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passifluora/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 02:23 PM
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I agree with you, probably because I love discussions about values and abstract things. But also because I think "enforced agreement" is a hallmark of toxic femininity, and it's our job to check ourselves as to whether we're actually maintaining harmony or suppressing important discussions. I felt like my mom had my whole family complying with the opinions/interests she thought were acceptable and even today I find myself afraid and unsure of how to relate to her as an adult. Parents also model …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 09:46 PM
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Yeah, I think the RP discourse is finally coming full-circle, as with most things in life. We cannot deny that the "blue pill" encompassed the feel-good platitudes men would hear from their moms growing up: about how being average is enough and nice boys should just find nice girls to settle down with. Then, the "red pill" became the observation that women want to be emotionally stimulated and you can't logic your way into a woman's pants. The variety of angles taken by RP men over the years on …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 06:08 PM
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Thanks for the explanation! Lately I've been reading things with an eye for whether gender dynamics are a distraction from economic dynamics (for example) or vice versa. But even if "everything is about sex, except for sex (which is about power)" were true, what you wrote here would still hold true. That is to say, power dynamics and culture also have their root in gendered lived experiences, even if embodied by both men and women.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/26 11:03 PM
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I don't take issue with the idea itself - In fact, it's right on several fronts. When it asserted that Christianity is a female religion and Islam is a male religion I balked a bit. Just pointing out a more parsimonious explanation (from my POV). I enjoyed reading it.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/26 10:54 PM
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Is this the long way of saying that "might makes right?" Or that peaceful/decadent societies will always be overtaken by violent/desperate societies? And once the violent/desperate societies enrich themselves, they become peaceful and decadent? Does this have to be broken down into male/female "essences," other than the fact that women are inherently more vulnerable to martial violence?
/r/TheRedPill05/01/26 04:46 PM
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the opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy. If something get a rise out of someone, it's likely to inspire both hate and lust! I keep observing it everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:20 PM
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what about other long-term domestic sacrifices? would you want your wife working as hard as you to remain independent and spend less time and emotional energy flexibly putting out fires so that you can enter tunnel vision or playing a supportive role in other ways? that is why I would want to marry even if not having children. it helps both partners sacrifice for the new relationship "unit"
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 06:24 AM
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I met my partner a year ago, when I was about to finish my second to last year of my PhD and head into summer. Before him, I had an "efficient"/symbiotic relationship with another grad student that was almost sexless. Before that, and overlapping, I had a bit of a drinking problem. Both "worked" in a way, but the grad student relationship was doomed and unsatisfying. On the flip side, a relationship with my future husband (I think I can say?) might not have survived. That's an idea I have mourne…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 01:12 AM
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Wow you are an inspiration! I totally feel you on removing the burden of expectation. I already lifted expectations from myself when I realized I can't enjoy a PhD and be outcome-dependent, but other people do have expectations of me and trying to dance around them can be exhausting. Do you have any advice on how to try your best, conserve energy, and keep giving?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 06:29 PM
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After reading some of these comments, I thought I'd just chime in knowing that I don't have any specific behaviors to draw attention to - but it's a question about mindset anyways. One way of calibrating yourself might be adhering to "the long view," which is sometimes a naturally exciting way of looking forward to the future and sometimes a conscious decision. Think about your shared wants and any "first times" you have left to experience and break them down into more intermediary steps. Maybe …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 04:08 PM
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That makes sense, thanks for clarifying.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 10:43 PM
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maybe! On the other hand, I was raised pretty moderate and the fact that the Nordic model is hard to compare to the USA goes both ways. I'm a strong institutionalist and believe in government safety nets, public education, and healthcare disentangled from profession.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 05:10 PM
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maybe!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 05:04 PM
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Same! I live in the USA but I inherited Scandinavian values. I believe that all genders should have access to the cutting edge of medical care, including those that enable alternative lifestyles that religious people disapprove of. Politics can't roll back scientific progress. I also believe that men and women should have the right to survive on their own should they leave an abusive relationship - that includes social safety nets, disentangling medical care from one's profession, and fixing the…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 04:26 PM
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I'm liberal (for an American) and echo what others have written here - my main conservative value is restraint. Since the line between indulgence and restraint is so personal and individual, it doesn't factor into my politics. I've been this way my whole life and my parents are the same. I was raised in a family with Scandinavian values (like another commenter here). My parents were atheist and lightly socially conservative - I could have been more rebellious, but their nuanced views felt health…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 04:09 PM
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You sound like a great mom and house manager with a growth mindset. The fact that you are capable of achieving streaks of of self-sustaining vitality is already really admirable from my perspective! It sounds like your life is well on track and it sounds like you respect yourself enough to look your imperfections head-on! I am in a different life stage than you (younger maybe? nearly 30 and living separately from my partner until I can move in after my PhD) but I had a male roommate when I first…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 09:14 PM
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You sound like a great mom and house manager with a growth mindset. The fact that you are capable of achieve streaks of of self-sustaining vitality is already really admirable from my perspective! It sounds like your life is well on track and it sounds like you respect yourself enough to look your imperfections head-on! I am in a different life stage than you (nearly 30 and living separately from my partner until I can move in after my PhD) but I had a male roommate when I first moved here who w…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 08:54 PM
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anecdotally, I found it helpful to shine a flashlight on body/sexuality taboos and think about them sequentially, starting from the outer crust of taboos that you privately feel squeemish about but can't understand why you're a minority. Then as you get more comfortable with even just identifying why you still don't like something, you can explore your beliefs about increasingly taboo ideas. I was lucky enough to have inherited some academic books from my grandma which is how I got this anecdote…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 09:51 PM
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It's not baked into RP theory, just a general observation about society! You don't have to agree with society's definitions, but it's a form of "mental housekeeping" to at least think about where you stand on what makes a man or a woman successful in society. What qualifies someone as a loser? Is someone a loser if they can't take care of themselves? What are the exceptions? What is a reasonable excuse to not work, in your opinion? What counts as disability? There are no objective answers to the…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/24 09:55 PM
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It's interesting how that definition of respect as "businesslike" is also a description of disrespect because it's a refusal to engage fully... Just like in the act of sex itself. The analog would be "dissociating to last as long as possible out of misguided selflessness." The other extreme is jackhammering which I honestly prefer to the repetitive & dissociated style. But they both are disconnected. The actual answer is somewhere in the middle and is the courage to focus on your own pleasure, t…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/24 09:31 PM
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interesting how the definition of respect as "businesslike" is also a description of disrespect because it's a refusal to engage fully! Just like the act of sex itself. I honestly feel the most respected when a man is emotionally engaged with me during sex, which includes attention to his own pleasure and to mine. When it's only one or the other, I feel like I'm being "interfaced with."
/r/TheRedPill04/09/24 09:23 PM
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just jumping in because you're thoughtfully riding out the different phases... something you can consider is dispensing with the gendered stuff but retaining the winners/losers dichotomy to keep exploring your anger. You can acknowledge that "losers" (people you perceive that way OR people who perceive themselves that way) are likely to exploit "winners," and then move through the anger without creating such a big mental bias against every woman. Then once you've acknowledged that male and femal…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/24 08:58 PM
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Yes. Just think about it: wouldn't you want someone you date to be excited to be part of your life? If not, they could be with anyone willing to slot into theirs. What does "being part of your life" mean? Does it stand on its own or has it been a series of shared lives with irrelevant men?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/24 01:54 PM
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Yeah, it's too bad... I felt we were showing up authentically, but there were so many factors conspiring against me and the people I dated previously and so many factors that had to line up for this relationship to happen. So basically this is a masturbatory (hehe) level of hindsight bias. But also -surprise?- the manifold of factors that lined up this time around fit the RP description of under what personal circumstances and with whom a man wants to settle down. As for my younger years... I do…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 07:14 PM
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Thank you! I appreciate your perspective and way of formulating it from everything of yours I've read! I'm pretty sure I have a tiny clitoral glans, so I need a combo of vibrator + PIV (for the internal anatomy, the chemistry, and the freedom to receive). That's why frustrated and insecure men just trying to stimulate me wasn't working. I also didn't have money for a nice vibrator in college, and guys weren't always used to the idea of one. I also got diagnosed with ADHD right before meeting my …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 03:49 PM
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I respect JBP's work on personality psychology and intuitively like this division, but want to offer a better accepted alternative in the form of the most recently revised version of the 5-factor model, currently called the NEO-PI-R: https://www.sapa-project.org/blogs/NEOmodel.html it looks like politeness would be captured by the "compliance" subdomain! In the end it's just people deciding what label to slap on that tendency, but I'm drawn to field standards
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 02:30 AM
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Yes and no; the "point" was for women to not have to rely on a man they wouldn't choose if their survival didn't depend on it... therefore, those men weed themselves out now that more women provide for themselves. Even if youre a progressive guy, you cant use feminism to talk your way into a relationship, or not for long.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:54 PM
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