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creating a mess for his wife to clean up later is not the respectable behavior of an adult man
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 08:48 PM
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your husband is in cage stage RP mode. this is not normal and you should not agree to it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 11:35 PM
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lots going on here 65k is absolutely not too much money. i think you’re looking at the SMV thing a little too mathematically here. a guy who has never been to college but runs a successful construction business, works out, is handsome etc can have a higher SMV than a guy who’s been to college. in real life, people don’t go around rating people according to some complicated formula. also, college is a great way to meet guys. you can date in college. you can even get married and have kids in colle…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 11:15 PM
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honestly reading this makes me so sad for your guy. it sounds like you have a LOT of expectations after only two months and are letting this experience color your impression of him. i don’t have any specific advice about the sex itself but you are treading on very thin ice here. being overly critical of his performance will kill his confidence and harsh his perception of you. the more you criticize his performance, the worse this issue will get. imagine if you’re taking a driving test and the gu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:51 AM
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how old are you both
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:30 PM
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A captain would not ask his wife to harm herself for his sexual fetishes. You should not prioritize your husband’s kinks over your own physical health and well-being, especially as a mother who should be modeling a healthy relationship for her children. I would encourage you to seek recovery with the help of a therapist and dietician if need be, and suggest psychological help or marriage counseling for your husband/you as a couple. RPW theory does not apply to a situation this disordered. This i…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 02:53 PM
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Track your calories in an app (I use myfitnesspal). Measure your portions with a food scale and log everything you eat or drink. Just doing this kinda shames you into eating well in my experience. Check out r/CICO and r/1500isplenty and r/1200isplenty for inspo (you need more than 1200 calories especially if breastfeeding but it’s good for low cal recipe and snack inspo). edit: also r/eatcheapandhealthy
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 07:33 PM
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are you a man or a woman?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 02:28 AM
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who is that and what did he say
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 06:05 PM
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If marriage and children are something you want, you should never stay with someone who doesn’t want marriage and children/wants them on a radically different timeline than you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 10:59 AM
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Just tell him: “The other day, you mentioned possibly seeing other women outside of our marriage. Is that something you were serious about?” and if he responds in the affirmative, tell him you’re not okay with that. See what he says. Monogamy is a totally fine and normal boundary to have in a relationship. I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I’m being cheated on. You said he is newly into RP stuff though, it’s possible he is just going a bit rambo and talking out of his ass, so you sho…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 02:13 PM
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No, that’s insane. Just try to make friends, join a yoga class or hang out at the library or something.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 07:40 PM
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I would make a list of everything that needs to be done and the frequency you’d like to do it in, and then make a schedule. I have an app for this. Here’s just an idea of mine: Mon: Clean bathrooms, wash towels Tues: Clean nursery, bedroom, living room, & laundry (our clothes) Weds: Clean kitchen, dining room, wash sheets Thurs: Vacuum & mop, wash baby’s clothes Friday: Laundry (our clothes) Saturday: Grocery shop Yours will probably look different – I’m a SAHM with no roommates so I’m not split…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 09:17 PM
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If he asks, just show him the kinds of rings you like, tell him what it is you like about them, and trust him to get you something you’ll like.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 12:26 PM
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no prob! i honestly don’t weigh my food regularly anymore, i just did it in the beginning until i could kinda eyeball things more accurately. good luck with the weight loss!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 01:58 AM
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do you track calories? you may be overestimating the amount of calories you’re burning by working out or undercounting calories if you’re not checking serving sizes/weighing food out
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 12:54 AM
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There are a ton of tutorials online for basically everything. I would start with finding a simple makeup routine that works for you (even if it’s just a bit of mascara and a tinted lip balm) and a flattering hairstyle. YouTube has a ton of good tutorials for beginners for hair and makeup. The Youtuber Mrs. Midwest has a lot of really good videos about the smaller details of femininity, how things like posture etc can help you present as more feminine. One really easy thing to start with is work …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 12:16 AM
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You’ve gotten a lot of good advice about the how to of losing weight and getting fit, but I just want to commend you on taking your husband’s criticism with a good attitude. I know it’s easy to hear the request to get more into your fitness and keep better care of the house as a mean spirited critique, so good on you for accepting the challenge!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 04:36 PM
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Are you sure your husband wants kids?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 08:37 PM
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wrong sub
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 04:30 PM
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pinterest is great for outfit inspo
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 12:37 AM
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how do you learn how to cook healthy meals from scratch? do you have a particular cookbook you recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 06:30 PM
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If you still live with your parents - ask your mom to teach you to cook. Cook meals for your family whenever possible. I really wish I had done this prior to getting married and moving out.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 08:23 PM
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Why do you keep failing at your nun mode goals? That should be your priority
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 08:08 PM
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you are 23, not married to this guy, no kids together. you are way too young to fall into the sunk cost fallacy for this guy, i promise. you are going to be just fine, even if the process of separating yourself from him sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 01:08 AM
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there’s two types of guys who date younger women – HVM who could have their pick of women from any age group, and LVM who can only date younger women because women their own age won’t put up with their shit. i think your guy is in category 2.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 12:15 PM
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I think two things are true here: it’s fine for him to want a girlfriend who is fit/not overweight, and it’s fine for you to want a boyfriend who doesn’t enforce arbitrary weight limits as a condition of monogamy. It sounds like you two just aren’t compatible. Keep up the good work with your weight loss! 60lbs down so far is very impressive.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 05:11 PM
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My advice would be to not do that
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 05:00 PM
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female beauty is highly controllable. there are subreddits you can post photos on and people will give you specific feedback on how to improve your looks. if you’re thin, put in some amount of effort with your looks, and have a good personality, you’re above average and will be able to land a man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:34 PM
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yep, this. as long as baby isn’t in any danger, you need to let him figure out what works for himself. maybe run an errand or get out of the house for an hour or two on a semi regular basis so you’re not tempted to swoop in and “help.”
/r/RedPillWives13/06/22 02:50 PM
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the red pill has to do with biological differences between men and women
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 06:43 PM
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Whether he is a narcissist or not is irrelevant. You don’t need to diagnose him, you just need to decide if you want to date him or not.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:41 AM
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100% this. The kind of man who wants a stay at home wife is not the kind of man who is going to want to take on your 50k grad school student debt. There is nothing wrong with perusing either path but don’t expect both.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 04:43 PM
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Going to go against the grain here and advise you not to get the graduate degree. My husband and I are able to live comfortable on a single income because I have no student debt. We worked for a year to pay off all of his (engineering degree) and then I quit my job when my son was born to be a SAHM. If I had 50k+ of student loan debt, that would not be possible. In my online mom group, I can’t tell you how many women there are who wish they could stay home with their baby but can’t because their…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 04:39 PM
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The biggest thing would be that your expectations for her need to be fully communicated and agreed upon. What will she be responsible for? 100% of the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping and yard work? What will she do with the remainder of her time? Will you need to cut back your household expenses or extra spending due to her reduction of hours? Will she be unhappy with fewer opportunities to socialize with others throughout the week? If you guys have/will have kids, how will childcare be divi…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 04:55 PM
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sahm. i love it. i have had jobs previously but never a “career” so maybe i just don’t have enough to compare it to but i do feel very lucky that i’m able to stay home with my baby.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/22 09:08 AM
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honestly, and maybe this isn’t strictly RPW advice, i think when it comes to issues like this that are severely impacting your attraction to your husband, it’s best to be honest. don’t be a dick about it obviously, but i think it’s okay to bring it up. i’d want my husband to bring it up with me if the roles were reversed 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives18/05/22 04:28 PM
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i think it’s important to ask yourself if marriage and children are more important to you than a relationship with this man in particular.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 01:08 PM
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it’s def worth a shot though, you never know.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 05:13 PM
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sounds like you’re fantasizing about a guy you don’t even really know. either have a mutual friend introduce you or move on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 03:22 PM
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Maybe I missed this, but do you specifically want to date a man who makes 200k+? If so, why is that? If you are traditional and religious, have you tried dating men at your church?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:46 PM
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Unless he is crazy rich, paying off student loan debt for a degree that you’re not using is going to come across as a waste of money. If he does want you to be a housewife/SAHM, being frugal and wise with spending is usually a big part of that. I’m not saying that you’re not wise with your money, you guys just have different ideas about what that looks like. Staying friends with an former romantic interest is usually a bad idea. Things can become messy and, if you’ve already determined you would…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:36 AM
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Lots of people have lots of different dealbreakers in relationships. I know a guy who won’t date any girl who went to public school. He’s not wrong for having that dealbreaker, even though I think it’s dramatic as hell. He’s made the decision that a relationship with someone who went to public school wouldn’t work. Your guy has made the decision that a relationship with someone who wants a degree wouldn’t work. Even if he’s wrong, he made that decision and is enforcing it, and it’s not your job …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:08 AM
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Exactly this. This sub isn’t going to be able to answer if having a SAHM or a working mom is better, because it’s a matter of opinion. If this is a strong desire of yours, and your boyfriend is staunchly opposed, you guys are not compatible in this area, and you need to decide if that is worth ending the relationship over.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:04 AM
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Totally agree with you
/r/RPChristians22/05/20 01:26 AM
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I’m not trying to gatekeep anyone’s marriage, or tell them what they can and can’t do, it’s just my advice. Someone’s value is in Christ, not their sins in the past - however that doesn’t mean that Christians shouldn’t consider that when pursuing marriage. Losing your virginity is highly controllable, whether you come from a Christian home or not. The only situation where it isn’t is rape, and I don’t really consider that to be losing your virginity as it isn’t a voluntary choice. I think it’s o…
/r/RPChristians21/05/20 08:51 PM
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22F, married. I might get hate from other women for this, but I would advise that a Christian man never marry a woman who is not a virgin. Even if she lost her virginity before she became a Christian, even if she only slept with one or two serious boyfriends. Obviously, if she repented and confessed her sins to God, she is forgiven by God. That doesn’t mean that you have to ignore such a big red flag with someone you are considering marrying.
/r/RPChristians21/05/20 06:37 PM
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No amount of romantic effort in a relationship will make up for a lack of sexual intimacy, if the man isn’t also asexual/low sex drive. It’s worth seeing a psychiatrist/therapist who specializes in trauma informed care, based off your other comments. Maybe even just try a few sessions to see how you like it. There’s no shame in it at all and it could be very beneficial.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 02:22 PM
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The vast majority of men will not want to be in a relationship with you if you don’t plan on having sex with them ever. Relationships are about sexual attraction, and if you don’t desire your SO, you are robbing him of a key part of a healthy relationship. You say that you are asexual as if it were some immutable characteristic but I don’t really think that’s accurate. Have you seen a doctor about this? edit: a word!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 02:22 AM
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RPW isn’t a checklist
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 10:00 PM
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religious people do, in fact, exist
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:33 PM
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This has been very similar to my experience as well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 02:31 PM
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“I am also very humble”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 08:54 PM
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I got the same thing a few weeks ago
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 08:52 PM
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I would prefer a man that’s not on social media. My husband doesn’t have any. 22/Midwest
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:58 AM
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This comment is also tone-dead and condescending. I would suggest you look into ways to boost your emotional intelligence. Not trying to be rude, but I think that’s at the heart of the issue here.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:33 PM
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It was an inappropriate gift, for sure. I don’t think it will end the relationship but it’s probably a yellow flag to your bf.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 07:38 PM
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This is the best advice in the thread
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 04:42 PM
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They are married
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 04:40 PM
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I’m not LDS but I’m sorry you’re being downvoted! You answered the question, were helpful and provided your own perspective, which is what was asked for - some people 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 11:01 PM
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I would recommend you check out a LCMS church near you, if there is one! I belong to an Lutheran church and I love the liturgy, and the doctrine is absolutely true to the Bible. If you’re more of an introvert, Bryan Wolfmueller has a great YouTube channel, as previously mentioned, and Ten Minute Bible Hour has a few videos where he visits a Lutheran Church (Will Weedon’s, I think?)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 10:25 PM
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I’m really sorry that this happened to you. Please consider making an appointment with your OB and a therapist. You’ve been through something traumatic and risky to your personal health, and they can help you. I will be praying for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 01:25 AM
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You need to tell your husband about this. He deserves to know.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:56 PM
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Why didn’t you follow the advice you received the last time you posted?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:06 PM
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Honestly, going against the grain here, I listened to the Surrendered Wife on my fiancé’s Audible account under his credits. He teased me about the name of the book when I first downloaded it, and I told him it was a book about being a good wife. However we were engaged at this point so it may have been a bit less weird.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 08:29 PM
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Have you ever worked retail? I definitely used to have this problem. I worked as a cashier and customers would ask me if I was upset, tell me to smile or cheer up, that kind of thing. It was super annoying, and my solution was to adapt a Retail Smile. A Retail Smile is a small smile that creates a pleasant and approachable expression. Practice in a mirror, because I felt like I was grinning when I was really just giving a friendly half-smile. It feels weird for a while, and it’s definitely a con…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 05:49 PM
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Lookmaxxing?
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 02:03 AM
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I’m 5”11 and my FH is the same height. I was a little insecure about it at first but I literally never think about it now, 3 years in. The only thing that matters is that you’re attracted to him, not that he hits every single arbitrary measure on your checklist.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 03:08 PM
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Yikes! Is he the Captain or are you? Both of these examples come across as pretty blue pill tactics to try and control your man. Maybe the date idea in #1 sounds super sexy to you, but it’s not his cup of tea. Have you tried bringing him your problem, not the solution? “Hey babe, I’m feeling a little sad because I feel like we don’t do a lot of spontaneous fun stuff together. What do you think?” I understand your husbands discomfort in #2 - you thought this interaction was “tantalizing and fun,”…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 11:39 AM
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Oh okay! On mobile, when you click on this sub you should see a search bar that says r/RedPillWomen. Next to that, there is a button with three dots. If you click on that, a menu should come up with an option that says “Community Info.” That’s the sidebar. At least that’s how it works on my phone - hope it works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 12:07 PM
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Read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 11:56 AM
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If you have any college experience, you can get some type of office job: receptionist, office assistant, data entry. I’m not saying that’s your long term career but maybe something that could be more fulfilling than your current job (no shade at all - I worked a similar job for a long time up until very recently). I have my associates in business admin and work a basic, entry level office job while my fiancé pursues his masters degree. The difference in our education doesn’t bother either of us,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 07:26 PM
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Mine is a .3c solitaire on a yellow gold band from James Allen. I love the classic look, and the size is honestly perfect for me because it looks delicate and feminine. However I also looked at moissanite and morganite rings on etsy when FH asked for suggestions, and any gemstone ring will be significantly cheaper than a diamond as well. Congratulations on the pending engagement though - this is such an exciting time, really enjoy it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 01:31 PM
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Talk to him about your worries about sex before marriage. Be candid. Hold your ground. That’s the biggest issue here, besides your own hamster.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 10:20 PM
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How old are you both and how long have you been together? Do you love each other? Does he want to be married and have a family with you? Are you religious? It seems to me like there are two issues at play here. One is your conflicting opinions on sex before marriage. If this isn’t resolved, this could be an incompatibility that warrants a break up. Does your BF know about your position on sex and cohabitation before marriage? How has he reacted to the difference in opinion? It’s really good that…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 09:14 PM
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I don’t think it is a good idea to surprise him by showing up on this trip. He broke up with you for disrespecting him. I’m not sure what you mean by this, but it’s further disrespectful to his wishes to show up spontaneously on this trip. He wants space - give him that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 03:50 PM
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The Surrendered Wife is not religion based. If I recall correctly she has a brief blurb about a higher power but that is the singular reference to spirituality or religion in the book. I would highly recommend it to any woman in a relationship - it’s short, it only took me an hour to listen to the audiobook.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 10:37 PM
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Has anyone gone to therapy while in a relationship? I feel like sometimes I get so sad that I am not a good partner to FH and I think having an outlet for that (other than him) would be beneficial for our relationship, but I’m a little nervous to go.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 03:34 PM
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Your post history suggests that you are trans. I’m absolutely not trying to be an asshole, but could that be an aspect here?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 10:43 PM
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Same! Began dating when I was 19 and we’ll be married when I’m 22. He’s my first boyfriend. Sometimes you just get lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 07:02 PM
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That’s cool he’s supportive! I think it would be up there as far as feminine tattoos, but it really depends on the artist you go to. If I could give any advice, it’d be to find out what styles you like, research tattoo artists you like and then wait a couple months before pulling the trigger. I hope it all works out for you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 03:49 AM
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Are tattoos unladylike? It depends, honestly. It depends on your style, the artist you go to, etc. I’m have about six or seven tattoos in easy-to-conceal spots and my SO has zero. He doesn’t love tattoos, but says they’re well done and he doesn’t mind them. However, I got them all before we started dating, and if I could get a re-do, I probably wouldn’t get them because I know his preference. I think a floral design on your thigh could be really feminine and cute, especially it it follows the na…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 02:50 AM
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I’m also in college. We don’t have the exact same body type, so I can’t offer specific advice, but I think wearing jeans or a skirt can really make a difference. The majority of girls at my college wear leggings/workout shorts/PJs - and sometimes they rock it, but I think wearing jeans or a skirt makes the outfit less casual and makes you stand out a little. It’s not as dramatic as wearing dresses all the time, and depending on the top you choose, you can go for different vibes. If you’re into P…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:32 AM
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True! I totally hadn’t thought of the hour-long lunch break thing. That’s a good point.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 03:34 AM
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Isn’t 40 hours full time? I’m part time, and I’m either in class, lab, or at work around 60 hours a week, not factoring in homework or study time. Unless you plan on working more intense work weeks than is average after you graduate, you will definitely have more free time after graduation. I’ve never heard of a job allowing employees to do homework on the clock, but maybe OP could check out on campus jobs that might be more lenient with that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 03:15 AM
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This comment is only relevant if you are not working during college. If you are, you’re spending 15-25 hours in class, 20-35 at work, and a significant chunk of your free time doing homework or studying. This is close to my current situation and while I definitely do not have a lot of free time, my boyfriend and I are able to see each other 2-3 times a week because we prioritize each other. We’ll have study dates if we’re both busy with schoolwork. While you many not have time to actively seek o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 02:00 AM
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Are marriage and children something you want?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 11:01 PM
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This is a really interesting response. I think it's pretty obvious in OP's previous post that he is not suggesting segregating flights on the basis of gender. His point is that men and women can make decisions to build or neutralize sexual tension in their interactions with one another. His conclusion is, "Make your decisions wisely in terms of where to set boundaries with members of the opposite sex." How this is applied is a matter to decide yourself, or with your significant other. But I tota…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 05:25 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:55 PM
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I live in a medium sized city, and I don't have a lot of friends. I moved here a year after graduating high school (I'm 20). I have an okay circle of not-so-close coworkers who hang out a couple times a month. I'd like to make new friends, but I struggle with that because of my social anxiety. I'm trying to work past that though!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:41 AM
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