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| 1 | Did I give her the ick? and how to move forward.Honestly leading up to it I was suave and I made her laugh literally all the damn time. So I know there is a solid foundation laid before this, sometimes I get comfortable too quick when I get a bit of success and stop trying and get lazy with my game. I know it's stupid because I mess up a good thing that took a lot of time and energy, I got too comfortable way too quick, I know that now. I played it off the next day and acted totally normal, nonchalant, fun and chatty. Cracking my usual jokes … | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 06:44 PM |
| 0 | Did I give her the ick? and how to move forward.I'm gonna mention to her I didn't mean to put pressure on her and she can take as much time as she needs. I'm gone home for the weekend so I won't see her until Monday, give her some space yano | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Did I give her the ick? and how to move forward.I know I feel like a dumbass :/ | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Did I give her the ick? and how to move forward.You think it was totally cool to ask then? | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Hello I need helpSimilar situation, two girls struggling to decide. The fact is you just gotta pick one. Goodluck. | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Give gym advice to gym crush? Yay or nay?No she will not appreciate it this is 100% not the move. Anything else sure but you picked the complete wrong conversation starter | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 01:27 PM |
| 29 | I just realised how shit I am at this.You'll get better man :) if you've ever played a sport you know how you start off shit and the more you play the better you get. The only advice I can give you is avoid getting discouraged too easily, that shit held me back for years. Just keep hitting on girls and keep failing because eventually 1/100 attempts will land then 1/50 then 1/25 then 1/10 so just keep going playa ;) | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | I know the answer but I just wanna double check.. should I text her?Sorry actually 5 days | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | I know the answer but I just wanna double check.. should I text her?Or like "hey did you get my message? I still wanna take you out for coffee x" | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | I know the answer but I just wanna double check.. should I text her?Its been a week, I just texted her saying "I had a good time talking to you last night, did you check out those songs I sent you" Any suggestion on what I say now? Just like "hey did you get my message?" | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 05:23 PM |
| 12 | People in bars and clubs avoid meFirst question, are you physically unattractive? If so that's probably the main issue, clubs are superficial places where that's what counts. However if you look fine then I'd say change what you're doing. Chill out with the high fives and they extended "heeeeeyys" stop looking for attention and look for entertainment. If validation is what you're there for you need to change that mindset because it puts you in a needy mindset which is offputting to women and to potential friends. Being needy is… | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 09:49 AM |
| 3 | she took 18 hours to respond, should i stop texting her?I left a girl on read for 5 days coz I was busy, texted her after the 5 days asking if she was still down to meet. She took a few days to respond then came back with a paragraph explaining that she was hesitant now because I left her on read for so long. I gave her an apology followed by a series of explanations not excuses, and we agreed to still go on a date. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 10:45 AM |
| 1 | There's a girl from my work I like..What are some of the signals you've noticed that make you think she likes you? | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | I wanna ask out a girl in workI get that you have those emotional inner thoughts getting in the way but this leaves only two things left to you. In order to develop that part better you need external proof of validation. So you have to risk putting yourself out there. Be aware of the fear and present with it but don't let it stop you from trying. Take your time, plan out what you wanna say it but do not feel you have to stick to it. Use it as a safety net if you suddenly draw a blank in front of her or something. Just so you… | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Co-workers yay or nayIs this the Miami wework office? | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 06:42 PM |
| 5 | How to approach well?Ridiculous confidence. Unnecessarily ridiculous confidence. I do not mean be cocky, I mean you go into this approach knowing she likes you. And be funny. Right so yeah on paper it is simple but of course. Many attempts you'll fumble your joke, have nothing to joke about etc. Thats normal and is why numbers matter. Approach 10 times, 1 of the 10 has a decent chance of having a situation you can comment on to kickstart some humour. If you make her laugh you demonstrate the biggest possible value y… | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:12 PM |
| 6 | Tip for men to better appeal/relate to women (from a woman)Can I ask you a specific question? Its unrelated to this post but it's about tinder. Can I dm you? | /r/seduction | 14/05/22 11:59 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Feeling a RegressionSounds good to me bro, best of luck ! | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 04:38 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Feeling a RegressionNot particularly experienced but I think it's likely the case that you're holding onto an illusion that experienced guys don't have nights like this too, maybe that's just part of the game as is the case with everything else in life right? Our moods fluctuate, our skin condition fluctuates, we can have a good or bad hair day, something happened at work that's bothering you. The list goes on. You have to learn to accept and take those L's as part of the game. This way you'll end up reducing the i… | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 03:52 PM |
| 10 | how important is the "hair game" when it comes to becoming attractive?I actually am bald and take great care of my beard. It matters but mainly because of the confidence it gives you. If your hair is shit its just one aspect of your looks that will drag you down , just like having a weak chin or massive nose will. Optimise all aspects of your appearance to see what your working with and start your game from there. Also theres almost definitely a product out there that will do what you want to your hair. I actually had the same problem (when I had hair) it was too … | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Worst advice I’ve ever received was “Be yourself” when it comes to dealing with girls! What about you guys?Be yourself is short hand for don't be afraid to be confident. If you're confident you will outwardly express how you feel in a socially acceptable manner. This is a tough balance for people to strike possibly more than ever nowadays because theres no written rules fo follow, theres no unity in our culture anymore so theres no set way to act that will be broadly socially acceptable. The trick is to choose what you stand for and then stand for it when it makes sense to you. Learn how to stand up … | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 06:59 PM |
| 2 | After seemingly successful first date, got ghosted, sent a “no hard feelings, I’m moving on” and got a response. What now?This comment is good. Tbf this is sort of my mindset, at least it's what I've been developing recently and it does work. Thanks for the reminder | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 02:22 PM |
| 2 | After seemingly successful first date, got ghosted, sent a “no hard feelings, I’m moving on” and got a response. What now?How do I create an authentic abundance mentality when I absolutely do not have an abundance of women queuing up outside my door. Don't get me wrong my personality does a lot of the work and can get me far but it is work, and it's rare that a girl just likes me without me being very funny or charming in the lead up. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:54 AM |
| 3 | After seemingly successful first date, got ghosted, sent a “no hard feelings, I’m moving on” and got a response. What now?I'm constantly coming on too strong after a good date with a girl, I've only recently learned that being aloof works way better than being authentic | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 01:37 AM |
| 0 | when is the right time to kiss her?Hmm the physical vibe doesn't make sense yet, don't rush it. Let the tension build if it feels right then lean in, you could also tell her how good she looks and that you haven't been able to concentrate on what she was saying because every fucking word she says is punctuated by the little voice in your head saying "kiss her- kiss her- kiss her" or you know... that but less wordy. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Why do I feel uncomfortable when women are naturally attracted to my personalityBe honest maybe, " I'm confused when it comes to girls right now, all I know is I like you but I'm scared to let you in" | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | I'm sure a lot of you wouldn't be lonely if you went for women more in your own league, or the women who don't get much attention.This is true, I know from experience I pursue women who are objectively hotter than me because I find them attractive, get rejected most of the time, occasional success. Shooting for women who aren't as attractive but still cute in their own way, unsurprisingly much more success. Also gives experience and confidence being with women who really want you, and makes it easier to shoot up and punch above your looks weight | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 05:48 PM |
| 105 | Underrated tips that will double your successThis is accurately a great post, I've a date later today and it put me back in the good mindset, thanks bro. | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 11:19 AM |
| 5 | Been seeing a girl who said it would be funny if I got a black eye…This ^ | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 04:56 PM |
| 1 | How do I (f47) approach/flirt in a tasteful mannerBe physically attractive, what would've worked on you at that age when being approached by someone your age | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 07:35 PM |
| 6 | Gym Approach FRI'd say third time you see her ask her on a date, just that easy. Hey "blah" good to see you again yada yada. I was wondering, would you wanna grab a coffee sometime? I dunno if I mentioned this when I introduced myself last time but you're pretty fucking cute Adding the compliment at the end is good not because she'll be flattered but because she'll be able to see you in a sexual way and not as a guy who's too afraid to be romantic. And the rest is short, sweet and simple. No bs, just "coffee d… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 11:08 AM |
| 0 | How do I make her laugh?Personally I think humour can't really be learned, I think its just a natural personality trait. It's a perspective on the world. Thats why everyones sense of humour is slightly different (or drastically different) and is why some people connect with humour instantly and smoothly and others not so much. Whatever you find funny is your humour say things that make you laugh and if you find another person who laughs at those jokes then they'll likely be great company because they'll tell the same s… | /r/seduction | 15/03/22 10:35 PM |
| 3 | How to be more sexually seductive and flirty as a guy?Honesty practice is the only way, keep trying to strike the balance eventually it will get easier and become more natural but tbh I think you gotta try and try and try and accept that you're gonna take it too far and you're gonna under shoot. But like any action you have to over shoot then under shoot before you can hit the target so just keep testing that fine line between cute and creepy as much as you can until the line because clearly visable across a bunch of social situations with girls an… | /r/seduction | 15/03/22 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Will rapping for women during a cold approach improve my chances of getting numbers?Dude in that case forget about cold approaching. Instead spend the weekend working on your rapping and when you're eminem level release and album, start a rap career and get rich that way you'll be able to seduce women so much easier ! | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Will rapping for women during a cold approach improve my chances of getting numbers?If you make it goofy and can pull off the humour yes it'll get you 3/15 numbers if you can rap like eminem.. no it won't because it's odd behaviour. | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Can someone please help me with just paying and getting it over with?Idk man see a hooker if you want but it's pretty meh. Its exciting for a while but it gets sad very quickly. Theres nothing of value there for you, if you're really ugly then I'd say go for it but if you're average looking I wouldn't sweat it so much | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeOh and I'm 5"9 | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeI'm bald at 21, nice beard, in good shape but on the skinny side but like I'm very fit. I swim, climb, go to the gym when I can and do martial arts also I'm intelligent, and funny when I'm in a good mood. Don't get me wrong I have plenty of reasons to be confident but I find the cold approach game difficult to get into (not that I've tried) its just that all those things I like about myself, I feel like they come out slowly over time, so when cold approaching, in my head I'm like I can't put my … | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeTrue I guess, I'm average looking I'd say so maybe I could pull it off every now and again | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeJust curious if I could pull this off 😅 | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 01:54 PM |
| 79 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeMy question to you, are you hot? | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 01:47 PM |
| 1 | He’s so beautiful i wanna cryWhat works for me won't work for every guy, I like girls who are kinda unique and dorky, and I find intelligence extremely sexy. Other guys like girls I would consider kinda boring. There's no magic trick, there's just compatibility or not. | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 06:16 PM |
| 3 | He’s so beautiful i wanna cryI used to have dysmorphia when I was younger and didn't understand it when girls had a crush on me, I always put it down to my personality (I must be really charismatic, I thought and I knew I was funny so it made some sense) But I had no idea I was actually cute. In fact sometimes I'd stare at my face in the mirror and just think wow I'm an ugly ass dude, yet cute girls still wanted to kiss me sometimes? My point is YOU think he's so hot and maybe out of your league but he might not think that,… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Speed DatingNo but I bet I'd be a pro, but a good talker once a conversation with a new person starts naturally, it's the initiation I find troublesome. No experience but would love to experience it, I think you're either built for it or not. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 12:43 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]That is the appropriate way to read it bucko! | /r/seduction | 19/01/22 05:08 PM |
| 10 | [deleted by user]Also just read your post about not being able to work out- that sucks man, illnesses can be catastrophic so yeah that it a big hit, a bigger hit than going bald if you ask me because exercise is very good for mood boosting not just aesthetics. | /r/seduction | 17/01/22 04:20 PM |
| 83 | [deleted by user]Step one sit on your bed shut up and ask yourself and really ask yourself. What is one thing I'm doing every day that is making my life worse that I could stop doing. You'll get an answer if you are actually open to hearing what you don't want to hear - because anything you're doing thats messing up your life, you're doing because it has short term benefits which keeps you stuck with those habits. Maybe it's being lazy because you don't have to work hard. Short term you benefit, but long term is… | /r/seduction | 17/01/22 04:15 PM |
| 1 | That feel when you ask her out and get rejected!Howd you win her over? | /r/seduction | 31/12/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Can you guys advise me on this text?No coz its exam season and we're both swamped | /r/seduction | 08/12/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Looks matter..I wasn't trying to start a debate on whether looks matter, I was starting my request for advice with the opinion that they can and do effect your dating life. The purpose of the post was to ask for advice on how to not get discouraged when feeling that your looks are holding you back | /r/seduction | 30/11/21 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Looks matter..Well I actually prefer small tits so your point is moot.. Hahaha but seriouslu yes this is a good point, I mean I'm not ugly as far as I can tell I'd put myself at flat average. Good from some angles in the right lighting for sure, not so great at all at other angles. I guess I don't know which angles to trust. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Looks matter..Thanks this comment helped, I know who I am deep down and that guy is a good guy, I also know that when I do fall in love I'll be a great boyfriend because nothing makes me happier then watching my girl blossom and show her true vulnerable side and her knowing that she's always safe and loved in my company is so just ahhhh that shit is just what all men want | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 05:12 PM |
| 2 | Looks matter..This is a lesson I've learnt time and again, implementing it is the difficult part remembering it and using it is all important | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Looks matter..Yeah that's me rn but in college in your 20s dating just isn't quite as serious as that and looks factor in way more. I guess patience and self assurance are key for me, it's not like I've not had any dates lined up but they've all fallen through (I got covid and exam season came up) I guess I'm just going to have to keep trying to gain more and continue to sustain what self assurance I have gained, the problem is though the viscous cycle of I'm not hot enough for her means that I can be confide… | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 11:31 AM |
| 7 | Looks matter..To be honest I agree with you, because I have very little confidence in my looks sometimes my attitude follows suit. I feel as if I'm constantly putting up a front that I'm not embarrassed by my appearance but the reality of the situation is that I am deeply. And I don't know how to not get discouraged when I see other guys who are hot easily pick up girls. I don't even think I'm ugly, I used to be cute now I'm average looking but I've always had body dysmorphia. It cripples my game sometimes. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Double TextingTakes a while to get it down. I make the same mistakes still but then remember this and pulls me back into my confidence. | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 03:35 PM |
| 27 | Double TextingYou can't invest everything in any one girl until you a few dates in. Otherwise you burn yourself out emotionally and triple the pain of each rejection. Text her as if you don't give 2 fucks about if she responds or not if that means sending a goofy voice note about something completely off topic as your double text then do it. Because either way it doesnt matter she ain't the one if you have to overthink it. Text other girls at the same time keep yourself entertained so she doesn't become the h… | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 03:33 PM |
| 3 | How to get laid by yourselfHonestly I'd feel embarrassed to club by myself but I don't know why. It would free me up to hunt game the entire night and honestly nobody would see my rejections so why is it a big deal? Also I can relate, I thought I was unattractive despite some romantic successes. Found out it was my game and the belief I was unattractive that was holding me back. | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 03:27 PM |
| 11 | [deleted by user]It sounds like it.. | /r/seduction | 01/11/21 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Exuding happy vibesThis is so true I relate to it all, from the tinder to when you're happy your personality shines bright | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 04:19 PM |
| 9 | [deleted by user]It could be hes having down days, sometimes if I'm feeling low I just cant muster up the energy to engage positively with the people I care about, it's possible that on those down days he actively avoids you so he doesn't act in a way that's off putting, if he likes you he wants to put his best foot forward so when hes feeling low he'll avoid you like the plague until he knows hes in a good enough mood to hold a good conversation. That's just one possibility though ? | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:55 PM |
| 14 | why do so many dating books recommended you just approach random girls?I feel like it's more common in America but honestly OP as a guy if a cute girl did that with you, you'd be ecstatic. It's not weird its uncommon. And its uncommon because it's scary. | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Deeper seductionCould be that nowadays most girls just want to hook up | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Getting into the gameWow okay I might check that out, I really wanna have a chance to try put myself out there but I'm not sure how, I feel like I'd love speed dating meeting new people is an easy way for me to make my personality shine it's the initial arranging a date I struggle with. | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Getting into the gameI just can't keep my confidence consistent, I seem confident on the outside but if I have a boring day without much social interaction I start to spiral and feel hideous, then it takes a lot of energy to bring my mood back up enough to be confident and sociable like normal, it honestly is starting to feel unsustainable. | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 07:26 PM |
| -1 | Mental game ruined by small penis. What's the point of all this?3 inches hard is fine you can totally get a partner especially with everything else you've got going on. If it was like 1 inch then yeah you might have a problem. This is a bit of a side bar but some girls actually PREFER a guy with a small dick, the caveat you gotta be into SPH (small penis humiliation) I am and find it very hot but my dick is 6 inches, go figure ? Either way its certainly not the end of your romantic journey. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 06:40 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]What was the text? | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 05:25 AM |
| 11 | What did I do wrong?How should any of us know ? We're just as confused as you - there was very little detail to go on in your post you certainly didn't do anything awful maybe she is into you but for whatever her personal reasons she can't be in a relationship rn. If you're confused ask her why and respect her decision, tell her how you feel, ask how she feels and respect her decision in the end. Goodluck | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Found gym crush on IG- shoot my shot in the DM’s or wait for an opportunity to see her next?Dude don't listen to him, if it was a look or not doesn't matter if you think it might have been a look pretend it definitely was, why? Because even if it wasn't a look this will boost your confidence so that when you do go up to her she might like you. The lesson : a look is always a look, even when it isn't a look. | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 11:48 PM |
| 8 | Found gym crush on IG- shoot my shot in the DM’s or wait for an opportunity to see her next?Didn't read your post just the title , my advice in person | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 06:30 PM |
| 3 | How to ask a introvert woman out (HELP)It seems reasonable to ask her out again? Last time she was in a relationship, she only blocked you because her boyfriend wanted her to. She appreciated your humour. I would say, don't be ashamed of your feelings if she rejects you she rejects you, but it seems like you've got the green light to give it a shot. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 11:57 AM |
| 6 | I'm about to go on a date with a girl. Tell me how to flirtDont worry too much about escalating, heres my advice. Have a fun time with her, no romantic pressure if things are naturally flirty great sounds like a perfect date. If things are just fun then at the end of the night when you walk her home or wherever you leave her that's when you can tell her you had a great time and give her the look and go in for the kiss after you've secured the second date. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Girl broke it off with me, feeling enticed to go out with the sole intention of cold approaching girls, any advice?Firstly thank you I appreciate the compliment 😁 I would very much appreciate the chance to run through some scenarios with you that's an awesome idea. For me usually I don't think about my banter it just comes naturally in the moment and i usually good in a group more so than 1 on 1, let's say I see a girl in a coffee shop. My first fear would be oh man everyone around me in line can hear this conversation and I'll feel exceptionally embarrassed should I fuck up. Not because of the girl rejectin… | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 02:56 PM |
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