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He also told me he showed up naked in front of his friends and said “Who is the lucky one who will sleep with me tonight?” These are not the actions of a heterosexual man. Think about this. If you walked up to a group of guys, naked, and asked which of them was sleeping with you.... well, I know I definitely wouldn’t just mean sharing a mattress. He doesn’t either. He’s having anal sex with other men and then having (I’m assuming) unprotected sex with you and lying about it. Please go get an STD…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 08:05 PM
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Yeah, your friends are just salty. My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years and have sex 4+ times a week and make innuendos/flirt with each other all the time. It’s pretty common when two high-libido people pair up.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 05:38 AM
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Both used together correctly = no unwanted pregnancies. According to my parents, I’m living proof that this is false. Incredibly unlikely? Yes. But the chance still exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 08:29 PM
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Red Pill isn’t conservative; it’s an amoral set of sociological truths and a tool box of different ways to make those truths work in your favor. The fact that the majority of RPW are traditional/conservatives is because feminists refuse to acknowledge differences between the sexes. I’m a queer woman in a nonmonogamous marriage and super happy with it. We definitely exist. That all said, in no way shape or form is a threesome ever “required” for a healthy relationship. In fact, a healthy, strong …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 09:30 PM
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You’re absolutely right. I totally misread which sub I was replying to. I blame the teething baby 👀
/r/RedPillWives15/12/20 05:38 AM
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Given your post history? I’d do the one thing the mods won’t let us suggest. It turns out this isn’t RPW. Kick him to the curb, sis. He’s been cheating on you without remorse for at least a year.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/20 02:08 AM
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Crabs in a bucket mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 04:02 PM
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Bad bot.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 05:20 AM
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A couple things I’d like to point out here: 1: Red Pill theory is not synonymous with Trad women, conservatives, or Christianity. It is an amoral set of sociological observations and strategies based on those observations. 2: Your statement that “no woman subscribed to the above definition of submission” is false. Power exchange relationships (which include Taken in Hand relationships as well as many different forms of BDSM) use precisely that definition. So I would say no, you are not correct a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 07:34 AM
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I had my little girl almost a year ago, and I regularly haunt the mommy boards, although I really only post on the private group for November 2019 babies. The number of new moms I see complaining about their SO desiring them and nonchalantly saying they haven’t had sex in 6 months is astounding. The number of women I see complaining about being exhausted from doing everything because their husband is playing video games and relaxing while she hasn’t had 20 minutes to take a shower in the last 3 …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 08:00 PM
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If he treated you well in the past, and the breakup was amicable, and he’s as wonderful as you say.. then there’s only one question you need to ask yourself: Is he someone I’d want to have as a spouse/life partner? If the answer is anything other than a definite no, I say go for it. A good man will encourage you to keep working on your health and self-improvement goals even after (especially after!) you’re in a relationship. If he’s attractive but you don’t see any possibility of a future, then …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 07:05 PM
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I absolutely agree with this! My mister (4 years together come Feb) met me when I was arguably at my least attractive--the heaviest I'd ever been, with a super butch haircut, never dressed cute or wore makeup, and my mental health was a dumpster fire. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, and have a lot of common interests, but honestly? He still doesn't care about makeup or my nails being done. He's far more interested in playing with my butt or boobs.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 04:43 PM
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Looking at your post history, someone told you this when you asked 112 days ago, but here’s the cold truth: you’re probably the other woman. There’s no justifiable reason that his family doesn’t know about you by now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 06:06 AM
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I participated in RPW some but mostly have just lurked as I've felt the content had gone downhill in the last year. I first found RPW & RPWives in late 2016/early 2017. I’ve definitely noticed a decline as well, in quality at RPW and in activity here and on r/femininenotfeminist. I’m guilty of not providing quality content or participation either, though. Especially here in the smaller sub, a small handful of ladies stepping up could really revitalize the sub.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 07:06 PM
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Also r/rpchristians and r/asktrp
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 07:56 PM
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Now, now.. we can’t have women respecting themselves. They might not put up with angsty TRPers faux-alpha attempts at domininance and plate spinning.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 07:27 PM
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DTMFA! We aren’t allowed to say that anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 05:24 PM
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Hi everyone! I’m 33 and I’ve been with my Mister for 3 1/2 years. I have a 14yo stepdaughter and a 10 month old baby girl. Thanks to the pandemic, I’m currently a full time SAHM, but when the world is normal I enjoy working part-time at a home decor store. I’m a bit of an outlier both here and in RPW, because I’m bi and in a nonmonogamous relationship.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 04:55 PM
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You’ll find a better fit on the men’s subs, for sure. This sub is for women looking to improve themselves... I doubt you’ll find much value here.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 03:52 PM
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Ah. I was scrolling my home feed and hadn’t seen that yet. But from my interpretation the mods just don’t want that to be the only suggestion, which is more reasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 03:30 PM
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Since when? 6 months should still be part of the vetting period, especially considering that most of the world has been under stay home orders for the majority of that time. If a crazy baby mama, or not being the first person her partner would have had a child with is a deal breaker, that’s a valid point.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 07:54 AM
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I met my husband when I was 28; we started dating when I was 30, and we had a baby 2 weeks after I turned 33. While I wasn’t a virgin, I hadn’t been with a man since I was 19, and he loves how many things he was my first for and that he got to teach me how to please him specifically. He also knew how inexperienced I was, and never pushed me to go farther than I was comfortable with. They’re out there. You just have to put yourself out there where they can find you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:09 PM
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Came here to say this! There’s also r/redpillnonmonogamy but it’s pretty dead. Look, ethical nonmonogamous relationships are built on two foundational pillars: honest communication and mutual, enthusiastic consent. I don’t have all the details, but clearly you do NOT actually want this type of relationship, so consent isn’t there. You need to talk to him about your need for monogamy, and be prepared to walk away if he won’t or can’t provide it without resentment. You deserve a partner who wants …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 03:35 AM
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I have, as Monty Python would put it, “huge tracts of land.” I don’t wear super low cut tops often (sometimes for date night or around the house for my fiancé), but even a standard vneck T-shirt shows the very top of my cleavage, so I usually choose a more flattering scoop or sweetheart neckline. In for a penny, I figure!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 11:43 AM
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Yup. My brother was with his exgf for 15 years, never engaged, swore he didn’t want kids. He left her with no warning, and 6 months later married a widow with two small children.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 09:06 AM
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Well, yes, but in this instance it’s a bit like asking permission to open the barn door after the cows have gotten out. I understand the tradition, but it starts to fall apart once you already cohabitate and have children together.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 07:00 PM
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You have two children together. With all due respect, why did he even ask for your father’s blessing? Why is a wedding contingent on said blessing?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 04:58 PM
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Honestly it doesn’t make a huge difference to your question! A lot of the appearance focused stuff in RPW is based on maximizing your attractiveness to the largest segment of the dating pool. But if you’re part of a subculture that you don’t want to date outside of, mainstream fashion isn’t as essential. And if you already have a partner, the focus becomes more about maximizing your attractiveness to that particular person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 02:37 AM
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If you’re happy, and your fiancé is happy, that’s absolutely the most important part. You said yourself that you feel sexy and confident—why worry about changing? I’m not “traditionally feminine” fashion-wise either. I’m a nerdy metalhead with a fondness for 40s/50s styles and it shows. My fiancé loves that I look like a badass and melt like butter when he gives me “that” look. He says it means even more that I want him to lead when he knows I can handle it myself. If your style is very much lik…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 06:12 PM
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I’m 33, and found RPW right around my 30th birthday. I started dating my fiancé about 4 months later, and I credit RPW for much of how wonderful our relationship is. I think Mrs. Midwest is absolutely lovely, but like you I don’t really relate to her. I’m a big fan of Fascinating Womanhood’s YouTube channel! They also have a Facebook group, but I’ve noticed quite a few of the ladies who are active there haven’t let go of their SJW/feminist framework.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 05:16 PM
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Everyone who lives long enough has made mistakes, and everyone who is halfway decent regrets some of them. That doesn’t mean he didn’t pick you, or that he wishes he was with her instead. “I don’t want to be with anyone who regrets their mistakes” is an incredibly childish and short sighted viewpoint, especially when YOU are the one who keeps reminding him of it by bringing it back up. You need therapy to deal with your insecurities. And if you can’t put the fact that you aren’t his first love b…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 04:50 PM
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The first time? 2012, at age 25, after we had been together 6 years. Divorce was finalized a month after I turned 30. Currently engaged to the man I’ve been with since before I left my ex (it was an open marriage) and our wedding was supposed to be this upcoming December, but we’re pushing it back due to the pandemic.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 02:38 AM
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I despise vacuuming. So... I just don’t do it! Obviously this won’t work for everyone, but my fiancé and I have a deal where he does the floors once a week in exchange for me doing all the meal planning and prep (and macro calculating) so he doesn’t have to think about it. I’m home right now because of the plague, so I do almost all of the housework other than the floors.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 03:27 PM
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I have two babies in heaven; it’s a pain I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. And so soon after your other losses! You have my deepest sympathy and condolences.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/20 03:37 PM
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Therapy. Seriously, counseling (preferably with a licensed therapist of a similar belief system to your own) is going to be the best way for you to process your regret and guilt, and to overcome your trust issues.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 07:38 PM
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I regret waiting so long to leave, and I sometimes regret marrying them* in the first place, but I never regret the divorce. I knew it was over when they had me backed into a corner while screaming and cussing at me for over an hour...because I told them that I wasn’t going to go to a friend’s place instead of sit quietly at home while they went to a “girl’s night” with their affair partner. *My ex-wife is AFAB and trans. They/them was their preferred pronoun when I went no contact.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 06:42 PM
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Speaking as someone who spent 11 years in a relationship where I was unhappy with our sex life and a lack of physical affection: I’m sorry, but he’s not going to change and you’re going to make both of you miserable trying to make things work. Don’t be like me and wait until you’re 30 to wake up and realize you can’t do it anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 05:32 AM
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“Liberal, feminist, but not ‘liberal feminist’” describes me too! I’m going to steal that phrasing if you don’t mind. ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 01:16 PM
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Wow, ours too! She’s 6mo and like 19 lb. She’s been in the 96th percentile for length and height since birth
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 12:24 PM
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I’m also ENM with a baby currently sleeping on my chest! I just wanted to second that if he knew he wanted any form of non-monogamy from the start, then he’s a huge ass. That is a first date or earlier disclosure. Anything less is unethical. If he realized that was something he wanted to explore after the two of you were already committed, then it’s just an unfortunate deal breaker. I think you handled yourself very well and have nothing at all to be ashamed of or feel guilty about.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 03:53 AM
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we heard loud banging on our garage door to the point we thought it was falling off the tracks. We ran outside (me first out the door) to find a toddler banging on the door. I realize this isn’t the point of your post, but why the heck was a (I’m guessing unattended) toddler outside banging on your garage door? There’s a story here and I’m super curious!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 02:16 AM
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We have a 5 month old; it's pretty awesome watching her discover the world! Grass is fascinating, and banana causes her to shriek with joy when we give her some--it's so stinkin cute!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 11:56 PM
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Try and say that in leftist spaces and you’ll be keel-hauled. The level of subdivision these days had gotten ridiculous. Half of these labels were literally made up by people on tumblr in the last 5-10 years. I just say I’m queer. I figure the details aren’t relevant unless you want to date me or set me up with your friend 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 04:42 PM
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I saw this cutie and figured we could all use a little joy these days: Baby seeing bubbles for first time This mess on the other hand... Fuck, I’m LGBT and have no idea what half of these special snowflake labels are supposed to mean! 🙄Pride Flags
/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 03:35 PM
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My best friend was (and still is) dating his brother, so I kept running into him at gatherings. We became good friends because we have a hobby in common. We were friends for like 2 years before we ever went on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 07:51 PM
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Heathen here! The red pill is a set of truths and a toolbox. It’s largely amoral and not tied to any one religious group.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 05:41 AM
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Fair question! My fiancé is a (straight, cisgender) man. As far as I’m aware he hasn’t studied the red pill, although he’s naturally dominant and seems pretty aware of most red pill concepts in general. Linguistic note: Fiancé is a gendered word (the feminine is fiancée), which is why I didn’t specify, but that’s easily overlooked and a bit obscure.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 03:35 AM
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Part of what the HAES and Fat Acceptance movements get wrong is that loving yourself also means loving yourself enough to care for yourself as well as possible. Most sane people would never dream of stuffing a 5 year old full of sugar and junk and letting them sit around watching tv all day, but they think nothing of doing it to themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 10:38 PM
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Honestly, I’m willing to bet you were the one who originally led me to that article!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 10:34 PM
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The SMV might have attracted his attention, but the RMV kept it. Sure, he wouldn't have dated me had I still been fat, but he also wouldn't have dated me if I still had short hair. Weight is just one part of physical attraction. This is an important point. Actually, it’s two separate important points. Weight is the largest single contributor to SMV, but it’s not the only factor you can improve. According to The Rules Revisited over 60% of feminine beauty (SMV) is readily controllable. That means…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 06:10 PM
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At my worst, I weighed over 300 lbs (BMI 47), had a “pixie cut” that was very masculine, and never cared about my clothes/makeup beyond being clean and weather-appropriate. I hated all things feminine because I associated them with being weak and a victim. I was also (unhappily) married to an emotionally abusive woman and completely enmeshed in 3rd wave feminist logic. I was a train wreck, and saying I was a 3 (where most morbidly obese women are) would probably have been rating me too high. I s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 02:20 PM
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3rd date here! In all honesty, I would have slept with him on our second date, but it was interrupted by my roommate needing to be taken to the hospital for stitches. (He was at the same bar and cut his finger on a broken glass) Like you, I had been good friends with my partner for years before we ever admitted our mutual attraction or went on a date. A lot of the usual vetting process had already been done because of that friendship—I already knew he was an honorable man, a good father, etc. I …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 06:27 PM
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Some STIs can be dormant for years. My ex-wife (I’m bi) was diagnosed with trich shortly before our divorce and accused me of cheating and giving it to her.. I tested negative and woman-to-woman transmission rates are incredibly rare for that particular STI. The only logical conclusion was it had been from her last hetero relationship 8 years prior. So depending on what you caught, he could have been carrying it and asymptomatic... but if you’ve had a negative test since you started having unpro…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 04:09 AM
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I glance up at him occasionally but, to be perfectly honest, without our glasses on I’m not sure it matters! We’re both nearsighted enough that his face is blurry at that distance 😂
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 07:23 AM
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Yes! Ultimatums usually happen because we haven’t enforced good boundaries to begin with. (Like someone else said, exceptions may include developing an addiction or something very serious) They’re just establishing a boundary after it’s been broken, and any time you set an ultimatum you should assume the other person won’t pick you. If you aren’t okay with that, find another solution. On an unrelated note: Happy cake day!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 12:39 PM
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PP operates on a sliding scale based on your income. They don’t turn anyone away and can help you sign up for Medicaid if you want/need to as well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 10:26 PM
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In that case you’re breaking the rules of several NSFW subs.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 08:31 PM
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Avoiding diagnosis due to fear makes you more likely to die young, not less. It is absolutely possible to live a long, healthy life and have children with PCOS. I have a 2 month old daughter who was conceived without medical intervention. You’re scared to talk to your parents; do they have a history of belittling you and making you feel that way? Or are they generally supportive? You know your situation better than any stranger on the internet. If you really feel like you can’t talk to your pare…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 08:29 PM
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I swear to god.. OP, if this was an inappropriate message, please report them. You sound like myself when I was in high school... too tall, too broad-shouldered, too chubby, just too BIG to be “cute” like the popular girls. I had stupid frizzy hair, acne, glasses, and a crooked smile. I was pretty convinced I was doomed to be alone and never fit in. And you know what? I still don’t fit in with the small town I grew up in, and that’s okay. I’m going to second asking your doctor about PCOS, especi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 02:13 PM
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How do I become happier? I have a boyfriend who is gone the majority of the time. I see him like 3 hours a week and no sex life. I dont work, I am entirely isolated. I have 2 teens that spend their days with friends mostly ignoring me. I had gone back to school, but I can’t start my next program for another 9 months. My mom has stage 4 cancer so I focus on her hair loss to avoid thinking about her dying. I am overweight. Just a thought...I think the stuff in parentheses is the actual way you fee…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 08:37 AM
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Acknowledged, but it’s becoming easier in parts of the country and was the closest analog available. My sister-in-law has her tubes tied this past summer (31, no bio kids). Either way, the difficulty doesn’t change my point.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/20 09:51 PM
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It absolutely does work like that. He gets to decide what he does with his own body. If the situation was reversed and she said she was getting a tubal ligation because she was 100% sure she didn’t want children, no one would DREAM of saying “It doesn’t work like that, you have to discuss it with your husband first.”
/r/RedPillWives06/01/20 04:56 PM
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I have a rule that people only get one chance to date me. I’ve made two exceptions to that rule my entire life: a high school boyfriend who moved away when we were 16 and I reconnected with in college, and someone I dated very briefly who realized she had a lot of mental health work to do before she could be in a healthy relationship. In the second instance, I respected her honestly enough that I told her would be willing to give her that chance when she was ready, but she never asked for it. We…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/19 06:29 PM
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Gotcha. For a second I thought you were implying that “it was a joke” should be taken at face value. And yeah, he’d have done better to say “I was angry and not making much sense,” rather than calling it a joke. We all know someone who says absolutely ridiculous things when they’re venting, so it would be more readily taken at face value.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 01:39 AM
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So, to your mind there’s fewer possible explanations because he said it was a joke? I’m not sure I follow your logic here.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 01:26 AM
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Since he was frustrated and venting, I think his exact words may need to be taken with a grain of salt here. "I didn't like that he was fucking her" *might* mean exactly that, that he didn't like that his best friend was having sex with her boyfriend. Or it might mean that he didn't approve of their relationship as a whole, or that he didn't think the guy was treating her appropriately... There's a lot of wiggle room there. That said, it's probably still a yellow flag and something to keep an ey…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 10:23 PM
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There’s a lot of resources over at r/RedPillParenting! The sub is a little slow, but when there is a post people generally respond pretty quickly. The absolute best thing you can do is to make sure they have good feminine role models, and make sure that you model how a good captain treats the women in his life.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 08:59 PM
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Okay, there's a lot to unpack here. I'm going to start at the bottom and work my way up. First, I want you to take a deep breath and realize that your daughter dating or being attracted to other girls has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you're a good role model, any more than being right- or left-handed does. And I say this as a queer woman who comes from a traditional Southern family with VERY strong male and female rolemodels. Trust me, if family values could keep anyone from bein…
/r/RedPillParenting06/11/19 09:06 PM
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This isn’t RPW. It also isn’t any form of BDSM, even TPE. This is abusive control. The hallmarks of BDSM is that it is safe, sane, and consentual. EVERYTHING is negotiated in advance, with predetermined and agreed-upon consequences for the sub if they break any of the rules they have agreed to follow. Not to mention, even in a Master/slave relationship, the submissive (or the dom) has the ability request a discussion outside the M/s dynamic to resolve issues. Or to use a safeword and EVERYTHING …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:13 PM
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http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/09/feminine-beauty-is-highly-controllable.html
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 10:40 PM
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I don’t have any specific advice for you, but I wanted to let you know that it’s ABSOLUTELY possible to be goth and feminine at the same time. I’m more of a punk/metal head, but these days borrow a lot of fashion ideas from gothabilly and vintage in general. It’s like the best of both worlds—the dark aesthetic I love plus a more old school, feminine vibe. My wardrobe is probably 75% black, with the vast majority of the rest being purple, gray, or red. Is it harder to find a traditional, man-led …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 05:54 PM
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Unless whatever he double booked you for is an actual emergency (i.e. Sister’s on the way to the hospital and “of course we can watch the kids!”), there’s nothing wrong with politely declining whatever he signed you up for. “I’m sorry, but I have a prior commitment. I won’t be able to attend ____.” What incentive does he have to change if he knows you’ll cancel your plans to do his thing anyway?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 06:35 PM
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Thank you for taking the time for such a detailed response! I was aware that the early Christian church had shifted towards monogamy, but not that it had a scriptural precedent. (I’m not sure that’s the right phrase, sorry!) I will definitely read that article when I can take my time after dinner this evening—I have a strong suspicion it will lead me down a deep research rabbithole! ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 11:54 PM
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I’m religious so I believe God created us for one partner only. I’m not trying to be combative, but ask in good faith: how do you reconcile that belief with the many references to polygamy in the Bible? (I’ve assumed that you’re Christian. If not, please substitute your holy book in place of the Bible)
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 06:26 PM
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Okay, here’s a list ranging from early 90s alternative to recent Heavy Metal, all with female vocalists, and roughly sorted by artist. Forewarning: A lot of them do not have messages that necessarily mesh with a RP mindset. Arch Enemy: We Will Rise, My Apocalypse, Bridge of Destiny Concrete Blonde: Bloodletting, Everybody Knows, God is a Bullet Flyleaf: All Around Me, I’m So Sick, Again Halestorm: Freak Like Me, Love Bites, Uncomfortable In This Moment: So many awesome songs, but Dirty Pretty, R…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:48 PM
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Not single, but when I was my preferred option was actually neither! I’ve never been a “casual sex” kind of person, even before swallowing the red pill, but it’s really a terrible idea for females. Sex toys can be fun, and I do have some, but mostly they are used for couple time. I’m usually to lazy/impatient to grab one if it’s just me taking care of myself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 12:01 AM
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I mostly listen to metal or alternative, so a lot of it might not be every girl’s cup of tea. Some softer songs that I love are “Beautiful with You” by Halestorm, Lana del Rey’s cover of “Once Upon a Dream,” and “Until Eternity” by Black Briar. The heavy stuff would take a while to write up, but I totallywill if you’d like some female-performed music to make you feel like a bad ass (great for workouts!)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 11:12 PM
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About 6 months into our relationship, my SO told me that I was the only person who had ever made him consider marrying again (he and his ex-wife split 11 years ago). I told him that I would absolutely love to be Mrs. Hisname someday, but am happy either way, there was kissing, and we didn’t mention it again until 19 months later when we found out I’m pregnant (this was back in March). Right now we can’t get married or I’ll lose my health insurance, so it’s a moot point. I jokingly suggested I co…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/19 03:42 AM
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I’m 18 weeks pregnant, and my man has been SO affectionate and protective ever since we found out. He’s taken charge to make sure we’re in the best possible situation when the baby comes—we currently rent two rooms in a house share, and he’s been picking up extra shifts and apartment hunting because he wants us to have our own place. We have an appointment to sign a lease in a couple days, and I’m so excited! I’m also incredibly blessed to have an amazing circle of women who have been incredibly…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/19 03:29 AM
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I think it’s very dependent on context, rather than always rude. My SO and I point out attractive women to each other all the time—but he also makes it clear that he finds me attractive as well. If he knows that you’ve been worried about him not being attracted to you, then... yeah. Pointing out a hottie at the beach is pretty disrespectful and cruel.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 05:20 AM
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If you’re on mobile, you can click the three dots icon under a post/comment and there’s an option to save. You can access your saved posts through your profile to come back to later! ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 12:33 PM
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I was raised by my grandmother, but one of the lessons that always stuck with me is, “Pretty is as pretty does.” This was occasionally followed by, “and right now you’re being ugly,” when I acted up. Bless her, she tried SO hard to get my little tomboy self to be demure and ladylike... took me longer than I like to admit to realize I could be feminine and still do all the things I love. As for homemaking, I think I learned more by example, really. Her hands were never idle. Even relaxing and wat…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 08:46 PM
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Is sarcasm and willfully misunderstanding their stance is how you always approach dialogue with people whose views differ from yours? For the sake of discussion, I will assume good faith and honest confusion on your part. RPW is geared specifically towards women who desire a relationship with a dominant man. You obviously don’t fit that mold, but the vast majority of (heterosexual) women do. You say you’re a dom. Are you active in your local BDSM community? How many s-types are female vs male? H…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 10:06 PM
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I use a smallish plastic tote—the kind with a latching lid, to keep inquisitive critters out if I need to soak something.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 02:38 PM
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I didn’t meet my SO until I was 28, and didn’t start dating him until I was 30. You aren’t out of time. But if you keep wallowing instead of going after what you want, you’ll spend the rest of your life miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 03:49 PM
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Christianity isn’t a religion. I know this is OT, and I apologize, but... what? How in the world is Christianity not a religion? I’m honestly confused, and I say that as someone who was very much raised in the faith. On the matter at hand, I can see why people are saying that you over-stepped, but I also understand why you reacted the way you did. It’s his job, as your captain/future husband, to set and enforce boundaries with his mother. It’s his job to protect both you and himself from her nar…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 05:49 PM
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With one exception, all of my guy friends fall into one of 3 categories: my boyfriend’s friend, my friend’s boyfriend, or gay. And the reverse is true of my BF. This isn’t by intention on our parts, just how it seems to play out. BF did have 2 or 3 female friends before we got together, but ended up voluntarily distancing himself from them when they were disrespecting our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 04:28 AM
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5’9” “Amazon” here. CW: 165, SW: 317. Shoulders like a line backer, 11W shoe size... I’m a big girl, and this is going to be blunt. So.. you’re working 30 hours a week (which is a lot with a class load! I’ve been there!), not paying any rent, and only have $200 a month after paying bills? It sounds like you need to worry less about what clothes to buy and more about paying off your debts and losing weight. I know, you say you’re an Amazon. I know, you say your doctor told you that you looked ano…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:31 PM
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I’ve sent nudes and racy pics to my SO, but they never show my face or identifying marks, with the exception of some classy pinup style stuff from a boudoir shoot. He’s actually the first person I’ve ever felt comfortable sharing that with, so I don’t have any exes to worry about. Basically, my rule of thumb is if I wouldn’t want my mom to see it, you can’t tell it’s me unless you’ve already seen me naked.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 06:16 AM
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You know, at this point I’m well aware that nothing and no one is going to change your opinion (and that’s all this is, your personal opinion), but what the heck. I’ve been gaming since I was 8, and while it by no means defines me, it absolutely has improved my life. A brief list of lessons and skills from D&D and video games that I have learned and used in the real world: * Arithmetic and doing math quickly in my head (calculating THAC0, anyone?) * Creative writing * Forming a persuasive argume…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 08:58 AM
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Are you actually past me? Because you sound a lot like me! I’m also a big girl (down to 200-ish from 317 in Dec 16) with PCOS. I highly recommend r/PCOS and r/PCOSloseit for support. A Keto/LC diet is the absolute BEST thing you can do to mitigate PCOS symptoms. I know keto is the new trendy thing, but if isn’t working for you, try a different LC diet like Atkins40 or Paleo (watch out with the yams). Honestly, it sounds less like you had cheat days and more like you gave up twice. A lot of peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 08:46 PM
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I'm sure this has been submitted before, but it made me chuckle: Strong Independent Woman
/r/RedPillWives28/11/18 05:02 AM
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Have you watched Round Planet? It’s a parody of all those great BBC documentaries, and the narrator is hilarious!
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 05:42 AM
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I have an amazing pair of almond-toe damask combat boots. The damask pattern isn't super obvious except in daylight, but the toe shape and slight (like 2") heel definitely read as more feminine than docs and they aren't nearly as bulky around the ankle. That said, I mostly wear them when we'll be doing a lot of walking or at shows. Delicate or high heeled is the last thing you want near a circle pit!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:35 PM
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Sounds like dude was low-key asking her to join him in a theesome, and she told him it was never going to happen, even if she was single. That doesn’t sound worrisome to me, especially when you have a higher SMV than him, but ymmv. It is definitely time for her to find a new hairdresser, though. I’m not qualified help you word that, but be prepared for some push back when you suggest it. Finding a new stylist SUCKS, especially if your hair has curl or texture in it.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 11:51 PM
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I think some of the others have made good points about whether you actually need to look/be very feminine at work, but ultimately you’re the only one who can say whether it would help you or not. As to the how, it really depends on what kind of masculine environment you work in. For example, I work in a big box hardware store. Pants and sturdy shoes are a requirement when going up and down ladders and walking on cement floors all day. Loose hair or dangling jewelry could pose a safety hazard whe…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 11:35 PM
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Hi, friend! My SO and I also both have ADHD, so I understand the nagging vs. reminding predicament. I’m usually the “rememberer” in our relationship, mostly because I write EVERYTHING down in a journal that goes everywhere with me. It’s part planner, part diary, part sketchbook, and my family affectionately refers to it as “Peculiar’s Brain Book.” Phrasing and tone seem to be the biggest difference between a helpful reminder and nagging. There’s a big difference between “You said you’d do X, but…
/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 05:02 AM
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I read it as Hank loves Ayn Rand, but Patrick hung out with mostly dirty commies.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 02:31 AM
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I think this is a wonderful idea, especially since most servers prefer cash tips over putting it in a card!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 10:01 PM
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Did you, possibly mean to say "tries to suggest that there is a /causation/"? The correlation is proven, full stop. But while correlation between two traits doesn't always indicate causation, it is still a valuable tool in judging whether the other trait will be present. I don't think anyone here is trying to say that high N-counts directly cause infidelity. It's far more likely that they have a common source than that one causes the other, but that would logically lead to actions that help avoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 12:24 AM
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Maybe this is a little thing, but it meant the world to me: Saturday afternoon the sprog (BF’s 11yo daughter) and I were making snickerdoodles. He hugged me from behind and kissed the top of my head (don’t you just melt when your guy does that?), then told me that I’m “an awesome mom, and an even better girlfriend.” Of course, sprog made the “ick grownups being mushy” face and told him he was just saying that cuz he wanted the cookies LOL
/r/RedPillWives26/02/18 08:17 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 07:51 PM
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Is the actual problem that you don't know how to befriend her, or is it that forming a friendship with her is undesirable to you? I only ask because it seems that most of your OP is a list of traits you see as negative ones. If the former, I'd suggest you start by trying to find some common ground. I think u/KittenLoves_ hit the nail on the head for the most part. If you don't want to be her friend, I'd work on at least being friendly. From what information you've given, it sounds like your BF m…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 07:45 PM
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I have the same problem. Would it be much trouble to have my custom flair removed as well?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 07:24 PM
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I mixed up you and another user. I’m very sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 03:00 AM
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I don’t have many suggestions on how to keep yourself busy, but the D&D comment makes me want to issue a (possibly unnecessary) warning regarding cleaning: be careful not to accidentally hide any notes or such he needs/is working on for game night! My SO runs a D&D campaign that I also play in, and in the couple days leading up to the game stuff is scattered everywhere! But there’s a method to his madness, so I’ve learned to just work around it LOL If you’re interested in learning to play yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 12:12 AM
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Not to mention that it’s one of very few Disney movies where the protagonist has a positive role model in both parents (and bonus sassy grandmother)!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/18 11:20 PM
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This! I stayed 5 years longer than I should have and wasted a lot of time I could have been happy. Also: Stick with the low carb diet. It really is the best way to control your PCOS and your weight.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 02:28 AM
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We’ve both received approval at work for our vacation to visit my home town this spring! He’s been telling all his coworkers and friends how excited he is to meet my family and get to eat “real barbecue” — it’s super cute and makes me so happy. Home for me is about 2000 miles away. When he realized I haven’t been back in 5 years he decided we should go there instead of the cruise we had been talking about. I come from a big southern family and he’s only ever met my step-mom, so it means a lot th…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/17 08:13 PM
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I’ve always been willing to change my name. It’s French, so it’s a struggle to get people to spell it correctly and almost impossible to get them to say it right. When I married my ex-wife, I brought up me taking her name, but she was adamantly against it, partially due to her poor relationship with her father. My boyfriend and I have only vaguely discussed marriage so far, so the topic hasn’t come up yet. But I know if I ever get married again (trying not to count any chickens here), I’ll want …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 02:35 AM
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As a curly girl myself, I'd recommend [r/curlyhair](reddit.com/r/curlyhair) instead. The rest of this is spot on though 😊
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 02:10 AM
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It sounds like you might want to carefully analyze WHY you want your man to change careers. By your own admission, he is already doing things to further his career in his chosen field. It sounds to me like this is less about his income potential, and more about the fact that he works in the service industry. Going back to school isn't a guarantee for higher income. In fact, in the current economy, he could very well end up back where he is now, but with the added burden of student loans and prob…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 04:33 PM
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This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I really stepped in it last night--I disrespected Sir pretty badly without meaning to, trying to be helpful. In front of his brother no less.. -sigh- So this article definitely helped me see what I need to work on. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWives12/09/17 08:28 PM
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As previous replies have already said (and you've already decided), you absolutely have to tell him. I'd just like to add a perspective that hasn't been mentioned yet. I had an abortion when I was 18. At the time, I was fresh out of high school, the father had already broken up with me and left the state, and I was headed for a full ride band scholarship to a big 12 university. I made what was the most logical decision for my future at the time. At 19 I suffered a knee injury that ended my march…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 05:11 AM
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But if she's on the side of a dark road...it's time to roll up your sleeves, sweetheart, and remember what your father taught you. And if that day comes, she will be glad you did! I'm the oldest of 5 in my family. Mom made sure my brothers knew how to do basic mending, laundry, and cooking. Dad made sure us girls could change a tire and check our own oil. All of us have had occasion to be grateful for the knowledge!
/r/RedPillWives08/08/17 06:24 PM
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The fact that you're hiding this friendship from your SO should tell you all you need to know. You already know he wouldn't like it, or you wouldn't be hiding it. I think it IS possible to have "friends" (I'll explain the quotes in a moment.) of the opposite sex, but it's rare and difficult. The handful of men I call friend fall into one of three categories: gay, the partner of one of my female friends, or "might as well be siblings." The common thread here is that none of them consider me a rom…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 06:28 PM
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I've always been skeptical of the "only PiV counts" approach. For me, as a bi woman, it just seems disingenuous. Using that definition would roughly halve my N-count and completely ignore a ten-year relationship with my ex-wife.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 02:03 AM
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I've only driven once when my SO and I were both in the car - when he over-indulged at his brother's birthday party. But when your brother is demanding all "the boys" do birthday shots with him, I figure you basically have to agree LOL
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 07:53 PM
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I would never move in with anyone I've known that short a time, even just a roommate. That said, I do live with my SO. On the surface I know that sounds hypocritical, but we were close friends for almost 2 years before it ever went anywhere romantic. A lot of the time that would otherwise have been needed for vetting had already happened at that point.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 05:56 AM
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Lol Yes, bronies are... something else. I'm sorry if I was overly defensive. I think what's usually termed "nerd culture" gets over-simplified pretty often as just being full of incels and mouth-breathers.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 02:53 AM
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I originally wasn't going to reply to this thread, but... Omegas are just total losers. They play dungeons and dragons. Can I just point out that playing D&D does NOT automatically make someone an omega (or a loser)? In the group I play with, there are two men who are very obviously Alphas. One (my SO's brother) is probably a 7 for RMV, the other? Good looking, eats right and works out, tall, has a high paying job he loves, and is assertive but incredibly kind. He's basically dream Captain mater…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 01:51 AM
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My SO chose "the easy job" over one that would provide a significantly higher income. Many people in our circle say that he lacks ambition, but I respect him more for his choice because of the reason for it: his daughter. He's a "single" father (in that he's not with her mother), and his job is set hours and enables him to spend way more time with her than he would be able to otherwise. I guess the point I'm making is that there are men who chose family over a career. It's just seen as an anomal…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:14 PM
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Is this just fantasy? Sorry, I couldn't resist. Seriously though, I'm going with troll.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 07:28 PM
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You're very welcome! I understand about it not coming easily; it took me years to learn to manage my hair - horrible, poodle-ish years. A good stylist is definitely your best asset in figuring out what will work for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:21 AM
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I absolutely adore seeing long hair on ladies "of a certain age!" I understand why some women crop their hair short for ease of care as their health declines, but if that's not an issue I think long hair is so much more classy and elegant. If you are looking for more mature ways to wear your hair, you might look up some simple chignon tutorials on Pinterest or YouTube. Many of them become quick and easy with just a little practice. I can put my hair (curly and down to mid-back) up for work in ju…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 01:57 AM
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Thank you! I still have a ways to go before I'm at a "normal" BMI, but I'm determined to get there!
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 06:38 AM
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First post here, so I hope I get the formatting right! I'm grateful for my best friend! I've been on a weight loss journey for the last year (I'm down 70 lbs!), and she has been HUGELY supportive. She's constantly sending me new healthy recipes "we just have to try," encouraging me to not give up, and just generally being awesome. I couldn't do it without her. My SO trusts me enough to ask for help. Last night he came to me with concerns about how to handle a situation with his 10 y/o daughter. …
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 12:43 AM
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