passingnotes26 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Need somebody to tell me to not text this girl who has left me on read multiple times… I think that’s for the best!	/r/seduction	29/11/21 05:32 AM
6	Need somebody to tell me to not text this girl who has left me on read multiple times… Ugh that’s so rude. Sorry you had to deal with that.	/r/seduction	29/11/21 03:43 AM
38	Need somebody to tell me to not text this girl who has left me on read multiple times… Your dopamine loop is tricking you into being addicted to her. Look up intermittent reward schedules.	/r/seduction	28/11/21 11:32 PM
2	[deleted by user] If you Google him he was the last male contestant on the Bachelor. The show is stupid but his outfits are not.	/r/seduction	28/11/21 02:53 AM
2	[deleted by user] Anything that Matt James wears 🥰	/r/seduction	28/11/21 02:26 AM
2	music/youtube channel for home date? Lo fi hip hop!	/r/seduction	28/11/21 12:53 AM
7	The reason women love men who appear somewhat disinterested in them As a woman I agree that excessive attention feels overwhelming… and it’s not that I take it as a guy being insecure, but rather un-self-aware, a love bomber, or a disingenuous extrovert. If a guy were to talk to me in a thoughtful way, like ask me questions about myself, laugh with me, hold eye contact… 🥵 just be confident but in a quiet easygoing way.	/r/seduction	27/11/21 08:17 PM
3	went to some dates, it is clear that there is mutual attraction but nothing comes from it First I think it’s amazing that you’re so respectful and patient. Women often feel pressure to get physical quickly, and sometimes the regret of doing that too fast will ruin the relationship (or “situationship”). So as a woman I wanna say thanks for not forcing this girl into something she wasn’t ready for yet. She’s clearly attracted to you so that’s a good thing! I would kiss her first, like in a romantic moment or at the end of your next date. Let the physical part progress in an organic way…	/r/seduction	26/11/21 08:03 PM
2	Why do you think some guys just seem to naturally figure out how to talk to girls and attract them, or just naturally learn and figure out the game at a very young age, but many just sadly never figure it out, or don't figure it out until late in life? Most of the female education that men receive from a very young age is toxic, polarizing, or just inaccurate. Men are taught to objectify women as objects of control, always trying to force an outcome or manipulate her feelings to match theirs, and if that outcome isn’t achieved, men are made to believe they’re “inferior”. So the options are to either dominate a woman / make her feel something for you, or internalize shame that you weren’t able to do it. Ive heard so many younger boys worry abou…	/r/seduction	26/11/21 07:46 PM
1	Why do you think some guys just seem to naturally figure out how to talk to girls and attract them, or just naturally learn and figure out the game at a very young age, but many just sadly never figure it out, or don't figure it out until late in life? Wow. Yeah.	/r/seduction	26/11/21 07:34 PM
1	[deleted by user] So excited for you!!	/r/seduction	26/11/21 03:25 PM
2	It isn't about the success of approaching, it's knowing you can approach whomever with ease I love you	/r/seduction	26/11/21 03:25 PM
1	How to Breakup / End Things Amicably with Girls So much respect for you - the ghosting, the slow fade, bread crumbing… all awful, toxic behaviors we need to stop. This post gives me more hope that we can. People who use cop outs like “you don’t owe anyone anything” or “we all do it” are just trying to avoid discomfort by intentionally lacking maturity or empathy. You clearly have both of those in large supply so thank you for changing the system and giving others a way to do so as well.	/r/seduction	26/11/21 03:10 PM
5	Signs that I am attractive? I’m a woman and I endorse this message	/r/seduction	26/11/21 06:21 AM
1	What would you do if you’re dating a girl and she starts to play like a psychoanalyst on you? Therapist in training here, and this person sounds extremely toxic and emotionally manipulative. I’m so so sorry you had to encounter her. Please drop her immediately bc these types of people thrive on controlling or damaging others.	/r/seduction	25/11/21 09:28 PM
1	What to do if i make eye contact with my crush? Ohhh yes great idea 👏🏽	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:33 PM
2	42 year old virgin looking for opinions from women I’m a therapist in training and I endorse this message	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:28 PM
1	What to do if i make eye contact with my crush? That’s so annoyingly small, haha. Wish you didn’t have to deal with that. What if you organize a group outing and include that girl? So you can interact in a group setting as friends?	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:27 PM
-1	What to do if i make eye contact with my crush? That’s so fucked up, I’m really sorry you have to deal with that! Like rejection itself is already stressful, and to add bullying to that… I’m so sorry. 🥺 I get why this would be so hard for you. Why are people such assholes at your school? Is it just a really small class so everyone is in everyone’s business?	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:24 PM
0	What to do if i make eye contact with my crush? I totally hear you. Rejection is really scary and painful. I was so awkward in high school that when I did try (esp as a girl which is terrifying) I got rejected constantly by guys. But over time and with therapy I realized that the threat of rejection is more of a numbers game than a reflection of me. People aren’t rejecting me because I suck… they’re rejecting me because I’m not their personal preference, just like you might not be personally attracted to other girls in your class who might th…	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:18 PM
2	What to do if i make eye contact with my crush? Well first of all pls don’t say pussy 🥺 you came from one so it would be nice to respect them haha. Second if you guys are making eye contact that’s a great sign! Means she’s open. I also get super nervous with crushes but feel supremely confident around anyone else, haha. Can you ask her about something random, or smile, or ask her to go on a walk? I know that feels scary but if you’ve made eye contact multiple times it means shes down to be approached.	/r/seduction	25/11/21 06:08 PM
2	Vulnerability is not being weak or soft, but rather being strong enough to deal with the consequences of exposing your true self, thoughts or feelings. I’m so happy you enjoyed it! It’s amazing how much commonality can be found in toxic childhoods. I think it says a lot about your openness as a person that you were willing to listen to such a different identity than your own, and even note times in your past when you exhibited destructive behaviors (we’ve all done them, but not all of us can be that self aware). I also had a male friend tell me he felt really validated by another podcast episode, “Do We Really Want Men to Be Vulnerable?” On the…	/r/seduction	25/11/21 09:23 AM
1	Has anyone left a good long term relationship because they felt like they didn't mess around enough/their body count is too low? Yes 🙌🏼 😂	/r/seduction	24/11/21 09:21 PM
3	Vulnerability is not being weak or soft, but rather being strong enough to deal with the consequences of exposing your true self, thoughts or feelings. I just found a podcast through Tik Tok called the Man Enough podcast. It’s a podcast specifically for men that provides healthy dialogue and anti-toxic-masculinity advice for stuff. I haven’t listened to all of it but there were some really great episodes I saw just skimming through it. I’d be curious to hear your thoughts!	/r/seduction	24/11/21 03:29 PM
2	Vulnerability is not being weak or soft, but rather being strong enough to deal with the consequences of exposing your true self, thoughts or feelings. Yessss. Love the idea of modeling and making it safe.	/r/seduction	24/11/21 03:27 PM
4	Vulnerability is not being weak or soft, but rather being strong enough to deal with the consequences of exposing your true self, thoughts or feelings. I’m so happy to hear this! And you’re absolutely right about vulnerability not always being treated with respect or gentleness, in both male and female circles. I appreciate that you still try despite that. I also highly recommend the “Lovers and Friends” podcast episode, Do We Really Want Vulnerable Men? I think you might find some helpful insights and validation from that interview (I sure did as a female therapist in training who works on vulnerability with men).	/r/seduction	24/11/21 03:24 PM
2	Spilling your emotions to someone who goes cold won’t win them over, it will push them away even more I’m a therapist in training and when I sit with male clients, I encourage a sense of gentleness or kindness with the “needy” side because it’s coming from a genuine place. Men are conditioned to control, perform, and emotionally isolate, so it makes sense that you’d feel thrown off or vulnerable when you make an effort with someone and they don’t treat you with transparency or respect. The communication skills of today’s world in general cause anxiety for so many people. So first I want to norma…	/r/seduction	24/11/21 03:18 PM
2	Spilling your emotions to someone who goes cold won’t win them over, it will push them away even more AGREED	/r/seduction	24/11/21 03:06 PM
9	Red flags to take serious at all times Took me years to see that #5 was a red flag and not “love at first sight” 😂	/r/seduction	06/09/20 06:50 PM
1	Fear of texting, that my messages are not good enough and overthinking. If she’s not answering within a timely fashion or at all, she’s not interested.	/r/seduction	06/09/20 04:54 PM
2	What’s the proper way to respond to girl who ghosted you then hits you up down the road? Build her up then ghost her back 😂 jk. If you’re into her then keep humoring her. At some point when you’ve gotten over the initial part of reconnecting, you could ask her what she’s been up to since you guys stopped talking. Classy way to reference that time and see what she responds instead of asking her outright.	/r/seduction	05/09/20 11:57 PM
1	First Time no Big Deal? / Relationships worth it? Sexual enjoyment depends on the context and the personality. Maybe this wasn’t the right context for you to feel really connected... maybe you’re a sapiosexual... maybe you expected more, your first time... maybe you were so in your head making her happy that you didn’t enjoy the subservience... a million reasons why this experience might’ve not been ideal. But it doesn’t mean you’ll always feel like this! Just explore what appeals to you and what personalities you’re drawn to. Maybe wait things…	/r/seduction	05/09/20 11:51 PM
1	Fear of texting, that my messages are not good enough and overthinking. 32F - a few suggestions : 1) “I was remembering (xyz that happened last time you were all together, drink or food you all had, restaurant you went to) and it made me think of you. How’ve you been?” 2) “hey. how’s your (week / weekend) going?” 3) ballsy - but something I and a lot of other females LOVE : call her. If she doesn’t pick up, don’t leave a voicemail.	/r/seduction	05/09/20 11:47 PM
5	Politeness vs interest? (From a 32F woman) Positive In person: eye contact, physical contact, smiling, asking thoughtful or deeper questions, referencing future activities, making positive comments about you or your thoughts Virtually: responding in under a day 😂 using emojis, asking thoughtful or deeper questions, reaching out after you haven’t reached out in a while, referencing things you said previously Polite In person: looking away, smiling briefly, physical distance, asking shallow questions or not asking questi…	/r/seduction	04/09/20 11:31 PM