pax_mentis Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	"Rape Culture" At least your second definition and part of your third definition of rape culture are certainly included in the feminist definition, just so you know... The ideas that women can't rape and that men can't get raped are absolutely major components of rape culture.	/r/MensRights	01/05/12 07:01 AM
2	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Women typically get to choose if they want to stay at home or do the same share of house and child-care work while working a full time job; that's not quite the same. Honestly, as a woman I'd be way happier with the traditional man's role of bread-winner. But that's not totally fair either. I can find a man who doesn't expect me to play trophy-wife and baby-machine just as quality men can find a woman who would love them to be a stay at home father. It's all about finding someone whose life plan…	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 05:48 AM
0	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Excuse me? What I said was that a guy who married me would have the option to stay home, and I'd prefer he take it, however I would understand if he wouldn't want to, as I don't really want to either. If it made sense financially and socially for our family and my husband also wanted me to do it, I would sacrifice my career for the task, with the mutual understanding that anyone I would be having kids with I'd be staying with for the long haul. If our marriage fell out due to his actions, I thin…	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 05:38 AM
0	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Ah, what I meant was that I felt like he probably inaccurately paraphrased the comments in a way that both reflects his own expectations about women and also changes the comments' meanings. Personally, reading the thread just made me sad and kind of angry – not more sympathetic. There are certainly a lot of valid causes that men's rights advocates want to tackle – I'm totally on board with a lot of them, as are, as far as I'm aware, feminists more generally. Custody rights? No legal opt-out opti…	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 05:24 AM
0	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. XX here. Personally I'd much rather be able to pursue my career and have a family that I knew was well taken care of (stay at home dad?) than the alternative. If I ended up being a stay at home mother it would be a joint decision for the benefit of the family, not myself. To suggest that I would, by definition, be taking advantage of my husband in this scenario is just insulting. As if. If I do end up in that scenario, I'd be sacrificing a LOT as far as career potential goes -- a sacrifice my hu…	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 03:19 AM
0	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. I changed my misogyny comment before you replied because I agree, that statement is maybe too bold. I don't like throwing words like that around. I do suspect that people are projecting their own past difficulties with individual women, though, and sometimes that looks a lot like misogyny. After reading the title I was astounded that this was upvoted as much as it was. Women want equality?! Ohhh lordy. I did see the explanation inside the post, but after the title -- which was meant to be shocki…	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 02:55 AM
0	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Shit, yeah. We wouldn't want them to think that women have value or something.	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 02:33 AM
2	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Why are people assuming that the women OP mentioned expect these things for themselves only? I don't get it... There was nothing in the title that implied this at all; there are just a lot of men in here projecting their own issues. I want most of what was mentioned eventually (except that I'd be perfectly OK making more than my husband) and I expect my husband to want the same from me. Equal partners, ideally even in the event of a divorce with children.	/r/MensRights	29/03/11 02:21 AM