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Essentially evrything worked out and she is excited to go on a date with me. I just gave in a bit more because I made her wait a long time. Briefly explained the why, and why I wanted to go on a date with her, and asked if she was in for it! Communication paid out! Thanks for all the help guys! Will be making a post on what I learned in this scenario
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:52 AM
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I only see her on thursdays (at the placement). And she is being cold and sending dead end messages. By the time she is taking to reply, it would take days to get my points across. I was thinking of going the vulnerability way in person, just telling her how I feel about her, and why I took the time I did, followed by a date invite. Thoughts?
/r/seduction11/01/19 05:31 PM
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Well guys, she didnt show up today (she let me know)... Should I wait for the next shift or call? Ive overthought it and now I dont know anything it seems lol
/r/seduction11/01/19 12:53 AM
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I got you lol
/r/seduction10/01/19 10:45 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement man! will let you know the outcome tonight ​
/r/seduction10/01/19 07:16 PM
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Walk, think, and deal with women like you just came out of a sex chamber. This means you will be giving 0 fucks. The less fucks you give, the more fucks you will get. And thats all im going to say. Best Luck m8.
/r/seduction22/11/18 10:49 PM
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My insight is that she is not wifey material for that so called "nice guy". I wish they got more exposed to such stories about women. I mean, he is probably at home thinking she is innocent/moral/such a great girl, yet she is at home giving a great BJ to a guy she doesnt even know (sketchy to me). Anyway, to further expand on this matter (the friendzone/oneitis situation, not OPs ego boost story), it is OK to fall on love with a woman - However, the key to not getting hurt is to expose your inte…
/r/seduction26/11/17 10:11 PM
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No preparation is needed. Just let things happen, and dont tell her you are a virgin. Your DNA will take over, I promise.
/r/seduction21/11/17 02:30 AM
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You should continue with that belief brother - the right girl will appreciate that so much! I have messed around with a couple girls and you really feel like shit after a while.
/r/seduction12/11/17 09:23 PM
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I second this advice. Also, some guys get gf early in high school - and my theory is that in this growing phase, they just become used to it and it comes easy. Other guys like myself (i estimate majority), focus on school and their professional lives more (usually seen as nerds, etc) - these guys get to learn later and start at 0 experience. I would say that at this stage it is hard to take rejections since you seem to have accomplished so much... Yet it doesnt matter because girls really want r…
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:36 PM
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Awesome! That's a great start. Basically, understand that your success with women will be directly proportional to how you feel as a man - you should aim to having a mission and not needing females - be happy on your own. Once you are at this stage, you should begin expressing your feelings and being you - the less fucks you give, the more fucks you get! Altogether, you seem to be on the right track! Keep going buddy!
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:37 AM
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First step is to make yourself a better man - in this community, we are all here to grow. There are a number of things that will automatically make you more attractive to women - you can get fit, you can have great hygiene, you can smell like sex, you can buy clothes that fit you well and are modern, etc (the list really goes on). You should also get out of the house more often to do activities you are passionate about - amazing gateway to meet people with similar interests. As you get socially …
/r/seduction25/10/17 08:50 PM
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She failed to mention what her schedule looks like. I have been there, and yes it does suck - especially when you thought there was something there. Lets flip the script.. If she doesnt reply, do you think thats the girl for you anyway? Onto the next if she doesnt reply. Good luck m8
/r/seduction05/10/17 02:15 AM
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She failed to answer your question, and you insisted again - with no answer again. I would say dont text again unless she does.
/r/seduction05/10/17 02:09 AM
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To be honest, I didn't like what I read. I think if goes against the principles we are here for. When a guy interacts with a girl, he is doing HIS BEST to get with her - why are we putting the way this man acts down? "mistakes"... maybe you mean non compatibility?
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:04 AM
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See where chemistry takes you, seduction is so subtle that you will just know if that is what she wants. If you flirt with her, and she flirts back and is having fun, that u are guaranteed to score. I would keep my keno and direct game low in that situation though.
/r/seduction16/09/17 11:21 PM
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+1
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:06 PM
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You dont need kino if you dont like it. If you are uncomfortable, she will be uncomfortable. Just remember to have a man dynamic with her - not a friend one.
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:43 PM
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Teasing shy girls is the most amusing thing there is for me. I would keep the number of compliments to a low - and make sure they are honest and unique to her. Once she is into you, I would add light negs/teases. My last tease happened when this girl said she is short - i told her she was like my mom (lol) - such things always spike an emotion in them. last time I went to my chiropractor, I asked how many patients' bones she had fractured - do you see the trend?
/r/seduction11/09/17 01:15 AM
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I have to agree here. First seduce her - once you know she is into you, whatever you say will not make things awk (she likes you). And obvs dont tell her you want to be her friend and just have sex with her. Maybe when you guys talk about relationships, tell her you are not ready for something serious - she will get the message.
/r/seduction11/09/17 01:10 AM
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Keep texting to a minimum, and use it to meet with her. When you meet with her have fun, and do tease her - you dont want to be her friend, you want to be her lover. Dont be nervous, if she doesnt like the way you are, then its not meant to be.
/r/seduction11/09/17 12:29 AM
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To be completely honest with you, that is the most morally right way to do things. And between being a true man, and a kid that's trying to get it in, I will take being a man (and consequently risking not getting laid). She can say yes or no. There are girls out there who are looking for fwb's - I have had one.
/r/seduction11/09/17 12:22 AM
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If she is having a good time, I would definitely spice things up. Dont call her out on it as she might begin to feel self conscious. Instead, tell her she has a beautiful smile - if she gets super shy then you have a foolproof answer.
/r/seduction08/09/17 03:12 AM
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if its a genuine smile, but she doesnt look, then she is shy/intimidated (in the good way ofc).
/r/seduction08/09/17 03:07 AM
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I am not sure. I dont see why he would reply with pics rather than words.
/r/seduction08/09/17 03:05 AM
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it is amazing for me. It makes girls think and wonder about you when you leave.
/r/seduction08/09/17 03:03 AM
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As it has been said, the first thing you must do is make friends! Literally talk to everyone, and pursue further meetings with people who you have selected as similar to you - i.e. If you join a hiking class (just an example) you will see that there are people with similar interests as you. Out of everyone you meet, some will be females. Have your life together, have fun learning, improve yourself, and women will see you. Having your own place will come handy when you get more serious with women…
/r/seduction07/09/17 01:03 PM
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when a guy puts a girl in a pedestal. Seeing her as the "one" and only.
/r/seduction06/09/17 10:04 PM
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The key to not being needy is to be just fine alone. Girls can sense this through your actions - double texting, fast text replies, agreeableness, etc.
/r/seduction04/09/17 01:42 PM
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The best way to deal with that is that she is not worth it at all. at the end of the day, thats not a girl for you.
/r/seduction04/09/17 02:27 AM
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That quote is gold.
/r/seduction03/09/17 08:41 PM
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Tell her you are interested in her, and would like to take her out. escalate from that point on.
/r/seduction03/09/17 06:06 PM
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I would personally be cold, and I would ensure she sees me in a happy mood and having the maximum amount of fun possible. It demonstrates high value that she is missing out on.
/r/seduction03/09/17 03:10 PM
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very likely. And the the answers to the homework were just a strategy to initiate convo. Im pretty confident she is into you. analyze her IOIs in person tho
/r/seduction03/09/17 02:56 PM
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No problem. We have all been there!
/r/seduction03/09/17 02:55 PM
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Im a Bio graduate!! Trust me, if she found that info about you, she had to go out of her way. And for girls, going out of their way = interest
/r/seduction03/09/17 02:25 PM
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do not double text ever. I would wait to see her in person - I suggest indifference
/r/seduction03/09/17 02:20 PM
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Give them a "really?" face - almost like you are making fun of her for even noticing that other guy, try to grab her hand and move elsewhere. Or, open a set with a girl immediately next to you.
/r/seduction02/09/17 05:23 PM
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i used to, but not anymore. Fundamentally, those guys that make videos, make money off view time - this is why I used to spend 20 minutes watching a video to get a minute of good content (not worth it). Instead of learning how to improve my life, I just go out there and actually improve it - there are multiple options... sports, reading, socializing, etc. Another thing is that those channels (most) fill our heads with methods that will work on anyone - not true, only experience will help in the …
/r/seduction02/09/17 03:30 PM
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there is no fix to this my friend. By acting emotionally affected, you lost your value system (aka her's is superior now) - always remember that girls are emotional (not you), and guys are logical (this would have been the correct approach). I would have told her "That's awesome, I hope you girls have a great time. Im looking forward to hearing from you"
/r/seduction02/09/17 03:23 PM
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Dont get drunk next time
/r/seduction02/09/17 01:52 AM
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TODAY you will have FUN! Make her a part of your world, not the whole thing
/r/seduction01/09/17 10:20 PM
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You are right! although you could keep banging her if you try - at the end of the day it's all in your mind. As for her as a potential gf, I wouldnt bother since she was expected to book the 4th.
/r/seduction01/09/17 10:15 PM
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If I were you, I would tell her that I had a busy week, and totally forgot about the date. Act mostly like you just remembered that. This is the least pushy way of asking I could think of. But between coming off a bit needy vs not asking (and consequently not knowing), I will ask any day of the week. Cheers!
/r/seduction01/09/17 09:53 PM
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bruh
/r/seduction01/09/17 05:13 PM
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The average girl doesnt matter anyways. The point the man is trying to get across is that a slick bass can get the job done.
/r/seduction01/09/17 04:57 PM
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"Yeah, you could be my mom"
/r/seduction01/09/17 04:50 PM
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Start by not being self conscious about that part of you that you see as being "unattractive" - believe it or not, we broadcast frequencies. And by this I mean, if you act and believe like those aren't a problem at all, others will not see that as a problem themselves. This is what people who have "imperfections" (as defined by our culture/media) do to strive - I have seen people who are bald, short, ugly, had/have medical conditions strive in the dating world - you are no exception.
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:44 PM
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text game is very simple. 1. While you dont know each other: purpose is to schedule dates/meetings. 2. when you know each other: purpose is to schedule more dates/meetings, and some bold texts. 3. from the point where attraction and empathy starts: here there is more freedom as to what you can communicate... Now that she knows you better, she can imply your tone/humor/etc.
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:23 PM
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I am inclined to think like you, for sure he has been in that friend area for quite a bit, but it seems like he will start overthinking if he doesn't take action now (which was my reality a year or two ago)
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:14 PM
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that will ultimately be your decision. Personally, I wouldnt mind driving far for a proper girl with great qualities. I wouldnt go an hour away for a one night stand. Personal taste i guess.
/r/seduction30/08/17 02:59 PM
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Meetup with the girl you want to have sex with, and have a LOT of fun. Ever notice that the guys that get laid the most have what I call "careless fun" - they have fun and dont really need the girl. Girl gets drawn in. Feelings shouldnt be mentioned, and your moves should be bold. After the sex, do not cuddle - leave immediately or within 5 minutes.
/r/seduction30/08/17 01:08 PM
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I got you. Oh, and don't let anxiety cock block you brother - when you make a move have the mentality that she is lucky to even have you make a move on her (game changer). good luck!
/r/seduction29/08/17 08:39 PM
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That guy is clueless - you dont go from friends to randomly just kissing. Here is what you have to do... When you meet up with her, deliver a compliment or two (make her feel special), kino, and flirt in a fun/sexual/playful way. Tell her how you feel, and move in if she displays IOIs.
/r/seduction29/08/17 04:32 AM
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gold advice
/r/seduction28/08/17 10:13 PM
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You need to meet up with her, and physically escalate - that might be the romantic aspect that is missing and that is turning her off.
/r/seduction27/08/17 04:31 PM
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Be you, and make moves. To some girls you will seem weird, and some will absolutely fall in love with you. Each woman has her preference, and the key to your assertiveness will be confidence.
/r/seduction27/08/17 04:12 PM
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Its the fact that he did so 5 minutes later - he could have done that while he was with her. But its not a big deal, dont overthink it brother
/r/seduction27/08/17 02:40 PM
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When depressed, dont forget to reduce your alone time - seek friends and start some new hobbies/activities - really helps clear the mind. Being good with conversing face to face is an asset, and maybe you should really use your text game to get in person meetings - where your strength will make you thrive. In all honesty, being good at talking automatically makes you good at game.
/r/seduction27/08/17 02:37 PM
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I totally agree with you. If you changed your mindset by introducing positive vibes, that is a major accomplishment. For me it was harsh, and I really felt like I needed to improve certain areas in order to "overcompensate" for my inexperience with women.
/r/seduction27/08/17 03:14 AM
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I must assume I skimmed your text and didn't read the word "social".
/r/seduction27/08/17 12:27 AM
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I have always had a great social life before self improvement happened - I got here pretty much to learn women (sad truth). The message that I was trying to get across is that once you focus on yourself anything is possible - if your goal is to get more friends, believe me, you will get more friends. Yes, my personal experience doesn't necessarily fit your question, but it is my story and can prob help other fellow redditors. Cheers buddy!
/r/seduction27/08/17 12:25 AM
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I would say that game is much more than just women. As an example, you can only attain women once you learn to love yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin. Before getting into this new world, I was an overweight nerd that loved science and had no social life. Today, I am that same guy - however, i studied for 4 years (got a degree in bio, going for masters soon), I worked out seriously for 3 years (got very muscular and healthy), I groom myself to perfection, I smell A1, and my mind is in…
/r/seduction26/08/17 11:38 PM
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hmm not really. You can tell her that you are intrigued and want to meet face to face. I believe she is already attracted, and if not, extra texting will do very little.
/r/seduction26/08/17 11:16 PM
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Make plans
/r/seduction26/08/17 08:29 PM
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great job brother. Being your own man is the best and comes before finding your soulmate. Also, when one door closes, a more lucrative one opens. I usually ask myself, "would I even want to marry a girl that flaked on me?!" - makes things so much better.
/r/seduction26/08/17 08:27 PM
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She accepted to meet, that means she is already attracted. Act like you always do around her, escalate and make moves. bingo
/r/seduction25/08/17 10:12 PM
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"I hope everyhting is ok. It's not a problem". After this, do not ask to reschedule as that has to come from her. If you get no reply, proceed to delete the number.
/r/seduction25/08/17 03:21 AM
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Thats the thing I usually dont even blink when it comes to asking a girl out... its exactly the ones i like that i have problems with (ffs lol). Ugh man, Im just gonna grow a huge pair and do it - outcome independence has to get engraved into my brain for these situations.
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:16 PM
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I have been trying that. I guess practice will make perfect! didnt wanna let this one go though. thanks m8
/r/seduction24/08/17 03:35 AM
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you gotta game her real gooood. crack some good jokes, and tell her shes the shit. If she accepted to be there, she already likes you.
/r/seduction21/08/17 08:28 PM
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No worries man, it definitely looks like you are on the right path. And let me tell you, once you get there, the reward feeling is going to be real - its about getting there, not when you get there. Best luck!
/r/seduction20/08/17 05:01 PM
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Okay this is really wonderful! I was just like you. I used to be a very "likable" and had no problem with creating new friendships - I moved to Canada just 4 years ago, and I was fortunate to pick up on the language really fast (and finished a degree in science) and also make new friends. Here is the typical scenario: I used to make friends, and at the point where i started getting attracted to a girl, I would notice that my behavior changed - girls that used to be interested started losing that…
/r/seduction20/08/17 04:03 PM
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I am not at all being hostile with you - i wanna make sure you know that. But since this is a place where we want only the best for or m8s, I hope that you can gain that comfort one day - whether its today or in a year. All that you will have accomplished with an escort is the actual physical sex - this means you still wont "know" how to blend with someone else's emotions. I was where you are about a year ago btw.
/r/seduction20/08/17 02:11 PM
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also strong username to post. I recommend you get into self improvement.
/r/seduction20/08/17 02:02 PM
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Dont do it brother! Please dont do it. Your first time is something you will always remember! In my opinion, its pathetic to not owning your reality - every guy was able to find someone to lose it with (without money) and you cant?
/r/seduction20/08/17 02:01 PM
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What do you want advice on? This might help other people.
/r/seduction20/08/17 01:49 PM
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Shortest and most potent advice ive seen here in a while. +1
/r/seduction19/08/17 12:20 PM
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+1
/r/seduction19/08/17 12:08 PM
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Basically, she said please insert your penis into my vaginal cavity. straight IOI.
/r/seduction19/08/17 03:44 AM
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Hey man, first of all, I want to congratulate you on being so open and aware for a real problem you live/lived. You are taking great initiative in terms of self-development... although you are not directly affecting your nice guy syndrome, those actions will boost for self-esteem and (as a consequence), and cause an improvement in your situation. The real thing you need to do is continue being nice - it's such a rare trait these days (women go crazy over men that make them feel a certain way). H…
/r/seduction19/08/17 03:37 AM
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Been there myself. That is just a phase my friend, you will see that the more you approach, you will bump into good girls. Also, dont develop oneitis for those girls.
/r/seduction18/08/17 08:57 PM
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+1. But he will need great dominance and lead taking.
/r/seduction18/08/17 08:51 PM
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you are supposed to say "thank you, I appreciate that!". you can compliment her back, but its advised not to. You should do it later!
/r/seduction18/08/17 08:48 PM
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Honestly, I should have. But my trauma with tinder girls got the best of me lmfao
/r/seduction18/08/17 01:55 AM
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I stopped reading when it got to tinder girl and booking a flight - tinder girls can be crazy - and its such a blind move. I feel bad for you man. I hope you make the best of your situation.
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:36 AM
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Make sure she is wet before penetration takes place.
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:10 AM
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Forget about sex - matter of fact, tell yourself its not even going down tonight - because this will make it go down. Take her somewhere where there arent many people/or none, and tell her something you think will give her butterflies, lock the eye contact and move a little in (get in her personal space) and voala! If sex is to happen, it will. oh and if you get to sex, the hole is lower than you think! hehe
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:08 AM
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My appearance and how I carry myself are important. Simple things like having great hygiene, leaving a trail of cologne behind you (a healthy amount ofc), and a good watch. Posture and walking with a smile in your face will get girls wondering why you are so happy. Now, these are general things that should be part of anyones game. Personally, I like eye contact, and teasing them and outsmarting them - i almost always create a vibe where we both know we are attracted to each other, but we secrete…
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:04 AM
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I meant that when she says she is busy you can tell her "that is totally fine".
/r/seduction17/08/17 03:03 AM
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If she says she is busy tell her - that is totally fine - this will show her that you are not needy and dont need her at all. if they flake on plans and dont respect your time, dont do anything because they dont deserve your time anyway.
/r/seduction17/08/17 02:53 AM
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I would call her and say: "Hi insert name, I would like to apologize for how I made you feel last night, and I cant believe i said it". This will be manly as fuck, and tbh, its the maximum you can do. If this was to workout anyway, she will understand and probably forgive this occurrence. But yes, you did mess up her shit test big time.
/r/seduction16/08/17 11:58 PM
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With tinder its important to keep your cool with those girls. they put out pics like that, but then get overwhelmed by guys assuming sex will happen. So next time when they do that, act like it doesn't phase u, and u've seen it thousands of times.
/r/seduction16/08/17 01:41 AM
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"The two girls I really liked and there was a guy who was very similar to me but better in every single way." - if a girl heard you say this, do you think she would want you? like you said, he was similar, but he "won" by being less analytical - it seems to me that you are thinking way too much, and females can really sense that. Go out there, be your own man, learn how to have fun alone, and then you will be able to entertain others - have you ever seen a car without gas? same thing here, fuel …
/r/seduction15/08/17 11:50 PM
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Move on. Its impossible to diagnose what led to this - sometimes things change in girls' lives - they find someone else, lose interest, etc. Dont take it personally.
/r/seduction15/08/17 11:40 PM
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If you dont have her number yet, Dm her saying you would like to contact her - see what she says. As far as texting, you can tell her that you are going to a place near her (restaurant, bar, etc), and that a cute girl came to your mind - ask if she wants to join.
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:13 PM
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great way to put it. And this forum absolutely stimulates that idea - that one should and can have control over any situation. However, I do have female friends who have complained about ambiguity of the meeting, slash the guys intentions. If OP is not looking for friends, and the girl is, then there is certainly miscommunication at the root of the dynamic. But otherwise, I second your input!
/r/seduction13/08/17 07:48 PM
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Approaching is an amazing start. But do feel free to pursue women when you are going about your daily life. Some examples are girls at the gym, maybe a girl that is working with you, etc. We are surrounded by humans all day, a good start to get you better at approaching is just talking to everyone (even men). you will see that in no time you will be where you want.
/r/seduction13/08/17 05:58 PM
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If you call her to set things up, or meet in person prior to the ecounter you can even subtly drop that you are not looking for any more friends that you already have. You can even compliment her on something unique about her. chances are she will get the message. On the day you will find out anyway: pay attention to her body language, and if she tried hard to look all pretty for you.
/r/seduction13/08/17 02:56 PM
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Assume attraction like the other person has mentioned. And more importantly talk to her without second intentions, just be her friend and get to know her - spice it up with some flirting, dominance, etc and you will be good.
/r/seduction13/08/17 02:54 PM
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i got you m8. I could put together some text but Yonkid perfectly explained it. Long story short, When you are on no fap you wouldnt even find yourself asking those questions. Its almost like you dont care about the outcome, and that's what makes you appear more attractive! Honestly I dont believe I was angry or anything while doing it. I think when you are on no fap you are the true man thats in you - just start and embrace that. As for the other question, there is no need to walk away. If you …
/r/seduction12/08/17 12:40 PM
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"I dont even answer calls from my good friends UNLESS THEY CALL TWICE". I dont find this right, but this could just be me - Seddit is about personal improvement and my criticism is constructive. Hmmm personal preference... Should I ask how that's a personal preference?
/r/seduction12/08/17 12:31 PM
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Indeed! When i got a girlfriend I was even having trouble cumming (wouldnt come thru sex) - no fap made sex so much better to the point where i said id never fap again. Unfortunately i relapsed after we split - being single makes it more challenging, but Im working on it. Cheers!
/r/seduction12/08/17 03:28 AM
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Okay the problem has been found, dont masturbate man. its a positive feedback loop - meaning the more you do it, the more you crave it - you should consider reading this article https://www.menprovement.com/masturbation-addiction/ As to the compliments... They can be physical, but do make sure they are unique to her - saying she is beautiful doesnt make the cute - she has heard it multiple times. But, if you come up to her, and say "when you smile, your eyes radiate your beauty" - not only will …
/r/seduction12/08/17 03:27 AM
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Why though? Who are you? Do you feel superior? go ahead and text her, and get rejected.
/r/seduction12/08/17 03:20 AM
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Dont text. Call her! Say that you are going to "place X" and thought of her, ask her if she wants to join you.
/r/seduction11/08/17 10:59 PM
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Ok, first of all, if you are masturbating STOP right now - this moment. It has been shown by many people that semen retention gives you inner confidence - your brain is forced to drive u towards approaching so u can reproduce. Anyway, thats enough Biology for now. Nobody gets good at it in a day! Start by holding eye contact with people, smiling, and giving out compliments. Give out a genuine compliment and move on - you will start noticing girls getting emotionally affected by that and pursuing…
/r/seduction11/08/17 10:58 PM
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She might be trying to set you up with her friend. If this is the case, disregard, and stop doing things friends do (with your target)
/r/seduction27/07/17 02:42 AM
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both are positive, both each indicates a different type of girl/behavior. In 1) she is a very confident woman and doesn't see you as superior, yet there is interest. 2) she is shy, or sees you as being "better" - reason why she looks away immediately. The odds are more in your favor in scenario 2 - imo.
/r/seduction21/07/17 10:05 PM
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He adjusted his behavior appropriately according to the situation he was given - 10/10 game - now you are here asking, and all concerned. now, if you want him to start investing more, you are going to have to put more initiative and set the pace - if he is still interested he will catch up to that, and invest more.
/r/seduction21/07/17 09:58 PM
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Here is my honest opinion. I think that you were too needy in the way you went about inviting her to do stuff. Men are meant to lead, and dominate - this is what the ladies crave. I can almost bet she woulda said yes if you simply asked her to hang out - rather than basically begging. It also put pressure on her - she probably felt like you are expecting too much from her.
/r/seduction21/07/17 09:55 PM
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What this guy said. the golden rule of pickup is that guys chase and girls resist. there should be tension. ask yourself, if you were her, would u want to hang out? It seems like there is a lot of bad energy, and she certainly isnt craving that.
/r/seduction21/07/17 09:53 PM
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I feel like she hurt you. And if that is the case, its not worth it at all - not to mention she was a mere Fwb
/r/seduction19/07/17 10:53 PM
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oh and if you were in fact too harsh, dont be afraid to apologize - many guys say its a mistake to do this, but i find it very manly to own your pants.
/r/seduction19/07/17 10:30 PM
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text her bro - there is always a chance of victory. Be short, and tell her you miss her, and lets chat.
/r/seduction19/07/17 10:29 PM
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OP do exactly as this guy said - its gold. Now, I do understand that you might have a mindset/perspective issue when it comes to this topic. Its important for you to become indifferent to it; this because when you get to the point where you dont care, the other person wont care. let me give you an example: you go to a car dealership and they are selling a used corolla. One salesman can be confident and outcome independent, whereas the other might be insecure about his product. OP: Who do you thi…
/r/seduction19/07/17 10:17 PM
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Amazing text dude! I second that compliments should be less physical and more about the emotional component. The end goal of a compliment should be to get a girls heart beating faster/blush/etc - if you think about this beforehand, you can come up with the perfect complement for any girl.
/r/seduction17/07/17 10:18 PM
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I agree with the man here. She had plenty opportunities to reveal disinterest - but just went with it. Also, is she a child? Does she need a guy to go to the hotel with her - assuming she didnt have a house. Props to the guy for being one of the very few honest guys who respect women
/r/seduction17/07/17 10:11 PM
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Yeah you are right! It could definitely be an attempt to make him just a friend - I still think it would have been advantageous for him to state that he wanted to meet her alone - best way to find out.
/r/seduction16/07/17 09:32 AM
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You didnt pass her shit test. You should have straight up told her you werent interested in seeing her with another friend. She has to know your intent is to hit on her.
/r/seduction14/07/17 09:45 PM
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YOU chose to be in the friendzone. Stop texting her about boring shit that friends talk about - instead, text her to meet ONLY (for now ofc). When in person, do not be affraid to touch her, and make moves - remember, if you dont do this, you will NEVER have a girl. so why not try now?
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:21 PM
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Sex drive is something you either have or dont have - not something that can be changed like that. It seems like you two are sexually incompatible.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:14 PM
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A good exercise for you would be to hit a club and dance/have fun with 0 alcohol in your blood - you will be surprised at how hard this will be at first, but the second night out you will be glad you did this. Secondly, the friend vibe: you have to match the vibe of the competition or surpass it. And by this I mean that you should flirt with her, and be a man about it - she should know you want everything from her but friendship - study some basic body language, "unreactiveness", flirt - use the…
/r/seduction13/07/17 01:09 PM
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What this guy said is gold. Also, if you sext prior to sex, you might put too much pressure on her, and she might back off (from experience) - so if you dont sext, also no need to recalibrate.
/r/seduction13/07/17 12:21 PM
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I agree that we should be open to talking to everyone. Imagine a scenario in which social game is taking place, you want to know how to impose yourself as the leader of the mixed group - otherwise some other more socially capable guy will.
/r/seduction12/07/17 10:01 PM
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You are correct my friend!
/r/seduction12/07/17 09:59 PM
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DO try to elicit sexual tension but the best way to do this is to have it intended in your speech. You know when you say something in such a tone, and she just knows its sexual? But at the same time its not literally sexual?! The more covert you can be about it, the more addicted to it she will be!
/r/seduction12/07/17 09:46 AM
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No fap is a must. Lift weights or any physically demanding sport. Have a healthy diet. These are the fundamentals. Are you a virgin? If so, it could be that your libido skyrockets after the first time.
/r/seduction12/07/17 09:40 AM
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Sure. Women love talking, if you are able to ask the right questions, and LISTEN to what they have to say about themselves, the right emotions will arise from her part. Now, keep in mind I said LISTEN - don't offer her emotional support/help - as this will make you seem like her friend - remember to maintain the man-woman dynamic. Be unreactive - don't be fidgety, try to use a lower voice than her, etc. Now that you have a background of my style, if I'm trying to get a girl to think I will compl…
/r/seduction12/07/17 09:36 AM
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Amazing content! Your write-up plus body language are the fundamentals at the root of attraction. Well done!
/r/seduction12/07/17 09:29 AM
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I agree, also had this happen to me.
/r/seduction11/07/17 08:04 PM
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Just text her anytime. Keep it short and the aim is to meetup. Dont get lost overthinking text game
/r/seduction10/07/17 11:14 PM
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I am not saying more fun/extroverted people suck. I am saying every person is different. Every person feels things in a different way. Personally when I am getting to know someone I intrinsically feel the desire of wanting to know about them (which is very linear/logical - obviously there is some degree of emotion involved - we are humans). On the other hand, I have a friend that flat out turns into a comedian around women. You didnt have a text so I had to go by your title, which seems to be li…
/r/seduction10/07/17 11:12 PM
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Personally I am very linear/logical person by nature. And let me tell you, in most dating forums you will hear that you have to be fun, you have to be this, etc etc - NOT TRUE. We are all different in terms of personality and should use our strengths as assets. Now back to my case, I am a very logical person so I use that to my advantage by throwing in a bit of mystery, tension, and I am a huge listener (I can't stress enough how important this last one is). Male-female dynamics actually work be…
/r/seduction10/07/17 08:54 PM
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But I will add that even if you take long, I wouldnt say you will face great resistance. She will just let you lead more.
/r/seduction10/07/17 08:44 PM
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Oh totally! The so called "attraction clock" girls are known for. But it looks like OP got that vibe from someone he just met. But glad you pointed that out! Acting fast IS indeed very important.
/r/seduction10/07/17 08:43 PM
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Personally I think you are on the right track because you are getting sex. But you should ask yourself if you are giving her crazy pleasure, are you making her feel emotions (they are girls by nature), are you a good leader, do you have independence? If you are not lacking in any of these departments then maybe you just have to wait for the right one to come along.
/r/seduction10/07/17 06:30 PM
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If a girl was interested in you at first, she will continue to like you, given that your frame/behavior doesnt change. Go back sometime and make the moves!!
/r/seduction10/07/17 06:25 PM
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Dont believe her if thats what she told you. And yes, you should also see her as such.
/r/seduction10/07/17 12:32 PM
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My friend you need to man the fuck up. Great women are rare, but they do exist anywhere in the world.
/r/seduction10/07/17 07:37 AM
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She just wants fun. And good call on not banging without a rubber - those chicks are usually very active if you know what i mean.
/r/seduction10/07/17 07:35 AM
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Don't act on it. Just wait my friend - otherwise you are letting go of your value.
/r/seduction10/07/17 07:32 AM
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Indeed, it seems like you have a great mindset. Situations like these just show the beauty of the male-female dynamics and how much we just need each other.
/r/seduction09/07/17 05:20 PM
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I am glad my advice is approved by a female! Cheers!
/r/seduction09/07/17 04:59 PM
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This is great advice m8. I would add that girls take more time to heat up than we do. If you want a safe way that will almost guaranty a hookup perhaps feel her up, and ask if she wants a massage (upper body skin to skin contact), mid through the massage you can use a low tone voice and ask her "are you adventurous?", if she says "yes" - proceed to kiss her body (i.e. lower body all the way up to behind the ears - yes behind the ears - thank me later), and the rest is history. Good luck!
/r/seduction09/07/17 10:30 AM
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I will be honest with you, I only read the title. The real question is WHAT do YOU want? Do you want a girlfriend? If the answer is yes, put aside all your insecurities and work on yourself. Hey man, I am not the best looking guy myself, and everyone faces challenges at some points of their lives - notice how I used the term "challenges" and not "problems". This being said, you shouldn't give up on anything due to having a pessimistic mindset, whether it comes to girls/career/sports/etc. Live a …
/r/seduction09/07/17 10:25 AM
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She played you m8 - you should have looked more deeply into body language and accessed the situation. Next time bring the rubbers though!
/r/seduction09/07/17 10:17 AM
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That is right. I am being treated for a glute tear. And what is pulling me back is the fact that she literally touches my ass every session, I wouldn't want her to think that I am aroused or thinking about her during that procedure. Tricky tricky brother. I think that I should leave it to the end of the session and see what happens.
/r/seduction09/07/17 09:56 AM
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This is exactly what I was thinking, and I like her far too much to not make a move.
/r/seduction09/07/17 09:56 AM
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Acts such as grinding/etc happen in more relaxed spots such as bars/clubs. In real life you will find that girls are much more subtle/covert about how they express their interest. Personally, I believe this to test who is man enough to be bold and make a move out of the feedback they give off. I have found that when they are interested they will play with hair, face me, tease, flirting by giving you a nickname (when they say "sir" in a flirty tone), touch, etc. Remember that most communication i…
/r/seduction08/07/17 09:47 PM
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A good exercise for you is to hold eye contact with people on the street (both males and females), and work your way up to exchanging a smile and a few words. You will rapidly see that it's not that much of a big deal!
/r/seduction08/07/17 03:06 PM
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An important aspect here is to find passions. I mean, how awesome would it be to find someone who happens to enjoy the same activities as you? Don't stress about location, half the worlds population is women. Maybe go slow, but definitely get yourself out there.
/r/seduction07/07/17 09:42 PM
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I didnt read the entire text - I stopped as soon as i diagnosed the obstacle you have to overcome. To keep it simple and honest, you are about a decade behind when it comes to wanting to meeting and interact with the opposite gender. The very first thing you can do to improve your game, is to go out there, and talk to girls, forget about books, etc (or make them secondary) - every single one of us has had to get through this phase. Social skills are much like math, you get better at it from prac…
/r/seduction07/07/17 02:27 PM
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Go in with the mentality that you are going to have a great deal of fun. Remember that there WILL be creepy guys on the side doing nothing to get girls interested. You will be at great advantage just by being able to having your own fun - manifested through dance/enjoying music/friends, etc. You are your own man, and this will attract them.
/r/seduction06/07/17 09:17 PM
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To me it seems like you are lucky to naturally be a funny person - as others have said, you should see this as an asset. Now, the problem is the fact that you have this need of being funny in order to impress (at least this is what it seems like). Perhaps you could introduce a variety of other emotions to build attraction. You can still be funny, and perhaps tease. When you go on a date do you sit across her or beside? There are countless non verbal ways that will automatically make you seem mor…
/r/seduction14/06/17 04:13 PM
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