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ADVICEpecanspinwheel/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 08:13 PM
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I firmly believe the intention was to demean women and convince girls early to settle for LVM. Really? I always got the impression it started as a joke, like "haha imagine a gorgeous genius settling for this loser," and over time people forgot it was supposed to be funny and unrealistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:49 AM
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A world where everyone gets to do exactly what they want without judgement or prejudice, and where every person is magically paired with a partner who a) loves them and b) wants the exact same thing as them. Stay at home moms marry traditional husbands, independent career women marry husbands who want to be a power couple, nomadic women marry nomadic men, the Kim Ks of the world marry the Kanyes of the world, etc etc etc.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 11:40 PM
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I was being generous and thought maybe he's in his 30s making a career transition. But 40?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:52 PM
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I read that it's best to date someone who's your own age, and it gets worse the bigger the difference is. But I don't really remember why lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:35 AM
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The same as Black or Asian guys losing their shit when "their" women date white guys. Doesn't matter what race -- all men see us as property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:34 AM
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He was a nice guy who loved his wife when he was fat and mediocre. Got abs and some money and became a grade A asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:44 PM
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I saw that tiktok. Seemed to me the whole thing was just click bait -- "you MUST have sex on the first date and here's why". She wasn't making the case for sex before commitment, she was just telling a funny story. It's weird Buzzfeed went so far with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:11 AM
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OP used the phrase
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 02:00 PM
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Those kind of men are only nice to and look at women they want to fuck Being a yoyo dieter in a big office building, the same men who ignore my existence and let doors slam in my face when I'm overweight will go out of their way to say hi and hold the door and smile at me when I'm a normal bmi. They really only value our desirability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:15 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:50 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:50 PM
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maybe rename it to toxic gender roles this is a good idea!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:49 PM
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Do you mean this APA paper, about "Harmful masculinity and violence", and "Early socialization of negative masculine ideals"? Or are you referring to something else? I've never read the paper, just originally heard about it in college. EDIT: nvm I found it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:42 PM
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men are tired of being scapegoated line they’re the inferior sex I can agree that this happens too often, but I was speaking specifically about the term "toxic masculinity". It's not accusatory because it refers to a specific set of behaviors, not to the entire male population. But I understand how people might take it that way. That's why I explained it in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:55 PM
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And that when I hear toxic masculinity it's always an attempt to shame and manipulate men. Yeah. I've had conversations like this about the constitution and the Bible. The intentions behind something can be good or even great, but if people can use them for bad reasons, they absolutely will.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:52 PM
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aren't explicitly taught to suppress their emotions; it's a learned behavior Fair, but I have male friends who were explicitly taught this from their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:49 PM
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!!!!!!! I'm writing this on my bathroom mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:55 PM
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Masculinity in general isn't toxic. There is toxic masculinity, like teaching men they should suppress their emotions, or saying "boys will be boys" to absolve them of consequences, and then there is positive masculinity, like providing for a family, or mentoring young boys, or standing up for a stranger who is being harassed. I don't know why so many people have a problem with the term -- seems to me it's better to highlight the few negatives that can be improved than to just say "all men are t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:35 PM
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I used to read the sub to see how some men think lol. That was the original context the quote appeared in when I saw it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:20 AM
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I mean, that's where I read it lol. But that's a great article!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 12:38 AM
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Before TRP was quarantined, I used to read posts from time to time and while I didn't agree with everything, I will always remember the phrase "if it's not a hell yes, it's a no." It was originally in the context of avoiding rape allegations, but even for platonic friendships and the first stages of dating, it's a good thing to keep in mind. If they aren't happy and excited to see you, and you them, that's probably something to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 11:29 PM
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Serve me for life...but you take care of your own expenses. What? Even I know that's not how BDSM is supposed to work. But I suppose women with fully developed brains aren't his target audience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:21 PM
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WHEW same. 31 now and just started getting manicures for the first time in my life because my family made fun of me when I did it as a teenager. Re-learning how to be feminine in your 30s is a fucking trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 06:59 PM
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widespread body dysmorphia among women, brought about by 60 or so years of bombardment from the media/popular culture about what a woman "should be". We're told women "should be" small, petite, tiny, waifs, quiet, not take up too much space, skinny, childlike. I mean, my own personal body dysmorphia comes from men explicitly saying these things to me, not from watching too many music videos lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 02:36 PM
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I understand your point about social media, but I was speaking specifically about lawsuits in court. And I didn't say judges. A judge's job is to be fair. A defense attorney's job is to defend their client, which usually involves casting doubt on whoever making the allegation. The easiest way to do that is to convince the jury that they 1) are not to be trusted and 2) sleep around anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 09:28 PM
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Nah, making a rape allegation is damaging period. If it doesn't go to trial people assume you're a slut and a liar, and if it does go to trial, the defense lawyer will imply you're a slut and a liar. There's really no good outcome for the woman other than having done the right thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 08:55 PM
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My mother always taught me that sex was the most important thing in relationships. Because if the sex goes, the relationship goes soon after.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 12:39 AM
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That's why fat and ugly women have higher N Or it's because whatever causes them to seek happiness in empty calories also causes them to seek happiness in empty sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 12:59 AM
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In my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 06:52 PM
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lmaooooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 05:37 PM
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For dating, not porn lmao. And I said "in my experience."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 05:11 PM
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The problem is that men and women are different. In my experience, almost all men will be attracted to a woman who's young and has long healthy hair, a small waist, light eyes, and nice boobs (not huge necessarily, just nice). On the other hand, almost every woman I know is attracted to something completely different -- older men, younger men, a clean shaven schoolboy, a bad boy with tattoos, lanky dudes, guys with dad bods, muscly gym bros, etc etc etc. (Notice how in schools, or bars, or even …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:57 PM
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you are correct lol i did forget that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:39 PM
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I mean, older people need love too?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:35 PM
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There are 7.4 million more women than men in America alone lol. You're absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:04 PM
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Amen to that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:52 PM
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Taking out my piercings -- nose ring, industrial, double helix. I know a lot of men hate them, but I can't wear normal earrings, so I always used to feel ugly without anything girly and sparkly by my face. My piercings make me feel pretty, and I'm not giving that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:49 PM
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It’s always about money. They found success on the backs of a mostly female platform and mostly male audience, and now that they have name recognition they can begin to alter exactly how they exploit folks Exactly like tumblr, and patreon, and tiktok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:45 PM
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Everything you said is incredibly perceptive and valid and all that, but the word you're looking for is tenet, not tenant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 01:44 AM
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Men want wholesome women. Women with class not ones that shove things up their ass. ...for money. He's angry about the "for money" part. Because you best believe that as soon as he gets that classy, wholesome woman in his bed, he'll be crying about how she doesn't do anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:18 PM
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Frederick's? I've got big boobs and they're the only company that makes $20 bras in my size lol
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:01 PM
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This is freaking adorable. Do this. I'd do this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/21 10:42 AM
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If you think height matters much then you should try some MMA or BJJ and you'll figure out real quick that it's not much of a determining factor. I'm 5'8.5" and most men get insecure around me and resort to making fun of my height. The only men shorter than me who don't do that? The ones with muscles.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 06:46 PM
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Thank you! I've tried fasting, but I'm a binge eater, and, for me, not eating for hours just makes me more likely to stuff my face with junk food when I finally do eat. But I know fasting does work, so I'm attempting a compromise -- I'm trying to eat 3 times a day, but between 12 and 8, so I'm kind of intermittent fasting even though I'm not really fasting. Hopefully that works! And no, I haven't really considered freezing my eggs. In my mind, if I'm meant to have kids, I will, and if I'm not, t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 11:11 AM
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I tried jiu jitsu, but I don't think it's for me -- it's a lot of body contact with strangers, mostly men, and that's still scary to me. But boxing and muay thai are both on my list, along with cycling! And I live next to a small church, but when covid is over I definitely plan on attending a bigger one and doing some of the activities there. I'm realizing now that as much as I focus on my appearance, my social anxiety is just as important, so I'm going to focus on that as well. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 11:06 AM
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I answered this in a previous comment, so I'm just going to copy and paste if that's okay: The reason why I'm starting so late is because after my father died, my mother ingrained in me that women could do everything on their own and that (other than my dad) men were useless, so relationships were not worth having. Rom-coms and dating were looked down on in my household, and my mother even criticized friends of mine as being "boy-crazy" for even mentioning someone of the opposite sex. So for yea…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:58 AM
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I've never been on a date so I don't really have standards haha. But I understand your point. I won't be looking for never married, 6'5", greek god looking billionaires. Just trying to find a good man. Thank you for the reminder!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:56 AM
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The nerves are definitely what get to me. I've had two dates that I was invited on and then panicked and canceled. I've never considered coffee dates because I'm not a coffee person, but you're right they do seem like they'd be shorter and less pressure. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:54 AM
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When I was a child, I'd cry whenever I saw adoption centers or foster kids on tv, and desperately wanted my mom to adopt so we could take care of someone who needed us. (I was an emotional kid lol) Adoption is definitely something I'm interested in. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:47 AM
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I definitely don't think I just bring looks to the table. I'm a good Christian, I've been told that I'm kind and supportive, I take care of sick family and friends, I can bake, I speak multiple languages, I'm pleasant and non-confrontational, and I make my own money and have a condo that I plan on renting out in the future. I obviously don't think I'm perfect, but I think I'm pretty decent, as potential partners go. I've only befriended 4 men in my life, but all of them have wanted to date me. I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:43 AM
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I just started baking, but given my weight loss goals, this is probably a smarter thing to start doing haha. I'm good at buying groceries and throwing something together for lunch or dinner, but I don't really know how to cook actual meals. I'll look into that for sure. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:47 PM
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how the toxic patterns of the women around me harmed my ability to love men I'm definitely seeing this now. It's no wonder I never learned how to date growing up -- all of the women around me were single and resented men. I'm trying to unlearn all of that, but it takes time. Thanks for the book recommendation!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:46 PM
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You know what? I have a road bike in my mom's garage that I got when I was in high school. It's old, but it's quality. I bet I can get that out and start riding again. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:20 PM
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Volunteering is probably a good idea too. I always say I'm going to volunteer, but then get nervous and quit before I get started. That's definitely something I can work on. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:18 PM
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Thank you! I'm glad to hear that. Posts in this subreddit make me smile too -- they're almost always happy, supportive, and good-natured, so I'm happy to be adding to the good vibes!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:17 PM
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Maybe try getting into music or art! Thank you! I was a part of choir before covid happened -- I'll definitely check and see when that's going to start back up.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:15 PM
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When it comes to having children though, there is such a thing "too late". Oh that is 100% on my mind nowadays. I've never been one for rose colored glasses, and I definitely see the urgency.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 11:14 PM
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Thank you so much! It's great to hear that I'm not alone. And that's going to be my reward for getting halfway to my weight loss goal -- downloading some dating apps. I hadn't considered the faith based ones, but religion is important to me, so it's definitely worth a shot.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 10:00 PM
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My dentist suggested braces but I'll definitely ask about Invisalign. The reason why I'm starting so late is because after my father died, my mother ingrained in me that women could do everything on their own and that (other than my dad) men were useless, so relationships were not worth having. Rom-coms and dating were looked down on in my household, and my mother even criticized friends of mine as being "boy-crazy" for even mentioning someone of the opposite sex. So for years, I ruthlessly repr…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 09:19 PM
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Thanks -- hopefully I can get them done!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 09:02 PM
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That's a lovely story. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 08:37 PM
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