p_taradactyl Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	Q4M - Why do some men look down upon women who are single and child-free?	Question For Men	p_taradactyl	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 12:26 AM
17	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations?	Discussion	p_taradactyl	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 07:55 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
–	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. Fair enough, honestly I just like to write for relaxation so it's not a waste of time or effort; more productive than watching TV. And I forgot which sub I was on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/24 07:46 AM
–	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. Agree wholeheartedly. I'm skeptical that the status quo is sustainable in the long-term. I'm certain that perpetual growth in population AND per capita consumption is not sustainable. Just ask the ancient civilizations that collapsed due in whole or in part to mismanaging resources and subsequently, exceeding the carrying capacity of their surroundings - it didn't end well. Something-something about history repeating itself...	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/24 02:28 AM
–	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. [Delayed reply] I agree that making it more affordable to breed is likely the main, or the only, factor that would have much of an impact on birth rates. I neglected to mention that I am solidly on Team 'We Already Have Too Many Humans'. Kind of an important detail to have left out lol. I probably should have also stated that I don't have kids (by choice), if it wasn't apparent (unintentional pun: "wasn't apparent" --> "wasn't a parent"). In an effort to construct shorter comments/replies, I'm f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/24 01:32 AM
9	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. Slave labor and cannon fodder!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 12:07 AM
-1	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. Fuck, I already have to pay taxes for schools, but I guess that's better than a society of uneducated dumbasses. Or, rather, even MORE uneducated dumbasses. Nannies & childcare too? GTFOH. Will someone pay more taxes so I don't have to pay for dog food or vet visits? Never mind, I wouldn't have dogs if I couldn't pay for their care myself. Sounds crazy, I know. Breeding...Is...Not...Mandatory	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 12:06 AM
5	A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well. We have enough humans already Infinite growth in a finite system is not possible You've been brainwashed into believing that Growth = Progress & therefore it is our civic duty to produce and consume more and more, year after year Perpetual increases to both population and per capita consumption is not sustainable in the long-term Billions of existing and future humans in less-developed parts of the world striving to attain a similar standard of living to humans living in excessively materialisti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/24 11:53 PM
3	Have you ever encountered a woman who shattered your worldview? I always say, don't expect the worst but be prepared for it. A couple things you mentioned (that it seems like she isn't used to being treated well, that she's avoidant of emotional intimacy and vulnerability) could indicate some past experiences that made her insecure and hesitant to let her guard down - it's easy to appear confident and open, but still be somewhat closed off to connecting with others beyond a more superficial level. I'm not saying that's a major issue even if it were the case,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 10:47 PM
2	Who would you say are more despairing. Single Mid 30's Men or single mid 30's women? That would be refreshing - I guess there's a first time for everything. I have never been furnished with sources when I've requested them, on any topic or platform. I interpret that as an admission of defeat; otherwise, I'd think one would be eager to substantiate their claims. You can't just go around stating opinions as facts and not expect to be questioned/challenged, yet here we are...	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 05:11 PM
1	Who would you say are more despairing. Single Mid 30's Men or single mid 30's women? Well yeah, I know that the intention, as stated above, is "to indicate if the person doing the thing is a woman or a man". My question is why is it important/necessary/beneficial to make that distinction? The only context I can think of are situations with health care providers, where the patient has experienced trauma and does not feel comfortable being examined or counseled by someone of the same sex as their assailant - for example, a man seeking therapy to help him cope with an abusive mothe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 04:49 PM
3	Who would you say are more despairing. Single Mid 30's Men or single mid 30's women? Are we comparing 40 year-olds who are not bachelors or spinsters by choice? To be a valid apples-to-apples comparison, the distinction needs to be made, i.e. single men who don't want to be single vs. single women who don't want to be single. It's interesting that the terminology seems to carry 2 very different connotations - 'bachelors' are often thought of as fun-loving, party dudes and 'spinster' calls to mind a bitter, unhappy hermit. I mean, realistically, why not to just refer to all singl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 04:57 AM
1	Who would you say are more despairing. Single Mid 30's Men or single mid 30's women? Dear Valued Customer, Before we can move forward, we kindly request the sources for the above claim. Please be aware, this claim is not eligible to be supported by anecdotal evidence. Upon receipt, we will proceed with our standard assessment. Our pre-screening software detected the presence of possible anomalies that indicate the need for a more in-depth exploration. A comprehensive evaluation will be conducted once our office receives the requested source material, and results will be availabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 04:21 AM
-1	This sub is a perfect example of extremism and radicalisation Cats are better. "Simp" lol most coherent comment this month. Thanks, but to be fair, the bar is set pretty low 😆	/r/AllPillDebate	02/11/23 11:22 AM
1	Why are men constantly told “you’ll never get a woman doing/saying this or that” as if women are all some prize to be won and men lucky to have a chance with any of them? I’m always happy to help	/r/AllPillDebate	02/11/23 03:08 AM
-3	This sub is a perfect example of extremism and radicalisation Yeah, having "Debate" in the sub name is false advertising. There's a predictable formula, elements of which OP has alluded to, that includes little to no actual debating. No one is going to change their mind or even attempt to see another POV without civil discourse and a willingness to hear each other out, so it becomes an exercise in futility for all involved. Let's break this down, shall we? Post asserts "Opinion A" which we'll assume is along the lines of most posts, airing complaints and c…	/r/AllPillDebate	01/11/23 01:46 PM
1	Why are men constantly told “you’ll never get a woman doing/saying this or that” as if women are all some prize to be won and men lucky to have a chance with any of them? LMAO What universe is this where humans really think in terms of "getting" other humans as "prizes"? I'm picturing a carnival where you win some game and are handed a goldfish in a plastic bag. Extending that level of transactional commodification to other humans is a clear indicator to just give up, for a while at least. Pay for "companionship" as needed, human or AI, and it's basically a win-win - base needs are met, and there's one less turd floating around the dating pool. Perhaps in an alte…	/r/AllPillDebate	30/10/23 03:42 AM
1	Why are men constantly told “you’ll never get a woman doing/saying this or that” as if women are all some prize to be won and men lucky to have a chance with any of them? I wholeheartedly support your decision to stop trying. Spread the word among all like-minded folk. Stay home, lock your doors, contain the disdain and petulance that have led to viewing other humans as "prizes". Anyone with such a tenuous grip on reality to where they even reduce themselves to a "prize" is doing society a favor by forfeiting the game and exiting the playing field. Dying alone isn't as big of a deal as it's made out to be anyway, and is nothing to be afraid of. Thanks in advance.	/r/AllPillDebate	30/10/23 03:23 AM
1	Why are men constantly told “you’ll never get a woman doing/saying this or that” as if women are all some prize to be won and men lucky to have a chance with any of them? Women and girls get told this as well - "How do you expect to get a husband if you don't know how to cook?"; "No man's going to want you if you don't lose/gain a few pounds"; "You're not going to find a decent guy hanging out in bars and bowling alleys"; etc. All things my mom or dad have said to me at some point. They finally gave up after I told them countless times that I don't give a shit whether or not I'm in a relationship, so I have no interest in altering myself or faking who I am out of…	/r/AllPillDebate	29/10/23 02:30 AM
0	Would you date a bisexual? Currently in a relationship with a bi guy, so yes. (S)he is also trans. Mostly into women. I’ve always thought of everyone as just people so if I like someone, I don’t care what gender or sexuality they are, though I’d only ever dated hetero men previously. We’re about the same size so we share clothes & play dress-up & it’s awesome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/23 05:58 PM
1	It's not just women shaming and humiliating men in public for daring to approach them. It's that and WAY more. This guy explains it flawlessly. I wouldn’t say it’s the only reason, just one of many factors that contribute to a sort of collective sense of dread and malaise lurking just below the surface.	/r/AllPillDebate	30/09/23 09:47 PM
1	It's not just women shaming and humiliating men in public for daring to approach them. It's that and WAY more. This guy explains it flawlessly. In addition to reduced socialization, social media also is a constant reminder of how insignificant we are. In the past, we were limited to a relatively small circle, and it was easier to stand out as a 'big fish in a small pond'. Now it's one massive global pond and we're all just algae. You can be extremely adept at something, or extremely attractive, but a few clicks away are multitudes of other people just as good or better; the message is you're not special or important. I'd imagine that ca…	/r/AllPillDebate	30/09/23 07:31 PM
1	Women's hatred for lonely men Thank you, I needed that lol. You are awesome as well!	/r/AllPillDebate	02/09/23 04:40 PM
0	Humans are a tournament mating strategy species. When in Rome...	/r/AllPillDebate	29/08/23 08:00 PM
2	Humans are a tournament mating strategy species. Humans are just stupid animals, insistent upon breeding indiscriminately whilst the world burns, dooming their spawn to suffer in the dystopian future we will continue to produce and consume our way into. To avoid this particular gene selection mating strategy concern, one can choose to associate with the growing community of non-breeders a la r/childfree & r/antinatalism, where having had a vasectomy increases one's proverbial SMV at a relatively low cost. As a bonus, the expense of having depe…	/r/AllPillDebate	29/08/23 01:56 PM
2	Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to? Gotcha, thanks for elaborating. I should have read more carefully obviously! In that case, hell no, I'm not getting with someone who makes me feel unsafe, regardless of their appearance or net worth, and though I'm sure there are women out there who are into being treated like shit, I've never met one. As I'm sure others have said, you don't always see a person's true character at first while they're on their best behavior, so it could happen inadvertently, and there may be complications when tr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 08:17 PM
1	Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to? I had responded to a recent post about this & one of my points was exploring the idea that “bad boys” are perhaps being labeled as such based on an unconventional appearance & aloof demeanor, which by no means equates to being violent or abusive. If he’s a known criminal, then ok, but are most guys running background checks before judging? (I’m not talking about the tiny fraction of women who marry serial killers while they’re in prison). I then speculated that the nonconformist “bad” guys are a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 05:43 PM
3	Women's hatred for lonely men Good thing IDGAF, lol. If advocating for awareness and understanding of something that can cause much suffering & sometimes lead to tragedy makes me a pick me, then so be it	/r/AllPillDebate	12/08/23 02:41 AM
8	Women's hatred for lonely men I think there is a disconnect in the ways men and women experience loneliness that makes it harder for women to empathize. I'm guilty of having dismissed loneliness as a form of weakness in the past, because I felt that being alone is something we just have to accept sometimes, that it's a choice to succumb to loneliness and despair. Also I personally enjoy and often prefer being alone so it was hard to relate - 'What's the big deal? Most people suck anyway. Get a pet. Learn to enjoy your own co…	/r/AllPillDebate	11/08/23 05:42 PM
0	Where do you go after taking the Blackpill? being reminded of everything you missed out on Meh, it's highly overrated - We're just programmed to think that we have to follow a certain life trajectory that includes finding a partner and breeding. That our lives are not 'complete' unless we fulfill this obligation. That if we're not actively working toward this goal, there's something wrong with us. Ignore this pressure. Many people in relationships or married with children are miserable & envious of those who chose a different path & live …	/r/AllPillDebate	08/08/23 07:28 AM
1	False hope is abusive IDK how much hope can be derived from others' attempts to be optimistic in this and other situations where deep down, we know from experience that it may not be true. At the very least, there's no way that someone offering reassurance can say for sure that you are going to succeed eventually. So these platitudes shouldn't be taken as gospel and grasped onto, when we know that rationally, they're just words and ultimately meaningless. But alas, being disillusioned and giving up gives rise to its …	/r/AllPillDebate	02/08/23 11:00 AM
2	What Do You Make of the Term 'Involuntarily Childless'? Thx for the insightful reply. Some further reflection - A comparative difference is that the stakes are much higher when selecting someone with whom to create and raise another human - you're tied to that person for the rest of your life (unless they die first). But you're also up against the clock. I guess the smart thing for a woman to do who is dead set on breeding would be to say 'OK when I hit 30-35, if I haven't found a suitable parenting partner, I'm just going to find a sperm donor and d…	/r/AllPillDebate	23/07/23 10:59 PM
2	What Do You Make of the Term 'Involuntarily Childless'? Well, they're similar in that both groups are trying to get something from the opposite sex (when the involuntarily celibate are straight...are there gay/bi incels? Honest question. I'd assume so...), and neither group is having success. It's difficult to explore the thought process of an involuntarily childless woman, as I have never wanted to have kids. I think there are those who know they do or do not want kids, and then there are those who are on the fence, who feel, 'Maybe if I found the r…	/r/AllPillDebate	22/07/23 09:43 PM
47	Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date? I always offer to pay for myself but I don't put up too much of a fight if the guy insists. If the date goes well enough that there will most likely be a 2nd date, I'll say OK you can pay this time but I'll get it next time. Or if there are additional costs incurred on the date, such as Uber rides or an after-dinner bar tab, I'll pick those up. That's how I operate in relationships as well - just alternate who pays, or you-pay-this-and-I'll-pay-that. Never been one to expect the man to pay for e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/23 10:12 AM
1	Women have begun acting less feminine and more and more like men, which most men do not find attractive. When will this come to a head? When will this come to an end? I hate to break it to you, but I don't think it will, nor do I think it should. It's not motivated by a concerted effort to just 'be more masculine' (or feminine, in regard to men), but rather a disregard for or rejection of what some people perceive as 'appropriate' gender expression. People have steadily gotten more comfortable exercising their freedom to look and act how they choose and less concerned with what other people think. It's the natural evolution of a…	/r/AllPillDebate	07/07/23 05:38 PM
3	Do you really think "sex just happens"? Aside from the occasional exception, I'd say sex does not 'just happen' randomly. However, the only necessary conditions I can think of are that both participants must have deemed each other 'fuckable', and neither is 'off limits', i.e. your best friend's spouse, or your cousin. Within those parameters, anything can 'happen'. I think what's tricky is the transition from 'hanging out' to 'let's have sex'. It can be awkward, which is probably why a lot of people prefer to not be sober. But when bo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/23 01:06 AM
–	Do you think mens attraction itself is misogyny? There's a lot to cover here - No, attraction is not misogynistic, nor is men's sexuality. It's normal and healthy for men and women to be able to appreciate beauty in other humans and to engage in a little fantasy in our heads. It's how that desire/attraction is acted upon that determines the outcome. Here I will also point out that misogyny and sexism are not the same thing, though they often go hand in hand. Misogyny is general hatred of women; sexism doesn't require hating women, just conside…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/23 12:15 AM
1	Women will reject or make it difficult for men who are too attractive due to intimidation or insecurity Same, even down to the preference for nerds. I wouldn't necessarily outright reject a super good-looking guy but I would keep my guard up a little more. I'd worry about a hyperinflated ego, a sense of entitlement. Same with super rich guys. I'm thinking to myself, "He could have almost any chick he wants, why would he want me?" Part insecurity, part reality. It might cross my mind that there must be something 'wrong' with him to be single, but realize that the same could be said about me. Then I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 05:39 AM
1	Why even start a family where both parents are working? Societal pressure in many cases. Not that people can't make it work - there are many variables, such as work schedules (are they staggered so that one parent is home most of the time?) & support system (grandparents willing and able to babysit for free, for example). I do feel that getting by on a smaller income by decreasing working hours is in the kid's best interest if it's at all possible. Giving a child attention and time is more important than showering them with material things. But many …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 04:18 AM
1	If you want to know the reality of a women's sex life watch Friends Kill your television	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/23 07:10 PM
1	Truly how important is “masculinity” to women? Storytime: There's this guy I've been acquainted with, and flirting with, for a while, once a week at bowling league. OK so based on that alone, you can probably assume we're not the stereotypical "cool kids" (nor are we kids - 40's - so past the point of giving a fuck if we're cool or not). I'm more of a 'connection-seeker' than someone who has a 'type', but I do tend to connect more with guys who are intelligent. So we're chatting last night, the conversation turned to math, and I gotta say, t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 06:13 PM
1	CMV : As a man the best strategy to achieve success in dating is to approach it as one big joke This person gets it. On a recent post here about standards for a potential partner, I listed that one of mine is someone who will also laugh at the absurdity of life. To quote my now-deceased grandma, “If you can’t laugh, might as well be dead.” Giving no fucks about things that don’t really matter is truly the best way to be happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/23 04:36 PM
2	Q4A : Do you think parents are confused as to why their perfectly normal son hasn’t found a partner in their late twenties and early thirties? That's the best mindset - just going to enjoy the show, and if you happen to meet someone you have a connection with, even better. That way you're not disappointed (unless the event sucks), nor do you give off a creepy, desperate vibe. Sadly, I found no events in my area (Florida) per a cursory google search, though there do seem to be many enthusiasts. Closest arena is in Vegas. NHRL is in Connecticut. We do have an active midget wrestling scene here though, so there's that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 12:38 AM
2	Q4A : Do you think parents are confused as to why their perfectly normal son hasn’t found a partner in their late twenties and early thirties? Yeah I'm not the athletic type either - tried softball, way too much running. Then I tried bowling and found my calling. Robot combat is a great idea. I dig sci-fi and people who are smart and creative and a little competitive, so I'm going to have to check it out. The men-to-women ratio would probably be more in my favor than yours, but it's worth a shot - fewer options but higher probability of compatibility, so it might balance out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/23 08:18 PM
1	Q4A : Do you think parents are confused as to why their perfectly normal son hasn’t found a partner in their late twenties and early thirties? It doesn't have to be pickleball (a relatively new sport that's kind of a combo of tennis and ping pong), but co-ed club sports are a good option, if available in your area. You can join as a free agent and be placed on a team. My local organization has everything from darts to soccer, & ability doesn't really matter. You automatically have the sport in common with everyone on the league. It's an easy transition from chatting during a game to 'hey want to meet up for a bite/drink before the game…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/23 05:05 PM
1	Double standards exist and that’s okay. how we should behave So people should limit themselves to only behave in ways that fit stereotypical gender roles? Who's deciding how men and women 'should' behave? Even if it were possible to reach a consensus, the outcome would be a monotonous population where everyone is confined to box A or box B and everyone in each box acts exactly the same. No thanks. The reality is most people are naturally happier within the bounds of gender roles That could be true but there's no way to prove or quanti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 07:21 PM
2	Toxic Masculinity Ha, I forgot about the subtitle trick, it does help. Enjoy your evening as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 04:33 AM
1	Women have literally 1 job and many are failures at it. Thanks for the link - that was fun. I scored a 1/5 on the kitty litter scale, with a 62.2% probability of finding a man who meets the standards referenced in the survey. It doesn't include other important factors though, such as 'likes dogs, bowling, and bird-watching', 'laughs at the absurdity of life', 'eats meat infrequently or never', 'doesn't want kids', 'makes and appreciates puns', 'has comparable level of wittiness and sarcasm', 'knows the difference between your and you're', 'isn't brai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 04:30 AM
2	Toxic Masculinity I was skeptical for a long time, & I'm not a big fan of calling it a 'disorder'; it's more of a different array of neural connections, IMO. It's actually beneficial to my job, which involves a lot of multi-tasking and jumping around from one thing to another. I was only diagnosed about 5 years ago, in my early 40's. Was always called "scatterbrained" as a kid. I just thought everyone's brain works the way mine does, but found out that's not the case. I rarely can watch movies and remember them; …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 03:19 AM
0	Toxic Masculinity Many good points. Even my ADD brain with the attention span of a fruit fly stayed focused for the less than 3 minutes it took to read. Unfortunately, those who could benefit most from your advice/perspective are probably not going to bother reading it & even if they do, it will be dismissed and/or ridiculed if it doesn't fit into their existing narrative. At least you tried though. A noble effort. Stay weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 02:51 AM
–	The idea that we live in a “hookup culture” and that a significant number of women are having an abundance of casual sex is a myth. Most women have zero interest in casual sex and have a limited number of sexual partners in their lifetime. I agree, and demographics definitely play a part. Having lived my whole life in relatively big cities, though in the southern US, it's been my experience among family, friends, and co-workers that it's much less common to settle down early (before late 20's/early 30's). Myself included, there's usually a combo of serial monogamy and casual hook-ups/FWB's/situationships, & I'd estimate that women have an average of 1 to 1.5 different partners per year after becoming sexually active (emphasis on '…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 02:07 PM
2	Are the women here of any particular ideology? I'm a neurodivergent GenX woman without a pill affiliation and currently single. I've interacted with a lot of people in my 47 years on this planet, and I cannot make a single generalization about men or women that would apply across the board. Everyone is an individual. That's not particularly helpful to anyone seeking a pill-based 'solution' to their dating woes, as both pills must, by nature, rely heavily upon generalizations when formulating tenets and philosophies. That being said, if I'm i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 02:22 AM
–	I think the entire pill spectrum is dehumanizing for both men and women. And mother nature laughs all the way to the genetic bank. She gets the highest value men sleeping with, and making babies with, the highest value women. If intellectual capacity is factored into valuation (which it should be), the rate of breeding among stupid people might be surpassing that of 'higher value' folks, as portrayed in "Idiocracy", and the implications are concerning. Humans are assholes. An overwhelming majority, anyway And everybody wants a box of chocolates and a long stemmed ros…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 07:06 AM
1	There are two camps of people in this world , those who swear women have high standards and those who swear they don’t . What causes that different point of view ? Makes sense, valid points. In the first scenario, if it's what the woman is looking for in life (provided she is aware of and free to choose other options), I don't disparage or condemn that choice, nor would I if it were a man wanting to fulfill the caretaker role and seeking a partner who could support that arrangement. Whatever works for people. The second scenario does in fact seem risky with a greater chance of the couple growing apart and an odd power dynamic going on, though I'm strugglin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 04:21 AM
1	There are two camps of people in this world , those who swear women have high standards and those who swear they don’t . What causes that different point of view ? I don't see a direct connection, possibly b/c I don't see a way to quantify something as nebulous as 'standards' with any reliability. Do you mind elaborating?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 03:36 AM
1	There are two camps of people in this world , those who swear women have high standards and those who swear they don’t . What causes that different point of view ? Just trying to be helpful, by pointing out the futility of investing time & effort in a pursuit that ultimately has no bearing on a favorable or unfavorable dating experience. If it were possible to determine whether women as a whole have high or low standards, how would that information affect interactions and outcomes b/w men & women? The only effect that comes to mind is that if it could somehow be proven that most women have unrealistically high standards, it would soothe lonely men's egos b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 03:36 AM
2	There are two camps of people in this world , those who swear women have high standards and those who swear they don’t . What causes that different point of view ? There's also a camp that have never given a single thought to the matter. I don't buy it that there are many people who sit around arguing or worrying about such things. Most people just live their lives. Sometimes they hook up with one another, sometimes they don't. Here, I'll settle it: Some women have high standards and some have low standards, some have a combination of high and low standards, and standards may vacillate depending on variables such as blood-alcohol content, self image, needi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 04:21 AM
1	Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'? I've gotten in many an argument on here with women who very aggressively insist that their attraction to a man is not negotiable, nor will it change. This is what they insist. That's the problem with generalizations; everyone is different. I think, here, a woman can put in some effort and easily make herself top of said guy's fuck buddy list if that's what she set out to do I'm sure it's possible, though maybe not if she's in the 'last resort' category. But even being at the top of the list does…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/23 08:50 PM
1	Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'? Well, thanks for posting an interesting topic for discussion. I appreciate the positive feedback; might be the first time I've gotten a response on this sub from the OP though I comment somewhat regularly. I would like to hear your POV; if your MO is to stay neutral in the post, feel free to send a chat request.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 06:26 PM
18	Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'? It's a close call, but I'm going with Friend-Zoned Guy having slightly better odds. Mostly based on my own experiences, but I'll try to quantify it. Women are probably more likely to develop an attraction to a guy friend whom they were not attracted to at first, based on attributes other than physical appearance. Men who have a fuck buddy probably have more than one and probably have a more rigid, solidified 'ranking', mostly based on physical attraction, where if a woman is not at the top of th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 02:45 AM
2	What’s so condemnable about making dating your number one priority in life? First, I give you a lot of credit for already being aware of the things that come to mind by reading just the title - the importance of balance, the trap of desperation, etc. In fact, your self-awareness may be a better, more reliable guide than any stranger's opinion. The only suggestion I have is to continue to maintain a balance b/w dating and personal growth. Dating can be Priority #1, but it's important to keep growing as a person for your own well-being. What that would entail for you, I h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 02:01 AM
1	Women don't appreciate male breadwinners OK let me break it down - bottom line: Work done inside the home should be inversely proportional to work done outside the home. If Partner A works the same number of hours as Partner B, they should split household responsibilities, regardless of who earns more. Why? Because partners should value each other's time equally. Otherwise, you're letting your partner's employer dictate the worth of his/her time. Devaluing your partners time based upon how much an employer pays them and subsequently ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 04:28 PM
1	On top of the other obvious issues men face, there is literally no acceptable time or place to approach a woman, even once mutual attraction has been established. Women simply do not want to be bothered, leaving almost everything to chance encounters and organic interactions. No, OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 04:01 AM
1	On top of the other obvious issues men face, there is literally no acceptable time or place to approach a woman, even once mutual attraction has been established. Women simply do not want to be bothered, leaving almost everything to chance encounters and organic interactions. I was starting to think I was the only one who noticed, lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 04:00 AM
3	I regularly see women say on here that men overrate their own appearance, but women are guilty of this to a significantly higher degree. LOL, nailed it. Every time he creates a new profile, he posts the same content. I've seen the "men are hornier than women" post at least 4 times, and it's literally copied and pasted from his previous posts/profiles. It's funny, sad, and concerning at the same time. Dude's got issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 03:33 AM
1	Do most women really value different attributes when looking for a relationship? OK, I'll give it a whirl - Attraction is contingent upon different attributes depending who you ask. Think of all the different niches in porn - one person's "ew" is another person's "hell yeah". I don't think any of us, men or women, can completely control what attracts us to another person. We may have some preferences, but it's difficult if not impossible to force or to deny a connection. It's either there or it's not. But that only applies to those who value a connection above all else when …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 04:17 AM
–	Do most women really value different attributes when looking for a relationship? So fewer people are getting married - why is that a bad thing? A significant percentage of marriages end in divorce anyway - according to the same source you cited, in 2012, 29% of women and 17% of men were divorced (graph). So if 30% of people never marry, it's not increasing the aggregate number of unmarried people as much as it would appear. I'd speculate that as the % of never-married people increases, the divorce rate will decrease among those who do get married, because they will be less l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:40 AM
–	Would you marry someone that was not very bright? *...someone who was not very bright No. Fuck no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/23 04:22 AM
–	Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men? My father was never super interested or affectionate when I was growing up. He wasn't a bad father, just not really...there. Over the years, I've learned that he is actually very sensitive (as am I), he just doesn't express his emotions. He's not shy about expressing his opinions on how I look, though. Both my folks are very superficial and overly concerned with appearances. I think the biggest effect he's had on my relationships relates to my inability to connect deeply, to be open and vulnerab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 03:44 AM
2	Do you care about morals when choosing a partner? Shit, I care about morals when choosing a fucking dentist. I'm not going to knowingly give my business or my affection to anyone whom I believe to be a fundamentally shitty person by my standards. For instance, I could find a guy extremely attractive all around, but if I find out he's a trophy hunter, it's a deal-breaker. There's just no universe in which I would be willing to fuck someone who kills animals for fun. I think we must consider the conflation of "bad guys" with non-conformists. One …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 02:45 AM
2	What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor? That's not quite what I was saying - yes, there are inherent structural differences but brain development is also influenced by hormones in the womb & shortly after birth (which is why I said "in part"). Scientific consensus is that chromosomes are the main determining factor, but not the be-all, end-all. A quick search yielded a few sources; my other source being someone with a Ph.D in psychology. https://www.brainfacts.org/thinking-sensing-and-behaving/brain-development/2015/estrogen-and-the-d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 02:35 PM
5	What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor? The question was specific to 'your own gender', not the concept of gender in general, so I guess that's why your answer, though relevant, could be said to not directly answer the question. That aside, I agree with most everything you said. While there are some biological differences in brain structure & connectivity depending in part on levels of hormones a fetus is exposed to in the womb, and although approx. 70% of humans are clustered toward one end of the spectrum or the other [per my therap…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 03:45 PM
3	So do most people apply no critical thought to dating and relationships? Mostly agree. I think a lot of people are looking for something unexplainable, something that makes them want to throw rationality out the window in the name of love and just dive in and hope for the best. It's a giant leap of faith to make for a romanticized version of reality, but if/when you feel it, it's one of the best feelings in the world, so it's somewhat understandable that many folks chase this high of chemistry and connection and ignore their better judgement at times. As far as a cor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 01:51 AM
2	Q4W: Would you prefer to be a man instead of a woman? Tough call. Both sexes have advantages and disadvantages. I think I'd do OK as a guy - I'd probably be a nerdy non-conformist. My personality is pretty balanced as far as masculine and feminine qualities. I do enjoy dresses and glitter and having long hair - women just have more options to express ourselves through our appearance, which is fun. Men are more restricted in what is considered socially acceptable in terms of clothes, hair, shoes, makeup, etc., especially in the corporate world, wher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 04:51 AM
1	Good female role models She came to mind as well!	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 03:31 PM
5	Good female role models Though a fictional character, Sarah Connor ("Terminator" franchise, for you young-uns) embodies many positive qualities: Devotion to her son Selflessness Bravery Persistence Determination Relationship-wise, though she didn't really have a prominent "love interest" in the movies, her ability to see the good in the Terminator and subsequently feel empathy toward him is an important component of relationships - trying to understand and relate to to someone even when they seem completely 'alien'. "T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 01:34 PM
1	Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them? I can see where that scenario could happen, but I don't know how often the situation would arise IRL - people usually move on, so the chances of a woman rejecting a guy because he hasn't 'established' himself yet, then trying to get with him years later once he's 'made it' are probably pretty slim, though I'm sure it happens. There's a difference when someone is actively trying to better themselves, and when they've stagnated at a barely-scraping-by level with mountains of debt. You're always ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/23 04:59 PM
5	Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them? 200+ comments - good job reading them all. Figured mine would get buried in no-man's land. As an observation, I don't recall having seen any women on here (or IRL) refer to AF/BB except when questioning their existence. Maybe it's y'all who are pretending that they do exist, IDK. Regardless of who's pretending, the consensus answer to the title question seems to be "No, men should not be offended by an expectation that they can support themselves". If women don't acknowledge the AF/BB caste syst…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/23 07:11 PM
3	Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them? It's not offensive to have a minimum standard of being able to support oneself and to demonstrate financial responsibility before investing time and effort into building a relationship, regardless of gender, unless you're wealthy enough & have the desire to be a sugar mama/daddy. That being said, I'm not going to ask for a W-2 or bank statement before going on a date, but I would expect my date to be capable of at least splitting the bill, and ideally have a job, a car (unless they live in NYC o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/23 12:22 PM
2	Why Are You Single? Relationships are too much work Most people get annoying after a while I like alone time & living by myself (and 2 dogs) I'm a hot mess that no one needs to be subjected to I don't believe in marriage and don't want to breed I have a few buddies for when I want to get laid	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 02:36 AM
4	Are most western women going to marry most western men in the future? Marriage is outdated and overrated. I see a lot of guys on here complaining about how marriage only benefits the woman, then they speak of it as some necessity or requirement, when it's not. It just makes it a pain in the ass to extricate yourself if things don't work out. I've never understood what the point is of entering into a relationship contract. If 2 (or more, whatever) people want to be together, that's all that matters, not some piece of paper.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 02:13 AM
1	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough The "settle down" girl is what women want. They want to be the wife and get commitment from men. Good evening, just stopping by with a friendly reminder that there are exceptions to the above - at least one, as I have zero interest in marriage/being a wife. Temporary commitment and monogamy, sure; 'til death do us part', no thanks. I'd stick with a good partner long-term if the right one came along but it's not a priority; I'm more than content with sharing companionship and sex with someone wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 03:00 AM
1	Q4Women How do you think men generally change themselves to find success in getting dates and keeping relationships? I wouldn't want or expect a man to fundamentally change who he is, because if the changes are solely for the purpose of dating, he may just be pretending to change; I also would lose respect for a man who has so little conviction that he's willing to easily throw his beliefs aside for another person - that indicates a lack of integrity and a lack of a true sense of self. For example, a guy meets a nice religious girl he wants to date so he starts going to church even though he doesn't actually b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 01:14 PM
1	AI for companionship, escorts for sex. Is this the future of relationships? Why not just a full-on robot to provide both companionship and sex? Straight out of the box, guaranteed to be a 'virgin'. I'm all for it. Perfect for the man who just wants to own an obedient object with a pussy and a vacuum. He doesn't have to bother interacting with actual humans, and quietly exits the dating pool. Sounds like a win-win to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 05:06 PM
1	Should women be nice to beta males? Interesting, thanks. People are funny. LOL "dork-ass dork-nerd" - that's what I'm talkin' about!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 07:23 PM
2	Should women be nice to beta males? I guess it would depend on the definition of cool guy - being witty alone probably wouldn't be sufficient, according to the definition u/webernicke provided: "Being better looking, having better toys, being more charismatic, and being more socially dominant than most of the other boys." I've known and dated many guys who are shy and socially awkward - not charismatic or socially dominant - and don't reveal their wit and other positive personality traits until you get to know them better. I'm not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 07:18 PM
3	Should women be nice to beta males? Those are some good suggestions, and more realistic than a network of pity-sex providers. Just 'getting out there' can make a big difference in perception and personal growth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 08:07 AM
2	Should women be nice to beta males? Nice simple analogy, let's run with it - So assuming a limited number of cool boys, and each cool boy only has 2 hands, that still leaves many girls with no cool boy hand to hold. Is the theory that they just give up, or wait for a turn? Surely there is also a portion of girls who don't fight over the coolest boys because they know the cool boys just want to hold as many hands as possible and no hand is particularly special, or because they just aren't into the 'cool' boys and the huge egos some…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 08:00 AM
0	What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job? Depends on the person. Personally, I can be happy with or without a partner, but I can't be happy if I'm broke-ass all the time, so based on necessities for survival, my job is more important. But the question is a 'great' job vs. a 'great' partner, which is different. As long as the job pays the bills, I'd rather have a great partner and a tolerable job than a great job and tolerable partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 06:58 AM
5	Should women be nice to beta males? ...that you're mutually attracted to I think part of the issue is that most 'average' or 'below average' guys wouldn't have a huge problem finding a similarly 'average' or 'below average' woman, but some have unrealistic standards and feel entitled to any woman they find attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 06:38 AM
5	Should women be nice to beta males? Explain it like I'm 5: What factors are used to place a man in the "top 25%"? Does every woman have the same criteria? (Hint: No). Or does that mean that 25% of men are having sex with 100% of sexually-active women, thereby placing them in the top 25% by quantity? Wouldn't it beg the question of why these top dogs who could presumably have any woman they wanted wouldn't just stick to the hottest 25%? Is the top 25% of men mostly comprised of 'Chad's? Does that mean Chads are 'alpha's? Aren't Cha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 06:26 AM
4	Why some women struggle to keep a relationship going? Generic answer: I'm sure reasons vary, but if it's a 'struggle' to keep a relationship going, it's not a good fit. Yes, relationships take work, but at some point, the juice ain't worth the squeeze. You can't force something that isn't there. Sometimes we ignore our instincts and misgivings and jump into a relationship that was probably doomed from the start, try to make it work, then realize there's no point in postponing the inevitable. This could stem from clouded judgement due to not wanting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/23 04:40 AM
2	The insurmountable gap between the two main views on gender issues Agree with all of that. Even when we do our best not to be subjective or have a motive, a subconscious bias can still be present, especially figuring in the oft-questionable validity of online sources - it's not hard to dig up something to support even the most far-fetched theories and ideas. Not only do we have to consider our own motives and biases, we have to consider what motives or biases might be present in the source material. Which then can lead to detractors on any side of an issue clai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/23 03:02 PM
1	What (do you think) causes some people to want role reversal in a relationship? Interesting question. First though, high-five for qualifying your statements with "majority" & "most" & acknowledging that exceptions exist - pet peeve of mine when these types of words are absent, especially in the context of human behavior. Though the prevalence of exceptions probably varies greatly among different cultures depending a lot on how acceptable it is, here in the US, I wouldn't say it's rare at all for roles to be reversed or at least not be rigidly defined or adhered to, be it fr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 08:07 PM
1	Identifying toxic and predatory women 3 red flags and how to deal with them: 1) Always complaining; no sense of humor --> run 2) Entitled --> run 3) Materialistic --> run	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 04:42 AM
2	The insurmountable gap between the two main views on gender issues Upon revisiting, your explanation of truths makes more sense, so maybe obtuse and contradictory were not the best adjectives (OMG people can admit to errors in judgement? Lol). Still, a little contradictory to say "there is only one single objectively true response.", then "I don't know what objective truth is." but we don't gotta talk about old shit. I guess it depends somewhat on the context - examples might help. I was trying to come up with examples where the idea conveyed is basically the s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 10:54 PM
3	The insurmountable gap between the two main views on gender issues I'm not going to bust your ass for back-pedaling & being somewhat obtuse & contradictory, I'll merely point out that there are those who take things at face value & run with it, without thinking for themselves or delving deeper, & the phrase "objective truth" can evoke a sense of validation when validity has not actually been defined or established, if it's even possible to do so. That aside, I concur that there is a fundamental disconnect contributing to the animosity flung by both 'camps' that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 04:56 AM
6	The insurmountable gap between the two main views on gender issues How can such obviously huge differences in thinking to continue to exist when there is a thing called objective truth and theoretically any disagreements are only due to ignorance of the facts which can be fixed through research and discussions? Why do you think both parties have such big differences in their worldview even though there is only one single objectively true response? I find this gap troubling as well. I'm not trying to be lazy, but could you point to some sources of the 'objective…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 12:25 AM
2	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? I'm not trying to be lazy, but could you point to some sources for the hard scientific facts regarding evolutionary biology and what it proves about human sexual behavior (in addition to the wiki link to hypergamy?) My search returned a vast array of results from a wide variety of sources (the first of which is a book from 1979, so ideally more recent studies). As these facts are something of a cornerstone of TRP ideology, I don't feel qualified to evaluate the conclusions drawn from the science…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 04:52 PM
1	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Great question. (Post-answer, I realize I went on a few tangents. The first paragraph is the most relevant to the question posed so feel free to skip the rest.) Not really. I've been aware for a long time that different mindsets exist, and a subset does not affect how I feel about men in general. I don't feel that TRP as an ideology intentionally encourages violent or abusive behavior in a typical follower, but can provide justification/add fuel to the fire for someone with existing violent or a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 04:45 PM
–	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Yes, did I indicate otherwise? I'm not sure what that's in response to, but I am kind of tired, so forgive me if I'm missing an obvious correlation. Ya know, you could be less cryptic to avoid follow-up questions, lol (I mean that in a good-natured way, not trying to bust your balls).	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 04:36 AM
–	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? 10-4, thanks for elaborating. This may sound a bit cynical, but I think that when you break it down, there is a transactional element to most human relations where we are all essentially using one another to satisfy a need or want, from things as innocent and benign as staving off loneliness, to borderline prostitution when sex is 'traded' for some form of material gain. The difference lies in whether one values and desires a genuine connection with a real person as much if not more than a retur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 03:45 AM
–	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Don’t what? Not sure what you’re referring to, clarification needed, thx.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 09:27 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Thanks for playing but I see no point in continuing to engage, as it would be a waste of time and energy for the both of us. Sometimes it's best to just conserve water by walking away from a dumpster fire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 04:31 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Many folks in relationship discussions on this and similar forums indicate that the individual is not the priority, if they even consider him/her to be an actual person. For many, dating means reducing a potential partner to a set of data points that determine whether they would be a useful and valuable item for them to possess. Bleh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 02:05 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? I'll put you down as a "no" then, which was my hypothesis and seems to be the consensus. Though I would specify "in this context", since there are plenty of topics that can be discussed meaningfully using objectively quantifiable data sets vs. generalizations; however, human behavior on a mass scale is not one where it is feasible to do so. The conclusion I've arrived upon is that generalizations aren't inherently bad things; they just need to allow for exceptions. It's framing things that can't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 01:05 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? I see what you're saying (& certainly agree that English is weird af), though I still assert that language subtleties are important to not alienate people by framing a generalization as an absolute. Let's replace "Asians" with "women" - "Women are bad drivers", an opinion stated as fact that may or may not be intended to imply "all". I know I'm not a bad driver, so I'm likely to just immediately check out of the conversation rather than waste my time arguing that it's not a true statement. But "…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 08:27 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Anecdotes and generalizations aren't inherently bad things; they just need to allow for exceptions. It's framing things that can't be objectively measured or proven (in this context, human behavior on a mass scale) as absolutes that becomes a problem, IMO. There's a post from a couple days ago about how dating for men is like a job interview that's a perfect example of what I'm talking about. The OP states that "women always want to know what men they might wanna date do for work...But it's not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 11:57 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Oh my bad, it was the parent comment that brought peaceful into the mix, and that was a different person, I'm a dumbass. In this context I'd define peaceful to mean civil, not overly contentious or combative, not resorting to name calling or personal attacks as you said. I was mostly joking that peaceful wouldn't be any fun - I'll get fired up on occasion but typically prefer to maintain a more calm, rational demeanor. Usually when there's someone whom I strongly disagree with & who may or may n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 07:48 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? I posted this reply to a different comment speculating on why the rhetoric differs significantly online v. IRL but is relevant here as well so I'm plagiarizing myself: Another thing that occurred to me is that it's the extreme examples that are often cited the most, which I feel contributes a lot to the disconnect between online and IRL. I've rarely if ever come across someone of either gender IRL who would actually do or say the things that people latch on to to fuel and spread their disdain to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 02:57 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? It probably would be a bit more palatable if generalizations weren't expressed as absolutes, and included qualifiers like you did ("...most don't") that allow for exceptions. I guess everyone knows there are always exceptions, but it makes a difference in how I perceive the person making a generalization when the exceptions are acknowledged. Speaking in absolutes just sounds kind of arrogant and authoritarian. It sounds completely different to say "Asians are bad drivers" than to say "Many Asian…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 06:50 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Very well-thought-out perspective. I think this is probably the most challenging issue to address pertaining to transgenderism, even more so than the controversy regarding public restrooms. I guess one solution would be for sports to be ungendered. The best athlete/team wins. Like Ninja Warrior, same obstacles for everyone. This would also come with its own set of problems and challenges but it's interesting to think about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 06:19 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? It is refreshing that discussions tend to remain civil for the most part even when the topic is divisive. I've gained a better understanding of the intent of 'neutrality' among opposing ideologies, and many other insights from the generosity of all the commenters. I think I get why it's so challenging to engage in pill-related discourse without employing generalizations: Identifying with a philosophy entails a shared core belief system, and a belief system is dependent upon what is collectively …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 05:31 AM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Interesting, that's kind of the opposite of my experience - little to no vitriol or aggression from strangers IRL, but online, it's a shit-flinging free-for-all. I suppose it depends on the situation - when you refer to "mob force", it makes me think we're not talking about the same sets of circumstances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 04:46 AM
2	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Agreed. As someone who is usually (not "always", lol) mindful of qualifying statements with "most", "some", "many", etc., it can be bothersome when those qualifiers are absent. I realize they're probably implied in 'many' cases but subtleties matter. Another thing that occurred to me is that it's the extreme examples that are often cited the most, which I feel contributes a lot to the disconnect between online and IRL. I've rarely if ever come across someone of either gender IRL who would actual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 10:40 PM
3	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? It might be impossible regardless - the question then arises, how meaningful is a discussion when the average isn't accurate for many (possibly most) individuals due to the nature of averages? For a simplistic hypothetical example, if 50% of men say the ideal 'body count' is zero, and 50% say it's 10, neither half is accurately represented by the average of 5, but the resulting generalization would state that men want a woman with a body count of 5. Same with majorities - take the generalization…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 07:57 AM
2	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? It's kind of a paradox, I guess. How do you debate if apples or oranges taste better without defining what an apple or orange is, but how do you define an apple or an orange when there are many varieties of both? 🤔	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 10:54 PM
3	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? But it does make the very act of debate impossible at times, because we're not even arguing from a shared set of facts. That's basically the conclusion I came to but you state it much more eloquently. Agree on all points.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 09:55 PM
2	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Sources? Biological sex is mostly binary with the small exception of people born with a combination of reproductive organs; gender is not - many people exhibit traits associated with both masculinity and femininity. Most folks exist closer to one end of the spectrum than the other, but counterexamples abound proving there is no absolute dichotomy. We can agree to disagree - it's probably not worth either of our time to argue, realistically. However, I'd be happy to provide links showing the cons…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 09:47 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Was having a hard time coming up with anything which prompted my inquiry. I mean, I've seen a couple posts that are more open-ended, like the one about would you be ok with your husband being a SAHD for example but those seem to be the exception where the premise isn't overly contingent upon generalizations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 09:00 PM
1	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? That's the disconnect, IRL experience not correlating but yeah, I hear ya. I don't expect debate to be peaceful, that wouldn't be any fun!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 08:50 PM
3	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Makes sense, I'm probably just used to my little bubble of non-conformists and I know that doesn't represent the majority. Thanks for the feedback.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 08:47 PM
2	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Yeah that's kind of what I was thinking, as I couldn't really think of any other way to discuss any topic, really, without having agreed-upon definitions/parameters. This is just trickier since it's not as objective as discussing, say, which type of tire performs best in certain weather conditions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 08:40 PM
1	The biggest mistake of progressivism is equating tension coming from gendered asymmetries with sexism. Your view relies very heavily on generalizations, as many discussions about gender tend to do. Opinions are stated as facts, personal experiences are stated as absolutes. But when expressing a view, I suppose that is acceptable. I don't necessarily disagree with everything you're saying - men feeling invalid is a problem, can't argue there. I believe that men and women are actually sort of different. I agree that men and women are not the same, but assert that no two humans are the same, even if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 12:03 AM
1	Women are attracted to qualities that allow her to do less Yasss, human. So many folks don't realize how constrained & conditioned they are by all the bullshit they've been taught about how they're supposed to act, think, live, etc. based upon which stupid little cage they fit into. This chicken's flown the coop and ain't never going back in. Biology-wise, I'm female; gender-wise, non-binary. Social expectations/forces can fuck right on off - utterly useless garbage stealing our freedom to just exist. The ubiquitous generalizations spouted on men v. wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 03:29 AM
1	What can restore the divide between men and women in America? Great question - my proposed solutions: Realizing and accepting that we're all individuals existing on a spectrum thus dismantling the "us vs. them" gender dichotomy. No I'm not saying men and women are the same, I'm saying no two humans are the same, and adhering to sweeping generalizations and assumptions is lazy and counterproductive. I suppose it's human nature to want to categorize and tuck everyone away into a neat little box of preconceived notions so we don't have to think as much, but f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 09:54 PM
1	Have you ever shut down a man BECAUSE he talks normal with you, barring other external factors? Yeah the numbers are often pretty unbalanced - I can see where that would be frustrating. But maybe half the single guys are assholes so that would bring it closer to a 1-1 ratio. Then again half the single women might be assholes too. Kind of a crapshoot. It was usually pretty 50/50 at the pool when I lived in an apartment complex & the younger crowd would come hang out on the weekends, weather permitting. Good luck, may the odds be in your favor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 01:56 PM
1	Have you ever shut down a man BECAUSE he talks normal with you, barring other external factors? It doesn't take a "significant amount of time" to get a general feel/vibe from someone without wasting time and energy on a date. Investing in a little "pre-screening" greatly reduces the chances of a crappy date. That's unfortunate that you've mostly crossed paths with women who can't manage more than being "unobjectionable" - doesn't seem like a good candidate for an enjoyable date. Are traveling, trying new restaurants, being passionate about your job, and loving your pet(s) bad things? They'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 10:48 PM
4	Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do? I have to agree with the "it was already over before the breakup" theory based upon my own history of reluctance to hurt someone's feelings & thus sticking it out after it's run its course. So if the relationship with the ex was on life support, meeting the new guy might provide the impetus to make it official. Conversely, if the relationship with the ex is still going strong, the new arrival on the scene probably would not have much of an effect, and could potentially benefit the relationship -…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 05:34 PM
2	Does "average people are in relationships" says anything about women's issues? To address the last sentence, of course people in relationships can still have grievances - take the classic example of "short-guy syndrome". A lot of guys believe that women only want to be with taller men. They may be in a relatively happy LTR and still hold this belief/insecurity even though it does not directly manifest in their relationship. These issues/grievances don't just magically disappear when someone enters into a relationship - the relationship may provide a "safe harbor" and indis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 05:04 PM
3	Have you ever shut down a man BECAUSE he talks normal with you, barring other external factors? Personally, "chill and normal" and "being real" doesn't include either canned pick up lines or an immediate invitation to have coffee or whatever. How can someone know they'd even want to hang out/hook up with me without some casual interaction first? So no, I don't shut down men for talking to me like a "normal" human being. Unless I'm just looking to get laid, it's a turn off when it's painfully obvious that the objective is to hook up based on physical attraction alone, and indicates a lack o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 04:30 PM
7	Female women, do you too feel that pressure to act a certain way for men to like you? Good riddance, someone who's intimidated by intelligence is not worth your time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:35 AM
2	Female women, do you too feel that pressure to act a certain way for men to like you? No I'm pretty stubborn and set in my ways, and I like who I am, so I'm not going to change. Hence, there would be no point in putting on a front & essentially tricking a guy into liking me by pretending to be someone I'm not. It's a this-is-who-I-am, take-it-or-leave-it deal. I'm not saying that I don't care at all about being attractive - otherwise, I wouldn't dye my hair or wear cute dresses - but I wouldn't modify my style to attract a guy, nor would I modify my personality. It works out, sin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:33 AM
2	What are your perceived benefits of being female? I'm a female musician and I know I've had more opportunities than I would have if I were male and of the same skill level. I'm good, but not good enough to have gotten some of the gigs I did if I wasn't a relatively attractive woman. Which isn't fair to the guys with far more talent who are struggling to find an open mic to play at. It did motivate me to practice harder to prove to myself that I deserved to be there. Another benefit is you get free drinks. Public restrooms are cleaner, though th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:46 AM
1	Can marriage work with separated households? Yes, it actually has a name - "Living Apart Together" Not the best arrangement financially, but if you can swing it, it's what works best for some people. My ex and I had talked about sharing a space but there are a few reasons it wasn't a good idea: Neither of us want to move, he's allergic to dogs and I have 2, & I've lived alone for 10 years and don't think I'd adjust well to having another human around all the time. He gets lonely though, so while I'd be totally fine with keeping separate re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 12:57 AM
2	What is the "ick" and what triggers it for you? I can't think of too many things from personal experience. I guess I'm fortunate to surround myself with ick-less folks for the most part, probably due in part to giving off a "don't fuck with me" vibe that repels those looking for easy prey who are more likely to display 'ick' characteristics. I can come up with some though: Shitty, inconsiderate drivers Blindly following religious dogma or tradition & using it to justify hate & intolerance Judging people based on anything other than the conten…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 10:38 PM
1	Unpopular Opinion: The Music Industry Is Harder For Men Now I agree - I've been in the music industry for many years, and as a woman, I've said the same thing. I recognized that being something of a novelty (15 years ago, not as many chicks in rock bands), as well as being relatively attractive, opened doors that probably wouldn't have been opened on talent alone if I were a man. It made me want to practice harder to prove myself - as someone with integrity, I didn't want to have an unfair advantage, though there's not much one can do about it except try…	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 06:10 PM