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ADVICEpandora_box-/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 08:15 PM
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Probably a 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 08:58 PM
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It’s because the majority of adult women in the US are overweight. Because it’s such a common thing to be fat, men who aren’t attracted to it will be more vocal about their preference. Plenty of men are not attracted to tall women, but we’re relatively rare so men who don’t like tall women don’t have to complain about their dating pool primarily consisting of tall women. They just don’t date a tall woman. Answering here because I’m a woman and OP’s question was for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 08:19 PM
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I’d go as low as a 6/10 (for frame of reference i’m probably a 9/10) in terms of looks, but he’d need to be a 9 or 10 in most other areas (personality, income, charisma, intelligence, etc). RMV and SMV are two different things. SMV (which is primarily based on looks) is a big portion of RMV, but other things contribute to RMV as well. I wouldn’t date down in terms of RMV but looks are only one factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 08:12 PM
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I think the only issue you listed is youth. You should strive to find someone close to your age. If you’re trying to date a 20 year old and you’re 30+, it’s creepy. I think its totally fine to judge off of partner count, submissiveness, and physical attractiveness. However you better meet the same expectations you’re expecting. If you’re a man whore, don’t expect a virgin. If you’re ugly, don’t expect a goddess. If your poor, don’t expect a rich woman. If you desire a certain trait and don’t hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 07:53 PM
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Women’s actions are not about reducing the gap— but making themselves more attractive to HV men compared to other women. Smarter, stronger and more powerful woman compared to another woman is more desirable for a man as long as he is still better than the woman. I don’t fully agree with your premise that most men desire a woman less than themselves. I think they know they can’t get a woman better than themselves so they seek out a woman less than in order to maximize their chance for success. Ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 03:37 PM
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Agree. Unfortunately for TRP, their tactics are most adept at attracting women who meet the AWALT stereotype— which creates confirmation bias. Admittedly, if I was a man I’d think it’d be better to be able to attract AWALT stereotypes than being unable to attract anyone. Sadly for them, their strategy fails to find them good women to date which then fuels the bitterness in their community.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 10:03 PM
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In my opinion, a lower RMV than SMV is the reason that there are portions of society that are involuntarily single. This is the reason some portions of both MGTOW and FDS communities are so ticked off about modern dating. When your RMV is relatively lower than your SMV, life and dating will feel unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 09:57 PM
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RMV is different than SMV— though SMV is a large portion of RMV. RMV takes into account things like income potential, agreeableness, communication skills, personality, and much more. For modern women, income is very much part of her RMV. My husband wouldn’t have married me unless I was capable of earning a decent income (if something happened to him, he wanted to ensure his wife was competent enough that his future children wouldn’t grow up in poverty). I’d say for my husband, I bring to the tab…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 09:03 PM
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My husband isn’t super political and he’s even voting Trump in this election. He normally could care less about voting or politics. When he actually started caring about it for this election, I listened to him and his arguments. If it wasn’t for my husband, I can’t say for sure if I’d still be voting Trump. The irrational hate for Trump by my peers definitely affected me for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 08:23 PM
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Also, just because something is a sin doesn’t mean it should be illegal. Divorce is a sin before God even if it was legally allowed by Moses in Israelite society.
/r/RPChristians21/10/20 05:44 PM
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So you don’t wear mixed material clothing then?
/r/RPChristians21/10/20 05:25 PM
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AWALT really should be MWALT (most women are like that) but is phrased as AWALT in TRP to help prevent men from getting oneitis. The AWALT premise is based on instinctual drives— the drive to secure the best provider possible for your children and good genes for your children. AWALT is exasperated in certain circumstances (such as women with BPD, women who grew up with lots of uncertainty, or who had poor father figures) and the mainstream TRP tactics tend to attract women who fall into AWALT st…
/r/RPChristians21/10/20 04:32 PM
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There is a huge difference between societal law and religious law. The Israelites lived in a theocracy so much of the Old Testament laws are societal laws (just like our constitution doesn’t apply to non Americans, their laws don’t apply to us). Nuance is separating which laws are moral / religious laws (e.g. Ten Commandments) from societal laws (e.g. no mixing fabrics— which by the way was due to the fact mixed material fabrics deteriorate faster due to different acidity levels of the fibers). …
/r/RPChristians21/10/20 04:14 PM
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He’s nearly twice your age and willing to abandon his family so easily— RUN.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 02:59 PM
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Men’s ability to pair bond is absolutely affected by their n-count. It’s just at a slower rate for men than for women. 50+ is extremely high and has absolutely had some kind of negative psychological impact on a man so just be prepared to deal with the consequences.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 02:54 PM
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The hormonal iud stops ovulation and is the most effective form of reversible birth control. Copper iud is hormone free which is probably better for many women— although it does make flow heavier and your period cramps worse so it’s not without its downsides.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 07:19 AM
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She isn’t responsible for ending the marriage if she tells the wife. He was the one who began the process by cheating. His wife needs to know so she can get herself checked for STDs ASAP as more than likely they regularly have sex without condoms since she’d be under the impression he was only sleeping with her. At least OP had the knowledge of the risk to herself of the man she was with sleeping around. Not telling the wife puts her health at risk.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 07:01 AM
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Hate to break it to you, but the above poster is right. You’re bf could be a unicorn but more than likely based on his n-count he’ll either eventually cheat on you or not be able to fully commit to you. You’ve been with him long enough that it doesn’t make sense to break off because of this alone, but you need to proceed with caution. If you want commitment from him, you need a ring ASAP. Men are statistically significantly less likely to propose once the relationship hits the 3 year mark.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 06:53 AM
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I waited until marriage anything higher than 5 was an automatic next from me. Anything higher than 3 set off a “proceed with caution” alarm in my head. I’m happily married :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 06:46 AM
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Probably 90%
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 06:27 PM
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Well you can’t confirm it 100% (because reddit is anonymous) but sometimes it’s pretty obvious it’s fake. RP wives also does allow men to comment / post but the mods will remove anything that isn’t beneficial to women and their goals in terms of relationships (aka you can’t tell a woman to sleep with a man on the first date in order to get his commitment since that isn’t in her best interest).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 06:11 PM
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It may be iq related. Although average iq for men and women is the same— men have a greater variance in iq (hypothesized to be due to the varied affects of testosterone in utero on brain development). Which means although there are more male genius’s, there are also more male idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 05:46 PM
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Red pill women was recently hijacked by trp men as mods so Red pill wives is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 04:04 PM
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It’s a reaction to that. Body positivity is trying to force the notion everyone is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 01:44 PM
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Technically, you’re correct in that this is my alt account— but that because my main is known by a few of my IRL friends and it’d be social suicide to admit I was voting for Trump. I mainly use this account for this sub and the red pill wives sub (admitting to following my husbands lead would also not sit well with my more feminist leaning friends). However I’m definitely a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:37 PM
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Lol no— definitely a woman. Im a republican. Admittedly, I was considering voting for Biden back in March but my husband made some good points that helped sway me towards undecided. Riots in my city + him picking a very progressive VP were the final nails in the coffin that solidified my decision to vote Trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:29 PM
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I’m a woman and will be voting Trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:57 PM
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How is RPW plate school? Most of us wouldn’t touch a TRP man with a 10 ft pole. Goal is to find a monogamist man with leadership qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:37 PM
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You still can be a tradcon wife but you better be a part of a religious community and be waiting for marriage. You’ll also have slim pickings in terms of financially successful men so you won’t be wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:23 PM
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Lol yes. It was super common & the reason I broke off the vast majority of dating situations early on. I also waited until marriage so there were many who obviously had a virgin fetish and thus were so highly motivated to get into my pants that they failed to treat me like a human being so I’d end it. For me being a virgin while dating, the pushing for intimacy too early part was also often about kissing. I wasn’t comfortable kissing a man I wasn’t in a relationship with and SOO many tried to ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:17 PM
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Your step brother needs to file for custody immediately after the birth. A former coworker of mine got screwed over by her ex when he did this to her. He got 50/50 custody and doesn’t ever have to pay child support— started when the baby was 1 month old (time it took from filing immediately after birth to their court date). Reason he got it is there was no established primary care giver at the time that he filed since he filed within 24 hours of his child’s birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:46 PM
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The problem is you were eyeing the same caliber of women before you leveled up. You’re angry they didn’t like you before your level up but they were out of your league then and had better options. Now you’re a good option.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:27 PM
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Women learn this as like toddlers. Society constantly judges you by how cute you are from basically birth when you’re female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:46 PM
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I don’t think a happy marriage is as rare as winning the lottery. I know multiple happily married couples (including my own parents, my in laws, and both sets of my grandparents) but I don’t know any lottery winners. There is obviously some luck in finding a good partner however there is also strategy. A happy marriage also doesn’t just happen— it takes work on both sides to get there. Not waisting time with men who didn’t meet my standards meant I was single and available when my husband and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:36 PM
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This is a very good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:41 PM
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If you have a terrible personality, then you’ll not be able to land your looksmatch. If you’re already high in looks, you can simply date down to compensate for your personality— making it easier to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:11 PM
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If you have a terrible personality, then you’ll not be able to land your looksmatch generally. If you’re already high in looks, you can simply date down to compensate for your personality. Most incels are frustrated that they can’t land their looksmatch— and its because of their personality. Also, lower you go in SMV the harder it is to date down to compensate for a personality flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:09 PM
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If you have a good personality, you can date above your SMV. If you have a terrible personality, then you’ll not be able to land your looksmatch. If you’re already high in looks, you can simply date down to compensate for your personality. Since incel’s typically aren’t top 10%, dating down for them leaves them with terrible options so they get mad they can’t at least have their looksmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:03 PM
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Lack of confidence / being a jerk / being overly submissive / anger issues / etc If you have a terrible personality, then you’ll not be able to land your looksmatch. If you’re already high in looks, you can simply date down to compensate for your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:00 PM
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Well... I’m happily married so I don’t think there really was a problem with my standards in the end :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:12 AM
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I agree that intimate partner violence is a different kind of struggle for men in that society overlooks it— but that doesn’t change the fact that women are significantly more likely to be hospitalized or murdered by their spouse in a domestic dispute involving violence. The increased likelihood of injury or death is why it’s more dangerous for women. Violence by women should be taken seriously but they are less likely to kill or seriously injure their partners— and their violence is more likely…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:17 AM
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Well, for me I guess STFU helped me be less of a jerk then. I used to be a terrible communicator and the sub / STFU premise has helped me tremendously in all areas of life in terms of communication. I used to just say whatever was on my mind and didn’t have much of a filter. While I didn’t mean for it to come across in certain ways, STFU has helped me improve upon thinking before speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:24 AM
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That’s why you need to get hot / stay hot yourself if you want to land a decent hot guy. In the US at least it’s not that hard— just don’t be overweight, get toned, learn to do minimal style makeup well, dress well for your body type, take care of your skin (including using sunscreen to delay aging), and take care of your hair. As a woman, that places you in the top 5% easily. If you have a decent personality & can earn a decent living— your RMV will be higher than your SMV so you should be able…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:17 AM
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Nah FDS isn’t my thing— it’s way to feminist for me. I’m actually red pilled / tradcon leaning so RPW is more my jam. Common misconception is that RPW women are trying to date TRP men— when we actually just accept basic sociological truths about dating. TRP men are exactly the kind we try to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:09 AM
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Most single men, especially perpetually single men, are trash though. The good ones are typically in stable relationships. The trash ones circulate the dating pool over and over since no one can tolerate them for long. Often, they learn from experience how to masquerade as a decent guy for a while but since it’s not who they are they can’t keep it up for long. I’m happily married to a wonderful man. I know many wonderful men as well— but almost all of them have been in a LTR with the same girl s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:05 AM
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No, lowering your standards is a terrible idea because then you’ll be resentful of your SO not living up to them. Learn to be happy as a single person and to not compromise/ waist peoples time so that you can be available for the person that does meet your standards. You shouldn’t date someone because they are “good enough” — you should date someone because they excite you. If they don’t then be single instead of making both of you miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:52 PM
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1 Pushing for intimacy too early. 2 making sexual jokes / comments around me 3 pushing me to drink alcohol (I’ve never had any— even at 26). Also, drinking alcohol on a date even though I wasn’t drinking would be a yellow flag. 4 trying to take me on dates to potentially unsafe locations too early (e.g. a walk in a park. A girl I knew in high school went on a date in a park and was then raped and murdered— so I’m probably a little more sensitive to date locations than normal). I’d pretty much on…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:48 PM
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That sounds like something a beta would tell himself because RPW only want to date alphas. I know plenty of attractive red-pilled women. The attractive ones just tend to have strong vetting skills because they can afford to so they’re less likely to complain about the dating market or come off like a 1950s caricature.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:57 PM
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It’s helped me communicate better— with my husband and in my job. I’m significantly more respected in the workplace because when I say something, I’m listened to. It’s even helped me get a promotion. STFU improves my communication skills and has improved my relationship with my husband. By protecting his ego, I encourage him to be open with me about his thoughts and feelings. STFU is not about not communicating an idea at all, but just making sure you communicate it in a positive manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:54 PM
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This isn’t true. I never got hurt because I was good at noticing red flags & would end things as soon as one appeared. Vast majority of men have red flags. 85% of men in my dating pool were eliminated by red flags, then another 14.9% eliminated by not meeting my other standards despite being decent people. I’m happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:43 PM
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I’m 26 & we’re TTC— but no kids yet.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:34 PM
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Someone is jaded.... My husband is a nice guy and he’s very happy. We’ve been together 7 years (I’m 26 and he is 31) and are totally in love. What a lot of people on here don’t realize is that love is a choice not some state of nirvana. You need a spark to light the fire (e.g. attraction / tingles / chemistry), but you both have to tend to the fire or it’ll go out. Not everyone is cut out for maintaining love— they might lack the communication skills or the right capacity for empathy or are too …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 06:16 AM
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Why avoid it? Committed LTR are massively beneficial for children. If you don’t want them, then I guess it could make sense to avoid— but love is also an amazing feeling so you’d be giving that up. Personally, I would rather be eternally celibate than have sex outside of marriage. In fact, I waited until marriage. I also don’t believe in divorce outside of infidelity or abuse so my husband would have to really screw up for me to leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:12 AM
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Yes he does. He gives the best hugs too. It’s like all is right in the world when he hugs me. He also often kisses me on the forehead at the end of a hug. Because of religious / modesty reasons, he’s the only man I’ve ever truly hugged (use the famed side hug with everyone else lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:58 AM
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Biological drive for monogamy is likely the exclusive access / inheritance of his resources by their children together. Hate to admit it and it’s not all that logical, but I’d be way more livid if my husband cheated and it resulted in a child than if he cheated and there was no child that resulted. Only reason i’d ever divorce rape my husband is if he cheated and got someone pregnant— and doing so wouldn’t be about making him pay for what he’d done, but ensuring that my own children would have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:49 AM
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You have some accurate points. I’m a religious tradcon leaning woman and had no interest in a beta or a simp. Unfortunately, the church’s dating pool is full of them just like the normal dating pool. I had a massive number of orbiters before I got engaged. I lucked out with my husband— but I truly believe it’s because I have a high SMV (he also has a high SMV just based on looks, im just slightly higher— his alpha personality and monogamy mindedness boosts him above me in my opinion in RMV) so w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:30 AM
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There might be something to this. I waited until marriage & technically married down— but am very happy and have eyes for no one else. I’m probably a 9/10 while he is a 8/10. I out earn him as well. I waited for religious reasons. He was attractive, college educated, shared my religious beliefs, smart, monogamy minded, and tall so even though my SMV is technically higher, I feel like I’m the lucky one. Vast majority of the men that I found attractive would ghost me the moment they found out I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:17 AM
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Not really. My husband and I didn’t have sex until after we were married. It’s a benefit for sure, but it’s not the point. If something happened and he was no longer able to perform in the bedroom, I wouldn’t leave him. If sex was the point of our relationship, then logically I should leave him if he becomes unable to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 03:48 AM
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I’m a tall woman and have been rejected for my height. I’m very thin yet still have curves and have an attractive face so I still have a high SMV. My height is definitely a drawback. Edit to clarify: I’ve never been rejected for my height by a man 6’2 or above. It’s only men that I’m close to in height. Height is a drawback for men my height and shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 03:39 AM
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Overconsumption doesn’t make you taller (everyone in my family are thin as rails as kids and most retain that as adults— we don’t over eat). As long as you’re meeting your nutritional needs you’ll be the height you were meant to be. Fewer childhood illnesses + high nutritional quality food= taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 06:40 PM
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It’s not the same thing. I’ve ended multiple relationships because he displayed red flags that I wasn’t willing to live with and would rather be indefinitely single than live with that red flag. However, I also intended on eventually finding my future husband so it wasn’t like I was going to just give up. Spoiler: I’m happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:05 AM
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Lol this is the best retort to the kitchen comment I’ve ever come across 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:55 AM
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That’s not really branch swinging though. That’s just deciding that man isn’t worth being with anymore. Branch swinging is leaving a man for another without being single for any determinate amount of time— it’s lining up your next boyfriend before you break up with your current one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:51 AM
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Actually that has only increased women’s power. They can make sure you never have a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:49 AM
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That sounds like walk away wife syndrome . Ending a relationship doesn’t always mean branch swinging. Branch swinging is leaving one man for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:46 AM
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Undivided attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:32 AM
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Branch swinging only happens when a man has red flags that a woman has already identified as problematic. It’s why men on here often claim it’s true based off of their own experiences, because their own red flags drive women away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:31 AM
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My husband is this way. He gets hit on in front of me all the time— by both other women and gay men. We’re very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:25 AM
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Both. It’s especially high for your age though. It’s not impossible to undo the damage you’ve done to yourself— but it will take years of work. First step and most importantly, you need to remove yourself from all sexual fulfillment activities (no porn, no masturbation, no sex). Second, you need to find a good counselor/therapist who can help you work on yourself (perhaps meeting 2x a month with them). Third, focus on your career until your ready for a relationship. Fourth, remember “if it’s not…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:05 AM
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Sure. I was “financially stable” at 19 because my parents were supporting me— but that doesn’t mean anything because it was my parents doing that. It didn’t have bearing on my future stability. At 19, you should be looking for a man who has potential for stability more so than one that already is. Keep your hypergamy in check or it’ll bite you later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:50 AM
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Your n-count is too high. You’ve ruined your ability to pair bond— which is why you have no desire for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:41 AM
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While this is obviously a fake account created for purge week to further AWALT stereotypes... you’re supposedly 19, almost no one is financially stable at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:39 AM
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Is this OP your alt account you made for purge week?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:37 AM
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Too bad women are the gatekeepers of reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:34 AM
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I can’t speak to that as I’ve only ever been with one man but I find it hard to believe it ruins your ability to be in love and monogamous. I do think sleeping around can be emotionally damaging (to both men and women) but I think that the emotional damage can be repaired. Nothing wrong with having deal breakers about a partners sexual past— however you better live up to those expectations yourself and don’t get angry when you can’t find someone because of your own deal breakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:23 AM
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I’m a natural follower. I’ve always gravitated to being the group leaders right-hand / adviser rather than the leader in social situations. I don’t feel less than my husband nor does he look down on me— he’s just the one that makes the final decision on matters after we discuss things. He’s not quick to make a decision and he values my input. We rarely have disagreements because we’re both good communicators / listeners. I know he has my best interest at heart, so on the rare occasion he makes a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:11 AM
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Nothing wrong with egalitarian relationships or even female led relationships— it’s just not what I want (nor most women on RPW). A man being a leader doesn’t mean you’re led like a cow. Just like how at work, you can voice a difference of opinion and have your opinion as a subject matter expert be taken into account by the project lead— my husband takes my advice and opinion into account before making any decisions. There are certain areas of our lives that I take the lead in because it makes s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:28 AM
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It’s how we women weed out the weak minded men who aren’t worth reproducing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:53 AM
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“You do you” would be the best explanation of what we think about masculine women and femme men. Nothing wrong with not being feminine as a woman or masculine as a man. RPW strive to embrace their own femininity not make all woman do that. We’re also attracted to masculine men. Nothing wrong with feminine men— they just aren’t the men we’re interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:50 AM
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Lol you sound like my sister. She’s just randomly short.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:40 AM
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No. RPW is about accepting innate biological and sociological truths: men are masculine and women are feminine. Embracing your femininity and allowing a man to lead the relationship is very fulfilling. It’s even more important to vet a man well when you’re submitting to him because you’re entrusting him with so much more power over your happiness. Really easy to be taken advantage of when you’re looking for a man who can be a leader so your vetting game has to be on point. TRP men are not the ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:39 AM
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From what I understand, height is genetically much more complicated than say something like blood type. Tall genes in families can be either recessive or dominant. It’s possible that you could have hidden tall genes!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:35 AM
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Nah. My husband is a natural leader and charismatic. He didn’t need some strategy to learn how to talk to women nor is he bitter enough that he feels the need to manipulate women. I lean tradcon in relationship dynamics so I follow his lead— because he’s worth following. He’s also monogamy minded so I don’t have to worry about him cheating / spinning plates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:32 AM
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Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez — she’s a millennial and a congresswoman. She represents NY. She’s on the same political band wagon as Bernie Sanders.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:27 AM
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Nah, FDS isn’t that bad. I’m red pilled and enjoy traditional relationship dynamics so FDS isn’t my thing. Every woman on reddit should be part of either a red pill woman sub (red pill wives is better because apparently red pill woman has been taken over by male mods) if they’re more traditional or FDS if they’re feminists. FDS is a good strategy for the modern woman. Vetting men is absolutely necessary and casual sex is a terrible thing for your psyche / self esteem. Best to avoid sleeping with…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:24 AM
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My great-great grandfather was short. He married my great-great grandmother who was 5 inches taller than him at 5’8 (really tall back then). All of their descendants besides my older sister have been tall— including myself. I’m 5’10 which is tall for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:19 AM
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No most red pill women wouldn’t touch a TRP man with a 10 ft pole. I’m red pilled & I sure wouldn’t. Luckily I’m happily married so don’t have to worry about accidentally dating one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:16 AM
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Also, a lot of men like you probably only want to marry virgins because you’re so bad in bed that you don’t want your wives to know how bad sex with you actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:39 PM
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But when a man puts virginity on a pedestal— once you’re married and lose your virginity to your husband he values you less than when you were a virgin and dating. I had to be careful to avoid men with a virginity fetish like you while I was dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:37 PM
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I waited until marriage & wouldn’t have married a man with this kind of attitude. A woman’s worth isn’t determined by her past. Everyone makes mistakes. I just happened to luck out in learning from a young age how to vet men in order to avoid men like you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:32 PM
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Makes sense. I wouldn’t touch a TRP man with a 10ft pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:27 PM
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Anyone else notice that RPW quality has declined recently? What happened? Content seems to primarily be people asking for advice on their situation now.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 11:22 PM
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Woah I didn’t know that... why would TRP men impose like that? One of the rules has always been that men shouldn’t be giving women advice because men’s advice is often not advantageous to the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:20 PM
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Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to another human being. Never excusable even if it’s to get back at a person who cheated on you. If someone cheats on you, you leave. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:16 PM
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I’m in the RPW sub. Content has declined recently— I’d love to find another sub for red pilled women would you mind sharing the name?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:04 PM
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A lie is not an equivalent. Anyone who cheats is way worse than anyone who lies about their n count (Btw men are more likely to lie in both directions than women are). Both are bad, cheating is just way worse. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. Think of cheating like murder and lying like assault. Someone doesn’t deserve to be murdered in cold blood because they assaulted someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:26 PM
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Exactly. I’m 26 and would be counted in this, but my husband would not be as he is 31. We’ve been together for 6 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:13 PM
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No one deserves to be cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:05 PM
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Not true. Women will date down if you’re charismatic and have a good personality. Source: I make more money, am 5 years younger, and am more attractive than my husband (I’m probably a 9 and he’s an 8 just based on looks alone). He’s very charismatic and is a natural alpha while still being a nice guy which bumps him up to a 10. I literally don’t have eyes for anyone else— he’s got me wrapped around his fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:40 PM
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No, you asked if it’s possible for me to not behave according to my instincts— nothing about happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:49 PM
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No, you asked if it’s possible for me to not behave according to my instincts— nothing about happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:46 PM
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No, it’s possible but I wouldn’t willing do so. I’d rather be single and celibate for life. I’m personally not going to sacrifice myself / my happiness / sexual fulfillment on the alter for the benefit of a man I don’t love. Attraction is a massive compromise to make. If I was more materialistic, I probably could have been a gold digger and sacrificed attraction for wealth (I’m attractive enough and my family is in the right social circles so I probably could have pulled it off). However, I’d ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:27 PM
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Second this. We hate beta’s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 07:26 PM
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In my opinion, FDS is a good thing for modern women. Women who use FDS end up in happy non-abusive relationships. Type of men who think FDS is bad, have pretty much zero chance of making it past a few dates. It shouldn’t be controversial at all. Its only controversial to the people who feel gipped by it as they are the type of person women are trying to weed out. FDS is not my thing as I’m happily married and our relationship is more traditional in terms of dynamics (me following his lead). Howe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 06:59 PM
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So the men and women who cannot inspire attraction in the opposite gender should stick with each other. Men cannot expect to land a woman who turns them on if they cannot turn a woman on themselves— same goes for women. Level up your appearance as you attract more flys with honey than vinegar.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 06:46 PM
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That’s not how that works... at least for us women, you can’t just make yourself attracted to someone. I’m happily married to a wonderful man who I’m head over heels for— before him, there were a few nice guys I tried to date and even the thought of kissing them made me sick to my stomach. Eventually I realized how unfair it was to them that I had zero interest in physical intimacy with them (even in holding their hand) & the only thing I liked about them was their company. The thing that turned…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 06:43 PM
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This is correct. However, I think personality should be a 4th factor. For women that are high in looks, status, and finances— we’ll date down for a man who has a good personality. My husband and I are fairly looksmatched, though I’m probably slightly more attractive. I also outearn my husband (I’m too 5% of salaries for my age group while he is top 15%). My family is fairly wealthy so status isn’t what he brought to the table either. Reason I dated him was he was attractive, shared my religious …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 05:31 PM
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What I considered red flags were automatic deal breakers. I had a lot of deal breakers and was extremely picky. As soon as a red flag appeared, I would end it. I had a lot of expectations that the men on this sub would hate— man paying for dates, man being able to earn a decent living, a man being respectful (not cursing or saying rude things) in my presence, a man not having had sex outside of a committed relationship, a man being physically attractive, a man being smart, a man having confidenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:58 PM
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Not everyone is taught the “common sense” by their parents. Not everyone can follow “common sense” without a guide to provide guardrails. FDS can be very useful. I think the early days of the sub may have been full of more radical elements. I didn’t learn of its existence until a few months ago. It’s now at 100k members. I suspect there are much fewer radical elements due to the mass exodus of rad fems from reddit back in June due to the banning of a lot of their subs. I personally do not use th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 06:33 PM
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Yep. You’re right. I know what other women find attractive and can acknowledge that a man is conventionally attractive just not my type. Sometimes physical appearance isn’t enough to be attractive to an individual woman. I’m extremely attracted to my husband (I’ve never been attracted to anyone else like I am to him). However, he has an identical twin brother who I don’t find attractive so I know my attraction to my husband is not purely physical. My husband has WAY more confidence in himself th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 04:57 PM
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I only did first dates at restaurants because it’s the safest place for a first date. If a man turns out to be a creep, it’s a lot easier in a restaurant to have the staff help you out. At least in my area, Coffee places don’t have a lot of areas to get out of his line of sight and the bathrooms are single use so you can’t really hide out in there while the staff helps you. Meeting up for coffee is the best alternative to a restaurant but I wouldn’t have considered this a date, just a pre-date. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 03:02 PM
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Im red pilled (so the red pilled women sub is more my scene) & have invested in learning the nature of men. This is still very much a concern for me. Most men are terrible people (most women are too so not attacking the male gender here). Although the FDS sub isn’t my thing, the FDS guidebook actually has amazing advice for identifying and dealing with red flags. Strategy itself isn’t about exploitation— just about protecting oneself from terrible men. Community can border on men-hating sometime…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 02:47 PM
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I wouldn’t be ok with it to be honest— unless their were kids involved. I would feel like he was emotionally unavailable for me if he was still investing time and energy into his exes. Exes often try to sabotage relationships. Block and delete is the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 03:58 AM
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I’m happily married. I always have blocked & deleted. Blocking / deleting is cathartic and helps you move on in order to be emotionally available for your future husband.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 10:35 PM
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Saying that women want a man with money implies their looking for a wealthy man not that they have a minimum standard that a man be a functioning member of society. Statistically men are happiest when their wives are earning 40-49% of the household income. Men should look for women with similar yet slightly lower salaries to themselves. If you’re a poor man, expect to date / marry a poor women. If you’re a poor woman with no class, expect to date / marry poor men. It’s easier for women to elevat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 07:29 PM
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Women are not monolith. There aren’t just the two types that you mention. I have zero interest in ever being a SAHM as I am very career driven. Oddly enough, I lean tradcon in terms of romantic relationship dynamics (following his lead). My husband and I have joint finances so who earns the money doesn’t matter anymore (technically, I have a higher income than him though). We’ve talked and if we had a child who was disabled, he’d retire early and be a SAHD. However, ideally we’d both work until …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 05:14 PM
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Same here. I waited until marriage, have never once had alcohol or done drugs, eat decently (not super healthy but not bad either), and don’t use social media regularly except for reddit. Yet, I am guilty of binging tv a lot. I don’t see how it fits with the others lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 04:58 PM
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Income earning potential should be important in the RMV. If something happens to either one of you, the other one should have the capacity to support your children without being left destitute. Each person should absolutely have a minimum requirement relative to their own potential when looking for a LTR. My income potential was a factor in my husband choosing to marry me & his income potential in my choosing to marry him. Both of us had minimum requirements that our spouse be a functioning memb…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 04:24 AM
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My husband took my income earning potential into account when he decided to marry me— but asked me out initially because he found me attractive (SMV vs RMV— income is important in RMV while it’s pretty much irrelevant in the SMV). If something happened to him, he wanted me to be able to provide for our future children — instead of leaving them destitute. Admittedly, income potential was important in my decision making for continuing to date a man — but it wasn’t my top priority. I simply used th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 03:34 PM
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TRP/MGTOW are super toxic. I’m red pilled / lean tradcon but wouldn’t have dated a man that participates in that kind of community or had that kind of mindset. Im happily married and my strategy worked— waiting until marriage. While dating, I expected consistency from men so if a man had ever had casual sex that was a deal breaker for me. I also expected men to pay for all dates so that weeded out a lot of trashy men (I’d pick up the bill on a date if I never intended on seeing him again though)…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 02:46 AM
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Best answer right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 02:24 AM
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Women with high n-count are more likely to cheat compared to low n-count women. While high n-count men are more likely to cheat than low n-count men— the difference isn’t as great as it is for women. Men are more likely to cheat on average though— however some data on Gen Z suggests that might be changing (e.g. Gen z women might be more likely to cheat than Gen Z men) but they aren’t really old enough to get a holistic picture on that generations proclivity to cheat. Edit: a word
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 06:30 PM
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Even if you can do dna tests to establish paternity, a partner cheating is still a very painful experience to go through. It’s a huge betrayal. Low n-count means less likely to cheat— with the effect of higher n count on likelihood to cheat being greater for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 04:32 PM
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Weird. Tampons help my cramps lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 04:27 PM
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It’s really not all about money— love is more important than wealth. Money is only a factor if you lack it or the ability to acquire it. Ability to function in modern society was simply a requirement for me to have dated a man. I don’t believe in divorce or re-marriage so I had to have high standards in order to pick right the first time— part of those standards was ability to function in modern society. I didn’t have the luxury of giving a bum a chance simply because he loved me. I guarded my h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 04:14 PM
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I wouldn’t have married a man I didn’t love or that didn’t love me either. Love is more important than income to me. A man who can’t earn a decent living has the same value to me as a drug addict or an alcoholic— he is not a functioning member of society. I’m not going to tie myself for life to a man who cannot function in modern society no matter how much I love him or he loves me. My threshold for economic viability was lower middle class or above so my husband greatly exceeds that. I would ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 05:57 PM
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I make an excellent living. I had income / educational standards for any potential spouse. I’m happily married. I don’t mind that I make more than my husband, but he still has a salary in the top 15% of his age group and is college educated so he met my requirements in that area. I wouldn’t have married a man who can’t earn a decent living. For me, being economically viable didn’t add to a mans attractiveness— but the lack of economic viability took him out of the running (aka killed all attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 06:43 PM
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She’s keeping you as an option and basically has one foot out the door. In my opinion, you aren’t exemplifying “captain” qualities. Until you can, she and almost any woman you date will branch swing. You need to work on yourself in order to be a HV partner. This is where TRP fails men. The strategies can work to get your foot in the door but they ultimately lead to women realizing that the relationship isn’t healthy so they leave you (what TRP calls branch swinging). You have to reward her when …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/20 02:36 PM
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Men are WAY more likely to kill their intimate partners so...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 12:19 AM
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It has nothing to do with a male provider. Women just have better coping mechanisms (like a support network). Being able to deal with loss in a healthier manner doesn’t mean you love that person any less deeply. If anything, the tendency to better recover from loss probably has more to do with pregnancy loss / child loss than mate loss— 30% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. If you look back at history significant numbers of infants die. Mothers tend to be more attached to their children t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 10:55 PM
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Woah that is not ok to call that “unfair treatment”. It’s not unfair to anyone but the person who doesn’t like said sexual thing. I feel very sorry for any woman who ever sleeps with a man who holds that kind of attitude since that is very traumatic and as a form of karma for their selfish partners— that trauma can lead to sex avoidance (aka deadbedrooms). If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, then it’s a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:44 PM
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When people say that what they mean is as a ONS / FWB they’re getting all of the sexual benefits but none of the relationship responsibilities. Women give more emotionally / physically in relationships so there are a lot of benefits. The men saying that they treat their ONS /FWB better are so focused on how easy it was for that person to get into her bed, rather than the bf being the person she is emotionally invested in. Being someone’s ONS / FWB is more about being in the right place at the ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:28 PM
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My advice would be to pay for nothing dating wise and not sleep with a man until he commits. It weeds out the men who don’t want commitment. Personally, coffee dates never went anywhere. I can’t remember a single guy who got a second date with me after just coffee. It was just too low effort for me. If I had no intention of seeing the guy again, I’d always split the bill on a dinner date though. Me offering that meant he was friendzoned. (Note I’m happily married).
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 12:41 AM
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I go by my husbands last name socially but have not legally changed it yet. Been married almost 2 years. Mostly because the process is a massive headache in my state (my good friend got married a month before me and had to take an extra week off work after the honeymoon to get that sorted— she spent over 20 hours total waiting in various lines that week) & I finally got to a point where I had the time (got a promotion in March) and then covid hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:55 AM
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Depends on where you live as to how easy it is. In my state, it’s a bureaucratic nightmare to get your name changed. Like you’re gonna be standing in lines for a cumulative total of 16+ hours for all the things that need to be changed (only one dmv in my metro area handles name changes which is part of the problem— you also have to go to the SSA first & then the county tax office then the dmv). I wouldn’t describe changing your last name after marriage as easy...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:47 AM
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Woah. I had no idea.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 10:14 PM
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I agree— especially given the structure of subs being delineated by topic since special interests are common among people on the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 08:31 PM
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This sounds like confirmation bias. Something you’re doing is attracting women who fall into the “AWALT” stereotype. Maybe the women in your family are like this so you’re naturally drawn to those personality traits in your female friends and relationships that fall into the stereotype as well. AWALT is a stereotype that’s all. There are women who meet the stereotype but tons of women who don’t or who have some mild tendencies of the stereotype (e.g. mild propensity for hypergamy) that trigger a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 08:27 PM
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I focus on my portion sizes to control my weight— I’m a size 6 at 5’10 so I’m doing something right. I work out 6 days a week but it’s not like an intense workout to bulk up or anything— mostly it’s cardio and yoga. I eat less than a third the portion sizes of my husband whose 6’ and works out regularly as well (his are more intense than mine but mine are more frequent).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 08:11 PM
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AWALT = all women are like that (TRP uses this all the time) YWWLT= your woman was like that (you’ll sometimes see it on this sub, but it’s more rare than AWALT) I think 20-30% is probably reasonable assumption of the percentage of TRP men with autism in the community— however I think the more active users are more likely to be on the spectrum which would throw off the content creation percentages more towards the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:54 PM
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I agree with you that TRP should stick to teaching generalizations (aka about NT women). However, I still think that “AWALT” should be “YWWLT” because it’s strategies inherently attract the type of women “AWALT” applies to— creating confirmation bias. Technically, they are in some ways taking ND into account as cluster b personalities also fall into the ND category— however a woman with BPD is especially susceptible to TRP tactics / more likely to fall into “AWALT” stereotype unlike those on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:41 PM
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ND also includes ADHD— which don’t really have those drawbacks you mentioned. I think autistic woman / adhd man would pair better than autistic woman / autistic man or autistic woman / NT man. But any relationship pairing can work depending on the two individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:32 PM
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Trp strategies attract the women “awalt” applies to so it creates confirmation bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:28 PM
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However, someone who needs to be taught how to socially interact more than likely is on the spectrum... so I think op has a point about TRP attracting men on the spectrum. Edit to add: I also think you have a point about teaching generalizations— which would mean focusing on how to attract neurotypical women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:23 PM
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More traditional leaning people are going to be more likely to be trump supporters. You’re going to be very hard pressed to find the type of man you’re wanting that isn’t a trump supporter or hates Trump like you do (at minimum you might find someone who is fairly neutral on trump). So you need to decide if this is a deal breaker as it will likely eliminate 85+% of your dating pool that meets your other standards. You don’t have to like Trump as a person to think he’s the best option for our pre…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 07:14 PM
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I’d not heard that older fathers put their partner at risk. I thought it only depended on the age of the mother.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 04:12 PM
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I (26f) don’t see “submissiveness” espoused by most tradcons the same as most people— though I do lean tradcon. That idea is rooted in the Bible but when you look at the original text, it translates better to “respect” than “submissive”. In my marriage, I’ve come to realize that showing my husband respect makes him feel more loved than if I show him affection while it’s the opposite for me (lack of either respect or affection from either side will lead to a breakdown in a relationship though— bo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:47 PM
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I mean my husband only knows my n-count because I waited until marriage. I don’t exactly know his but could guess. I know that he’s never had casual sex — I asked if all his encounters had been relationships— as that would have been a deal breaker for me. I don’t care what his actual number is, as long as it was within the bounds of a committed relationship. I know of his past girlfriends and could probably guess which ones he slept with if I had to but I don’t care. I think it’s normal to not c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 04:15 PM
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Putting a ring on my finger & committing for life LOL (my husband is the only man I’ve been with). But what would make me interested in learning more about a man when I was dating is if he had confidence and leadership potential. I’m pretty sure I’m demi-sexual as my husband is the only man I’ve ever been sexually attracted to. If he died, I’d just be single and celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 08:37 PM
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I’m 5’10 and have about the same height differential. I’m mostly attracted to 6’-6’4 men. Some bulkier 5’10 or 5’11 are attractive. 6’5+ just don’t do it for me— they’re too tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 04:54 PM
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I only like tall men because I myself am tall. If I was short, height wouldn’t matter very much. On average, I’m attracted to my height to about 5 inches taller. If he’s too tall then that’s a turn off. I’m actually taller than the average man. I tended to gravitate toward 6ft to 6’4, but a man who was a bulkier 5’10 or 5’11 could also be attractive. It’s not so much that I find a tall man instantly attractive, it’s that I don’t find shorter men attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 04:50 PM
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No. Personally I would no longer be able to be physically intimate with my husband due to anxiety. I’d be too worried that he’d picked up an STD and could pass it onto me. STD’s wreck havoc on women. 95% of cervical cancer is caused by HPV (a common STD) so sleeping around can literally get you killed. Not willing to risk it. (Also part of the reason my husband is the only person I’ve been with)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 02:11 PM
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Agree with you on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 11:41 PM
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Because most men are fat (so are most women, but men don’t seem to care as much).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 11:24 PM
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Then the 70% of both genders deserve each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 11:21 PM
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I’m happily married and red pilled. I follow my husbands leadership and he takes care of my emotional needs. I wouldn’t touch a TRP man with a 10 ft pole. That whole sub is toxic and hyper focused on manipulating women rather than accepting the natural order of things. I’d rather be single and celibate forever than be some guys plate or the victim of his manipulative dread game. RPW is about finding a man worth submitting to— your captain. A man who isn’t worth being your captain will be a manip…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 09:59 PM
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Least invasive permanent form of birth control for a couple is the vasectomy. Most women shouldn’t be on the pill or using artificial hormones after 35 due to the increased risk of heart attack and stroke. Vasectomies after you’re done having kids should be the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 09:47 PM
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I don’t have an issue with it. I have no issue with gold diggers— especially those that are honest with themselves about what they want. It makes total sense to try and land the best possible spouse you can. There is more to a good spouse than just money though— so it only becomes and issue when you focus too much on that one area and ultimately the woman is harming herself because it will lead to a failed relationship or at the very least one that lacks emotional fulfillment. Branch swinging on…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 09:22 PM
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Courts are getting much more fair. If you’re the man and the primary caretaker, you’ll get custody. However, most families follow more traditional gender roles where the woman is the primary caretaker. When the family breaks up, then the one who was the primary caretaker ends up being the one to get custody. It’s not based on gender, rather familial roles (caretaker vs financial provider). I don’t particularly agree with that. I think that custody shouldn’t be based on an arrangement made when y…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 06:53 PM
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It’s only disrespectful if she is currently sleeping with someone else while stringing the “boyfriend material” along making him wait. If she decided to make everyone wait going forward then it’s not disrespectful— even if she didn’t make everyone wait in the past. Sometimes people didn’t realize the damage they were doing to themselves mentally by sleeping around, realizing that it’s not good to jump into bed fast doesn’t mean she’s stuck always having to do jump into bed fast since she’s done …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 04:22 PM
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My brother in law has full custody. The child support he receives doesn’t cover everything for his son. It doesn’t even cover daycare costs, let alone all the other expenses for a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 03:48 PM
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I was using the strategies similar to FDS from the time I began dating and ended up getting married fairly young. I also purposefully avoided dating apps though I’m sure over the past 5 years or so (been married for 2 & dated my husband for 3) they’ve become harder to avoid using.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 02:23 PM
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For me it was date 4-5. However, I avoided online dating so I always met people organically. I think it’s be longer if you had never met them before your first date; maybe 7-8 dates in that case. My husband asked for us to be exclusive on our 4th date :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:20 AM
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PCOS makes it extremely difficult to lose weight— which she mentioned she had before. Proper diet and exercise will typically only slow weight gain for a woman with PCOS & it might stabilize her weight. Getting to a normal BMI is practically impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 02:53 AM
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Agree on the leadership thing. My husband is an amazing natural leader & we’re happily married. Guarantee I’d be a complete nag & make both of us miserable if he wasn’t so highly skilled in this.
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 02:32 AM
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I got married young so my net worth and my husbands is intrinsically intertwined. We also live in a community property state. Our net worth is around $80k — I’m 26 & he is 31. Once we hit $150k net worth, one of us will retire early to be a stay at home parent. Most likely will end up being him because my career path is very lucrative & he has a business idea he’s always wanted to work on. He has a great career & could support our family on just his income, I’ve just been very lucky in mine. I a…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 02:21 AM
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I disagree. I used a similar strategy to FDS while dating— which my parents taught me. I’m happily married. FDS also teaches that you need to level up yourself in order to land a a HVM (but they see HV as being behavioral rather than looks based like for TRP, physical attraction is a separate thing from HV but still a requirement for a relationship). It’s not really my thing because I’ve been married for 2 years and the sub is newer than that. If your dating profile says relationships only & a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 03:22 PM
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Depends on where you live. In my state, standard possession schedule is essentially every other weekend with a few extended periods thrown in (70/30 parenting time split). Only way you get 50/50 is if your ex agrees to it. Way the law is written, if parents can’t agree on how to split custody then the standard possession schedule will be used.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 04:05 AM
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You can’t smell something that’s only been worn 2-3 times. The only things that should be washed after every use are gym clothes or if it was heavily sweated in (like being outside in the summer) or if something was spilled on it or if you were around strong odors for a prolonged time. It’s the environmentally friendly thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 04:00 AM
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I’m a woman and agree. As long as the man wants 50/50 instead of every other weekend, then 50/50 should be the default custody arrangement. Even former SAHM have to go back to work after a divorce, so makes sense to split child time 50/50 after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 10:19 PM
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Or we just don’t like human sacrifice 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 10:15 PM
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Im 26f. I pay for meals for my female friends when I ask them to go places — when it’s just a 1:1 catch up and not a big group thing. My friends do the same for me. I expect a man who asks me out to pay for my meal. I value confidence above any other trait & approaching someone (I refused to do online dating) takes guts— so coincidentally I had no interest in asking a man out. If I planned the date, then yea I’d expect to pay— but I also know that it was in my best interest to not plan a date un…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 01:32 AM
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Yes, it’s an image thing. Most of my close friends have admitted to doing the same. We complain to each other that we just wore x and so-n-so will be at the next thing so they can’t re-wear it. Re-wearing an outfit goes beyond just the next day. If I only see someone once every few months, I make sure to not wear the same outfit that I wore last time I saw them. It being better for the environment is exactly why I do that!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 02:06 PM
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Believe me, a lot of us secretly do. We just don’t wear the same outfit twice in a row in front of the same people. Unless I spill something on a piece of clothing or something, I hang it back up to be worn again later. Generally, I’ll wear something 2-3 times before I wash it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 01:40 PM
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I agree that is a good idea. You’re also correct that prenups aren’t thrown out all that often— though it does vary by state (some are less likely to throw it out than others). State law is essentially everyone’s prenup & designed for 80% of cases, so if you have assets or a high income you need to customize your prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 03:37 PM
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I’d be curious as well. You could separate the questions from gender to give everyone the same survey & collect demographic data at the beginning (gender, sexual orientation, gender of current partner, if they currently have a partner, etc) Edit to add: current income would also be important. $1m to a multi millionaire isn’t a lot. $1m to someone who lives on $20/k a year is way more eye watering than for someone who makes $200k a year so income will have an effect on the answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 02:03 AM
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The value isn’t in the initial question, it’s in their answer to the qualifiers. If the extra $1m meant her man had to go from working 40 hrs a week to 80– and she didn’t get to see him as often and therefore wouldn’t want that then she isn’t all that hypergamous because she values time with him. If she’s willing to tolerate a side chick if it means her man had the extra $1m then she probably is rather hypergamous. A good survey would have a list of at least 10 different qualifiers that get prog…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 12:20 AM
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Her trauma will never go away fully. If you’re willing to accept her as she is and all her faults, date her. If there is anything that you’d change about how she acts now or her personality, then don’t. Be careful as some people are an open book about their past trauma as a way of feigning emotional intimacy. They use their trauma to create a wall between you. It’s important to be open, but when they’re too open this may be an issue. To put it simply, they’ll use their trauma as an excuse to avo…
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 12:03 AM
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Survey of women. “Would you prefer you man as he is today or $1m dollars richer?” Pretty much every woman will prefer their bf / husband to be $1m dollars richer. You can add in parameters like would you still prefer this if it meant x fewer hours of his attention per week to measure how strong the preference is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:50 PM
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I never said anything about n count. All else equal (including n count), a woman close to your age is better than a woman younger. It’s easier to find low n count women close to your age when you’re younger, ergo better to establish a long term relationship then. If you missed the boat on that don’t be enamored by youth and beauty of a much younger woman, vet her extremely strongly— otherwise you’ll end up divorce raped just like if you married the woman who slept around. A woman who has slept w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:31 PM
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I don’t personally see a difference between residency and attending— in terms of marriage prospects. Once you’ve graduated & gotten a residency, there is little left to prove that you’re a HV partner. It’s just putting in the hours at your job and you’ll eventually be an attending. I wouldn’t have dated a 30+ year old man when I was 22-24 though. 6 years was my upper age limit. A 22 year old interested in men 10+ years older is after his resources— but just realizes it’s better to trade her yout…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:26 PM
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I’d say the tradcon advice is also very good for men. Waiting until your 30s is not a good idea, just not as bad as it is for women. Marrying someone 10+ years younger is a good way to get yourself divorce raped (divorce likelihood is 40% higher when the age gap is 10* years & 95% higher when the age gap is 20+ years). I got married as 24 & my husband was 28. We’re very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 09:49 PM
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It’s a fact. Nothing to do with a lack of respect. He’s secure enough in his masculinity to be ok with his wife earning more than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 08:52 PM
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I’m 26 & happily married. I wouldn’t have dated a man who didn’t want to get married— that would have been a massive deal breaker. I didn’t care if it put me at a disadvantage. I started looking for a husband from the first date I went on as a teen. I didn’t care so much about a wedding, but was looking for a marriage. Legally being married was part of that, otherwise id have felt like I was just playing pretend and never would have been satisfied/ happy in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 08:38 PM
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More like my husband gets access to my money and vice versa. I earn more than him. I see all income earned as equally both of ours. We have the exact same personal spending amount budgeted for both of us. We each get to spend that on whatever we want. Everything else is budgeted for joint goals — like paying down our mortgage, increasing savings, saving for a large purchase we both want (e.g. new tv).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 08:21 PM
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Interesting. I wonder if it’s because the men are keeping their foreign brides with a certain lifestyle— much like trophy wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 02:59 PM
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My husband gets hit on by other women and gay men (even in front of me) all the time. I think there is a big overlap in the preferences of women and gay men in terms of looks. Improving your appearance will attract more of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 02:30 PM
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Until they get their green card and leave you. Happens more often than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 02:28 PM
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Thank you for this clarification! May I suggest that the “vetting” period be defined as relationships that are pre-marriage / pre cohabitation or cohabitating less than 1 year (but pre-marriage). If he hasn’t shown you he’s committed, then it makes sense to leave when there are red flags. Marriages or if there are kids, it makes sense to attempt to save at all costs. Sometimes red flags don’t show up until years into a relationship (especially if the man is a covert narcissist). A clearly define…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 03:18 AM
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Men who say those kind of things just can’t vet for emotional stability & thus think AWALT. A lot of them are probably borderline emotionally abusive because they think any woman who loves them and tries to bond with them is settling for them (and thus unable to bond emotionally / treating them worse) because of their own inferiority complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:58 PM
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Umm what? My brother-in-law got custody of his kid & gets child support. He got 50% of the assets and since she had been working the vast majority of the time and had a salary near his, it was very fair. Neither were given alimony. Laws don’t hinder men— they just don’t pursue custody or fight alimony very often. Guarantee you in most jurisdictions, a stay at home dad will get alimony in a divorce as well as primary custody of the kids. The typical parental roles (provider vs caretaker) are trea…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:54 PM
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This is a truth bomb that needed to be dropped right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:42 PM
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Birds of a feather flock together but I do think vast majority of women do not sleep around— they’re just rarely on the dating market. None of us ever slept around. Nor are we big drinkers so bars were never our thing. I’ve actually never even had alcohol, but most of my close friends will indulge in the occasional glass of wine. I’m also from the south and I suspect avg n count may vary by region with the south having a lower than national avg n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:33 PM
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Thank you! This is so true— I didn’t even think about all my hair care and skin care products (outside of makeup). I probably spend around $100/month on average on those. My husband is really into healthy cooking as a hobby so he does most of the meal planning for us. He hates shopping but is good at putting together an outfit of things he already owns, so I just buy his clothes for him (he dresses so much better since I started doing that as before he’d wear things way past their expiration dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:12 PM
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Excluding the past 6 months because of covid, what social events are you going to that have a relatively equal number of women and women? Such as a volleyball meetup. Are you asking women out that you’re interested in or waiting until they make a move? Are you using dating apps and have you actually put effort into making an appealing profile? I get it because I’m an introvert, but if you aren’t placing yourself in situations where you’re likely to meet new people, you’ll be unlikely to find a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 05:51 PM
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Lol no that’s not true at all. Dressing badly is a HUGE turnoff. No one talks about how hot movie stars are in roles where they dressed like homeless men. Dressing well is very important — why do you think all the Hollywood celebrities dress well and hire stylists? It’s not going to bring you from a 2 to a 9, but if you’re a 4 or 5, it’ll get you to a 7 (maybe 8).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 03:57 PM
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If you’re really short or have a way below average face, then yeah it’s going to be harder. However if you’re fairly average or close to average and take care of your body and skin while wearing clothes that actually fit well and getting decent hair cuts, then you’ll land yourself in the top 10-15%.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 03:34 PM
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Ok, but women are improving & putting effort into their appearance. Problem is most men are not. So, the men who do put effort in get most of the attention from women. I seriously doubt most Chads or men in the top 10% do absolutely nothing for their appearance (most work out). You can have an average face and height and land yourself in the top 10% of men simply by taking care of yourself. So many men don’t, that doing basic self care (working out, having a skincare routine, dressing nice/ clot…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 01:12 PM
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I think you underestimate how much it costs having your nails, makeup, and hair done is... Nails run women in my city about $70-$90 every 3 weeks for a basic one color job at a mediocre salon (in places like NYC, this will be MUCH higher). Quality basic haircuts run about $50 every 8 weeks. If you’re dying your hair, you’re looking at $200 every 6-8 weeks. Makeup is expensive, most women probably spend over a $1000/ yr on makeup (if they wear it daily). It’s way to expensive for anyone but the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 01:04 PM
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Well women generally put effort into their appearance — even if they’re homely. Makeup, clothes, nails, hair removal, etc. It gets expensive. Women also have a harder time keeping off and losing weight biologically than men so even slightly overweight (but not obese) women are probably working out regularly. For a man to be overweight, he has to put in significantly less effort in his appearance than a woman does. No woman in her right mind wants to be pump and dumped. On average, they definitel…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 12:46 PM
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Maybe it’s just anecdotal, but of my close friends pretty much all of them have had fewer than 3 partners including their spouse. I’ve known most of these girls since middle school. Everyone tells when they sleep with a new guy so I know their actual n count. Pretty much all of them are married (the one that isn’t is engaged and her wedding is in March)— we’re all 26 going on 27. I got married at 24 but some of them got married younger than me. I feel like women who don’t sleep around get marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 12:38 PM
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And you don’t think women feel the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 12:21 PM
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What’s hilarious, is that most men don’t make an effort in their appearance. If they worked out, had good hair cuts, dressed well and had a good skincare routine— they’d be much more likely to land a date. TRP is super toxic but works for two reasons: 1) if men are actually adhering to it, then they are improving their physical appearance & 2) the confidence boost of following a “strategy”. Really nothing else too it. TRP has some kernels of truth but the community is just so jacked up in the he…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 12:13 PM
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Age gap of 10 years increases divorce probability by 40%. I’d advise you not to purposefully seek one out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 11:34 AM
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You can’t really track your cycle via timing alone— you’ll likely fail in that. Ovulation doesn’t occur at the same time every month. You have 3 days a month that you’re fertile, but sperm can survive for up to 5 days. You can track your fertility to avoid sex during your fertile window but a lot more than just the timing goes into that. You’ll need to track your temperature and cervical mucus daily. There is a lot involved in it. It’s called the Natural Family Planning (NFP) method. It works as…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:53 AM
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Women tend to have stronger social circles so it’s easier to cut out toxic people or people they consider “toxic.” Personally, I think it’s ridiculous to cut off your parents for not supporting the BLM movement but from the girls perspective, their parents are toxic because they don’t support it hence they cut them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 01:43 AM
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It’s really not if you’re looking for a [healthy] LTR / marriage. If a woman is 10 years younger than you and interested in you, she is more than likely interested in extracting resources from you. You’re basically BB but she just decided it’s better to settle earlier than her peers. Edit to add: a much younger woman is maximizing on her SMV to extract the most resources from a partner because you are already established & proven. Studies have shown that women consistently find men around their …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 01:20 AM
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The deal breaker for me isn’t the lack of college education, it’s lying about it on his profile. That’s a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 01:30 PM
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Yes he is. Our vows were for richer or for poorer. I married a middle class man when I grew up in a wealthy family. I had to downgrade my lifestyle when I got married— though my parents would give us an allowance if we wanted but family money comes with strings attached. My family is great & I love them, but there are expectations that come with being supported and that means never really being an adult in their eyes. My husband wanted us to make it on our own and I love him more than riches. Le…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 03:22 AM
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Nagging is indicating that something is bothersome enough it could be relationship ending. When I’m happy and my husband is not leaving messes everywhere, there is zero nagging. I generally don’t nag— maybe a few times a year— because he’s good at keeping me happy. Not all women nag all the time. My husband knows when I start doing it, that something is seriously up in our relationship— and he takes the lead to get it fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 01:50 AM
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sure, but not every woman rides the CC. I never said a woman your age whose slept with the whole town is better than the woman 10+ years younger— all else equal the woman your age is better. Only man I’ve ever been with is my husband. I have friends who are 27-29 who have an n count lower than 5 (all serious relationships). Most women don’t sleep around, but they’re harder to find because they’re less likely to be single. If you’re in your 30s, a post wall low n count woman is better for you tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:46 PM
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Marrying someone much younger is a good way to get divorce raped. Divorce rates go up astronomically with larger age gaps. 10+ year age gap increases divorce likelihood by 40%, 20+ year age gap increases divorce likelihood by 95%. Best solution is to find a HV woman 1-3 years younger in your mid 20s and settle down. If you’re a single man in your 30s, your best bet is to focus on women 1-5 years younger than you. A woman 10 years younger is high risk. (Only matters if you plan on marriage & kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 05:21 PM
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Jeez, you’re jaded. I very much love my husband— his happiness is my priority in life. Our relationship is not transactional. Our vows were in sickness & in health, for richer & for poorer. I made a life long commitment to him. I don’t believe in divorce except for abuse & most definitely do not believe in remarriage when the ex spouse is still living.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 01:07 AM
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Couples with large age gaps exist but are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 10:38 PM
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Most high RMV women today will prefer a man within 4 years of themselves. Otherwise, their likely after BB and don’t particularly care for the man— just what he can provide them. I will concede that in places where it’s much harder for men to become relationship quality partners (HCOL like NYC & SF), more younger women will be forced to compromise on their age preferences since there will be fewer HV men their own age / near their age. However this is still routed in the desire to extract resour…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 09:59 PM
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If you’re primary RMV feature is your youth and beauty, and you want a life long marriage, then you’ll want to marry a man close in age. Women live longer than men. Marrying a man 10-15 years older is a good way to spend the last 20 years of your life single & competing with much younger women for a small pool of men when your primary value has diminished. Marrying someone close to your age maximizes your returns on the emotional investment in the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 11:33 PM
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Men 18-29 have lower rates of circumcision than their older cohorts. Circumcision helps reduce the likelihood of spreading an STD to a partner. Could this have something to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 09:24 PM
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I’m not saying that older women have a higher RMV, but of the same age cohort of women the ones with high RMV tend to be in a relationship with a HVM that they’ll marry by the time they are 26. Women with a high RMV are more likely to date & marry men closer to their age. Part of the reason older women are seen as having a lower RMV is because the ones with high RMV are typically taken already. A very high RMV man can probably lock down a high RMV woman much younger but it’s much harder as he is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 07:18 PM
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The only men I ever compliment are my husband & my brothers. If a male coworker is wearing something like a nice pair of shoes that I think my husband might like, I might compliment their shoes and ask them where they got them since I think my husband would like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 04:10 PM
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That’s quite rude. It’s probably a little older in places like NYC— but for most places women who are worth the time for a LTR for a HV man are off the market in their mid 20s. There are exceptions of course, such as women who focused exclusively on their career (more common in the major metro areas like NYC & SF). I’m not saying they’re all gone, but that they become significantly harder to find. If you actively choose not to pursue a LTR that leads to marriage as a man before your late 20s, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 02:26 PM
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No counter arguments then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 02:14 PM
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Ooh I totally agree. I don’t mind tattoos — some are pretty cool looking— but it’s so unattractive. I’d never get one. When I was single, I’d loose all attraction to a man if I found out he had tattoos. They’re a huge turn off for me. Luckily my husband feels the same way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:05 AM
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I wasn’t sure what they meant either. Thanks for asking lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:01 AM
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Oof, I’m tall & I used to really struggle with this around short men because it makes me feel self conscious about my height. Since getting in a relationship with my now husband I haven’t cared because I’m not trying to be attractive to anyone but him (luckily he’s tall too).
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:00 AM
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Baggy can sometimes work, if you have a belt to highlight your waist!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 01:57 AM
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I’m in a male dominated field as well. Very much had to compete with men for my promotion earlier this year that came with a significant raise. Not sorry at all & if that is unflattering I’m not having any of it. My livelihood is not something I’ll sacrifice to be “flattering” — luckily my husband loves my career drive.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 03:16 PM
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We both have salaries in the top 10% of our age group. I make more than him though. Why does that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 04:17 AM
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And that’s how you end up divorce raped. A 10 year age gap increases divorce probability by 40%. A 20 year age gap increases divorce probability by 95%. Bad idea. Edit to add: this is because HV women are unlikely to date much older men. Sure, a HV man could land a much younger woman if he wanted but it’s a poor exchange for him because that woman is unlikely to be HV herself except in looks. She likely has underlying issues that will lead to a breakdown in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 03:33 AM
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Male infants are also more likely to die than female infants. Since young men are more likely to die in fights before they have a chance to have children; while the most dangerous thing for women is child birth — and in a more settled society a baby whose mother didn’t survive birth is more likely to survive. This could have also contributed to the gender disparity in prehistoric times— more babies surviving despite their mothers death at birth. If the baby was female, she’d pass on her matrilin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:20 PM
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Perhaps. I started to feel ready for marriage / dating seriously for marriage at 21. For my husband that age was 23. We got married when I was 24 & he was 27– so we actually have a slight age gap but still what would be considered normal. We also bought a house 3 months after our wedding (we eloped and used the money we had for a down payment instead of having a traditional wedding— we did however have a cookout at my parents house with friends and family to celebrate). I will say with your care…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:03 PM
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So for me & most of my friends, we can only ever be interested in one man at a time— everyone else is friend zoned. I’m happily married & my husband is the only one who occupies that spot in my mind and has been since our first date. When I was dating, I’d only date one man at a time even if it wasn’t exclusive yet— that was just how my brain worked. If he didn’t ask for commitment by end of date 5, I knew I had to move on or risk waisting more time with someone afraid of commitment since I coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 08:19 PM
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For the most part. I read a short passage in my Bible 2-3 times a week & pray most days. I do lean tradcon in some ways, but not in others. I dress modestly. I also prefer a more traditional relationship dynamic where the man takes on more of the primary leadership role— I see it as him being the CEO, but I’m the CMO, COO, & CFO (since I’m better than money & budgeting) and he relies on my input pretty heavily before making any decisions for our family. Politically, I’m a moderate (so I will vot…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 08:09 PM
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Yes, I agree the education cost in the US is ridiculous. On top of that, student debt is not dischargeable in bankruptcy & can have exorbitant interest rates (some as high as 11%— for context my mortgage is at 3.2% interest). Most people don’t understand that paying more on the principal would reduce their overall burden of what they’d pay towards student debt & instead just make the minimum payments. Both major political parties agree there needs to be reform but they can’t agree on how to do i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 06:26 PM
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I absolutely did not prioritize his happiness as number one prior to getting married. It was important to me, of course, while we were dating but maybe number 4-5 on my list of priorities rather than number 1. Before marriage, my priority was myself. Engagement was the start of that shift but the wedding day was the big one. It’s not exhausting to put someone else first when they are putting you first. Every now and then I need a personal day where I prioritize myself but in general he’s my prio…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 05:55 PM
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Yes I’m religious— which was a huge influence on marriage being important to me. It was not an elite / ivy school, but still a top 50 business school in the US (it’s probably in the top 100 globally if I had to guess but idk where it’s ranking would fall exactly). I went to a good in state public university to reduce the cost & avoid student debt (as well as stay close to family). I think in total my degree cost about $70k-$80k spread across 4 years of school— including a summer of studying abro…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 05:43 PM
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If you can’t trust a person enough to be legally entangled with them, you definitely shouldn’t be marrying them and probably shouldn’t be in a LTR with them. Mutual trust is the foundation of a good marriage. Think of marriage as being akin to official adoption of kids in foster care. The kids were for the most part already living with their adoptive parents— yet the legal process of making those kids the official kids of the parents has a huge emotional component. It’s the same with marriage. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 05:17 PM
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I majored in economics & also focused on learning technical skills outside of my coursework since I knew I wanted to go into tech / management. Economics is the most common undergrad major among Fortune 500 CEO’s which is one of the reasons I picked it. My family is not working class, so I had a huge advantage there. I have numerous successful professionals in my extended family that allowed me to understand what it takes to be successful from a young age. I also have a few extended family membe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:57 PM
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I’m in the US. I finished my bachelors degree at 22. I had internships & a few strategic jobs during college. I also chose a major and a field that had good job prospects. I went to networking events for my field starting my junior year of college. I made sure to add every professional I met ( even those in an adjacent field) on LinkedIn. I also graduated Cum Laude & my major GPA was a 3.9 out of 4.0. I found career mentors for myself starting when I was 16. I used my network to get my first job…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:18 PM
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Feminism is supposed to be that I guess but it can be pretty toxic as well. From what I’ve seen with my friends, it’s more an internalized thing that they have to prove to themselves they are independent & “cool” so they convince themselves that marriage is bad or keeping women down but then realize later they really want it. I think the not caring about commitment is a youth thing. I really didn’t care about actively pursuing marriage until 21. While I always knew I wanted to get married eventu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:07 PM
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It’s all about mind set & focus. If you believe something is possible, then you’ll be able to work towards it. If you think something is impossible, you won’t take the necessary steps to get yourself there. Once you believe your goals are possible, make a plan for getting there. You also have to be willing to make sacrifices. For example, you want to be a millionaire by the time your 60? If you invested $2,000 today and then $500/month for the next 30 years, you’ll likely end up a millionaire fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:52 PM
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I have a number of friends who have lamented to me that they regret telling their boyfriend they don’t care about marriage because they want him to propose. They’ll ask their friends how to get the guy they love to propose. I know at least two women who decided to end 4+ year relationships since it didn’t look like marriage would ever be something he was ok with — and at the beginning they were ok with that but they eventually decided they needed to get married. For women, a lot of times the “I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:33 PM
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In terms of most HV women being taken by 26– yes HV people tend to be that organized / advanced. Keep in mind women tend to mature faster than men. It’s also totally normal for a husband to be 1-2 years older than the wife. I got married and bought a house with my husband at 24. I’m now 26. We’re debt free, home owners, and have a net worth in top 15% for our age group. We are both college educated and have great careers. I actually technically out earn him though since I’m in tech; we have a jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:26 PM
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My advice would vary based on if you never want to get married vs not being ready for marriage yet. Most women want to get married eventually. There are very few who are ok, at least long term, with being the forever girlfriend. Eventually many women who say they don’t need to get married will have that desire which will create strife. If you have no interest in marriage ever, it’s probably best to stay out of LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:13 PM
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Women who are more promiscuous, are gold diggers, have serious insecurities, have daddy issues, or have significant mental health issues are more likely to date older men. I assume these are traits that no man wants in a spouse. Statistically speaking, it’s well documented that women tend to marry men close in age to themselves. The divorce rate also goes up the larger the age gap. Since being financially healthy is important to you— my advice is to vet any woman you date to make sure her financ…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:53 PM
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If your goal is marriage eventually— it’s much easier to lock down a high value partner when you’re younger. Most HV women are off the market by 26 (married or in the LTR that will lead to marriage for them). Women also tend to prefer to date men close in age to them— especially true for high value women. If you wait too long, it will be difficult to find someone worth your time. Your spouse is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life— it will significantly impact your financial f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:44 PM
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Just going to point out— most HV women are off the market by 26 (aka either already married or in the relationships that will eventually lead to marriage). Women, especially HV ones, prefer to date men close to their age. Waiting until 35-40 will hamper your chances of finding a good spouse. Additionally, after college most HV women will expect for a relationship to have lead to marriage by year 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:36 PM
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Regarding pre-nups: Depends on where you live. Technically state law is your pre-nup if you don’t make one. Some places are less likely to throw out custom prenups than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:07 PM
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Can he work remotely part time? E.g. he works from home Fridays and Mondays, traveling to your city Thursday night & traveling back to where he works on Monday nights. That way you’ll only be apart 3 nights a week.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:56 PM
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My family is wealthy (my dads parents are top 2% by net worth in the US & my parents are top 6%— my dad is an only child). I’ll eventually inherit a very large amount (hopefully in the distant future). My college / living expenses during college were paid for and I have a safety net through family, but my husband and I still fully support ourselves financially and have made significant progress on our net worth. My brother will probably blow it all & my sister and I won’t. My family is fairly re…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 05:06 PM
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Yes had a crush on the same guy from 13-19. I flirted & even asked him to hang out but he wasn’t interested since I was his little sisters friend & thought of me like a sister. Finally just had to accept he would never be into me. I turned down so many other dates in high school because I only wanted to date him. I want to be pursued. If a man doesn’t want to pursue me then I wasn’t going to waist all my time pining after him— which I learned pretty early in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 04:56 PM
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Happy wife happy life is true for a man. However, happy husband happy life is also true for a woman. If you both prioritize the others happiness, it’s going to create a healthy relationship. If one is prioritizing the others happiness, but is not receiving the same treatment then that’s going to be a recipe for disaster. In my experience, women tend to be more naturally giving emotionally in relationships so therefore need to be reminded less often (though many probably could use the reminder). …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:33 PM
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I wouldn’t want to date a man who is shy— just a personal preference. Confidence is the trait I value most in a man in order for me to find him physically attractive. I wouldn’t be able to be attracted to a man who was shy, but that’s just me as plenty of shy guys eventually find wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:24 PM
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Most of the time the money is gone in 3 years. Same thing that happens to lottery winners (most of them end up bankrupt in 10 years). Building wealth requires a different mindset— generational wealth building can be achieved through having a different family culture than the mainstream culture (this is in part why Jewish people are so financially successful as a cohort— their culture) but most families lack this culture. Your spouse is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in terms of …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 04:46 PM
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Over 90% of Inherited wealth is gone by generation 3. Over 60% by the second generation. Most wealth in every generation does tend to come from new money.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 04:37 PM
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It’s basic common sense for women. If he doesn’t ask you out then he’s just not that into you. I don’t want to be with a guy who isn’t into me. Signaling interest / flirting is different than being the pursuer / approacher. I’m happily married & rather attractive— I had random guys ask me out when I was out and about fairly regularly before I had a ring. Confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a man and approaching me shows he has at least some confidence— why would I ever bother to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:45 PM
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I’m happily married. I never once used a dating app. Before meeting me, my husband did use them and met 1-2 of his ex girlfriends through dating apps. Reason I didn’t use them while dating: I just didn’t want to receive sexually suggestive messages from men. I’m fairly conventionally attractive which means I’d have undoubtedly been inundated with subpar and lewd messages. In real life, men just aren’t likely to start their approach as sexually suggestive as they would on dating apps. I also find…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 04:09 AM
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I have wavy hair. I use a curly girl like method. It’s been a huge improvement! My hair is shinier and way more healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 12:48 AM
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They consider 90% of men to be LVM / NVM. I think a lot of it is venting because the sub doesn’t attract women who are already in good relationships (like myself). I think it’s a great strategy, I just have no interest in posting there. I personally prefer more traditional gender relationship dynamics though so thoroughly vetting a man was even more important in my case— there guidebook has some great advice on vetting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:47 PM
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They advocate blocking a guy as soon as he shows a LVM trait so I don’t think it’s fair to accuse them of stringing men along to get free meals and gifts... they end things pretty swiftly once they realize he isn’t what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:40 PM
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Have you even read the sub? It’s not my thing because I’m happily married but I went and read their guidebook because the sub has been mentioned here a few times— they very definitely advocate for self improvement (they have a sister sub dedicated to just that: female level up strategy). The sub says you cannot get / keep a HVM without becoming a HVW yourself.... I’m more of a r/redpillwomen because I prefer traditional relationship dynamics but FDS is just a more liberal / feminist version of R…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:38 PM
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I think that’s the whole point — eliminating 90% of the male population. They push the idea that it’s better to be single than with a man who doesn’t add value to your life (they also say in order to get a HVM, you need to become a HVW). I’m happily married and pretty sure my standards eliminated 98% (needed to be religious, willing to wait with me for marriage (wasn’t as strict on if they had past partners just that they needed to not expect sex before marriage with me), preferably tall (I’m ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:23 PM
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In a marriage, any income earned is equally the husband and wife’s. All of our income goes into a joint account. I contribute significantly to our household accounts as I have an excellent income though. I think going into a marriage viewing it as his money and your money — instead of joint money— will long term be damaging. Totally ok to be a SAHM or house wife, just once married you both need to view any money you earn in the marriage as also being the other persons money too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 11:11 PM
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But, I’ve had guys hit on me when I was sitting down & not being too happy once they found out I’m tall. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:42 PM
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Geez no. I’ve never even worn a bikini in public. I also waited until marriage and have never drank alcohol. I’m just religious hence not being interested in modeling. I don’t think most men are interested in a woman taller than them; i tried dating men shorter than me once or twice and they always seemed like they were trying to make up for their height when we were standing but would act normal when we were sitting (I just have long legs, so I seem like I’d be in the normal female height range…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 09:39 PM
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No kids yet but we recently stopped preventing! He’s the one with “baby rabies” (he’s wanted one for a while now but was respectful that I didn’t feel ready), while I’d be fine to wait a few more years to just enjoy the child free life a little longer. We compromised years ago that when we had a 6 month emergency fund, owned our home, and reached a certain net worth threshold we’d stop using birth control. Both our parents already have grandkids. My older brother’s eldest was born when I was onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 09:03 PM
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My husband has negative traits too. No matter how hard I try, I can never get him to do anything he doesn’t already want to do. It can be extremely frustrating. Overall he’d probably be considered “alpha bucks” but I actually make more than him. Both of us have salaries in the top 10% for our age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 07:33 PM
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Personally, I would not wear a promise ring on my left hand— only wear it on my right. The left hand for me is for engagement/ wedding ring only. Nothing wrong with symbolizing your commitment with jewelry ahead of engagement— my husband bought me a diamond and emerald cross necklace for this back before we were engaged. I don’t see anything wrong with choosing to wear the promise ring on your left if you want, but I would have felt it would cheapen the experience of the real thing.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 07:13 AM
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I’m fairly tall (taller than the average man) & noticed pretty much only tall men were interested in me. Shorter men / avg height men rarely ever asked me out back when I was single. Surprising to find out on this sub that 6’+ was as small a percentage of the male population as it is because of the men interested in me, 95% were over 6’ Edit to add: I’m also very thin & was scouted as a model when I was a teen but wasn’t interested due to concerns around modesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 07:01 AM
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Some people are not hobby oriented but enjoy spending time with their partner. I’m not hobby oriented. While I do “live in his frame”, me participating in / adopting his hobbies has nothing to do with that. If I was single, I still wouldn’t have a hobby— I’d just work more during the week and spend more time with my parents and friends on the weekends and read more. I just enjoy the quality time with my husband more than the activity as I’d just as happy to take a walk through the neighborhood w…
/r/askRPC02/09/20 04:45 AM
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Almost everyone wants the management jobs.... men and women...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:55 PM
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That’s a misconception— sponsoring a foreign worker is more expensive than hiring a citizen / green card holder because of all of the back end expenses. Outsourcing to a foreign country altogether is when foreign labor can be cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:54 PM
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The ones I know do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:42 PM
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Most tech companies would be happy to find an American citizen or green card holder so they don’t have to sponsor a visa for a tech job. No one is being pushed out of tech & quotas are not a thing; we’re literally having to bring people over from other parts of the world because enough of our own citizens can’t be bothered enough to learn a highly valuable skill. You can spend 6 months in a coding camp & find great jobs in the tech industry without a college degree. Your statements on Quota’s ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:41 PM
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Again I said it was the tech entrepreneurs I know— the tech startup scene. Bezos was supported in another way: he got a valuable / smart / Princeton educated employee for practically free through his wife. You’re getting hung up on one type of support: financial. Male founders are often supported by their wives in many ways. If not their wives, it’s normally their parents helping to support them. You’d be hard pressed to start a successful company without some kind of familial support network.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:27 PM
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Sure; but that’s because it’s easier for men to get VC. Also most men don’t ever start companies; being a well paid corporate employee is a valid lifestyle in STEM. Lack of female founders doesn’t mean that women can’t compete in Tech. It’s a combination of factors (harder to obtain VC funding as a woman, male dominated career so as the percentage of tech employees lean heavily male there will be fewer women founders, and perhaps a gender disparity as women tend to be more risk averse (which is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:22 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/why-mackenzie-bezos-deserves-half-amazon-ceo-jeff-bezos-fortune-2019-1%3famp
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:13 PM
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It’s true for Amazon & Jeff Bezos though. Edit to add: I also had said that I personally know. It’s fairly common among tech entrepreneurs, which you’d know if you were involved in the tech startup scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:10 PM
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Women founded tech companies: TaskRabbit (IKEA even endorses them for building their furniture), Slideshare, Canva, Bumble, Lynda.com (bought by LinkedIn), piazza, and many more
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:08 PM
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My grandparents are wealthy (top 2% of Americans by net worth) because my grandmother started her own business in the 1970s. The bank refused to give her a loan unless my grandfather signed for it. That ticked her off so she convinced my grandfather to sell their 100 acre ranch in order to fund her business. Her business broke even in less than a year. She passed away over 10 years ago, but even the last week of her life she was putting blood, sweat, and tears into the family business. My grandf…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 03:02 PM
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Women built the tech industry. Then they were pushed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 02:54 PM
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first coders were women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 02:53 PM
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NPR: When Women Stopped Coding
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 02:51 PM
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Until the 80s, computers were dominated by women. I’m in tech & I’ve never been given a curve just because I’m a woman. I’ve gotten promoted precisely because I was the best performer. (btw I’m not even a feminist & lean more traditional in terms of relationship dynamics with my husband). All of my female colleagues are very competent individuals & so are my male colleagues; some of my coworkers are former google engineers. I’m in the heart of the STEM world and I’m not seeing what you’re seeing…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 02:45 PM
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Your right in that I married young; I also lean more traditional in terms of relationship dynamics (man taking on more of a leadership position). However, I do earn more than my husband so it’s not like he’s supporting me. My family is also rather wealthy, so I did have to worry about a man wanting to marry me due to my eventual inheritance (which is hopefully in the very distant future).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 01:12 AM
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I was always pretty upfront about not being willing to pay for anything / plan anything / even kiss until there was an established relationship or to have sex before marriage; my husband asked me to be his girlfriend on our 4th date. I’m happily married so this worked out well for me. Weeded out a lot of duds.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 09:51 PM
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Woah. This seems like the only sub where you can argue with a mod & not get banned LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 06:04 PM
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To be honest, I’m a woman & while I would prefer monogamy to anything, I’d prefer actual harems / men having multiple wives to cheating or soft harems. STD’s wreck to much havick on women. 95% of cervical cancer is caused by HPV so men cheating & sleeping around can literally kill a woman. Not risking that— waiting until marriage is the best policy for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 07:18 PM
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An FDS-like strategy was taught to me by my parents. I’m religious & lean tradcon. They taught me to treat dating like I was interviewing a man for the most important position in my life. Since I’m more traditional, finding an appropriate partner who can lead my household was of the utmost importance to me. I don’t believe in divorce unless there is infidelity or serious abuse; and I also don’t believe in re-marriage. Picking right the first time was serious business for me. I’m happily married.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 07:09 PM
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I recently turned 26 & really wish I had baby fever. My husband (m30) has wanted kids for a few years now so we recently stopped preventing. I agreed that when we had a $20k emergency fund and no debt, we’d stop preventing— so he really put the pedal the metal on saving last few years. I’d prefer to wait but we’re in excellent financial shape & own our home so there isn’t really any reason I can see to wait. I’ve always wanted kids, but I like not having that responsibility right now— compromisi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:02 PM
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It’s also a confidence thing. Leadership requires confidence. If a man isn’t confident enough to approach me, he probably won’t make a good husband. I’m more tradcon than anything else. In high school I asked a guy out— that relationship was terrible because he kept deferring to me for everything and all I wanted was for him to take the lead. If I was naturally dominant (as some women are), this wouldn’t have been an issue & I would have enjoyed that relationship dynamic. Asked a few other guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 05:24 AM
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I’m not all that entitled— just more traditional. My husband is definitely in charge of our household & I’ll follow his lead even if I disagree with it (though I’ll let him know I disagree). He hasn’t led me wrong yet. Other than “equal pay for equal work”, hiring discrimination, sexual harassment & voting rights— I could care less about gender equality. I don’t need modern “gender equality” in my relationship with my husband since I enjoy being the more submissive one. I like that he is in char…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 05:16 AM
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Debt increases stress. Money fights are one of the leading causes of divorce. Too many people are busy racking up credit card bills to ever care enough to get themselves out of debt. Being on the same page financially is more important than almost anything else in a marriage. Most debt is self inflicted. We have a culture that encourages it. When you wrack up lots of debt and don’t have a good enough income to dig yourself out, then your marriage is pretty much doomed to fail. Avoid debt as much…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 04:56 AM
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I’m happily married. I contribute more time (chores) & money to our household than my husband. I lean tradcon though. Thing is, when I was dating I wouldn’t pay for a single thing until it was an exclusive relationship. Once my husband asked me to be in a relationship, I paid for most things since I had more money (my family is well off). Your date 4 rule just might be shooting you in the foot....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 04:43 AM
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It shows leadership potential. At a meetup for volleyball, who approaches the people using the reserved court to let them know it’s for the meetup & they need them to move— the organizers of the event. Approaching determines who will be the alpha in the relationship. Most men would not be ok with being second in command of their household, but most women are. Women who are more dominant leaning are typically the ones who approach or are more likely to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 04:16 AM
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I definitely agree. She and I were hanging out just the two of us. She mentioned marriage & having kids — and how she’s always wanted 3 kids. It was so awkward for me because I know for a fact my brother-in-law doesn’t want to officially marry or have any more kids. I told him this afterwords and he kind of just shrugged it off and said if she pushes for it, he’ll end it 🤦🏻‍♀️ he’s generally a nice guy & treats her really well (over last year he’s ordered flowers or edible arrangements for her 4…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 12:51 AM
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Umm... I got the short end of the wealth stick with my husband. Not only do I make more than him, my family is wealthy so I’ll be inheriting a significant sum eventually (like the kind of sum that means we could both immediately retire & not work— just live off of the dividends). He benefited way more than I did from marriage when it comes to wealth (though inheritances have special protections so he technically wouldn’t be able to touch it if he divorced me unless the assets were comingled with…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 10:54 PM
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I don’t think OP is advocating getting married after only 6 months. Just that if you aren’t “in love” by 6 months, end it because you’re waisting your time and the other persons time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 10:43 PM
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Yeah. I feel bad for her. She definitely leans toward tradcon so she won’t be happy without a ring on her finger. However, my brother-in-law would be out of her league (in looks, income, and education) if he didn’t have a kid and may still be out of her league so I just don’t see him going all the way in terms of commitment. Especially since he spent $70k in legal fees on his divorce in order to get primary custody. I don’t think he would want to risk going through that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 05:06 PM
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My brother-in-law is a single dad with primary custody. He doesn’t ever want to get married again. His current (childless) girlfriend does eventually want to get married & I don’t think she knows this...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 03:24 PM
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I know a guy who had his daughter at 15. Met his wife when he was 30. She normally didn’t date dads because she wanted a child free lifestyle — but since his kid was already 15 and lived primarily with her mom, she made an exception. She jokes that she’ll get the benefits of grandkids without the hassle of raising your own kids LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 03:22 PM
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Trad women get married young. Perhaps it’s just their husbands hitting the wall way before them. Although she only got married in 2017, if you look at Mrs Midwest’s engagement photos they are more looksmatched than they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 02:16 PM
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A glut in a specific job skill (e.g. if there were tons of engineers) will put downward pressure on wages for those roles. Fewer people willing and able to work a type of role at a specified wage will put upward pressure on wages for that role as companies who need that role will compete with each other to hire for it. If we have a more educated workforce that is higher skilled on average, it will result in the wages for the lower skilled workers rising as well because their are fewer people ava…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 08:42 PM
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That’s not how the labor market or the economy works. Half the workforce isn’t doomed to always work sub $30k/yr jobs. The labor market is an interaction of supply and demand on the macro level. A higher skilled labor force on average would lead to a higher median salary. Education is the primary driver of generating higher skilled labor— which is why college educated people over 25 have a median salary of $65k/yr. My mom has a masters in mathematics and a masters in statistics. She makes maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 12:28 AM
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I never said no older people worked those jobs— I said they statistically are staffed by younger people or people working part time. Edit to add: my mom’s dad (an engineer) literally spent the last 15 years of his career working at Sear’s because he refused to learn how to use a computer back in the 80’s. I get that lots of older people are put out of a job by changing technology. Doesn’t change the fact that younger people & part time workers make up most of $30k/yr jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 11:43 PM
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I’m a millennial & pretty sure my generation just has more rotten apples than normal for a generation. Gen Z is definitely smarter on average than my age cohorts were at their age in many ways. Gen Z is taking on less student debt & is statistically more likely to be entrepreneurs (which is what leads to wealth). They’re going to do way better than millennials did in terms of wealth building as a generation. Perhaps they just learned from us millennial’s mistakes or something (just like how youn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 11:41 PM
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It’s literally a fact that most of the sub $30k jobs are staffed by people under 25 & those who are only working part time... median is different than average. 1 in 2 jobs for full time workers over 25 will be greater than $40k /yr. 1 in 2 jobs for a full time worker over 25 will be greater than $65k/yr. as full time workers over 25 (especially those with college degrees) have a greater median, you know that those younger than 25 or those who are not full time are taking the majority of the sub …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 11:35 PM
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Sure, you put incremental trust in your partner to build an emotional connection. FDS preaches to be conservative with your giving & weary of it until commitment. They specifically say to never put in more effort than the man (which is a good strategy given men are the gatekeepers of commitment).They aren’t saying to be a cold emotionless rock until he asks you to be his girlfriend— just to use reason and logic to balance out your desire to give until commitment has been obtained.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 09:41 PM
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The subs rules include no standard shaming so you aren’t going to have women calling out other women for wanting to be gold diggers. Like most women in the US, FDSer’s seem to generally want a man who makes 95%+ what they make (so near their salary or greater). So if they have good jobs, they’re going to have higher standards financially for a man they want in a LTR. Most of those sub $30k/ yr jobs are staffed by younger people and part time workers —if you look at median salary for full time wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 09:37 PM
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Married 3 year / together for almost 5. We are very happy. My 86 yo grandfather is in the top 2% by net worth so we’ll eventually be inheriting a significant sum (hopefully in the very distant future). My parents are also wealthy of their own accord. I grew up around wealth & handle our finances so I doubt its not going to affect anything other than our net worth. Only issue I might see is my husband might be tempted to go on a spending spree which is NOT how you build wealth. I’d keep it in an …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 08:48 PM
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If the woman is worth it, yes. Until there is commitment, it’s important as a woman to guard her heart. Heart break makes it harder to fully trust and commit to your future spouse. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment; if a woman withholds giving in a relationship until a man commits, its indicative that she is less likely to cheat on him in a LTR. It’s actually a good thing when you’re looking for a LTR if you’re a man; now if you get in a relationship and the lack of giving continues, she mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 08:30 PM
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FDS says to only give in the relationship once you’ve properly vetted the guy to make sure he’s worth it. It’s not my thing as I’m happily married but I saw the sub mentioned here before and went and investigated it— doesn’t seem all that controversial & is probably a good dating strategy for single women in the modern dating scene (I’m very religious so my dating scene when I was single was slightly different than the typical one of today since none of the men I dated expected sex before marria…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 07:39 PM
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I think you have a point about confusing a””holes for men with confidence— but I think it’s an age thing (teens to maybe 20, depending on maturity could take longer to develop that sense), over time we learn to differentiate since ultimately we’re attracted to confidence. I literally had discussions with my friends back in high school as to wether our crushes were crush worthy or jerks. From my social circles, seems women start being pretty good about telling right off the bat which men are conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 06:47 PM
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Could he have bipolar disorder and be in the midst of a manic episode? I have a friend where something similar happened just around the time her husband turned 30. Apparently whenever he was manic he thought he was a prophet & that he should have multiple wives. Medication sorted him out but it took almost 2 years to get to the right dose. Edit to add: my friend split up from her husband & is happily remarried to a different man now. They share a daughter so they still have to communicate. You d…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 09:04 PM
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Everyone whose submitted their DNA has consented to its use. Basically a father could only be potentially identified if he or one of his relatives had consented to their DNA being there. An identified relative would also need to be forthcoming with the information about prospective fathers based on information provided by the mother (approximate age / location / hair color / etc). From there a paternity suit can be filed for that suspected father to officially establish paternity. If the mother …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 08:37 PM
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When there is no presumed father, run the babies DNA through gedmatch to identify genetic family members. From there you can often extrapolate who the father might be based on familial ties of the closest matches. It’s how they caught the golden state killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 09:38 PM
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You can run the dna through gedmatch to identify family members. Then extrapolate who might be the father. How they caught the Golden State Killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 09:34 PM
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General rule of thumb is 1/2 your age + 7. .5(30)+7= 22 so you’re age gap is fine—if you were dating anyone younger than that, then it’d start becoming borderline creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 08:28 PM
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We want to date a natural leader. As soon as we find out it’s some strategy that he learned on the internet, he loses practically all of his appeal. It’s like being naturally attractive vs having plastic surgery for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 01:28 AM
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He wouldn’t cheat; he just doesn’t have the personality for it. He’s a strong leader with strong morals— he has more resolve than any man I know so even if he was tempted he wouldn’t do that. Not to mention, statistically most people don’t ever cheat on their spouse. Those who cheat on a spouse are either weak-willed or strongly dark triad— he is neither of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 05:57 PM
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Mental health issues increase as privilege increases so makes sense that gen z would have so many issues compared to previous generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:29 PM
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My husband is top 1% of men. Over 6ft, handsome face, strong, smart, college educated, grew up UMC, now brings home a salary 2x the median for our area. He gets hit on in front of me by other women & gay men fairly regularly; which I find amusing as I know he’d never cheat on me. He was never interested in casual sex despite it readily being available for him if he wanted. We got married a few years ago when I was 23 & he was 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 02:50 AM
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Just a correction on the analogy: Unemployment = actively searching for a job Exiting the labor force= sitting with their parents not working. These are typically retirees, SAHM, and jobless college students (who are focusing on school). Unemployment is used as a measure of people are are searching for jobs but not currently employed. Higher unemployment does indicate a tougher job market, because that means you’re likely competing with more people for a job (even if you’re employed & just looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 11:47 PM
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I was thinking the same thing... I know a number of women who “married down” income / class wise around my age (myself included) but know only one woman my moms age that has done this. My parents are wealthy & I married a man who grew up upper middle class. My salary is higher than his but he still makes a good one. Mentioned this on this sub a few weeks back & some guy tried to claim I’m still guilty of hypergamy because my husband is from the upper middle class LOL Edit: word
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 03:28 AM
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I think you’re underestimating how much work kids are. Prior to age 4-5, they need a lot of supervision. Not to mention a newborn needs to be fed every 2 hours (and breast feeding is the healthiest possible way to do this; an infants saliva sends signals to a woman’s body & the milk will adapt to the babies needs so pumping and formula are still subpar in this area). Kids are awesome but they’re exhausting; as a single parent you’d need a massive support system near you to make this work. What a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 03:06 AM
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But you’re forgetting the advantage having a wife gives you: childcare, clean house, cooking, etc. Even though most households today have dual incomes, women still take on the majority of these tasks & I think you’re undervaluing these services women provide to their household (just imagine how much it’d cost to pay people to do these instead). Statistically while single fathers have much better outcomes than single mothers for their kids, a two parent household is still the best on average. Cus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 01:43 AM
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Everyone wants the highest quality partner they can have. Neither men or women are a monolith so what is considered high quality by each individual varies; although there are often commonalities on average. Neither the man nor the woman should be settling as its unfair to their partner. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, then it’s a no. Vast majority of women have two boxes for men: relationship & other. We’ll only put one man at a time in the relationship box (unless it’s an atypical woman) but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 06:45 AM
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You do understand that everyone sins, right? That doesn’t change the fact that traditional conservative women are generally taught that withholding sex from the man they are married to is sinful without a legitimate reason to do so (childbirth, medical condition, suspected infidelity, etc). In order to be a godly wife (or husband since it applies to men too) you simply cannot be deadbedrooming your spouse. If you’re deadbedrooming your spouse as a Christian without a legitimate reason that’s bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 05:41 PM
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Have you looked at the typical posts there? It’s mostly about advising men on how to keep their wives in their frame. The posts geared towards married men are mainly strategies towards staying the leader in their wife’s mind. Ive only seen a single post about a dead bedroom & the comments were telling him to speak with the male church leaders about the issue with his wife & the women leaders (typically wives of the male leaders) will then speak with his wife. In my personal experience, the women…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 04:20 PM
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Unmarried kids are taught that. Since premarital sex is sinful. Things change once you get married. Have you ever been to a married Christian women’s conference? Believe me, this narrative is pushed. Older women whose husbands are in leadership positions in the church also will have a 1:1 talk with a newlywed bride about this— I’ve been there it’s SOO awkward (literally the no sex before marriage talks were less awkward).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 04:11 PM
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Christian women are taught it’s sinful to withhold from your husband unless there is a legitimate reason (e.g. a serious medical condition like having recently given birth). It’s especially frowned upon to use sex as a bargaining chip or to manipulate. A wife who does this & her husband goes to a church leader about his frustrations, will have a talking to by the women leaders (typically the wives of the pastors & deacons) about failing in their wifely duties. Wives are encouraged to try and mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 04:33 AM
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Interestingly enough, you’ll find the Bible call out men about their obligations WAY more often than women. Men are generally selfish and therefore need to be reminded of their obligations to their wives more. Wish there were more posts about men loving their wives.
/r/RPChristians14/08/20 09:19 PM
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But I’ve never seen a relationship work out where the woman pursued the man. It just doesn’t seem advantageous to women to do any pursuing. People tend to end up with their looksmatch & from what I’ve seen when women pursue, it’s generally a man whose slightly above them in looks or status— and that man likely won’t have that much interest in them for a long term relationship. Edit to add: I get there are exceptions, but in general it seems like a losers errand for a woman to pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 08:54 PM
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I wanted to disagree with you, however husband (over 6’ and very hot— in addition he is smart and makes a great salary) gets hit on in front of me by other women and gay guys fairly often (which is amusing because I know he’ll never cheat on me). A few of his single female coworkers have told me how lucky I am and they want to find someone like him. He’s gotten pursued by women as long as I’ve known him. But, he pursued me so idk if relationships where the woman pursued often even work out in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 05:44 PM
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I entered all my stats on the my body gallery website & got no matches. Apparently I’m unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 06:40 AM
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An app that asks for that info could also automatically calculate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 06:35 AM
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I highly suggest combining finances. I waited until 6 months after we got married to combine but once we did it got significantly easier & had fewer squabbles about money. However, my situation was complicated by the fact that I had never had to live on a before budget because my parents are wealthy, so I was having to learn that as he wanted us to. When we got a joint bank account I was simply much smarter about my purchases because I was spending his money too. It’s not a problem to have separ…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 01:57 AM
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Have you considered it might be their own money? Most couples both the husband and wife work these days. My husband spends his budgeted personal spending money on his hobbies (airsoft being the most expensive of his hobbies), I mostly spend mine mostly on personal items (clothes, shoes, jewelry, handbags). We get the same amount of personal spending money I just choose to use it differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 01:45 AM
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I agree with this take. I’ve noticed most of the higher value men and women are off the market by 25; most entered into relationships with their eventual spouse by 23. At 26, I know more high value women than men that are single (this is probably because I’m a woman and don’t hang out with men without my husband unless it’s a group work event)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 01:37 AM
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It’s less likely in same age couples. Predators typically go after younger women because their easier to manipulate due to less life experience— that’s why it’s creepy. My great-great grandparents had a 27 year age gap; they lived in a rural area & he was literally one of the only bachelors (he’d been married before and his first wife had died a few years prior). She was also 23 (which was old for a bride then) so had even fewer options. I don’t really see that relationship as creepy despite tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 01:13 AM
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A little off topic, but can you share your wisdom on thrifting? Is there a good subreddit for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 01:01 AM
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Idk how it is in other states but in my state, a child is entitled to 20% of your income in my state & has a cap on the amount of child support (starting for cases heard after 2015 I think) if you’re wealthy enough. They also deduct the amount you pay towards health insurance from your child support obligation. Considering daycare in my area averages about $200/ week — the primary caregiver generally still ends up paying more than half of the maintenance for a child on average. Take into account…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 09:49 PM
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Anyone worth a gold diggers time should have a prenup that predetermined Alimony. Everyone already has a prenup: State Law. I’d say state law is generally made fit 60% of cases— generally poorer people who are in debt and have no assets. If it’s not good enough to meet your needs then you need a custom prenup. It’s rare for a judge to throw out a prenup without some actual reason— such as the wife didn’t have a lawyer look over it before she signed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 08:26 PM
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Whenever I’ve found out a male friend likes me, I’ve ended that friendship slowly over the course of a few months so as not to ghost them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 07:11 PM
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I’m happily married. When I was dating, I didn’t mind paying for a first date or splitting the bill but that meant there wouldn’t be a second date. I didn’t care about money, it was the principal of it. I had no interest in dating multiple men at a time, so if I was dating a man he was the only man I was seeing. Dates didn’t have to be fancy, just as long as the guy was putting in effort. After a man asked to be in a relationship, I didn’t mind splitting / alternating paying for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 07:30 PM
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Problem is it results in unrealistic expectations for me from him. Im happily married but back when I was dating I wouldn’t even date a man who followed lots of Instagram models. Admittedly, I’m attractive and religious so it was easier for me to be picky about that than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 07:08 PM
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Nope, most of us wouldn’t touch a TRP man with a 10 ft pole.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 05:34 PM
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Actually men are more likely to list having children as a deal breaker than women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 05:29 PM
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It never really bothered me all that much. I didn’t like the excess male attention if I’m being honest. I just thought it was odd that hair color can make such a difference. I’m also happily married & we met when after I’d gone back to my natural hair color. I’ve noticed in the professional world, brunettes tend to be taken more seriously so it’s all a trade off.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 05:20 PM
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I think the hair color could be a good change depending on where OP lives. Where I live, there is a very strong preference for blondes. My sister is a natural blonde and had significantly more male attention than me; despite me being conventionally prettier— I’m thinner, more toned, have a more symmetrical face, and I have better skin (she had cystic acne and I never had any acne). She dyed her hair brown once and the male attention trickled to almost none. I dyed my hair blonde once and had a m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 05:06 PM
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I agree with you. However, I find both prostitution & paying for a prostitute incredibly immoral and wrong. I wouldn’t date a man who’d ever slept with a prostitute; let alone paid for it. I think it makes total sense that if you’re going to pay for a prostitute then you must not see it as immoral, ergo you should be willing to date one otherwise you’re being hypocritical. Edit to add: I also wouldn’t date a man who watches porn. I’d be hesitant to date a man who formerly had a porn addiction. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 02:40 AM
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Insecurity ruins relationships. For women, this often will manifest as jealousy & controlling behaviors. For men, it can often manifest in controlling borderline emotional abuse (if not full blown emotional abuse). Many men can have things that trigger their insecurity— such as being shorter than or “too close in height” to the girl their seeing or their SO out earning them. Obviously this is not all men, but I’d argue a good percentage of men would struggle with insecurity in either situation. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 01:57 AM
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Online dating screening is a little different than an actual requirement. Of course someone is going to try and find their “ideal partner” on a platform like that; with over 6’ often being seen as “ideal”. There are just so many options that you have to narrow it down somehow. Doesn’t mean 60% of women absolutely wouldn’t date someone under 6’, just means that they’re unlikely to date someone from an OLD app that’s under 6’. Anecdotal, I never used online dating but if I had and there was an opt…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 09:29 PM
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Ooh this is a very good point. If he’s browsing TRP that would not be good for his ability to be in a romantic relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 07:08 AM
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Ok! His lack of ability to connect just made me think of sociopathy. Divorcing a sociopath can be terrible so it’s a good thing that he probably isn’t. I cannot imagine not having a romantic concept of love— it sounds like such a miserable existence for him & you since your needs aren’t being met. Sending thoughts and prayers your way <3
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 06:33 AM
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Oh wow. I’m wondering if your stbx is a sociopath? Like not all sociopaths are crazy psychos who want to murder people in fact most aren’t. Many are highly successful individuals. They often follow social norms very well, they just don’t experience the emotional component regarding relationships. Edit to add: sociopaths can be great people. It’s just a different way of the brain working. 3% of men are sociopaths. They tend to excel in business & a disproportionate number of CEO’s and business ex…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 06:15 AM
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Anecdotal but I have a female relative who made millions on the stock market. She had her own hedge fund business & saw the 2008 market crash coming before anyone else. She sold it in 2007 for full value. She also wrote an excel macro 15+ years ago that is still used by many Wall Street veterans today because it’s still useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 06:01 AM
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a 2017 study by fidelity showed that women outperformed men by 40 basis points per year on average. It’s pretty well documented.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 05:51 AM
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Actually women have higher stock market returns on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 05:39 AM
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Guessing you’ve never heard of Madame CJ Walker then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 05:13 AM
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I think your flipping the SMP & RMP. In RMP, men are the buyers (they’re the gate keepers of commitment after all) In the SMP, women are the buyers (they’re the gatekeepers of sex after all). Any money men spend in the SMP is just product marketing to attract a buyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 04:57 AM
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It’s actually starting to change a lot. However, so many men are resigned to the fact that they’ll be the “every other weekend” parent that they don’t try. In the past 5-6 years, I know multiple men who put in the effort & now have primary custody or 50/50 custody with no child support obligations; and the mothers aren’t even drug addled or that bad. Key is: they called their child every day during the custody battle, they went to every extracurricular activity even when it wasn’t their parentin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 12:09 AM
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It’s a type of visa. H1B’s are corporate sponsorship to work in the US. Next step after working under an H1B is generally to get a green card. Edit to add: to get a H1B approved a company has to prove there is no American they could hire to do the same job (e.g. there is a skill shortage). So, it ends up mostly being very high paying roles like engineers that use H1B’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 11:44 PM
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I’m glad you and your LTR found each other! I know from personal experience that it’s so hard for women in her position to find someone who can handle it. I think insecurity is one of the big relationship killers. Everyone has a little bit of insecurity in some way, but generally it is internalized so it doesn’t affect how you treat someone. It’s when you externalize the insecurity & allow it to affect how you act and treat someone else that it becomes a problem. Jealousy is often one way that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 01:48 AM
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I literally didn’t care about the socioeconomic status of the guys I was dating. In fact I ended up technically “marrying down” even though he was UMC. I could have dated and married my parents friends sons or guys I went to high school with of similar socioeconomics as my parents. I cared about who they were as a person & if they’d make a good father to my future children. My husband and I live a middle class lifestyle & don’t rely on my dad’s money— although we do always have that as a safety …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 12:55 AM
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Look, my family is wealthy. I tried dating men from working class families in college. My families wealth made them insecure. They looked at what my father provided and thought “I can never provide that standard of living for her or our children.” Due to their insecurity, they inevitably became controlling & rude. Which then led to the end of the relationship. Funny enough, had they been able to get past their own insecurity my dad would have wrote a check to pay off their student loans as a wed…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 09:20 PM
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Where in the world did you read that 60% of women refuse to date a man under 6’? Now I could see 60% of single women describing their ideal partner as over 6’ but that’s like made up fantasyland stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 09:03 PM
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By all intents and purposes my husband is a HVM. Wonderful=HVM so it’s implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 05:56 PM
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Worked for me 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m happily married to a wonderful man :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 05:42 PM
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Why are you getting down voted??
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 04:57 PM
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I hate calorie counting. Im 5’9 and 135. I just make my portion size 1/3 to 1/2 that of my husbands when I make our plates lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 02:14 AM
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I’ve never once in my life been attracted to a man based on his looks alone. Not even celebrities / male models / etc. Closest thing might be my husband— first time we locked eyes, he had been reading his bible at church and looked up from it in my direction. He’s literally the only man I’m attracted to physically. Thought of ever being with anyone else literally makes me want to puke. It’s my husband or a life of chastity for me. I’d not heard this term “demisexual” before but it sounds like I …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 09:23 PM
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Happily married (26f). I personally don’t know any woman that married someone they weren’t attracted to. I think the likelihood of this probably goes up with age. If they’re wanting kids: less than 1% before 25, 2% age 25-27, 5-10% 27-30, 20% 30-32, 30% 32-34, 40% 36+ If they aren’t wanting kids, I highly doubt it’d ever get above 5%
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 04:01 AM
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What are your thoughts on Acts 18:24-26? Priscilla & Aquila were obviously teachers there.
/r/RPChristians06/08/20 03:16 AM
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His lawyer hounded the judge about it. Brought it up 4-5 times in the emergency custody hearing since she had drained a significant sum— I think it was over $20k in total.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 11:08 PM
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Yeah my husband only had a small amount a debt. It was paid off in like under 6 months. He’d already been working towards paying it off before we got married. I do agree that debt is an epidemic in this country. I just don’t feel it’s appropriate for me to judge given the background I come from.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 05:10 PM
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Maybe since you’re not insecure about money makes sense that might be easier women from wealthier families to date you than the average guy. Guys would find out my family was wealthy pretty quickly given i would go home to get my laundry done, food prepared, and ride my horse on weekends. They’d look at what my father provided and think “I’ll never be able to provide her this standard of living that her father provides.” Personally, back when I was single I wouldn’t have minded dating someone wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:31 PM
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Yep you’re totally right. But the Old Testament is important too & most people don’t realize the difference between religious law and societal law.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:18 PM
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Sure that would be ideal, but most people these days have student debt or a car payment. Edit to add: I had wealthy parents ergo no debt. If I’d been from the typical middle class family, I probably would’ve had debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:15 PM
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Was the husband in the second example working though? How long were the couples married? Does the stepchild primarily live in that household or with their other parent? Can they afford to pay for college without serious hardship (paying for college is encouraged by Dave Ramsey only if you can afford it and have no other debt)? There is a lot that goes into that advice than just the genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:14 PM
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Umm he says to treat debt in a marriage as equal. So he tells women to pay off their husbands debt too. He specifically says to not pay off anyone else’s debt until you’re married. He’ll advise people to keep it in a savings account to wait to pay it off until after the wedding if you currently have the means to help. I make more than my husband & came from a wealthy family so I didn’t bring any debt into marriage. I’ve helped pay off my husbands debts following his advice. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:07 PM
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What responsibilities are you talking about specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:58 PM
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A few examples of Old Testament societal laws that aren’t applicable today: No mixing materials in the same piece of cloth. Reason: when two materials are mixed, it causes that cloth to deteriorate faster due to the different acidity levels. So in a pre-industrial near subsistence society this is extremely wasteful. Technically, it’s wasteful even today, so if you want to buy truly eco friendly clothing— don’t buy mixed material clothing. No eating pork. Pigs carry a lot of parasites that are ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:56 PM
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They encourage men to lead the family. However, today’s society generally requires a duel earning household to support a family so that means that even amongst the more traditional members, women still need at least parts of feminism (like equal pay). “Submitting” to your husband doesn’t mean being a doormat, it means respecting him. Generally, men feel loved when they are respected, while women feel loved when they’re provided for / listened to. You got to remember that the Bible needs to be ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:47 PM
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Personally, my boundary was no kissing till exclusivity. I didn’t kiss my husband until the night he asked me to be his girlfriend. I also have one friend whose first kiss was at her wedding. It really depends on the woman. Edit to add: I told him on our first date that I wasn’t ready for physical intimacy beyond a hug at the end and maybe holding hands until I was in a relationship.
/r/askRPC05/08/20 02:19 AM
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It’s not the insecurity itself that is toxic— it’s how it affects your ability to interact with someone else that makes it toxic. You can have insecurities without being a toxic person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 02:14 AM
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If a woman’s insecurities are affecting how she treats you, you should run. Insecurity can create toxicity in any relationship. You don’t have to tolerate abuse simply because it originates from an insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 12:18 AM
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My BIL’s ex drained their joint account too. She got temporary custody originally. The judge subtracted half of the amount she took from their account from his child support obligation so he had a delayed start of a few months before he had to start paying. My husbands parents & we all helped him out financially during the divorce / custody battle. They also had a house with significant equity that he was able to use half of the proceeds to help pay legal bills. He’s still probably $20k in debt …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 08:22 PM
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Umm, yeah your ex wife sounds worse than my BIL’s ex. How did you not get custody?? She was just interfering with his custody time— one example is taking their son to the ER a few hours before custody exchanges when he had a slight belly ache & claiming he was too sick to go to his dads since he had the “stomach flu”. No drug issues or child endangerment on her part. She’s not a bad mom, she is just incapable of coparenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 05:53 PM
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They do week on / week off. She’s required to do court ordered therapy sessions to maintain the 50/50 custody— therapist has to decide to release her before she can stop as if she quits on her own she loses the 50/50. So I guess it’s a more unique situation. Still surprised he actually managed to win custodial custody in court.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 03:15 PM
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That’s odd that you still have to pay support. In Texas, my BIL won custodial custody of his son. He and his ex have 50/50 physical custody but she doesn’t have to pay him child support. She originally had primary but got caught up in parental alienation tactics so she lost primary and had to go from having her son 70% of the time to 50%. At least my BIL doesn’t have to pay child support anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 03:06 PM
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Preferences are just trends of who someone is attracted to. For me, height wasn’t a requirement— attraction was. I guess it’s possible I could be attracted to a guy whose 5’7 but it is simply highly unlikely. Back when I was single, if I found a man attractive I would have given him a chance regardless of his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 02:10 PM
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Texas subtracts the amount the non custodial parent pays towards medical and dental from the child support obligation, so if the kid has expensive medical insurance / medical care then that might eat up nearly the entire child support obligation. Edit to add: in Texas you’re still required to pay 20% of your net resources towards the maintenance of the child. For someone on the lower end income wise, 95%+ of their child support obligation might end up going towards health insurance and medical c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 10:02 PM
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Lol this reminds me of this guy I knew in college whose the same height as me who tried to say I was 6’ because he was 6’. I’m not 6’, I’m 5’9 & 3/4 of an inch. He got so mad when I said that I’m actually only 5’10. He’d deluded himself into believing he was 6’.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 09:40 PM
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Caring about n-counts stemming from insecurity makes total sense. When a man is insecure in a relationship, it often results in a borderline emotionally abusive (if not full blown abuse) relationship. Hence the higher divorce rate for higher n-count women & women typically being the ones to leave those relationships. My family is rather well off— not Uber rich 1%ers but still millionaires. I tried dating a few guys from working class families in college & they inevitably became super insecure ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 09:23 PM
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My experience irl matches yours. My shorter friends don’t have too much of a height preference. As a tall woman, I have always preferred men 2+ inches taller; which ends up mostly being guys over 6’ft. A bulkier built 5’10-5’11 man is still attractive but rarely. Being tall seems to attract tall guys though. My husband is over 6’ and one of the things that attracted him to me was my height. He has always had a preference for women within 6 inches of his own height.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 09:04 PM
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Nothing wrong with a height preference. Now if someone is interested and then finds out your 1cm under 6 ft & decides they’re suddenly not interested solely on that— then that is ridiculous. Women are naturally attracted to men bigger than they are— taller and/or bulkier frame. This is instinctive. As a tall women, when I walk down the street with my brother (whose shorter than me by a few inches & he’s lanky), I still get cat called. When I’m walking with a man whose tall & had some bulk— like …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:13 PM
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Is equity a necessity? Isn’t equality more important? Equality of opportunity and treatment before the law > equity of outcomes I get measures to correct inequality/discrimination, but why do you need to create equity? Most inequality today is created by the aggregate of choices, rather than discrimination. Women choose different career paths & more often choose to Focus in families instead of a career; should these women be shamed for their choices? I’m a woman & if I want to take a break from …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 04:51 PM
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Matthew 22:21 & Romans 13:1-2 implies you should follow the laws of the land.
/r/RPChristians03/08/20 04:25 PM
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Let’s set aside purely religious reasoning. I agree with that bible doesn’t outright prohibit it, but I also think it’s not a good idea to engage in polygamy as a Christian unless it’s the societal norm in your culture. Just look at how the fundamentalist Mormons (polygamist Mormons) are perceived by society compared to the mainstream Mormons today. To engage in widespread polygamy as Christians in our western society, could impede others in their willingness to hear the gospel. Living above rep…
/r/RPChristians03/08/20 04:10 PM
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O_o
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 06:37 PM
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Definitely agree. Freshman year of college I was terrible at hiding it. I made some pretty insensitive comments — not understanding that most people didn’t even have close to what I grew up with. I literally got into an argument about $100-200k/yr not being that high of a salary — not realizing that that’s technically upper middle class 🤦🏻‍♀️ I grew up in quite the bubble so college was very eye opening for me. It’d be difficult to distinguish me today— as I’ve adopted a middle class lifestyle a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 05:15 AM
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Sure, i agree that it’s very individual as to where that threshold falls. Averages are made up of the sum of individual preferences— many people would get no additional happiness beyond a relatively low salary, while others may continue to get additional happiness from a higher salary. I also think women are more hypergamous on average because men are more willing to marry down than up. Before my husband, men I dated were uncomfortable with my families wealth; they were intimidated by it. They’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 04:26 AM
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I’m a tall female & I have to agree on the subconscious protection instincts. Closer a man was to my height the bulkier frame b he had to have for me to find him attractive. If he was shorter than me, it’d be rare for me to find him attractive. Happily married now & my husband definitely makes me feel physically protected— even though he’s only 2 inches taller, he’d got a bulkier frame that can be imposing if he needs it to be. I’ve literally never been catcalled when I’m with him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 03:47 AM
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Money is only an issue if you lack it. I technically married down— my parents are wealthy & my husband is from an upper middle class family. So it’s a small difference in how we were raised but still some big ones (like I ride horses as a hobby & would go to Europe for vacation regularly). We met in college. He’s solidly middle class income wise & will probably eventually earn an upper middle class income but will never earn what my dad does without a career switch. I earn about the same income …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 03:18 AM
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It’s a glossy finished though so that’d look weird :(
/r/RedPillWives02/08/20 02:47 AM
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Well I met my husband in college so the men I dated had a little more exposure to my family wealth than if I’d been dating as an independent adult. When you’re silent about student loans since your parents are paying cash for your college (most college kids complain about it), you drive a nice car (not a Ferrari or anything though), go on vacations to Europe, and your hobby is horseback riding — it’s kind of hard for them not to pick up on your wealth. Outside of school week, I lived with my par…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 09:54 PM
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Most men are not secure enough in their masculinity or in themselves to date a woman whose means are greater than their own. As a woman who was raised by wealthy parents, when I dated down it never worked out well. They’d look at me and think “I can never provide for her or our children at the same level her father provided for her” so they’d become resentful & it’d ultimately destroy the relationship. Women can date up, because it doesn’t threaten the mans masculinity & may even make him feel m…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 09:35 PM
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How do you get the white marks off of a wood dining table?
/r/RedPillWives01/08/20 09:14 PM
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When I was dating, I had issues dating down due to them being insecure. They’d look at what my father provided and think “I can never provide for her or our children like that”. Which led them to resent me and my family. Dating down is fine if someone can handle it, but most men probably can’t. Which is probably why hypergamy is still generally on the part of women.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 08:29 PM
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I’m from a similar background (my parents are millionaires but not Uber wealthy). Struggled with this while dating as well & now happily married. Don’t date down more than one level so to speak. If a man wasn’t at least raised upper middle class, he’s probably not the one. Most men will see what your father provided for you and think “I’ll never be able to take care of her like that or our kids like that.” Which can cause resentment towards you and your family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 08:21 PM
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To be honest, most of my life I saw myself doing a huge expensive wedding. Then I fell in love & just wanted what’s best for us and to build a life together. Part of that, was realizing the financially responsible thing was to not have an expensive wedding. It was actually my idea to go the inexpensive wedding route when we started discussing finances & I realized that we could buy a house if we skimped on the wedding. My husband was shocked but pleasantly surprised at that suggestion. 2 years i…
/r/askRPC31/07/20 06:18 PM
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I (25F) never used online dating. I avoided dating apps on purpose. Met my husband (31M) at a church event. You should go to events or Sunday school classes at your church & other churches in your denomination. Rotate through different churches. For example, only go to your home church every other week & on the other weeks visit a new church of similar beliefs in your metro area— this will maximize the likelihood that you’ll meet someone who shares your values. (Might be a good idea to wait unti…
/r/askRPC30/07/20 07:13 PM
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$30k on a wedding is insane. If you’re wanting a nice wedding, you can probably get away with $15k & for a decent wedding $10k. That’s if you’re trying to go the whole almost all the bells and whistles in a wedding route. Met my husband at a college group church event. We got married 2 years ago & we spent $500 on our wedding (my dad paid for the catering though— my first cousin is a caterer & prepared the food at cost but idk how much it was). My dress was from the prom section (clearance) so w…
/r/askRPC30/07/20 06:58 PM
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Happily married young woman here. For me it’s definitely a conscious effort. I’ll notice when he’s purposely eating healthier or requesting healthier meals, I’ll notice when he’s working out more, and I’ll notice when he’s being more romantic. Maybe it’s a tad conceited, but that sparks something in my competitive nature that I need to be doing something too. If he ups his game, I’m upping mine. I’m not, nor have I ever been, overweight so it’s more the buying new clothes and wearing more makeup…
/r/RPChristians30/07/20 06:08 PM
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As a Christian, you’re supposed to follow the laws of the land unless they directly prohibit you from worshipping Him. You don’t need multiple wives to worship God (you don’t even need one wife to do so). Polygamy is illegal in most countries, ergo sinful. Also, as a Christian your supposed to live above reproach so as to set an example that could lead others to Him. If polygamy is looked down upon or seen as something shameful by society— Christians should abstain from participating in that pra…
/r/RPChristians30/07/20 04:48 PM
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Umm... a woman definitely can and should divorce her husband if he’s truly terrible (cheating, abuse, etc) Also my version of the Bible uses “divorce” instead of “separate” in 1 corinthians 7:10. A man cheating can literally kill a woman. 95% of cervical cancer is caused by HPV, a common STD— which is generally completely asymptomatic in men (men can also get genital warts, but the strains that cause cervical cancer don’t generally cause warts). Even if a woman doesn’t divorce her husband over i…
/r/RPChristians30/07/20 04:38 PM
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