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p0ngping/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 02:15 AM
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p0ngping/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 03:51 AM
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We don't know all the details to say he gave up and who are we to judge?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 07:03 PM
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I hope things for improve. I am sorry for you and your kids suffering. I think you deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 07:00 PM
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I may be criticized by saying this but "good job". I'm sure this was not an easy step for you to initiate. You said "There was no major incident, it was more like a permanent grind". I'm sure you had been thinking of splitting for sometime. This will make you free to begin or continue show up in more healthy ways in the future. I know kids are important to you. Please take time for yourself. Meditation, breathing practice or if that's not your thing leaning on friends and family or whatever your…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 06:56 PM
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I haven't filed yet. My circumstances require liquidity.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 05:05 PM
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Wow, my mind just exploded. Kudos to your friend. I'll keep that in my back pocket. Kindly except my up vote.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 04:28 PM
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She did not disclose? That's not above board. I plan to disclose at our initial mediation meeting next week. In your case there were tax implications at time of divorce they dermined it as a distribution and increase AGI since you were married filed jointly? Or did she change jobs? I have had 3 401k loans in the past 13 years (not proud of that). Never paid a cent to taxman on those loans.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 04:26 PM
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Thanks for helping me see 401k is just another asset like the house, bank accounts. This loan allows me to stay afloat for a few months and remain a responsible parent. Thank you by the way for sharing your experience with me. I feel much better about my choice. Sincere gratitude.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 04:05 PM
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Thanks, I agree. Sometimes it helps to hear others opinions other than family members that react with emotion.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 03:58 PM
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Thanks btw for the nod to look into QRDO. She will get the house so I may not end up needing it. But I may. One never knows.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 03:56 PM
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We are at square 2. Talking to divorce mediation services.. We agreed that divorce is best for kids. I should not of said lawyers since it implied contested. We are trying to take a cooperative approach. Long story short, divorce not finalized for quite some time no paperwork filled out as of yet.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 02:13 PM
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Thanks. This makes complete sense. Legally there's nothing preventing me from doing this and keeps me from incurring a lot of debt. Our lifestyle was a bit beyond our means and this will help me maintain the private school and kids club soccer for her and the kids from afar. She knows we need to take a look at our money and we agree to do so. My loan interest gets paid back over time to myself rather than the credit cards.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 02:09 PM
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Thanks. Appreciate the heads up. Do I tell her now or later with the lawyers involved?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 06:33 AM
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I know what you mean! Last night I woke at 3am like what the heck is going on in my life. My issue is I talk to my family a lot about this and 1 close childhood friend. I see this for a path back reclaiming an authentic life and my own relationship with the kids. I'm going to do exactly the same. Try to draft an agreement with her. But have a lawyer look before penning my name to paper.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 04:07 PM
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I am sorry for what you are going through. Its hard. I know. Please take care of your needs. I know this is probably not the most constructive advice but are you using resources for how to split parenting and assets? How amiable are you both? I am going through uncontested. I live in the house. I am moving out next month and am a bit optimistic we can try at first to settle without a lot of legal help. My brother is divorced and has had a lot of difficult times with a recalcitrant, narcissistic …
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 01:13 PM
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Yeah, it may be typical. She doesn't seem too shook up after i mentioned divorce a few weeks back. She doesn't express much. Today we are having coffe to talk about next steps. I know I am responsible. I don't think it will be that much better alone. I think a lot of it is I want control over my time and decisions. I don't think were attracted to one another and just better off being free to be independent on our own. And still care for the kids and dog. Thanks for your supportive post.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 07:48 PM
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Been in counciling for 6 months. We don't really work on tthe stuff or therapist gives us as homework. No intimacy and mostly we attend to our jobs and kids. I make 3/5 income. I make good, not great money a pretty middle class house in an expensive west coast city. We are fit and active. No alcohol issues or cheating. We split duties. We never spend time alone together. We never talk finances. We only talk about the kids. She has her own bank account She opened a few years back. We went though …
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 06:47 AM
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I think life is short and you should take steps to doing what makes you happy and if that involves moving do it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 04:35 PM
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Good for you. Do you wish you would of trusted your first instinct to leave? I know you could not of known she had been F'ing around for 6 years plus you have kids and going to couples therapy is responsible. I am finding my couples therapy is not working.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/21 08:54 PM
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