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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	Family law attorneys		pharcyde23	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 01:39 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Family law attorneys Is this your product?	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 07:48 AM
1	Family law attorneys Thanks. Pretty much exactly what I was thinking of.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 07:36 AM
5	Family law attorneys True but vindictive, litigious ex’s will hire attorneys who best reflect their personalities and objectives.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 01:39 AM
1	Is marriage dead ? Motivations, value systems and incentive structure have changed. We are living through a time of instant gratification. Mad at your spouse on a Tuesday? Slide into someone’s dm’s on a Wednesday. Bored in your current relationship? Hop on bumble, hinge, or one the other dozen dating apps that have turned dating into a soulless empty calorie satiation. People simply don’t have the intestinal fortitude to work through difficult times like the generation before this one and one before that. Add to t…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 01:23 AM
2	Family law attorneys Interesting. I was going to build something like this that clients could use as an independent litmus layer to guide their case and keep attorneys honest.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 01:04 AM
1	Family law attorneys If you are intentionally efficient with your clients’ money then you are in the minority. As far what courts put stock into, as I’m sure you know, it differs from jurisdiction to jurisdiction and judge to judge. Some judges will drag a case out hoping parties will eventually tire out and settle. Unfortunately the family court industrial complex seldom makes things better for anyone except attorney’s wallets.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/26 01:02 AM
2	Family law attorneys Is it like a bill pay platform or something more comprehensive?	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 08:54 PM
2	Family law attorneys The funny part is some will position themselves as the tough talking, fist on the desk type that bulldoze opponents. Then you do some googling and find pictures of them at industry functions laughing and sipping cocktails with opposing counsel.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 06:51 PM
3	Family law attorneys I think family law lawyers feed off that systemic ambiguity. There is nothing holding them accountable and typically they’re beyond protected by the terms and conditions in the retainer agreement, so clients have almost no recourse. I hate the predatory nature of it all and the downstream impact on outcomes.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 05:47 PM
3	Family law attorneys I get that but if I’m doing 75% of the work, what I pay the attorney should reflect that. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way, at least in my experience. You pay the full retainer, keep replenishing it every month or so, while parallel path doing all those things you mentioned to keep the case from stagnating. It is a very manual and labor intensive process. As a client, I would want access to some tools and automation that can help keep things moving and both parties honest about how the mo…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 05:37 PM
7	Family law attorneys Reviewing, drafting, and filing has become easier with AI but oral arguments and litigating in front of a judge is definitely not for the average person. My frustration is how there are no tools, no platforms, no analytics etc that could help clients stay informed on key aspects of their case. Like if my attorney is blowing through my retainer without moving the case forward, I’d want to see that in a CRM type platform, benchmarked against any publicly available data for similar cases. That way …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 02:24 PM
6	Shocking trends with women and divorce Agreed. However, relationships are rooted in emotion. It is very difficult to see the forest through the trees when you're in the beginning and middle stages of a divorce. Then you layer in kids, assets, familial, social and professional considerations etc., it all adds up to be very overwhelming for a lot of folks. Where it can be slightly easier is if both parties are emotionally and psychologically similar with some shared values. Meaning no one is revenge-driven, both parties are secure and …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/25 09:01 PM
2	Typical for Attorneys to Charge for Consultations As an aside, it’s an effective strategy to call around and get consults with as many attorneys as you can (can afford) because once they consult with you, they can’t work with the opposing party. 4D chess.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/24 02:19 AM
6	Typical for Attorneys to Charge for Consultations Higher end attorneys charge, lower end ones don’t. Is the consultation typically worth the cost? In my experience, no. If you hire said attorney you will end up rehashing everything you told them during consult and they will end up asking you the same questions. Sometimes the consult fee may be waived if you were referred by a colleague or friend of the attorney.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 11:55 PM
1	Constant custody violations I’ve been in constant litigation with ex over last 5 years. 50/50 custody. Some of the issues are similar to yours, including order violations, false police reports and petitions for OoP, etc. Essentially, she’s significantly moneyed and runs to her attorney and court constantly instead of addressing issues directly. My honest advice is use attorneys as long as you can afford them. Don’t use shitty attorneys. A lot of what you’re dealing with will depend on the judges and their relationships wit…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 08:23 PM