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Yeeesh. Glad I haven't run into that type yet. (But at least it would be something different?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:30 PM
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Again, as with a lot of things on FDS, these are things I thought were just the particular dudes I was talking to, but no. "Boring af" seems to be the dominant personality type. Video games, coffee, and once you get to know them and they're more comfortable, porn. Hell, even the porn they watch is boring. I played along one time like "Ooh I like role play! What's a scenario you like?" and he honestly answered "A cute guy who likes video games" and a "*my job title*". When even your sexting is bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:31 PM
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This is sort of short-circuiting my brain, so I'm choosing to believe that it's fake. Hoping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:06 PM
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One of the most useful things about this sub is that it lets us see that they aren't that different from one another. Look at the responses here (and in many threads) - they're all women saying "Oh shit, that happened to me too." Well, this EXACT THING happened to me. Lovebombing, intimacy, long conversations, deep connections...but it was all just a facade covering up a pornsick, vidya addicted, insecure manchild who was merely looking for an ego boost and some warm holes. He just had to play g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:35 PM
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This sub is causing an awakening. Good for you, good for women. So say we all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:32 PM
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And the thing is that he truly believed these horrible things from his past made him more deserving of having a good woman come "fix" him. I mean, there were tears and everything. Man, that dude did a number on me. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:22 PM
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AH, shit. I never put together the sob story thing. Terrible childhood, trying to escape that white trash upbringing, rise above his station bullshit. And I 100% bought it, thinking he trusted me enough to open up to me because I was special. God what a dumbass I was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:10 AM
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The height thing is so weird, because I truly don't care about a man's height. I was chatting with a guy I was dating, and he casually mentioned that he was exactly 6' tall. I didn't even have to be on my tiptoes to hug this dude, and I'm 5'5". I laughed because I thought it was a joke, he did not laugh at all. Oops. and to keep it on topic: fuck off, rob. You're a sad, strange little man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:47 PM
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I had a close male friend who decided to torpedo a love interest of mine by saying the other guy was "destined for greatness" and that I would be holding him back. He honestly tried to neg me into thinking that I wasn't good enough for the one guy, so he himself could take his shot. Have male friends if you want, but never ever forget that they all want to get in your pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:42 AM
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I did this exact thing, and I my dood loves me more than and LVM dude ever did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:46 PM
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Ha, why am I not shocked that women here love that movie? Florence Pugh's smile at the end... *chef's kiss*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:17 AM
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Good for you. Come here and read through the posts when you're feeling sad. It helps so much to keep perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 09:45 PM
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So what's crazy about discovering this sub and comparing notes - LVM are ALL THE SAME. I was seeing this guy after a very LTR, and all of these things happened with him that women here talk about, right down to the "come over and cuddle?" Every night it was "come cuddle with me." And ladies, I have to admit that I didn't see that one for what it was, and was like "aww, he wants to snuggle." Sure he did, after doing whatever depraved shit he'd seen on Pornhub that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 09:30 PM
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"I feel like even decent men will take you for granted, and slowly but surely, treat you less than" Saying this louder, for those in the back. With comfort levels and time, this is something that creeps into most relationships, and is pernicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:41 PM
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- Pornified sex needs: Wanting to ejaculate on your face, wanting a lot of anal-related stuff, choking, non-consent, overly-rough fingering, etc, and then playing it off as "just having a dominant personality" if you mention you're uncomfortable with it - Instead of not being able to get hard, can be not able to orgasm. It took me a long while to put together why this guy would be sooooo insanely into sex, yet not be able to get off. (I of course decided it was my fault and I wasn't good enough)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:47 PM
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Obsession with anal goes hand in hand with the rise of internet pornography. Not that people didn't do it before, but(t) it's so common and expected even in vanilla porn men feel entitled to it. The constant demand for it and things related ended my last relationship, one that I thought was built on love. Apparently it was built on ass. For a while my mantra became "I am more than my butthole."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:21 PM
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For my own sanity I'm choosing to believe this profile is elaborate performance art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:18 AM
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They watch pornhub from dusk until dawn then whine that women don't turn them on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:04 AM
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Agreed. And it's also a good way to ascertain a guy's personality. My ex HATED ALL ANIMALS, which should have been a red flag in itself - who hates animals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:11 PM
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Awww. Your story was so sad, then so happy. What a good boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:09 PM
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Besides needing to go walk when it's super cold outside, there's not much downside! So give that good doggo the credit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:08 PM
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Cats are great because they "choose" you. I remember having a skittish cat when I was kid, and when she'd hop up on the bed when I was reading and curl up, it always felt very special and cozy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:07 PM
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I have had low low times, and there is just something about the positivity of a dog that is therapeutic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:05 PM
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It's something the incel herd was going on about for a while. It showed a lot about what goes on in their heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:04 PM
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Aww. Good guy Frank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:01 PM
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Exactly! Nothing but love and positivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:54 AM
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Oh, I'm sorry. What a good kitty though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:53 AM
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This is how I end up with a menagerie, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:52 AM
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Will do. She's right here. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:51 AM
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Her needing to be outside and get exercise was what helped. I HAD to go out, I HAD to be active, even if I really didn't feel like it. Chinchillas are the cutest, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:00 AM
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I think it belongs here because I see a lot of posts where women are trying to find ways to deal with/get over traumatic, demeaning relationships. This was how I got over mine. I obviously know that my dog is not a substitute for a human. She's a companion who is a relentlessly positive influence in my life and I thought it might help others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:58 PM
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Oh yes! I meant to say any pet that shows affection. Cats are wonderful and I sometimes wonder how my dog would handle one. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:55 PM
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Y'all are intent on making the IncelTears board explode. XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:02 PM
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And remember that "No response is a response" works for you, too. You're not obligated to engage with someone *at all* if there's nothing in it for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 02:12 PM
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Yes, this happened to me as well. I went 0-100 with my high school boyfriend, fantasizing about marrying him, etc. Turned out terribly, of course. Many years later, I still have that trauma, and I wish it were instead memories of hanging out with my girlfriends. (Sorry for the late reply, I've been internet-less for a few days)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:19 PM
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These are all so important. I think most of them have been touched on except that other women are sisters, not competition. I'll definitely be adding that! (Sorry for the late reply, I've been internet-less for a few days)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:18 PM
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Right. They know what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:14 AM
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I'll order that! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:14 AM
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I'll order those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:14 AM
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I tell her this too- strengthen your bonds with female friends. They'll have your back. And the summer those friendships are, the easier it is for them to collectively watch out for each other. Herd immunity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:13 AM
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Yes. That putting yourself first isn't selfish; it's imperative. I wish I'd learned so much younger to not conflate sexual attention with actual interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:07 AM
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I mean, she wasn't wrong wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:04 AM
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This is a really great one. And not something women, and certainly not girls, talk about much. We just go around assuming we're freaks if we don't look like the women in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:03 AM
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That's a great one. That real bodies don't look/act like the ones in mainstream porn. And yes, the manipulation of "can't live without you, you're my happiness" is hard to deal with, even if you're older (I've definitely fallen into this one)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:00 AM
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Oh good one! Hopefully some of these tips will help them pick the good guys in high school, ones that aren't jerks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:56 AM
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Right. And navigating how to behave as you're going through those teen years is difficult anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:53 AM
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Right. I think we've mostly been taking about their emotionally safety, but definitely their physical safety too! And letting than know how to spot manipulation techniques and shoot then down, even if they have to do it multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:41 AM
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Wow, go mom! That story about your daughter's first date - that's what I want to get these girls to feel comfortable doing. She knows her worth. We are fairly open about discussing most things in the house (like googling lyrics and calling out misogynistic behaviors) but there are some more inappropriate behaviors that are often discussed on this sub that we want to sit the girls down and spell out. And I think the moms all feel like we can't do that around younger siblings and digital distracti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 08:02 PM
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We always keep an open dialogue about socialization techniques and media. (Hell, when I found out I was pregnant the first book I bought was "Parenting Well in a Media Age") Noticing sexist messaging and calling it out is so important - it teaches kids to be ever wary. I'll add it to the ever-growing list of topics for this - I know all the girls are aware of it, but it's always good to remind them where pressures and expectations are coming from (and that there's often $$ behind it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:56 PM
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Absolutely. And it is so shoved down our throats from birth that we are nothing without a man. And the rant I could write about emotional labor in relationships...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:34 PM
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Hell yes. Self esteem is such a major component of this - I can't believe I didn't lead with it. That's why I wanted input, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:26 PM
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Those are all good! I so wish I'd known that it was OKAY to say no to advances - we as women are so socialized to not rock the boat or make a scene. And as far as pictures, yes, it's important to let them know that IF they mess up (which we all have in some way or another) that there are ways to handle it. And yes, to telling their friends. There are lots of her friends whose parents would not ever ever allow this open conversation, but it's just as important that those girls know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:26 PM
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Oh that's a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:22 PM
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