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Oh, absolutely on all three. If she thinks that he doesn't have an alt account under "Dick Throbgood" or something like that after he cheated, she is mistaken, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:13 PM
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I'd always take a peek just to keep vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:11 PM
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LOL, yeah, often when the dude can't be trusted to have his own unmonitored social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:29 AM
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I guess so! I'm simply not the audience for this political show, and that's okay. I'm here for the dating strategy, which I do feel work regardless of one's political leanings. But if they are blended together, hard pass. I've liked the dating variant of the podcast quite a bit aside from one or two episodes that I just skipped over because they weren't for me. It just sounds like this is the direction that they may want to take, and I (and seemingly a lot of ladies below) don't want reach-acros…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:50 AM
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NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!!! I LOVE MY WIFE!!! I'M NOT COPING!!! (oh god how could she leave me, I'LL SHOW HER) Looks more like a dad hanging out with his daughter's wedding, lol. Well second wife, I hope it's worth whatever money he has left when he bites it in 5 years/imports another disadvantaged woman trying to escape poverty for wife #3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:38 PM
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I'm not sure what was expected here. Even in the opening to the episode, it's mentioned at 1:38 in that they wanted to: "introduce [Elle] to our audience, but also to discuss the controversy that arose when we originally were looking to find a conservative co-host. When we originally put the bat-signal out that we were looking to reach across the aisle for our political strategy podcast, it was not necessarily well- immediately- well received by our audience, who overwhelmingly lean left-wing." …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:47 PM
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Yeah, I don't want both-sides-isms. Was considering the Patreon for the bonus content, but I'm gonna pass for a while and see how this shakes out. Elle's stances didn't seem to be defined, and those are honestly pretty important. American conservatives are usually anti-women's/human rights issues. If I wanted to listen to conservatives, I wouldn't be on board with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:04 PM
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It seems like the brainwashing is alive in this thread! Marriage back in the day meant that your husband now owned you. You belonged to your father, you have been now given to a husband. Transfer of ownership. Not that he had to be any good at leading a household, or planning things, or give a shit about his offspring. People above seem to be really romanticizing things in this thread. It was not some husband's responsibility to plan shit or be some noble head of the household. He did what he wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:57 PM
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OK, so what's the alternative? Raising the kids he's neglecting, cleaning up after, cooking for and having terrible sex with a "strong, masculine man?" Before he cheats on me with a pickme? God, that sounds like so much work that I have no desire to do. Memo to shitty men: Women are waking up to this bullshit and are deciding they'd rather have exactly what's listed above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:28 PM
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It's the language as well, which is pretty full of itself. THEY are special, THEY are chosen, THEY are godly. And everything that happened to them is god's will, they just can't help it! I do think a lot of them truly do believe this and run around thinking that they're special enough to get away with their bullshit. No personal responsibility. God is testing or tempting or rewarding or punishing, never THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:58 AM
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Yikes. This is why whenever I see people listing that they want a religious man, I cringe. There's a really good chance that they'll be something like this particular gem. Beware of the super religious who talk about everything being blessed and godly. They often do shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:21 PM
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It's just not worth it with most people. Unless you have someone with a great track record of proving that they're reciprocal, no go, no thank you, no bueno, BYE. It can be tempting if you're a person who is very caring to try to help them out, but I've never had it be fully worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:03 PM
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Yep. Why the fuck should it be your problem if he has mental health issues? What are you getting out of it? Time and energy lost on someone whose mental state isn't dependent on you anyway. I bet none of your friend group wanted to pick up the slack and baby him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:57 PM
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I just can't spend any more time on depressed men. I did it, I did the thing, I listened and communicated and was supportive and tried to get them to therapy and all it meant was more work for me, and then I had to be the one to dump them because they were too deflated to even do that. If he's depressed, see ya. Just means more work for me and I don't think there's a magical awesome guy under it all... anymore. So much time lost. If someone has life-altering depression now, friend or boyfriend, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:06 PM
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I'd imagine it'll cost more than $40 to treat the menagerie of STIs she just caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:28 PM
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Yep! If someone wants to game obsessively, let them! Not a partner's job to get them to stop and focus on other things. I sincerely doubt this dude has just started gaming recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:42 AM
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"I'd be interested if you considered some plastic surgery." Totally random. Had not even been talking to the guy. Found out he was MGTOW pretty quickly, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:29 PM
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That's awesome! And yes, so many mental resources back, and so much time. It can be hard not to be angry about time wasted, but it's gone now. All one can do is try not to make the same mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:16 PM
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One thing I noticed about myself since I started to practice FDS principles is that I no longer feel attracted to people who can't keep up with my standards. I'm not angry or sad about them either that they denied me their love. I simply become indifferent. THIS. So much. For women as well in the platonic sphere. The anger is just gone and there is indifference. If anyone looks like they're going to make my life more difficult, BYEEEEEEEE. Not mad about it, but gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:21 PM
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THAT also makes sense. If this is a woman, this is what she thinks of all those single horrible snotty women who won't settle for a man like her Brad (who has only cheated three times (that she knows about)) are like. But hey, he comes home to HER at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:14 AM
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Why would there be dirty dishes if I was ordering Doordash? Are the multiple blue checks because they were too lazy to think of something else but cats? And I thought we were all supposed to be wine drunk, not shitty beer drunk? Was it too hard for baby to google "moscato?" Design 0/10. Wasted use of space. Also if this girl exists, she still wouldn't date him, lol. She's obviously not responding to him, no girl does. So many double blue check marks of rejection in his life...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:53 PM
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That sucks about your family. I hope you've found peace without their boundary pushing. But sometimes second, chosen family is the best, and it's wonderful that your friendships have improved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:06 PM
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Yeah, I do wonder if some of them say that because they know the audience they're trying to reach will be dismissive of a moral argument. I would hope they're working them up to it the ethical bit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:06 PM
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Yeah, same. People treat me better in general and with far more respect than when I was a groveling people pleaser. I have clear boundaries, I don't entertain people whose goals do not align with my own, and I don't waste my time. Sure, one pickme has been a pain in the ass, but she is who she is and she hates a lot of people. Also, that is a great phrase to use, “Oh, sounds like you have work to do. Wish you the best!” Brilliant! I have found that it's way easier coming into a new situation wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:58 PM
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And the relationship also benefits HIM. What does he get? Way less stress, clean dishes, hot apple pie, and a woman who is delightfully bewildered at his excellence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:49 PM
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Hm, maybe because so many pickme women ally with these guys? Thinking that the woman's life will always be improved by a child. I always hear things along the lines of, "well they're not together anymore, but at least she has her kids" no matter how bad the relationship was. So it just seems like it's less of a big deal to people for whom children are always "little miracles" or whatever bullshit, allowing these guys to skate off with no consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:55 PM
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Young women who don't want them and who they can't talk to and bother here, because they're not allowed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:42 AM
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I think that it was initially pitched as a means to cut down on the creepy messages that you'd get. Which after your millionth "hey" from NVM on OKCupid, looked pretty good at the time. At least you're picking who has access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:43 AM
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So in order to avoid men like this, I need dates, correct? Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:58 AM
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They're auditioning mommy bangmaids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:56 PM
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Meh, makes sense. At least in this case he flat out told the girl there would be nothing rather than future faking her. She's future faked herself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:43 PM
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Hah, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:42 PM
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I think it's like those email scams, where they purposefully fill the text with typos and errors. Only the stupidest of people will think that this is legitimate. If that scam was a person, it'd be this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:30 AM
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I know this happens all the time, the whole getting engaged to the next woman after like 3 months thing. Do we have a clue as to why? Is he just worried about running out of time or settling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:21 AM
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Oh yeah. Guys who have it together aren't worried about women reading this stuff because they're already being excellent partners. The ones who get fussy about it are the ones who always had the intent of being parasites to their female "partners."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:39 AM
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Shortly after discovering FDS, I cut things off for good. Annnnd that is why some people are worried when more women find this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:03 AM
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Eventually, this will be a story you can tell people that turns that little 🙏 into the punchline. "... and at the end, he tried to Namaste at me? You know, the little prayer hands? What a tool." And much agreement shall be had. I know it hurts now, because what he did was shitty. But you probably just saved yourself a lot of time, money, and heartache. A good partner would never treat you like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:59 AM
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The Pickme women in these relationships are also nuts. They're usually the ones to reach out and try to bring more women in in order to get with guys that aren't that into the Pickme herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:02 AM
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Similar experience on my end. A lot of nerds with a ton of mental health issues who bounced around banging one another. Extreme fragility, had to treat everyone like glass. Even when people were borderline dangerous, oh well! That's just who they were, accept it. Can't ostracize anyone. Eventually the sane people leave and these groups distill down to the worst of the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:59 AM
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I mean... it's happening, lol. I seriously predict an epidemic of guys dying in front of screens of scurvy or some other malnutrition, having not attracted a mate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:47 PM
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Being with someone who is competitive about everything sounds absolutely exhausting. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:31 PM
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Someone is definitely feeding them that line and they're buying it. So disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:18 PM
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Yeah, I don't know why this is. I got the whole STD slideshow to scare us youths straight when I was in high school, so are they just skipping that now? Because that definitely kept me from fooling around until my 20s, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:32 PM
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That's the thing about it, too. These men don't seem terribly happy in this state. Lashing out, invading other peoples' space, letting their bodies go to shit, not experiencing financial freedom... are they really happy in an enclosed space without forming new, exciting, and meaningful connections? It sure doesn't seem like it. I think some are waking up to it, though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:21 PM
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Yes! There are incredibly wonderful men out there... but vet away. They do exist. Loyal, kind, thoughtful, genuine, and in decent shape. My family is full of them. They stuck by their wives during cancers and neurological ailments, they're great dads, and they have fulfilling careers. These men are definitely not the norm these days, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:26 PM
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We, as a society, need to address both poverty and addiction. Maybe some women really do love sex work, but I do wonder how many would do so if their financial and mental health needs were met. Separating oneself from male attention as a true desire or reward really helps. Even the cutesy/edgy names of sites like extralunchmoney allude to this being something that is purely financial. If a regular job paid enough or we actually had safety nets for people, voluntary sex work would probably not be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:54 PM
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Dangerous thinking with the number of STIs that exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:46 PM
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Great, he can leave us the fuck alone, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:41 PM
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Yep! And afterwards I'm sure the guys just forget about it when they marry the girl they just spent 30 therapy sessions complaining about. I mean. Unless they slide into your DMs 10 years and 2 kids later with, "hey." Point is! Guy friends are really only worth it if they actually treat you as a human being and don't shit on other women in or out of your presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:25 AM
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Was this girl. I was so obsessed with "breaking the code" by being one of the guys so they'd treat me better than they did other women. Mostly they just dumped all their problems on me and then dated/banged traditionally feminine women, but they'd try to sleep with me on occasion while telling me how "not like the other girls" I was. 0/10 do not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:05 PM
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Yeah, this was also in my 20's. Nowadays I would be less shy. The boredom was real. Just remember thinking, "Can we be done now? Can we? Please?" Books to read, taxes to do, walks to take, decisions to reflect on... Some of them have this thing with "I always make women cum."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:59 AM
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Eh, in the past it has been to make them stop. Some won't until they think you've "finished" and you just want them to stop. Not saying it's the best reason, nor should anyone stay with a person like that, though. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:50 AM
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Yep! One of the biggest gifts from FDS is the notion that you can just walk away. Just ghost. Someone thinks I'm over-reacting? OK, well, I'm clearly not enhancing their life, I'll just scoot on out of it and block. I'm doing them a favor! No muss, no fuss. Nice and calm. How's that for a reaction? What they want is for you to submit and demure and stay quiet and a lot of women have just had enough. It doesn't benefit us. The expectation to continually take poor treatment with no benefit is, in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:03 PM
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Yeah! I know of one around Cleveland that's a refurbished Boyscout camp. I've seen a few pop up, and if you're OK being out a ways, there are those kinds of camps as well as old RV camps that pop up for around 200-500k. It's my dream to have one to help people starting out in their remote careers live communally while still having privacy. That way, they can get on their feet and not suffer too much for the student loans we were talked into in our youth...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:59 PM
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This is so hard to fathom if one DOES have empathy. For anyone who is an overthinker (and many women are, because we must), the idea that someone doesn't care or hasn't thought that far ahead is just... ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:01 PM
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Sounds divine! I have similar dreams. There are a few companies that do some really cute prefab four-season cabins that I've been looking into, as well as refurbishing old campgrounds. The possibility is out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:11 AM
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I also wonder if some of the bad hygiene is self-sabotage. If the lack of cleanliness is a way of telling someone "get away from me" and respecting their partner even less for sticking around. If that partner eventually bails, it's easy to cry about how they didn't care enough or didn't love them as they were instead of for money (that they don't have) or potential (maybe there, but not worth a situationship for). If the partner sticks around, they hate them for staying with someone they don't r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:44 AM
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Yep, just somehow need to get it into Info Wars or some such program and I think I'll be set for life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:22 AM
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Yep! It's another method of control. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:29 AM
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I'm eagerly awaiting Heterowipes for Men. All the butt touching, none of the gay they're so terrified of. I feel like it may be the only thing that can save them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:31 AM
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I think it's coming, honestly. I keep reading more and more articles and comments about women pooling their resources and taking care of each other while still having private space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:51 PM
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Accurate! The illusion that they are needed is gone. Now, if they want to get themselves together and be a great partner, awesome! They would also be happier! If not? Oh well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:40 PM
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God, I wish. Half of the childfree sub now is just a bunch of arguments about how a man can abandon his children most efficiently and paying the least. All while screaming about how sexist women are when these guys just want to pump and dump and claim they're still CF. Would love a CF space that's just women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:19 PM
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Oh, absolutely. But I hoped that you know... as the gender of LoGiC they'd scoot along. Aren't they supposed to be going their own way or whatever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:08 PM
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Seriously, they're afraid. They've let lapse one of the things they claim that men bring to a relationship, which is financial/buying power. A woman expecting her partner to make as much as she does is now doubly offensive because they know they can't meet that. 40k is not an insane amount of money to aspire to. Best to just be cruel and dismissive to you so that they don't have to examine why they're behind where men of previous generations were, or why women have had to step up and take care o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:02 PM
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This is what's additionally so irritating about these loser dudes not just leaving women alone. Like fine, if those are your standards, good luck, I guess? Why are they bothering women who don't fit those criteria if they're SO undesirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:05 PM
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Oh, I was also very much that person. "Spend hours strategizing with me, friends! This guy who is fresh out of a relationship and very clearly is on a break and will be going back to her kissed me in the Mad Mex parking lot. Let me describe it and we'll interpret how (not really) into me he is!" Bleh. And you are right. There's a difference in being horny and in needing connection, as much as the two are conflated to be substitutions for one another. Perhaps with this crumb of microdick, I might…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:11 AM
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Same on the LVF front. It's hard to keep these dramatic people around once you're on track to getting your life together and they're just trainwrecks constantly derailing. And on point about the "confused" self-pity game. They want you to just listen to them vent and sympathize rather than come up with solutions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:48 AM
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I mean now you definitely won't see him in your neighborhood...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:41 AM
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It's mostly propagated by guys who hate women. Shocking, I know. Can't tell you the number of times a guy has been whining about having been "totally tricked" into having multiple kids with someone who was apparently a total nightmare... to find out later she's perfectly normal and those kids were PLANNED, or he refused to wrap up and was surprised when suddenly children. But it sounds better for him than whatever stupid thing he did that finally shredded her last nerve. Or that he didn't really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:03 AM
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He might have knocked her up at 18 and married her, which has obviously not worked out great. I cannot imagine being a freshman in college with multiple kids under 6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:25 AM
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Whenever someone is accusing you of something, there's a really good chance that it's something about themselves that they hate and are projecting it on you. He's probably immature and insecure about his own sexual performance. Also, people will use that kid thing with CF folks like crazy to manipulate people, unfortunately. I don't know if they do it to just throw you off balance, let you know that you can never please them, or what, but it's a shit move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:24 AM
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That is a great way to look at it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:49 AM
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Yep, they'll tell you later that they're looking for something serious with someone who doesn't do exactly what they asked you to do for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:04 AM
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Eh, I always assumed it was the whole rejecting us before we reject them thing. They never wanted us anyway! But they sure want to be in here to tell us that. I'm sure it's a bit demoralizing to know that a group of women who are striving for physical health and financial independence will no longer derail their lives to be girlfriendmommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:02 AM
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I don't get why they'd complain about separatism since they think we're all fat ugly lonely cat women thirsting for Chads and not broke ugly short dudes with "great" personalities or whatever. Regardless, we don't want to sleep with them or clean up after them, so what's the harm in us being not around them? That's apparently all we're good for in their eyes, so all they'll be left with are plenty of PickMes to choose from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:07 PM
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AHHHHHH. That's so frustrating. She was free and clear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:48 PM
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Yeah, agree. This is pretty much the only place online where you don't get strawmanned to death with a bunch of people crashing in to play devil's advocate. Definitely appreciate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:44 PM
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It's a tough road! It means reflecting back on ways that a woman has hurt herself and feeling stupid about it before being able to move on. Almost everyone on here has horror stories about what they put up with before they got here, and it's very easy to feel ashamed about past actions when we just didn't know any better. But the mindset shift is so worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:35 PM
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I am seriously looking forward to the female-only communes/co-ops that are going to come out of this. I think a lot of ladies are just ready for a break and to work on ourselves in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:06 PM
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Good for you! I hope you live your best life and that you're healing and safe now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:48 PM
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LOL, there was just a huge discussion on a, shall we say, freedom-based subreddit, that totally got derailed into MRAs clamoring about how sexist it is for women to expect men to wear condoms. And how awful women are, how they're all out to steal sperm and men should be able to get a paper abortion no questions asked because something something equality. It is more often than not the guy trying to control the woman in one way or another. So much of LVM motivation is to control or strike down a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:46 PM
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That is so sad. She wasted so much time on someone who is never going to want the life that she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:43 PM
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That is wonderful! It sounds like you two have a great relationship. And some very on-point advice. Always easier to leave if you're not handcuffed to someone else for sustenance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:40 PM
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Love that idea! I've tossed this to a few guy friends and they've all been pretty on board with it, and... not so shockingly... are in healthy loving relationships with their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:37 PM
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And they're pissed about it! More women are just going to keep doing things on their own. I've been delighted at seeing women just shrugging, saying, "OK," and dipping out to go do their own thing. It does crack me up that so many men are mad about it. Like okay, they wanted women to get their own jobs and make their own money and fight their own battles, and now we do. We're independent, often homeowners, and perfectly capable of taking care of kids without partners... if we even choose to have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:05 PM
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LOL, I love how so many LVM pretend that it's only women who are "babytrapping" men. Yeah, sure bud. So many women have stories about dudes trying to make it sound like a good idea to have a baby with them when they know the guys have little intention of sticking around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:19 PM
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Well, I'd agree that a lot of them do have to grow up very fast! Because they usually have to "raise" their partner as well. And if they have a support system, they can get back to thriving. If their family isn't so supportive... usually they seem to get stuck with an unhelpful extra child to keep up appearances. Honestly, this sub has changed my mind about a lot of things. I used to be a big ol' libfem who thought single moms were some sort of gold-digging leeches who forced poor innocent men i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:46 PM
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God, that's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:29 PM
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This is why we have to protect ourselves and our sisters. Because people will always enable LVMs, be it their little bros or a herd of Pickmes. Particularly seems to happen around abusive/rapey guys. Why, despite their knowledge that this person is a creep to women all the time, they have no idea why that person would continue that behavior. Must have been the woman's fault for "bringing it out" in the guy who absolutely has always been like this. Bonus points if they infantilize him while doing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:09 PM
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Yep! Try as they might to shut us up, women have had enough. This year in particular it seems like more voices are being heard because we're all tired of LVM and their accomplices trying to screw us over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:26 PM
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That is awesome! Your mom sounds amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:19 PM
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It seems like a lot of people try to reinforce this among families, too. People wanting to be grandparents, adult siblings who already have kids and want playmates for their children despite the partner/financial situation of the pregnant women. There's a huge societal and familial push to try to make things work as well as stigmas/financial barriers to abortion that lead people into that mindset. Sure, people figure it out and keep the kids alive and unabused. How many of them are thriving and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:33 PM
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That's awful! I'm glad you got away and hope you're doing much better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:29 PM
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A lot of people don't even know that it's an option to not be a parent. In the midwest at least, it seems to be a very foreign concept. They're just looking for someone good enough to check a benchmark on the I-am-an-adult checklist off. Definitely afraid of missing out to the point where they jump in with a weird passive attitude, as if they do not have much choice other than approximate timing. They're certainly not thinking about if this big leap will make them happy in the long term, especia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:02 PM
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God, I love being here where people can actually say this truth. It is exhausting to hear over and over again how a baby is always a blessing and at least this baby came out of some shitty relationship. NOPE. Some smug turd is very satisfied knowing that he made a woman's life that much harder and she's socially pressured into limping along at a slower pace because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:57 PM
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Okay, now I'm invested. I mined down through the comments (a combo of "people don't understand what it's like to give yourself fully to love and stay with a cheater" and "Girl, you are an idiot, he will cheat again," which is the correct answer). Commenter Niecie: I was happy at first then was like oh she went back. Let me guess he had a sex addiciton and now he has gotten the help he needs. Her: No..he was trying to sabotage our relationship and business. I had emotionally checked out of the re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:37 AM
6

I hate how accurate this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:21 AM
10

I committed the sin of signing up for Tiktok to read these comments. She's so obnoxious to all the people warning her, essentially telling other women "Sorry your experience wasn't like mine!! <3 <3 <3 Leaving isn't the only answer! " OK lady, when he bangs another client, don't be super shocked. You were warned bunches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:07 AM
53

How she has put up with this is beyond me. What a crazy amount of patience. Can you imagine not being able to have any discussion because your partner would have a tantrum/panic attack? "I already told her I have a panic disorder." So no accountability ever? Am I getting this right? He's in for a rude awakening when his next housemates won't put up with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:34 AM
6

I know, right? Pre-FDS I had been conned into the whole talky talky talk bullshit of it all. He has a good explanation, hear him out, etc. NOPE. This situation is cut and dry, goodbye, the end. No more arguing with men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:41 AM
19

It's just so much easier. Oh no. Don't. Leave. Or whatever. So upsetting that you'll move all your stuff out and I don't have to fight you over it. /s What's that, they'll text you in 6 months "just missing what we had"? Block, delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:39 PM
22

Yes. All I saw in her post is that she has 10+ hours to pack her shit and get out of there. He can go make cute babies with his crush/the woman he's cheating on her with until he tires of her and then the cycle begins anew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:17 PM
16

Maybe it's pickme stuff? Like "see? Not like the other girls who are frigid and vanilla, I'm kink-friendly! I'll even lead with it!" Def known these types of women. They tell a dude they like being choked in the first conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:42 PM
6

Agreed. This is an indicator of a larger societal problem that stigmatizes abortion, as well as religious indoctrination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:03 PM
43

I think they just say that trying to get us banned for hate speech. They want to be able to cry about oh how hateful this sub is. There's also a lot of lesbians and bi women here, so I'm not sure where the hell they get the idea that we're not into being gay from? Even the straights here often openly wish they were attracted to other women, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:37 PM
3

Lol, what are they even talking about, all the dumb shit he says is garbage I've heard fall out of boring LVM for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:56 AM
17

Yeah, seriously. What if a woman doesn't want to spin the wheel on that one. Oh boy, if I do all this shit he gets to make way more money than me and then I have to depend on him! How fun! Not how I want to spend my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:25 AM
19

Graduate from the School of Hard Knocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:24 AM
48

A series of DUIs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:17 AM
54

LOL, 50 or so girls swiped right while mouthing, "I can save him."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:37 PM
63

OH my god, so many terrible nerd relationships suddenly make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:19 PM
10

Or they want to bully/cajole/guilt women into doing even more labor for them under the guise of pity. See how bad it is for men? Never ask us to change, it's already so haaardddd for them as the people with most of the power and influence to change anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:45 PM
6

Lol, do they mean single dads with live-in girlfriends who take care of the kids? I need more details here. Somehow I imagine that single dads are more likely to get family support than single moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:26 AM
3

You are welcome, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:53 PM
9

Heck yeah! You don't need that in your life! And you deserve your very valuable time back. I hope you get to spend it in ways that make your life all the more awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:31 PM
11

If he can still get in touch with you, he will, though. Not sure why you have a reason to be in touch with a dude who has another girl pregnant. You don't have to respond to his games. Block/delete/report on everything is an option. He will not get better when he has people to enable his shitty behavior. He probably won't get better at all. You deserve so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:14 PM
3

What. Why. I can't even. The permanence of this is frightening, too. I'm not sure what they think they're going to accomplish with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:48 PM
7

Did it include me getting into my car and locking the doors? lol. Because that is also what happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:18 PM
13

It's very frustrating that any woman would see someone sharing nudes and then offer their own up. Like... girl, he's just going to show all his bros like he's showing you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:26 PM
22

Well, it took him a while on his stubby little legs since he was definitely not the 5'11" he claimed to be in his profile, lol. I regretted downing that margarita while I waited for his late ass to arrive. And when it did, it was in camo jeans...? Pants? I remember being annoyed as I chomped on tortilla chips and slammed water for the next thirty minutes. But yes. He followed me out into the parking lot and whined, "Do you at least find me sexually attractive???!!" after I told him we wouldn't b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:25 PM
6

I think it's because sex is touted as the be all and end all for most men. They don't think beyond the sex act to all the emotional labor that's going to come with each new partner. OOF. Yes, the backburner spouses are somehow deluded enough to think that their partner won't zip off to the next one if the opportunity arrives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:17 PM
10

YES! This happens so often. The men always think it's going to be hot ladytown for them and it's always "wife leaves him for new boyfriend(s) while husband gets nothing." Or wife has lovers and husband sulks in the corner when she won't shove the proverbial horse back in the barn after it's already been let out. And it's not like there aren't a million stories online about this. 99% of them are this formula.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:15 PM
8

Huh, I was always reading it as, "Lol, good luck finding that. This conversation is over. Go away now."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:34 PM
13

"As soon as my dream girl shows up, I will yell at you for assuming we were ever in a relationship. I will marry her 18 months after I meet her, though."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:31 PM
18

I think a lot of folks are getting burned on it, though. Maybe in a few years it won't be a thing anymore because people will be sick of the bullshit. More and more people seem to be happier just being single and independent...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:27 PM
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Yep. I've had guys do this as well, or IN PUBLIC show me nudes of their exes on first dates. It was just that casual. They do not care about """"integrity"""". It's just a novel amusement for them and probably some power trip to be slinging it around like it's a random gif. Nothing like seeing a stranger's boobs in Mad Mex on a Tuesday night on a cracked Android screen, let me tell ya. (Same dude followed me to my car to beg me to tell him that I found him sexually attractive after I bailed, lol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:05 PM
6

Oh boy, I can see it already. "You're just not the kind of girl a guy marries." And then marries the next girl he meets in like 18 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:54 AM
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So are these dudes also getting branded while in banana hammocks to show their solidarity, or is it just the women...? I suppose it's stupid to even ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:47 PM
2

Maybe it's more like "Entertaining negative people?" Other people ignore them or shoo them away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:59 AM
3

Maybe it's so his viewers can identify with his habitat, since theirs are likely similar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:33 AM
7

I seriously think this is because other people just don't want to do it themselves. It's easier to foist these dummies off on some unsuspecting young woman than for these guys' friends and family to slap them into being an acceptable human. And if he's taking all his shit out on her, he's less of a menace to society at large.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:51 PM
3

If you look up his old public access show stuff, he's hilariously wearing a fedora/Trilby/I don't know hats. Ugh, it's SO much nothing and it does appeal to the whiniest of debatey boys...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:14 PM
8

NO! I'll have to watch, that sounds awesome. I sort of dismissed him after he was in a medically induced coma and he and his daughter were on the all beef diet, hah. He was so hard to watch in debates when he would just wiggle out of everything, but that will be a treat. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:48 AM
6

Never set yourself on fire to keep someone warm. I'm not sure what you get out of this? It certainly doesn't look like she's taking the degree of care with you that you're taking with her. Think of all the awesome things you could be doing with yourself and your time if you're not taking care of someone who loves drama and being a martyr. Sounds like you're her partner without any of the benefits like support for YOU. You get to take care of her emotional needs because her boyfriend is shitty. Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:30 AM
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He also uses pseudoscientific buzzword salad to sound more credible. He's often plain wrong, but he couches it in academic-sounding jargon that really gets those LoGiCal boys going, particularly by sourcing biology and weird animal kingdom facts. Like all the lobster shit he cites. Lobsters have a social hierarchy, therefore they are everywhere don't question it and go make a sandwich, women. Lobsters also pee out of their faces, but hey. Hierarchies. Common ancestors. Chaos and whatnot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:16 AM
1

Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:32 PM
1

I am hoping that more women find FDS and that it has a larger impact on behavior, for sure. When there aren't any more women who let them behave like big whiny babies with no sense of responsibility, maybe things will get better. I mean, serial killers probably won't improve, but for the standard LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:12 PM
2

I am really sorry that your life was impacted by such an awful person. I hope you are healing and that life goes better for you from here on out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:07 PM
2

Not super surprising, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:45 PM
16

Yeah, they always claim it was something else, be it the devil, mommy, anything external. Women apparently made them do these things by existing and being around. Kemper was also buddy buddy with cops, right? Was it some kind of approval thing with him as well? I'll have to read about him again. They're all weirdos, but he's definitely a special boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:19 PM
9

I think that it may have normalized some of what he was doing because he saw other men abusing women without consequence, or even being applauded by other men, for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:15 PM
14

I'm sure it didn't make him a better person by consuming the porn, but I think he would have been a serial killer without porn being a factor. I think that Dr. Dobson led him into the conversation and Bundy was happy for the excuse. It's tough because Focus on the Family and Dobson are incredibly full of shit, so anything done by him/the group is inherently dishonest. It's a whole other level of egotism for someone to swoop in and claim to save a serial killer with their particular "magic." If y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:51 PM
16

Yep! He's just flinging blame anywhere but himself. He didn't need porn to do what he did, he was going to do it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:45 PM
10

Why on earth is this girl making this her job. Mommy porn monitor. Just leave the man to what he wants to do and GTFO. He's not going to get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:27 PM
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While he did "admit" this, it was largely because his last ditch effort to get back in the spotlight by allying himself with a fundamentalist Christian psychologist for an interview. Which could be purchased for $29.99. The psychologist, Dr. Dobson (of Focus on the Family, which is an awful, bigoted organization), went on to use this to promote himself. Both were con men. Porn is still awful and pornsickness is a thing, but there's a chance this could just be yet another manipulation by a serial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:53 PM
5

Ugh, I am so sorry that this happened to you. But yeah, trash took itself out. If some dude is like this, they'll always be indecisive and bumbling, and you'll spend forever cleaning up after them. Also he sounds manipulative as hell, which gets exhausting and tedious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:25 AM
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This x100000. Did it. Once he had me financially trapped he used it against me. He wanted me dependent, but resented it. It set me back by about 3 years as far as career progress and it took a while to get back on track. Always have your own money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:29 PM
2

Yep, they seriously think that. Back in my OLD days, I had one scrote lose his mind at me because he thought that the woman should support the man "no matter what." Even when just starting to date, he believed that she should let him move in immediately and support his bullshit dreams or whatever. No mention of a job, his own income, whatever. I guess we're just supposed to be thankful for their presence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:36 PM
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THIS. All it is is them whining for mommy to solve more of their problems for it. "WHAT ABOUT MEN! Mommy! Come do our work for us to and fix things so they're not as hard for meeeeee." They need to do it their damn selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:35 PM
14

Hahah, I initially read that as "I choose to be a cLOwN girl." Still accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:39 PM
16

Sometimes they won't even listen to that. They pound on my door and hold the bag up all they want, I ain't opening the door. Yes, I see it's food. Please leave it and get the hell off my property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:28 PM
9

Ugh, there was a post on another subreddit where a guy started off on a track about having private spaces that just took a turn got super misogynistic. I think by the end of it he wanted a Catholic men's only space like the "good old days." And I just rolled my eyes and thought, "Yeah right, like you'd ever extend women the same courtesy of leaving them alone to do *anything*."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:06 AM
4

I've also seen it as someone who is a "gardener" is always looking for people they see as helpless flowers, and screw themselves over constantly tending to the needs of someone else while they enjoy the martyrdom of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:15 PM
9

UGH. This and/or "Ask me what you want to know about me. Ask me any questions you have. I'm an open book." Putting all the work back on the woman to drive the conversations and suss out his details...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:14 PM
16

If he hugged her, he might have to see her as a person instead of a thing that he just gets to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:44 PM
2

Or better, see that someone is hurting and in need, and direct them towards help. It's so frustrating. People COULD be forces for good and support, but instead they're exploiting wounded people and harming them further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:34 PM
20

I always imagine those ddlg guys laughing when they find a new target/victim. Like they absolutely cannot believe their luck that someone has fallen for their bullshit, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:27 PM
7

Best of luck to her or whatever, I guess? I've caught glimpses of these women before and it seems like they were indoctrinated into some pretty strict religious leanings. Which, if they want to do that, they're adults, they can do what they want. But the impression I got from them was that it's fine for them to do things like have a channel and push product, but that other women should just shut up and serve. Major Serena Joy vibes. Welp, hope she enjoys being picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:05 PM
1

Heck yeah! I have a few MVM friends who are bonkers about their cats, and they're just super friendly, easy-going fellas. They never blame the cats for doing cat things, just laugh at themselves if they played a little too much or got in the way of a cat being a cat! Compassion for animals is very important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:58 PM
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She couldn't find a guy who wanted a submissive Christian wife... in Texas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:44 PM
10

I think this may change with time as more women just opt out and it becomes more normalized. About half the women I know are unattached, and none of them are actively looking for new partners. No shame about it. Of the rest, maybe twenty percent are happy in rather solid relationships, the rest are unhappy or considering divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:40 PM
14

Hah, he probably reads the amount of the check aloud at the restaurant so everyone knows just what a big rich spending money successman he is. Ugh. Best of luck to the lady in this story, if she exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:02 PM
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Yes, it's weaponized a lot. Can't tell you how many fights I've been privy two where a guy spat that words at his SO. She wasn't GRATEFUL enough for... whatever mediocre thing his ass had done. This guy is also fixated on his wife slobbering all over him in public. Very performative. Yeah, I bet he doesn't mind dropping money to go out and have her soothe his ego. I'm sure it's worth every penny. He shows off his "wealth" and she's required to perform gratefulness the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:08 PM
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Like every other goddamn thing that they lazily want to just happen for them, the magical dick is just inherently a part of them. They didn't have to work for it, it's not that they're sexually skilled or a great partner, they just want to think that a physical part of them is so amazing that women will drop everything to hop on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:57 PM
9

Yes! It's so frustrating! And then hearing many of those women defend it is infuriating. He needs to find himself. His job wasn't fulfilling. He needs a break after working so hard. His boss was so mean!!!111 Now excuse me I have to go do all the housework in addition to my full time job while my little snowflake plays video games and watches porn. All of us would like to have a magical perfectly fulfilling job. I doubt these LVM are picking up all the slack the minute their female partner decid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:25 PM
19

Heck yeah! Any kind of initiative. They have to DO and be able to do something, or they're going to want a gold medal just for being their losery selves while their girlfriend supports them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:07 PM
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LOL, works great in group environments where you can't just remove one guy. I had a dude in a big social circle who was super flirty and touchy until his actual (married) crush would come around, then he'd act like I meant nothing. So I matched that chilly energy and he got incredibly upset. It was awesome. "Why are you being so mean to me????" A lack of flirtation and simple civil, cooler politeness was an affront!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:05 PM
2

Do these dumb dumbs really believe that their buddies are all sexual gods? There's no way XD Yeah, I'm sure she's thrilled to do all the housework in exchange for mediocre minute-long jackhammering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:58 PM
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SO tired of hearing this. Yeah, I endured schooling, and more women than ever are getting advanced degrees. It's not too much to ask that a potential partner has some kind of education and won't be struggling forever in the job market.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:42 PM
11

They sure go from "Babe, this is about trust, if you love me you'll send nudes" to "You made me mad so I'm sharing your nudes, hahahahaa you dumb slut, what did you THINK would happen?" pretty quick. And in between those emotional outbursts, he definitely sent them to a bunch of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:39 PM
7

Yep! Emotional devotion to him above all else. She should just be happy to be there. (This still baffles me, by the way. They want women to genuinely, deeply love them for who they are but are so ready to jump ship. I guess her feelings are just supposed to stop at that point? Or she's supposed to pine forever...?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:30 PM
14

Yep! Women apparently need to freely give themselves to and dote upon men and fulfill all of their emotional needs, but when the guy tires of them for a new model, they need to graciously disconnect themselves and cry just a little as they support his journey. Sad, but the right amount of sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:00 PM
5

"Let's raise a glass to Jake, who graciously plowed me until familial pressure finally set in and he didn't have enough backbone to stave it off. As he told me many times, I'm just a fun girl, not the kind of girl you marry and have a family with. So here's to you, Jake and Susan. From this old whore to his new Madonna, I wish you the best of luck and look forward to getting to know you better through the texts Jake will send me complaining about you after you give birth to his first child. Let'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:34 PM
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I just don't get it. I guess they just get off on making women fearful. It is one of the reasons I'm glad to have found this place, though. No one's going to tell me that I was overreacting or that it was just boys being boys or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:19 AM
3

He can only communicate properly while strolling in a field! I mean, he'll be winded because he works out 'sometimes,' but I promise you he'll shine in a totally safe (isolated) place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:18 PM
10

UGH, this. What the hell do they think the women will get out of it? Like her time isn't being totally wasted? What's she supposed to do, wave him happily off to his nuptials? "Oh well, there goes the guy that called me when he was horny for four years, all I wish for him is the best, totes not mad. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:15 PM
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Absolutely. Even a late night Target run. Was going back to my car and there was a cluster of dudes lurking outside the door. Once I set foot in the parking lot, of them said "That's the kind of bitch I want to rape." So out to car quickly with keys between knuckles, doors locked, sped off. And of course, in hindsight, they were waiting for the bus. So thankfully, they couldn't follow me. But that has to just be intimidation, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:31 PM
25

Conversely, dudes who love cats and get all giddy about them are. A. adorable, and B. Usually pretty decent dudes. Even if not dateable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:27 PM
13

Can't start my day right at 2 PM if I'm not using homophobic slurs at a bunch of tweens, amirite? NO CRUSTS ON THE SANDWICH. You're lucky to have me. ... every time I'm about to sign back up for OLD, FDS sets me straight, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:11 PM
1

Oh yeah, it's not that scrotes are that stupid. It's a very calculated effort to not put forth any effort, and then laughing at the poor woman who's stuck cleaning up after him. Because otherwise, she'll just have to do everything twice. Unfortunately, there's a pasture of pick me's ready to swoop in and scrub those skid marks. If they had to do it themselves, they'd figure it out or just decompose in their own filth. Either way, no woman is getting dragged down with them in those scenarios.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:08 PM
14

Is this just nature removing people at this point? If you can't brush your teeth or wipe your ass, is it just speeding up the demise of the unwashed so that their resources can be returned to the flock? When these elite unwashed alpha wolves perish of some extremely preventable infection, those resources can be reallocated to the offspring of those with clean buttholes. Science will have to inquire further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:54 PM
2

It's got to be the bro points, right? Like he knows better than to say this shit in front of women. His friends are awful, they think it's funny, they're all awful together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:34 PM
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I was listening to a podcast that was discussing 80's/90's cartoons recently. The women who were hosting came to the epiphany that they didn't like women growing up/thought women were stupid and awful because any female character in media was written by men who hated women. This very much hits the same note.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:19 PM
6

Seriously! I'm guessing that it comes down to any and all cleaning being women's work in their eyes, since he's bragging to his little bros about how he's crazy like a fox and those dumb broads will just flutter in to clean up baby's oopsie. Except baby is 35 and this shit ain't cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:17 PM
11

People seem to think that they deserve an essay for closure's sake. It's way better for one's mental health to interpret ghosting as the equivalent of "Meh, just not feeling it," and move on. Block, bye, done. Otherwise, like in this, it just gives someone the opportunity to plead their case forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:13 PM
20

It's not like doing laundry is that difficult, either, just *slightly* time consuming to finish up. He's not scrubbing it by hand! He's putting it in a machine and letting it do all the washing! It's that hard to read the back of the jug/bag of pods?! Seriously, the least he can do is use two machines and learn to fold, UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:03 PM
3

Soooo this is just their way of saying that they fully intend to murder you, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:14 PM
0

Libfem message is "having it all," despite that being a very difficult if not impossible standard. We're not a monolith, we don't have to agree on everything. People can do as they wish. I wish them the best and for them to be awesome, financially stable, emotionally healthy people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:57 PM
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Yeah, I guess you're right on that one. I don't have any need to have bio kids, either. So choosing donor sperm is very confusing if you don't have that drive to physically procreate in order have kids that you'll have less support with. But as you said (and is echoed continually on this sub)... the wrong man is definitely worse than none at all. Pregnancy is no joke, either. There is always the risk in bringing that child into the world solo that you'll be seriously injured or die, particularly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:33 AM
1

"Also having a donor kid just means I’m raising some man’s kid without him doing anything so I don’t really see how it’s so much better or some power move" Yeah, agree. I see that a lot on here and I'm not sure why it's such a common thread? Donor sperm? Why? It is a "I'll show them!" sort of thing...? Take THAT, Patriarchy! I'm raising someone else's kids while they count the money they made donating sperm and thinking they're king shit. How do you know what kind of person this was aside from a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:47 PM
1

Yep! And they never seem to stop to think, "Wait, he definitely wouldn't do any of that for me..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:09 PM
3

Honestly, I probably chased off some HVM with my former libfem tendencies. And my wallet was lighter for it, so... yep. Back to the handbook, lol. I don't think I've actually ever had anyone push to pay 50/50, but I may be older than a lot of the ladies here. It was always me doing so because I had a good job and wanted to show them that I wouldn't be a burden. Got nothing for it but some decent leftovers. The food. Not the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:59 AM
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Oh, she fucked up her life by chasing him. Changed schools to be with him, changed her major, supported him financially while he "found himself" for years, was a forever girlfriend until she was almost aggressively ready to break up with him and start a new life... then he did a HUGE public engagement and she was back in love love loooove. Constant fighting. Constant martyrdom. Constant whining about how gross he was but OH LOOK A RING and OH GOD ALMOST 30!!!!! They are now divorced and she hopp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:39 PM
1

Hence why I said, "that they don't find attractive." Or at least that they don't advertise that they find attractive, as indicated by the "perfect" blonde 14-year-old tradwife they claim to want. They'd still chase the woman on the left, of course. She's just not going to give them the time of day. They keep recycling people from old memes that they want to decry as not being up to their immaculate standards of white, natural hair-color (though the more Aryan the better), thin, young. They don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:27 PM
3

There's a reason they keep posting Big Red yeaaaaars after the video in which she appears was posted. It MUST be just this one type of woman that they don't find attractive (but would definitely hit on were it a possibility).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:11 PM
48

Always think about it in third person, like as if another friend is telling you this. And if you would roll your eyes or get disgusted by a friend being in this relationship, bounce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:05 PM
153

Absolutely. I had a (now ex) friend who was always on the brink of leaving her slob of a boyfriend/then husband. He was depressing, didn't wash his dick or asshole, and lived in cargo pants. And every six months like clockwork, he'd do a big grand gesture for her, she'd be smitten, and then he'd smugly go back to being a lazy turd until the next time she started talking about leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:02 PM
33

So does she want to know when he slides back into the DMs of all the women she's shitting on, or nah? Also, the incongruity of first image and text is... a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:29 AM
27

I think it's usually that they're married or have a gf OR kids they "forgot" to tell you about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:48 PM
2

The thing is, they'd probably also be happier with themselves if they did admit they needed to improve... and did so! I'm sure they DO feel like shit being in terrible shape with bad hygiene, a job they hate (if they have one at all) and a lack of positive, truly reciprocal relationships. Hating yourself SUCKS. I'm sure it's miserable. But that doesn't mean that anyone else has to put up with these dudes who are still in their larval stage at 35.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:36 PM
11

Crusty butts for hetero, bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:52 PM
8

Doesn't stop at teen years, either. I'm friends with a couple (mostly the wife, I tolerate the husband.) who have a young daughter, and the dude once sent me nude pictures of all his exes. His wife wasn't thrilled, but wasn't that upset, either? I knew these women from running in the same work circles. Like... dude, really? I didn't ask for these. So he has their nudes from over a decade ago and isn't shy about handing them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:29 PM
9

Not only dangerous to give birth, but a higher chance of creating a child that won't be able to care for themselves in adulthood, mature mentally/emotionally, or leave the nest. More power to people who have disabled kids and do their best to take care of them, but that's a very intense life. Most people who have kids are imagining about the best possible health outcomes when they do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:18 PM
9

I wonder if they'd actually take advice from a woman, though? If they're this far gone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:32 PM
8

Same. I always have 20's and 5's in my wallet ready to go, eye up the bill, drop the cash, and leave if it gets weird. Usually they fuss about how no no nonoooo, they've totally got it. LOL, later loser, I'm back to my car and out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:19 PM
66

Yeah, why is this a thing? Why are women buying something so that a dude can ignore her more? Or is that the point? Can they not afford their own consoles? Is... is that what it is? Mommy has to go buy baby a toy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:56 PM
4

Seriously! The narrative of "Oh honey, he'll fall in love with the baby when it gets here and suddenly be a whole different person than you dated/lived with/married" needs to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:53 PM
14

Why do I always know there's going to be an age gap...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:51 PM
49

Hey, don't be so tough on yourself! You blocked and deleted rather than pined forever, and that got a lot of your time back! Things will keep getting better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:08 PM
9

So I read this wrong at first and thought it said "Women are terrorized by 5'3" toddlers" Cuz a good number of short dudes have the propensity to throw tantrums so often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:56 PM
13

Seriously. There are plenty of ladies who ALSO see spending luxury amounts of money on one day as a huge waste, especially in the present economy. He can find someone with that outlook. However, pricier weddings do not signal a longer lasting marriage ... but TAKE. THAT. HONEYMOON! https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480 Having worked in three portions (Pro photos, events/venue, $5,000 Pillsbury cakes/cupcake towers/cookies galore) of the wedding industry, you're getting hust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:38 PM
17

Was just talking about this yesterday with a buddy! We have friends who have slipped into sex work from time to time and it's not because they just had a whim. Shit needed to be paid for. Or they stayed with boyfriends/pimps because they knew they'd never get enough money at their low income jobs or while on disability to pay for anything... Substance abuse of some stripe to cope across the board. Even 1k a month would probably pay for a little apartment (in our small area) and some groceries. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:44 PM
3

"I have no idea why all the well-groomed women in fitted, high-end clothing and a full face of makeup are ignoring you, lil' buddy. High maintenance, am I right?" Hahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:19 PM
14

"What fine cargo pants and stained game shit you have on, good sir! You are the pinnacle of style!" It's no use to fuckin help them, either. I had a friend who whined about not knowing what to wear, and another lady and I took the day off to take him shopping, get him coupons, all that. He looked pretty good when we were done (he had no idea what size he was and was wearing poorly fitted... pokemon... shirts... and cargo pants)! He got tons of complements on his new attire, but gave it up after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:22 PM
2

Being controlling is shitty and bad. But, I'd be pretty floored if my partner of either gender announced that they were donating genetic material. It's a HUGE life decision, to bring someone else into the world who may seek you out some day. She has every right to do what she wants with her body. He should have just broken up with her on the spot rather than demanding she change for him. Good on her for dumping him if their goals are not aligned and he won't just suck it up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:17 PM
-2

I don't know about that one. I'd dump the shit out of any guy I was dating who gleefully told me he was donating sperm. I don't need some kid coming into the picture 13-whatever years from now deciding they want to know the parent/donor that was absent their whole life. You do you, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:39 PM
6

Don't do it if you don't want to be a single mom. Because that's always a big possibility. How many women on here right now are posting collages of things like "custody agreement" and this kids with them rather than some dude who's just not that into it? Plenty. Please read Break ing Mom here before you do this... particularly if you're doing it FOR him. Better never to have them then to have them for a dude who may not be there in the future. But if YOU want kids no matter what, then... well, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:33 PM
10

Seriously. It's a more worrisome existence, but also a new awareness. And thus, new tactics to deal with things rather than throwing yourself back into the meatgrinder over and over again and expecting different results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:37 PM
13

It is possible... but very rare. And if they do find a female partner, there's a good chance you're no longer going to have the same friendship, or any at all. YMMV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:13 PM
10

And most of the dudes were obvious LVM to begin with! "My husband, who did nothing but play video games and watch porn when I met him and showed no interest in raising a family, did not change upon the arrival of DS or DD, and now it feels like I have three kids, :( :( :(" It's so depressing. Can't change a turd into gold, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:22 PM
5

This is why I get salty when people bash the use of the word "queen." Women manage the whole kingdom of the household and everyone's goddamn emotional labor and are then expected to be thankful they got a shitty ring (MAYBE) and should shut up about it and serve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:14 PM
17

SERIOUSLY! People act like babies just "happen!" OH WELL, HAHA. Dudes are NOT reliable with birth control. It's gonna be all on the ladies to sort out and really... is mediocre LVM dick with the risk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:12 PM
9

Yep. It's all projection. Neutering their dog would be another blow to their fragile masculinity. A confident person does what's best for their pets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:26 AM
10

UGH. SO many dudes care way too much about their dogs' balls. They don't think it's manly to have a snipped pet. I guess another red flag to add to the pile... Fix. Those. Pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:06 AM
14

Eh, shitty dog owners are a red flag and a sign of assholes in general (THEIR dog doesn't need to be on a leash, THEIR dog can get in your face, but if it gets into trouble it's clearly the other person's fault because their wayward pet surely wasn't a huge fucking liability), but if you are a fellow dog person, it's pretty great. The best relationships of my life have been with guys who show non-performative compassion for animals. Which I suppose is the difference. A dude who is big on making …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:03 AM
6

Yeah, it was one of those situations where I'm sure he would have pulled the "But you never asked!" card if I'd brought it up. Well yeah, dude, didn't think you'd be out dating when your wife's corpse is still warm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:58 PM
20

Had a guy do this to me after his wife had died. He kept talking about how she wanted him to move on, and I assumed it had been something like 2 years. NOPE. She'd been dead for 58 days. Found that out after the third date and a bit of Googling. He was trashed when I showed up for dinner because he'd gotten there early and started drinking, then tried to get me to drive him home because he was wasted and just wanted to "cuddle." SO yeah. Get the death certificate if you have to, dammit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:54 PM
3

Jesus, this. So many dudes just have the mattress on the floor. Instant NOOOOPE. Always the same guys who answer the door in nothing but a towel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:18 AM
2

Yeah, I have no idea what he thought was going to happen...? Apparently the adulation of his fellow dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:21 PM
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