| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 200 | FDS refines your b*llshit filter | SHOWER THOUGHT | outward_hand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 07:34 AM |
| 116 | Timeline Discussion: When to kiss, come over their place, sex, etc. | DISCUSSION | outward_hand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 04:50 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 58 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMThis is very empowering. I'm happy you are getting where you want to be. Slowly but surely. Healing takes time but guaranteed you will come back stronger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | The difference between a real HVM and a fake one- how they treat you at the end.Hahaha no I meant all classes being online means no surprise bumping into each other in the hallway and awkward stares 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:14 PM |
| 21 | The difference between a real HVM and a fake one- how they treat you at the end.meet Mine contacted me if something happens to me: won a contest, got Covid... all after I blocked him in social media. Like no, please don't make me be friends with you. Also it's a bit of a lost cause because I know genuinely he thinks he's a good guy and patting himself on the back for continuously reaching out to the concrete wall ex (me) and oh well, thank the universe for Covid, I never get to see him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:48 AM |
| 8 | Listen to a new song, ladies.Hahaha this called me out poetically, love it. Wake up calls much needed still! Wonderful poem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 03:47 PM |
| 9 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:I love your list! I know it will keep on growing. I particularly admire forgiveness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:46 PM |
| 51 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreShudders to nth circle of hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:29 PM |
| 64 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreYes. No pity, this is child porn in my book. There's a child in the creation of pornographic content. No pity for enablers you're 100% spot on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:20 PM |
| 69 | Faking HV behavior at the beginningSis I agree on the three month mark so much. They get tired with the act around this much, tried and tested multiple times! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 87 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreSomeone has to really stop this before it gains traction and viewed as legal and or acceptable. I'm legitimately worried for the child's life, the mother literally made a living from men fantasising about her being in pain and her unborn child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:46 PM |
| 113 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreIt's cases like this that makes me wonder that SOME women are part of the problem. The male conditioning is so extreme. To what extent is she a victim and what extent is she a perpetrator? I think it's also an offense against her unborn child who did not consent to this act. She is endangering her child, made her child a subject of paid fantasies. This is downright criminal. Women all around the world are dying from unsafe abortions, from sceptic pregnancies, from giving birth itself and this is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:36 PM |
| 291 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreTell me? How is this safe? How is this empowering? This kind of stuff is sold usually on blackmarkets but this? This is unprecedented for a mainstream platform. This is a new brand of sickness. Porn was sick enough but this is horrible. She is endangering her life and her kid's life in the future. Women's bodies and pain should not be a playground to this extent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 22 | Feeling some type of way about the woman I used to be…I was ashamed at who I was before in my teenage years and early twenties. I thought I had standards but the first person I ever dated showed me that no, I didn't, and have to recalibrate what my standards really are. Now, I'm saving dating seriously when I'm ready (after I get financially stable, finished all my career goals, etc.) and practicing decentralizing men from life. Now, I feel bad about the time I spent being sad about a guy who treated me sub-standardly. He wasn't abusive, didn't hur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:08 AM |
| 18 | Happy Mother’s Day FDS!Yeah no I'm not gonna mother pickmes and scrotes. I legally disown those entities. What even is men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:30 AM |
| 83 | That last conversation won't give you closureThis is very well written and well advised! I'm the happiest when I see people move on from places they won't be the best version of themselves as. Please trust yourself and all the good things will come! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:52 AM |
| 120 | Getting turned off by menI thought giving an ugly boy a chance would be good because I was focusing on the inNeR vAlUeS than looks but all it gave them was misguided confidence to treat you like shit cause them ugly ass pulled you. Stop giving ugly men false confidence to spread their seed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:54 AM |
| 30 | Women and global crisesGirl! Heck don't worry about your English. This is well written and well communicated. I'm sorry about your past abuse, may you never be in the same place. Continue watching out for women and continue writing. This content is what I personally value the most | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:27 PM |
| 63 | My abusive ex sent me a cashiers check (via my mother) for 30,000 dollars. What do I do? (Besides cash it)Yes sis. Please please watch out. It is a large amount. Check if it is legit by legal means so it cannot be used against you in the future. Keep the letter for evidence and keep track of the events of how this happened. Invest it so you can retire early and do level up things for only you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:04 PM |
| 227 | My abusive ex sent me a cashiers check (via my mother) for 30,000 dollars. What do I do? (Besides cash it)Check if it's legit, file a restraining order if he tries to contact you directly, protect your mom, then cash it, invest it and enjoy the rest of your life without him. EDIT: Saw comments about stalking likelihood. Lawyer up and taser/pepperspray up. Protect yourself, your mom, and your whereabouts first. Save the letter and the messages on your mom's device. Send to police. Legit I still want you to have that cash for your own use but safety comes first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:43 PM |
| 363 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...It's because society showed us that being alone is the worst thing that could happen absolutely to a woman. People mistake solitude and loneliness all the time. The former is a power, the latter is a fed weakness. No single person could be your happiness, that's why friendships and community is much better than 1x man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Saw this on Witches vs Patriarchy. It was also discussed on a recent FDS podcast and is very important to remember. Being empathetic to the point of destruction is self harm.I saw someone in this sub said that the mods for WitchesAgainstPatriarchy were men? Is it true? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:06 PM |
| 71 | Working on Leveling up and I’m on my financial goals right now. This woman has been a huge help and I cannot express how great it is to see women reaching their goals and sharing their success secrets with other women. Share and grow together and one day we will rule the world;)I used to have fallen in love with my partner's potential. He was tall, fit, played sports, excelled in sports, and was a financial genius who wanted to take the CFA. Pre FDS, my heart I was telling myself yeah maybe if I stay I will see and even contribute to his success. When we dated I was earning more, more active in extra curriculars, had offers more than him. Then it dawned on me that he was just potential. But him not acting on it was a part of him as well. It is him with or without poten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 13 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Imagine how much of a scrote this is. He claims "you're not even that hot" and yet still fails to to get with you. He thinks he's smooth tryna hurt you but in reality it says a lot more about his character than yours. Protect yourself from these kind of stuff, block, delete, and if he dares brings up a professional account like Linkedin, report his ass and send screencaptures to his connections especially the women telling them "this is the kind of person he is, please be wary", support women at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:35 AM |
| 323 | Creepy guy I ghosted, never dated, still mad months later 😂As if his opinion on you matters more than the peace of mind his absence provided. So much for "respecting you" but the moment he lost access, he went apeshit. Block and delete as always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Gross! 🤮Okay whew that'a good news. I mean these med practitioners around you might be the good ones but still the fear is there. I hope I find it too! Thank you and send my regards to your husband and OB. Hope more practitioners are like that and none like OP's post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:58 PM |
| 29 | Gross! 🤮I legit cried reading this post. This is my worst fears ever, to think that a man is good, marry him, then realize boom he is a piece of garbage juice and then you realize you were fooled all along and wasted all your years investing emotionally into a cesspool of dirtbag human. My stomach even churned when the top comment said they even have a name for it called a husband stitch. It's the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:12 PM |
| 1 | He E-Mailed me via school account, legit had a panic attack but what I'm scared of the most is my friends buying it (asking for advise)I mean yes, I'm on my way to tell the school if he does it one more time after the silence warning. And I am relying on that friend and gave her opinion more consideration than anyone else's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:09 PM |
| 2 | He E-Mailed me via school account, legit had a panic attack but what I'm scared of the most is my friends buying it (asking for advise)Oh wow yes this is exactly how I felt! My friends aren't bad people but because they don't understand the nightmares and anxiety issues caused by bringing up his name, etc. they won't be able to give me safety about this exact topic. So I really understand what you mean. The confusion part hits me hard but I keep reminding myself not to go back there. I'm happy to read all the warm comments here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:04 PM |
| 2 | He E-Mailed me via school account, legit had a panic attack but what I'm scared of the most is my friends buying it (asking for advise)I'm scared cause he has powerful and influential friends... and our school is shit at handling abuse cases unless you sue them which causes a lot of money. But I will talk about it too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:56 PM |
| 146 | Gross! 🤮I'm so scared right now everyone. If that were happen to me I would lose it... this is so fcking scary. I won't wish this on anyone. This is humiliating to its core I hope she divorces his sick ass for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:26 AM |
| 5 | They Will Come BadkPredator under the thinly guised Sentimentalist facade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:48 AM |
| 5 | They Will Come BadkSis I need more tips like this. Anything prevented you from going back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 02:36 PM |
| 10 | They Will Come BadkThank you so much. I hope you dont throw away this account cause I like what you said here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:41 AM |
| 2 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationThis is right yes. I did tell him I was non practicing but my roots are Christian which is Abrahamic. But he did ask me still if I would convert to Islam specifically. I said no, and got dumped. I just wished he was straightforward with his intentions, so us girls would not waste our time of he was looking for something specific that I obv don't have and won't ever have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:31 PM |
| 2 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationI'm just happy about reading so many perspectives here, and I respect the muslim women here who come to voice out their real interpretation and citing examples of good fathers. But yes, I stood my ground and told him no, I won't convert and change who I am. If I get dumped for it then be it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:28 PM |
| 1 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationBecause he's into East and South East Asians. He didn't date muslim girls despite being in a Muslim country and chose non-muslim girls and asked them to convert for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:25 PM |
| 1 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationMy friend spoke these wise words "no dick would convert me" when I cried to her and she was laughing cause the only valid religion is a "cockless religion" such a queen that one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:02 PM |
| 2 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationWhat really? He said he was practicing fully but dated me and another non-muslim girl after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:00 PM |
| 3 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationSorry to hear about that. I hope you find what you're looking for. How does your male muslim friends treat their partners for example? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:12 PM |
| 5 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationOf course. But how do you cope right now? I have amazing Muslim friends, and they're all divorced after their families forced them to marry men that didn't respect them. Now they're teaching girls and hosting infosessions about rights and reproductive education. They are still practicing, but not adhering to the sexist parts of the scripture. I hope you find your way! And do update us if you find a non-sexist scholar, we need good news from the religions of today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:08 PM |
| 4 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationI'm sorry this happened to you. Hope you have it figured out and finally free from that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:57 AM |
| 4 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationAlso LGBTQ. My bestfriends are gays and bisexuals, and I asked him. He told me he probably won't agree with them marrying due to religion. Yikes, my friends' rights are my rights too if you don't support them you don't support me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:55 AM |
| 8 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationThe "convert for me" conversation is what he pulled with the next non-muslim girlfriend he had when he got tired of her and broke up with her (and me) some weeks after. It was his escape route, just tell them you're not into non-muslim and that's your ticket out. Wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:54 AM |
| 6 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationThat's just super sad. Sorry your friend has to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:52 AM |
| 1 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationYou might want to reconsider and communicate your worries about this. Just in case! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:51 AM |
| 123 | Pickmeishas are never good friendsYou know they've lost agency when all their decisions in life cater to the male gaze. Pickmes are not pro-women. They diminish their fellow womens' perceived value to look better for the male gaze. Their source of validation is male-generated. Stay away as much as possible, protect your energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:42 AM |
| 7 | Having Pickme Dreams?Oh gosh for real now it makes sense. The only times I miss my ex and cry about it... Lo and behold, sisters! Period the next week like clockwork. I use it now to estimate my periods 📈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 07:57 PM |
| 13 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMThis is just very painful to read. Because it's true. I remember I used to rush to my ex cause he was a head taller than me. It's not just walking... near the end of the relationship he could't wait for me to finish a meeting anymore even if we agreed to have coffee after. Not 10 minutes. He also couldn't wait to go home if we meet after classes. But when I saw him with the girl he replaced me with he was next to her walking slower. Waited for her until late night. Our mutual friends told me he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 11:03 AM |
| 9 | If a man says he can't think of you sexually because he respects you too much, RUN!🚩🚩🚩🚩My ex said this to me. Not gonna lie I was very flattered. I have quite a big chest for my frame so I'm used to getting dirty looks. When we were together he was like this, didn't do anything sexually unwelcome so I thought he was just a gentleman. And I'm giddy for it because I thought I finally found someone who didn't see me as a sex object. Now I'm super confused yet enlightened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:54 AM |
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