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3	My boyfriend watches porn and is redpill Here's my take as a married middle-aged guy bored at work with too much coffee in his veins. First: Frankly, you need to plan your exit. Prepare to move out and separate your lives financially and logistically. You aren't married (unless your years of living together somehow qualify you for some common-law marriage threshold... check your local laws), and he could and probably will kick you out of "his" apartment anytime on short notice. Put a go-bag together containing your important documents,…	/r/ExRedPill	24/07/26 06:00 PM
2	How to not get into redpill in the first place after having my self-esteem ruined by dating apps? I would say the redpill pushes the "constantly improve yourself to attract others" narrative. It's the bluepill that says "don't worry, you'll find someone someday who likes you for exactly who you are." The truth is somewhere in between. It hurts to see people succeeding where you're struggling. A lot of people really do put in a lot of effort into looking good. Young women stereotypically focus on beauty, makeup, grooming, diet, and exercising, for a reason. But attractiveness also involves a …	/r/ExRedPill	10/07/26 08:11 PM
3	How to not get into redpill in the first place after having my self-esteem ruined by dating apps? How would redpill stuff help with that? I mean, what are the ideas you're considering? I think redpill stuff is just not actually very useful for having a better sex life. It markets itself as forbidden wisdom that will work but turn you evil. But I think it's more likely to harm you than help you. It'll make you bitter and weird. Imagine a person (of any gender and sexual persuasion) wants to meet attractive people. They go on dating apps. They see attractive people, but they don't get the resp…	/r/ExRedPill	10/07/26 06:36 PM
1	Survey on the Manosphere and specifically entering it. You have one question in there twice, so maybe you left out a question you wanted to ask? I wanted a "I'm not sure" option. For example, I never looked into the MGTOW stuff too much, so I can't say much about it. This stuff was around before modern social media platforms started pushing it. I got into it 20 years ago with PUA. I believe there was a distinct shift around ten years ago when everything got political. I almost feel like you can add a fifth "redpill movement" to your list, called "re…	/r/ExRedPill	17/06/26 12:22 AM
2	How can i challenge my beliefs that all married men are low status? Seeking monogamous dating is better than seeking hook ups or fuck buddies for most guys. You’ll get more and better sex in a relationship. Even DiCaprio dates one girl at a time. Marriage versus long term dating is a harder sell, and not something to rush into. But it’s good for when you’re older, when you want to have kids and really build a life together. Plus it might be necessary to lock down the right woman.	/r/ExRedPill	25/05/26 02:54 PM
9	Almost fell in... I agree. He's a decent speaker, and his supposed therapist experience seems like it might give some interesting insights. But he's just blatantly whitewashing basic PUA/redpill/manosphere ideas through psychologist credentials and doing the whole online guru thing of selling an E-book, coaching, and podcasting. I read some of his book and found it mostly nonsense. He pushes the whole "be a player and never be monogamous if you want to be attractive and happy" thing, which is quintessential redpi…	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/26 03:24 PM
2	Blackpilling experiences: what to do? I think you’re struggling with the pain of realizing that looks matter a lot to both genders. Women prefer hot men. Just like you prefer hot women. I think women feel judged on their looks more commonly than do men (not to make it a victimhood contest.) That’s why women stereotypically focus so much effort on looking better. So this feeling of dread and envy is shared by both genders. Personality is also attractive or repulsive. Think of a woman you know who is conventionally good looking, but y…	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/26 08:51 PM
7	What should a man do if he has these sorts of issues? What advice would you give besides therapy? IMO, some neediness in relationships is normal and good. It’s good to care about your partner’s opinion of you, and want to be with them. And if you’re not in a relationship, it’s normal to want one. It’s normal and fine to not always know what to say. It’s not good to fall in love with every girl you talk to. Dating is about figuring out if the other person is a good long term partner for you. That takes a while. It’s good to discuss where the relationship is headed, but not to obsess over it. …	/r/ExRedPill	03/05/26 08:18 PM
1	Removing traces of red pill thought That makes no sense. With only two parties, of course neither party is perfect, so of course I can complain about whichever one I vote for.	/r/ExRedPill	01/05/26 01:53 AM
1	Removing traces of red pill thought Besides the obvious stuff, like the occasional person online saying they hate all white people, or saying stuff like all Americans are so stupid, or committing racially motivated violence: Affirmative action policies are the main one. Grants only for “women or minority owned” businesses. Scholarships and training programs just for those groups. Etc. I was trying to get into tech ten years ago, and the big tech companies all had free in-person training camps, pipelines to good jobs, which were on…	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/26 04:58 PM
1	Removing traces of red pill thought Tbh, I also get triggered by the same type of thing: People discriminating against me for being a cis white man. It makes me think “if they are going to do it, why shouldn’t I do it? Am I being foolish by thinking we can all get along?” I thought we were trying to move past discrimination, but some people support what I would call reverse discrimination. It’s understandable; I can see the argument that it’s just balancing things. But I feel two wrongs don’t make a right. Still, I choose to “be t…	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/26 03:44 PM
24	I can’t escape Your dad is shit. Sorry. You need to find some feminist spaces. You won’t be the first woman to come from a misogynistic environment or have toxic family members. You’ve already learned everything the redpill people have to say. Time to learn the other side. Scrub your feeds of any redpill stuff and seek out feminist stuff instead. Find feminists and women’s groups in real life. You need to explore their ideas and hear them out. You have internalized sexism, you aren’t the first, and they can he…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/26 01:58 AM
2	Worried I will never get out of this Are you attracted to good looking women? Women feel the same in reverse.	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/26 12:40 PM
–	Would red-pill men like to live in a world where women aren't sexually free? Hmm, not sure. Out of curiosity, I searched one of those early sites and found this guy using "red pill" to refer to dating secrets back in 2003. https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-red-pill-welcome-to-the-desert-of-the-real-unplugged.31691/ Another in 2006: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/taking-the-red-pill-my-ltr.103802/ 2008: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/oh-why-oh-why-didnt-i-take-the-blue-pill.145912/ https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/take-the-red-pill.155501/ Then …	/r/ExRedPill	03/04/26 11:08 PM
2	Would red-pill men like to live in a world where women aren't sexually free? I think that stuff was just less salient at first. I would include the pua stuff from around 2005-12 as early redpill. And there were semi-early-manosphere places like the bodybuilding misc forum and fit on 4chan. People still talked about some “women arent logical” misogyny stuff, but their ideal lifestyle was more like jersey shore or spring break than sexually conservative patriarchy. There were always more political and conservative views like rooshv but i didn’t see them becoming the domina…	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/26 06:56 PM
2	Would red-pill men like to live in a world where women aren't sexually free? IMO, the earlier red pill stuff mainly was about attracting women, but after trump and the alt right stuff showed up around 2015, red pill turned into controlling women. Early red pill stuff was mostly saying that women have conflicting desires of being attracted to alpha male playboys, but also wanting commitment which the alpha, by definition, wouldn’t give them. The red pill solution was to become the alpha, like in that movie “crazy stupid love”. It’s sort of dehumanizing and misogynistic by…	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/26 03:52 PM
1	Advice for someone whose spouse has become a redpiller? I'm sorry you are subjected to that. I've literally never seen that street harassment personally, but women have told me it happens frequently when guys aren't around. I would guess that behavior comes from some psycho pervs, but also from some "natural redpill" macho-type cultures? With race, similar story; I almost never noticed overt racism growing up. I come from a diverse and progressive environment. Now I have half-Asian kids, and I am acutely aware of those ideas like "only the majority r…	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 06:45 PM
5	Shy women are seen as cute. Shy men are invisible. That’s the manosphere pipeline. IMO, you're right. Being outgoing helps both genders in dating, but helps guys more, if only because women are conditioned to wait for men to make moves. I like thinking in terms of being "compatible" rather than "attractive". But if you're shy or introverted, you're limiting yourself to people who are willing to make the first move. Out of all the PUA and redpill ideas, the only one I would actually keep is "make moves", "take your shot", "escalate". In my opinion, this advice is just generally…	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 06:16 PM
2	Advice for someone whose spouse has become a redpiller? Np. Thanks for the question. I haven’t talked about that story much before. Can you elaborate on assuming people sought it out on purpose?	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 09:15 PM
5	Advice for someone whose spouse has become a redpiller? That’s a big question. As a teen / young man, I was often online, and interested in topics related to psychology. I subconsciously wanted to be a player like some of the guys I knew in real life or saw in media. I hadn’t wanted to admit that since it’s seen as misogynistic or shallow. At one point i googled something like what do girls want in a guy. That led me to PUA advice and forums, which led to redpill, manosphere, etc. You don’t start reading the most extreme ideas. You start with the mor…	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 12:28 PM
4	Advice for someone whose spouse has become a redpiller? I went into and back out of the red pill / alt right rabbit holes myself to some extent. In my experience, I found it interesting to consider and discuss those ideas in theory, but when I thought through the implications of those worldviews, I realized I didn’t really want to put any of it into practice. I didn’t want to actually legally reinstate white nationalism and male dominance and commit discrimination or violence against other groups. I had already had healthy relationships with women an…	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/26 04:28 PM