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You're not at the point yet where you can make overarching vision goals. Focus on small measurable things. You won't care, because you just want to feel good about them.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 10:09 AM
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Don't try to figure her out. You'll never get it right and it isn't useful. Focus on identifying and passing those shit tests, if you want of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 10:39 PM
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Nope. Shit tests come when there is attraction. Shitty behavior comes when there isn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 10:12 PM
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Consider coming in Rian's Patreon. We do good work there.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 06:06 PM
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But I also sometimes used anger badly (i.e. I got butthurt) and set myself back. What I was trying to do this week is not let anger carry me away and make me get butthurt Assume you're going to be butthurt. And your girl will know, just fucking own it. Trying to hide it is just hiding the badness from mommy. Texts are a weird and bad medium for this kind of communication. But he chose to text me so I texted him back Even worse. Texts like that is better not even to read them. When, in person, he…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 06:04 PM
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Purpose Following my thirst for knowledge Discipline Financial Freedom What the fuck is this. Those don't mean anything. Get actual objective goals, make them SMART.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:31 PM
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Objective for last week was to do the process for letting go of anger , but I didn't feel angry at all this week, so I skipped it. All week I could clearly see the pointlessness of my anger toward my wife, myself, my employer, etc. That helped me extinguish anger quickly. Anger is not bad. In fact, seize it while you can. You've been conditioned to think of it as bad, but actually is one of the best ways to make actual change. One of my friends texted me to complain about something I had said in…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:30 PM
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I struggled with this in recent OYS posting. I still don't know what the fuck "love" even is anymore. All I ever knew love to be, was effectively oneitis. Now I'm not "in love" because I don't really think it exists, or maybe this is me still learning to cope with the type of love I want - and can never get. Idk but I'll let my hamster rest. Welcome to seeing love as a fucking grown-up I have a porn addiction Bro, stop watching self-help bullshit on youtube. Are you stealing to watch porn? No, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:22 PM
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The good part of this week, however, is that a bunch of the new clothes I bought came in. More coming, but nice to have decided on a style, thrown away a bunch of older clothes, and getting a fresh start with new and nicer ones. Don't buy too many clothes at once. They won't fit you soon or you'll change style before using them.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:15 PM
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stop with the data nerd stuff. be shorter, and straight to the shit you have done, instead of fucking around formatting stuff on reddit
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:12 PM
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. The last two weeks I have been failing shit tests, getting butthurt, opening my mouth at the wrong times, and making all kinds of faggot mistakes. Good that you see your own mistakes. But what are you doing to fix them? Are you doing STFU for now or are you just coming here for us to call you a faggot and feel absolved from your sins?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:11 PM
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As expected, shit tests and disrespectful behaviour increased slightly as a result of me being sick this week. I think I did well defending boundaries. Are you sure those are shit-tests, or plain disrispectful behavior? Those are different.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 03:06 PM
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Live well for me. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. This shit is too vague. Make SMART goals, otherwise you'll just move the goal poast and say you've reached them.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 02:10 PM
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you're making me emotional rian
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 03:56 PM
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I'd put a time constraint on monk mode. Otherwise it's too easy to use it as a crutch to avoid discomfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 09:58 AM
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OYS 21 20, 69kgs, 1.72m, 5x5 Lifts: SQ 97.5kg, OHP 40kg, DL 95kg, BP 67.5kg, BOR 67.5kg Missed a week of OYS Lifting In the last two weeks I failed a squat and a BP for the first time, so deloaded on both from 92.5kg x 8 and 70kg x 5 to 82.5kg x 8 and 60kg x 5, respectively. I'd been dealing with some groin pain during the first reps of my squat and figured it was due to a lack of elasticity. So started doing IDO Squat Routine 2.0 daily and the results after not even a week have been amazing. De…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 09:49 AM
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thanks a lot man
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 06:12 PM
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gonna try it too and check back. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 07:02 AM
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I’ll give it a shot again and report back. Thanks dunlop
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 08:51 PM
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no real reason really. apart from I tried it once and felt weird
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 07:08 PM
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Same here, you think it's dumb and unfair in the moment but the next week you realize how important it was. Every time I got rule 9'ed I had a realization and it always helped me improve my frame. Now I can't argue with the superior man™ shit and the raiki/energies and masculinity™ hub vibe that the sub has been getting for the last year or so
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 05:16 PM
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Everything conventional. No sumo nor mixed grip. What happens is that I let the bar slip before my muscles actually tire out
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:46 PM
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It doesn't matter the why to be fair. What matters is realizing it and stopping it. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 03:39 PM
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Interesting that you couch it in shaming hyperbole Well spotted. Might it be because of lack of assetiveness and by that I mean that I haven't totally internalized that I'm the only one whose responsible for me and I'm only responsible for me and my needs and have to do what's necessary to do so?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 02:48 PM
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Totally agree. 100% that the problem was seeking validation. It was not a covert contract, but definitely validation-seeking since I wanted to have sex even if I didn’t actually physically want it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 02:22 PM
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OYS 21 - Going for a walk 20 yrs, 172 cm, 68kg, 5x5 Lifts: SQ 92.5kg, BP 67.5kg, BOR 65kg, OHP 40kg, DL 100kg Frame Went on a weekend trip with my girl to a family beach apartment that was free just for the two of us. Fucked like rabbits from the moment we arrived. On Saturday night I wanted to fuck but she told me she was tired before I even initiated. I just said “Then just go rest”. And that was that. Not butthurt, no hurt feelings. However, the next morning I was butthurt. I was feeling like…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 12:28 PM
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thanks for your input
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:06 AM
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Those exercises for grip include bar hangs and ez bar reverse curls?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 10:40 AM
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MRP is not RP for BP goals. And I care
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 10:26 AM
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I will plan something in the next week don't ever do this. say what you've done, not what you'll do. also, don't just say what you're doing "wrong", try to fix it and come back with the results once you've actually tried something
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 10:06 AM
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the less attention I pay to a bitch and the more selfish and downright callous I am, the better I am treated specially with plates, just be the right kind of asshole "This weekend I turned down going out with a friend who had two eager 20somethings out in town, in stead prioritizing having an evening at home to get some stuff sorted and getting some sleep." Nice
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:59 AM
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"she is main bitch material" slow down cowboy, you can't use RP tools for BP goals
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:50 AM
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OYS 20 20, 1.72m, 68kgs, 18.9% BF (Xiaomi Body Composition Scale 2) Lifting I'm currently considering getting wrist wraps and straps as well as a belt but I'm not sure if that changes the stimulus my body undergoes. I especially want the straps because my DL is being limited by the grip and not by actual muscle force of my legs and back. Reading Currently reading WISNIFG for the 4th time and finished my 4th read of NMMNG during the week. Funny how each time I go through the books the more I see …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:46 AM
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that's why I love MRP, even if you're single
/r/TheRedPill26/06/22 08:15 AM
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they help me. why does it need to change?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 05:39 PM
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If I were you I'd really dive into WISNIFG and NMMNG. Much more value than the others. Also, their contents are the basis for everything game-wise
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 12:34 PM
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Not being my own judge Finished one of the WISNIFG reads – read it 3 times overall. One thing which has become clear looking back to my progress in the last couple years is that ideas do change actions, but actions also change ideas. And specially since I’ve joined this place I have realized that sometimes the best (if not the only) way to change ideas is by changing our actions. In other words, acting as though we had already shifted mental models. And so I started apllying this to this specifi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 12:31 PM
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Distracted While Studying Putting my iPad away really helped me and I was on point for a couple of days but then my urges to go do something other than study raged back again and since my laptop was on and not that far away I reached for it and wasted time. So I decided to increase the friction between my urges and actually acting on them. In order to do that, I put the laptop way too, turned off (in the place I have been putting the iPad). Too early to know if this solved the issue. Hiding the …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 12:30 PM
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OYS 17 – Beta Traits & Training Assertiveness 20 yrs, RP 2 yrs, LTR 2yrs 172 cm, 68 kgs, 18% BF (Xiaomi Body Composition Scale 2) Fogging with angered father – 8/6/2022 Had an exam and it was workout day. Did not do it before the exam, so went afterwards. Getting back home was a whole scene not worth mentioning here. What matters is that it was 1 am in the moring and I needed a drive from my father. Called him, he sent me to hell. Made it to a place near my house and called my mother instead. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 12:28 PM
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OYS 15 - I am what I do Age 20, LTR 2 yrs, RP 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 67 kgs (148lbs), BF 13% navy Reading Finished reading On the Shortness of Life and other essays by Seneca, read No More Mr Nice Guy by Rovert Glover for the second time and started The Social Leap by William von Hippel. Health and Fitness In order to focus more on cardiovascular function and not so much on resistance training, I reduced the length of cardio from 7km to 5km but instead of doing it once a week I now do it twice. I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 05:40 AM
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OYS 11 – Gaps in frame Age 20, LTR 2 yrs, RP 2 yrs 174cm, 65 kgs, BF 13.9% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 4x a week: weighted (+4kgs) pull ups and weighted (+4kgs) leg raises, dumbbell (14 kgs) OHP, BP, squat and bicep curls 8 sets each until exhaustion; 1x a week: run 7km Read: All the sidebar except Married Man Sex Life Primer and Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Top posts on MRP and Behave by Robert Sapolsky Physical: Currently on a 3000 daily kcals a day. I often surpass that value, making …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:35 AM
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you’re right it was me just being autistic. also, i checked a “calculator” and it reccommended 5-8g a day so will do and report back. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:08 PM
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this week I was actually taking 6 grams a day but since yesterday toned down to 3gs a day and will wait a month or two before considering increasing the dosage
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 01:37 PM
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thanks for the input academic, always helpful. In terms of the workouts, I would love to start playing with the barbell and do the standard MRP workout routine but having such good equipment at home and being working out at home so convenient for my schedule (I sometimes lift at 23:00 at night) it has been my choice. I am considering buying a barbell and having it at home (if you guys know and recommend one please link it). It’s all for convenience sake with all honesty (maybe laziness) When it …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 12:32 PM
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OYS 10 - OODAs Age 20, LTR 2 yrs, RP 2 yrs, 174cm (5’7”) 65 kgs (143lbs), BF 12.2% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 4x a week: 8 sets of weighted (+4kg) pull-ups, weighted leg-raises on pull-up station. bicep curls (14kg each dumbbell), hammer curls (same weights as curls) and weighted russian twists, weighted squats all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 leg-raises, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read:…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 08:46 AM
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That is something only you can know. Don’t try to inherit somebody else’s values and goals, you’ll be miserable. I can say that some boundaries for me are regular sex, kindness, being pleasant and fun and basically that is it. Simple but powerful. But again, look inside and find what is important for you. We’re just random dudes from the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:15 PM
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I focus on myself, that is the way I go about it
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:16 AM
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Only squats. yeah, it is weird but its working for me. at least for now
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:16 AM
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Age 20, LTR 2 yrs, RP 2 yrs, 174cm (5’7”), 65kgs (143lbs), BF 12% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 4x a week: 8 sets of weighted (+4kg) pull-ups, weighted leg-raises on pull-up station. bicep curls (14kg each dumbbell), hammer curls (same weights as curls) and weighted russian twists, weighted squats all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 leg-raises, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read: All the sidebar …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:31 AM
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Yep, just like with everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:15 PM
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Totally agree. That is what I realized when getting angry when she teased me about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:14 PM
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OYS 5 - I still crave her affection Age 20, LTR 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 60 kgs (132lbs), BF 9% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 3x a week: 8 sets of weighted (+4kg) pull-ups, weighted crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls (15kg each dumbbell) and weighted russian twists, weghted squats all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 crunches, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read: All the sidebar except Practical Fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 08:34 AM
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it’s more for convenience sake, I have all my gym equipment at home, can save money of a gym membership and can workout more frequently without wasting money and time on comutes. but I do believe that barbells are the next level shit, but right now I want to lift proper weight on the dumbbells (44lbs+) before moving on to the heavy shit. As always, thanks for the input
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 07:14 PM
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weighted squats at 1:32 and rows at 2:30 here Dumbbells are good tools, you don’t need a barbell in order to gain muscle or strength. Currently I am seeing how the bulking phase goes and will act accordingly cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:09 PM
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I just stop and take off the condom. If she asks me if I am not going to cum I just tease her about it
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:25 AM
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OYS 4 - Validation-Seeking & Covert Contracts Age 20, LTR 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 60kgs (132lbs), BF 9% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 3x a week: 8 sets of weighted (+4kg) pull-ups, weighted crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls (14kg), weighted squats, weighted rows and weighted russian twists, all until exhaustion; 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read: All the sidebar except Practical Female Psychology, Married Man Sex Life Primer and Sex God Method Reading: Top posts of MRP and In…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 08:39 AM
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i’m in medical school. 3rd year
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 01:10 PM
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“skinny thot”. fucking love it. the caloric deficit part is all over pubmed and stuff (i am a medical student but whatevs science is not all) I appreciate the effort you put in and will start following your advice right now to see what works for me and will check back regularly.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:07 PM
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I appreciate the input dunlop, and the calculator is a great tool. i would love to hear your thoughts related to my “concerns” when it comes to bulking: 1- caloric restriction is associated with better health and lifespan 2- i like the lean look my body has but would like to have bigger arms 3- how can i gain volume without getting fat and maintaining the packs? (if I go overboard with the calories, my thighs will get fat and that’s it) 4- any good macro calculator? Feel free to refer me to mate…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:44 PM
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Yeah, you’re right about the calorie intake. It was more about health than anything. Meanwhile started not really caring about calories but more about macros and eating healthy food. Thanks for your reply
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 02:06 PM
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OYS 3 - Texts as validation & STFU improving Age 20, LTR 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 59kgs (130lbs), BF 11% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 3x a week: 8 sets of weighted pull-ups, weighted crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls and weighted russian twists, pushups and plank all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 crunches, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes; Read: All the sidebar except Practical Female Psychology…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:46 AM
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Yeah I am light. but check out my picture in my first OYS, i look heavier. I already lift. thanks for your reply
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 10:23 PM
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watchu mean they thicc
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:21 PM
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ok, will check that out after clearing the current books. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:20 PM
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OYS 2 - STFU & FOMO Age 20, LTR 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 57kgs (126lbs), BF 10% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 3x a week: 8 sets of pull-ups, crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls and weighted russian twists, pushups and plank all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 crunches, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read: All the sidebar except Practical Female Psyschology and Married Man Sex Life Primer Reading: T…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 08:37 AM
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no one is
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 08:07 PM
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i see the fratboyish indeed. also a shame that many throw shit with no value under it. thanks rian
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:56 PM
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ok boomer
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 02:15 PM
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yes, to get hit and grow
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:11 PM
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I like caloric deficit for health reasons and like the way my body is looking. The cold approach part is on point. Thanks for the feedback
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:10 PM
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I appreciate your feedback
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:08 PM
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How so? Too cryptic, should be more practical?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:03 PM
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I want an audio companion linked, but don’t know any other way apart from anchor. By all means tell me about alternatives. What acronyms are you referring to?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:00 PM
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OYS 1 - IMPO & VS If you prefer to listen instead of reading, click here Read my background before replying, cheers Age 20, LTR 2 yrs 172cm (5’6”) 57kgs (126lbs), BF 10% navy, picture Lifts and Cardio: 3x a week: 8 sets of pull-ups, crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls and weighted russian twists, pushups and plank all until exhaustion each time (adds up to around 70 pull-ups, 80 crunches, 50 curls on each arm, 80 russian twists per workout); 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes Read…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:34 AM
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