phantomdilletante Archive

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1	What are some examples of female privilege? Most of female privilege is a form of “pretty privilege.” Essentially, because a woman is considered a more desirable person to interact with by most people in most environments in western countries (for whatever reasons both including and excluding the possibility of sex), women have more social and emotional power to work with from the start than a given man or the average man, which are honestly more important than physical power because you can manipulate people easier with them. But this al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/22 05:59 PM
3	You have to actually be genuinely sexy to be lusted after in your LTR, its not common in average relationships and that isnt a bad thing I’m mostly responding to the fact that your attitude is characteristic of abusive dynamics in relationships, and that’s reflected in the language you use. You imply that part of remarkable treatment, as opposed to average treatment is not being nagged, or not being argued with. Nagging and excessive, unnecessary arguments, or just arguing because you’re mad and don’t like your partner in that moment, are forms of verbal and emotional abuse. You’re essentially saying that if a man’s not “sexy,” w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 01:57 PM
1	You have to actually be genuinely sexy to be lusted after in your LTR, its not common in average relationships and that isnt a bad thing Men don’t want to have to conform to some unrealistic standard you hold in your mind just to be seen as worthy of being sexy and lusted after. Have you ever seen those Instagram posts about women’s body positivity, and how it’s okay for women who don’t conform to still want to be seen as sexy and beautiful by themselves and other people? That’s the kind of thing men are arguing for when they say they deserve to truly be lusted after in a relationship. If you shouldn’t have to have Kim Kardashian…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 12:37 PM
1	Is Love even fckin real? That’s because love is a fiction, which doesn’t mean it isn’t “real,” but it’s definitely not the same kind of real as physics or diseases of the body. Instead, love is manufactured, both by individuals and society, like books and films, and so the kind of love it becomes depends on how it is created and maintained. Right now, in society, we’ve created love to be a holistic, all-encompassing, ever-enduring feeling of physical and emotional, sexual and romantic attraction between two individuals …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 03:21 AM
2	Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relations Men and women experience horniness differently. Men experience cross-contextual horniness because it is very physical-based and less emotionally/social based, and there’s a more direct brain-link between hormones, blood, and genital reactivity. This essentially means that even if a man becomes erect for a non sexual reason, it can become sexual because he realizes he has an erection and then just starts thinking of people who are hot, with no real context or story behind the fantasy other than t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 04:44 PM
2	Why are women so much more content to be forever alone than men? Women don’t actually isolate themselves the way men do, and so don’t experience anywhere near the same kind of loneliness men feel. On one level, this means lonely women conduct relationships and social contact skills better, or at least more consistently than lonely men. But this also means that, when it comes to loneliness, men and women just don’t experience the same situation, and it’s not entirely about individual choice. Though there are outliers, and ways in which women are completely cut…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 08:38 AM
2	Q4All, what makes some people say women being promiscuous is a catalyst for societal collapse? Culture and trauma. A lot of men experience side effects of PTSD from early abuse, which includes feeling helpless/powerless, and that often means they’ll assume women have more power in dating set ups than men. And when men assume women have more power than them, and want sexual attention and favors from them, this turns into men needing an individual woman to be able to easily and exclusively commit to him, which in that mindset might be threatened by promiscuity. This often combines with the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/22 11:08 PM
4	"Treat men like garbage and they will love you and respect you" Actually, various users do directly and explicitly advocate for male genocide, alongside many of feminists subreddits of a similar nature, so I wouldn’t say they don’t advocate for specific forms of abuse	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/22 06:33 PM
3	If sex robots were a thing, would you care if your s/o fucked them for fun? Well, I’m disabled, and understand some women have very specific sexual needs, so if she really needed a specific Android for her sexual fulfillment, and I loved her but just couldn’t be good enough in the bedroom in certain ways, I’d let her have one. We need to set some boundaries though, and I’d still want us to have fun fucking each other, even if on a physical/mechanical level I couldn’t provide like the Android could, and if we’d stopped having a sex life because we weren’t having fun fuck…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/22 06:28 AM
1	Q4Men who have sex, please share your story of successful IRL approaches So, my stories are a little different, because I had the most sex and sexual opportunities when I went from identifying as a man to identifying as non-binary, poly, and a poet. There was an open mike or two at which I gained a good reputation, and every now and then a beautiful older woman would talk to me, and I’d talk/flirt with her back, and after hanging out a few times, we’d have sex. The approaches were luke-warm (sometimes they approached me directly, sometimes I went to and talked to the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/22 03:49 AM
2	Height increasing shoes morally deceptive or nah? The more important question is: why give a fuck? Most people only pretend to care about moral truth. Even this idea of a consistent standard of “moral truth” is mostly contrived, as in almost literally written down and made up by groups of awful, harmful collections of individuals in the first place, and mindless people just keep supporting it because it’s a fiction that can make them feel powerful. As long as you can destroy your enemies and defend your weaknesses, it shouldn’t matter what “dec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/22 09:49 PM
2	Some men seem to prefer “leading women on” as opposed to having a “FWB” or “FB” — why is that? It’s almost like people enjoy feeling good, cared for, and fucked enthusiastically, and will manipulate the system any way they can to get that lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/22 06:49 PM
2	When is explicit(verbal) consent ever given by women for initial intimacy(touching and kissing). Is this practiced in reality? It’s because allistic society, which is what most mainstream society is, is all based on blatant lies. If we based our society on autistic and neurodivergent communication and ways of thinking as the norm, we wouldn’t have these same problems in regards to rape and men not being able to play the social role to get laid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/22 02:58 AM
1	For people who are childless and unmarried in their 30/40s, do you feel regretful when you see young people starting families? I do. But I more regret that I hadn’t bettered myself enough to make the right decisions to keep the relationships I could have had, and thus to have actually attained the happiness I wanted. Now I have a bunch of weird complications happening to my body, I’m slowly losing more social skills as I live a life of less and less social contact, and it’s looking less and less realistic that I’ll find somebody who’ll actually want me for a long term relationship, so in one way my regrets are even wors…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/22 07:55 PM
2	What do women truly want? And please gentlemen refrain from the disrespect. I’m literally trying to save us lol Ah, peer pressure! I keep forgetting how much allistic people do and say things that don’t actually reflect who they truly simply out of that lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/22 03:17 AM
2	What do women truly want? And please gentlemen refrain from the disrespect. I’m literally trying to save us lol Well, I’m autistic, so I’ve always experienced a different kind of relationship with media and it’s difference from what’s actually thought and felt by people. What this basically means is that the way I process and interpret social info is different, to the point that it gets tricky for me to figure out who to trust as to what’s right/the truth as regards that issue. There are enough allistic and neurotypical individuals who copy their tastes and personality/style from the media that it being m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 08:02 PM
2	What do women truly want? And please gentlemen refrain from the disrespect. I’m literally trying to save us lol As a longish haired, taller, beardless man with not a lot of muscle and who isn’t fat, I really appreciate you and people who have your tastes as you described them lol I keep seeing a few very specific male body types in media that are more or less broadcast as “this is the body type women actually want, and every other type they’ll find repulsively ugly” and it’s honestly given me a bit of a complex. So it’s really refreshing to see a woman openly express finding a body type different from tho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 10:10 AM
1	Q for TRP: If your dream girl proposed marriage to you RIGHT NOW, would you accept? I’m not red pill. That being said, my dream woman is someone that I feel I could trust to not emotionally abuse, to not misunderstand my autism, and to not cheat on me, both now or in the decades far future. If that woman wanted to marry me right away, and I felt that way, I’d agree in a heart beat. But I don’t have faith that that woman actually exists for me, so I stick to being alone until things change or I become good enough for that to actually be a possibility	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 04:25 AM
2	Do women find alternative men attractive? Well, in my experience, subcultures aren’t really a monolith. I’ve essentially only ever been able to get laid/be attractive to women in my life because I sort of naturally express myself like an ideal of a niche within a niche of the goth/alt subculture, that niche being the vaguely asexual, hetero-romantic, intellectually sophisticated, highly artistic, yet socially impoverished (both in skill and status) literature goths, which is an entirely different world from the contemporary e-girl club …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/21 04:20 AM
2	The art of “Negging”…I unfortunately feel like it works… I think the point of negging is that it really only works if it’s performed accurately, and done by the right kind of guy. A lot of those subconscious social script tricks only really work for dudes that already have a certain attractiveness level, or have a certain vibe about their masculinity that “fits” with it, more or less. I think I may have used some form of light teasing and it’s worked better than just being friendly/polite, but I don’t believe I’ve actually negged a woman I’m intereste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 10:16 PM
5	Objectively, does red pill have real life relevance? Does it "work"? From what I’ve seen, people who are anti-red pill aren’t against because of whether it works or not. It seems that for a lot of cases of men who “take the red pill,” it works for at least a brief time, in the sense that they do actually have more dates, more sex, and more relationships, and with women who fit than preferences rather than settling for those who don’t. A lot of people’s problems with it, or at least some shades/flavors/dosages of the red-pill, are the beliefs and opinions it incul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 09:36 PM
8	Dating in small town medium city or big city? Well, if you’re in a smaller town, and you’re hot, you’ll be able to fuck any and everybody. But if you’re not, you either pair up with somebody usually via settling for what you can get or you become another town weirdo/loner. If you’re in a big city, you can be hot as fuck or ugly as sin and you’ll be able to find somebody to sleep with you eventually if you’re persistent enough about exploring all the options you can create for yourself in a big city. That being said, because of the sheer num…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/21 03:44 AM
1	[Q4All] What is the biggest assumption you had about the opposite gender that was proven wrong by experience? I’m too jaded and abused to remember what I used to believe/assume about women, and how I thought they were supposed to be because they’re women and not men lol If I’ve learned anything in my decades of strange and pathetic human experiences, it’s that most things are a lot simpler than they’re made out to be. As human beings, we all fall somewhere on the scale between being filthy liars who say we want one thing before doing it’s opposite and being responsible individuals who want good, wholeso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 04:48 AM
2	Why do guys need sex to feel validated? Well, generally when a guy is sexually attracted to a person, that’s means he wants to have sex with them. It’s not rocket surgery lol That being said, I can understand how this and his reaction may be different from your experience of sex and sexual attraction, for whatever reason. One thing you have to understand about straight males is that, when it comes to sex and dating, more often than not we’re blatantly and flat out lied to, both about and by women that might like us, that love us, and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/21 12:51 PM
3	Question for the fellas: young average men, do you guys even try with women your age? I think with age peers, there’s more social pressure to conform to certain generational standards/ideals that make it harder for people who don’t fit them, both men and women, to pair up with each other. However, dating older or younger, depending on what end of the age spectrum you are, can free yourself and your partner from having to satisfy those generation/peer specific ideals in certain ways, and so you have a smoother time bonding and finding what you need/like in the relationship. So, it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 02:36 AM
2	How important is it for your spouse to be a virgin? For me, having similar or at least complementary views on sex and sexual histories is more important than actual virginity or not. As in, I’d rather be with someone who, while having a history of hookups and casual sex, wants a similar kind of thing that I want, which is a romance based monogamous LTR with sexual elements we talk about and agree on, than be with a literal virgin who might like having sex with me once we’re together but doesn’t really love/care for me. That being said, part of wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/21 10:14 PM
1	Question For The Men: Would you date or marry or even consider a relationship with an FDS woman? My first thought when it comes to that stuff is that I probably have already dated a few women who were FDS people or who had FDS beliefs. And, even if the relationship or interaction could work out in that short term, there was always something uncomfortable about how I could tell they thought about men, and that would make me reconsider them as a partner. But, that being said, it wasn’t necessarily those particular beliefs themselves, but the fact that I felt more like they saw me as an object…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/21 08:00 PM
1	Q4All, Do you prefer honesty over kindness (ie. comforting lies) or the other way around? I prefer my partner to be a secure adult who knows how to both administer and receive critique and validation in the same message. I find this dichotomy to be pretty intellectually juvenile at best, and if you don’t know how to be honest and kind at the same time, you’re a narcissistic asshole who shouldn’t be dating anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/21 02:22 AM
4	Men need to stop validating women to get upperhand in SMP Pretty sure the term “equity” isn’t a new creation by the government, and as a term it doesn’t apply only to women. Also, if this constant simp validation was all that women needed to be happy in the modern world, by which I assume you mean a neo-liberal technologically advanced 1st world country, then the kind of women who receive that simp validation would be happy with their lives/lifestyle universally. But there are numerous studies which show that a lifestyle of receiving constant sexual va…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/21 01:16 AM
1	How 'Golden Penis Syndrome' is ruining dating for university women: Deficit of male students means men develop inflated egos and become 'Casanovas' who 'cheat' - despite a 'lack of social and sexual skills' I don’t understand. So, as a dude, you’re not supposed to feel good about yourself and have positive self beliefs when you’re getting a lot of sexual attention from women? I thought university girls wanted hook up culture, non-monogamy, and dudes with self-confidence. Also, “Golden Penis Syndrome” does not work well if it’s meant to be a derogatory phrase. Like, I’d love to have “Golden Penis Syndrome.” Hell, I’ll just start telling people I have a Golden Penis to spite this article and all it’s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/21 06:07 PM
1	What is the right amount of dates do you think a woman should wait before having sex with you? This makes me wonder what the difference is between being disrespected as just a hooking up and two people just happening to feel differently about things after hooking up. Is it about spoken/unspoken expectations, like the dude was promising a relationship, or the woman assumed he might want one?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/21 04:44 PM
1	What is the right amount of dates do you think a woman should wait before having sex with you? Interesting. So that mindset is a social adaptation women created in order to figure out how they can get respect from men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/21 03:54 PM
2	What is the right amount of dates do you think a woman should wait before having sex with you? The whole set up where sex is the prize the man earns through work/effort, and respect being attached to when/how/why/with whom you have sex, just feels so rife with toxicity and gender discrimination, as if I’m walking into a BDSM play scene and expected to perform a role I was not given the script for. So, if I feel like someone has that mindset, I just stop talking to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/21 03:47 PM
1	In the modern age what do you considering winning/success in the dating game for men? What I’m curious about with this issue is what you do after you’ve “lost” both in men and in women’s eyes. Is all losing final and unrecoverable, or are there points at which one can still win, just later than it socially expected? Does winning and losing occur on a spectrum to which only certain bounds are defined as “winning” or “losing,” and everything else is some sort of in between? What are all the losers supposed to do? If the losers got together and made a different game and became winne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/21 02:17 AM
2	Are there men who aren’t sexually dominant? You’re welcome ☺️ I keep finding that the older I get and the longer I date, the more I realize just how much social environment and what type of person you are factors into the success you’ll have. And it can get really easy to feel stuck because it’s hard to figure out how to find different kinds of people and learn how things work in different environments.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/21 06:58 AM
2	Are there men who aren’t sexually dominant? I am a man who is not sexually dominant. I’m not into hurting or controlling or having power over the women I have sex with. When I have sex, I treat it like romance, and I see myself and her as equal players working towards the same goals. I like sex that’s gentle and comfortable and natural feeling for me and her, and I don’t want or need any weird power play involved, before, during, or after sex. That being said, though I know I’m unusual as far as most dudes go, I have a feeling there are a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/21 06:27 AM
2	Why don't people believe in being in love first before having sex anymore? I get the impression that there’s actually a larger-than-perceived group of people that feel similarly, and that want to start some sort of cultural tide against the huge societal pressure always have a constant casual sex life. For one thing, having sex in an actually casual, limited/emotionless manner, as opposed to with someone with whom you feel a strong emotional tie, especially over a series of encounters, seems to be something that people are pressured/forced into, or fall into because of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/21 06:51 AM
13	What's your shallowest turnoff ? For me, it’s blatant gender essentialism, as in her thinking “X is what a REAL man does,” and then judging whether I’m truly a man or not according to that standard in her own head. I even hate it when I sense from her that I’ve “passed” and she judges me positively to be a man, because it feels like I’ve just been placed under a microscope without my consent. Unfortunately, that kind of mindset is frustratingly common, so I’ve given up dating altogether for the moment until I can find a way aro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/21 12:44 AM
3	Men Mistake Being A Passive Doormat As Being Nice Then Claim Women Don’t Want Nice Guys. You’re right, I was assuming something from what you posted. That being said, the “taming” is exactly what some women want, which is something that’s been remarked by people of many genders who’ve dated feminine women, so your generality is invalid as far as being a truth claim. Also, you haven’t defined any terms. What’s the difference between a confident, assertive man being polite/friendly and culturally appropriate in his perspective when talking to a woman, and him being a “passive doormat”…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/21 05:19 PM
3	Men Mistake Being A Passive Doormat As Being Nice Then Claim Women Don’t Want Nice Guys. The problem here is what women take to be signs of personal weakness/strength. When I’ve heard women say things like this post, what it has seemed to really amount to is that she wants to be with a man who knows how to tame her/handle her whenever she’s deciding to be lowkey bitchy/bratty/inordinately and inappropriately rude and aggressive, and so it turns into a power play performance rather than an honest, no bullshit, sincere interaction. Essentially, she’s shoving social responsibility for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/21 04:39 PM
2	[Q4All]How high is the bar for being “girlfriend material”? I think it depends on the kind of dude. I believe it’s easier for women to get a boyfriend than it is for men to get a girlfriend just because of the sheer amount of dudes who are desperate for sex but are only capable of getting it in relationships instead of hookups. So, when women complain about men having high standards for GF/wife material, it seems to me that what they’re complaining about is the specific type of men, who are the only men they look up to/quality for interactions with them,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/21 06:43 PM
3	“Chemistry”... what is it? I felt the same way until I got a job accompanying a choir at a church and being a keyboardist in a rock band. And basically, all I’m paid to do is to do whatever music I need to do, sometimes prepared, sometimes improved, to have the right “vibe” for the moment, which essentially requires having a subconsciously copacetic body language with the group of people I’m supporting. In other words, my job basically requires having in the moment relationship “chemistry.” What I’ve discovered about the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/21 10:09 PM
1	Girl on the left cooks, cleans, loves and respects you and is loyal...girl on right fucks your brains out daily but can't cook or clean and is a huge cheating risk, who you choosing? Getting my brains fuck out sounds painful. I rather have my brains gently massaged in a loving embrace that becomes romantically sexual than something super aggro. So, girl on the left. Also, I’m a fellow ginger, so dating a ginger women takes priority for me lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 06:13 PM
1	Should a man worry about his GF's exes if they all ended the relationship with her If John’s excited about her and thinks she’s awesome, why should he care about what her past is and what other men may have thought of her?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/21 04:45 PM
5	How common is casual sex among friends? I have this theory that a lot of habits come from personality type, and that when people congregate in some fashion, they take on a collective personality type as a community. So, if someone is the type of person who would want and try to have sex with their friend/event buddy/known acquaintance, then they’re going to find, be drawn to, and create groups with people who would do the same. And if someone isn’t that kind of person, then they’re also going to more often be friends with people who d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/21 12:57 AM
2	Q4M: Are you okay with your female SO regularly watching porn? For me, it would depend, especially on how it affects the relationship or how she views me. If it’s just kind of a casual thing she’s used to, and it doesn’t affect how she views me, our relationship, or our sex life, then I don’t think I’d really care, to be honest, and wouldn’t need her to hide it from me/be more private about it or anything. But if she’s pretty obsessed with it on an emotional/personal level, and that causes her to treat me and our sex life in ways I’m not comfortable with, t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/21 07:02 PM
2	why don't men date through female friends to avoid being with girls that they dont want ? You kind of have to have friends who value you at that level first, and that can be hard for a good number of people	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/21 04:37 PM
10	Plausible Deniability No, it’s real. It’s all about a thing called sub communication. Essentially, she’ll pick up on your desire to sleep with her through your mannerisms and the context you’re interacting in. Whether she wants to acknowledge your desire and engage in having sex with you is dependent on how safe she’ll feel with you, namely because, while she might be able to read you well, she still doesn’t know you. She has no clue if your wanting to fuck her means you want to see if she’ll be good for a relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 01:12 AM
1	Have looks standards for the early 20s and below gone WAY up This is the video I first heard the term in: https://youtu.be/-QMHOsfjHq0	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/21 04:28 AM
2	Have looks standards for the early 20s and below gone WAY up It’s called Profilicity. Because so many people spend most of their attention time on social media as opposed IRL interactions, it affects how people view other people in person on an immediate, sensory level. So, dudes who normally would be alright looking or good looking, who could normally compensate through in person humor and charm, appear to be weirder, uglier, and derpier. And men who maximize their body/looks and other parts of their life actually appear to be more normal. In other words…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/21 12:43 AM
1	(Most of) TRP and men who want a traditional submissive partner don't really know what they are asking for. I always thought it was weird that Tradcon TPR people want to talk about wanting a sub wife all day long, but the second you bring up BDSM relationship dynamics and how power enters into that, they freak out lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/21 03:04 AM
1	How common is guys getting into relationships because they want to avoid sexual dry spells? Honestly, I think as long as there isn’t abusive of that trade off involved, i.e. being pressured offer more money/sex than you’re comfortable with, then it’s all well and good	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/21 06:29 AM
2	RedPill Men, Do You Believe that People Can Uhhhh Love Each Other? Well, I think the Red Pill mindset isn’t the women and men can’t form intimate emotional relationships. It’s just that women will generally only form lasting intimate emotional relationships with a very specific kind of man, and will be unwilling to have it with men who differ from that archetype. And should a man they marry differ from that archetype, she’ll tend to cut off the relationship entirely to find a man who does. So, it’s less that the Red Pill is telling men they can’t ever have inti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/21 07:28 AM
4	The "household chores distribution" (specifically the cleaning part) debate between men and women boils down to men and women on average having different standards for what constitutes a clean/tidy environment and what constitutes a mess/dirty environment. I think this is an issue of gendered response to trauma. A lot of men who are lazy/don’t put in effort to clean up after themselves, or to keep a place to at least a bare minimum of cleanliness, have things get that way often because they’re suffering from depression and trauma, and so household cleaning can take on an immensity of mental energy to pull off which they don’t have the spoons for, and so they just don’t do it until it becomes something they have to do or get somebody to do. And the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/21 05:01 AM
–	You are not getting sex because people don't want to have sex with you, the rest is just noise I’d say collective social perception is pretty important as regards who does or doesn’t get laid, and collective social perception is very malleable and susceptible to the influences of media, culture, politics, etc., and nobody, men or women, is really unaffected by that. So yeah, feminism or social media may not directly be telling the woman you’re talking to at the bar to not have sex with you (unless your face is in a FB group somewhere about men women should avoid having sex with, in which …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/21 07:44 PM
2	The dating game- Worth it for average men or not? I go back and forth on this a lot, partially because I’m unsure how I measure on the below to above average scale. I definitely feel like I’m below average, and so most of my dating experiences have been of spending a lot of effort to not get what I want out of the interaction. But then I find somebody who likes me, who likes fucking me, and we have a good time for a little bit, and during that time it’s made clear that aspects about me, usually my artistry, my intelligence, my humor, and my dic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/21 06:24 AM
1	Red Pill Youtuber Alexander Grace says that pursuing casual sex is next to impossible for all but the very top men, and most men are better off finding a high quality woman and getting out of the dating market asap I actually liked this video a lot. One thing he talks about later in the video is that men who learn to become a top-tier guy who has lots of casual sex with many different partners, is that it eventually becomes incredibly unsatisfactory. He uses the metaphor of it like being at a buffet where the more you eat, the hungrier it makes you. And that seems to be true and validated for a lot of people from different studies: most people, men and women, eventually become disillusioned or unsatisfied …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/21 06:03 PM
24	Men would make the exact same decisions they shame women for I think that’s true that all of those criticisms come from a place of bitterness and envy. But I think a lot of men come to or end up in that place because it easily looks like more women on average have more social power to make those decisions than most men, or the average man, does. In other words, the bitterness/envy is a side effect of existing in a complex network of systems that don’t allow you as an individual man to make decisions about sexual and romantic partners with the same freedom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/21 06:49 PM