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How-To High Valuepeachesngrunge/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:44 AM
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DISCUSSIONpeachesngrunge/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:44 AM
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My ex had a lot of very pretty words, and would write me emails and letters professing his love and devotion to me. In real life he manipulated, gaslighted, lied to, and disrespected me. I was fooled by him for five years “I love you” doesn’t mean anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:32 AM
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Where are those though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:21 PM
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YES. This is totally true. I learned too late that my ex didn’t really want or love me as a human being. He wanted a fuck doll, not a woman with complex needs, thoughts, and goals. Once I stopped giving blowjobs on demand I was no longer worth his effort. These men are incapable of real love and they will die miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:19 AM
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I don’t know what exactly flipped the switch for me. Pretty sure the series of toxic, emotionally abusive relationships drove me to quit men, finally. But one example was a male “friend” of mine who kept asking me to pee on him. I would always laugh at him and brush it off, but he was serious and kept asking for it every time we hung out. Like, in the middle of a perfectly innocuous conversation he would ask if I’d considered peeing on him yet! Um, no?! The last time he told me he’d pay me to do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:41 AM
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This is exactly it. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:51 AM
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Yes! My former roommate and I were so connected the first three months we knew each other. She was funny, supportive during my painful breakup, a good listener, and always available. As time went on I noticed her starting to neg me. She’d nitpick and tease me. It started to evolve into straight up disrespect. Then she just stopped paying her part of the bills, lay around drinking all day, and causing me immense anxiety by not doing her part to be a responsible roommate. The relationship complete…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:10 AM
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How do women get attracted to losers like this in the first place? What could possibly be the appeal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:27 PM
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Lathaniel?! What is that name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:08 AM
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Oh, this is gorgeous! Moonstones are my favorite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:59 AM
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I have a harder time finding monogamous guys on dating apps than poly guys. The ratio is totally skewed here, in the wrong direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:32 AM
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Ugh, my sympathies. It really is nuts how expensive this city has become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:44 AM
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Having a mentor is crucial. If I had had one I would be further along as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:13 PM
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My family all just moved to Tucson in the last two years so I’m thinking I’ll head there. I never would have considered Arizona before, but cost of living is cheap there and I miss the sun. Paying Portland prices for a city that has been shut down and horribly mismanaged for a year makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:01 PM
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Hahaha, Portland here and this is spot on. I’m ready to leave. Dating here is a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:48 PM
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As someone who stripped off and on for most of my twenties, this post is spot on. The trauma I sustained from dancing still haunts me on a daily basis. I was harassed, roofied, assaulted, degraded, and abused regularly, and for not nearly enough money. I met most of my LVM boyfriends through the club. The money really wasn’t that great, and definitely not worth what I went through. I went into it even though I had a Bachelor’s degree because I thought the money would still be better than an entr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:34 PM
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Man I wish I had this advice ten years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:27 AM
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Yep. My ex had a group chat with his other vile midlife crisis-having friends and he would tell me some of the things they would joke about. It was absolutely repellant, and made me really anxious when he would hang out with them since men will throw all morals out the window when trying to impress their friends. So glad to be rid of that stomach-churning misery and anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:48 AM
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This. Mine was pages long. Killed any misplaced longing in a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:28 AM
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Love this, you and me both! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:43 AM
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This 100%. I was so trauma-bonded to my ex that I kept going back over and over, over the span of five years. I didn’t actually love him that whole time, I was just addicted to the highs and lows of our relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:59 AM
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YESSSSSS! Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:20 AM
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I’ve noticed on TikTok especially, when a woman posts her age and she’s in her 30s the kids are always blown away and are just like “OMG no way you’re 33?!?! You look 20!!!” Like, what do people think 30-somethings look like? We don’t turn into crones on the eve of our 30th birthday. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:19 AM
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Loved this show, too. It was absolutely enraging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:32 PM
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Question: is an age gap ever appropriate? What if the woman is in her 30s and the guy is in his 40s? A woman in her 30s is not as naive and impressionable as one in her 20s, so could it still be considered predatory if a man in his 40s dates her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:24 AM
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I was with my toxic ex for five years, we broke up a year ago, we tried to be “friends” for much of this year and then went no contact back in October. Every day I still feel intense rage at how devalued, gaslit, and manipulated I was, and also anger at myself for not getting out sooner while I was drowning in red flags. The anger you feel will take a while to subside. Writing helps me, especially letters I don’t send that describe every abuse and injustice I went through and laying out his many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:08 PM
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My ex was like this. He showed his “love” by throwing his money around, spending it on me for trips and gifts and dinners, and then would get pissed at me and accuse me of using him. Um, you INSISTED on doing this, dude. They always want to hold it over your head later. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:20 PM
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I was a serious pickme for a long time and dated one of these guys who took TWO YEARS to finalize his divorce from the time I met him. Then I dated him for three more years after that hoping he’d marry me. What a cliche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:17 AM
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Is this meme a joke? "Loyal" and "unfaithful" are oxymorons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:54 AM
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My surgeon said the 10 year timespan is dated, too. I haven’t had any mammograms though. I have 440ccs and even they look too big on my frame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:18 AM
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It's actually uncanny that you posted this quote. Before I put all my energy and efforts into my relationships, I was an avid reader and lover of medieval history. I majored in medieval studies in college, attended Renaissance Faires regularly, and was particularly fascinated with Arthurian mythology and ate all of it up. I read The Once and Future King in high school, before I cared about boys. I want to return to that part of myself that's been buried so long. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:37 PM
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I love this list. Very motivating. I really look forward to reaching the point where I am at peace with my solitude. It's going to be a process. Even as an introvert who prefers being alone, I can feel a lot of anxiety build up when I don't have someone confirming that my existence is acceptable. I'll adopt some of these activities. I love writing letters, too, it's a dying art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:35 PM
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I love that - human-being vs. human-doing. The external focus has been a constant for most of my adulthood. I have sought validation from everyone but myself. I feel guilt and panic when I can tell someone disapproves of me or whatever I'm doing. It's time to set my own expectations for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:33 PM
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Thank you. There is definitely some resistance, and I can tell when I'm trying to fill the void with unhealthy habits. But now I'm being forced to sit with it all. It's hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:32 PM
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Thank you. I agree, I think I'm so influenced by capitalism and our "be constantly productive" culture that I feel guilty and lazy for just wanting to sit and rest and heal. There's so much of me that I still need to develop and discover that was completely de-prioritized while I was in relationships that I feel overwhelmed by how much there is to do. But I know it's going to be a process and even the smallest steps are worthwhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:31 PM
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Sadly, I went through a nearly identical experience. I got breast implants a few years ago because my ex was obsessed with big, fake boobs; it was his fetish. I already had large breasts but they sagged from natural weight fluctuations. I felt so self-conscious about them, and he encouraged me to get surgery. I got a lift and silicone implants, and I went too big for my body. One of the implants “bottomed out” in the first year and I had to get a revision to make the pocket tighter so it wouldn’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:25 PM
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This is totally my new motto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:16 AM
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I sang this out loud. 10/10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:01 AM
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My LVM ex just texted me (we’ve been no contact for two months now) “Happy birthday, I hope 34 treats you well :)” My natural instinct is to respond and say “thank you.” Please tell me not to. This man absolutely destroyed my self-esteem for 5 years, could never fully commit, gaslit me, didn’t understand or try to understand my emotional needs, lied to me, and consistently made me feel worthless. I don’t need to say thank you to this message. Happy birthday to me, I’m single and learning how to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:08 PM
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Gorgeous! Happy birthday! My birthday is on Friday and I’ve been feeling pretty low about the fact that I’ll be alone for it, but this inspired me. I’ll bake my own damn cake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:58 PM
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Wow, this is really inspiring! I broke up with my latest abusive ex almost a year ago and it’s taken me this whole year to learn how to be on my own, value myself, and not give back in to his bullshit. It’s been super challenging since I’ve been in one toxic relationship after another my entire adulthood but I know it’s been good for me. Here’s my list: Working on getting my real estate license Clear my debt Start my VA side business Start saving for a down payment on a house Revamp my style to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:52 PM
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This is so true. I have depression and whenever I was going through a bad bout of it my ex would get exasperated or try to fix it or make it all about him and frankly just make it worse. Whenever HE went through depressive episodes he would complain nonstop, dismiss any empathy I showed him, and become an insufferable martyr if I wasn’t available for him. I learned to just keep my sadness to myself while he would act like he could behave however he wanted because he was feeling down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:35 PM
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I wish I’d found this sub five years ago. Waited for my ex to propose for five years, he never did, I told him I wanted marriage but apparently I wasn’t good enough so he just kept me hanging on by a thread waiting forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:27 AM
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This is so true. I’ve done this for a long time, usually to spare their feelings, but why waste the emotional energy? I’m not getting anything out of it. Thanks for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:31 PM
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