oystersalamode Archive

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2	Complete at the other end of the scale. It's not nice. This. Either change something, or you may have to just accept that until your business is more stable, your game is going to atrophy. The consolation is that after that period you're going to have serious value because of how awesome this is: congrats, by the way.	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 09:57 PM
1	how much personal information does a plate get? I find lies to be demeaning, too, because they're so practically involved. Why should I resort to lies when I can just get a different chick instead? Too much investment in any one chick.	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 09:47 PM
1	how much personal information does a plate get? It's not so important maintaining a certain distance from plates, beyond the obvious distance you need to remain in control of yourself, so much as that you have firm boundaries in mind and you feel and show you're ready to enforce. People will pick up on this if you have conviction. If somebody crosses them, make it clear that they have, why it's not ok, or just cut them out. If they cross the boundary a second time, cut them out. You'll learn with time what level of intimacy you find comfortab…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 09:45 PM
1	Plate overstepping her boundaries slightly? I think you've just failed to realize that most pleasures dissolve into boredom under the force of repetition. Maybe at a different rate for her than for you. If you like this arrangement, or want to have any sort of arrangement that lasts, you need to refresh it regularly, either with variety, find out her fetishes and fuck her both hard and weird if you like them, or by repeating it less, preservingor re-newing the shock of it. If you don't want to go through that, just pull back and let her c…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 09:18 PM
3	How to deal with "late night talks" in an LTR. Be a man, take control. When it works for you, ask her, what are your issues, tell me about them right now, let's talk through them. If you do this regularly she'll start to respond by habit instead of fucking up your sleep. Relax her a bit first. When she starts late night, you can say, babe, let's go to sleep, we'll deal with this then. and she'll know and feel you will because you have. It's also better for her in the long run because it sounds like she's avoiding her problems instead of acti…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 07:55 PM
7	Plate overstepping her boundaries slightly? She's getting bored because things are getting routine. She wants to vary things, or escalate intimacy, because the coming over and fucking isn't doing it for her, which it once was. Why do you think keeping a girl will be any easier than woo-ing? It's not something you achieve and then have. You have to maintain. But you do it in a way that works for you or you drop it so you don't get dominated by it. As for going dancing, why not? Go out, drink, have fun. Grind up on some other girls and make…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 07:45 PM
3	Scare me into not banging the accountant This is all great advice. I'd harden "enjoy the single life for awhile" into a sensible goal-post you should get past at the very least. Something like six months to a year, depending on how intimate your previous relationship was. You reflexes need time to re-adjust (or more precisely, you need tyo calibrate them) from the bad situation you were in. (Choose your intimates better next time.) It also sounds strongly like you're throwing off your ability to attract on your age. Are you in good sha…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 07:35 PM
2	Do I next or do I give it another go? Jesus Christ dude she just told you she's cheating on someone right now. Have some respect for yourself. Holy shit, yes, read this and then read it again. If you found out she took money from people's wallets at parties to make money on the side, would you leave her in a room alone with yours? She's not relationship material. And you're done with her. You escalated too quickly and she got uncomfortable. Later, she wanted to hear a decision - maybe a specific one, but definitely one. You basicall…	/r/askTRP	10/03/15 01:02 AM
1	TRP, will you give me your advice? My life is out of control. Find some people who're in the Navy, maybe on reddit, and ask them, privately, what it's like.	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 11:43 PM
1	Handling female roommate who is "uncomfortable" with me bringing girls back. I thought of "personal safety" as including safety from having your things stolen. I generally don't think of "safe" as being vulnerable to any kind of criminal activity. Having things stolen is an indirect form of harm to me in my mind. That isn't obvious, though. "Personal" makes it seem much more bodily. Bad phrasing on my part.	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 11:32 PM
1	TRP, will you give me your advice? My life is out of control. There's no magic thing that you can do to get yourself into a habit. You just have to do it. Then, do it again. When you stop doing it out of habitual laziness, you have to re-start doing it. Ad nauseam. Make a list of everything you want to do. Make a list of things you can do daily to help you achieve those things. Make a list of ways you can hold yourself accountable. Then, pick one thing. For two months, do everything you wrote down for that one goal. Figure out what works: if you keep faili…	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 11:22 PM
-1	How to text a one night stand for more sex? I agree with the other posters: she's probably done, she wanted a vacation fuck. It's like eating at a local greasy-spoon. You do it because you're on vacation, you want to indulge, you try new things, you want to say you had the local fare. You might want another 2.5lb mystery meat burrito after you had the first one, especially if it was real good, but likely your concerns about your bowels and arteries will keep you from it. You probably just forget about it beyond thinking sometimes, "that w…	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 11:11 PM
2	Advice and/or stories for combining multiple girlfriends (plates) into a 3-way or 4-way relationship (harem)? If you're starting to feel a "hassle" and your sex life needs something to "simplify" it, you should think about whether or not your sex life is encroaching on your real life. How much of this is you just wanting to see yourself having a harem? Think about it. If it's the case, that's a little too much getting validation as a person from sex for my taste. Six pussies on a pedestal instead of just one. Isn't the whole point to be using sexual arrangements, not to be defined by it, like betas? I w…	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 11:01 PM
1	Handling female roommate who is "uncomfortable" with me bringing girls back. I agree: her not being comfortable with random people sounds like the cause, especially after the update. It sounds like she just didn't want to have to interact with strangers regularly - that can be annoying after a day of work or studying - and maybe had some personal safety concerns. Sounds more like a roomate issue than a woman issue. There could be some unconscious prudery at work, but it's not something she seems to explicitly believe in. bbqamazing is probably right in saying I think the…	/r/askTRP	09/03/15 10:51 PM