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Outer Game pastor-of-muppets69/r/seduction10/05/25 02:43 PM
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Join social clubs. Volleyball, volunteering, trash pickup, salsa, etc. You just need opportunities to get to know women. It's really not that complicated.
/r/seduction21/10/25 07:07 PM
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Ones in latam. Anywhere with Hispanics in the US tends to have crazy expensive houses. These are places where there's enough money for immigrant-friendly gig work demand but non-immigrant workers are priced out. Multi family/generational houses of Hispanics are the only thing keeping the area propped up. Go ahead, try and get a house in LA or even San Antonio.
/r/seduction21/10/25 05:10 PM
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Mid 30s, fwb with 21 y/o right now, been hooking up with 21-27 year olds for the last year post-breakup. Just live near a college campus. Its not all it's cracked up to be, but you have to do it for a while to realize this. At some point you get sick of always being "daddy" and you'll want a peer. A partner.
/r/seduction20/10/25 03:58 AM
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I live by a bar and just invite them there for a drink quick before they come up. Let's me get a vibe check as well. If youre asking this, its because you want to bang girls you arent willing to be seen in public with. Don't do that.
/r/seduction20/09/25 04:59 PM
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I like how the only way anyone seems to be willing to help these supposedly desperately suffering women is by preventing american men from dating them. You're discouraging people from giving them the help that, you admit, they desperately need AND THEN NOT HELPING THEM YOURSELF! Do you hate them? Suppose you see a homeless woman who needs a root canal and a safe place to sleep and a billionaire comes up and he's like "Hey, youre pretty cute, how about we get you a new outfit and grab dinner? Oh,…
/r/seduction17/09/25 10:36 PM
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Women dont put in negative effort until after you've had sex with them once. Then theyre doing everything from leaving shit at your house to basically stalking you and shaming you for only having sex with them once. This "you owe me" culture after the first hookup is so toxic. My body my choice.
/r/seduction19/08/25 02:18 PM
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I live in a college town and can't find anything but 21-25 y/o. Girl I'm seeing is 21, I'm 34. She's very cute and fun, but there are some incompatibilities to work around due to being in different life stages. 28+ women are all either taken or moved away. Also, gen z dudes in particular seem less interested in dating, so gen z women seem to be more single. My single guy friends are all in the same kind of situation.
/r/seduction17/08/25 07:34 PM
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Then I'm stumped. I do feel like gen z guys are a bit different. Maybe theyre less interested in women in general?
/r/seduction14/08/25 10:06 PM
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Are you overweight?
/r/seduction14/08/25 08:57 PM
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Not really, at least not anymore. Ever been looking at something at Best Buy and thought "eh, I can get something better and cheaper delivered to my door on Amazon". That's what tinder has done to in-person approaches. Very physically attractive men are a swipe away for most women. If you dont think that changes how we're valued as people in a big way, you're deluding yourself. Its not hopeless, but the bar is just so much higher for us and so much lower for them. People will say whatever benefi…
/r/seduction08/08/25 06:05 PM
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There are some women who just like, can't orgasm at all. Not many, but they exist. Put in a fair effort and if it doesnt work, its just kind of a "sucks to be you" kinda situation.
/r/seduction29/06/25 07:59 PM
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Any non-overweight woman under 50 who presents herself as sexually available. That's literally it, which is the whole problem. Men need to value themselves and have some standards, but nature just didn't build us that way. Now we have a subreddit where average guys discuss the best strategy for getting rejected 100s of times to maybe get a number.
/r/seduction26/06/25 09:15 PM
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I think it's might just be that gen z guys are kinda "cooked". I definitely see why. They were born into the demoralization campaign targeting men that started when millenials were already around 16. Trying to build self-worth as a child while society tells you you're fundamentally a worthless, problematic creep that owes women because you have similar genitals to adults from the 50's seems kinda hopeless. Like yeah, women have always said shit to demoralize and discourage men, but your heritage…
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:23 PM
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There will be strings in there if she does. Like 2 strands of fishing wire.
/r/seduction25/06/25 04:14 AM
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Getting assaulted is the best case scenario. Press charges and they have you pay you a bunch of money. True passive income since you're hitting on girls anyway.
/r/seduction19/06/25 08:23 PM
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Shit, if you're here asking how, we're all fucked.
/r/seduction07/06/25 08:09 PM
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I'm dating 20/30 somethings, so I pay. Many offer to split checks, but it feels wrong just because our net worths are so different. I took a kindergarten teacher to an expensive craft cocktail bar, and she insisted on buying her own drinks. I felt bad cause it was my pick while society decides to pay her like a freaking McDonald's worker.
/r/seduction06/06/25 05:35 PM
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I'd consider rethinking your attitudes towards sex. As a guy, I want a partner who enjoys sex for its own sake, specifically with me. A partner whose explicit goal is to "settle down" with someone is a red flag. I don't want you to want me because you want to settle down, I want you to want to settle down because you want me. If you're immediately treating sex as a bargaining chip you dole out in exchange for "good behavior", it's clear to me that marrying you would probably ruin my life.
/r/seduction29/05/25 03:57 PM
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The incentive to reject you and announce "I'm out of your league. Omg, creeps always hit on me, my extreme beauty is ruining my life!" is very high. Women used to have to compromise and isolate themselves or otherwise make themselves available for you to approach them in order to find partners. With online dating in their pocket, they can have a date pretty much whenever they want, so there is no incentive to do this. I make a point to spend a little time people-watching at night game venues and…
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:27 PM
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Better than the usual 12 filtered headshots followed by a final full body pic of the fatest person you've ever seen. Even that is fair play imo; if you're not swiping till the end of their roll, you deserve to get eclipsed.
/r/seduction22/05/25 09:52 PM
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I'd say I'm average looks-wise. IME women are a lot more focused on the quality and vibe of the connection you create with them than your looks. I regularly get shown up by much dumpier guys who are just more confident and socially graceful. This obvi doesn't feel great, but it also gives hope becuase it shows room for improvement. As you say, women differ, but it's mostly true that you just need to be clean, well dressed, and relatively in shape, i.e. no red flags. After that, it's all about co…
/r/seduction21/05/25 04:41 PM
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Im 34 hooking up with a 21 year old right now. Before that, it was 2 23 year olds and then finally a 28 year old. Younger women are definitely waaaay more casual than older. Truth is, I wouldn't date one because there's a high chance the relationship blows up in 4 years, at which point I'm 38 and single, which I really dont want. My 30's friends are doing the same dance: flings with younger women who are out about and available, but holding out for someone closer to us in age and values. Such wo…
/r/seduction21/05/25 03:08 PM
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The solution is to date abroad. Men want to be wanted too, and the US is one of the places we are less wanted. The drive to find a partner will and is bringing more women into the US from abroad whichbwill correct the imbalance. Let's be honest, letting in a bunch of immigrants and then kicking them all out is akin to just kicking out the men and keeping all the women becuase, let's face it, who do you think is going to be able to marry into citizenship?
/r/seduction21/05/25 04:23 AM
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Male sexuality isn't bad. Don't let them turn you against your very nature. Don't whip it out in a yoga class, but expressing interest in someone, or escalating sexually with someone in an incremental and appropriate way are GOOD things.
/r/seduction20/05/25 01:43 PM
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Hooking up regularly is very hard unless you're very attractive. Much easier is having short, 2 week "flings" with women. The big barriers to hooking up are comfort and screening, two things "dates" take care of for you. Go on dates and pull women home on the first night. It's not a "hookup" per se, but is actually better imo. It's also 1000% easier than convincing some random girl to come home with you in under 2 hours. If you are a hookup purist, the very fact that you aren't willing to go to …
/r/seduction19/05/25 02:38 PM
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Been doing this a long time, but the secret is out. It's all dudes now.
/r/seduction07/05/25 09:42 PM
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That's a B1 and, depending on how legitimate you can make it, could work. I do wonder what the risk of visa fraud is there though. If it's low, you could maybe just say "I'm contracting her for temporary janitorial work at some real estate I own" aka "I'm hiring her to be my maid". Perhaps she washes a single dish, you give her a dollar, and boom, visa legitimized. Idk, would probably need an immigration lawyer to weigh in on this one.
/r/seduction05/05/25 04:10 PM
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Is the reasoning here: "I can fly in a girl from a poor country where the average male height is very low. My first world height, income, and living standards will make it very easy to find a 10 in such a country."? The question is, how do you get the girl papers to be in the US legally? K-2 requires you having proof that you've met in person and have intent to marry. B2 requires proof beyond a reasonable doubt that she have no intent to immigrate. That is very hard to prove for a hot girl comin…
/r/seduction05/05/25 03:54 PM
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After I've had sex with a woman a few times, it really comes down purely to compatibility. If she can't be a reciprocal partner who meets the same expectations she sets for me, I end things pretty bluntly. I've gotten as much as I need from the relationship at that point, I'm only sticking around if we actually like and support eachother.
/r/seduction01/05/25 08:00 PM
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That formula is out dated. Now we use half your age + (18 - half your age )
/r/seduction26/04/25 07:51 AM
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Christ, being a guy sucks doesn't it?
/r/seduction25/04/25 09:55 PM
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Europe: Medium Asia: Hard Africa: Noob level (speculative) North America: Very Hard (to find non-overweight partners) Australia/Oceania: Noob level South America: Easy
/r/seduction15/04/25 08:30 PM
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That's a tough one that I don't feel confident answering since I'm not really sure what life is like for a 5' guy. I think it's technically possible to find at least one woman that will be interested in you. Possibly many depending on what your requirements and other features are. If I can pry a bit to get a better idea of what you are working with: about how old are you, how do you approach women, what was the best response you got, have you ever had sex with a female, if not, have you had any …
/r/seduction01/04/25 10:26 PM
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Take any consenting adult that will have you.
/r/seduction01/04/25 08:14 PM
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Dance is getting pretty saturated with leads. A lot of guys have the same thought: "Oh, I'll have an excuse to interact and have physical contact with women". This occurs to every single guy looking to meet more women socially, and they're all there at the social dances, elbowing eachother to get a dance with one of the few follows who are all exhausted and overwhelmed with attention. You'll be talking to a girl and multiple guys will butt in and try to ask for a dance. The fact that it's a grea…
/r/seduction28/03/25 04:45 PM
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Cool, good to know it happens sometimes. Sounds phony, but I chalk up my success to having a really good "lets go back to mine" line. It seriously works every time. Of course, by then I've demonstrated im a nice, funny, laid back guy they can be comfortable around, which is actually what makes it work. Converting all of that attraction into results though is a challenge on its own this line achieves flawlessly. I keep it a closely guarded secret though.
/r/seduction26/03/25 09:04 PM
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Am i the only one who always hooks up on the first date? Is that uncommon or something?
/r/seduction26/03/25 08:57 PM
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It's simple; its a trap. She is overweight, but doesn't want to post pictures of herself where she looks overweight because they would generate less interest. She also doesn't want to be accused of catfishing so she vaguely expresses something that could be interpreted as saying that she's anywhere from slightly chubby to morbidly obese (everyone technically "has a belly"). Now, when you show up at the date and she's massive, she can say "I said I had a belly!". It's a trap.
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:37 PM
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I don't really go on more than 2 dates. I try to have sex with them the first or second date if I'm interested, and from then on its informal hang outs. These days, its usually an informal date/hookup the first time, and then I take them on a "proper" date to a nice restaurant the second time. I'm kinda trying to say "ok, so we read ahead in the textbook, but I actually like you so let's do chapter 1". It's better backwards. All this delaying sex, intimacy, comfort, and lack of informality seems…
/r/seduction15/03/25 02:57 PM
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I think the reasoning here is valid, but an important fact that is not being considered is that the number of hookups a given woman has is dependent on how seductive men are on average. If men generally aren't bold enough to initiate interactions with women, lack the social intelligence to make them comfortable, lack fitness and style, etc then the average woman wont have many partners. If you are a man that does have these qualities, averages won't reflect your personal prospects. Rather, you n…
/r/seduction12/03/25 05:47 PM
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It's usually inappropritate to just touch people and I always found the desperate fixation on shoehorning of touch into interactions super wierd and cringe. Don't shy away from touch, like if you're taking a pic don't hoverhand or anything, but just like, talk to her ya know? And if at the end of the night she's not interested just becuase you didn't slightly squeeze her upper arm or whatever, is that someone you really want? Don't you want someone who is attracted to who you are? Just ask if yo…
/r/seduction12/03/25 04:47 PM
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How are you getting lays off fetlife? Posting in personals, messaging randoms, going to meetups?
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:26 AM
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Really? They all seem extremely bent on having you take them on a million dates and "commit" before having mediocre sex with you.
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:25 AM
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Any rave I go to (in the US) is an absolute sausage fest. I only see a good ratio at "girly" TikTok famous folk, indie, and pop bands.
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:22 AM
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How do you go about this?
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:18 AM
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It's true that life is unfair, and men get the microscopic end of the stick when it comes to dating, and social life in general. You're right that complaining about this will just make things harder for us and our only option is to act with reality in mind. Collectively grinding ever more self-improvement, while certainly valuable to an extent, will only make expectations of us more extreme. We need to act in a way that also fixes the underlying social problem, which is not dating in places with…
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:05 PM
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Defs go with the "Models" approach and be radically honest. For me its: "I don't really think someone is worth dating because they are "special" in some way, but because they are basically decent. I put effort into treating my partner well and I like to keep things fun, whether we're at a party or just going on a walk through the park. I have other quirks and good qualities, but those are the ones I think make me worth getting to know. How about you? Same question."
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:00 PM
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Start with something like "Hey, thought you looked interesting and wanted to introduce myself. Do you have a minute to chat?" That gives her an easy way to either politely say "no thanks" or express her interest in talking further. Do that to twenty women and one will probably say yes, and then you just start a normal conversation and go from there. No one is going to slap you/be afraid if you demonstrate that they can easily opt out of the interaction. People get scared when you try to 'trap' t…
/r/seduction05/03/25 11:18 PM
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So how long have you lived in X, what brought you here, what do you like to do for fun, what was the hardest thing to get used to about x, what do you wish x had more of, what's your favorite conversation topic, have you ever been hit on like this before, how did it go, what's the last concert you went to, what are your top 3 bucket list items, etc... it's not that hard
/r/seduction05/03/25 10:27 PM
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This is true, looks usually play the main role in attraction, particularly in the beginning. At some point though, we need to have the conversation, particularly in the US, about what the standards are for men vs women. I'm not saying we're at this point yet, but in theory there's a bar women could set where the "hard thing" men need to do to find a partner is date abroad. We can all only "hit the gym" so much before it makes more sense to "hit duolingo".
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:55 PM
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How does this answer the question? Bars don't advertise themselves as cougar bars. How do you find one?
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:06 PM
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Lets be real, after the bar, you're just another guy on her phone alongside the 10/10's she can chat with on tinder. You have to meet her at a place she knows she'll have to interact with you again. In that case, she'll be more inclined to honor her word if she does show interest in going on a date. Work, clubs, friend groups, classes, etc. Or, you could find out an event she's going to and ask if you can join her. Your text day of could be something like "Hey, not sure if you saw my last text, …
/r/seduction23/02/25 11:09 PM
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Those and poly groups hate single men with a passion. Most events require a female partner. Any couple looking for MFM has so many options that it's insane, almost as much as a single F. Dive bar is a way better move.
/r/seduction23/02/25 08:13 PM
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If it were that easy, he probably wouldn't need to travel in the first place.
/r/seduction20/02/25 10:19 PM
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Rural areas are always majority men. If you look at immigration demographics, rural areas of first world countries are one of the only cases where inflows of immigrants are net female. The reason for this is thought to be that men who live in those areas can't find partners locally and need to look abroad. Getting a hotel and commuting that far is a whole lot of friction to add on top of the baseline difficulty of getting laid as a guy in this day and age. Do you have any opportunity to move?
/r/seduction20/02/25 05:52 PM
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If you can find partners you find attractive without too much hardship, absolutely. If they take an enormous amount of effort, time, money, and rejection, then no. When you succeed, you'll finally get off in an extremely vanilla fashion, roll over and think "man, was all that worth it?". It wasn't. This this the lot of most men who succeed at all. Short term sexual relationships are a natural outcome of aggressively seeking and screening for a compatible partner. In this context, the sex is at l…
/r/seduction20/02/25 05:16 PM
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As soon as I find a non medically obese woman my age or younger who likes me and isn't a terrible person. In other words, never.
/r/seduction20/02/25 04:03 PM
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You probably want to line them up side by side with their heads as close as possible. Then, run your lips continuously accross the line like you're doing a run on a piano. If a distinct "mwah" is required per kiss, there's probably not that many optimizations to be made.
/r/seduction14/02/25 07:44 PM
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This makes zero sense. You seem to think that I have asked out every woman in America. That's physically impossible.
/r/seduction13/02/25 02:13 PM
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I just got back from a speed dating event. The men were objectively better looking and in better shape than the women there. I knew a couple of the guys there and did a "post-mortem" with them after. NONE of us got matches, even though we were pretty liberal with our likes and felt like we connected at least a little with most of the women we met. I'm a fit, good looking and personable guy. It sounds self centered, but I just know how far I've come. The truth is, women have so many options in th…
/r/seduction13/02/25 05:53 AM
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No one really behaves this way in practice. It's not like telling yourself "one of my requirements is that he be taller than 6 foot" will magically make you impervious to the charms of any 5'9 guy. These "checklists" are just post-hoc theories about what attracts us based on what we've been attracted to in the past. If a woman finds herself attracted to a 5'9 guy, it means her theory is inaccurate, and she'll revise it to "Oh, well maybe he just needs to be taller than me I guess."
/r/seduction11/02/25 07:26 PM
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"Sure, got someone you want to set me up with?"
/r/seduction07/02/25 05:51 AM
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My claim is there's no "good" mix, maybe some bad ones if you are in the extremes, although these might have "polarization" advantages. Tom Holland/Timothy Chalomay are probably "cute". Henry Caville is "handsome". Young Jude Law is "hot". Different women appreciate different aesthetics differently. You bring up a good point though. "Cute" men who get shredded have a pretty killer combination, as do sensitive "handsome" men like Caville. I'm not a woman, but if I were, balances are what I think …
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:22 PM
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Male attractiveness is more complicated than female attractiveness. Purely masculine features is considered ugly, purely feminine is considered non-sexual. Attractive male faces have a balance of masculine and feminine features and women vary significantly on what balance they prefer. Cute is more feminine, handsome is more masculine, hot is in the middle, at least in my opinion. The reason women are strange is the same reason cats are strange: they have competing instincts. Cats are enigmatic b…
/r/seduction28/01/25 04:50 AM
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I go for first date if they're from tinder and it's kinda casual. Here's how it basically worked last night: "What do you feel like doing next?" "Idk, whatever, how about you?" "Well, we could grab a drink at another place, check out the dance floor at xyz, or I bet I could come up with a few excuses for us to go back to my place." "Oh? Like what?" <list excuses to go back to your place. They can be fun things you actually want to do, or dumb meaningless things if you just want to get to it> If …
/r/seduction18/01/25 10:51 PM
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/r/seduction18/01/25 07:13 PM
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Humans dont have claws, fangs, or venom, they have brains. Our big heads are massive liabilities. They cost tons of calories and make our births the most painful and dangerous among the mamals. This means we sexually selected HARD for intelligence. It's likely that this was due to intraspecific competition, aka, our ability to socially navigate and outsmart others selected for intelligence. I once saw a painting of a bra with its clasp replaced with a rubix cube, and I've never seen such truth i…
/r/seduction17/01/25 03:08 PM
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An online course is just going to be a grift. Creating fluffy courses, or courses that are just someone's armchair musings is a well known way of making "passive income", aka, scamming suckers so you don't have to work. That's why I only recommend my own course at... jk. If anything, read Models by Mark Manson then pay a coach who will actually wing you in field and give feedback. Experience is worth the money and time, most everything else is fluff.
/r/seduction15/01/25 06:42 PM
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It really depends on what you value. I'm probably a bit older than you and have done the whole "try to hang on to someone who only kind of likes me" thing, and I'm over it. A cute, but maybe not conventionally stunning girl who you really vibe and have a reciprocal relationship with is pretty great imo. Stuck up people are no fun to be with, or be, just let them suffer themselves. Enthusiasm and compatibility should be non-negotiable imo. Target that and eventually you'll find a girl who's align…
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:16 PM
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Just make very sure she understands the ball is in her court and keep pursuing other women like you have been. If she's too egoistic or insecure to make herself a little vulnerable by reaching out, she doesn't deserve you. Give your attention to the girls that deserve it: the ones that say "hell yes" to you.
/r/seduction10/01/25 08:46 PM
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Gosh, I need to record myself next time I'm flirting with someone. Like, it's something I know how to do instinctively, but I don't know where to start when explaining it. It would be like teaching someone english.
/r/seduction10/01/25 03:13 PM
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The goal is to actually value and respect yourself enough that you can be authentic with people. If you're so outcome attached that you can't bear someone knowing you're interested in them to the point of self isolation, you're not going to make it. "I'll be fine if you reject me" is a mindset you should strive for. Better yet: "If you're not interested, please let me know asap so I can move on to someone who is, thanks." A girl who rejects you because she thinks people that show interest in her…
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:42 PM
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Kip Dynamite vibes.
/r/seduction02/01/25 06:55 PM
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This is true, men really have been dehumanized and degraded from many angles, but I think it's less true than reddit would have you think. The truth is, that men are extremely strong and resilient even to today's strange and insidious challenges. Of course, incredible strength is the bare minimum expected of us, but we have it nonetheless. I think a lot of posts of this style harbor a bit of self-flattery. It comes from a crab bucket mentality where if I am coping while other men aren't, Im in a…
/r/seduction26/12/24 06:07 AM
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This isn't true. There is a phenomenon in economics called the "high heel problem". High heels are costly (uncomfortable, expensive, dangerous) but they give you a COMPETETIVE advantage (taller, higher status, shaplier legs/butt). Over time, all women start wearing high heels at events to gain this advantage, such that none do. Now everyone pays all of the cost for no benefit, and is worse off than before. Makeup has the same game-theoretical dynamics. Men should not start using makeup.
/r/seduction26/12/24 03:43 AM
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