, initiate conversions… Write shit down, try it out.…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 09:09 PM
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Got it thanks. Thought the ouch was a boundary cross, should have shrugged, smirked, and stfu.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:09 PM
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Cool feature on the app, click on username bar and the comments collapse, so you can next it pretty easily
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 02:53 PM
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Age: 40’s Weight: 154 (~) BF: 18% (~) No change, traveling Status: M~20y/~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Reading: sidebar 2x + YT for BPP, Rian, D Rose Lifts (just maintained routine while on road, all db each side): BP: 65x10 (same weight) // Squat: 55x11 // Pull ups: 10 // DL: 50x10 Reds: not enough work here last week. Insurance case: no progress Professional: project work advancing, some casual conversations, no strong leads Sex/relationship/other: 3x3 initiates, all good quality Detail recap b/c I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 12:00 PM
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All good questions/points: 5’9” (don’t know why I dropped this), 2000 calories/day, 40-50% protein (160g), no seed oils, lots of protein-yogurt and egg whites at day, LTR cooks home style at night. Career mentioned- good income, awful hours, goal is to make a move by EOY. Social good: scuba, ski, boat, out with friends Tu, out with couples Wed, fam getaway this weekend. I have all the cylinders but they don’t fire at the same time. When I’m more social, I lift less, not as functional at work, le…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 03:54 PM
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While on the road, had dinner with friends and decided to night cap at the hotel bar solo. It was busy, there was an active 3 set of one guy two girls. I approached and grabbed a seat next to them. Bartender was from foreign country where I speak foreign language, I ordered a drink and fingered my phone for a while. Girl was a 7-8, friend a 4-5 but had AFOG vibes, dude was legit but possibly bi-curious. Thought I overheard maybe gay guy and AFOG mocking my girl for no sex in a while. The one I l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:34 PM
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OYS#8 Age: 40’s Weight: 154 (-1lb) BF: 18% (-1%) Status: M~20y/~25y, 2k (preteen) Reading: sidebar 2x Watching/listening: YT for BPP, Rian, D Rose Called out in OYS1 for skipping WISNIFG so I put SGM on hold. Shifting from concept to practice - I know a lot about what I should be doing but not how to do it. Prob why he calls it “Praexology”. Exercise over past week: 2 Gym, 2 Yoga, 2 HIIT Lifts (dumbbells): BP: 65x10 (130lbs total, same weight but slower more controlled reps) Squat: 55x11 (110lbs…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:34 PM
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Yeah, I was trying to describe specific 1x1 interaction versus feelings but can see that looks awful
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/24 05:05 AM
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OYS#7 Stats Age: 40’s Weight: 155 (steady), BF: 19% (steady) Status: Married ~20y, Together ~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Read: all prereqs Reading: sidebar again, reread nmmng, wisnifg Exercise over past week: 2 Gym, 1 Yoga Lifts (dumbbells): BP: 65x10 (130 total, same number, took slower more controlled reps) Squat: 45x12 (90 total) Pull up’s: 5/5/12 (+2, rock climb grip, moved PU in front of RDL) DL: 50x8 (-2 reps, moved behind PU; 100 total; grip affected) Body: I’m staying at the same weight and n…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 09:32 AM
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Cool, appreciate it. Had no idea what those acronyms or measurements were.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/24 01:01 AM
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T: 522ng/dL; ref: 264-916 Free T: 7.2pg/mL; ref: 6.8-21.5 Need to dump some iron too Love: got it Sex: nope, that’s why I’m here; but yeah, I def missed some opps to push boundaries. Table was totally set.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/24 12:44 AM
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Stats Age: 40’s Weight: 155 (steady), bf: 19% (+1, travel, bad diet) Status: married ~20y, together ~25y, 2 kids (preteen) Read: all prereqs Reading: sidebar again Exercise over 10 days: 2 ski, 4 lift days, 2 hiit, 1 surf Lifts (travel, back to dumbbells from phrak): BP: 65x10 (130 total) Squat: 45x12 (90 total) DL: 50x10 (100 total) Pull up’s: 5/5/10 Sleep: 1 rough week, 1 ok week. Reds: Lingering insurance issue- Continued (but very slow) progress, lots of phone tag/phone calls, finally have s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 11:50 PM
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Stats Age: 40’s Weight: 154 (-2), bf: 18% (no chg) Status: married ~20y, together ~25y, 2 kids (12b, 10g) Read: all prereqs Reading: sidebar again Exercise: 2 lift days, 1 hiit Lifts (phraks, 5/5/max rep): BP: 155x12 (+5) Row: 75x12 Squat: 85x18 (+10) OHP: 75x5 DL: 90x10 (+25) Pull up’s: 10 Some encouragement on knee recovery, especially as this was a tough sleep week. Sleep: 6 hrs avg, score varied from 33 to 91. This week was a legit disaster. Lots of logistics interfering with routine. Kid 1 …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/24 05:03 AM
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Getting cutoff so two parts… Stfu: Fucked up. Literally wrote about this last week and couldn’t hold. Had a ton on my mind, was out in hot tub after skiing, and just told LTR I have a lawyer and a resume and blah blah… Last week, I said it is hard because we have spent so much time together that I want her opinion. Going forward, if she asks what’s on my mind, I answer. I don’t volunteer it. Goal of fake it til you make it is to take 50/50 balls and turn them into 52/48 balls. I’ll score this as…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 05:04 AM
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OYS #4 Age: 40’s Weight: 156, bf: 18.5% (wrong way this week) Status: married ~20y, together ~25y, 2 kids Read: all prereqs Reading: sidebar again; re-audio nmmng+wisnifg, plus a kid book club story Exercise: 3 lift days, one hiit, 2 ski days Lifts (phraks, 5/5/max rep): BP: 145x12 Row: 75x12 Squat: 75x12 OHP: 70x6 DL: 65x8 Not loving phraks yet, seems like there’s a better warm up vs 5 reps of the weight you are going to use for max reps. Was on a slow db program; one set to failure, if you can…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 05:03 AM
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Yeah, I’m in no man’s land. She went off the diaphragm a couple weeks back and I haven’t really even processed it yet. Literally hadn’t thought about blood for 15-20 years. I think the whole point is always be gaming, and if she’s thinking about sex, keep gaming. Then get to the point where everything happens on your own terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/24 07:07 AM
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Jfc, never thought about it like that…total self sabotage
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/24 12:13 AM
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OYS#3 Stats Age: 40’s, weight: 153, bf: 17% Status: married ~20y, together ~25y, 2 kids (12b, 10g) Read: wisnifg, sidebar, nmmng, mmslp, pook, mystery, Strauss, models, rollo Reading: sidebar again Lifts (phraks): BP: 140x5/5/13 Row: 65x5/5/12 Squat: 65x5/5/12 Switched from db 2x per week to barbell phraks every other day; hiit off days Back/knee recovery from ski season, expect to move up in weight quickly Diet: IF 24 hours on Monday, want to get to bf~12-14% 2000 calories/day, 35-50% from prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 12:46 PM
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OYS # 2 Reading: WISNIFG (40%) Learned: AK/MMSLP: captain Nmmng: be assertive, stop seeking approval, set boundaries Wisnifg: right to not justify Lifts: Wrapped up core ski season, shifting from flexibility to strength. Started phraks, tracking with Boostcamp. Calibrating Day 1: BP: 5x135, 5x135, 11x135 Row: 5x45, 5x45, 12x65 Squat: had to use db, 5x45(each side, 90 altogether), 5x45, 5x45 Day 2: (Db only, on road) OHP: 45x5/5/12 Chin up: 5/5/6 RDL: 45x5/5/6 Curl: 15x5/5/12 Shrug: 30x5/5/12 Dea…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/24 02:38 AM
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Downloaded wisinifg, started, will done by OYS2.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/24 02:15 AM
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I am all over the place - basically went manic. Will cover how I am fixing it in OYS2.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/24 02:14 AM
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I had never seen CBT-I. Thought it was a cannabis derivative until I googled it. Thanks. You are right on the job and value. I have two internal projects I want to see through that will help in the search. Point taken on where to direct energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/24 02:12 AM
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Work is the biggest thing, so I lead with that to hold myself accountable. Every week I want to do something tangible that will improve my career and see it in writing. The reason I am posting here is for the accountability from writing shit down and to get feedback. Noted on the energy better spent/friends, but I don’t know how to reframe this scenario. About a year ago, I was mad when ltr got back from a birthday dinner with the friends I don’t like at 3am. I asked if we should see other peopl…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/24 07:04 AM
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Bulk, lift- got it Resume- relevant key words, thx, will look into that Cbn- hadn’t seen, thc made me hazy the next day, will check it out, thx Rule 9- got it
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 03:28 PM
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OYS 1 Overview: I need to find a new career. I can improve everywhere, but my massive red energy drain is at work. That will take a year so I’m trying to maintain health and sex in the meantime. Finally collecting my thoughts in writing here. Stats Age: 40’s, weight: 155, bf: 17% Status: married ~20y, together ~25y, 2 kids (12b, 10g) Pre-Requisites Read: sidebar, nmmng, mmslp, pook, mystery, Strauss, models, rollo Reading: praexology, sgm Routine: Demanding job with overseas time zone requiremen…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 09:22 AM
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