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I really like how they picked the earliest age the brain would have matured to a capacity which makes the majority of decisions with logic. I notice a majority of the RP theory rests on the ideology of using people most likely to be too young to say "LOL. You're stupid, fuck that, I'm out". As soon as women are old enough to see through them, they conveniently hit some "wall". It's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:42 PM
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Mostly, No.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:28 PM
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I don't believe in trying to fix people. People have to want to fix themselves, and work on their own problems. Frankly, I have my own life to deal with and manage. I don't have children, don't want them, and sure than shit don't want to "parent" a grown adult man. Anyways, as for your argument connecting what seems to be an extremely oversimplified version of a much more nuanced, and complex issue(majority of rapists are men, and that's true) to "We can just solve injustice by teaching men to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 08:44 AM
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This sounds like projection about what some people think young women should be experiencing. That's where the vast majority of these "theories" come from. So it would seem based on the wild claims that don't actually add up in real life I keep reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 01:03 AM
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The opposite is also true. I've found that guys I've dated who I felt were good people became more physically attractive than I initially found them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 07:18 AM
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Hell, even before they honeymoon phase ends. If you're a straight up jerk, I don't care how hot you are or your 8 pack. GTFO here. No thanks. Character matters for anything lasting more than 24 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 07:16 AM
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You do realize, it's a satire piece.. right? Like, the author isn't actually talking about themselves personally. It's a pretty famous essay.... I'm glad these aren't expectations men have anymore. Depends. Some do more than others. The expectations raised are still major contention points in marriages and relationships to varying degrees depending on the couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 07:14 AM
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I'm assuming you're just being cheeky, so yeah. It's a really great essay about the issues of her era (that still to varying degrees remain relevant). I think it highlights the sexism not just she-but many women- were expected to just "put up with" in a unique way that helps people see more than what they ordinarily would.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 04:40 AM
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I see more men claiming women are complaining about "needing good men" than I hear from women they need a good man. I'm sure your observations are quite accurate, although I don't find them to be true in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 04:35 AM
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I'm older, and most of the women I know who find dating discouraging do not play much of an active role and are frustrated that the magic doesn't simply happen. Hell, i'd say that applies to most people who are frustrated dating. Dating is an active thing of anybody. You have to get to know someone, be interested, make time for them. would like to have good intimate relationships. Sure. That's where I think it's a higher compliment to be wanted in addition to a satisfying life than being put on …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 07:17 PM
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Before I had kids.....and I'd never trade that life for my current one with kids. Just as you wouldn't trade your life for the one you have with kids, as difficult I can tell it is for you to imagine, there are people who wouldn't ever trade their life without children. Also, as difficult as it appears for you to imagine, they're not "lying" to themselves either. Rather, they're being honest with themselves and honoring their truth. As all people should. I know you really honestly think you're n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 07:13 PM
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Are you sure? Or are you projecting how would you feel if you chose pets over animals? For example: I get giddy over animals the way some women get giddy over babies. I do not have joy for children. I don't hate them, I just don't care for them. I love animals and always have. So what I'm trying to say is while you think there is some "void" only children can fill, have you considered that's not actually true for some people? That doesn't mean it doesn't feel true for you. It's just about recogn…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 06:21 PM
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Projecting the male dependence on women unto women Thank you for pointing that out. I think that's often exactly why I find the opposing argument's claims confusing, as it's almost pure projection. It's men who need women, not the other way around. A lot of the claims being made by those particularly miserable types just don't reflect the reality of myself or female peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 06:07 PM
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What about that is sad if she doens't want children? Have you considered some people prefer animals over children and see their pets as part of their family?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 05:58 PM
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No man wants a woman who’s with him because “you’re better than being single." I think you're misinterpreting what this actually means. Women and I'd say most people, want a partner who they enjoy being around. That's really, all I've ever taken it as. As in, as I get older, my self esteem gets higher. I don't need a man to bolster it. I like my own company. So you better be damn good company, or I'd rather just be single. It's more about choosing to be in a realtionship because you want to as o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 04:38 PM
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On some level, you know it's fake and as I mentioned, the novelty will wear off. The worst off people will still be left with a huge, gaping void of happiness they can't seem to fill. That's the simple answer that just gets straight to your main question. As for other, less related questions you're asking: What do you achieve by having a girlfriend that you cannot achieve from having strong friendships? Plenty! Romantic relationships are not just about getting laid. One example would be how the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 01:46 PM
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She came hard wired not to want a good guy, she wanted her bio dad who she never met to love her. It's also possible that, the right therapy and trauma research just wasn't available and hadn't happened yet. We're genuinely in a golden age right now in psychological research, specifically in regards to trauma and abuse. Just talking about abuse is still a taboo in some countries. I don't think most children even from difficult environments are necessarily "hard-wired" or "doomed" forever. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 09:10 AM
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Who gives a flying fuck about reading comprehension? Doesn't look like you do. Let me spell it out for you : Having a fantasy or image of a "perfect" partner is not the same thing as projecting that fantasy onto a person. Robots give people the perfect partner, aint nothing wrong with creating the perfect person, as long as it makes you happy. Yeesh. Well, first I don't think robots can give anyone a perfect partner because it's not a person and no matter how far that technology can improve on s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 08:03 AM
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Is the context taken from a real account or a troll account? A lot of politicizing on /r/relationships made by fake accounts in those parts.... That said, the first issue that jumped out to me after reading this I was hesitant because the job paid less than half of my husband's current one and start ups are so risky I worried it'd go under in six months and he'd be unemployed. Was that they're accustomed to the income they have right now, and losing a bunch of it, without extensive planning, wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 04:40 AM
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Men want sex, and men love by projecting their fantasy image of the perfect girl onto the person Time out. I think it's really important to point out this isn't normal. First, projecting a fantasy might just be a sign of immaturity and realtionship inexperience. But, it can also just be a sign of a man or woman who came from a dysfunctional, abusive home life. When mom or dad was a nightmare, in order to survive as a child often you fantasize that they're a better or more well intentioned person…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 04:06 AM
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That wasn't the comment I was replying to. The comment I replied to was trying to suggest, "All men want high school seniors". Which I know to be false. I'm sure some men do. I'm also sure, not all men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 09:45 AM
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From what I've seen, emotionally stunted men(30+) chase after teenage women. In the nicest way, something tends to be very mentally wrong with those men. Normal, healthy women their age smell it a mile away and never give them time of day. Younger women who don't know any better are their only shot. Even a woman who's 23, 24 makes more sense for a fling with than someone who just graduated high school. It's really weird. The older I get the more I see 18 yr olds as basically children. Who the fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 09:38 AM
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I've seen guys pick adult women to marry over younger women they had casual flings with. I'm really not so sure your view of "all men" is really all that accurate. Not only that, what kind of 30 yr old wants a serious realtionship with an 18 yr old? That's just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 06:39 AM
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Meh. This seems deep fried. Way too much overthinking this. People grow up and mature. The vast majority of people in their early 20s just don't have the maturity to handle a long term realtionship. Not a shocker, considering the brain isn't done maturing until the mid-twenties. Most people want partners who are on similiar pages and maturity levels in life. It's why the most successful, long lasting relationships have a correlation connected to closeness of age. The closer your age to your part…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 06:07 AM
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I don't have a "problem", I'm just pointing out an observation from my experience. I do not believe that just because a guy rejected a woman's offer of friendship in the face of her rejection is going to be labeled a "dickhead asshole", for absolutely no good reason other than "Omg women are soooo meeeean!". That does not sound realistic, it is not realistic in my experience, and I really doubt it happens as you suggest with any rate of normalcy among the majority of mentally stable adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 10:12 PM
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I think you should maaaaybe entertain the idea that some men are probably being assholes about it. I have my strong doubts that a guy rejecting friendship alone is bad. That means he just wants to get in her pants and they can't really be friends. Something, most women I know.... as a woman, would rather avoid. Sure, I can't speak for all. I can just say in my experience, it really really sounds like what's happening is not that the women are upset the man rejected their friendship, but rather t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:18 PM
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"well, if I'm not getting what I want, I'm not sticking around, and no, I don't want to be your friend" Actually, I'd say a guy who stops trying to get in my pants and leaves me alone after being rejected is ideal. If he can't just be friends, I'd rather not be his friend. Maybe the reason some women hate the hypothetical guy you're talking about is that he's going about it being an unnecessarily rude asshole? Just wondering, because that's certainly a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:07 PM
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Surprisingly, these changes in opinion against victims have been slightly stronger among women than men. Not really a surprise. Cognitive dissonance is a thing in some populations of women who have been taught to believe they're suppose to be abused and tolerate it. Generally, #Metoo is following a famous pattern: And, my friends, in this story you have a history of this entire movement. First they ignore you. Then they ridicule you. And then they attack you and want to burn you. And then they b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 04:38 AM
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Except, I never actually said "prostitution wasn't cheating". Similar for sure, and different without a doubt. Not "doubling down" to see plainly obvious differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 12:27 AM
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Thank you! Same thought here. Also, thank you for reminding me to listen to modest mouse. Holy shit, it's been a long ass time. Do you like Interpol too? I find they go together well....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 04:24 AM
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You really don't think a "sugar baby" isn't just a form of prostitution? lol... Come on now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 01:29 AM
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Meh. Just that "cheating" implies it's mutual imo. It's not mutual. If he's not paying, he's not getting. I'd say hiring prostitutes is not just cheating, it's 10x worse. Great way to give your partner an STD as opposed to just getting a damn divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 01:28 AM
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I see men in their 50s and 60s all the time cheating on their wives with young women my age (I'm 22) No you don't. You probably see 60-somethings buying prostitutes. No mentally sane girl in her early 20s is willing to fuck a grandpa. Sorry, that's a fantasy. That's not real.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 01:13 PM
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But there is no 'epidemic' of sexual assault. In my experience, there certainly is. There is no 'secret contempt' of men toward women. Normal people, no. I wouldn't say normal, sane healthy people feel that way...... The current feminism doxa is to liken male - female relationship to a marxist class struggle model..... I don't see that as accurate at all. That's precisely what you accuse me at the end, btw. Not accusing. Just observing. You've habitually tried to exemplify minority extremism as …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 06:30 PM
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That doesn't even make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 04:55 AM
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I made my opinion from watching the hearing. Kavanaugh acted incredibly unprofessional, unfit, and most of all extremely disrespectful of the American people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 04:55 AM
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You think for some reason, I’m attacking your experiences and trying to invalidate them because it makes me feel uncomfortable or whatever No. The response I was making was to point out I didn't feel that your suggestions were accurate in respect to what the actual movement is all about. My experience, does give me a different perspective. Because it was not about thinking, it was about mob feeling too. I don't think the #Metoo movement is a "mob mentality", nor do I think it's based only on fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 04:18 AM
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What's there to really disagree about in terms of what #Metoo stands for? You call it dogmatic, which insinuates people are just making claims. For me, as a woman who's been sexually assaulted and raped, and the majority of my peers have been sexually assaulted and or raped, #Metoo isn't dogmatic. #Metoo in my view, isn't asking people to blindly believe in a set of ideas set at random(like a religion). #Metoo is more about asking society to start acknowledging a problem a majority of women repo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:40 AM
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He didn't just "get a little emotional". He straight up evaded answering questions and lied under oath.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:47 AM
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People implies multiples. You implied one person you knew lied, which suggests it's still quite a rare thing for people to lie about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:31 AM
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Regardless of pill, party or if Kavanaugh hurt anyone or not- what we should all be able to agree with is that based on his hearing? He does not have the kind of judicial temperament he should for the position he's been placed. Just to further illustrate how inappropriate he is as a Supreme Court Justice, he lied under oath.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:26 AM
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So I've been confronted with the fact that more people than I thought lie about these things. It sounds like the majority of people havn't lied though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:15 AM
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First and foremost, I'd point out that trying to compare sexual assault and rape as even remotely similar whatsoever to bullying suggests to me, from my view; that on some deep, fundamental level you may underestimate how damaging sexual crimes are to victims. the reality of a number of people using the movement to purely selfish ends. There are a lot of those. I don't think that's accurate. If anything, this kind of thinking follows the standard pattern phenomena that was happening before #Meto…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:06 AM
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This post seems more like a projection. As in, for a long time, men have in fact had a power trip over women's bodies and #Metoo just challenges that concept. It's about being heard and validated. Not a power trip. *There are of course male victims of which Metoo can also represent. By and large though, the perpetrators are men against women and sometimes men too. Ignoring this ugly part of reality for all people hurt by it won't make it go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 06:16 PM
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Says only uneducated people lol....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:56 PM
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Woo. I sure hope you're gay then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:56 PM
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I love how your own article proves my point. Thank You. I can't fathom how difficult life must be for anyone stupid enough to take #killallmen seriously. How do you even manage to put on socks? — Armageddon (@OaklandElle) March 9, 2014 (also, sperm banks. also, sex is the easy part. also, it's not impressive your dad put his wang in your mom. also, her body had to not reject you to begin with. also, something like 20% of pregnancies result in miscarriage, so you do owe women everything or you wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:54 PM
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passive process no effort needed, lol. Okays, I can't take you serious after saying that. And I'm childfree....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:51 PM
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5 minutes of sex isb't anything compared to months of being pregnant and actually keeping it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:51 PM
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The man does jack shit compared to what the woman does in pregnancy. You owe EVERYTHING to women. I only ever heard "#KillAllMen" popularized by men looking for some excuse to invalidate legitimate struggles of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 07:48 AM
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So what you're saying is, you owe everything to women. That's what I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 07:46 AM
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I second this motion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:41 AM
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lol. Okay that made me laugh. You're wrong, and you're being a dick but that was funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:41 AM
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How did men enter the world.... That's right. A woman gave birth to you. Annnnnd you repaid her by being a misogynist who hates all women because instead of dealing with your mommy issues you project them onto all women. Also, this whole "#KillAllMen" is complete bullshit fabricated and amplified, made up just to fuel your false agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:38 AM
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If men were truly as evil as feminists make us out to be, women would be enslaved, literally. You can't be serious. Some women still are, and most of them in the Western world effectively were up until recently in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:26 AM
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Everything about this post made me think of the following essay. If someone else already posted it, my apologies. Anyhoo. I think some of you would love to read, if you're not familiar, the famous essay "I Want A Wife" by Judy Brady: 1- I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother. 2- Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared on the scene fresh from a recent divorce. He had one child, who is, of course, with his ex-w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 09:25 PM
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Gun violence is so low, why would I care? Who cares if people get shot sometimes since it's not as many people getting shot as it use to be. Until it's someone close to you, then people suddenly care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:37 PM
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Oh my bad. I didn't realize the problem was solved. Gang violence at historic low! We can just ignore gang on gang violence now. Let's pretend socioeconomic factors that contribute to disenfranchised youth have nothing to do with the choice to choose a life of crime while we're at it. There is no better place to buy guns than Western Democracies for gang members.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:21 PM
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Why didn't this person report to the police what happened? Some might say a culture that doesn't believe women and doubts them far more than say, if they claimed they were mugged; might be part of it. Shame, victim blaming, threats from abusers, mental and physical abuse. This is not as simple as "Omg, get over it, report it". Society is working on it. Unfortunately, society has had a shit history in terms of taking women seriously in general when they report abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:46 PM
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This isn't a debate to me. I know what I'm talking about. I wasn't trying to "attack" you in anyway. Of course it's hard to understand when you don't understand the topic and nuances going on that your whole argument pretends doesn't exist or matter in order to "work". It's also really clear, that you didn't read my comment....(it doesn't agree with you) That's fine. I just hope that you educate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:48 AM
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This seems to imply a normal person can't have "negative narcissism" no? No. That's not what it's saying. It seems like you're cherry picking sentences while completely ignoring extremely relevant context that matters, and then; here's my main point now again: either by willfully ignoring context or being unable to comprehend the context people are talking about. Is English your first language? I'm asking because it would explain some of the misinterpretation I noticed. What would also explain t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:56 AM
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What did I say that insinuated I think most people are free of negative personality traits? You seem to be missing my point, and are a bit defensive and I'm not really sure why. My comment wasn't an attack. My comment was to encourage you to take the entire context of the comments you're replying to into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 04:37 AM
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I'm not sure how it's "moving the goalposts". It just seemed blatantly obvious from my perspective that their reference to narcissism was being used in its negative context. If it's healthy narcissism, it would be in their nature. If it's healthy narcissism, suggesting someone would eventually mentally break down from being narcissistic doesn't make sense if they're within a normal range of narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 01:17 PM
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Everyone is narcissistic to a degree. I get the feeling /u/Eartherry wasn't referring to the healthy kind of narcissism you're talking about. Rather, I can see how normal people with an actual moral compass can't be malignantly narcissistic without, as they put it, eventually breaking down. Someone doesn't have to be full on NPD to be a horrible, abusive human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 12:13 PM
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I kinda figured you were MGTOW. The reality is many people see great holes in their logic because so much of it is based more on misogyny than reality. So, I think it's really good that you're taking a step back and re-evaluating their ideology. My point is less about which views and more about the logic being used to justify the views. Small fringe groups don't represent majorities. Your CMV seems to be based on some small, fringe group. Can you give a source to the group who you claim wants, "…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 03:40 AM
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The first time I ever heard the "All men are rapists" line of thinking, was proposed by a MGTOW type. And, since then, almost always comes from MGTOW types. The problem with your defense, is what you're saying is those people are twisting extremists as representative of the majority and that's just plain old dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 01:32 AM
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How many women really buy into the thought that basically all men would rape them if given the opportunity. They don't. The whole, "They think all men are rapists" ideology seems to come from MGTOW types(just a loud minority anyways, but where it seems to have actually originated), who are just trying to shut down the conversation with a false narrative in order to pretend there isn't actually a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 01:09 AM
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It’s not going to relfect the same topics and conversations you normally hear at ladies brunch. I'm aware many arguments people make in this sub don't reflect reality. That was part of the reason I responded to the comment I had, so thank you! I didn't feel that the claim the person was making was as realistic as they thought it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 01:43 AM
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I don't think it's a matter of it being "taboo". I just don't think people talk 24/7 about sex like some people try to suggest they are. Very young people(immaturity)? Maybe. People who feel secure about their sex lives? Much less so. Obvious life style exceptions apply, some people might be really into a particular kink that would demand sex being more involved in everyday life. That's the exception, not the norm though. I see what you mean and agree, which is part of the reason I don't think i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 07:04 PM
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I don't find that behavior normal in real life. Maybe you surround yourself with a lot of trashy people? I dunno. I don't think spotlighting this or any subreddit means much if anything. It's important to keep in context that reddit isn't real life. Lots of fake bot trolly accounts that just like to stir the pot to stir it, as opposed to authentic experiences and you can't tell which is which. So when you try to say, "Girls on this sub will do XYZ", it just doesn't mean anything. They could be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 06:45 PM
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All of it. Sounds like you're not picking great partners. What you describe, I don't find normal behavior of adult women or any of my peers. I find it rather rare for my peers to mention anything in detail about their sex lives at all actually, good or bad. The last time I can remember "women" who talk about how "men" suck in bed, was in High School when they were teenagers, thus the idea of them being considered adults in parenthesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 06:02 PM
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Or maybe it's just you? I mean, that sounds very specific to the experience of women you're picking. I wouldn't say any of that applies or is true of, all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 05:41 PM
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but you know what they say about sex being like pizza. It’s still pizza. I think that joke is more about how men tend to feel about sex than how women tend to feel about sex. I don't see "getting anything" in terms of sex as being good on some level. Nope. Bad sex is not a fun experience. I'd rather do the job myself in that case! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 05:38 PM
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I was talking about the insecure type. Frankly the "she's just a whore for me" type thinking, just calling a woman a whore at all, reeks of insecurity on the part of the person who would describe someone that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/18 08:15 AM
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if the nice girl was a freak in bed the man would be satisfied. Isn't that the thing though? Even if she's a nice girl, the minute she's a "freak" she's suddenly "bad" and a "whore", even if she's actually a decent monogamous good partner. For some a woman who's comfortable with her sexuality can start a slippery slope of logic along the lines of, "Omg if she did that who/what/where else did she do/what hasn't she done with me??" type of thinking by the worst type of insecure men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/18 01:01 AM
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Women tend to just call these type of women fake. I see what you mean, it makes sense there's obviously a female equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/18 07:33 AM
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No, I said it's still a logical fallacy. I didn't say which one, on top of the ones already mentioned, as you've used quite a few. Please read more closely.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 10:04 PM
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They aren't equivalent but they can still be compared. No.... it's still a logical fallacy. You didn't answer my question, Would a man saying that make you afraid? Due to the fact it's based on a false equivalence and your scenario and question was just circular reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 08:47 PM
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You may not be aware you're making a false equivalence..... It looks that you're trying to compare the threat of men raping women as the same thing as women speaking out when they've been assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 07:05 PM
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No. All I asked the user was, "Do you really think all feminists just hate men? " It's a yes or no question. More than that, came off to me as ranting. I felt like the user was making a whoooole lot of assumptions about Kaling's comment(and me), didn't come off mentally stable, and wasn't really worth the energy of any in depth discussion. Esp in consideration of the fact my comment was only made in agreement with another user lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 03:16 PM
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Dude. I just asked you a question and you went off on a rant out to left field no one was even talking about. But yes, I'm the unreasonable one here. OK. Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 01:46 AM
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The comment was clearly aimed at men to respect women, yes? And you read that as people respecting each other? Well, women are people so, I don't see problem. Can you see how in the current events of disenfranchised young men acting out violently, that she may have wanted to send a message of respect and tolerance for both men and women to come together instead of the same old canned feminist men=bad, women=good misandrist bullshit? Generally speaking, I don't agree with censoring ourselves for …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 01:19 AM
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I can't speak for kaling. I just didn't get the "hostile" impression other people are taking from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 12:29 AM
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Same. You don't have to be "be afraid". I saw the point more as trying to drive home, while dramatically; to just respect people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 11:09 PM
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The idea that "all women must be a little bi" contributes to heterosexual women who question if they're are straight or not. If a woman tests that and finds she is in fact straight, I don't think that takes away that she's exclusively heterosexual. My theory in respect to this topic, is at least from the general perception, is that women are more willing to admit to sexual exploration with other women because it's encouraged. However, the opposite is true of men much of the time. For men, it's o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 12:10 AM
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I already explained I don't have an issue backing up claims. It's willful ignorance I don't care for. The fact that rape and sexual assault is a world wide problem isn't suggesting how it happens in different countries is the same. If you need to make up arguments and twist words, then you're going to find a lot of people don't take you seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 07:44 PM
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Yes, but that includes even very minor incidents such as touching a rear end. That is not purely assaults on the level of weinstein or Brock Turner. That's still assault..... Just because you think it's "minor" doesn't mean it is or was to the victim. Uhhh going to need a source on that. Every 1 in X study I come across is referring to either sexual assault, sexual misconduct, or harassment. No you don't. You know rape and sexual assault is a huge problem for women. What the estimation is... if …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 07:37 AM
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You asserted that most rape or sexual assault accusations are true. No.... My point is a lot more women have actually experienced rape and sexual assault than there ever will be people falsely accused of the act; accordingly, these are two different topics and need to be handled as such. Well known, trusted statistics show that 1 in 4 women will be sexually assaulted. 1 in 6 will be raped or close to it. I don't get why some seem to think that invalidating actual victims will somehow get people …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 07:07 AM
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I really don't even mind citing the sources(there's a lot, so that's why I don't understand why you're pretending you're having a hard time finding it. It's not hard or difficult data to find at all). I just find you're being intentionally lazy and willfully ignorant. So, even if I cite for you, you're going to find some excuse to continue to rally that "false rape allegations are an epidemic" when no scientific data even suggests that to be true. The data overwhelmingly suggests that, false rap…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 05:48 AM
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You should know more about the hard data you're making claims about..... Try Harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 05:14 AM
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The data isn't unheard of or obscure, nor is is hard to find if you bothered to try to look. O.o
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 05:04 AM
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So, where are you basing this idea off of? The majority of data that suggests that idea to be accurate. Basically put, the vast majority of alleged sexual assaults are not reported Right. So, if they were all reported..... that would make the rate of false reports even lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 12:21 AM
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Like I said, I don't know if she was raped or not. Clearly, you're very passionate that she must be a liar. Ok. So let's say she is. Let's say she's of the extremely rare, small percentage of people who make false rape allegations. That's its own issue. It isn't synonymous with and shouldn't take away from, the vast majority who... are not lying. No one is denying there's some percentage of people who make false rape allegations, and that's a problem.... the trouble is.... what people do seem to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 09:20 AM
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Did she really have an incredible incentive to lie? Would the very same performance have stood out less, or been less powerful if it was only about giving voice to sexual assault victims? I don't know if she lied or not. I just know it seems to be the knee-jerk reaction of society to assume women are lying about rape and sexual assault. It's no surprise so many women who are raped don't come forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 08:15 AM
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Therefore, given that most people would only believe a woman lied about rape if she admitted to it, regardless of any evidence, I believe men should be held to the same standard. So..... hold on. Your standards for what constitutes "most people" is a reply someone made on a previous post you made? That claim you're basing your logic on isn't making sense. If I remember correctly, the tipping point for you that made you think the woman was a liar was because she's now comfortable with her sexuali…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 05:59 AM
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Looks are important. But they aren't EVERYTHING. I think that's exactly what a lot of people are trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 10:10 PM
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It's anti-vaxxing for misogynists. LOLOLOL Oh Love. That's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 06:07 AM
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I made sure to be clear much of my numbers were estimations(so many sexual assault and rape claims go unreported). The rate of false rape allegations being around 5% is in respect to the fact some studies say a little higher, some studies say a little lower. The fact is, the percentage of women who are raped and sexually assaulted is very high in comparison to the number of people who will ever be falsely accused of rape. 2) 1 in 6 is rather the number of unwanted sex... Some folks call unwanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 06:03 AM
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I think The risks of the sexual revolution have been downplayed to women and it has done them great harm. Women cannot engage in the same sexual activities as men with the same amount of risk. Their risk, on average, is much greater. Granted, to a degree I think some fluctuation exists here (family values,culture, education levels) however I think many women are far more aware than you give credit. If anything, because of the sexual revolution and how it's evolved over time, women are becoming m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 05:45 AM
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Of course. Just like I sure than shit wouldn't want to call that guy my boyfriend. I also don't want to be misleading. I'm an advocate of happy, healthy, balance surrounding sex and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 05:11 AM
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is by accepting some accusations or sexual assault or rape are false. And, that women can at times have motives to lie about being assaulted or raped. I don't think people deny false allegations exists I think what some people may feel frustration by is the focus is on a very small percentage of people who lie, as opposed to the much higher percentage of people who have been assaulted. The really strange thing I've learned about false rape allegations is the rate in which they're made isn't far …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 05:09 AM
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Hmmm... I'll try to put it another way. You're single. Happily single, open to a serious realtionship and dating who you think has the potential to be a partner. But, there's some deal breaker. That doesn't make them bad people, you're just two people with different long term goals. They do in fact meet your standards for attractiveness, that's why you went on a couple dates with them. They agree you're great but not partner material either....and so... why not enjoy having sex then? You're both…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 04:02 AM
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There's another option. Sometimes, you meet people and you like them enough to fuck just not enough to date. Sex might have the potential for procreation, that doesn't make it every man and woman's goal. Not everyone is going to "click" for that long term, commitment realtionship. Until you find the right one who does and is someone you see in your life in that capacity, many people still get horny. Casual sex is about having fun and fulfilling a biological need. It sounds like maybe you imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 03:41 AM
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Statistically speaking I remember having a conversation about some study that basically said older single women are happier than older married women. A wife will typically look after her husband, in ways that are not often reciprocated fairly. So, men are often happier(and healthier) because their creature comforts(food cooked, laundry, groceries, house hold chores) are taken care of by women, and women are more stressed out because the burden is often unfairly placed on them to take care of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/18 05:42 AM
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I can see how perhaps that didn't come out right lol What I meant by that was, yes, no family is a guarantee you will not have family care.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 05:15 AM
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It's a guarantee you will have no family care. I think what constitutes loving care is a more subjective matter all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 04:46 AM
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Not blind, I'm a CNA. I've seen this scenario happen many, many times. Someone does "everything right". Kids, spouse, and wonders why they're all alone in the end with no one to care for them. The point is just that there is no guarantees anyone will be there. I don't see that as some horrible dark thing. I see it as a challenge to society to create kinder, better atmospheres in eldercare for everyone who needs it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 04:16 AM
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This is extremely good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 04:06 AM
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I have no idea what you people today think old age with no kids and no spouse of 20-30-40 years is like. I have no idea why people think they can bet on having a spouse or kids to be there for them. Someone has to die first. I've seen plenty of elderly people who's kids leave them behind in the dust. All that is more the reason to make sure the elderly are taken care of and nursing homes are run in a humane, caring fashion. We all might be there one day needing a little help if we are very lucky…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 04:00 AM
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Another part of it is classism is strong in America. For a long time there's been a tradition of blaming the poor for being born into poverty. The "My Uncle came here with $10 in his pocket and got rich" is very rare, and that "Uncle" probably died early from stress and ill health. America does a really good job making middle-class America hate the poor so they don't notice or ignore, the upper class taking advantage of the middle. Their given some carrot on a stick ideology they're just million…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 05:55 PM
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First, any and almost all ad campaigns use very attractive people. Often people most anyone, even attractive by normal standards, won't live up to. as if the very same women who fight for their right to be emotionally outspoken would sooner die than have to listen to their feelings. What makes you so confident it's "the very same women". It sounds like you're talking about women in general, that if some group with boobies over there is saying something, they represent how the whole behaves and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 05:35 AM
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Yup. It's planned and orchestrated. They're really quite sick fucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 07:24 AM
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Who am I going to believe? Some bitch that's been dating him for 5 months or my 10 years of experience? Honestly it's tricky. She might really just be a bitch. You've also not had a romantic realtionship with your friends. My comment was only to say, they do exist and we agree that they do. So, please don't take what I said to suggest your friend is x,y,z. My point was, you really might not know. Good abusers seem like great people to everybody else.... except who they're abusing. It's not that …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 07:23 AM
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One of my concerns about RP is general, are those who advocate the use of emotional abuse as appropriate ends to their means. While this seems to be a minority(thankfully) they seem to exist nonetheless. I preface by saying that, because in my example some folks may defend certain tactics as acceptable, that are in fact emotional abuse. (TLDR on bottom) First, it depends on the kind of abuse. I can only speak for myself. While I dated a textbook covert narcissist for 3 years, I was entirely unaw…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 07:14 AM
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You wouldn't know these types of dudes. Some people do rush to throw around the claim an ex as abusive, I don't want to deny you that. That's true. I'm not talking about that. There are people who appear to be wonderful people to the outside and are horrible to their romantic partners in private.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 05:38 AM
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I feel like your argument oversimplifies the many contributing factors of criminal single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 05:20 AM
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I think this works both ways. Generally, it's just a dynamic of sexual compatibility. Men and women should try to meet their partners needs, there's also a tipping point where the libido just doesn't match or the lack of sex means the realtionship is dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 05:10 AM
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This does not change the fact that lots of people genuinely dislike you, it just means they have chosen not to do anything about it. Ehhhh. I'm in the camp it's only a matter of time until they piss the wrong person off who isn't scared to fuck with them. I'm also of the camp that while these men "act" super macho, deep down, they'll never admit to and try to hide, anyone who has given it right back to them. At the same time, you're talking about one particular stereotype boxy kinda person I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 06:55 AM
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Sex used to be for creating babies, in today's society sex is for having sex. That's pushing it a bit, but I think I see where you're going there. People are more open today about sex for sex's sake and the fun of it. True. You can't have random/str/ltr sex and not address what happens with a pregnancy. I agree. People should consider what they would do if a pregnancy happened before having sex. It should be a slogan in every high school health class across America. The trouble is, quite often, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 04:42 AM
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But I don't see why the action itself, not the person, shouldn't be shunned or shaming, just like society does to smokers. The difference between smokers and obesity is that smoking was socially acceptable. Obesity, has never been socially acceptable in recent history. People have used shame on the overweight, fat and morbidly obese for probably over 50 years at this point. The reason people shouldn't be shunned is that it doesn't work. If anything, the world has grown bigger, even with all that…
/r/PussyPassDenied23/03/17 02:02 AM
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I dont condone abuse, obviously, but just look at the story. I did. It seems abusive to me. If it's not abuse, it's certainly dancing on the line heavily of abuse. Did she pick him? Or did a grown man target and groom a child? I don't know how old you are, but when I look back at 16.... I was a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 04:34 AM
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So you are saying that a 16 year old sheltered virgin should have known better? Are you not considering that the 12 years older alpha gamed her and amorally manipulated her? Yes, I am. I can almost guarantee that someone said something about the age difference, especially at age 16.... But nope, she just had to choose the experienced Alpha shithead using game. Do you understand the psychology going on here? Do you understand the physiological and psychological changes occurring in the average te…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 03:41 AM
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I call this phenomena my "husband blinders". I don't really even see attractive men as either sexual options nor do I look back on past sexual experiences and like day dream/fantasize about them/even think of them. I really liked the way you put that into words. I've experienced the same thing in LTR. When I'm committed and love a man, he's the only man. I can't imagine even wanting to be with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 02:44 AM
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You don't get a cookie for having a low N due to lack of options and calling it "values." That's an alternative fact if I ever saw one. I think that about sums it up right there. Sounds accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 04:50 AM
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The "friend zone" is a place someone willingly tortures themselves, sometimes with the delusion that "If only I wasn't put into the friend zone we would be a couple"... When, if the person wanted to date the friend, they would have. Normally, if someone tries to take things to a romantic level with a friend and it doesn't work, they would take a step back from the situation. Heal their wounds, then possibly have an actual friendship. In the "friend zone" it appears the rejected person doesn't bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 03:27 AM
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Women legit don't give a shit if throughout the conversation, you find out that you have the same hobbies and have the same worldview, Actually I think this is extremely important. it's all about how you make her feel. To an extent. If we don't have anything in common, I don't want to waste my time. Men should stop digging for similarities and talking to her like a friend and start teasing her more, even straight up insulting her, followed by moments of intense, sincere compliments and genuine d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/16 09:34 PM
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If I use the "I have a boyfriend" line, I'm not interested. If you keep pushing either way, and I can tell it's because you're trying to get into my pants regardless of that, I'm going to think you're a scumbag who doesn't respect me in the first place which is criteria number one for getting into my pants. I'm sure it works on some, but it would give me a horrible impression of someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/16 05:09 PM
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The term mommy issues/daddy issues is so drenched in shame most people ignore the concept at all they actually might have them, let alone understand what the terms actually refer to. Like how some people think rape is only "a violent crime by stranger", Mommy/Daddy issues are often reserved in the light of "Only a parent who beat, starved, abused their children". Neither of which is true. Many victims of rape are raped by someone they know. Many victims of child abuse didn't seem abused at all f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 06:07 PM
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"You'll never know what love reaaaaally is until you have a baaaaby!" Bad Grandma. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/16 01:24 AM
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It seems to be a "misery loves company" thing. How many people have been told by their mothers "When you have kids, I hope they're just like you!".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/16 12:59 AM
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I don't think anybody should be a jerk to anyone... Keeps life nice and simple, people who are incapable of that can go away. Nice people can stay. Yay! Anyways. We all know the media is bonkers and batshit. I think consumers of media have a responsibility to be careful what they hear, see and read. It seems obvious to me any news source calling men "weak" for dropping out of the study, are doing it for the clicks and advertising cash. That's a pretty bold thing isn't it? Pretty nasty, negative,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 06:30 PM
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Glad to give your brain something to chew on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 12:42 AM
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I think you describe the crutch of when many relationships either die or survive. When people talk about putting "work" into a relationship, or hell... just keeping the bond strong; sharing your deeper thoughts, feelings, goals, and concerns about life and the relationship is apart of that work and is something you should, ideally speaking, be comfortable talking about with your partner. I think both people need to be willing to do what it takes to move past the rough patches any long term relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 12:27 AM
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I was referring to how women have been sexually repressed, not men. Just because I'm not talking about men doesn't mean... well anything. It just means I was talking about women's sexuality and how it's been repressed. I think men deal with a hell of a lot more sexual repression than women do. Since you want me to comment on men's sexual repression it seems to go like this. Men to be a "good" man, historically speaking were expected to keep their sexuality in check. Vice versa, women, to be a "g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 02:23 AM
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I think I might see what's missing in your assertions here. the male strip club, the women were a bunch of animals basically groping the shit out of the male talent. Some of the situations were almost dangerous. While that sounds a bit dramatic, I have heard male strip clubs really can bring out a wild side in women you normally don't see. Why don't you normally see that? In American culture at least, a woman's sexuality is shamed. She's not suppose to be sexual, to be sexual is bad. So what hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 01:00 AM
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It's to satisfy your ego and what you believe others think of you. Yup, which is also self harming. If you're living for others you're not living for yourself, instead you're living a life of fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 12:13 PM
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I went to a nutritionist based on my BMI(which was higher then, than now btw) and she looked at me like I had two heads and then went on to tell me how flawed BMI is. At least according to her, waist size is a far more accurate indicator if someone is at a healthy weight or not. Being on the short side, I suffer from "Gain 5-10lbs, see huge BMI shift" I fluctuate between 135-145, at 5'2, been going to the gym/working out regularly for years so I come off rather proportional. I'm most comfortable…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/16 12:02 PM
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I have known many women who were in their prime in the 1950s. While it may be anecdotal you're painting a more optimistic picture than how they felt about it. No one was telling women they HAD NO CHOICE whatsoever but to be housewives and to pump out baby after baby after baby Depends on the family they came from. Young women in the 1950s in the US, were often products of conservative immigrant parents. Baby after baby was less common, but there was still gigantic pressures to be a wife and have…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 02:48 PM
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If your ex is talking garbage to your female friends, it's irrelevant because it's not personally directed at you? It may not be "for" women, but men and women alike will still have opinions in opposition to what feels or sounds like, garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 02:31 PM
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Why does my preference matter? I was curious and it helps me understand your perspective better. perception of her as a slut or as a single woman just playing the field is irrelevant -- at the end of the day she's had the same experiences. Well, that's why I made the pornstar point because not everyone has the same experiences. You suggest they do, but the pornstar points out this is not true. As you can see, more partners = a higher chance of having dated someone who was really close to her ide…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 04:16 AM
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Who is claiming that a typical single woman has the same amount of sex as a pornstar? Certainly not TRP. I'm not making that suggestion. I was asking a question trying to gauge your "slut" meter, as in, what it is to you. What makes you think a virgin wouldn't be capable of thinking the exact same way? How is this at all relevant? You're claiming a woman who is experienced or what you may consider a "slut"(unless I'm misunderstanding you) would be the type who would judge your looks most harshly…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 10:33 PM
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This true raging unicorn whore who gallops and rides every dick she sees seems to be a rarity. A rarity at least compared the young woman who is single and just being single- playing the field, dating, exploring her sexuality. From a man's perspective, what's the difference here? The two women have essentially the same behavior -- the rest is simply justification and mental window dressing. I am curious of your opinion here. Is a pornstar equivalent to the single woman who had a summer fling and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 03:47 AM
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These are just my takes but I'm interested in hearing your as well. You asked for other views, I shared mine. While tone might be difficult to assimilate via text, a different opinion isn't an "attack" as you seem to be taking it. Unless I'm wrong? Because, the only reason I can logically gather you'd "need" a picture of me is to say something along the lines of "Oh dear, well you certainly are not what I would imagine as my perfect 10, so your thoughts are invalid". No? Then, by all means pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/16 04:43 AM
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I'm not going to disagree attraction is important. A good, solid relationship is more than just the physical. People get older, metabolisms do get slower, illness can cause unforeseen havoc on our bodies. While initially it's good to have that "I find them attractive" spark, I think once a relationship becomes serious it feels quite shallow to leave simply because their body or looks may change. you can't falsely hope that someone will fall in love with your mind over your appearance. It's biolo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/16 02:36 AM
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Ideally in a realtionship both people shouldn't feel the need to go through their partner's texts or e-mail in the first place. That's less about my privacy and more about my partner trusting me and vice versa. It's kind of insulting if your partner feels the need to comb through your personal communications because that suggests they think you're some kind of person who would do something to hurt them and they don't trust you. As for respect for the fact two people are still individuals when th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 10:13 PM
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The 34 year old cut off is because pregnancy risks skyrocket after age 35. New research is showing a man's age also affects the outcome of pregnancy. As with women, after around 35 the quality of sperm starts to deteriorate and your potential offspring may have higher risk of autism and other abnormalities. Not saying to be a jerk, just saying that if you haven't, it's something to look into. If you do plan on having children, might be worth some genetic testing if possible to see where you stan…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 05:24 PM
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But anyway, if we were on friendly terms prior to his asking me out, there is no reason we can't be afterwards. There's a lot of reasons. If someone had strong feelings for you trying to pretend to be "friends" while they watch/hear about you dating other people is like salt on a wound. Feelings just don't go away because the person they wanted to date said no, unfortunately. I'd make life easier if they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 04:40 PM
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I was reading a little bit about this recent debate in the sub. What struck me was the stark, black and white interpretations of this "Nice Guy TM" phenomenon. You quite perfectly actually, outline the two extremes. What I noticed that some failed to recognize is that "Nice Guy TM" is something that can happen on a spectrum. Maybe that's not being debated, but that's just what I noticed. Have you ever, met or heard about a guy that follows this description? Yes I have. I met two men more similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 04:25 PM
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Eh. For just about everyone over 25, don't care. Date whatever age you want. I might find it odd a 30 year old man/woman would date someone twice their age but not "wrong". The reason I say 25 is on average that is the age when the human brain has fully matured. Maturity difference is more concerning to me than age difference. A 35 year old man/woman dating a 19 year old just seems like a situation where one party is taking advantage of the naivety of the younger individual more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 06:45 AM
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I'm not sure what percentage I'd put on it. I am sure that there is evidence that suggests challenges, like depression do have a connection to obesity. Yes, of course, some antidepressant medications may cause weight gain, the CDC pointed out Moderate to severe depressive symptoms were associated with a higher rate of obesity both in persons who were taking antidepressant medication and those who were not
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 04:25 PM
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I mostly agree with you. I cook from scratch, avoid the middle aisle except for things like coffee and tea. It's a real PITA working, going to school, even without any kids and I'm an experienced cook. When you say though, "If I can, anyone can" I feel like it brushes off that people have unique circumstances and obstacles. As a society we can't fix problems if we just ignore the issues that may be preventing people from reaching success.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 05:42 AM
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When considering food supply, I don't think its about taking away any accountability of people to care for themselves. It's more about being honest about how food has changed, which it has drastically over the last 50 years. It's not just fat people either. Society as a whole should have a safe food supply.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 05:30 AM
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I'm sure at this point someone has already brought it up but hell.... Isn't shame, ridicule the way fat people have been treated for decades? Even my mother in her 60s told me how she would be picked on in the 1960s for her weight....and back then, by those standards even she was only slightly heavy. Nothing like what's heavy now. There is a difference between encouraging healthy self esteem here that should fuel someone to want to take care of their body, and outright encouragement of Tess Holi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 05:21 AM
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Ehhh. This is one of those issues of perspective. It seems to you that women flake more and I would wager that could be because you don't date men. I think both genders can be flaky, neither more so than the other so much as it seems like women are more vocal perhaps about the issue than men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/16 11:27 AM
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Well, no it's not. That's why i said "or defect". I think what I was trying to touch on with the example of a compulsive liar is when someone hasn't properly socially adapted, that's their problem, no one else can fix their issues for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/16 12:47 AM
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Well sure, there's a normal degree people might be manipulative/deceptive. Someone who is what people think of as "sociopathic" would be going full speed off that cliff. That's the difference where I think you'd potentially be dealing with someone who would qualify for some kind of mental illness or defect, such as a compulsive liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/16 11:48 PM
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Isn't sociopathy a mental illness of some degree? Or in other words, sociopathic tendency would land someone in a spectrum of mental illness? In that case, I don't think women can do anything to fix someone else's mental illness. stop rewarding sociopaths with sex. In my experience with lady parts and briefly crossing paths with a man with sociopathic behavior(I learned after the fact) it's not like you know someone is a sociopath off the bat. Initially those kinds of people come off as the whol…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/16 05:11 PM
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I remember adults telling me this as a child and preteen and I thought those adults were either crazy or dumb. Maybe a combination of both. It doesn't make any sense, and it's a rationalization for shitty behavior and bullying in general. The only time I ever dated someone who was flat out abusive didn't last long because I wouldn't tolerate the behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/16 05:01 PM
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You say this, but it has been the countless experiences of men that sharing your feelings kills attraction and the relationship. Women simply don't want to deal with another pussy. Probably if the woman wasn't really that into you anyways, I can see that. I can also see that working vice versa as well. When people both like one another, sharing feelings you have, talking about where a realtionship is going, is a normal next step that shouldn't scare someone off who actually wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 11:36 PM
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Not what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 10:13 PM
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Yup, that's why I talked about safe guards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 10:10 PM
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Oddly this does not apply when criticizing women who choose to have kids they know they cannot support, or who drink/use drugs during pregnancy, or who abandon the kids afterwards, or... you get the point. The Department of Children and Families might disagree with you there. Lots of unfit mothers have their children taken away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 05:43 PM
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I think what's most crucial is men and women talk about this issue before they have sex. What would both people want if an unplanned pregnancy happens?? I don't have an issue with this type of legislation as long as there's safety guards in place. If a man and woman plan to have a baby, he can't suddenly jump ship because the reality gave him cold feet for instance. At the same time, I agree women who try to trap men by pregnancy is wrong. However, there has been huge advancement in male birth c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 05:41 PM
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Would the world be a better place if everyone made an attempt to be respectful to all people? Probably. Not as in a legal right, but where treating someone with respect is inherently expected without question. Is that not the norm already? For the most part? There's a minority who are not, teenagers some of which are rebelling, cranky elderly people at times, but on the whole I find most interactions with adults relatively pleasant. I tend to treat people kindly, so I'm sure that skews my result…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 02:26 AM
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Anatomically, a woman may need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Often this is orally, obviously there's a variety of methods here. Anatomically, unless a man is gay it's pretty rare he would need anal to orgasm. Shoe on the other foot, a man receiving anal may be different but that's another topic altogether. None of that is to say anything against anal. Whatever two consenting adults want to do is fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 06:42 PM
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The difference is want vs. need.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 03:44 PM
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A woman who orgasms clitorally might not want PIV when she's trying to orgasm. I think what struck me was your assumption about vagina and clit being equivalent pleasure centers when they're not. Yes, I see where you said you know some women will only orgasm from clitoral stimulation but I hope you also realize that can be entirely separate from PIV for women. Maybe you were just being snippy to OP, and pretending ignorance to make a point. Owning a vagina and a clit it just kinda made me go "Eh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 05:47 AM
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To be fair, a large number of women don't orgasm from PIV sex.....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 03:44 AM
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There is no shortcut secret hack that means you can have a good relationship without having to become good at relationships. Oooo. Such true words right there. I like your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/15 04:56 PM
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Wha? I'm so happy i'm not in that realtionship. Fuck that. What I do know is the vagina is a fickle asshole sometimes. One wrong move and it can kill the mood with little reason or logic. Just... poof Who says the woman isn't getting off? Masturbation is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 05:49 PM
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Definitely sexual assault. In my opinion certainly rape. Legally, depends on the state, in some states the definition of rape would require at least intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 05:46 PM
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I get what you're saying, some people are violent. I just disagree on the suggestion not to call police.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/15 04:21 PM
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According to this sub I probubly land into the "highly dominant" category of women( forget my bitchin brownie bakin bravado) and I say hell no to that suggestion. I'm no "subordinate" type female but that doesn't mean under any circumstances is violence acceptable. Violent people, whether they have a vagina or a penis need to face the consequences of their actions and sometimes that means criminal charges and jail time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/15 03:53 PM
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The thing is, that's not even one person every month. The point is however, when I think of someone who's "slutty" or sleeping around, they're trying to get laid a hell of a lot more than a measly once a month, if that. So, from that perspective it just doesn't startle me as a "high" number.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 03:03 AM
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The numbers initially seem high until you consider how they can come to be. If someone is rocking the single life for three years, and 75% the time hooks up with someone new once a month that adds up to 27 partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 05:13 AM
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I get what you're saying, I just remember when it wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/15 08:20 PM
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Women also view it as a way to appear more attractive to men LOL. Until very recently actually, it didn't seem like a bonus to be a girl into video games, unless you already ran with that "anime/video gaming" kind of crowd. There was always "that" group of people who enjoyed those things, including women. More recently things like Comic Con have become more culturally acceptable, and that may have very well attracted new women into it, but to dismiss women entirely, as if none of them ever enjoy…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/15 07:06 PM
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I'm not seeing the equivalence here between these two ideas. I can see how sure, it's in error to think only sex can lead to a multi-dimensional realtionship when its only dimension is sex. There's not much to work with there. There have been relationships, marriages that have happened after sex on the first date so someone can't say it's impossible. I can see how only sex is a shaky foundation. I am confused on the idea that women think nice guys are criminals or retards? What? A genuinely nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/15 01:17 AM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/15 07:46 PM
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You can't go into /r/relationships and not expect to enter amateur creative writing hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/15 05:11 AM
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If it's a choice between your feelings and my safety, I choose my safety. I like the way you put that. If I think a guy would handle it well, I'd say as much. Most often though I think both people know if a date has gone well or not, take the hint and move on. It's when I've had the feeling I was dealing with a nut I would be more likley to just avoid him entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 05:16 PM
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I've come to the conclusion that online dating is basically a twist on blind dating where people get to pick the stranger they're being set up with. Women are too chicken shit to tell men that they are not interested. I've seen some insane tantrums from men just because I said I wasn't interested to begging and pleading for a date or 2nd date. A woman can only take so much "You're a fucking cunt" and other barrages of insults before just not bothering to say anything seems like a better alternat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/15 12:07 AM
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Those algorithms no matter how well paired won't be able to foresee the issue of chemistry between people however. Even two people who would seem like an amazing match, just might... not be into one another for reasons not even they themselves can really understand. As for the concern over plummeting birth rate, I say let it keep dropping. Part of the reason many people don't want children by choice isn't necessarily the fact they just can't find the right person to change their minds. Beyond si…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/15 09:28 PM
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I'm not sure? I guess it's not something I generally considered. I'm moderate so I go all different directions. I like parts of the libertarian movement though. I'm a big fan of smaller government.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/15 08:58 PM
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It'd be as confusing as fuck on here. Most of the time already is. That's what keeps it so entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 11:06 PM
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Clearly, this is some sensitive territory here lol Just for the hell of it, if I wanted to go by dictionary.com under Alpha as an adjective its more about dominance and power and says nothing of sexuality. I don't disagree Alpha can certainly have a sexual aspect to it, and clearly for RP I see that's a big part. I have always associated Alpha more to do with power, never really considered it was a mostly sexual/desire sort of word. Thanks for expanding on that a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 08:49 PM
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Alpha and allele are quite different in their context. Alpha is not a word created by TRP, or derived from it. Hell, it has mathematical definitions even. Allele on the other hand, seems to be directly and only related to genetics. I understand this sub to be a neutral gender issues sub that discusses red/blue/neutral issues. I encourage you to keep in mind that, TRP in real life is very much a ideological minority. Not everyone is going to understand every little thing about your stance. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 08:36 PM
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Ah, so TRP has its own definitions of what is "Alpha". I see. Not being TRP, I see Alpha differently. An Alpha or dom woman, to me is just someone who's assertive, confident, take control kind of woman. In my view, her sexuality or attractiveness doesn't change if she's more Alpha/dominant as its a personality type. It doesn't mean she doesn't take pride in her looks or cares about them, it's just irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 04:34 PM
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Generally taller than me which isn't difficult since I'm short, dark hair, dark eyes, nice arms are a bonus not a requirement. None of those have really been requirements, just what I tend to find attractive. I'm forgiving in body shape, as long as its not obese. Overweight isn't a deal breaker. I tend to find white men more attractive on average. It's not as if I don't find people of other races attractive so much as I don't find them attractive frequently. Most men who were not white that I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 04:26 PM
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I was just saying an example that came to mind of an attractive, dominant female personality. Whichever of the two that is... She has more Alpha. Angelina Jolie has got it and Thatcher ain't. So to you a woman who is more attractive is what makes her more "Alpha"? Just asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 04:02 PM
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Angelina Jolie comes off awfully alpha/dominant in her personality and I'd say few men wouldn't agree she is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:15 PM
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You can't find one? I wouldn't ask if I found it myself which tends to be why I end up asking someone for a source since I can't seem to verify their claim and when you're making a claim like that you tend to be better versed in where the studies backing up what you're saying are coming from. So yes, please cite that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 11:17 AM
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Considering why people age is vigorously debated, do you have a source for that claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 04:39 AM
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Just because women at some point in the future can hold off, doesn't mean they should hold off too long. Unless someone is 100% dedicated to their physical fitness, on top of their health, having a child in your 40s I think personally is very selfish. I'm bias here, My mother adopted me at 38 and now in my mid-twenties watching them both deteriorate so soon is pretty depressing. Neither of them took very good care of themselves, and it shows greatly in their health. As fertility treatments impro…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:09 AM
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I've literally heard people say "AIDS ruined the fun." I think that actually brings up a very relevant point in which millennials are the first generation to grow up from birth with a sexually transmitted disease that has such a deadly nature. I can see that having an impact on partner count.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 02:39 AM
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Would you mind being manipulated? Probably. Causing mental trauma is wrong, and for an average person when they find out they're being manipulated that's what happens. They feel hurt, betrayed, and so on. Not only that, but it's that kind of behavior why someone might treat their next partner badly. "Well (last ex) hurt me, so I can't trust this one" No, that doesn't make sense but until someone figures that out themselves, that's often a standard response to pain and trauma that everyone else, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/15 04:57 AM
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It's all about tact. Really, that simple. There's the right way to say things, and the wrong way. Being a jerk, wrong. Easing into territory you know is hard to talk about, should get better luck that way. It takes a little experience and practice too. Sometimes what you think you'll say doesn't come out right and part of that is having some humility and apologizing. A lot of people don't want to do that part, they just want to stand by accusations, not genuinely talk about concerns. As for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/15 04:44 AM
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You don't ever just turn around and start liking it. Nah, some people just get to a point where they stop turning sex into something more important than it actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 02:50 AM
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You may just "use them" for sex, but you sure liked them enough to have sex more than once. Naaaah. Not really. FWB typically were not Alpha. I consider Alphas a one and done. Nowadays there is no difference between the two IMO. But nowadys sex comes before both LTRs and casual hook ups Ick. That's too bad. I don't date like that. "Alphas" get sex. That is the point they were referring to. You say it is a turn off, but you're still having sex. Sex is the defining characteristic. Ahhh. Okay. Well…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 01:28 AM
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That mentality seems to go hand and hand with immaturity. The older people get, the less they seem to care. But maybe, I'm just surrounding myself with horrible, horrible people who don't judge me based on the sex I've had ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 12:57 AM
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I know enough to speak for them. That kind of statement in general, when someone defends speaking on behalf of thousands of individuals they don't know is what I would put in the delusional bin, but...ehh..anyways... Lol, what men say they wish their women had had more partners in the past?A bunch of cuckold fetishists? You are just being delusional. That doesn't even make sense. A cuckold would want to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 12:40 AM
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I can certainly retort/discuss some of what you have brought up, I don't mind that. It seems your response is more in the spirit of attempting to psychoanalyze than answer the question which is "Which point of theirs(RP) is what they're saying mine is in equivalence to?" Or perhaps you're being so long-winded about it it's a bit lost in the shuffle and you can summarize more directly about that? A lot of your point was "No way you don't like an Alpha! You fucked them!" But if you are willing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 12:08 AM
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Back up a second. A lot of people have chimed in "OMG you've proved our point!" but they're not saying how, or which point of theirs it is which they're saying mine is in equivalence to. So if you'd like to share, I'd like to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 10:59 PM
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I don't think you have any place speaking for groups as a whole. Personally, I find your claim false. I've shut down many an "Alpha" type because I wasn't interested. What mentality exactly? Someone who has casual sex when single, acts single accordingly, sort of mentality? I didn't know what "SMV" stood for, so I looked it up and found it very humorous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 10:44 PM
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Women don't hate you or feel exposed. They just scratch their heads, knowing they think and feel differently. Except for those who do respond to 'alphas' and will happily nod along. So much agreement with that statement. I hear about how I'm suppose to loooove the Aplhas but they've always been a huge turn off for me. They might have been fun in the past for a quickie, but I wouldn't consider them LTR type material in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 12:38 PM
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You're assuming I'm talking about just sex. I'm not. I'm referring to relationships. In that sense, when you're committing yourself to another person in context of healthy relationships I don't think it's unfair to say most people would like a partner who is confident and happy. I have found happy, confident men have not asked for a complete sexual history. Most just wanted to be sure I was healthy, which is completely understandable. While, those who seemed to have some mental issues seemed mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 05:28 PM
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I don't think so. Maybe what you mean is mail-order brides? Then yes, yes those men come off insecure. Do you disagree someone who has to go to the length of ordering a bride doesn't* seem sane and well adjusted? *edit-a word
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 05:20 PM
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Well I don't believe that either or matters, as in, I think insecurity is a negative for both men and woman, irrelevant of circumstances. Typically a woman might be insecure with her looks, a man might be insecure with his career, I dunno, what I do know is it seems like most people like a secure partner who is happy with what they see in the mirror or confident in their life goals. I think it's more likely that most of those men did care and the ones that you call "confident" just knew better t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 05:18 PM
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But women do call men who are 6 ft who date 5 ft women insecure. I have never ever, ever, ever, ever....... heard of this issue ever happening. Ever. But hey, maybe it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 04:15 PM
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Not blue pill.... more here for the show, popcorn, you know. Internet people watching activities. But... what?? Being insecure isn't a gender specific negative. It's bad for both. Women don't like it in men, and in my experience, men don't care for the characteristic in women either. As for the whole issue surrounding men being called insecure when they demand a low to zero partner count of women I would say that's less accusation, more observation. Confident men I've been with don't care, insec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 04:07 PM
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I've always found Asian men attractive, but frankly the opportunity simply didn't come up. I say this especially in light of the general attention paid to "fat acceptance/body acceptance campaigns" by corporations like Dove, yet the relative ignorance to race-based differentials I don't think it's ignorance by Dove or others. I think it's more an issue of what is "taboo". Race has become a more sensitive issue as of late. It would basically, in all likelihood, end up a PR disaster if Dove, Aveen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 02:22 AM
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Nah. Anybody who is single and doesn't want to be at one time or another can find that frustrating. She just happens to have a bigger podium. The author also lives in NYC, a notoriously difficult place to have relationships due to the lifestyle of the city. Not impossible, no, just harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 08:01 PM
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So what the article is saying is being intelligent should weed out the exact kind of guy an intelligent woman wouldn't even want anyways? Hey, sounds like a win-win! Other than that, the article seems to be satire so I wouldn't take it all that seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 07:52 PM
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I just found the whole thing so silly. That's my reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 05:21 PM
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Strangely enough, I didn't encounter virgin shaming. Wasn't a big deal. I think in HS so many people were more focused on their own virginity than other peoples it seemed like. There was defiantly curiosity but I don't remember anyone really being nasty or giving people a hard time over it. I do remember if someone was being an asshole occasionally people might bring up their inability to get laid/gf/bf but it was more a low blow because they were being a dick than it was just about virginity in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 05:10 PM
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Sure, I agree men and women have their differences. I just don't see why that should create some kind of negative if a woman has an active sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/15 08:31 PM
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Does that very same logic not apply to men? Sow your wild oats as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 05:00 PM
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I don't know who you're trying to convince, me or yourself. this isn't a legitimate question at this point as it is a manifestation of the asker's third waver mentality. It's an extremely valid question based on OP's mentality and accusations, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 11:37 AM
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lol. What? Crime can happen to anyone. It's not a stupid question, it's just one you don't want to answer so you're avoiding it. I can imagine why.....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 04:22 AM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 04:16 AM
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That's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 04:09 AM
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"But that wouldn't happen to me because of x,y,z," is in fact avoiding her question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 04:05 AM
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Sounds like me and my SO. It can and does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 04:00 AM
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You didn't answer her question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 03:56 AM
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I could care less about number, high or low be it a fling or a LTR. What I care about is if I like the person, that's a hard enough task in itself if I obsessed over numbers I'd only be hurting myself. Scenario: "I met the greatest person! We both dig art, gardening, hiking. We agree on life goals, the best chemistry I've ever had with anyone, my mother loves him but since he's had more sex than me I'm going to toss away what would have been a fulfilling, happy experience" To me that's some trag…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 10:16 PM
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I think people tend to expect/accept someone fluttering around their equal experience level. But there's just so much variety here I can really only speak in generalities. Some will certainly base it much more on equal emotional maturity and not care about number, high, low in between at all. I think virgins/inexperienced people would be more inclined to want a 0-3 range number of partners in someone they're dating. On the opposite, someone with more partners 10+ is experienced enough to be more…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 10:05 PM
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LOL... I just wanted to say I love your tag. .
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 05:12 AM
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Understandably, if you have a history of robbery a bank won't hire you because of the fear you might steal again. Now, if a woman has a fun single life, has lots of great sex what does that imply if you marry her? I can understand not wanting to be with a cheater because they might cheat again. I'm not seeing the connect of women who have fun sex lives while single...will...? What is the fear associated with women who have robust sex lives? STDs? There's tests for that. So something else? I gues…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 04:55 AM
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