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I think this is very difficult. Women are expected to have a career and be independent, but then come home and play Suzie Homemaker. It makes for a difficult dynamic. I think we shouldn’t change who we are to please someone else, but we may need to change how we treat and react to others to promote a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 04:16 PM
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I did not want to have sex when my kids were little. After they got older, my sex drive came back. Now I want sex and my husband’s sex drive and health are in the toilet. Go figure.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/25 12:57 AM
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I guess when I think of being feminine, I think of being ladylike, being put together, going out of my way to treat others respectfully (male and female), and to be myself. If you aren’t yourself, then you are just being fake. If you have a strong personality, recognize your own strengths and weaknesses. There is a way to express yourself and your opinions without being seen as overbearing, pushy, or bossy.(my words for sometimes what strong women get labeled)And a man who sees you as those thin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 12:08 AM
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No you do not need to submit to the leadership of a man who is not your husband or father. Also, what happened to you is sexual assault. No means no. You should be able to kiss someone without them expecting you will go further… especially at your age. Please think strongly about discussing this with an adult you trust. And, if you are in Sunday school, they are probably instructing boys and girls (hopefully) about respecting each other and doing the right thing. If not, there is an issue there …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 11:57 PM
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I briefly read the S, S, E post. These are all three a major issue right now. The more I stepped up to help the worse it got. I need to study this and see what I can do to help. I am also very burnt out from trying to keep the show on the road in every way this year. I’m struggling to continue to consider how he feels.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 10:55 PM
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Thank you. I will read that. I am not poised to be self sufficient… at least at this point. I told my oldest child, who I found out was completely aware of everything in the situation, that I was not able to completely blow up my life right now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 10:51 PM
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So many red flags here. Please break up while it’s easier and there are no strings attached. Just the few things you have said scream true narcissist. For instance, telling you why you should pay for things for him and what you’ve done in the past to cause that. Run! Run! Run! One of my past relationships was like this and it just got worse and worse until it finally became physically abusive.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:35 AM
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Also, we were trying couples therapy and I had to just cancel all of our sessions because he couldn’t handle the least amount of talking about the issues. Even if I said I was struggling with something, he took it as a personal affront.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 01:33 PM
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Not good
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 01:20 PM
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I guess it would be different for every person, but why isn’t there more discussion on when enough is enough? I think the Laura Doyle stuff is great honestly, but how much can a person do and endure?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 03:15 PM
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Yes, I went to therapy for about a year. Didn’t really feel like I got anywhere in someways, I feel like the therapist might’ve been overwhelmed by my situation lol.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 03:14 PM
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I’m not sure how you meant this comment. I was a really good wife before Laura Doyle, and became pretty much perfect after. (obviously, no one’s perfect but I did everything in my power to do better/be better.)
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 03:11 PM
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I’m not disagreeing with anyone, but if you listen to a lot of the podcast, the husbands are abusive.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 02:56 PM
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I really love this!!! I am more of a chill likes to laugh and hang out person vs mega bubbly etc. I can do calm and chill. I like the contentment and serenity. Thank you so much for sharing this!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 04:59 PM
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These are really good suggestions! When I was dating, I also usually told a friend or roommate where exactly I was going and who with. I usually also asked them to call/text me half way through the first date which would give me an excuse cut it short if need be and I could at least let them know I was fine/safe. I started doing this after having a horrible experience where I was not ok or safe.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 04:36 AM
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Ok- so first of all… you want women to say I like obese men? Your categories are semi offensive. A man can be very strong and work hard, not go to gym, have a little extra to love and not need to be called “obese”. Also, how would any of us feel if our husbands said- I would be more attracted to you if you spent a little more time in the gym? I find this post very superficial.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 03:57 AM
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You’ll get there. And maybe ask him. Do you like me to XYZ or is that something you prefer to do for yourself? I used to get up and make breakfast for my cranky non morning person husband. Then I realized a. he didn’t want me to do it and b. I could get another hour of beauty rest. Problem solved 😅
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 04:52 PM
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We did end up having a good time last night but I had decided that’s what I was going to do no matter what. I had been feeling neglected by him all week. He’s barely spoken to me. I don’t think there is anything “wrong”, but it’s just frustrating. I was having a why and I putting out this effort only to be ignored kinda moment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 04:47 PM
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I think there is a difference between mothering and serving. I feel like making my husbands plate is serving bc he likes that after a hard day. Picking out his clothes seems like mothering. It probably all depends on what your husband likes too. Back to the clothes, my husband likes me to wash his clothes, but again, not pick them out for him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 11:11 PM
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Sometimes I wear things my husband picks just because he says- I thought you would like this. He did say, I’d like you to wear black eye liner, and I did that. But total style not exactly. I’d like to be more of a hippie bum but I settle for a happy medium bc I don’t think he would care for that. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 11:08 PM
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I am probably running low on gratitudes. I need to say some about tonight. I’m grateful that- *my husband worked hard all day *he is taking me out to dinner which was his idea *in his silence, there is calm
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 11:00 PM
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My husband can be the king of inappropriate humor. But, he is also genuinely funny, so I focus on the things he says that are truly funny and the other stuff just gets a “wow” from me. When he says actually funny things, I usually engage in that and join in. This makes the inappropriate stuff less. Then he also knows that his previous statement of “you don’t laugh at anything” is not true. I like using “wow” because it lets him know I didn’t love what he said without me seeming like I’m correcti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 08:55 PM
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Who knows his reasons, but I will say, I used to be a court appointed advocate for children, going to court and making recommendations for children’s custody when there had been allegations of abuse and neglect. The judge, like another poster said, is only interested in what is best for the child. Get an attorney if you are extremely worried, but I would say that if there is no true reason for him to be granted custody, it will not happen.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 08:08 PM
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Not really. I mean he hunts and hangs out with our boys but that’s it. He wants to have friends, but he has a hard time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 05:58 PM
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I look at some of the clothing styles rn and think they look horribly unsexy. I think the styles and clothing men think look good and what women may like are different. My husband would probably dress me like Dolly Parton and put hiking boots on my feet lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 11:13 PM
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Oh yes, I do want to be back together with him. He has been very difficult in the past, but even though I thought I was completely blameless, I found out through reading the empowered wave, and working on my own side of the street that there was a lot of subtly harmful things that I was doing as well. I think it’s her reason why I am struggling to let it go is first I just found out about it this weekend, and secondly, it just seems like a huge betrayal, since we had said, we weren’t talking to …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 05:40 PM
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From what he said, she was someone who was nice and listened to him. She started out as his bartender at his hotel when he worked out of town.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 05:28 PM
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He did say to me today that he is 100% committed to me and making out relationship work. He has never said anything to me like that before.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 04:30 PM
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There is a little bit of backstory with the person that he was feeling seriously about. Apparently, he had been kind of talking to her for a while, very sporadically, but just as friends according to him. I checked his phone records. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Anyway, he kind of went off the deep end in July. He started hanging out with all the single guys that were much younger, and I think he just started to change how he viewed himself in a way. He started drinking and going out which all of that has stopped. The…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 04:29 PM
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That’s what I’m struggling with. He said they never talked past fiends, and he said he did not insinuate a relationship to her. However, what was she thinking with him calling her and talking for hours in the middle of the night? He knows I am struggling with it even though ultimately, I think it would have been worse if he didn’t tell me, and I found out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 04:06 PM
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He didn’t tell me to drop it. That’s me talking. We separated in May. He started talking to people in July. We reconciled in August, and he is back home.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 03:43 PM
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