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1	How hard do you think it actually is to date as a heterosexual man. Haha, that's great! I guess you have to be careful in case the women you are talking to get genuinely interested, and then you might feel a bit bad. Definitely feel free to keep us updated! I think it would just be interesting for your own sake anyway. I imagine most people will be struggling on dating apps due to the "looks" barrier, among other things. I can't say I envy people using most online dating apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 05:00 PM
5	How hard do you think it actually is to date as a heterosexual man. I actually think you should try it! I'm a guy but I've been in a long term relationship since before dating apps were a thing, so I don't have first hand experience. It sounds like it could be interesting though. Get a picture from a guy who is struggling (not a picture of a guy you personally think is average looking, but from a guy who actually is struggling), and see what you can do!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 02:18 AM
18	Women's standards are giving men body dysmorphia I think it would be helpful if you provided examples. As has been said already, maintaining a lean, muscular physique consistently requires incredible time, dedication and in many cases, steroids. It's not just cartoonishly muscular men. To attain a body type like Hemsworth(which seems to be generally liked by a lot of women) requires a great amount of resources (dehydration for movie shots included). This kind of reminds me of when I see some guys post women "without makeup" and "just aren't fa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/22 10:01 PM
2	Your problems are real and need to be addressed - You are totally correct. The generalisations aren't just harmful, but innaccurate. And I've seen both men and women consumed by these innaccuracies, becoming bitter and hateful. It sucks because, quite clearly, a lot of people here recognise how awful the generalisations against men are. And people on feminist subreddits acknowledge how awful the generalisations against women are. The two 'sides' are so close. And yet I still see a lot of people clinging on to their own "right" to be sexist and …	/r/MensRights	06/09/22 04:54 PM
3	How do I hold other women accountable for misandrist attitudes when they defend themselves by saying “it’s just a joke?” #killallmen I agree that the "calling out" should exist in both directions. I often call out sexism I see against women, as well as the sexism I see against men on reddit. I assume you also call out the sexism you see (in both directions)? I worry that people use this kind of framing as a way to hold on to their own sexism. "Well, they don't call out misogyny, so why should I call out misandry?' Why would we assume that "they" don't call out misogyny? People like me exist. I assume you are the same. That sa…	/r/MensRights	06/09/22 04:29 PM
1	What is some everyday sexism that men have to face? Right, but you were saying that no sane person takes anything on Twitter seriously, and that "real life" is the only thing that matters. I think this is quite shortsighted. Sexist rhetoric said online is harmful too. You would agree with that, surely? So, if there is harmful rhetoric being flung at men or women online, that should be addressed and called out. It should not be put to one side as "online only". You seem to be aware of this, since you quite rightly call out what you see as sexism o…	/r/MensRights	21/08/22 01:52 AM
1	What is some everyday sexism that men have to face? I don't know actually. Harmful rhetoric said online is harmful, right? I see misogynistic rhetoric on this sub and twitter at times (I consider it misogynistic anyway), and it's incredibly harmful imo. It should be taken seriously. Unless you think the misogynistic rhetoric said online doesn't mean much? I don't know if I'd agree with that. Online rhetoric is harmful too.	/r/MensRights	21/08/22 01:34 AM
1	Serena Williams is upset she doesn't get paid to be a mom. I think your broad generalisation of women is harmful and inaccurate (just like generalisations of men are), but I don't think there is much more for us to discuss.	/r/MensRights	20/08/22 11:27 PM
1	What is some everyday sexism that men have to face? Yes -- I agree. So, if lt's true that people often see men being condemned for having certain preferences, but see women being encouraged for having certain preferences, then that kind of hypocritical rhetoric can have an impact. Online or not. It doesn't mean "almost nothing". It feels like a contradiction on your part, honestly. Any harmful rhetoric, when said online in significant numbers, can have a harmful impact. Including the comment you responded to where you said, "it means almost nothi…	/r/MensRights	20/08/22 10:32 PM
1	What is some everyday sexism that men have to face? Yeah. I absolutely agree that what is said online has meaning. So I disagreed with you a bit when you said it means "almost nothing" earlier. Online rhetoric is absolutely impactful and this sub (along with other subs, like TwoX, even MensLib) contains rhetoric that could send an impressionable, constantly online person down a dangerous rabbit hole. So we agree that your earlier comment "online means almost nothing" was a bit misguided.	/r/MensRights	20/08/22 10:05 PM
2	What is some everyday sexism that men have to face? I think you've sort of contradicted yourself. I mean, this person just said something online that you seem to find questionable. And you are suggesting that they ought to think twice because it could impact young people reading it. So, you think this person's online comment has impact too, no?	/r/MensRights	20/08/22 09:45 PM
3	Why are you here? I only just discovered this sub. I'm always in these discussions because I passionately want us all to be free from gender expectation. Any expectation based on an immutable characteristic is suffocating. I feel that the discussion often lacks empathy across the spectrum. It hurts because I sometimes see two people fighting, when all they really want is to be free from gender expectations. They could be fighting the same fight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/22 08:19 PM
25	Why we insist on rule 6 and using wording that explicitly allows for exceptions Couldn't agree more. It's not just optics. It's the correct thing to do imo. If you internalise broad and false generalisations, you could find yourself in a hateful rabbit hole . Recently been having this discussion across various subs.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/08/22 01:09 PM
1	Serena Williams is upset she doesn't get paid to be a mom. People are allowed to struggle with parenting, men and women both. I know people on both sides of that spectrum. Are you satisfied with people hurling similarly broad generalisations at men and other groups? Aren't we all trying to avoid this kind of shit?	/r/MensRights	16/08/22 06:37 PM
1	Serena Williams is upset she doesn't get paid to be a mom. No, you were absolutely making a huge generalisation about an entire gender. This goes both ways and it helps nobody. Plenty of people complain about the difficulties of being a parent. You can make arguments thst society broadly views those complaints differently, but the sooner we can stop needless generalisations the better imo.	/r/MensRights	16/08/22 07:36 AM
2	The Reason People Like Andrew Tate Exist Is Because No One On The The Left/Feminist Decided To Stick Up For Men's Issues. I really don’t think anyone looks at the issues like this but this is the way I look at it Many, many people do. There is a world outside of twitch streamers.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/08/22 06:33 PM
6	Apparently Now Men Are Single Because Of A " Skills Deficit ". What Skills Are We Talking About Here? You're not wrong, but it's not particularly insightful. Being given a large inheritance doesn't mean you'll stay rich, or that you'll never be broke, but it's a helluva privlege, right? Telling poor people, "Yeah but... if all you got is inheritance, you could still be broke evenfually " isn't wrong, but it's sort of missing the point imo. This is coming from s guy who, like you, have never had difficulties with women. But I'm convinced a big reason is I got lucky wirh my looks initially. The sa…	/r/MensRights	14/08/22 01:30 PM
8	Miami OnlyFans model captured on video beating boyfriend she later killed To answer your question, I believe an imperfect victim is the idea that victims shouldn't have to be perfect paragons of virtue in order to be seen as a victim also. I learned the term from the subs in question, and I could be getting it wrong tbh. But it's actually a good idea, if only the concept was shared across the spectrum equally. You could argue many incels and mysognists are "imperfect victims" of a society in which they feel abandoned. Similarly, a woman who was harassed but lies about…	/r/MensRights	12/08/22 09:26 AM
5	Do you think women (in general) want men as much as men want women? Why? I completely agree with you. I've never been one to send nudes or ask for nudes, but that could be a generational thing. If a woman sent me a nude out of the blue, I'd be weirded out. I wouldn't even feel flattered. However. if a man or a woman randomly asked me out on a date, I'd be overwhelmingly flattered. Regardless of whether or not I personally find them attractive (I'm straight, so its unlikely I'd be interested in a man anyway). That said, I've been with my girlfriend for a very long tim…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/05/22 09:56 PM
2	Men are constantly reminded that “women are not a hive mind” yet they consistently demonstrate the exact opposite when it comes to mate selection - they are heavily influenced by their peers and base their opinions of men on what their friends and other women think Oh yeah, I completely agree. It just seems that this trend of seeing the opposite sex as objects is not limited to men to the degree to which I keep seeing suggested. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 15 years now, so I managed to avoid this whole Tinder-scene (I mean, we had MySpace and MSN I guess haha). But from what I've read, it seems borh genders have the potential to treat eachoher pretty damn terribly. Many men (including myself) argue that a lot of men are treated as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/22 04:16 PM
1	Men are constantly reminded that “women are not a hive mind” yet they consistently demonstrate the exact opposite when it comes to mate selection - they are heavily influenced by their peers and base their opinions of men on what their friends and other women think I'd never heard it before either but Jesus.. it's a terrible thing say. I get what they were going for, but I can't think of a more toxic way to word it. LockerRoomBro69: "Chin up, bruh. Pussy is abundant and of low value." Amazing haha. Perhaps I need to read the full context. Not sure how much context would help out LockerRoomBro69 though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/22 03:54 PM
18	Looking for honest discussion to understand this sub I do believe feminist language is clear about this: when they make incendiary statements they are alluding to a particular set of men. I do not need to feel discriminated or insulted by statements that do not apply to me. If that makes any sense. I've never been a fan of this perspective. If my uncle is saying, "Women need to stop expecting men to do everything for them. All they want is some rich guy to sweep them off their feet. They'll always cheat in the end." I think he's being sexist. If h…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/22 07:32 PM
4	I realize now why being conservative and being up for men's rights are mutually exclusive: 2 words: the STATUS QUO Totally agree.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/12/21 01:40 PM
2	Honest discussion on Dave Chappelle? I only saw a few clips. I didn't find it funny. There was no "punchline" or witty observation from what I saw in the small segments. Just sounded like he was offering his genuine opinion on something. It wasn't like Mitch Hedberg, or Jimmy Carr, or Emo Phillips. Those guys say almost everything in clear jest (because they are comedians too). Anyway, I don't think he should be cancelled. He can say what he likes. But I didn't laugh. Not out of offense, just... I dunno. I'm not sure what the joke …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/10/21 07:25 PM
4	Have you ever wondered one reason why some people feel an aversion to/hate MRAs is because they dismiss/used to dismiss the existence of men's issues? I think there is an inherent sexism there. The idea that men hold all the power can be hardly explained unless they believe men are somehow "superior" (gender bias). It's also that they, unknowingly, have an extremely narrow view of what constitutes a "man". If you asked them to draw their version of a man, it would be a tall white person with broad shoulders, facial hair, and the suit of a CEO. All other men don't count. Poor men, disabled men, weak men, scared men, short men, abused men, homel…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/10/21 02:19 PM
18	Boris Johnson refuses to make misogyny a hate crime in wake of Everard case I haven't voted Conservative in a long time. My last key votes have been: Labour, Labour, Remain in EU, Green party. I'm pretty damn left leaning (as the sub suggests, despite people claiming this to be some alt right haven). That said, I cannot vote for this Labour. I heard a Labour MP saying on the radio that women are "second class citizens" here, and that no man is afraid walking the streets at night. Apparently, men like me (disabled, beaten and haven't been out by myself at night for years…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/10/21 03:26 PM
22	"Men doing it to other men" Really? I'm not doubting there are people that do blame women for everything, but I normally see the conversation play out like this: "Women are afraid to be outside. Women are constantly in danger. Men aren't afraid!" "Men are more likely to be in danger of violent crime from strangers." "Yeah, but by other men!" (I have my own problems with this argument, such as how it completely ignores disabled, frightened men, but moving on...) In those cases, I think OPs point still stands. Don't you thin…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/21 01:31 AM
97	Many "liberals" suddenly embrace conservative arguments when it comes to men's issues. You are absolutely correct. In fact, what their counter-argument will be is essentially, "Sure. But the right wingers are simply wrong. We are simply right." For example, the idea that we can judge a group due to immutable characteristics based on the "poisoned skittles" analogy, as you put it. The counter argument tends to be (essentially) "But on the whole, men ARE doing bad things. The right wingers are just wrong about the dangers that Group A poses." So, it comes down to the numbers. All th…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/08/21 10:06 PM
4	Women don't feel safe going outside... but I don't either? 100% agree. I also have a disability (not mobility related though. It's a visual impairment), and the narrative surrounding this conversation just implies disabled men, or weak men, or scared men.... none of these men are real men. Perhaps I am thinking too much into it, but the fact that these type of men are completely invisible to the discussion implies that they aren't considered men. They are unknowingly buying into and perpetuating the kind of damaging gender stereotypes they claim to rall…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/21 02:40 PM
55	Women don't feel safe going outside... but I don't either? Me too. I've been involved in these conversations a lot, and it seems that the people who say, "Men just don't have to think about this." - They are actually engaging in traditional gender stereotypes. In their mind, men are strong and have no fear. In their mind, these men are REAL men. Well, I'm registered severe sight impaired. I never go out by myself at night, and I don't live in a good area. I have witnessed and been a victim of group violent attacks before. This includes witnessing my dad…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/21 08:36 AM
10	A common response to males committing suicide 3x times as often as women is “That’s because men choose more violent & lethal methods”, with misandrist implications that it’s a result of men being inherently violent. In reality, studies show that even using the same less-lethal methods, men die more. I think people get mad because of the implication: Feminists might get mad because it implies "Men have it worse in life. See? They commit suicide more." MRAs might get mad at their response because it implies, "Both men and women feel compelled to kill themselves. In fact, women have it worse. See? They attempt suicide more! It just so happens that men use more lethal methods." I think that's the issue. The question is, "Why do men choose more lethal methods?" or "Why do women choose less letha…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/08/21 08:07 AM
18	What's the best way to be a good advocate online, without sounding like a 'pick me'? Thanks for posting! I think it's inevitable and not something you can control. I've been called a "white knight" by some guys when I've put forward arguments about certain societal standards on women. Similatly, I get called a misogynist/incel/disruptor if I talk to women about societal standards that men face. You can't control it. There are few people (at least on Reddit, it seems) that can recognise men and women face issues, and that we share far more in common than these people would like t…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/08/21 09:18 AM